Help Getting My Ex-GF Back..?
I was a jerk.. i've worked on a lot on the time that she and I broke up.. We broke up 5 months ago we stopped talking after because she blocked me off ..I worked on myself. She was hurt because I was selfish, rude, controlling, jealous and a jerk. I never laid my hands on her or anything like that but I had a short temper.. I still have my temper but I have my control of it.. we split up.. she didn't want to talk to me or anything. Last month (December) she sent me a message on facebook. We're still befriended on facebook. She calls me, but she calls me private as she also changed her phone number after the bad break up because I was really trying to fix the relationship. (When she calls its private and she calls almost every night and falls asleep on the phone like we used to do when we were together). We talk now but I guess it's under her terms. I've told her I still love her and she has told me she does to but she barely tells me how she really feels. I do want her back but I don't know what to do to show her that I have changed. We were supposed to actually go to Church on Sunday and have breakfast after but the bad luck... I caught a stomach virus Saturday night going into Sunday.. I couldn't see her, we rescheduled for this weekend but she said she has plans after Church. What can I do? On AOL messenger she and I were discussing things then we got into a little discussion.. I later told her that I was trying to make her happy again..she said "yeah too little too late...you need to try harder".. I answered "I'm trying to but how can I if you don't let me, I mean how can I walk through a doorway if the door is closed" she said use that analogy and FIND A KEY..What can I do to fix this situation? How can I get her back? What did she really mean by that? It's kind of hard to understand because I really love her and was happy with her until I acted up we both stopped being happy and I don't plan to repeat that EVER again. I learned from my mistakes. I am 20 and she is 19. But I am into that commitment stuff... I always was ever since I saw Chandler and Monica in Friends. Years back. I wanted just that. I was hurt too many times which is why I had trust issues and can be insecure which is what damaged this relationship. And to the others THANKS! but how can I do all these things? We haven't seen each other.. I can't text her because I don't have her number we just sometimes talk through AIM and when she calls me. I try to kinda make her tell me that she loves me by telling her that I love her but she says "I know you do". And she doesnt want me to push her to tell me because then she will stop talking to me again and I was really close of falling off the edge because she said I was pushing her.. I don't know if she is gonna but I was really just venting to her because we were always there for each other and I told her how I felt about everything and she said I was pushing her.. She doesn't want to give me her number because she says not yet.. "we're not friends" I think she's playing hard to get.. But if we're not friends then we wouldn't speak.. She just doesn't want to admit it. HELP!!
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1 :
Well, it didn't work the first time, and there are more fish in the sea
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I think your a good man. You've learned from your mistakes and I love that you want a commitment. That is so rare today. She is hurt, upset, and scared to get hurt again. Tell her that you love her and she doesn't have to say it back if she doesn't want to, but you still do. Tell her that you will never hurt her again and if she wants to, you two can take it slow and see how it goes. Be truthful. It's going to take time, but she needs to earn your trust back, and remember, she is only 19 and the younger you are, the harder it is to deal with this kind of stuff. I hope I have helped and good luck to both of you.
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