Is this another City of Yonkers coverup?
This is an article that was in lohud three weeks ago. News12 had extensive coverage of the shooting in 2006, yet this article portrays a potential coverup by Yonkers police and high up officals and yet no coverage whatsoever by News12? Is news 12 in the City of Yonkers pocket that there has been absolutely no coverage of this?? Ex-Yonkers peace officer says he was fired for saying partner was suicidal By Ernie Garcia • elgarcia@lohud.com • December 9, 2009 •Comments (3) •Recommend •Print this page •E-mail this article •Share •Del.icio.us •Facebook •Digg •Reddit •Newsvine •Buzz up! •Twitter •Text Size: Normal | Large | Larger Next Page•1 •| 2Previous Page YONKERS — A former peace officer claims his supervisors fired him to try to cover up the fact he had expressed concern about a suicidal coworker who later shot his own wife and killed himself. In a federal civil rights lawsuit, Carl Amato, 51, of Yonkers claims that high-ranking Yonkers police officials created a hostile work environment, involuntarily committed him for psychiatric observation, linked him with illegal activity and then fired him after the death of his regular work partner Gerard Moray. Moray, 47, committed suicide on April 19, 2006, after shooting his wife, Angela, twice in their Cortlandt home. She survived. Amato alleges that prior to Moray's death, Moray told him he was depressed and planning the murder-suicide. In response, he took Moray's gun away from him and turned it in to the department, describing his concerns to a supervisor, John Bennett. A few days later, Moray returned to work with his weapon and confronted Amato for telling Bennett he was concerned Moray might be suicidal. In the Nov. 16 lawsuit, filed in U.S. District Court in White Plains, Amato claims that Yonkers Police Commissioner Edmund Hartnett and five other city officials attempted to conceal Amato's prior warnings about Moray by creating an onerous work environment. On Dec. 5, 2006, Amato, frustrated with his treatment, complained to co-workers that he was looking forward to "getting off this job," and someone subsequently reported that Amato was suicidal, his lawsuit says. Three days later, police officials confronted Amato about his co-worker's expression of concern, and he was forcibly taken to a hospital for observation. "Amato is not nuts," said Thomas G. Cascione, Amato's attorney. "They had him in a mental hospital and they found him perfectly lucid." Hartnett declined to comment on the matter on Thursday, citing his policy of not discussing ongoing litigation. Yonkers Corporation Counsel Frank Rubino said on Monday that he could not comment on the matter because the city has not yet been served with a copy of the suit. While Amato was in the hospital, Yonkers police raided his home and seized a gun collection that Cascione estimated is worth $100,000. Cascione said the police have not returned the collection. Amato is a gunsmith. Amato wants the court to reinstate him to his position with back pay and benefits, require the Yonkers police to return his gun collection and force the department to pay punitive money damages for civil rights violations, defamation and suffering. According to Yonkers' 2007 employee salary data, Amato was hired by the city on July 25, 1988, and his gross pay in 2007 was $101,148. The city fired him on Nov. 11, 2007 — only months before he could retire — after accusing him of failing to cooperate with a criminal investigation. Cascione said Amato was never charged with a crime in what was a police investigation into an illegal massage parlor. Amato was fired for refusing to give a statement without the presence of Cascione, who said he was unable to attend the interviews at the times set by police.
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Friday, December 28, 2012
Friday, December 14, 2012
I dnt know what to think ?
I dnt know what to think ?
when I first discuss talking about coming down akron with my boyfriend he told me he would take care of me, he had confirmed it to his mother. now I wished I neva came down. I mean he did what he said he took care of me. but I was suffering from what my granfather did to me while growing up which is verbal mental emotional abuse, from what happen with me and my mom cuz she kicked me out ova a dude who she was married to because I told her, trusted her to believe me when I told her her dude wasattracteded to me but still til this day shes in deniaI and everyone lies like I wanted her husband WHAT? I AM YOUR DAUGHTER! SHE TOLD ME IF ANYONE SAYS ANYTHING TO ME THAT I KNOW DIDNT SEEM RIGHT OR TOUCH ME IN ANY WAY TO TELL HER. and I did. I was in love with my mother she was my best friend I put my trust in her. so now im dealing with them trust issues. im taking it hard right now. And my boyfriend grew up hard he grew up with sister and brothers. he took blame for there mess ups, lieing and getting away with stuff he neva did and doing stuff for his mother who neva showed him no type of apreciation nor love so now I find out thats why he has a disrespecting problem. every time I dnt put my trust in him he yells and say stuff he dnt mean but the way he says it seems like he does ......... i mean no trust and disrespect doesnt go together. how am I gone trust you and you disrespect me? like today I said I know your family hurt you in so many ways but why do you be so happy when you are around them he told me because he know how to let go of things .... but if he know how to let go of things ppl do to him like his family than why cant he let go of me not trusting him?, I mean we suppose to be a couple and couples work things out through the good and the bad. The only thing I came up with was that he said HES NOT GOING TO BE WITH HIS FAMILY THE REST OF HIS LIFE THAT IM GOING TO BE ..... I took the chance on going to toledo so he can work on his ways and i can work on mine but hes mad cuz he feels to work it together while living under his mothers roof. he keeps telling me soon we'll be out of here cause hes on his way making it big music wise. even im uncomfortable with that cuz he told me that sex sells but he know where to draw the line... I saw his facebook and my pics are not showing anymore instead he has woman around him with there asses nearly hangout of their shorts but I understand that it was a show out in massilon or whateva but I dnt know what to do other than go to toledo anyway and try to let go of my past hurts
Singles & Dating - 2 Answers
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have some fun with me!!!
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Girl the only way to really stop hurting is to move on from this man. Im sorry to say but you are going to continue to hurt and suffer until you decide to let go and move on with your life with out him. You are very hard headed I see, you just can't seem to let go and your going to get yourself in trouble one of these days, you will get into something so deep you will wish you could get out and you wont you will just suffer, so take my advice and go. I cant stress hard enough about how badly this will end up for you because you can't seem to understand what "leave him" means, I seen these cases end so badly and some in fatalities, do you want that for yourself? I know that you want to do something with your life, have your OWN but you will never have that in the direction your are going. Yesterday you said he's your ex and today he's your boyfriend again. rather or not you two are sexually active together doesn't mean a thing, you are still with him and its not going to get better. I understand his background but still that does not excuse him from the rest of us, he still doesn't have the right to be disrespectful and treat you wrongfully. I know plenty of people that have suffered in their up bringing worse than you two both put together and they aren't like you both are. I cant keep advising you if you wont listen, i tell my friends around here that I know the same thing, so I don't know what else to tell you. If you leave this guy alone you wont be feeling the way you are, you wont be going through this plain and simple, so is up to you now, stay and suffer, or leave and move on with a happy life.
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when I first discuss talking about coming down akron with my boyfriend he told me he would take care of me, he had confirmed it to his mother. now I wished I neva came down. I mean he did what he said he took care of me. but I was suffering from what my granfather did to me while growing up which is verbal mental emotional abuse, from what happen with me and my mom cuz she kicked me out ova a dude who she was married to because I told her, trusted her to believe me when I told her her dude wasattracteded to me but still til this day shes in deniaI and everyone lies like I wanted her husband WHAT? I AM YOUR DAUGHTER! SHE TOLD ME IF ANYONE SAYS ANYTHING TO ME THAT I KNOW DIDNT SEEM RIGHT OR TOUCH ME IN ANY WAY TO TELL HER. and I did. I was in love with my mother she was my best friend I put my trust in her. so now im dealing with them trust issues. im taking it hard right now. And my boyfriend grew up hard he grew up with sister and brothers. he took blame for there mess ups, lieing and getting away with stuff he neva did and doing stuff for his mother who neva showed him no type of apreciation nor love so now I find out thats why he has a disrespecting problem. every time I dnt put my trust in him he yells and say stuff he dnt mean but the way he says it seems like he does ......... i mean no trust and disrespect doesnt go together. how am I gone trust you and you disrespect me? like today I said I know your family hurt you in so many ways but why do you be so happy when you are around them he told me because he know how to let go of things .... but if he know how to let go of things ppl do to him like his family than why cant he let go of me not trusting him?, I mean we suppose to be a couple and couples work things out through the good and the bad. The only thing I came up with was that he said HES NOT GOING TO BE WITH HIS FAMILY THE REST OF HIS LIFE THAT IM GOING TO BE ..... I took the chance on going to toledo so he can work on his ways and i can work on mine but hes mad cuz he feels to work it together while living under his mothers roof. he keeps telling me soon we'll be out of here cause hes on his way making it big music wise. even im uncomfortable with that cuz he told me that sex sells but he know where to draw the line... I saw his facebook and my pics are not showing anymore instead he has woman around him with there asses nearly hangout of their shorts but I understand that it was a show out in massilon or whateva but I dnt know what to do other than go to toledo anyway and try to let go of my past hurts
Singles & Dating - 2 Answers
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have some fun with me!!!
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Girl the only way to really stop hurting is to move on from this man. Im sorry to say but you are going to continue to hurt and suffer until you decide to let go and move on with your life with out him. You are very hard headed I see, you just can't seem to let go and your going to get yourself in trouble one of these days, you will get into something so deep you will wish you could get out and you wont you will just suffer, so take my advice and go. I cant stress hard enough about how badly this will end up for you because you can't seem to understand what "leave him" means, I seen these cases end so badly and some in fatalities, do you want that for yourself? I know that you want to do something with your life, have your OWN but you will never have that in the direction your are going. Yesterday you said he's your ex and today he's your boyfriend again. rather or not you two are sexually active together doesn't mean a thing, you are still with him and its not going to get better. I understand his background but still that does not excuse him from the rest of us, he still doesn't have the right to be disrespectful and treat you wrongfully. I know plenty of people that have suffered in their up bringing worse than you two both put together and they aren't like you both are. I cant keep advising you if you wont listen, i tell my friends around here that I know the same thing, so I don't know what else to tell you. If you leave this guy alone you wont be feeling the way you are, you wont be going through this plain and simple, so is up to you now, stay and suffer, or leave and move on with a happy life.
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Friday, December 7, 2012
Would anyone be so kind to proofread my cover letter?
Would anyone be so kind to proofread my cover letter?
I don't usually ask anyone for help while writing a cover letter, but now it's kind of crucial for me. I would appreciate if anyone could have a look at it quickly and juts let me know about some mistakes or bad stylistics I could have made. Thanks a lot!!!! ******* Dear Andrew, as you probably know, I'm currently working as a Community Manager at Facebook. I love the company, but however great experience it has been, I‘ve been starting to look around for a new opportunity besides. We have been paid peanuts for half a year and we don’t have good prospects unfortunately, as the strategy for our Birmingham team is „internships only“. I am applying for the grad position posted on your website. At your convenience, I'd appreciate the opportunity to discuss the position and my candidacy with you. You can find my CV attached to this e-mail or online at: xxxx My extensive experience for the past 8 year gives me a unique ability to excel in various fields across marketing, advertising and sales. Before joining Facebook, I worked as a Campaign Manager at Citibank, Product & Project Manager in HSBC, Project & Telesales Manager in a multinational IT company and Account Director & Partner in an innovative digital ad agency. I have an account handling experience, thorough analytical and planning skills and I benefit from international experience combined with interest in world economies and linguistry. I enjoy fast-paced environment, I am self-motivated do-er with solid work ethic and I take an entrepreneurial approach to anything I do. I’ve been watching Saatchi’s work, team and company’s spirit since we’ve joined your office and I believe I would be an ideal match for this position. I'd love to find out more about the position you're looking to fill, and I would welcome the opportunity to tell you how my skills and ideas can benefit Saatchi. Thanks for your consideration, I look forward to hearing from you soon! Best regards, Jan Thank you so much! I really appreciate your help
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I think it sounds good, but is too long. I would take out the paragraphs about yourself. That is not what a cover letter is meant for. They are supposed to be super short and to the point. I work in Human Resources and a lot of the managers do not even look at applications that are very long and "flowery."
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>> as you probably know, I'm currently working as a Community >> Manager at Facebook. This is extraneous. Delete it. >> I love the company, Rewrite :I love my position as a community Manager at Facebook >> but however great experience it has been, I‘ve been starting to >> look around for a new opportunity besides. Rewrite: but am now look for other opportunies to advance my career. >> We have been paid peanuts for half a year and we don’t >> have good prospects unfortunately, as the strategy for >> our Birmingham team is „internships only“. Stop complaining. Really. Not in a cover letter. >> I’ve been watching Saatchi’s work, team and >> company’s spirit I'm not sure about this phrase. >> since we’ve joined your office and I believe Unclear, perhaps it would be clear to the reader. >> I would be an ideal match for this position. Good I believe this sentence could be made better by a pro. >> I'd love to find out more about the position How can you be an ideal match if you don't know all the details? You have a good start. Hopefully other people will have more ideas and you can have the stellar letter you deserve.
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I don't usually ask anyone for help while writing a cover letter, but now it's kind of crucial for me. I would appreciate if anyone could have a look at it quickly and juts let me know about some mistakes or bad stylistics I could have made. Thanks a lot!!!! ******* Dear Andrew, as you probably know, I'm currently working as a Community Manager at Facebook. I love the company, but however great experience it has been, I‘ve been starting to look around for a new opportunity besides. We have been paid peanuts for half a year and we don’t have good prospects unfortunately, as the strategy for our Birmingham team is „internships only“. I am applying for the grad position posted on your website. At your convenience, I'd appreciate the opportunity to discuss the position and my candidacy with you. You can find my CV attached to this e-mail or online at: xxxx My extensive experience for the past 8 year gives me a unique ability to excel in various fields across marketing, advertising and sales. Before joining Facebook, I worked as a Campaign Manager at Citibank, Product & Project Manager in HSBC, Project & Telesales Manager in a multinational IT company and Account Director & Partner in an innovative digital ad agency. I have an account handling experience, thorough analytical and planning skills and I benefit from international experience combined with interest in world economies and linguistry. I enjoy fast-paced environment, I am self-motivated do-er with solid work ethic and I take an entrepreneurial approach to anything I do. I’ve been watching Saatchi’s work, team and company’s spirit since we’ve joined your office and I believe I would be an ideal match for this position. I'd love to find out more about the position you're looking to fill, and I would welcome the opportunity to tell you how my skills and ideas can benefit Saatchi. Thanks for your consideration, I look forward to hearing from you soon! Best regards, Jan Thank you so much! I really appreciate your help
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I think it sounds good, but is too long. I would take out the paragraphs about yourself. That is not what a cover letter is meant for. They are supposed to be super short and to the point. I work in Human Resources and a lot of the managers do not even look at applications that are very long and "flowery."
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>> as you probably know, I'm currently working as a Community >> Manager at Facebook. This is extraneous. Delete it. >> I love the company, Rewrite :I love my position as a community Manager at Facebook >> but however great experience it has been, I‘ve been starting to >> look around for a new opportunity besides. Rewrite: but am now look for other opportunies to advance my career. >> We have been paid peanuts for half a year and we don’t >> have good prospects unfortunately, as the strategy for >> our Birmingham team is „internships only“. Stop complaining. Really. Not in a cover letter. >> I’ve been watching Saatchi’s work, team and >> company’s spirit I'm not sure about this phrase. >> since we’ve joined your office and I believe Unclear, perhaps it would be clear to the reader. >> I would be an ideal match for this position. Good I believe this sentence could be made better by a pro. >> I'd love to find out more about the position How can you be an ideal match if you don't know all the details? You have a good start. Hopefully other people will have more ideas and you can have the stellar letter you deserve.
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Saturday, December 1, 2012
Help Getting My Ex-GF Back..?
Help Getting My Ex-GF Back..?
I was a jerk.. i've worked on a lot on the time that she and I broke up.. We broke up 5 months ago we stopped talking after because she blocked me off ..I worked on myself. She was hurt because I was selfish, rude, controlling, jealous and a jerk. I never laid my hands on her or anything like that but I had a short temper.. I still have my temper but I have my control of it.. we split up.. she didn't want to talk to me or anything. Last month (December) she sent me a message on facebook. We're still befriended on facebook. She calls me, but she calls me private as she also changed her phone number after the bad break up because I was really trying to fix the relationship. (When she calls its private and she calls almost every night and falls asleep on the phone like we used to do when we were together). We talk now but I guess it's under her terms. I've told her I still love her and she has told me she does to but she barely tells me how she really feels. I do want her back but I don't know what to do to show her that I have changed. We were supposed to actually go to Church on Sunday and have breakfast after but the bad luck... I caught a stomach virus Saturday night going into Sunday.. I couldn't see her, we rescheduled for this weekend but she said she has plans after Church. What can I do? On AOL messenger she and I were discussing things then we got into a little discussion.. I later told her that I was trying to make her happy again..she said "yeah too little too late...you need to try harder".. I answered "I'm trying to but how can I if you don't let me, I mean how can I walk through a doorway if the door is closed" she said use that analogy and FIND A KEY..What can I do to fix this situation? How can I get her back? What did she really mean by that? It's kind of hard to understand because I really love her and was happy with her until I acted up we both stopped being happy and I don't plan to repeat that EVER again. I learned from my mistakes. I am 20 and she is 19. But I am into that commitment stuff... I always was ever since I saw Chandler and Monica in Friends. Years back. I wanted just that. I was hurt too many times which is why I had trust issues and can be insecure which is what damaged this relationship. And to the others THANKS! but how can I do all these things? We haven't seen each other.. I can't text her because I don't have her number we just sometimes talk through AIM and when she calls me. I try to kinda make her tell me that she loves me by telling her that I love her but she says "I know you do". And she doesnt want me to push her to tell me because then she will stop talking to me again and I was really close of falling off the edge because she said I was pushing her.. I don't know if she is gonna but I was really just venting to her because we were always there for each other and I told her how I felt about everything and she said I was pushing her.. She doesn't want to give me her number because she says not yet.. "we're not friends" I think she's playing hard to get.. But if we're not friends then we wouldn't speak.. She just doesn't want to admit it. HELP!!
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Well, it didn't work the first time, and there are more fish in the sea
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I think your a good man. You've learned from your mistakes and I love that you want a commitment. That is so rare today. She is hurt, upset, and scared to get hurt again. Tell her that you love her and she doesn't have to say it back if she doesn't want to, but you still do. Tell her that you will never hurt her again and if she wants to, you two can take it slow and see how it goes. Be truthful. It's going to take time, but she needs to earn your trust back, and remember, she is only 19 and the younger you are, the harder it is to deal with this kind of stuff. I hope I have helped and good luck to both of you.
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I was a jerk.. i've worked on a lot on the time that she and I broke up.. We broke up 5 months ago we stopped talking after because she blocked me off ..I worked on myself. She was hurt because I was selfish, rude, controlling, jealous and a jerk. I never laid my hands on her or anything like that but I had a short temper.. I still have my temper but I have my control of it.. we split up.. she didn't want to talk to me or anything. Last month (December) she sent me a message on facebook. We're still befriended on facebook. She calls me, but she calls me private as she also changed her phone number after the bad break up because I was really trying to fix the relationship. (When she calls its private and she calls almost every night and falls asleep on the phone like we used to do when we were together). We talk now but I guess it's under her terms. I've told her I still love her and she has told me she does to but she barely tells me how she really feels. I do want her back but I don't know what to do to show her that I have changed. We were supposed to actually go to Church on Sunday and have breakfast after but the bad luck... I caught a stomach virus Saturday night going into Sunday.. I couldn't see her, we rescheduled for this weekend but she said she has plans after Church. What can I do? On AOL messenger she and I were discussing things then we got into a little discussion.. I later told her that I was trying to make her happy again..she said "yeah too little too late...you need to try harder".. I answered "I'm trying to but how can I if you don't let me, I mean how can I walk through a doorway if the door is closed" she said use that analogy and FIND A KEY..What can I do to fix this situation? How can I get her back? What did she really mean by that? It's kind of hard to understand because I really love her and was happy with her until I acted up we both stopped being happy and I don't plan to repeat that EVER again. I learned from my mistakes. I am 20 and she is 19. But I am into that commitment stuff... I always was ever since I saw Chandler and Monica in Friends. Years back. I wanted just that. I was hurt too many times which is why I had trust issues and can be insecure which is what damaged this relationship. And to the others THANKS! but how can I do all these things? We haven't seen each other.. I can't text her because I don't have her number we just sometimes talk through AIM and when she calls me. I try to kinda make her tell me that she loves me by telling her that I love her but she says "I know you do". And she doesnt want me to push her to tell me because then she will stop talking to me again and I was really close of falling off the edge because she said I was pushing her.. I don't know if she is gonna but I was really just venting to her because we were always there for each other and I told her how I felt about everything and she said I was pushing her.. She doesn't want to give me her number because she says not yet.. "we're not friends" I think she's playing hard to get.. But if we're not friends then we wouldn't speak.. She just doesn't want to admit it. HELP!!
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Well, it didn't work the first time, and there are more fish in the sea
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I think your a good man. You've learned from your mistakes and I love that you want a commitment. That is so rare today. She is hurt, upset, and scared to get hurt again. Tell her that you love her and she doesn't have to say it back if she doesn't want to, but you still do. Tell her that you will never hurt her again and if she wants to, you two can take it slow and see how it goes. Be truthful. It's going to take time, but she needs to earn your trust back, and remember, she is only 19 and the younger you are, the harder it is to deal with this kind of stuff. I hope I have helped and good luck to both of you.
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Wednesday, November 28, 2012
Help Getting My Ex-GF. Broke up 5 Months Ago.. Now Talking Again.. Complicated Though..?
Help Getting My Ex-GF. Broke up 5 Months Ago.. Now Talking Again.. Complicated Though..?
I was a jerk.. i've worked on a lot on the time that she and I broke up.. We broke up 5 months ago we stopped talking after because she blocked me off ..I worked on myself. She was hurt because I was selfish, rude, controlling, jealous and a jerk. I never laid my hands on her or anything like that but I had a short temper.. I still have my temper but I have my control of it.. we split up.. she didn't want to talk to me or anything. Last month (December) she sent me a message on facebook. We're still befriended on facebook. She calls me, but she calls me private as she also changed her phone number after the bad break up because I was really trying to fix the relationship. (When she calls its private and she calls almost every night and falls asleep on the phone like we used to do when we were together). We talk now but I guess it's under her terms. I've told her I still love her and she has told me she does to but she barely tells me how she really feels. I do want her back but I don't know what to do to show her that I have changed. We were supposed to actually go to Church on Sunday and have breakfast after but the bad luck... I caught a stomach virus Saturday night going into Sunday.. I couldn't see her, we rescheduled for this weekend but she said she has plans after Church. What can I do? On AOL messenger she and I were discussing things then we got into a little discussion.. I later told her that I was trying to make her happy again..she said "yeah too little too late...you need to try harder".. I answered "I'm trying to but how can I if you don't let me, I mean how can I walk through a doorway if the door is closed" she said use that analogy and FIND A KEY..What can I do to fix this situation? How can I get her back? What did she really mean by that? It's kind of hard to understand because I really love her and was happy with her until I acted up we both stopped being happy and I don't plan to repeat that EVER again. I learned from my mistakes. I am 20 and she is 19. But I am into that commitment stuff... I always was ever since I saw Chandler and Monica in Friends. Years back. I wanted just that. I was hurt too many times which is why I had trust issues and can be insecure which is what damaged this relationship. And to the others THANKS! but how can I do all these things? We haven't seen each other.. I can't text her because I don't have her number we just sometimes talk through AIM and when she calls me. I try to kinda make her tell me that she loves me by telling her that I love her but she says "I know you do". And she doesnt want me to push her to tell me because then she will stop talking to me again and I was really close of falling off the edge because she said I was pushing her.. I don't know if she is gonna but I was really just venting to her because we were always there for each other and I told her how I felt about everything and she said I was pushing her.. She doesn't want to give me her number because she says not yet.. "we're not friends" I think she's playing hard to get.. But if we're not friends then we wouldn't speak.. She just doesn't want to admit it. HELP!!
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no one going to answer this question. just saying.
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mikeofny you are getting what you deserve. when you be mean to some one especially a woman you need all the hurt you can get because there are too many guys like you running around never getting pay back. so you have to take what she is dishing out until she decides what she want to do with you. the problem is that she does not trust you and until she feels like she can you will only get what you are getting and you can not make her take you back until she feels like it she is hurting and that is because at one time she cared a lot or even loved you a lot and by you being the things that you said you were and doing what you did you hurt her. if she do come back to you it will never be the same again. and if you have a short temper are you sure that you are in TOTAL control of it? if not you can mess up again. so i would suggest that when you talk to her be calm and do not try to make her say anything or what you want her to say because that in itself is controlling. she is her own person and you can see from what she did and how she is controlling her feelings you can not make her do anything that she do not want to do. it might take some time for you to get her back but in the meantime you should keep working on yourself because if she comes back to you you will have to be a completely new you. and if she choose to just be friends value her friendship and then you maybe able to work from there and get her back because through friendship she can see if you have changed. and if you, love her and miss her don't force anything you say this is hard work yes it is but you made it hard, so go to work
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You're being way too impatient. If she gets a hint of this impatience you will scare her away. She is treading very slowly & carefully to see how it could develop and to see if you really have changed or if you just think you have or if you're just saying it to get her back. It is normal for her to be wary & hesitant and take her time to see if she can actually trust you. Unless you want to scare her away, you have to accept this completely & just go with the contact she wants for now if you want to keep it open. Stop dwelling on it & winding your mind up as she'll pick up on it.
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Mike your going to half to slow down my friend, do not keep after her to get back with you, for all you will do is make things a little harder for her to believe what you tell her. I no you may want her back, but you have got to let her be the one to say the three words you want to hear, I Love You. So for starters stop telling her you do, then she may wonder why you haven. Let her no she has all the time in the World to decide on you two.And keep proving to her you have change from what you used to be. If she tells you she has got other plans do not let it get to you, but in stead say something like Oh that's okay just let me no when your free.This will make her think, about you saying you have change, You have just got to show her you have. There are things in a girl life thy that Love and that's to be treated like a woman and that you Trust them, this comes before Love for with out the Trust you never will have Love. Good Luck
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I was a jerk.. i've worked on a lot on the time that she and I broke up.. We broke up 5 months ago we stopped talking after because she blocked me off ..I worked on myself. She was hurt because I was selfish, rude, controlling, jealous and a jerk. I never laid my hands on her or anything like that but I had a short temper.. I still have my temper but I have my control of it.. we split up.. she didn't want to talk to me or anything. Last month (December) she sent me a message on facebook. We're still befriended on facebook. She calls me, but she calls me private as she also changed her phone number after the bad break up because I was really trying to fix the relationship. (When she calls its private and she calls almost every night and falls asleep on the phone like we used to do when we were together). We talk now but I guess it's under her terms. I've told her I still love her and she has told me she does to but she barely tells me how she really feels. I do want her back but I don't know what to do to show her that I have changed. We were supposed to actually go to Church on Sunday and have breakfast after but the bad luck... I caught a stomach virus Saturday night going into Sunday.. I couldn't see her, we rescheduled for this weekend but she said she has plans after Church. What can I do? On AOL messenger she and I were discussing things then we got into a little discussion.. I later told her that I was trying to make her happy again..she said "yeah too little too late...you need to try harder".. I answered "I'm trying to but how can I if you don't let me, I mean how can I walk through a doorway if the door is closed" she said use that analogy and FIND A KEY..What can I do to fix this situation? How can I get her back? What did she really mean by that? It's kind of hard to understand because I really love her and was happy with her until I acted up we both stopped being happy and I don't plan to repeat that EVER again. I learned from my mistakes. I am 20 and she is 19. But I am into that commitment stuff... I always was ever since I saw Chandler and Monica in Friends. Years back. I wanted just that. I was hurt too many times which is why I had trust issues and can be insecure which is what damaged this relationship. And to the others THANKS! but how can I do all these things? We haven't seen each other.. I can't text her because I don't have her number we just sometimes talk through AIM and when she calls me. I try to kinda make her tell me that she loves me by telling her that I love her but she says "I know you do". And she doesnt want me to push her to tell me because then she will stop talking to me again and I was really close of falling off the edge because she said I was pushing her.. I don't know if she is gonna but I was really just venting to her because we were always there for each other and I told her how I felt about everything and she said I was pushing her.. She doesn't want to give me her number because she says not yet.. "we're not friends" I think she's playing hard to get.. But if we're not friends then we wouldn't speak.. She just doesn't want to admit it. HELP!!
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no one going to answer this question. just saying.
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mikeofny you are getting what you deserve. when you be mean to some one especially a woman you need all the hurt you can get because there are too many guys like you running around never getting pay back. so you have to take what she is dishing out until she decides what she want to do with you. the problem is that she does not trust you and until she feels like she can you will only get what you are getting and you can not make her take you back until she feels like it she is hurting and that is because at one time she cared a lot or even loved you a lot and by you being the things that you said you were and doing what you did you hurt her. if she do come back to you it will never be the same again. and if you have a short temper are you sure that you are in TOTAL control of it? if not you can mess up again. so i would suggest that when you talk to her be calm and do not try to make her say anything or what you want her to say because that in itself is controlling. she is her own person and you can see from what she did and how she is controlling her feelings you can not make her do anything that she do not want to do. it might take some time for you to get her back but in the meantime you should keep working on yourself because if she comes back to you you will have to be a completely new you. and if she choose to just be friends value her friendship and then you maybe able to work from there and get her back because through friendship she can see if you have changed. and if you, love her and miss her don't force anything you say this is hard work yes it is but you made it hard, so go to work
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You're being way too impatient. If she gets a hint of this impatience you will scare her away. She is treading very slowly & carefully to see how it could develop and to see if you really have changed or if you just think you have or if you're just saying it to get her back. It is normal for her to be wary & hesitant and take her time to see if she can actually trust you. Unless you want to scare her away, you have to accept this completely & just go with the contact she wants for now if you want to keep it open. Stop dwelling on it & winding your mind up as she'll pick up on it.
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Mike your going to half to slow down my friend, do not keep after her to get back with you, for all you will do is make things a little harder for her to believe what you tell her. I no you may want her back, but you have got to let her be the one to say the three words you want to hear, I Love You. So for starters stop telling her you do, then she may wonder why you haven. Let her no she has all the time in the World to decide on you two.And keep proving to her you have change from what you used to be. If she tells you she has got other plans do not let it get to you, but in stead say something like Oh that's okay just let me no when your free.This will make her think, about you saying you have change, You have just got to show her you have. There are things in a girl life thy that Love and that's to be treated like a woman and that you Trust them, this comes before Love for with out the Trust you never will have Love. Good Luck
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Wednesday, November 14, 2012
Why doesn't Obama talk about how globalization has ruined the middle class?
Why doesn't Obama talk about how globalization has ruined the middle class?
It is an age old plan. But it has worked for years. Make sure all we talk about are divisive issues that divide us according to our culture or religious beliefs or skin color or ethnicity. This is done to keep us from focusing on what is happening in this country. THE ONLY ISSUE worth discussing is that we are being taken over by multinational corporations that wish to convert this country into little more than an outsourcing service center, serviced alone by fast-food chains, stores like Wal-mart and ignorant, cheap labor. And thanks to globalization, they have largely succeeded. The machine that has grown up to keep us from discussing this horrible truth is the cable news channel. Day after day, supposed liberals like Olbermann, Mathews, and Maddow TAKE THE BATE (from supposed conservatives like Hannity and Beck) and participate in endless, pointless discussions with their $1000-an-appearance-guests about how there are no death panels, about how Obama is not a racist and about how CRAZY that kooky Sarah Palin is. And can you believe they STILL think Obama’s not American? And hey, what about that crazy new Arizona immigration law? Politicians who have become little more than robots for the super rich have aided in this demonic plan of distraction and have helped to drive the mainstream media into chasing one distracting issue after another. It is not enough that these sold-out-politicians are daily sponsoring laws that give multinational corporations even more power over the average worker. They also keep the distraction machine going by stating one audacious lie after another into the cable news echo chamber. All we need is some off-the-wall comment by Michele Bachmann or some facebook tweet from Palin or an offensive comment by Limbaugh or some racist Tea Party rally and we are off to the races. Another day goes by and we are only more divided. Another day goes by and we didn’t mention Globalization at all. Mission accomplished! Today we are made to discuss the claims that we have a socialist in the White House; tomorrow we are made to discuss bigots who seek to circumvent the American tradition of the freedom of religion. Oh and did you hear that Beck and Palin gave a speech on the Lincoln Memorial to commemorate MLK!? The gall of those idiots! Oh, and let us not forget the whole Quran-burning insanity. On a conveyor belt of sorts, the distractions keep coming and they never cease. I propose that we stop allowing ourselves to be conned into discussing these non-issues. We’ve got to sound the REAL alarm instead of wasting our time debunking all the fake ones. The most urgent and alarming fact we should be stating every time one of these fake issues gets raised is: Globalization has completely destroyed our middle class!! Period, end of story. It is the proverbial 1000-pound gorilla in the room that nobody in public life is acknowledging. If Obama wants an issue upon which to win a second term, not to mention the midterms, it is right here staring at him in the face. The unemployment rate is all the proof we need that action must be taken NOW. Countries who’ve been protecting their labor with tariffs are doing much better right now than we are even in these hard economic times. It’s just that simple. Look at China! Will Obama wake up and seize the moment? Or is he really just the new outsourcing-branch-manager-in-chief? http://www.hatingitmagazine.com/2010/09/10/a-hating-it-game-of-distraction/ hey Reagan-Jeffersonian Party Member, why don't you wake up! If we had all the manufacturing jobs that we lost from Globalization here right now, we wouldn't be at almost 10% unemployment. hey iconoclast60, don't give me that. Multi-national corporations hate paying fare wages, so they bought the gov't and forced it to get rid of our tariffs, just to circumvent union efforts to protect US worker rights. And your ignorance only aids these greedy bastards in their neofeudalistic designs. oops, I meant "fair" wages!
Politics - 9 Answers
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As Obama was voted in by the majority of voters, I don't imagine that it is him that is doing the dividing
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I think he favors globalization, as do most progressives, more that he worries about the trials of the middle class.
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You can't stop the world from turning. America believes in the capital markets that
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He wants to get elceted for another term
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Because globalisation if it exists at all is a bunch of bull.
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We all know this bud. Neither party is going to help so what would you like to do? State government is completely bought out they make the national leadership look clean. So you want to what start a email campaign a C-SPAN call in campaign? Obama is going to have to be reelected I don't hold any hope out for much changing until he is a lame duck and can do what needs doing without worrying about an election.
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Obama is not man enough to do it. There is probably only one person that has the balls to do it. They call him a crazy old man. I think we all know who it is. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QbOzUQm1ms0
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It hasnt. Imagine if we cut off major markets like India. Our production would plummet, along with jobs.
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Your post sounds like a pep rally speech at a union convention. I blame unions not corporations for our woes. Unions killed the maritime business and the auto industry.
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It is an age old plan. But it has worked for years. Make sure all we talk about are divisive issues that divide us according to our culture or religious beliefs or skin color or ethnicity. This is done to keep us from focusing on what is happening in this country. THE ONLY ISSUE worth discussing is that we are being taken over by multinational corporations that wish to convert this country into little more than an outsourcing service center, serviced alone by fast-food chains, stores like Wal-mart and ignorant, cheap labor. And thanks to globalization, they have largely succeeded. The machine that has grown up to keep us from discussing this horrible truth is the cable news channel. Day after day, supposed liberals like Olbermann, Mathews, and Maddow TAKE THE BATE (from supposed conservatives like Hannity and Beck) and participate in endless, pointless discussions with their $1000-an-appearance-guests about how there are no death panels, about how Obama is not a racist and about how CRAZY that kooky Sarah Palin is. And can you believe they STILL think Obama’s not American? And hey, what about that crazy new Arizona immigration law? Politicians who have become little more than robots for the super rich have aided in this demonic plan of distraction and have helped to drive the mainstream media into chasing one distracting issue after another. It is not enough that these sold-out-politicians are daily sponsoring laws that give multinational corporations even more power over the average worker. They also keep the distraction machine going by stating one audacious lie after another into the cable news echo chamber. All we need is some off-the-wall comment by Michele Bachmann or some facebook tweet from Palin or an offensive comment by Limbaugh or some racist Tea Party rally and we are off to the races. Another day goes by and we are only more divided. Another day goes by and we didn’t mention Globalization at all. Mission accomplished! Today we are made to discuss the claims that we have a socialist in the White House; tomorrow we are made to discuss bigots who seek to circumvent the American tradition of the freedom of religion. Oh and did you hear that Beck and Palin gave a speech on the Lincoln Memorial to commemorate MLK!? The gall of those idiots! Oh, and let us not forget the whole Quran-burning insanity. On a conveyor belt of sorts, the distractions keep coming and they never cease. I propose that we stop allowing ourselves to be conned into discussing these non-issues. We’ve got to sound the REAL alarm instead of wasting our time debunking all the fake ones. The most urgent and alarming fact we should be stating every time one of these fake issues gets raised is: Globalization has completely destroyed our middle class!! Period, end of story. It is the proverbial 1000-pound gorilla in the room that nobody in public life is acknowledging. If Obama wants an issue upon which to win a second term, not to mention the midterms, it is right here staring at him in the face. The unemployment rate is all the proof we need that action must be taken NOW. Countries who’ve been protecting their labor with tariffs are doing much better right now than we are even in these hard economic times. It’s just that simple. Look at China! Will Obama wake up and seize the moment? Or is he really just the new outsourcing-branch-manager-in-chief? http://www.hatingitmagazine.com/2010/09/10/a-hating-it-game-of-distraction/ hey Reagan-Jeffersonian Party Member, why don't you wake up! If we had all the manufacturing jobs that we lost from Globalization here right now, we wouldn't be at almost 10% unemployment. hey iconoclast60, don't give me that. Multi-national corporations hate paying fare wages, so they bought the gov't and forced it to get rid of our tariffs, just to circumvent union efforts to protect US worker rights. And your ignorance only aids these greedy bastards in their neofeudalistic designs. oops, I meant "fair" wages!
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As Obama was voted in by the majority of voters, I don't imagine that it is him that is doing the dividing
2 :
I think he favors globalization, as do most progressives, more that he worries about the trials of the middle class.
3 :
You can't stop the world from turning. America believes in the capital markets that
4 :
He wants to get elceted for another term
5 :
Because globalisation if it exists at all is a bunch of bull.
6 :
We all know this bud. Neither party is going to help so what would you like to do? State government is completely bought out they make the national leadership look clean. So you want to what start a email campaign a C-SPAN call in campaign? Obama is going to have to be reelected I don't hold any hope out for much changing until he is a lame duck and can do what needs doing without worrying about an election.
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Obama is not man enough to do it. There is probably only one person that has the balls to do it. They call him a crazy old man. I think we all know who it is. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QbOzUQm1ms0
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It hasnt. Imagine if we cut off major markets like India. Our production would plummet, along with jobs.
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Your post sounds like a pep rally speech at a union convention. I blame unions not corporations for our woes. Unions killed the maritime business and the auto industry.
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Wednesday, November 7, 2012
What do you think of this story?
What do you think of this story?
 Savannah and her friends emerged to the Glendale Mall examining mannequins in the display windows. Carter and the other boys had wondered off to wherever they went to. It was just Savannah and the girls. Savannah had discussed song ideas to Palma on the way to the mall. Palma suggested that they should sing some of Savannah's personal songs, but Savannah politely refused. She was too awkward to belt out the lyrics from her sappy love songs. After a few begs and pleads from Palma, she finally gave in. "Okay, maybe." Savannah said noncommittally. "I'm not making any promises." "That's good enough." responded Palma. A few teenagers from Savannah's school stopped to stare at Savannah and Palma as if they were celebrities. Holly, Elisha, and Reese just simply ignored the girls as they walked into Wet Seal. Savannah didn't know how they did it. Why was it that her and Palma were the only girls who got excited when people noticed them? Were they so unaccustomed to popularity that they had to smile every time someone looked up to them. Savannah remembered that Ghazal girl she had met at the football game the other night. She was so nice to Savannah that she had thought it was a joke. As if Ghazal was just pulling her leg. But it was real. Savannah was like an idol to her. She was flattered by Ghazal's fascination with her. In the store, dresses and thin shirts displayed on the clearance rack while the new and fresh winter clothes displayed at the front of the store. Immediately, an Irish-green, cable-knit sweater with navy pinstriped sleeves and collar caught her attention. It was absolutely beautiful. Walking up to it, she traced her fingers on the soft fabric. Suddenly her eyes grew wide with disappointment. Forty Dollars. She only had twenty-five dollars in her pocket and a few change. "Great." she grumbled. Walking around the store, she found more tops that were in her price range. But she only had enough money for one or two tops. She finally settled on a black, purple, and navy sweater-vest and two pairs of fleecy underwear. Reese walked up to her with piles of clothes in her hand. Her hair was disheveled from when she had jogged that morning and her caramel eyes were flashing with delight. "Hey!" she trilled, putting her clothes next to Savannah. "Is that all you're buying?" "I don't have enough money." Reese scoffed, walking back to the place where Savannah had idolized the green top. She simply plucked the top off of its rack and brought it back to her. Savannah just shook her head. She didn't want her friends to buy this stuff for her. Who did they think they were? Bill Gates? Just buying each other all kinds of gifts like Santa Clause passing out candy canes? It was insane. It was unconventional. It was high school teenagers who were privileged in small town Indiana. It was December 1 with Christmas just around the corner. Savannah guessed she could consider Reese's token as an early Christmas gift.  When the lady handed the bag back to her, she gave Savannah a knowing smile. She probably wished she had a friend to buy her things whenever she felt like it. Outside of the mall, Holly and Elisha were both chattering away on their phones. Deciding to check her Facebook, Savannah snatched her cellphone from her bag. She flipped through her Favorites before clicking on the Facebook logo. At the speed of light, the website popped up with her email and password saved into the site's login. Usually, there were about a dozen of new messages from her usual friends, but there were only a couple of them. Then suddenly, her eyes traveled towards a topic that made her eyebrows furrowed in confusion. On Andy's wall, it featuring him and Heather Gleason talking. Heather had posted an early message from Andy on his wall. Heather Gleason: Competition: Mud Wrestling Holly Vrs. Lettie Place: Andy's basement Time: 5:45 August 14 Andy Simms: haha good times Savannah laughed. It was probably just a humorous inside joke. But just to be on the safe side she asked Holly about it. Holly laughed so loud that people stopped to see where the noise was coming from. "Oh, yeah!" Elisha grinned. "I remember that day. The whole floor was messy." Savannah gawked at them. What they were telling her was bizarre. Holly and Lettie actually did things like that? Savannah wondered what other weird and perverse things her friends did. She shook her head, chuckling to herself.  By four o'clock, they were at Holly's house. Savannah stood on the platform in Holly's basement with microphone gripped to her hand. She and Palma needed to practice for singing competition the school was having in a couple of weeks. The first song they were singing was "Just Be Good To Me" by SOS Band. "Friends...!" belted Savannah as the instrumental version song
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thats reallly good. keep on writing. (: and can you answer mine please? ; http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Au1tzMDKsybTmIRJV_lR1t3sy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20100414184630AA4mn9y
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 Savannah and her friends emerged to the Glendale Mall examining mannequins in the display windows. Carter and the other boys had wondered off to wherever they went to. It was just Savannah and the girls. Savannah had discussed song ideas to Palma on the way to the mall. Palma suggested that they should sing some of Savannah's personal songs, but Savannah politely refused. She was too awkward to belt out the lyrics from her sappy love songs. After a few begs and pleads from Palma, she finally gave in. "Okay, maybe." Savannah said noncommittally. "I'm not making any promises." "That's good enough." responded Palma. A few teenagers from Savannah's school stopped to stare at Savannah and Palma as if they were celebrities. Holly, Elisha, and Reese just simply ignored the girls as they walked into Wet Seal. Savannah didn't know how they did it. Why was it that her and Palma were the only girls who got excited when people noticed them? Were they so unaccustomed to popularity that they had to smile every time someone looked up to them. Savannah remembered that Ghazal girl she had met at the football game the other night. She was so nice to Savannah that she had thought it was a joke. As if Ghazal was just pulling her leg. But it was real. Savannah was like an idol to her. She was flattered by Ghazal's fascination with her. In the store, dresses and thin shirts displayed on the clearance rack while the new and fresh winter clothes displayed at the front of the store. Immediately, an Irish-green, cable-knit sweater with navy pinstriped sleeves and collar caught her attention. It was absolutely beautiful. Walking up to it, she traced her fingers on the soft fabric. Suddenly her eyes grew wide with disappointment. Forty Dollars. She only had twenty-five dollars in her pocket and a few change. "Great." she grumbled. Walking around the store, she found more tops that were in her price range. But she only had enough money for one or two tops. She finally settled on a black, purple, and navy sweater-vest and two pairs of fleecy underwear. Reese walked up to her with piles of clothes in her hand. Her hair was disheveled from when she had jogged that morning and her caramel eyes were flashing with delight. "Hey!" she trilled, putting her clothes next to Savannah. "Is that all you're buying?" "I don't have enough money." Reese scoffed, walking back to the place where Savannah had idolized the green top. She simply plucked the top off of its rack and brought it back to her. Savannah just shook her head. She didn't want her friends to buy this stuff for her. Who did they think they were? Bill Gates? Just buying each other all kinds of gifts like Santa Clause passing out candy canes? It was insane. It was unconventional. It was high school teenagers who were privileged in small town Indiana. It was December 1 with Christmas just around the corner. Savannah guessed she could consider Reese's token as an early Christmas gift.  When the lady handed the bag back to her, she gave Savannah a knowing smile. She probably wished she had a friend to buy her things whenever she felt like it. Outside of the mall, Holly and Elisha were both chattering away on their phones. Deciding to check her Facebook, Savannah snatched her cellphone from her bag. She flipped through her Favorites before clicking on the Facebook logo. At the speed of light, the website popped up with her email and password saved into the site's login. Usually, there were about a dozen of new messages from her usual friends, but there were only a couple of them. Then suddenly, her eyes traveled towards a topic that made her eyebrows furrowed in confusion. On Andy's wall, it featuring him and Heather Gleason talking. Heather had posted an early message from Andy on his wall. Heather Gleason: Competition: Mud Wrestling Holly Vrs. Lettie Place: Andy's basement Time: 5:45 August 14 Andy Simms: haha good times Savannah laughed. It was probably just a humorous inside joke. But just to be on the safe side she asked Holly about it. Holly laughed so loud that people stopped to see where the noise was coming from. "Oh, yeah!" Elisha grinned. "I remember that day. The whole floor was messy." Savannah gawked at them. What they were telling her was bizarre. Holly and Lettie actually did things like that? Savannah wondered what other weird and perverse things her friends did. She shook her head, chuckling to herself.  By four o'clock, they were at Holly's house. Savannah stood on the platform in Holly's basement with microphone gripped to her hand. She and Palma needed to practice for singing competition the school was having in a couple of weeks. The first song they were singing was "Just Be Good To Me" by SOS Band. "Friends...!" belted Savannah as the instrumental version song
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thats reallly good. keep on writing. (: and can you answer mine please? ; http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Au1tzMDKsybTmIRJV_lR1t3sy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20100414184630AA4mn9y
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Thursday, November 1, 2012
3 years, one baby, no ring?
3 years, one baby, no ring?
Friday will be my 3 year anniversary. We have a 18 month old together (yes, things happen, please don't dwell on that fact) live together, etc. No proposal...even though he promised he would. Last fall after ordering some golf clubs off ebay, he ordered me a ring, too...it cost 13 dollars, well below even a $90 club and $80 dollar jersey he had just ordered. When we were discussing marriage, I told him the ring was not important (it isn't). The thing is, this ring was costume jewelry. So fake I couldn't even pull it off until I got a new one. It was huge and plastic, and he didn't propose, just handed me the envelope when it came in the mail. He acted totally hurt that I was hurt and promised to get me a new one. Well, last month, while having a check for over $4,000, he buys a brand new Xbox and games...pawning the Xbox I bought him for our anniversary 2 years prior. I finally asked, and he said he had no money for a ring. (I had a $200 Wal-Mart ring picked out..). Then, this weekend, I wake up and he has missed messages on his phone. I checked them, because our son was with his aunt. (Ok, and sometimes it's another woman). I just checked to see WHO they were from...and it was another woman..so I read it. It said "Hey" then another "Hey. What are you doing? I'm just sitting here alone in my bedroom, bored....I knew he said he met her in class, I checked, not in class. That is what he told me when I asked, then he admitted that he met her after class while "hanging out" and asked her for her number for "unknown reasons" just came out before he knew it. He had just answered her texts to "be polite" and erased them so I wouldn't be mad. (He was texting her while I was in class). Unfortunately, this is about the 5th woman. I have a list of names. I've found dating websites, messages on myspace/facebook, etc. He told me he needed a "break" and that after his break we could get back together. Ok, so, what does this even mean? Obviously, this guy has no intention of marrying me right? No ring, no proposal, no anniversary plans/gifts (I usually get a mutually liked dvd for special occasions) and a new girls number. I love him though, and I try to think maybe I am too overbearing? Maybe it is because I did not lose the weight he wanted me to? Should I just give up on this now? Yeah, I wasn't mad about the Xbox. Just that he pawned the one I gave him, and had enough money for both items! What he pawned it for could have at least gone toward the ring. Also, he put me into the mind of marriage, as he brought it up, then poof! It was gone. So it makes me think. Also, I bought all of the boy's winter clothes, new toys, etc, so it wasn't that he didn't have money because he spent so much on our son. I should graduate in May with bachelors and associate degrees. He just started school. I think I am also seeing the pattern! lol
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yes. you should give up on this now. You have a little boy on your hands who is impulsive to buy boy games as well as looking elsewhere while leaving you hanging. And yes, the ring is important. Don't ever say it isn't again. You know what guys do with that information now don't you? It tells them you're not that important, that you cheap and that you'll wait and wait and wait......Stop waiting. Raise your standards. And never apologize for it.
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You've been with he guy 3 yrs, he's stepping out on you, he spends money on toys when that's probably not the best way spend it if he's got a partner and a child to help support...he doesn't sound ready for marriage or responsible enough, so why are you still wasting time with him??? You can't force someone to be ready to marry and the kid was bad timing indeed but you can't send it back...he can pay you support and not be married to you, and from what you describe he's not someone you'd be happy married to anyway...set him free to sow his oats...
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I don't know why you are waiting for him. If you want to be married, say so.Put a time frame on it and let him know what you expect. You are a grown woman who is a mother. It's time to direct your own life rather than wait on him. Don't have any more babies with boyfriends. Marriage is a goal of yours. Put your priorities straight.
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Babies are expensive. Maybe he can't afford one after buying diapers, baby wipes, formula plus feeding a family. I wandered in the baby section to get some diapers for a friend's daughter and other baby things and was shocked at the prices since my son was a baby! Thank God that was 27 years ago since I had to get diapers for him!
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Honey, an engagement ring should cost a guy roughly 3 month's pay. So, yeah, IT IS important. I would say that the most important thing to your guy is HIM, not you, not your baby, but HIM. This will not likely change - EVER. You have some tough decisions to make, choose wisely.
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Honey I am sorry, but if marriage is what you want this isn't your guy. Trust me if it was his priority, he would have spent the cash on a ring for you - and not all the toys. This is a take it or leave it situation. Take a look at your life with him, and see if you are willing to accept it as-is. With no other expectations, hopes, etc. If you love him enough to stay then stay without expecting anything. After two years of being together unmarried, couples that marry after two years have a significant jump in divorce rates. Basically because of the expectations brought on by marriage and what roles the man and woman play. So if its something you want, embrace it. If not then start moving towards getting on with your life without him. You know he is up to no good. Let's hope he isn't sleeping around for your health's sake. You sound very smart and I am sure can figure this one out.
7 :
He has an established history of cheating (or at least trying), he blows the family budget on toys for himself, and yet you think this is somehow justified because you haven't lost all of the weight you put on bearing his kid? Honey, please listen to yourself. Then call his bluff and take the "break," but tell him you'll be the one letting him know whether you want to put up with his nonsense any longer. I can almost guarantee you he'll panic. Just don't take him back unless you see sincere evidence of long-term change.
8 :
I would of said no if it was just the Xbox and stuff because thats most men. But the other women is just too much, drop that boiii and live your life because you deserve to find your own beautiful husband that understands you :) good luck
9 :
i know you love him...but please let go of him...please...he is disrespecting you in a major way and you will be disrespecting yourself if you go along with his B.S....just look how many women have answered and said let go
10 :
Absolutely he has NO intentions.. you are his comfort zone. Hey, no ring... no marriage... no commitment. You and your child deserve better. You need a committed man who loves you and want to spend the rest of his life with you (and you alone) and your child needs a father who not only loves him but is committed to his mother. Be praying for you.
11 :
A lot of good advice here. This is a tale as old as time. What you have here is a selfish man. Your love will not change him. You are not responsible for what he does; it's not the weight you didn't lose, it's the man himself. He is cheating on you. He doesn't care to marry you because he feels that he is still single and also that you can be bought off with cheap trinkets and lies. Before that baby is old enough to truly remember him, replace that selfish man with a good man. Three quarters of the men out there are good and loving husbands and fathers; get you one of those. Then your precious child will grow up loving a man who is worth it. Women have met this sort of man for thousands and thousands of years. You are not the only one who has suffered like this. Find the man who loves you for you, who eagerly asks for your hand in marriage, and who feels lucky if you say "yes."
12 :
"Obviously, this guy has no intention of marrying me right?" Right. "Should I just give up on this now?" Yes.
13 :
He has no intentions of ever marrying you, and you should consider yourself lucky. Why in the name of all that is sane would you want to spend your life with someone who is immature, irresponsible, dishonest AND cheats on you into the bargain? Stop wasting your time already.
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Friday will be my 3 year anniversary. We have a 18 month old together (yes, things happen, please don't dwell on that fact) live together, etc. No proposal...even though he promised he would. Last fall after ordering some golf clubs off ebay, he ordered me a ring, too...it cost 13 dollars, well below even a $90 club and $80 dollar jersey he had just ordered. When we were discussing marriage, I told him the ring was not important (it isn't). The thing is, this ring was costume jewelry. So fake I couldn't even pull it off until I got a new one. It was huge and plastic, and he didn't propose, just handed me the envelope when it came in the mail. He acted totally hurt that I was hurt and promised to get me a new one. Well, last month, while having a check for over $4,000, he buys a brand new Xbox and games...pawning the Xbox I bought him for our anniversary 2 years prior. I finally asked, and he said he had no money for a ring. (I had a $200 Wal-Mart ring picked out..). Then, this weekend, I wake up and he has missed messages on his phone. I checked them, because our son was with his aunt. (Ok, and sometimes it's another woman). I just checked to see WHO they were from...and it was another woman..so I read it. It said "Hey" then another "Hey. What are you doing? I'm just sitting here alone in my bedroom, bored....I knew he said he met her in class, I checked, not in class. That is what he told me when I asked, then he admitted that he met her after class while "hanging out" and asked her for her number for "unknown reasons" just came out before he knew it. He had just answered her texts to "be polite" and erased them so I wouldn't be mad. (He was texting her while I was in class). Unfortunately, this is about the 5th woman. I have a list of names. I've found dating websites, messages on myspace/facebook, etc. He told me he needed a "break" and that after his break we could get back together. Ok, so, what does this even mean? Obviously, this guy has no intention of marrying me right? No ring, no proposal, no anniversary plans/gifts (I usually get a mutually liked dvd for special occasions) and a new girls number. I love him though, and I try to think maybe I am too overbearing? Maybe it is because I did not lose the weight he wanted me to? Should I just give up on this now? Yeah, I wasn't mad about the Xbox. Just that he pawned the one I gave him, and had enough money for both items! What he pawned it for could have at least gone toward the ring. Also, he put me into the mind of marriage, as he brought it up, then poof! It was gone. So it makes me think. Also, I bought all of the boy's winter clothes, new toys, etc, so it wasn't that he didn't have money because he spent so much on our son. I should graduate in May with bachelors and associate degrees. He just started school. I think I am also seeing the pattern! lol
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yes. you should give up on this now. You have a little boy on your hands who is impulsive to buy boy games as well as looking elsewhere while leaving you hanging. And yes, the ring is important. Don't ever say it isn't again. You know what guys do with that information now don't you? It tells them you're not that important, that you cheap and that you'll wait and wait and wait......Stop waiting. Raise your standards. And never apologize for it.
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You've been with he guy 3 yrs, he's stepping out on you, he spends money on toys when that's probably not the best way spend it if he's got a partner and a child to help support...he doesn't sound ready for marriage or responsible enough, so why are you still wasting time with him??? You can't force someone to be ready to marry and the kid was bad timing indeed but you can't send it back...he can pay you support and not be married to you, and from what you describe he's not someone you'd be happy married to anyway...set him free to sow his oats...
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I don't know why you are waiting for him. If you want to be married, say so.Put a time frame on it and let him know what you expect. You are a grown woman who is a mother. It's time to direct your own life rather than wait on him. Don't have any more babies with boyfriends. Marriage is a goal of yours. Put your priorities straight.
4 :
Babies are expensive. Maybe he can't afford one after buying diapers, baby wipes, formula plus feeding a family. I wandered in the baby section to get some diapers for a friend's daughter and other baby things and was shocked at the prices since my son was a baby! Thank God that was 27 years ago since I had to get diapers for him!
5 :
Honey, an engagement ring should cost a guy roughly 3 month's pay. So, yeah, IT IS important. I would say that the most important thing to your guy is HIM, not you, not your baby, but HIM. This will not likely change - EVER. You have some tough decisions to make, choose wisely.
6 :
Honey I am sorry, but if marriage is what you want this isn't your guy. Trust me if it was his priority, he would have spent the cash on a ring for you - and not all the toys. This is a take it or leave it situation. Take a look at your life with him, and see if you are willing to accept it as-is. With no other expectations, hopes, etc. If you love him enough to stay then stay without expecting anything. After two years of being together unmarried, couples that marry after two years have a significant jump in divorce rates. Basically because of the expectations brought on by marriage and what roles the man and woman play. So if its something you want, embrace it. If not then start moving towards getting on with your life without him. You know he is up to no good. Let's hope he isn't sleeping around for your health's sake. You sound very smart and I am sure can figure this one out.
7 :
He has an established history of cheating (or at least trying), he blows the family budget on toys for himself, and yet you think this is somehow justified because you haven't lost all of the weight you put on bearing his kid? Honey, please listen to yourself. Then call his bluff and take the "break," but tell him you'll be the one letting him know whether you want to put up with his nonsense any longer. I can almost guarantee you he'll panic. Just don't take him back unless you see sincere evidence of long-term change.
8 :
I would of said no if it was just the Xbox and stuff because thats most men. But the other women is just too much, drop that boiii and live your life because you deserve to find your own beautiful husband that understands you :) good luck
9 :
i know you love him...but please let go of him...please...he is disrespecting you in a major way and you will be disrespecting yourself if you go along with his B.S....just look how many women have answered and said let go
10 :
Absolutely he has NO intentions.. you are his comfort zone. Hey, no ring... no marriage... no commitment. You and your child deserve better. You need a committed man who loves you and want to spend the rest of his life with you (and you alone) and your child needs a father who not only loves him but is committed to his mother. Be praying for you.
11 :
A lot of good advice here. This is a tale as old as time. What you have here is a selfish man. Your love will not change him. You are not responsible for what he does; it's not the weight you didn't lose, it's the man himself. He is cheating on you. He doesn't care to marry you because he feels that he is still single and also that you can be bought off with cheap trinkets and lies. Before that baby is old enough to truly remember him, replace that selfish man with a good man. Three quarters of the men out there are good and loving husbands and fathers; get you one of those. Then your precious child will grow up loving a man who is worth it. Women have met this sort of man for thousands and thousands of years. You are not the only one who has suffered like this. Find the man who loves you for you, who eagerly asks for your hand in marriage, and who feels lucky if you say "yes."
12 :
"Obviously, this guy has no intention of marrying me right?" Right. "Should I just give up on this now?" Yes.
13 :
He has no intentions of ever marrying you, and you should consider yourself lucky. Why in the name of all that is sane would you want to spend your life with someone who is immature, irresponsible, dishonest AND cheats on you into the bargain? Stop wasting your time already.
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Sunday, October 28, 2012
If you were in my shoes, would you pick your wife, your ex-girlfriend or your current girlfriend?
If you were in my shoes, would you pick your wife, your ex-girlfriend or your current girlfriend?
Unfortunately, I am in love with three women and I swear to you I'm not trolling. I am in love with my wife, my ex-girlfriend and my current girlfriend. I'm 58 years old and the women I love are more or less my age except for my current girlfriend. I feel terrible for doing this to them and they are all amazing women. For the record, no children are involved in this. My only son is 33 years old and I divorced his mother almost 22 years ago. So, I have to make a choice and I'd appreciate some advice and opinions. Here's my story: I met and fell in love with a woman named Kathleen after I divorced my first wife and after she divorced her husband. We dated for over three years(1990-1993). My father got very ill in 1993, so I had to spend four months in Ireland to help my mother take care of him. Kathleen and I had a big argument before I left for Ireland but we didn't exactly breakup. While I was in Ireland, I met Frances(another divorcee). Frances and I started dating and then falling in love. The closer I got to Frances, the farther apart I got from Kathleen. So I wrote a letter to Kathleen saying that I fell for someone else so we broke up and it broke her heart. Frances and I stayed in Ireland together until my father died, I brought her to New Jersey in 1995 and we got married in 1998. Frances and I had a great marriage until last year. Kathleen and I reunited via Facebook in February 2009 through a mutual friend. She had just left her no good ex-husband again(the same one she left when she first met me). Sparks started flying again, we met up in person and I proceeded to have an affair with Kathleen while married to Frances. I still love Kathleen but I had no plans on leaving Frances. Kathleen feels no remorse about dating me because she feels as though Frances "robbed" her of what she could have had with me. True. When I was in Ireland, Frances did tell me to make a choice between her and Kathleen and I chose Frances. So, I guess Kathleen is still bitter after all these years. After three months of reconnecting Kathleen, Frances found out about her. She was hurt and she told me to leave. So, I moved out in May 2009 but we still remained legally married. Although I continued to sleep with Kathleen, I didn't commit myself to her. In July 2009, I met Connie. She was beautiful, smart, kind and a single mother with two teenagers. Also, a little younger than me, Kathleen and Frances. Connie is 45 years old. Connie and I have been dating ever since and we moved in together a year ago. I'm really in love with this woman. Ever since Frances and I separated, we would occasionally sleep together and sometimes discuss reconciling. Just like I'm in a relationship with Connie, Frances has a boyfriend of her own. Now, Frances is sick of "playing games" with me, she told me if I want to give our marriage another chance she will dump her boyfriend Thaddeus and I'll dump Connie. If not, she's staying with Thaddeus, I'm staying with Connie and we're getting a divorce. It's a hard decision. I'm in love with Frances, our marriage was wonderful and it was that ONE mistake with Kathleen that ruined it all. I love Kathleen with all my heart and I always looked back and felt bad about the way I betrayed her. I destroyed her self-esteem and made her go back to her ex-husband because she felt she could do no better. So I do feel as though I owe her for that. I'm happy with Connie and I love her so much. I'm sure she knows that I still have feelings for my wife but she has NO idea about Kathleen. I'm too old to be doing this, I have GRANDCHILDREN! Whichever one I choose, the other two will be hurt. What would you do if you were me?
Marriage & Divorce - 9 Answers
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First, you could have summarized all this jargon into one small paragraph and second you know that when it comes down to men...sex is one of the most important things in a relationship therefore choose the women that satisfies you the best sexually in bed.
2 :
yeah, sure not trolling. You have posted this in the past pretending you are the wife, then as the husband. Go get a job or something to use your free time with.
3 :
If you knew Love, really knew Love there would be no conflict. When it's real, it's that clear.
4 :
stay with the one you're with with. be a man, stop playing games and "falling in love" and just keep one woman. if you don't quit with your games, you will die alone. You've hurt plenty of people on your quest for love, and unfortunately, they all love you too much to live their lives without you. Stop hurting these women... stop having affairs, just stop it!!
5 :
You gotta be a troll cause otherwise your life is more complicated then mine is. I have 3 partners which are all friends with benefits!I have one bf i lived with. They all know about each other. No one is fighting for me thank god. We all have busy lives. One of my other partners has a girl to & they are both swingers!So she don't care what we do its awesome. My bf don't care what i do either. We have an open relationship to. My advise to you is ah your life is very complicated. I could barely understand of what happened cause you are with 3 females 1 u are married to the others were married to or not married im not totally totally sure cause its all so confusing. Are you sure your not a troll?
6 :
i didn't even read all that. you shouldn't choose any of those women cause none of them deserve ur unfaithful @ss.
7 :
you don't sound like a very good person. i guess the old saying is true "once a cheater always a cheater". if i was any 3 of those woman i would want nothing to do with you.
8 :
Frances.
9 :
I would say stay with Connie. Why did I choose her? Its time for you to grow up and give ur love life a new start without affairs or without punishing urself about ur pass relationships. What happen in the pass is the pass n u cant change it anymore so juz learn from it k. Don't choose Kathleen or Frances because they will always bring up the others affair. They will question why you pick the other 1 and you will never b able 2 move on and have a happy relationship.
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Unfortunately, I am in love with three women and I swear to you I'm not trolling. I am in love with my wife, my ex-girlfriend and my current girlfriend. I'm 58 years old and the women I love are more or less my age except for my current girlfriend. I feel terrible for doing this to them and they are all amazing women. For the record, no children are involved in this. My only son is 33 years old and I divorced his mother almost 22 years ago. So, I have to make a choice and I'd appreciate some advice and opinions. Here's my story: I met and fell in love with a woman named Kathleen after I divorced my first wife and after she divorced her husband. We dated for over three years(1990-1993). My father got very ill in 1993, so I had to spend four months in Ireland to help my mother take care of him. Kathleen and I had a big argument before I left for Ireland but we didn't exactly breakup. While I was in Ireland, I met Frances(another divorcee). Frances and I started dating and then falling in love. The closer I got to Frances, the farther apart I got from Kathleen. So I wrote a letter to Kathleen saying that I fell for someone else so we broke up and it broke her heart. Frances and I stayed in Ireland together until my father died, I brought her to New Jersey in 1995 and we got married in 1998. Frances and I had a great marriage until last year. Kathleen and I reunited via Facebook in February 2009 through a mutual friend. She had just left her no good ex-husband again(the same one she left when she first met me). Sparks started flying again, we met up in person and I proceeded to have an affair with Kathleen while married to Frances. I still love Kathleen but I had no plans on leaving Frances. Kathleen feels no remorse about dating me because she feels as though Frances "robbed" her of what she could have had with me. True. When I was in Ireland, Frances did tell me to make a choice between her and Kathleen and I chose Frances. So, I guess Kathleen is still bitter after all these years. After three months of reconnecting Kathleen, Frances found out about her. She was hurt and she told me to leave. So, I moved out in May 2009 but we still remained legally married. Although I continued to sleep with Kathleen, I didn't commit myself to her. In July 2009, I met Connie. She was beautiful, smart, kind and a single mother with two teenagers. Also, a little younger than me, Kathleen and Frances. Connie is 45 years old. Connie and I have been dating ever since and we moved in together a year ago. I'm really in love with this woman. Ever since Frances and I separated, we would occasionally sleep together and sometimes discuss reconciling. Just like I'm in a relationship with Connie, Frances has a boyfriend of her own. Now, Frances is sick of "playing games" with me, she told me if I want to give our marriage another chance she will dump her boyfriend Thaddeus and I'll dump Connie. If not, she's staying with Thaddeus, I'm staying with Connie and we're getting a divorce. It's a hard decision. I'm in love with Frances, our marriage was wonderful and it was that ONE mistake with Kathleen that ruined it all. I love Kathleen with all my heart and I always looked back and felt bad about the way I betrayed her. I destroyed her self-esteem and made her go back to her ex-husband because she felt she could do no better. So I do feel as though I owe her for that. I'm happy with Connie and I love her so much. I'm sure she knows that I still have feelings for my wife but she has NO idea about Kathleen. I'm too old to be doing this, I have GRANDCHILDREN! Whichever one I choose, the other two will be hurt. What would you do if you were me?
Marriage & Divorce - 9 Answers
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1 :
First, you could have summarized all this jargon into one small paragraph and second you know that when it comes down to men...sex is one of the most important things in a relationship therefore choose the women that satisfies you the best sexually in bed.
2 :
yeah, sure not trolling. You have posted this in the past pretending you are the wife, then as the husband. Go get a job or something to use your free time with.
3 :
If you knew Love, really knew Love there would be no conflict. When it's real, it's that clear.
4 :
stay with the one you're with with. be a man, stop playing games and "falling in love" and just keep one woman. if you don't quit with your games, you will die alone. You've hurt plenty of people on your quest for love, and unfortunately, they all love you too much to live their lives without you. Stop hurting these women... stop having affairs, just stop it!!
5 :
You gotta be a troll cause otherwise your life is more complicated then mine is. I have 3 partners which are all friends with benefits!I have one bf i lived with. They all know about each other. No one is fighting for me thank god. We all have busy lives. One of my other partners has a girl to & they are both swingers!So she don't care what we do its awesome. My bf don't care what i do either. We have an open relationship to. My advise to you is ah your life is very complicated. I could barely understand of what happened cause you are with 3 females 1 u are married to the others were married to or not married im not totally totally sure cause its all so confusing. Are you sure your not a troll?
6 :
i didn't even read all that. you shouldn't choose any of those women cause none of them deserve ur unfaithful @ss.
7 :
you don't sound like a very good person. i guess the old saying is true "once a cheater always a cheater". if i was any 3 of those woman i would want nothing to do with you.
8 :
Frances.
9 :
I would say stay with Connie. Why did I choose her? Its time for you to grow up and give ur love life a new start without affairs or without punishing urself about ur pass relationships. What happen in the pass is the pass n u cant change it anymore so juz learn from it k. Don't choose Kathleen or Frances because they will always bring up the others affair. They will question why you pick the other 1 and you will never b able 2 move on and have a happy relationship.
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Sunday, October 14, 2012
Is it okay now to emotionally detach myself from my step children?
Is it okay now to emotionally detach myself from my step children?
After court battles over custody, that stretched on for years and financially devastated us, the kids are now living with their bio. mother. They have spent half of their life with us and half of their life with their bio. mom. Bio mom is as mean and rotten as they come, enough said. My hubby has 4 kids from 2 previous marriages. We raised the oldest 2 without any help at all from bio. mom. But this is about the youngest two. The youngest girl is now 15. She has always begged to live with us again, as does her younger brother 13. Now, all of a sudden she is engaged to an 18 year old boy, which her mom thinks is great. We most certainly do not. Not only that, but she didn't even tell her father (us) about this, we had to read it on Facebook. I should note that bio. mom has told both her kids that it is okay to have sex at age 14. WHAT???? Here is what is going on in a nutshell. 1 - Dad is supposed to have visitation every other weekend, but for a couple of years now bio. mom only lets him see them for spring break, Thanksgiving, a few days after Christmas and almost a month in summer. That covers less then half of Dad's entitled visitation. Bio. mom does not consult Dad, she just tells him when she will "allow" them to come and see their father. He has JOINED custody, but she leaves him out of everything. They live 4 hours away and we meet half way for pick up and drop off. 2 - Without the long list of who did what and so on, we do NOT speak in a negative way about her and her husband, whom our daughter claims has been molesting her since age 6. Since there is no physical evidence, he has gotten away with it so far, despite experts saying that our daughter is telling the truth. None the less, we do not speak about them in a negative way, but let the kids vent, with they do a lot of when they are with us. And trust me, it is VERY hard not to do so. 3 - Daughter is now very upset with us, as Dad would not allow her to bring her boyfriend (actually fiance at that time) to our house for spring break. 4 - On Facebook she keeps posting photos that are just shy of soft porn. Her laying in bed with him kissing and fondling etc. Dad has asked her to remove them, but she has not. Bio. mom thinks this is okay. And just for the record, daughter post her life just about minute by minute on Facebook all day long. 5 - Bio. mom has gotten daughter a summer job, and Dad had to find out via Facebook that she has decided not to come for visitation, which by court order she can't decide. 6 - My hubbies mom is taking her on a dream trip to Alaska, for which she can skip time from her part time summer job. She got very rude and cussed at her father when he tried to discuss this with her. She says that she is almost 16 and she should be allowed to make her own decisions. When her father told her that he had a legal right to see her she got even more mad. 7 - All of a sudden bio. mom writes dad and email claiming that we have spoken bad about her and that she is thus going to deny him any visitation at all, until she decides he has been punished enough. 8 - Youngest son wants to come and live here, visit here as much as he can. However, he is given no say so in the matter. And since daughter now does not want to come, bio. mom has decided that he just can't come either. All of this bickering and fighting has gone on and on and on. I have tried my very best to love the kids like they are my own, and it has caused me so much pain emotionally that I have literally lost my mind. I'm back on even keel now, and then all of this starts back up. Is it wrong for me to finally take a break by emotionally detaching myself from all of this? Yes, we could go back to court and fight fight fight... but I'm just flat out tired of it all. I'm always made out to be the bad guy and cause, when nothing could be further from the truth. Am I wrong to feel this way? Is it fair to our youngest son who wants nothing more then to be with us at all cost? I'm just the step mom, and I have no legal rights, so why should I continue to drive myself crazy? This has been going on since 1999 for me. I'm emotionally drained, and financially too.
Marriage & Divorce - 4 Answers
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Yes - good luck.
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Oh dear. You need a (mental) vacation more than anyone I know. How is your relationship with your husband? I don't know how you've made it through all this!
3 :
you are right to feel this way and most people would being in the same situation, have you thought that as it in my state once a child reaches the age of 13 they can decide who that they want to live with
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He needs to fight for his rights, and try to stop this marriage. http://dads-house.org/EducationalManual
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After court battles over custody, that stretched on for years and financially devastated us, the kids are now living with their bio. mother. They have spent half of their life with us and half of their life with their bio. mom. Bio mom is as mean and rotten as they come, enough said. My hubby has 4 kids from 2 previous marriages. We raised the oldest 2 without any help at all from bio. mom. But this is about the youngest two. The youngest girl is now 15. She has always begged to live with us again, as does her younger brother 13. Now, all of a sudden she is engaged to an 18 year old boy, which her mom thinks is great. We most certainly do not. Not only that, but she didn't even tell her father (us) about this, we had to read it on Facebook. I should note that bio. mom has told both her kids that it is okay to have sex at age 14. WHAT???? Here is what is going on in a nutshell. 1 - Dad is supposed to have visitation every other weekend, but for a couple of years now bio. mom only lets him see them for spring break, Thanksgiving, a few days after Christmas and almost a month in summer. That covers less then half of Dad's entitled visitation. Bio. mom does not consult Dad, she just tells him when she will "allow" them to come and see their father. He has JOINED custody, but she leaves him out of everything. They live 4 hours away and we meet half way for pick up and drop off. 2 - Without the long list of who did what and so on, we do NOT speak in a negative way about her and her husband, whom our daughter claims has been molesting her since age 6. Since there is no physical evidence, he has gotten away with it so far, despite experts saying that our daughter is telling the truth. None the less, we do not speak about them in a negative way, but let the kids vent, with they do a lot of when they are with us. And trust me, it is VERY hard not to do so. 3 - Daughter is now very upset with us, as Dad would not allow her to bring her boyfriend (actually fiance at that time) to our house for spring break. 4 - On Facebook she keeps posting photos that are just shy of soft porn. Her laying in bed with him kissing and fondling etc. Dad has asked her to remove them, but she has not. Bio. mom thinks this is okay. And just for the record, daughter post her life just about minute by minute on Facebook all day long. 5 - Bio. mom has gotten daughter a summer job, and Dad had to find out via Facebook that she has decided not to come for visitation, which by court order she can't decide. 6 - My hubbies mom is taking her on a dream trip to Alaska, for which she can skip time from her part time summer job. She got very rude and cussed at her father when he tried to discuss this with her. She says that she is almost 16 and she should be allowed to make her own decisions. When her father told her that he had a legal right to see her she got even more mad. 7 - All of a sudden bio. mom writes dad and email claiming that we have spoken bad about her and that she is thus going to deny him any visitation at all, until she decides he has been punished enough. 8 - Youngest son wants to come and live here, visit here as much as he can. However, he is given no say so in the matter. And since daughter now does not want to come, bio. mom has decided that he just can't come either. All of this bickering and fighting has gone on and on and on. I have tried my very best to love the kids like they are my own, and it has caused me so much pain emotionally that I have literally lost my mind. I'm back on even keel now, and then all of this starts back up. Is it wrong for me to finally take a break by emotionally detaching myself from all of this? Yes, we could go back to court and fight fight fight... but I'm just flat out tired of it all. I'm always made out to be the bad guy and cause, when nothing could be further from the truth. Am I wrong to feel this way? Is it fair to our youngest son who wants nothing more then to be with us at all cost? I'm just the step mom, and I have no legal rights, so why should I continue to drive myself crazy? This has been going on since 1999 for me. I'm emotionally drained, and financially too.
Marriage & Divorce - 4 Answers
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Yes - good luck.
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Oh dear. You need a (mental) vacation more than anyone I know. How is your relationship with your husband? I don't know how you've made it through all this!
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you are right to feel this way and most people would being in the same situation, have you thought that as it in my state once a child reaches the age of 13 they can decide who that they want to live with
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He needs to fight for his rights, and try to stop this marriage. http://dads-house.org/EducationalManual
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Sunday, October 7, 2012
Immigration Question For my Girlfriend?
Immigration Question For my Girlfriend?
I almost always ignore messages or contact from people outside of the U.S when going to online dating, chat, etc. rooms. I did however start to talk to one lady from the Philippines a while back and we have become very close. She and I talk every day, care about each others lives and want to meet and learn more about each other. I started the entire conversation by warning her that I would never give her money, nor marry her to help her get to America. She was honest and up front that she did want to come to America, but that her parents in Alaska had a petition pending already, and that she would never use someone to get here. When I try and talk about ways we could get her here, she is more interested in talking with me than discussing those ways. She gets sad and it is obvious she feels she will only be able to care for me online and tries to divert the questions I have about working to actually get her here, rather than just dream about it. It was like pulling teeth to get her to finally tell me how long she thought it would take if she simply went with the petition. She said as long as 10 years and then simply said that she only wanted me to tell her if I found someone in America before she got here and that he completely understood if I did. She has passed every litmus test I have in regards to her trying to use someone or try and get money from Americans. I've seen her home, nieces and sister, facebook (and actually googled to find her friendstir account that she didn't even realize she still had. I simply used her screen name in google and found it. The cool thing is that it was from 2008 and was accurate in all details , except she was younger in the pictures. It even said "seeing someone" which showed me that she didn't have the account back then to get with someone. She admitted that she had it as that to keep people from bugger her where she lives.. Anyway, I can tell she truly has fallen for me, and I have strong feelings about her. I still always keep my wits about me, but want to at least have her visit and spend time with me. BTW, she knows I have no money, in school, and have kids. She actually has a better place to live than I do and better job (although she prob doens't get as much as I will when I graduate)... She also has been very up front about her parents bugging her to get married and trying to set her up. This is a cultural thing as she is 30 in the Philippians. I don't really believe sharing that info would benifit a scam artist. I think it was honest and she was trying to tell me she didn't want to settle for the guys that only wanted one thing, or guys her parents tried to set her up with. Funny, her telling me the pressure she has had from her family to get married, and her reluctance to just settling, helped her case with me, rather than hurting it. Question: What are some fast and easy ways to have her visit so we can learn more about each other and find out if we are truly right for each other? Please be specific and detailed. There are probably a lot of different types of ways she can travel and stay for a period. I don't want to rush into the longer term committed ways yet. I don't want to get engaged, married, etc. Just want her to be able to come over soon and stay for a bit. Thank you
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tourist visa is probably the best option
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Tourist visa,but be very very careful i warn you phillipina woman have a history of lying and being so nice in order to get a green card then they drop you like a boom!True story from my boss who married phillipino woman brought her here in America then she cheated him with a phillipino man.Be Cautious..
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It can be extremely difficult for a woman from the Philippines to get a tourist visa to the states. 1) She has to meet the requirements for the visa all on her own. Meaning she has to show strong enough ties to her country that US immigrations would not see her as a risk of over staying her visa. This is normally very difficult to prove to begin with...but since she has parents who already live in Alaska and a petition pending...I seriously doubt she would be issued a tourist visa. 2) The other poster is right. Women from the Philippines are notorious for scamming American men just to get a green card. I am in no way saying this is what she is doing. I am saying because of the history it reflects badly for her just by association. I suggest you visiting her. If the 2 of you hit it off, then you can realistically consider taking it to the next level. Donna
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I'm smelling a rat ! Can you prove her parents are legally in Alaska ? I think you're being taken for a sweet, winding and long ride. The truth is that Filipino woman wants to come and live in the United States. She can come and visit you on a tourist/visitor visa. The question is: Will she go back to the Philippines ? Just to add, I have an American friend who retired and went to live in the Philippines. My friend is almost 70 years old. The old man is really enjoying himself there. He has a harem with three young Filipino women. Viagra is a wonder drug !
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she canapply for a tourist visa ..she wont get it ... because of all the visa fraud there
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If you're that convinced this is true love, go visit her in the PI.
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It is probably easiest for you to get a tourist visa to go visit her.
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If her parents are in Alaska and have a petition for her then she just waits until thats approved and can come over. I dont think she can get a tourist visa if there is already another applicaiton in process from her parents
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I almost always ignore messages or contact from people outside of the U.S when going to online dating, chat, etc. rooms. I did however start to talk to one lady from the Philippines a while back and we have become very close. She and I talk every day, care about each others lives and want to meet and learn more about each other. I started the entire conversation by warning her that I would never give her money, nor marry her to help her get to America. She was honest and up front that she did want to come to America, but that her parents in Alaska had a petition pending already, and that she would never use someone to get here. When I try and talk about ways we could get her here, she is more interested in talking with me than discussing those ways. She gets sad and it is obvious she feels she will only be able to care for me online and tries to divert the questions I have about working to actually get her here, rather than just dream about it. It was like pulling teeth to get her to finally tell me how long she thought it would take if she simply went with the petition. She said as long as 10 years and then simply said that she only wanted me to tell her if I found someone in America before she got here and that he completely understood if I did. She has passed every litmus test I have in regards to her trying to use someone or try and get money from Americans. I've seen her home, nieces and sister, facebook (and actually googled to find her friendstir account that she didn't even realize she still had. I simply used her screen name in google and found it. The cool thing is that it was from 2008 and was accurate in all details , except she was younger in the pictures. It even said "seeing someone" which showed me that she didn't have the account back then to get with someone. She admitted that she had it as that to keep people from bugger her where she lives.. Anyway, I can tell she truly has fallen for me, and I have strong feelings about her. I still always keep my wits about me, but want to at least have her visit and spend time with me. BTW, she knows I have no money, in school, and have kids. She actually has a better place to live than I do and better job (although she prob doens't get as much as I will when I graduate)... She also has been very up front about her parents bugging her to get married and trying to set her up. This is a cultural thing as she is 30 in the Philippians. I don't really believe sharing that info would benifit a scam artist. I think it was honest and she was trying to tell me she didn't want to settle for the guys that only wanted one thing, or guys her parents tried to set her up with. Funny, her telling me the pressure she has had from her family to get married, and her reluctance to just settling, helped her case with me, rather than hurting it. Question: What are some fast and easy ways to have her visit so we can learn more about each other and find out if we are truly right for each other? Please be specific and detailed. There are probably a lot of different types of ways she can travel and stay for a period. I don't want to rush into the longer term committed ways yet. I don't want to get engaged, married, etc. Just want her to be able to come over soon and stay for a bit. Thank you
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tourist visa is probably the best option
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Tourist visa,but be very very careful i warn you phillipina woman have a history of lying and being so nice in order to get a green card then they drop you like a boom!True story from my boss who married phillipino woman brought her here in America then she cheated him with a phillipino man.Be Cautious..
3 :
It can be extremely difficult for a woman from the Philippines to get a tourist visa to the states. 1) She has to meet the requirements for the visa all on her own. Meaning she has to show strong enough ties to her country that US immigrations would not see her as a risk of over staying her visa. This is normally very difficult to prove to begin with...but since she has parents who already live in Alaska and a petition pending...I seriously doubt she would be issued a tourist visa. 2) The other poster is right. Women from the Philippines are notorious for scamming American men just to get a green card. I am in no way saying this is what she is doing. I am saying because of the history it reflects badly for her just by association. I suggest you visiting her. If the 2 of you hit it off, then you can realistically consider taking it to the next level. Donna
4 :
I'm smelling a rat ! Can you prove her parents are legally in Alaska ? I think you're being taken for a sweet, winding and long ride. The truth is that Filipino woman wants to come and live in the United States. She can come and visit you on a tourist/visitor visa. The question is: Will she go back to the Philippines ? Just to add, I have an American friend who retired and went to live in the Philippines. My friend is almost 70 years old. The old man is really enjoying himself there. He has a harem with three young Filipino women. Viagra is a wonder drug !
5 :
she canapply for a tourist visa ..she wont get it ... because of all the visa fraud there
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If you're that convinced this is true love, go visit her in the PI.
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It is probably easiest for you to get a tourist visa to go visit her.
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If her parents are in Alaska and have a petition for her then she just waits until thats approved and can come over. I dont think she can get a tourist visa if there is already another applicaiton in process from her parents
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Monday, October 1, 2012
Are white liberal males sexists, sadists or both in their hopes and aspirations toward Sarah Palin's demise?
Are white liberal males sexists, sadists or both in their hopes and aspirations toward Sarah Palin's demise?
A New Hampshire state legislator resigned his office Thursday after becoming the second Democrat in as many days to speculate about Sarah Palin's death on Facebook. State Rep. Timothy Horrigan made the remarks Wednesday night in a thread discussing the Alaska plane crash that killed former Sen. Ted Stevens. "Well a dead Palin wd be even more dangerous than a live one...she is all about her myth & if she was dead she cldn't commit any more gaffes," Horrigan wrote. http://politicalticker.blogs.cnn.com/2010/08/12/legislator-resigns-after-dead-palin-comment/
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What he said is true, but in poor taste.
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they are blacks who hate whites just like 0bama and Waters
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Libbies are scared to death of Palin because she's loved and admired by so many "real" Americans. They want to kill her but in her place will rise hundreds more.
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While I extremely dislike Palin that goes a little far and it's in poor taste.
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They are fools. Palin is just a distraction ploy to get libs to ignore real issues..
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Har! Sarah Palin has proven quite capable of bringing about her own demise without the help of any particular ethnic group. And, really, who is Sarah Palin without the support of rich white male conservatives? She hasn't achieved anything noteworthy. Women don't like her. Alaskans don't care for her. And the Johnstons absolutely despise her.
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The entire democratic party will be dead in 2011 left without a job or direction/ good riddance to the Whigs democratic party.. you think they would have learned the first time..
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That goes a bit far, yes. I'm sure no conservative has ever made similar comments in regards to Hillary Clinton or Nancy Pelosi. I'm glad to see that Tenth Amendment saw fit to place quotation marks on the word "real". Furthermore, I'm amused at how he (she?) then goes on to make Palin sound like the enchanted broom in Fantasia.
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white liberal males are basically feminist welfare pimps. selling out for the feminist vote. not much different from feminist males. they remind me of quisling jews that helped nazi's or blacks who joined the colored man's auxilliary to the kkk. black democrat males are worse, because there are far more black women voters than black male voters. Liberal males and feminists hate and attack Palin because she is not a feminist, despite being a female. They do this appeal to the feminist welfare special interest crowd. This is like a black condemning an upity black to appeal to racists whites; or a jew condemning jewish bankers to appeal to NAZIs.
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A New Hampshire state legislator resigned his office Thursday after becoming the second Democrat in as many days to speculate about Sarah Palin's death on Facebook. State Rep. Timothy Horrigan made the remarks Wednesday night in a thread discussing the Alaska plane crash that killed former Sen. Ted Stevens. "Well a dead Palin wd be even more dangerous than a live one...she is all about her myth & if she was dead she cldn't commit any more gaffes," Horrigan wrote. http://politicalticker.blogs.cnn.com/2010/08/12/legislator-resigns-after-dead-palin-comment/
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What he said is true, but in poor taste.
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they are blacks who hate whites just like 0bama and Waters
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Libbies are scared to death of Palin because she's loved and admired by so many "real" Americans. They want to kill her but in her place will rise hundreds more.
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While I extremely dislike Palin that goes a little far and it's in poor taste.
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They are fools. Palin is just a distraction ploy to get libs to ignore real issues..
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Har! Sarah Palin has proven quite capable of bringing about her own demise without the help of any particular ethnic group. And, really, who is Sarah Palin without the support of rich white male conservatives? She hasn't achieved anything noteworthy. Women don't like her. Alaskans don't care for her. And the Johnstons absolutely despise her.
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The entire democratic party will be dead in 2011 left without a job or direction/ good riddance to the Whigs democratic party.. you think they would have learned the first time..
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That goes a bit far, yes. I'm sure no conservative has ever made similar comments in regards to Hillary Clinton or Nancy Pelosi. I'm glad to see that Tenth Amendment saw fit to place quotation marks on the word "real". Furthermore, I'm amused at how he (she?) then goes on to make Palin sound like the enchanted broom in Fantasia.
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white liberal males are basically feminist welfare pimps. selling out for the feminist vote. not much different from feminist males. they remind me of quisling jews that helped nazi's or blacks who joined the colored man's auxilliary to the kkk. black democrat males are worse, because there are far more black women voters than black male voters. Liberal males and feminists hate and attack Palin because she is not a feminist, despite being a female. They do this appeal to the feminist welfare special interest crowd. This is like a black condemning an upity black to appeal to racists whites; or a jew condemning jewish bankers to appeal to NAZIs.
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Friday, September 28, 2012
Is Sarah Palin confused about End-of-Life Counseling?
Is Sarah Palin confused about End-of-Life Counseling?
Now that End-of-Life Counseling is back in the headlines, can we go back to pointing out how Sarah Palin has handled this subject thus far... during the Presidential Election, Sarah Palin went on Facebook and wrote a long rant about how a healthcare that includes funding for End-of-Life Counseling for the elderly... Less than one year before this Facebook rant by Palin, Alaska Governor Sarah Palin went on statewide television and radio to promote Alaskan Healthcare Decisions Day, a day set aside to remind elderly Alaskan to seek doctors to discuss end-of-life counseling!! did she not remember this?? or did it just fit her new agenda? http://punchumgum.wordpress.com/2009/08/14/sarah-palin-created-alaskas-own-death-panel-in-2008/ The current End-of-Life Counseling proposal simply allows elderly people to have the OPTION to meet with a DOCTOR, for FREE, to discuss what end-of-life PREFERENCES that person has (i.e., do they want the plug pulled, etc.).. and this policy was already funded and implemented by Bush at one time, without any objections from Republicans at the time.. are ALL Republicans as confused about "Death Panels" as Sarah Palin is?
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yes Sarah is confused generally speaking about everything
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Now that End-of-Life Counseling is back in the headlines, can we go back to pointing out how Sarah Palin has handled this subject thus far... during the Presidential Election, Sarah Palin went on Facebook and wrote a long rant about how a healthcare that includes funding for End-of-Life Counseling for the elderly... Less than one year before this Facebook rant by Palin, Alaska Governor Sarah Palin went on statewide television and radio to promote Alaskan Healthcare Decisions Day, a day set aside to remind elderly Alaskan to seek doctors to discuss end-of-life counseling!! did she not remember this?? or did it just fit her new agenda? http://punchumgum.wordpress.com/2009/08/14/sarah-palin-created-alaskas-own-death-panel-in-2008/ The current End-of-Life Counseling proposal simply allows elderly people to have the OPTION to meet with a DOCTOR, for FREE, to discuss what end-of-life PREFERENCES that person has (i.e., do they want the plug pulled, etc.).. and this policy was already funded and implemented by Bush at one time, without any objections from Republicans at the time.. are ALL Republicans as confused about "Death Panels" as Sarah Palin is?
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yes Sarah is confused generally speaking about everything
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Friday, September 14, 2012
Why is Sarah Palin so confused about "Death Panels"?
Why is Sarah Palin so confused about "Death Panels"?
Now that End-of-Life Counseling is back in the headlines, can we go back to pointing out how Sarah Palin has handled this subject thus far... during the Presidential Election, Sarah Palin went on Facebook and wrote a long rant about how a healthcare that includes funding for End-of-Life Counseling for the elderly... Less than one year before this Facebook rant by Palin, Alaska Governor Sarah Palin went on statewide television and radio to promote Alaskan Healthcare Decisions Day, a day set aside to remind elderly Alaskan to seek doctors to discuss end-of-life counseling!! did she not remember this?? or did it just fit her new agenda? http://punchumgum.wordpress.com/2009/08/14/sarah-palin-created-alaskas-own-death-panel-in-2008/ The current End-of-Life Counseling proposal simply allows elderly people to have the OPTION to meet with a DOCTOR, for FREE, to discuss what end-of-life PREFERENCES that person has (i.e., do they want the plug pulled, etc.).. and this policy was already funded and implemented by Bush at one time, without any objections from Republicans at the time.. are ALL Republicans as confused about "Death Panels" as Sarah Palin is?
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I think you are confused.
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Now that End-of-Life Counseling is back in the headlines, can we go back to pointing out how Sarah Palin has handled this subject thus far... during the Presidential Election, Sarah Palin went on Facebook and wrote a long rant about how a healthcare that includes funding for End-of-Life Counseling for the elderly... Less than one year before this Facebook rant by Palin, Alaska Governor Sarah Palin went on statewide television and radio to promote Alaskan Healthcare Decisions Day, a day set aside to remind elderly Alaskan to seek doctors to discuss end-of-life counseling!! did she not remember this?? or did it just fit her new agenda? http://punchumgum.wordpress.com/2009/08/14/sarah-palin-created-alaskas-own-death-panel-in-2008/ The current End-of-Life Counseling proposal simply allows elderly people to have the OPTION to meet with a DOCTOR, for FREE, to discuss what end-of-life PREFERENCES that person has (i.e., do they want the plug pulled, etc.).. and this policy was already funded and implemented by Bush at one time, without any objections from Republicans at the time.. are ALL Republicans as confused about "Death Panels" as Sarah Palin is?
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I think you are confused.
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Friday, September 7, 2012
Are all Republicans as confused about "Death Panels" as Sarah Palin is?
Are all Republicans as confused about "Death Panels" as Sarah Palin is?
Now that End-of-Life Counseling is back in the headlines, can we go back to pointing out how Sarah Palin has handled this subject thus far... during the Presidential Election, Sarah Palin went on Facebook and wrote a long rant about how a healthcare that includes funding for End-of-Life Counseling for the elderly... Less than one year before this Facebook rant by Palin, Alaska Governor Sarah Palin went on statewide television and radio to promote Alaskan Healthcare Decisions Day, a day set aside to remind elderly Alaskan to seek doctors to discuss end-of-life counseling!! did she not remember this?? or did it just fit her new agenda? http://punchumgum.wordpress.com/2009/08/14/sarah-palin-created-alaskas-own-death-panel-in-2008/ The current End-of-Life Counseling proposal simply allows elderly people to have the OPTION to meet with a DOCTOR, for FREE, to discuss what end-of-life PREFERENCES that person has (i.e., do they want the plug pulled, etc.).. and this policy was already funded and implemented by Bush at one time, without any objections from Republicans at the time..
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This new medicare regulation requires and pays doctors for yearly end of life counseling. So why did obama have to sneak it in with Medicare regulations, at the end of democrat domination in congress, right before the democrats loose the House? Why do we have to pay doctors for end of life counseling when they already do it anyway? If this policy was already implemented by Bush, why is it being implemented again? This time Republicans are objecting. This is just another typical obama deception. The Return of Death Panels http://news.yahoo.com/s/theweek/20101227/cm_theweek/210635_20101227120000 Palin Doubles Down on Death Panel Statement http://news.yahoo.com/s/politico/20090813/pl_politico/26078 111 Business Exempted From Obamacare http://www.examiner.com/finance-examiner-in-national/obamacare-waivers-given-to-111-businesses-but-few-know-where-to-apply-for-it obama Surprised by Political Cost of obamacare http://www.foxnews.com/politics/2010/11/07/president-obama-surprised-political-cost-health-care-law/ Democrat Dingell Obamacare Will Contol The People http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZIQJ0Fqj7Us AT&T Gets BILLION Dollar Obamacare Exemption http://www.businessweek.com/news/2010-03-26/at-t-to-take-1-billion-charge-on-health-care-reform-update1-.html
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Now that End-of-Life Counseling is back in the headlines, can we go back to pointing out how Sarah Palin has handled this subject thus far... during the Presidential Election, Sarah Palin went on Facebook and wrote a long rant about how a healthcare that includes funding for End-of-Life Counseling for the elderly... Less than one year before this Facebook rant by Palin, Alaska Governor Sarah Palin went on statewide television and radio to promote Alaskan Healthcare Decisions Day, a day set aside to remind elderly Alaskan to seek doctors to discuss end-of-life counseling!! did she not remember this?? or did it just fit her new agenda? http://punchumgum.wordpress.com/2009/08/14/sarah-palin-created-alaskas-own-death-panel-in-2008/ The current End-of-Life Counseling proposal simply allows elderly people to have the OPTION to meet with a DOCTOR, for FREE, to discuss what end-of-life PREFERENCES that person has (i.e., do they want the plug pulled, etc.).. and this policy was already funded and implemented by Bush at one time, without any objections from Republicans at the time..
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This new medicare regulation requires and pays doctors for yearly end of life counseling. So why did obama have to sneak it in with Medicare regulations, at the end of democrat domination in congress, right before the democrats loose the House? Why do we have to pay doctors for end of life counseling when they already do it anyway? If this policy was already implemented by Bush, why is it being implemented again? This time Republicans are objecting. This is just another typical obama deception. The Return of Death Panels http://news.yahoo.com/s/theweek/20101227/cm_theweek/210635_20101227120000 Palin Doubles Down on Death Panel Statement http://news.yahoo.com/s/politico/20090813/pl_politico/26078 111 Business Exempted From Obamacare http://www.examiner.com/finance-examiner-in-national/obamacare-waivers-given-to-111-businesses-but-few-know-where-to-apply-for-it obama Surprised by Political Cost of obamacare http://www.foxnews.com/politics/2010/11/07/president-obama-surprised-political-cost-health-care-law/ Democrat Dingell Obamacare Will Contol The People http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZIQJ0Fqj7Us AT&T Gets BILLION Dollar Obamacare Exemption http://www.businessweek.com/news/2010-03-26/at-t-to-take-1-billion-charge-on-health-care-reform-update1-.html
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Saturday, September 1, 2012
Do you believe that End-of-Life Counseling is the same as "Death Panels"?
Do you believe that End-of-Life Counseling is the same as "Death Panels"?
Now that End-of-Life Counseling is back in the headlines, can we go back to pointing out how Sarah Palin has handled this subject thus far... during the Presidential Election, Sarah Palin went on Facebook and wrote a long rant about how a healthcare that includes funding for End-of-Life Counseling for the elderly... Less than one year before this Facebook rant by Palin, Alaska Governor Sarah Palin went on statewide television and radio to promote Alaskan Healthcare Decisions Day, a day set aside to remind elderly Alaskan to seek doctors to discuss end-of-life counseling!! did she not remember this?? or did it just fit her new agenda? http://punchumgum.wordpress.com/2009/08/14/sarah-palin-created-alaskas-own-death-panel-in-2008/ The current End-of-Life Counseling proposal simply allows elderly people to have the OPTION to meet with a DOCTOR, for FREE, to discuss what end-of-life PREFERENCES that person has (i.e., do they want the plug pulled, etc.).. and this policy was already funded and implemented by Bush at one time, without any objections from Republicans at the time.. are ALL Republicans as confused about "Death Panels" as Sarah Palin is?
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Sad. Isn't it?
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Now that End-of-Life Counseling is back in the headlines, can we go back to pointing out how Sarah Palin has handled this subject thus far... during the Presidential Election, Sarah Palin went on Facebook and wrote a long rant about how a healthcare that includes funding for End-of-Life Counseling for the elderly... Less than one year before this Facebook rant by Palin, Alaska Governor Sarah Palin went on statewide television and radio to promote Alaskan Healthcare Decisions Day, a day set aside to remind elderly Alaskan to seek doctors to discuss end-of-life counseling!! did she not remember this?? or did it just fit her new agenda? http://punchumgum.wordpress.com/2009/08/14/sarah-palin-created-alaskas-own-death-panel-in-2008/ The current End-of-Life Counseling proposal simply allows elderly people to have the OPTION to meet with a DOCTOR, for FREE, to discuss what end-of-life PREFERENCES that person has (i.e., do they want the plug pulled, etc.).. and this policy was already funded and implemented by Bush at one time, without any objections from Republicans at the time.. are ALL Republicans as confused about "Death Panels" as Sarah Palin is?
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Sad. Isn't it?
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Tuesday, August 28, 2012
1998 NCAA Championship celebration in the streets of Lexington, Kentucky?
1998 NCAA Championship celebration in the streets of Lexington, Kentucky?
Can anyone find that great picture (it was even sold as a poster, I believe) of that huge celebration at the intersection of Woodland and Euclid in front of Lynagh's after the Kentucky Wildcats won the 1998 NCAA men's basketball championship? We're discussing it on Facebook and can't believe how hard it is to find since you can find just about anything on the internet. Thanks!!!
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try youtube
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Can anyone find that great picture (it was even sold as a poster, I believe) of that huge celebration at the intersection of Woodland and Euclid in front of Lynagh's after the Kentucky Wildcats won the 1998 NCAA men's basketball championship? We're discussing it on Facebook and can't believe how hard it is to find since you can find just about anything on the internet. Thanks!!!
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try youtube
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Tuesday, August 14, 2012
I dnt know what to think ?
I dnt know what to think ?
when I first discuss talking about coming down akron with my boyfriend he told me he would take care of me, he had confirmed it to his mother. now I wished I neva came down. I mean he did what he said he took care of me. but I was suffering from what my granfather did to me while growing up which is verbal mental emotional abuse, from what happen with me and my mom cuz she kicked me out ova a dude who she was married to because I told her, trusted her to believe me when I told her her dude wasattracteded to me but still til this day shes in deniaI and everyone lies like I wanted her husband WHAT? I AM YOUR DAUGHTER! SHE TOLD ME IF ANYONE SAYS ANYTHING TO ME THAT I KNOW DIDNT SEEM RIGHT OR TOUCH ME IN ANY WAY TO TELL HER. and I did. I was in love with my mother she was my best friend I put my trust in her. so now im dealing with them trust issues. im taking it hard right now. And my boyfriend grew up hard he grew up with sister and brothers. he took blame for there mess ups, lieing and getting away with stuff he neva did and doing stuff for his mother who neva showed him no type of apreciation nor love so now I find out thats why he has a disrespecting problem. every time I dnt put my trust in him he yells and say stuff he dnt mean but the way he says it seems like he does ......... i mean no trust and disrespect doesnt go together. how am I gone trust you and you disrespect me? like today I said I know your family hurt you in so many ways but why do you be so happy when you are around them he told me because he know how to let go of things .... but if he know how to let go of things ppl do to him like his family than why cant he let go of me not trusting him?, I mean we suppose to be a couple and couples work things out through the good and the bad. The only thing I came up with was that he said HES NOT GOING TO BE WITH HIS FAMILY THE REST OF HIS LIFE THAT IM GOING TO BE ..... I took the chance on going to toledo so he can work on his ways and i can work on mine but hes mad cuz he feels to work it together while living under his mothers roof. he keeps telling me soon we'll be out of here cause hes on his way making it big music wise. even im uncomfortable with that cuz he told me that sex sells but he know where to draw the line... I saw his facebook and my pics are not showing anymore instead he has woman around him with there asses nearly hangout of their shorts but I understand that it was a show out in massilon or whateva but I dnt know what to do other than go to toledo anyway and try to let go of my past hurts
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have some fun with me!!!
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Girl the only way to really stop hurting is to move on from this man. Im sorry to say but you are going to continue to hurt and suffer until you decide to let go and move on with your life with out him. You are very hard headed I see, you just can't seem to let go and your going to get yourself in trouble one of these days, you will get into something so deep you will wish you could get out and you wont you will just suffer, so take my advice and go. I cant stress hard enough about how badly this will end up for you because you can't seem to understand what "leave him" means, I seen these cases end so badly and some in fatalities, do you want that for yourself? I know that you want to do something with your life, have your OWN but you will never have that in the direction your are going. Yesterday you said he's your ex and today he's your boyfriend again. rather or not you two are sexually active together doesn't mean a thing, you are still with him and its not going to get better. I understand his background but still that does not excuse him from the rest of us, he still doesn't have the right to be disrespectful and treat you wrongfully. I know plenty of people that have suffered in their up bringing worse than you two both put together and they aren't like you both are. I cant keep advising you if you wont listen, i tell my friends around here that I know the same thing, so I don't know what else to tell you. If you leave this guy alone you wont be feeling the way you are, you wont be going through this plain and simple, so is up to you now, stay and suffer, or leave and move on with a happy life.
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when I first discuss talking about coming down akron with my boyfriend he told me he would take care of me, he had confirmed it to his mother. now I wished I neva came down. I mean he did what he said he took care of me. but I was suffering from what my granfather did to me while growing up which is verbal mental emotional abuse, from what happen with me and my mom cuz she kicked me out ova a dude who she was married to because I told her, trusted her to believe me when I told her her dude wasattracteded to me but still til this day shes in deniaI and everyone lies like I wanted her husband WHAT? I AM YOUR DAUGHTER! SHE TOLD ME IF ANYONE SAYS ANYTHING TO ME THAT I KNOW DIDNT SEEM RIGHT OR TOUCH ME IN ANY WAY TO TELL HER. and I did. I was in love with my mother she was my best friend I put my trust in her. so now im dealing with them trust issues. im taking it hard right now. And my boyfriend grew up hard he grew up with sister and brothers. he took blame for there mess ups, lieing and getting away with stuff he neva did and doing stuff for his mother who neva showed him no type of apreciation nor love so now I find out thats why he has a disrespecting problem. every time I dnt put my trust in him he yells and say stuff he dnt mean but the way he says it seems like he does ......... i mean no trust and disrespect doesnt go together. how am I gone trust you and you disrespect me? like today I said I know your family hurt you in so many ways but why do you be so happy when you are around them he told me because he know how to let go of things .... but if he know how to let go of things ppl do to him like his family than why cant he let go of me not trusting him?, I mean we suppose to be a couple and couples work things out through the good and the bad. The only thing I came up with was that he said HES NOT GOING TO BE WITH HIS FAMILY THE REST OF HIS LIFE THAT IM GOING TO BE ..... I took the chance on going to toledo so he can work on his ways and i can work on mine but hes mad cuz he feels to work it together while living under his mothers roof. he keeps telling me soon we'll be out of here cause hes on his way making it big music wise. even im uncomfortable with that cuz he told me that sex sells but he know where to draw the line... I saw his facebook and my pics are not showing anymore instead he has woman around him with there asses nearly hangout of their shorts but I understand that it was a show out in massilon or whateva but I dnt know what to do other than go to toledo anyway and try to let go of my past hurts
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have some fun with me!!!
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Girl the only way to really stop hurting is to move on from this man. Im sorry to say but you are going to continue to hurt and suffer until you decide to let go and move on with your life with out him. You are very hard headed I see, you just can't seem to let go and your going to get yourself in trouble one of these days, you will get into something so deep you will wish you could get out and you wont you will just suffer, so take my advice and go. I cant stress hard enough about how badly this will end up for you because you can't seem to understand what "leave him" means, I seen these cases end so badly and some in fatalities, do you want that for yourself? I know that you want to do something with your life, have your OWN but you will never have that in the direction your are going. Yesterday you said he's your ex and today he's your boyfriend again. rather or not you two are sexually active together doesn't mean a thing, you are still with him and its not going to get better. I understand his background but still that does not excuse him from the rest of us, he still doesn't have the right to be disrespectful and treat you wrongfully. I know plenty of people that have suffered in their up bringing worse than you two both put together and they aren't like you both are. I cant keep advising you if you wont listen, i tell my friends around here that I know the same thing, so I don't know what else to tell you. If you leave this guy alone you wont be feeling the way you are, you wont be going through this plain and simple, so is up to you now, stay and suffer, or leave and move on with a happy life.
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Tuesday, August 7, 2012
How to let a guy down easy...?
How to let a guy down easy...?
Kind of annoying when u have this guy friend that kinda went somewhere but now u don't like him and he's bugging u about going out again. Ok I probably need to start in the beginning. I warn u, it's a LONG story. So I met Steve (nickname) at a spring break mission trip with my church. He was going with us. Anyways my friend (T) and I started calling this guy, Steve, because we could never remember his name. So we are having a great time getting to know each other when this other guy, N, who we didn't who he was at the time, and T started getting more that friendly with each other. So Steve became the third wheel because I started hanging out with this other chick who they didn't like but I don't like her anymore because she is really annoying. So I didn't really get to hang with them and the "lovebirds", as all the people on the trip dubbed them, N and T, really acted loveydovey and Steve was a huge third wheel. Well near the end of the trip I started hanging more out with them and since N and T were occupied, Steve and I had to hang out. It was kinda uncomfortable b/c at the time I was still going out with my ex (long story another blog for another day =]) and I didn't want to cheat on him but I didn't really like my ex anymore. So on the last night (by and by we were in New Orleans) the whole group decides we need to go the Hard Rock Cafe because it will be an adventure so we parked the cars and started walking down the French District. So since N and T were occupied again I hung out with Steve which is when we figured out we had a similar taste in music. So we were discussing those music and my ex texts me so of course the wonderful girlfriend, I text him back. I do this the entire dinner until near the end when I go to get a souvenir where Steve helps me choose it. I give him a hug and he thinks I likelike him. Anyways N&T went upstairs and sneaked around a lot and Steve makes a joke and they get pissed but are over it. Anyways that was that trip. This year I start liking Steve a bit because well idk. We went to youth group and one night he tells me he got dumped because his friend and gf were messing around. So there is the possibility of us going out now. So at the church garage sale I get prettied up for him but he left before I could see him. That would be the last time I see him for awhile and I wondered where he disappeared to. We went to different schools so I wouldn't find out where he went until I find out not from him but from T. She tells me his family problems just grow and he moves to Louisiana to his grandparents. I feel really hurt but mostly angry at his parents. I couldn't believe that he left without telling me. So we text and he apologizes and I accept it. I was still hurt though. Anyways we decide we should go out for awhile but over a long-distance. I tried it and it sucked!! I looked at other relationships and see couples hugging small talking just being together and I can't take it. I needed an arm around me to comfort me. I needed someone there where I can just be with and feel safe so I break up with him. It was a clean cut and I promised it would be a fresh start. So anyways he starts saying he's coming back to austin and he comes and sees my musical and that night i had a cast party so I couldn't hang out with him. Now he keeps asking to see if we can date but I don't want to. He has changed and I don't like the way he is now. Plus I try to avoid him on like Facebook so I don't think that is normal. I really want to let him down easy.
Singles & Dating - 2 Answers
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just use the lies you women always do,just don't run back to him when you find out the grass isn't greener on the other side.
2 :
You were right a long story, and my head hurts from hitting the desk three times. My coffee just didn't help. Yawn! A small lesson with guys. Ignore and distance yourself from those that just don't fit in to you. Be polite and direct and tell him how you two just don't click. Be as honest as you can for this task. Lying is poor choice. Let him know that you were wrong on leading him on if he feels that way. Otherwise you feel he is a nice guy, but not for a boy friend at this time. That way he will walk away thinking he was close but no cigar. Be nice to him in this conversation and don't get into an argument. Just be polite and calm. Nice way to assess him in his being turned down phase and how he handles it. Maybe you were right or maybe wrong. Who knows if he might grow in maturity and shape up or puts that L on his forehead and takes it like a jerk.......
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Kind of annoying when u have this guy friend that kinda went somewhere but now u don't like him and he's bugging u about going out again. Ok I probably need to start in the beginning. I warn u, it's a LONG story. So I met Steve (nickname) at a spring break mission trip with my church. He was going with us. Anyways my friend (T) and I started calling this guy, Steve, because we could never remember his name. So we are having a great time getting to know each other when this other guy, N, who we didn't who he was at the time, and T started getting more that friendly with each other. So Steve became the third wheel because I started hanging out with this other chick who they didn't like but I don't like her anymore because she is really annoying. So I didn't really get to hang with them and the "lovebirds", as all the people on the trip dubbed them, N and T, really acted loveydovey and Steve was a huge third wheel. Well near the end of the trip I started hanging more out with them and since N and T were occupied, Steve and I had to hang out. It was kinda uncomfortable b/c at the time I was still going out with my ex (long story another blog for another day =]) and I didn't want to cheat on him but I didn't really like my ex anymore. So on the last night (by and by we were in New Orleans) the whole group decides we need to go the Hard Rock Cafe because it will be an adventure so we parked the cars and started walking down the French District. So since N and T were occupied again I hung out with Steve which is when we figured out we had a similar taste in music. So we were discussing those music and my ex texts me so of course the wonderful girlfriend, I text him back. I do this the entire dinner until near the end when I go to get a souvenir where Steve helps me choose it. I give him a hug and he thinks I likelike him. Anyways N&T went upstairs and sneaked around a lot and Steve makes a joke and they get pissed but are over it. Anyways that was that trip. This year I start liking Steve a bit because well idk. We went to youth group and one night he tells me he got dumped because his friend and gf were messing around. So there is the possibility of us going out now. So at the church garage sale I get prettied up for him but he left before I could see him. That would be the last time I see him for awhile and I wondered where he disappeared to. We went to different schools so I wouldn't find out where he went until I find out not from him but from T. She tells me his family problems just grow and he moves to Louisiana to his grandparents. I feel really hurt but mostly angry at his parents. I couldn't believe that he left without telling me. So we text and he apologizes and I accept it. I was still hurt though. Anyways we decide we should go out for awhile but over a long-distance. I tried it and it sucked!! I looked at other relationships and see couples hugging small talking just being together and I can't take it. I needed an arm around me to comfort me. I needed someone there where I can just be with and feel safe so I break up with him. It was a clean cut and I promised it would be a fresh start. So anyways he starts saying he's coming back to austin and he comes and sees my musical and that night i had a cast party so I couldn't hang out with him. Now he keeps asking to see if we can date but I don't want to. He has changed and I don't like the way he is now. Plus I try to avoid him on like Facebook so I don't think that is normal. I really want to let him down easy.
Singles & Dating - 2 Answers
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just use the lies you women always do,just don't run back to him when you find out the grass isn't greener on the other side.
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You were right a long story, and my head hurts from hitting the desk three times. My coffee just didn't help. Yawn! A small lesson with guys. Ignore and distance yourself from those that just don't fit in to you. Be polite and direct and tell him how you two just don't click. Be as honest as you can for this task. Lying is poor choice. Let him know that you were wrong on leading him on if he feels that way. Otherwise you feel he is a nice guy, but not for a boy friend at this time. That way he will walk away thinking he was close but no cigar. Be nice to him in this conversation and don't get into an argument. Just be polite and calm. Nice way to assess him in his being turned down phase and how he handles it. Maybe you were right or maybe wrong. Who knows if he might grow in maturity and shape up or puts that L on his forehead and takes it like a jerk.......
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Wednesday, August 1, 2012
How to let a guy down easy...?
How to let a guy down easy...?
Kind of annoying when u have this guy friend that kinda went somewhere but now u don't like him and he's bugging u about going out again. Ok I probably need to start in the beginning. I warn u, it's a LONG story. So I met Steve (nickname) at a spring break mission trip with my church. He was going with us. Anyways my friend (T) and I started calling this guy, Steve, because we could never remember his name. So we are having a great time getting to know each other when this other guy, N, who we didn't who he was at the time, and T started getting more that friendly with each other. So Steve became the third wheel because I started hanging out with this other chick who they didn't like but I don't like her anymore because she is really annoying. So I didn't really get to hang with them and the "lovebirds", as all the people on the trip dubbed them, N and T, really acted loveydovey and Steve was a huge third wheel. Well near the end of the trip I started hanging more out with them and since N and T were occupied, Steve and I had to hang out. It was kinda uncomfortable b/c at the time I was still going out with my ex (long story another blog for another day =]) and I didn't want to cheat on him but I didn't really like my ex anymore. So on the last night (by and by we were in New Orleans) the whole group decides we need to go the Hard Rock Cafe because it will be an adventure so we parked the cars and started walking down the French District. So since N and T were occupied again I hung out with Steve which is when we figured out we had a similar taste in music. So we were discussing those music and my ex texts me so of course the wonderful girlfriend, I text him back. I do this the entire dinner until near the end when I go to get a souvenir where Steve helps me choose it. I give him a hug and he thinks I likelike him. Anyways N&T went upstairs and sneaked around a lot and Steve makes a joke and they get pissed but are over it. Anyways that was that trip. This year I start liking Steve a bit because well idk. We went to youth group and one night he tells me he got dumped because his friend and gf were messing around. So there is the possibility of us going out now. So at the church garage sale I get prettied up for him but he left before I could see him. That would be the last time I see him for awhile and I wondered where he disappeared to. We went to different schools so I wouldn't find out where he went until I find out not from him but from T. She tells me his family problems just grow and he moves to Louisiana to his grandparents. I feel really hurt but mostly angry at his parents. I couldn't believe that he left without telling me. So we text and he apologizes and I accept it. I was still hurt though. Anyways we decide we should go out for awhile but over a long-distance. I tried it and it sucked!! I looked at other relationships and see couples hugging small talking just being together and I can't take it. I needed an arm around me to comfort me. I needed someone there where I can just be with and feel safe so I break up with him. It was a clean cut and I promised it would be a fresh start. So anyways he starts saying he's coming back to austin and he comes and sees my musical and that night i had a cast party so I couldn't hang out with him. Now he keeps asking to see if we can date but I don't want to. He has changed and I don't like the way he is now. Plus I try to avoid him on like Facebook so I don't think that is normal. I really want to let him down easy.
Singles & Dating - 2 Answers
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just use the lies you women always do,just don't run back to him when you find out the grass isn't greener on the other side.
2 :
You were right a long story, and my head hurts from hitting the desk three times. My coffee just didn't help. Yawn! A small lesson with guys. Ignore and distance yourself from those that just don't fit in to you. Be polite and direct and tell him how you two just don't click. Be as honest as you can for this task. Lying is poor choice. Let him know that you were wrong on leading him on if he feels that way. Otherwise you feel he is a nice guy, but not for a boy friend at this time. That way he will walk away thinking he was close but no cigar. Be nice to him in this conversation and don't get into an argument. Just be polite and calm. Nice way to assess him in his being turned down phase and how he handles it. Maybe you were right or maybe wrong. Who knows if he might grow in maturity and shape up or puts that L on his forehead and takes it like a jerk.......
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Kind of annoying when u have this guy friend that kinda went somewhere but now u don't like him and he's bugging u about going out again. Ok I probably need to start in the beginning. I warn u, it's a LONG story. So I met Steve (nickname) at a spring break mission trip with my church. He was going with us. Anyways my friend (T) and I started calling this guy, Steve, because we could never remember his name. So we are having a great time getting to know each other when this other guy, N, who we didn't who he was at the time, and T started getting more that friendly with each other. So Steve became the third wheel because I started hanging out with this other chick who they didn't like but I don't like her anymore because she is really annoying. So I didn't really get to hang with them and the "lovebirds", as all the people on the trip dubbed them, N and T, really acted loveydovey and Steve was a huge third wheel. Well near the end of the trip I started hanging more out with them and since N and T were occupied, Steve and I had to hang out. It was kinda uncomfortable b/c at the time I was still going out with my ex (long story another blog for another day =]) and I didn't want to cheat on him but I didn't really like my ex anymore. So on the last night (by and by we were in New Orleans) the whole group decides we need to go the Hard Rock Cafe because it will be an adventure so we parked the cars and started walking down the French District. So since N and T were occupied again I hung out with Steve which is when we figured out we had a similar taste in music. So we were discussing those music and my ex texts me so of course the wonderful girlfriend, I text him back. I do this the entire dinner until near the end when I go to get a souvenir where Steve helps me choose it. I give him a hug and he thinks I likelike him. Anyways N&T went upstairs and sneaked around a lot and Steve makes a joke and they get pissed but are over it. Anyways that was that trip. This year I start liking Steve a bit because well idk. We went to youth group and one night he tells me he got dumped because his friend and gf were messing around. So there is the possibility of us going out now. So at the church garage sale I get prettied up for him but he left before I could see him. That would be the last time I see him for awhile and I wondered where he disappeared to. We went to different schools so I wouldn't find out where he went until I find out not from him but from T. She tells me his family problems just grow and he moves to Louisiana to his grandparents. I feel really hurt but mostly angry at his parents. I couldn't believe that he left without telling me. So we text and he apologizes and I accept it. I was still hurt though. Anyways we decide we should go out for awhile but over a long-distance. I tried it and it sucked!! I looked at other relationships and see couples hugging small talking just being together and I can't take it. I needed an arm around me to comfort me. I needed someone there where I can just be with and feel safe so I break up with him. It was a clean cut and I promised it would be a fresh start. So anyways he starts saying he's coming back to austin and he comes and sees my musical and that night i had a cast party so I couldn't hang out with him. Now he keeps asking to see if we can date but I don't want to. He has changed and I don't like the way he is now. Plus I try to avoid him on like Facebook so I don't think that is normal. I really want to let him down easy.
Singles & Dating - 2 Answers
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just use the lies you women always do,just don't run back to him when you find out the grass isn't greener on the other side.
2 :
You were right a long story, and my head hurts from hitting the desk three times. My coffee just didn't help. Yawn! A small lesson with guys. Ignore and distance yourself from those that just don't fit in to you. Be polite and direct and tell him how you two just don't click. Be as honest as you can for this task. Lying is poor choice. Let him know that you were wrong on leading him on if he feels that way. Otherwise you feel he is a nice guy, but not for a boy friend at this time. That way he will walk away thinking he was close but no cigar. Be nice to him in this conversation and don't get into an argument. Just be polite and calm. Nice way to assess him in his being turned down phase and how he handles it. Maybe you were right or maybe wrong. Who knows if he might grow in maturity and shape up or puts that L on his forehead and takes it like a jerk.......
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Saturday, July 28, 2012
Do you think I'll be okay visiting my friend I met through the internet?
Do you think I'll be okay visiting my friend I met through the internet?
Alright. So. Last year, I made a friend on facebook. We met through a fan page. He's my age & everything. I've become close friends with him & a lot of his other friends. They all go to the same school (I've seen pictures of them in school). They're all from California & I'm from Kansas. I'm closest to one of the people I met via this Californian friend & I plan on meeting him this summer. Yes, I've done a background check on him. I've video chatted & talked on the phone with him many, many times. I've even talked to his parents a couple of times too. I legitimately know that he is just a normal teenage boy, not some random pervert. I've known him for a year now & we're close friends. Coincidentally, I just so happen to be going to California this summer for vacation. And since that's where my friend lives, I figured I could go down & visit him while I'm there. I've discussed it with my mom & she is okay with this. She trusts my friend & she trusts me. My friend's parents are okay with it too. My mom is going to drop me off at his house & we're going to hang out all day & he's taking me to visit the rest of my CA friends. And our parents are meeting each other as well. :3 He's 16 & I'm 15. So do you guys think I'm taking the right precautions? Do you think I'll be alright? ALSO, I've known all of my CA friends for about a year now. Like I said, I've known him for a year, I checked his background when I first met him, I've seen tons of pictures of him, we've video chatted plenty of times, talk on the phone twice a week every week, & I know he's a high school student because he sends me pictures of his high school & pictures of our mutual friends in school all the time. He is legitimately a 16 year old boy. Plus, I'm not meeting him alone. I will be with my mom & her boyfriend. AND JUST TO CLARIFY; Neither of us have any sexual intentions. We're both kind of squeamish of anything sexual. :S
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No. He says he's 16, but how can you be 100% sure he's not really 60?
2 :
I think it will be alright :D A couple of years ago my best friend's sister had an online boyfriend, and they went on a family vacation and they met there in person. It was cute :D
3 :
Go! Give it a shot! As they say, carpe diem!
4 :
He`s going to fucking kill you
5 :
My mother would never let this happen. She'd be mad that I even talked to the person, if I was 16. Being 21, she would still be mad, I think. But if you've done a background check and all that business, I think maybe it'll be ok. You really can't trust anyone though, so just have a cell phone on you at all times and stay in places with a lot of people. Good luck!
6 :
I am pretty sure you are going to get murdered
7 :
Yeah, i think it should be fine :) But final judgent rests on you ;)
8 :
well...go with an adult & when you see him & know he is your age not some 30 year old pervert then the adult can ....leave you guys
9 :
THAT'S DUMB! DONT DO IT
10 :
i met a guy on the internet when i was 14. he was 16 and real chill and awesome. he sent me pictures. but then he started asking for naked pics of me. i didnt suspect anything until he sent me a picture of his penis. that was weird. he turned out to be a child predator. i never suspected a thing. and guess where i met him? neopets. what is the fan group? are most of the people in the group of teen age? if so that should set off alarms and how do you know his friends? you really don't know a person that you haven't met. that doesnt count. because people are different on the internet and you dont see things in their personality that you would in person. how do you know that they arent just other profiles made by this guy? predators do go to lengths like that. and how do you know that these aren't other predators pretending to be teens and helping eachother out by also pretending to be teen friends? there are predators that have guilds and things like that where they all connect and become friends and discuss ways of tricking teens into meeting them
11 :
it sounds that you did a thorough check! And you have known him for about a year. You wouldn't be the first one to do this!! Some people who did this it was a positive experience. And others , not so positive! You are taking a bit of a chance! I wouldn't go alone!!! make sure at least your Mom goes with you!!! It looks like everything is working out. See from my point of view, I don't have the full story so I would say be cautious. When you see him face to face , it could turn you off, cs internet is 1 dimensional and face to face is 3 dimensional. edit: after reading Kendra's story , I would use even more caution!!! I would also take into consideration what Kendra says. Like what would happen when you get to the house? And would there actually be a house when you get there? I would say that you have to be with a person for about a year to know what he is like. And you cant do that over the internet! There is too many risks!!! edit: anybody can send pictures of schools and so-called friends on the internet!!!!! just googgle pictures of schools and anybody can fake being squeamish!
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Alright. So. Last year, I made a friend on facebook. We met through a fan page. He's my age & everything. I've become close friends with him & a lot of his other friends. They all go to the same school (I've seen pictures of them in school). They're all from California & I'm from Kansas. I'm closest to one of the people I met via this Californian friend & I plan on meeting him this summer. Yes, I've done a background check on him. I've video chatted & talked on the phone with him many, many times. I've even talked to his parents a couple of times too. I legitimately know that he is just a normal teenage boy, not some random pervert. I've known him for a year now & we're close friends. Coincidentally, I just so happen to be going to California this summer for vacation. And since that's where my friend lives, I figured I could go down & visit him while I'm there. I've discussed it with my mom & she is okay with this. She trusts my friend & she trusts me. My friend's parents are okay with it too. My mom is going to drop me off at his house & we're going to hang out all day & he's taking me to visit the rest of my CA friends. And our parents are meeting each other as well. :3 He's 16 & I'm 15. So do you guys think I'm taking the right precautions? Do you think I'll be alright? ALSO, I've known all of my CA friends for about a year now. Like I said, I've known him for a year, I checked his background when I first met him, I've seen tons of pictures of him, we've video chatted plenty of times, talk on the phone twice a week every week, & I know he's a high school student because he sends me pictures of his high school & pictures of our mutual friends in school all the time. He is legitimately a 16 year old boy. Plus, I'm not meeting him alone. I will be with my mom & her boyfriend. AND JUST TO CLARIFY; Neither of us have any sexual intentions. We're both kind of squeamish of anything sexual. :S
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1 :
No. He says he's 16, but how can you be 100% sure he's not really 60?
2 :
I think it will be alright :D A couple of years ago my best friend's sister had an online boyfriend, and they went on a family vacation and they met there in person. It was cute :D
3 :
Go! Give it a shot! As they say, carpe diem!
4 :
He`s going to fucking kill you
5 :
My mother would never let this happen. She'd be mad that I even talked to the person, if I was 16. Being 21, she would still be mad, I think. But if you've done a background check and all that business, I think maybe it'll be ok. You really can't trust anyone though, so just have a cell phone on you at all times and stay in places with a lot of people. Good luck!
6 :
I am pretty sure you are going to get murdered
7 :
Yeah, i think it should be fine :) But final judgent rests on you ;)
8 :
well...go with an adult & when you see him & know he is your age not some 30 year old pervert then the adult can ....leave you guys
9 :
THAT'S DUMB! DONT DO IT
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i met a guy on the internet when i was 14. he was 16 and real chill and awesome. he sent me pictures. but then he started asking for naked pics of me. i didnt suspect anything until he sent me a picture of his penis. that was weird. he turned out to be a child predator. i never suspected a thing. and guess where i met him? neopets. what is the fan group? are most of the people in the group of teen age? if so that should set off alarms and how do you know his friends? you really don't know a person that you haven't met. that doesnt count. because people are different on the internet and you dont see things in their personality that you would in person. how do you know that they arent just other profiles made by this guy? predators do go to lengths like that. and how do you know that these aren't other predators pretending to be teens and helping eachother out by also pretending to be teen friends? there are predators that have guilds and things like that where they all connect and become friends and discuss ways of tricking teens into meeting them
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it sounds that you did a thorough check! And you have known him for about a year. You wouldn't be the first one to do this!! Some people who did this it was a positive experience. And others , not so positive! You are taking a bit of a chance! I wouldn't go alone!!! make sure at least your Mom goes with you!!! It looks like everything is working out. See from my point of view, I don't have the full story so I would say be cautious. When you see him face to face , it could turn you off, cs internet is 1 dimensional and face to face is 3 dimensional. edit: after reading Kendra's story , I would use even more caution!!! I would also take into consideration what Kendra says. Like what would happen when you get to the house? And would there actually be a house when you get there? I would say that you have to be with a person for about a year to know what he is like. And you cant do that over the internet! There is too many risks!!! edit: anybody can send pictures of schools and so-called friends on the internet!!!!! just googgle pictures of schools and anybody can fake being squeamish!
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