If you were in my shoes, would you pick your wife, your ex-girlfriend or your current girlfriend?
Unfortunately, I am in love with three women and I swear to you I'm not trolling. I am in love with my wife, my ex-girlfriend and my current girlfriend. I'm 58 years old and the women I love are more or less my age except for my current girlfriend. I feel terrible for doing this to them and they are all amazing women. For the record, no children are involved in this. My only son is 33 years old and I divorced his mother almost 22 years ago. So, I have to make a choice and I'd appreciate some advice and opinions. Here's my story: I met and fell in love with a woman named Kathleen after I divorced my first wife and after she divorced her husband. We dated for over three years(1990-1993). My father got very ill in 1993, so I had to spend four months in Ireland to help my mother take care of him. Kathleen and I had a big argument before I left for Ireland but we didn't exactly breakup. While I was in Ireland, I met Frances(another divorcee). Frances and I started dating and then falling in love. The closer I got to Frances, the farther apart I got from Kathleen. So I wrote a letter to Kathleen saying that I fell for someone else so we broke up and it broke her heart. Frances and I stayed in Ireland together until my father died, I brought her to New Jersey in 1995 and we got married in 1998. Frances and I had a great marriage until last year. Kathleen and I reunited via Facebook in February 2009 through a mutual friend. She had just left her no good ex-husband again(the same one she left when she first met me). Sparks started flying again, we met up in person and I proceeded to have an affair with Kathleen while married to Frances. I still love Kathleen but I had no plans on leaving Frances. Kathleen feels no remorse about dating me because she feels as though Frances "robbed" her of what she could have had with me. True. When I was in Ireland, Frances did tell me to make a choice between her and Kathleen and I chose Frances. So, I guess Kathleen is still bitter after all these years. After three months of reconnecting Kathleen, Frances found out about her. She was hurt and she told me to leave. So, I moved out in May 2009 but we still remained legally married. Although I continued to sleep with Kathleen, I didn't commit myself to her. In July 2009, I met Connie. She was beautiful, smart, kind and a single mother with two teenagers. Also, a little younger than me, Kathleen and Frances. Connie is 45 years old. Connie and I have been dating ever since and we moved in together a year ago. I'm really in love with this woman. Ever since Frances and I separated, we would occasionally sleep together and sometimes discuss reconciling. Just like I'm in a relationship with Connie, Frances has a boyfriend of her own. Now, Frances is sick of "playing games" with me, she told me if I want to give our marriage another chance she will dump her boyfriend Thaddeus and I'll dump Connie. If not, she's staying with Thaddeus, I'm staying with Connie and we're getting a divorce. It's a hard decision. I'm in love with Frances, our marriage was wonderful and it was that ONE mistake with Kathleen that ruined it all. I love Kathleen with all my heart and I always looked back and felt bad about the way I betrayed her. I destroyed her self-esteem and made her go back to her ex-husband because she felt she could do no better. So I do feel as though I owe her for that. I'm happy with Connie and I love her so much. I'm sure she knows that I still have feelings for my wife but she has NO idea about Kathleen. I'm too old to be doing this, I have GRANDCHILDREN! Whichever one I choose, the other two will be hurt. What would you do if you were me?
Marriage & Divorce - 9 Answers
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1 :
First, you could have summarized all this jargon into one small paragraph and second you know that when it comes down to men...sex is one of the most important things in a relationship therefore choose the women that satisfies you the best sexually in bed.
2 :
yeah, sure not trolling. You have posted this in the past pretending you are the wife, then as the husband. Go get a job or something to use your free time with.
3 :
If you knew Love, really knew Love there would be no conflict. When it's real, it's that clear.
4 :
stay with the one you're with with. be a man, stop playing games and "falling in love" and just keep one woman. if you don't quit with your games, you will die alone. You've hurt plenty of people on your quest for love, and unfortunately, they all love you too much to live their lives without you. Stop hurting these women... stop having affairs, just stop it!!
5 :
You gotta be a troll cause otherwise your life is more complicated then mine is. I have 3 partners which are all friends with benefits!I have one bf i lived with. They all know about each other. No one is fighting for me thank god. We all have busy lives. One of my other partners has a girl to & they are both swingers!So she don't care what we do its awesome. My bf don't care what i do either. We have an open relationship to. My advise to you is ah your life is very complicated. I could barely understand of what happened cause you are with 3 females 1 u are married to the others were married to or not married im not totally totally sure cause its all so confusing. Are you sure your not a troll?
6 :
i didn't even read all that. you shouldn't choose any of those women cause none of them deserve ur unfaithful @ss.
7 :
you don't sound like a very good person. i guess the old saying is true "once a cheater always a cheater". if i was any 3 of those woman i would want nothing to do with you.
8 :
Frances.
9 :
I would say stay with Connie. Why did I choose her? Its time for you to grow up and give ur love life a new start without affairs or without punishing urself about ur pass relationships. What happen in the pass is the pass n u cant change it anymore so juz learn from it k. Don't choose Kathleen or Frances because they will always bring up the others affair. They will question why you pick the other 1 and you will never b able 2 move on and have a happy relationship.
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