Boyfriends "ex", still dating her or is she crazy?
My bf of 6 months has an ex gf who lives in Pennsylvania and we live in California. They dated 5 years ago and tried to remain friends. When we first started dating she would text alot, he said they were just friends and that the ex is also best friends with his sister, that is why they stay in touch. I did look in his phone once and saw that she had been dirty texting him, I read the messages they were all her talking about what she would like to do to him. From what I can gather of the situation, he broke up with a girlfriend of two years, met me by chance a few months later, and the Pennsylvania ex was hoping he would date her again. My bf said they got into a huge fight a few months ago but wouldn't specify why other than some things that came up while they were dating was still going on and he put his foot down and put an end to it and they wouldn't be talking anymore. I tried to ask him more and he said it was between he and she and that I was prying. I looked at his ex's Facebook page yesterday and she posts alot of things about him, about how she gave him a second chance, what a jerk he is, how mentally and physically abusive he was and implied they were sleeping together. She also lied to him and said I contacted her on Facebook and we chatted, even though I never did. I don't know if I believe all of this since she lives across the country. Do you guys think she wants him back and is trying to make trouble in our relationship or they were "dating" via phone long distance? I have tried discussing the situation but never asked him outright if they were dating. I could email her, but don't know if she would even tell me the truth.
Singles & Dating - 2 Answers
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Why are you trying to be in contact with her, you just appear to look jealous err something. I believe that your boyfriend has feeling for his ex still, and if they were obviously sexting and you two are together, the ex is probably not lying. Why are you still with the guy and trying to put the blame on the girl. It's his fault, he should know his boundaries but obviously, he doesn't. If I was you, I'd break it off. It's seems as if you're only half the relationship. He's cheating. You deserve better.
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It sounds like he was previously messed up with a psycho with some baggage that she can't let go of. I think you should take a hard line, zero tolerance policy. Tell him that if he ever communicates with her again, you will cut him. Not cut him off, but cut him, like with a sharpened steel blade. Test his loyalty by demanding that he get your name, or perhaps your portrait, tattooed on a visible part of his body. If you find out that he's been wasting you time, then create an itemized bill for everything you've ever bought him, then add 10% "just for putting up with his nonsense". I stayed up late last night and Facebooked with some of my Amish friends in Pennsylvania to see if they had any advice for you. One possible explanation for the dirty texts could be that she was just talking about where she lives. Does she by chance live in or near Intercourse, PA? My Amish friends explained that sometimes non-Amish people get confused when they get a text from an Amish person about that city. Is the ex-girlfriend Amish?
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Tuesday, December 28, 2010
Tuesday, December 14, 2010
I know men love the chase, so how do I make it more exciting?
I know men love the chase, so how do I make it more exciting?
This is by far one of the most unique challenges of my life haha. I'll give you some quick facts to make this easier: -met the guy, age 20, on interpals.com -every other day we would message each other until one day he didn't message back, and I removed him from my friends list (I probably overreacted) -I requested him again & he accepted and things went back to normal -we both like discussing athletics since we are both very active (I run cross country, he practices many types of martial arts), school, and we've both hinted that we find each other attractive -we moved onto Facebook and thing got better from there. -he photoshopped a picture to make it look like we standing next to each other on the beach (which I initially found to very odd but I learned to appreciate it) -I then suggested we send private videos to each other since I don't have a webcam. He'd show me his home, neighborhood, and always adds a little humor which shows he really puts effort. I do the same and in my last video (there's only been an exchange of about 3 videos each) I asked if we could mix it up by one person asking a question and the other films a video response. -he hasn't sent me another video in about 3 days and at first I thought he must be busy but no, he's frequently posting up other video clips and doing other things on Facebook -I didn't want to appear desperate but I instant messaged him in french (i used an online translator) saying "I miss talking with my french friend!" and he responded "lol" and asked why I wasn't in school while my friends were and I told him that they're still in HS and I don't start college for another 2 weeks. He said "ok" and that he's tired. I wrote back "ok I'll let you sleep but I'd appreciate if you'd msg me tomorrow because I have to show you something." He asked what but all I said was byeeee. -That message was about 2 hours ago and I log in again and notice that he created a new photo album Bleh. I was thinking of not messaging him for at least a week. Would that be the best thing to do? ...wow that's a lot to take in and if you read the whole thing, thank you! Please give me any thoughts or advice. If you need more information just ask! Additional Details I did send him a video asking a question and he even "liked" it on youtube. But yeah, I should probably wait like 2 more days. Btw, I live in California and he lives in France, so texting is out of the question!
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"Btw, I live in California and he lives in France, so texting is out of the question!" Nothing else you said really matters except that. Long distance makes the heart grow fonder, for someone else. Find someone in CA, don't waste your energy with someone so far. Unless you have a reason to move to France. It's actually quite nice there. Put your time into a local guy. CA guys need a sweet girl like you. :)
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This is by far one of the most unique challenges of my life haha. I'll give you some quick facts to make this easier: -met the guy, age 20, on interpals.com -every other day we would message each other until one day he didn't message back, and I removed him from my friends list (I probably overreacted) -I requested him again & he accepted and things went back to normal -we both like discussing athletics since we are both very active (I run cross country, he practices many types of martial arts), school, and we've both hinted that we find each other attractive -we moved onto Facebook and thing got better from there. -he photoshopped a picture to make it look like we standing next to each other on the beach (which I initially found to very odd but I learned to appreciate it) -I then suggested we send private videos to each other since I don't have a webcam. He'd show me his home, neighborhood, and always adds a little humor which shows he really puts effort. I do the same and in my last video (there's only been an exchange of about 3 videos each) I asked if we could mix it up by one person asking a question and the other films a video response. -he hasn't sent me another video in about 3 days and at first I thought he must be busy but no, he's frequently posting up other video clips and doing other things on Facebook -I didn't want to appear desperate but I instant messaged him in french (i used an online translator) saying "I miss talking with my french friend!" and he responded "lol" and asked why I wasn't in school while my friends were and I told him that they're still in HS and I don't start college for another 2 weeks. He said "ok" and that he's tired. I wrote back "ok I'll let you sleep but I'd appreciate if you'd msg me tomorrow because I have to show you something." He asked what but all I said was byeeee. -That message was about 2 hours ago and I log in again and notice that he created a new photo album Bleh. I was thinking of not messaging him for at least a week. Would that be the best thing to do? ...wow that's a lot to take in and if you read the whole thing, thank you! Please give me any thoughts or advice. If you need more information just ask! Additional Details I did send him a video asking a question and he even "liked" it on youtube. But yeah, I should probably wait like 2 more days. Btw, I live in California and he lives in France, so texting is out of the question!
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"Btw, I live in California and he lives in France, so texting is out of the question!" Nothing else you said really matters except that. Long distance makes the heart grow fonder, for someone else. Find someone in CA, don't waste your energy with someone so far. Unless you have a reason to move to France. It's actually quite nice there. Put your time into a local guy. CA guys need a sweet girl like you. :)
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Tuesday, December 7, 2010
??help! SExual predator?
??help! SExual predator?
This HOT guy that had no mutual friends with me on facebook, but I accepted him because he was so HOT!! And at first I believed that he was real(Hi i know I'm a bit naive) until things just stopped making sense. I'm not stupid and when he told me he was a model i realized he was completely BSing ! lol Because I know that a model, and working guy(as he claims) wouldn't be on facebook 24/7!!And when I asked him wat he modeled for he was very abstract and changed the subject. And he told me he lives in new york and then he gave me his number and told me to txt him, which i didn't, but I searched th number and it turns out to be an area code from California! I'm 17 and I plan to stay completely celibate till marriage and it creeped me out when he was discussing alot of sexual things with me, and offered to send me graphic pictures. CREEPY MUCH??!! What do u think about this?
Friends - 5 Answers
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well duh almost everyone lies over teh internet. if this bugs you then just delete him. problem solved not a big deal.
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delete all contact with him. please. its so simple. so just do it.
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yeah so? he's a weirdo.. just delete him from your friends. you;re not the only girl he's probably stalking. he wont notice. and what can he do?
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Delete him or trick him into meetingyou somewhere and have his a** kicked all over town cause thats what pervs like him deserve. I would do it for free if it was near me.
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See, here's the thing. Poor spelling and grammar leads sexual predators to believe that you are some dumb chick, and will be easy to get. Take an english class. Read a book. And don't add someone you don't know on facebook because he's "HOT!" and he claims he's a model.
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This HOT guy that had no mutual friends with me on facebook, but I accepted him because he was so HOT!! And at first I believed that he was real(Hi i know I'm a bit naive) until things just stopped making sense. I'm not stupid and when he told me he was a model i realized he was completely BSing ! lol Because I know that a model, and working guy(as he claims) wouldn't be on facebook 24/7!!And when I asked him wat he modeled for he was very abstract and changed the subject. And he told me he lives in new york and then he gave me his number and told me to txt him, which i didn't, but I searched th number and it turns out to be an area code from California! I'm 17 and I plan to stay completely celibate till marriage and it creeped me out when he was discussing alot of sexual things with me, and offered to send me graphic pictures. CREEPY MUCH??!! What do u think about this?
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well duh almost everyone lies over teh internet. if this bugs you then just delete him. problem solved not a big deal.
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delete all contact with him. please. its so simple. so just do it.
3 :
yeah so? he's a weirdo.. just delete him from your friends. you;re not the only girl he's probably stalking. he wont notice. and what can he do?
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Delete him or trick him into meetingyou somewhere and have his a** kicked all over town cause thats what pervs like him deserve. I would do it for free if it was near me.
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See, here's the thing. Poor spelling and grammar leads sexual predators to believe that you are some dumb chick, and will be easy to get. Take an english class. Read a book. And don't add someone you don't know on facebook because he's "HOT!" and he claims he's a model.
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Wednesday, December 1, 2010
Do you think I'll be okay visiting my friend I met through the internet?
Do you think I'll be okay visiting my friend I met through the internet?
Alright. So. Last year, I made a friend on facebook. We met through a fan page. He's my age & everything. I've become close friends with him & a lot of his other friends. They all go to the same school (I've seen pictures of them in school). They're all from California & I'm from Kansas. I'm closest to one of the people I met via this Californian friend & I plan on meeting him this summer. Yes, I've done a background check on him. I've video chatted & talked on the phone with him many, many times. I've even talked to his parents a couple of times too. I legitimately know that he is just a normal teenage boy, not some random pervert. I've known him for a year now & we're close friends. Coincidentally, I just so happen to be going to California this summer for vacation. And since that's where my friend lives, I figured I could go down & visit him while I'm there. I've discussed it with my mom & she is okay with this. She trusts my friend & she trusts me. My friend's parents are okay with it too. My mom is going to drop me off at his house & we're going to hang out all day & he's taking me to visit the rest of my CA friends. And our parents are meeting each other as well. :3 He's 16 & I'm 15. So do you guys think I'm taking the right precautions? Do you think I'll be alright? ALSO, I've known all of my CA friends for about a year now. Like I said, I've known him for a year, I checked his background when I first met him, I've seen tons of pictures of him, we've video chatted plenty of times, talk on the phone twice a week every week, & I know he's a high school student because he sends me pictures of his high school & pictures of our mutual friends in school all the time. He is legitimately a 16 year old boy. Plus, I'm not meeting him alone. I will be with my mom & her boyfriend. AND JUST TO CLARIFY; Neither of us have any sexual intentions. We're both kind of squeamish of anything sexual. :S
Polls & Surveys - 11 Answers
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No. He says he's 16, but how can you be 100% sure he's not really 60?
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I think it will be alright :D A couple of years ago my best friend's sister had an online boyfriend, and they went on a family vacation and they met there in person. It was cute :D
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Go! Give it a shot! As they say, carpe diem!
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He`s going to fucking kill you
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My mother would never let this happen. She'd be mad that I even talked to the person, if I was 16. Being 21, she would still be mad, I think. But if you've done a background check and all that business, I think maybe it'll be ok. You really can't trust anyone though, so just have a cell phone on you at all times and stay in places with a lot of people. Good luck!
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I am pretty sure you are going to get murdered
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Yeah, i think it should be fine :) But final judgent rests on you ;)
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well...go with an adult & when you see him & know he is your age not some 30 year old pervert then the adult can ....leave you guys
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THAT'S DUMB! DONT DO IT
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i met a guy on the internet when i was 14. he was 16 and real chill and awesome. he sent me pictures. but then he started asking for naked pics of me. i didnt suspect anything until he sent me a picture of his penis. that was weird. he turned out to be a child predator. i never suspected a thing. and guess where i met him? neopets. what is the fan group? are most of the people in the group of teen age? if so that should set off alarms and how do you know his friends? you really don't know a person that you haven't met. that doesnt count. because people are different on the internet and you dont see things in their personality that you would in person. how do you know that they arent just other profiles made by this guy? predators do go to lengths like that. and how do you know that these aren't other predators pretending to be teens and helping eachother out by also pretending to be teen friends? there are predators that have guilds and things like that where they all connect and become friends and discuss ways of tricking teens into meeting them
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it sounds that you did a thorough check! And you have known him for about a year. You wouldn't be the first one to do this!! Some people who did this it was a positive experience. And others , not so positive! You are taking a bit of a chance! I wouldn't go alone!!! make sure at least your Mom goes with you!!! It looks like everything is working out. See from my point of view, I don't have the full story so I would say be cautious. When you see him face to face , it could turn you off, cs internet is 1 dimensional and face to face is 3 dimensional. edit: after reading Kendra's story , I would use even more caution!!! I would also take into consideration what Kendra says. Like what would happen when you get to the house? And would there actually be a house when you get there? I would say that you have to be with a person for about a year to know what he is like. And you cant do that over the internet! There is too many risks!!! edit: anybody can send pictures of schools and so-called friends on the internet!!!!! just googgle pictures of schools and anybody can fake being squeamish!
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Alright. So. Last year, I made a friend on facebook. We met through a fan page. He's my age & everything. I've become close friends with him & a lot of his other friends. They all go to the same school (I've seen pictures of them in school). They're all from California & I'm from Kansas. I'm closest to one of the people I met via this Californian friend & I plan on meeting him this summer. Yes, I've done a background check on him. I've video chatted & talked on the phone with him many, many times. I've even talked to his parents a couple of times too. I legitimately know that he is just a normal teenage boy, not some random pervert. I've known him for a year now & we're close friends. Coincidentally, I just so happen to be going to California this summer for vacation. And since that's where my friend lives, I figured I could go down & visit him while I'm there. I've discussed it with my mom & she is okay with this. She trusts my friend & she trusts me. My friend's parents are okay with it too. My mom is going to drop me off at his house & we're going to hang out all day & he's taking me to visit the rest of my CA friends. And our parents are meeting each other as well. :3 He's 16 & I'm 15. So do you guys think I'm taking the right precautions? Do you think I'll be alright? ALSO, I've known all of my CA friends for about a year now. Like I said, I've known him for a year, I checked his background when I first met him, I've seen tons of pictures of him, we've video chatted plenty of times, talk on the phone twice a week every week, & I know he's a high school student because he sends me pictures of his high school & pictures of our mutual friends in school all the time. He is legitimately a 16 year old boy. Plus, I'm not meeting him alone. I will be with my mom & her boyfriend. AND JUST TO CLARIFY; Neither of us have any sexual intentions. We're both kind of squeamish of anything sexual. :S
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No. He says he's 16, but how can you be 100% sure he's not really 60?
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I think it will be alright :D A couple of years ago my best friend's sister had an online boyfriend, and they went on a family vacation and they met there in person. It was cute :D
3 :
Go! Give it a shot! As they say, carpe diem!
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He`s going to fucking kill you
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My mother would never let this happen. She'd be mad that I even talked to the person, if I was 16. Being 21, she would still be mad, I think. But if you've done a background check and all that business, I think maybe it'll be ok. You really can't trust anyone though, so just have a cell phone on you at all times and stay in places with a lot of people. Good luck!
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I am pretty sure you are going to get murdered
7 :
Yeah, i think it should be fine :) But final judgent rests on you ;)
8 :
well...go with an adult & when you see him & know he is your age not some 30 year old pervert then the adult can ....leave you guys
9 :
THAT'S DUMB! DONT DO IT
10 :
i met a guy on the internet when i was 14. he was 16 and real chill and awesome. he sent me pictures. but then he started asking for naked pics of me. i didnt suspect anything until he sent me a picture of his penis. that was weird. he turned out to be a child predator. i never suspected a thing. and guess where i met him? neopets. what is the fan group? are most of the people in the group of teen age? if so that should set off alarms and how do you know his friends? you really don't know a person that you haven't met. that doesnt count. because people are different on the internet and you dont see things in their personality that you would in person. how do you know that they arent just other profiles made by this guy? predators do go to lengths like that. and how do you know that these aren't other predators pretending to be teens and helping eachother out by also pretending to be teen friends? there are predators that have guilds and things like that where they all connect and become friends and discuss ways of tricking teens into meeting them
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it sounds that you did a thorough check! And you have known him for about a year. You wouldn't be the first one to do this!! Some people who did this it was a positive experience. And others , not so positive! You are taking a bit of a chance! I wouldn't go alone!!! make sure at least your Mom goes with you!!! It looks like everything is working out. See from my point of view, I don't have the full story so I would say be cautious. When you see him face to face , it could turn you off, cs internet is 1 dimensional and face to face is 3 dimensional. edit: after reading Kendra's story , I would use even more caution!!! I would also take into consideration what Kendra says. Like what would happen when you get to the house? And would there actually be a house when you get there? I would say that you have to be with a person for about a year to know what he is like. And you cant do that over the internet! There is too many risks!!! edit: anybody can send pictures of schools and so-called friends on the internet!!!!! just googgle pictures of schools and anybody can fake being squeamish!
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Sunday, November 28, 2010
when do you think he'll contact me again?!!?
when do you think he'll contact me again?!!?
i've been friends with one of my girlfriends for about 7 years now. I met her cousin about 6 months after we became friends. he's a really sweet guy and made it very obvious that he liked me but at the time I was married so I told him we could be friends only. we text messaged and emailed each other alot. we lost contact about 4 years ago when he moved to california for the army. I divorced my then husband shortly after we lost touch. he found my on facebook tuesday morning and emailed me to say hi, it had been awhile and he'd love to hang out sometime. he asked me where I was living,working,etc. we ended up exchaging numbers/email addresses. 30 seconds after I gave him my number, he signed off facebook and started texting me. we both found out we're both single and he now lives about 45 mins away from me. we had great converstion via text messaging for about an hour and half then we both had to go (he was at college and I needed to sleep to work night shift). he told me things like: -you are still absolutely gorgeous, corny I know but had to throw it out there b/c it's true -i'm so glad we got back in touch -god, there is something about you that I absolutely love (besides you being sexy)-when i said that was probably the ONLY thing-he told me seriously it's not-there is something about you that mesmorizes me. -I love how well we get along (this was after talking for an hour) -sweet dreams beautiful (this was the last thing he texted me) and I told him I'd talk to him soon we made plans to get together soon to play poker w/a few of his friends and his cousin (my girlfriend)-his suggestion. no exact date was discussed. I haven't heard from him since and i'm just wondering when he'll contact me again. I don't want to contact him b/c I don't want to see overzealous or clingy. plus, I think me being a little hard to get is a good thing (he's the type of guy that likes the chase). we got along really well when we first met-it was painfully obvious the attraction between us no matter how hard we tried to hide it. But b/c I was married at the time, I didn't want to let things go any further than the playful flirting we did. my friend's family and friends could even tell we liked each other and gave us both a hard time about it (playfully). our birthdays are 2 days apart so I know we're quite compatible personality wise. so when do you think he'll contact me again? he told me I could text or email him anytime and I told him to do the same... thoughts?!! sorry if I seem hyper about this but I'm dying to talk to him again but I know I'll come off clingy so I'm letting him call/text first!! thanks all
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Give him a week of no contact. Then contact him yourself. If he blows you off then, you will know he was only blowing smoke up your butt.
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i've been friends with one of my girlfriends for about 7 years now. I met her cousin about 6 months after we became friends. he's a really sweet guy and made it very obvious that he liked me but at the time I was married so I told him we could be friends only. we text messaged and emailed each other alot. we lost contact about 4 years ago when he moved to california for the army. I divorced my then husband shortly after we lost touch. he found my on facebook tuesday morning and emailed me to say hi, it had been awhile and he'd love to hang out sometime. he asked me where I was living,working,etc. we ended up exchaging numbers/email addresses. 30 seconds after I gave him my number, he signed off facebook and started texting me. we both found out we're both single and he now lives about 45 mins away from me. we had great converstion via text messaging for about an hour and half then we both had to go (he was at college and I needed to sleep to work night shift). he told me things like: -you are still absolutely gorgeous, corny I know but had to throw it out there b/c it's true -i'm so glad we got back in touch -god, there is something about you that I absolutely love (besides you being sexy)-when i said that was probably the ONLY thing-he told me seriously it's not-there is something about you that mesmorizes me. -I love how well we get along (this was after talking for an hour) -sweet dreams beautiful (this was the last thing he texted me) and I told him I'd talk to him soon we made plans to get together soon to play poker w/a few of his friends and his cousin (my girlfriend)-his suggestion. no exact date was discussed. I haven't heard from him since and i'm just wondering when he'll contact me again. I don't want to contact him b/c I don't want to see overzealous or clingy. plus, I think me being a little hard to get is a good thing (he's the type of guy that likes the chase). we got along really well when we first met-it was painfully obvious the attraction between us no matter how hard we tried to hide it. But b/c I was married at the time, I didn't want to let things go any further than the playful flirting we did. my friend's family and friends could even tell we liked each other and gave us both a hard time about it (playfully). our birthdays are 2 days apart so I know we're quite compatible personality wise. so when do you think he'll contact me again? he told me I could text or email him anytime and I told him to do the same... thoughts?!! sorry if I seem hyper about this but I'm dying to talk to him again but I know I'll come off clingy so I'm letting him call/text first!! thanks all
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Give him a week of no contact. Then contact him yourself. If he blows you off then, you will know he was only blowing smoke up your butt.
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Sunday, November 14, 2010
when will he contact me again?!!?
when will he contact me again?!!?
i've been friends with one of my girlfriends for about 7 years now. I met her cousin about 6 months after we became friends. he's a really sweet guy and made it very obvious that he liked me but at the time I was married so I told him we could be friends only. we text messaged and emailed each other alot. we lost contact about 4 years ago when he moved to california for the army. I divorced my then husband shortly after we lost touch. he found my on facebook tuesday morning and emailed me to say hi, it had been awhile and he'd love to hang out sometime. he asked me where I was living,working,etc. we ended up exchaging numbers/email addresses. 30 seconds after I gave him my number, he signed off facebook and started texting me. we both found out we're both single and he now lives about 45 mins away from me. we had great converstion via text messaging for about an hour and half then we both had to go (he was at college and I needed to sleep to work night shift). he told me things like: -you are still absolutely gorgeous, corny I know but had to throw it out there b/c it's true -i'm so glad we got back in touch -god, there is something about you that I absolutely love (besides you being sexy)-when i said that was probably the ONLY thing-he told me seriously it's not-there is something about you that mesmorizes me. -I love how well we get along (this was after talking for an hour) -sweet dreams beautiful (this was the last thing he texted me) and I told him I'd talk to him soon we made plans to get together soon to play poker w/a few of his friends and his cousin (my girlfriend)-his suggestion. no exact date was discussed. I haven't heard from him since and i'm just wondering when he'll contact me again. I don't want to contact him b/c I don't want to see overzealous or clingy. plus, I think me being a little hard to get is a good thing (he's the type of guy that likes the chase). we got along really well when we first met-it was painfully obvious the attraction between us no matter how hard we tried to hide it. But b/c I was married at the time, I didn't want to let things go any further than the playful flirting we did. my friend's family and friends could even tell we liked each other and gave us both a hard time about it (playfully). our birthdays are 2 days apart so I know we're quite compatible personality wise. so when do you think he'll contact me again? he told me I could text or email him anytime and I told him to do the same. he was the one that came after me and initiated all of this so I don't think he'd go to that extent just to ignore me again.. thoughts?!! sorry if I seem hyper about this but I'm dying to talk to him again but I know I'll come off clingy so I'm letting him call/text first!! thanks all
Singles & Dating - 1 Answers
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he initiated everything; so shouldnt it be your turn? i just scanned your story; but it depends on how long you've waited for hiim to talk to you 1-2 days, then it's okay for you to go for it and if he's really into you and not a player; then he'd be ecstatic (:
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i've been friends with one of my girlfriends for about 7 years now. I met her cousin about 6 months after we became friends. he's a really sweet guy and made it very obvious that he liked me but at the time I was married so I told him we could be friends only. we text messaged and emailed each other alot. we lost contact about 4 years ago when he moved to california for the army. I divorced my then husband shortly after we lost touch. he found my on facebook tuesday morning and emailed me to say hi, it had been awhile and he'd love to hang out sometime. he asked me where I was living,working,etc. we ended up exchaging numbers/email addresses. 30 seconds after I gave him my number, he signed off facebook and started texting me. we both found out we're both single and he now lives about 45 mins away from me. we had great converstion via text messaging for about an hour and half then we both had to go (he was at college and I needed to sleep to work night shift). he told me things like: -you are still absolutely gorgeous, corny I know but had to throw it out there b/c it's true -i'm so glad we got back in touch -god, there is something about you that I absolutely love (besides you being sexy)-when i said that was probably the ONLY thing-he told me seriously it's not-there is something about you that mesmorizes me. -I love how well we get along (this was after talking for an hour) -sweet dreams beautiful (this was the last thing he texted me) and I told him I'd talk to him soon we made plans to get together soon to play poker w/a few of his friends and his cousin (my girlfriend)-his suggestion. no exact date was discussed. I haven't heard from him since and i'm just wondering when he'll contact me again. I don't want to contact him b/c I don't want to see overzealous or clingy. plus, I think me being a little hard to get is a good thing (he's the type of guy that likes the chase). we got along really well when we first met-it was painfully obvious the attraction between us no matter how hard we tried to hide it. But b/c I was married at the time, I didn't want to let things go any further than the playful flirting we did. my friend's family and friends could even tell we liked each other and gave us both a hard time about it (playfully). our birthdays are 2 days apart so I know we're quite compatible personality wise. so when do you think he'll contact me again? he told me I could text or email him anytime and I told him to do the same. he was the one that came after me and initiated all of this so I don't think he'd go to that extent just to ignore me again.. thoughts?!! sorry if I seem hyper about this but I'm dying to talk to him again but I know I'll come off clingy so I'm letting him call/text first!! thanks all
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he initiated everything; so shouldnt it be your turn? i just scanned your story; but it depends on how long you've waited for hiim to talk to you 1-2 days, then it's okay for you to go for it and if he's really into you and not a player; then he'd be ecstatic (:
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Sunday, November 7, 2010
please more answers-when will I hear from him again?!!?
please more answers-when will I hear from him again?!!?
i've been friends with one of my girlfriends for about 7 years now. I met her cousin about 6 months after we became friends. he's a really sweet guy and made it very obvious that he liked me but at the time I was married so I told him we could be friends only. we text messaged and emailed each other alot. we lost contact about 4 years ago when he moved to california for the army. I divorced my then husband shortly after we lost touch. he found my on facebook tuesday morning and emailed me to say hi, it had been awhile and he'd love to hang out sometime. he asked me where I was living,working,etc. we ended up exchaging numbers/email addresses. 30 seconds after I gave him my number, he signed off facebook and started texting me. we both found out we're both single and he now lives about 45 mins away from me. we had great converstion via text messaging for about an hour and half then we both had to go (he was at college and I needed to sleep to work night shift). he told me things like: -you are still absolutely gorgeous, corny I know but had to throw it out there b/c it's true -i'm so glad we got back in touch -god, there is something about you that I absolutely love (besides you being sexy)-when i said that was probably the ONLY thing-he told me seriously it's not-there is something about you that mesmorizes me. -I love how well we get along (this was after talking for an hour) -sweet dreams beautiful (this was the last thing he texted me) and I told him I'd talk to him soon we made plans to get together soon to play poker w/a few of his friends and his cousin (my girlfriend)-his suggestion. no exact date was discussed. I haven't heard from him since and i'm just wondering when he'll contact me again. I don't want to contact him b/c I don't want to see overzealous or clingy. plus, I think me being a little hard to get is a good thing (he's the type of guy that likes the chase). we got along really well when we first met-it was painfully obvious the attraction between us no matter how hard we tried to hide it. But b/c I was married at the time, I didn't want to let things go any further than the playful flirting we did. my friend's family and friends could even tell we liked each other and gave us both a hard time about it (playfully). our birthdays are 2 days apart so I know we're quite compatible personality wise. i'm 2 years older (i'm 30, he's 28) so when do you think he'll contact me again? he told me I could text or email him anytime and I told him to do the same. he was the one that came after me and initiated all of this so I don't think he'd go to that extent just to ignore me again.. thoughts?!! sorry if I seem hyper about this but I'm dying to talk to him again but I know I'll come off clingy so I'm letting him call/text first!! thanks all
Marriage & Divorce - 2 Answers
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He will call you when the moon turns blue.
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Personally, I would just move on from all of this. Yes, it was flattering at the time but people change over the years and we don't always know them like we think we do. If this guy was truly interested in you, then this guy would've wanted to take you out somewhere special where he could be alone with you and visit with you in person. Living 45 minutes away is not that far to drive in order to get together with someone you care about or want to see again. I don't call that "nervous". I call that "chickening out". You are right not to come across as clingy. I would keep things to the texting or phoning each other once in awhile but I wouldn't expect much more than that from this relationship. This guy is just not interested at this time in the way you would like to hope he is or he would make more of an effort to see you in person and do it sooner than later. Believe me, I've heard all those words from a guy too and I think it's just a bunch of crap in the heat of the excitement of meeting up again online. It's not a trap I've chosen to fall into. Take pride in who you are and realize what's more important...yourself or waiting around for this guy who may never commit. :)
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i've been friends with one of my girlfriends for about 7 years now. I met her cousin about 6 months after we became friends. he's a really sweet guy and made it very obvious that he liked me but at the time I was married so I told him we could be friends only. we text messaged and emailed each other alot. we lost contact about 4 years ago when he moved to california for the army. I divorced my then husband shortly after we lost touch. he found my on facebook tuesday morning and emailed me to say hi, it had been awhile and he'd love to hang out sometime. he asked me where I was living,working,etc. we ended up exchaging numbers/email addresses. 30 seconds after I gave him my number, he signed off facebook and started texting me. we both found out we're both single and he now lives about 45 mins away from me. we had great converstion via text messaging for about an hour and half then we both had to go (he was at college and I needed to sleep to work night shift). he told me things like: -you are still absolutely gorgeous, corny I know but had to throw it out there b/c it's true -i'm so glad we got back in touch -god, there is something about you that I absolutely love (besides you being sexy)-when i said that was probably the ONLY thing-he told me seriously it's not-there is something about you that mesmorizes me. -I love how well we get along (this was after talking for an hour) -sweet dreams beautiful (this was the last thing he texted me) and I told him I'd talk to him soon we made plans to get together soon to play poker w/a few of his friends and his cousin (my girlfriend)-his suggestion. no exact date was discussed. I haven't heard from him since and i'm just wondering when he'll contact me again. I don't want to contact him b/c I don't want to see overzealous or clingy. plus, I think me being a little hard to get is a good thing (he's the type of guy that likes the chase). we got along really well when we first met-it was painfully obvious the attraction between us no matter how hard we tried to hide it. But b/c I was married at the time, I didn't want to let things go any further than the playful flirting we did. my friend's family and friends could even tell we liked each other and gave us both a hard time about it (playfully). our birthdays are 2 days apart so I know we're quite compatible personality wise. i'm 2 years older (i'm 30, he's 28) so when do you think he'll contact me again? he told me I could text or email him anytime and I told him to do the same. he was the one that came after me and initiated all of this so I don't think he'd go to that extent just to ignore me again.. thoughts?!! sorry if I seem hyper about this but I'm dying to talk to him again but I know I'll come off clingy so I'm letting him call/text first!! thanks all
Marriage & Divorce - 2 Answers
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He will call you when the moon turns blue.
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Personally, I would just move on from all of this. Yes, it was flattering at the time but people change over the years and we don't always know them like we think we do. If this guy was truly interested in you, then this guy would've wanted to take you out somewhere special where he could be alone with you and visit with you in person. Living 45 minutes away is not that far to drive in order to get together with someone you care about or want to see again. I don't call that "nervous". I call that "chickening out". You are right not to come across as clingy. I would keep things to the texting or phoning each other once in awhile but I wouldn't expect much more than that from this relationship. This guy is just not interested at this time in the way you would like to hope he is or he would make more of an effort to see you in person and do it sooner than later. Believe me, I've heard all those words from a guy too and I think it's just a bunch of crap in the heat of the excitement of meeting up again online. It's not a trap I've chosen to fall into. Take pride in who you are and realize what's more important...yourself or waiting around for this guy who may never commit. :)
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Monday, November 1, 2010
What do you think of these comments on Christian forum "Rapture Ready"?
What do you think of these comments on Christian forum "Rapture Ready"?
http://rr-bb.com/showthread.php?151193-Christian-woman-sentenced-to-death-in-Pakistan-for-alleged-quot-blasphemy-quot-against-Mohammad&p=1965543#post1965543 (in discussing blasphemy laws in Pakistan) How ironic that the Left would love to have such a blasphemy law passed against Christians to keep them from speaking the truth about homosexuality, abortion, etc, the gods of the Left. They're caught in a conundrum because they have a fetish for Islam because they want to use it against us, yet it happens to be the most oppressive, violent, and anti-Left religion out there. They will fight to put some make-up on Islam to make it appear more tolerable so that it can expand and gain a better stranglehold in the West, but at the same time it is going to turn on them and do them in. Meanwhile, the Left wants to put us, the only ones who understand the real danger of Islam, in a very similar choke-hold of their own. Truly darkened minds and deceived by their lusts. == http://rr-bb.com/showthread.php?151041-Victims-of-the-bully They are laying a groundwork for persecuting Christians. As a mentally ill individual who has battled suicide, I can assure you depression is 100% responsible for suicide. Not bullying. I have been bullied this year, after refusing sexual advances. Am I sucidal? No. I dread going into work sometimes, I avoid him if at all possible, but I'm not killing myself over it. The media is trying to build a foundation: Christianity is hate speech (Bible verses protesting homosexuality); "Hate speech" is bullying. Bullying causes suicide (NOT TRUE). Ergo, Christian beliefs, when expressed, lead to suicide. We have to restrict this! I can see it VERY clearly. It's not about bullying at all; it's about taking away our rights to speak of Jesus and the Bible. Mark my words on this. == http://rr-bb.com/showthread.php?149133-Use-Facebook&p=1946245#post1946245 Facebook has brought more harm to my family in recent history than anything I can recall. Because of it my nephew is getting divorced. My oldest daughter is not speaking to me after I called her out over some questionable posts. My nephew's lawyer told my sister that in a recent consensus of lawyers, Facebook had played a role in 8 out of 10 divorce cases. Just this week Facebook announced their support of gay rights, stating "They were going to take an aggressive stance against Hate Speach". Thus they basically announced the censorship of christian messages and posts is going to increase. Therefore "I Believe" it is an agent of satan and his world. == http://rr-bb.com/showthread.php?150556-Left-Coast-Status-Quo-in-Election/page2 [Re: How could Democrats have won in California?] My daughter was near inconsolable and kept saying, "I don't understand", "I don't understand". I did, all to readily. I explained t her about darkness, spritual blindness, evil, stuff she already knows. But she kept shaking her head on how so many people could be SO blind as to not see what the progressive/left/demos/etc. are up to. I told her that Massachusetts, Nevada, and CA are still dark states and will continue to cling to their darkness. == http://rr-bb.com/showthread.php?148084-Post-Rapture-%28Atheist%29-Survival-Guide&p=1933906#post1933906 Post Rapture (Atheist) Survival Guide You guys will NEVER believe this!! I posted this thread first on the City-Data religious section of the forum for Atheist and other nonbelievers just a few minutes ago. It is a survival guide for Atheist who have rejected God and will be left behind. It's by Kurt Seland. Not less than 5 minutes after posting it up, it was subsequently deleted (I believe an Atheist reported me) and I received an infraction (temporary ban) from the City-Data forums for copyright infringement!! Wow!! But we all know what the REAL reason was! Here is my thread! EDIT: Deleted the thread. Wow I just realized the post by Kurt Seland is the same as Rapture Ready's! But still!! EDIT 2: Wow I have just received YET ANOTHER infraction for the very same thing!! Atheist are the devil-incarnate I swear!!! == http://rr-bb.com/showthread.php?148146-Even-little-mice-pray!&p=1934614#post1934614 Even little mice pray! Had a real God moment today when I stopped in the pet store to look at all the cute and furry critters. At the mice cage there was this one really pretty little black and white mouse. She was sitting on her hind legs, eyes closed and her two tiny front paws folded in prayer. Cutest thing ever!!!! I wonder what she was praying, "oh, please Jesus let me find a good home where there are no kittehs."
Religion & Spirituality - 6 Answers
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Instead of wasting my time reading all of that, I'm just going to conclude that you're an idiot.
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It shows how fricking insane some people are.
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I think the persecutors are the first to claim they are persecuted. That site is for morons, as you can see. The theological notion of a "rapture" was invented 170 years ago. In 1830, in Port Glasgow, Scotland, fifteen year old Margaret MacDonald had a vision concerning the return of Christ. Her vision was adopted by John Nelson Darby a British minister and founder of a denomination called the "Plymouth Brethern." In 1909, an American, C. I. Scofield, pubished an annotated version of the "King James" translation of the Bible called the "Scofield Reference Bible." Scofield's annotations were based on the theology of John Nelson Darby. The "Scofield Reference Bible" popularized the teachings of Darby. Fundamentalist Christians in the U. S. adopted Scofield's Bible as authoritative. With the rise of fundamentalism in the U. S. in recent years, the popularity of the theological notion of the "rapture" has also gained popularity.
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These people are actually insane
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Amen. Even so, come Lord Jesus. Revelation 22:20
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Jhn 3:1 ¶ There was a man of the Pharisees, named Nicodemus, a ruler of the Jews: Jhn 3:2 The same came to Jesus by night, and said unto him, Rabbi, we know that thou art a teacher come from God: for no man can do these miracles that thou doest, except God be with him. Jhn 3:3 Jesus answered and said unto him, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God. Jhn 3:4 Nicodemus saith unto him, How can a man be born when he is old? can he enter the second time into his mother's womb, and be born? Jhn 3:5 Jesus answered, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born of water and [of] the Spirit, he cannot enter into the kingdom of God. Jhn 3:6 That which is born of the flesh is flesh; and that which is born of the Spirit is spirit. Jhn 3:7 Marvel not that I said unto thee, Ye must be born again. Jhn 3:8 The wind bloweth where it listeth, and thou hearest the sound thereof, but canst not tell whence it cometh, and whither it goeth: so is every one that is born of the Spirit. Jhn 3:9 Nicodemus answered and said unto him, How can these things be? Jhn 3:10 Jesus answered and said unto him, Art thou a master of Israel, and knowest not these things? Jhn 3:11 Verily, verily, I say unto thee, We speak that we do know, and testify that we have seen; and ye receive not our witness. Jhn 3:12 If I have told you earthly things, and ye believe not, how shall ye believe, if I tell you [of] heavenly things? Jhn 3:13 And no man hath ascended up to heaven, but he that came down from heaven, [even] the Son of man which is in heaven. Jhn 3:14 And as Moses lifted up the serpent in the wilderness, even so must the Son of man be lifted up: Jhn 3:15 That whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have eternal life. Jhn 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. Jhn 3:17 For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved. Jhn 3:18 He that believeth on him is not condemned: but he that believeth not is condemned already, because he hath not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God. http://www.biblebelievers.com/AllThis.html Brian Free - Where Would You Be http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ces45ygLzXI http://jesus-is-lord.com/index.htm http://www.thegospelhiway.org/home/
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http://rr-bb.com/showthread.php?151193-Christian-woman-sentenced-to-death-in-Pakistan-for-alleged-quot-blasphemy-quot-against-Mohammad&p=1965543#post1965543 (in discussing blasphemy laws in Pakistan) How ironic that the Left would love to have such a blasphemy law passed against Christians to keep them from speaking the truth about homosexuality, abortion, etc, the gods of the Left. They're caught in a conundrum because they have a fetish for Islam because they want to use it against us, yet it happens to be the most oppressive, violent, and anti-Left religion out there. They will fight to put some make-up on Islam to make it appear more tolerable so that it can expand and gain a better stranglehold in the West, but at the same time it is going to turn on them and do them in. Meanwhile, the Left wants to put us, the only ones who understand the real danger of Islam, in a very similar choke-hold of their own. Truly darkened minds and deceived by their lusts. == http://rr-bb.com/showthread.php?151041-Victims-of-the-bully They are laying a groundwork for persecuting Christians. As a mentally ill individual who has battled suicide, I can assure you depression is 100% responsible for suicide. Not bullying. I have been bullied this year, after refusing sexual advances. Am I sucidal? No. I dread going into work sometimes, I avoid him if at all possible, but I'm not killing myself over it. The media is trying to build a foundation: Christianity is hate speech (Bible verses protesting homosexuality); "Hate speech" is bullying. Bullying causes suicide (NOT TRUE). Ergo, Christian beliefs, when expressed, lead to suicide. We have to restrict this! I can see it VERY clearly. It's not about bullying at all; it's about taking away our rights to speak of Jesus and the Bible. Mark my words on this. == http://rr-bb.com/showthread.php?149133-Use-Facebook&p=1946245#post1946245 Facebook has brought more harm to my family in recent history than anything I can recall. Because of it my nephew is getting divorced. My oldest daughter is not speaking to me after I called her out over some questionable posts. My nephew's lawyer told my sister that in a recent consensus of lawyers, Facebook had played a role in 8 out of 10 divorce cases. Just this week Facebook announced their support of gay rights, stating "They were going to take an aggressive stance against Hate Speach". Thus they basically announced the censorship of christian messages and posts is going to increase. Therefore "I Believe" it is an agent of satan and his world. == http://rr-bb.com/showthread.php?150556-Left-Coast-Status-Quo-in-Election/page2 [Re: How could Democrats have won in California?] My daughter was near inconsolable and kept saying, "I don't understand", "I don't understand". I did, all to readily. I explained t her about darkness, spritual blindness, evil, stuff she already knows. But she kept shaking her head on how so many people could be SO blind as to not see what the progressive/left/demos/etc. are up to. I told her that Massachusetts, Nevada, and CA are still dark states and will continue to cling to their darkness. == http://rr-bb.com/showthread.php?148084-Post-Rapture-%28Atheist%29-Survival-Guide&p=1933906#post1933906 Post Rapture (Atheist) Survival Guide You guys will NEVER believe this!! I posted this thread first on the City-Data religious section of the forum for Atheist and other nonbelievers just a few minutes ago. It is a survival guide for Atheist who have rejected God and will be left behind. It's by Kurt Seland. Not less than 5 minutes after posting it up, it was subsequently deleted (I believe an Atheist reported me) and I received an infraction (temporary ban) from the City-Data forums for copyright infringement!! Wow!! But we all know what the REAL reason was! Here is my thread! EDIT: Deleted the thread. Wow I just realized the post by Kurt Seland is the same as Rapture Ready's! But still!! EDIT 2: Wow I have just received YET ANOTHER infraction for the very same thing!! Atheist are the devil-incarnate I swear!!! == http://rr-bb.com/showthread.php?148146-Even-little-mice-pray!&p=1934614#post1934614 Even little mice pray! Had a real God moment today when I stopped in the pet store to look at all the cute and furry critters. At the mice cage there was this one really pretty little black and white mouse. She was sitting on her hind legs, eyes closed and her two tiny front paws folded in prayer. Cutest thing ever!!!! I wonder what she was praying, "oh, please Jesus let me find a good home where there are no kittehs."
Religion & Spirituality - 6 Answers
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Instead of wasting my time reading all of that, I'm just going to conclude that you're an idiot.
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It shows how fricking insane some people are.
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I think the persecutors are the first to claim they are persecuted. That site is for morons, as you can see. The theological notion of a "rapture" was invented 170 years ago. In 1830, in Port Glasgow, Scotland, fifteen year old Margaret MacDonald had a vision concerning the return of Christ. Her vision was adopted by John Nelson Darby a British minister and founder of a denomination called the "Plymouth Brethern." In 1909, an American, C. I. Scofield, pubished an annotated version of the "King James" translation of the Bible called the "Scofield Reference Bible." Scofield's annotations were based on the theology of John Nelson Darby. The "Scofield Reference Bible" popularized the teachings of Darby. Fundamentalist Christians in the U. S. adopted Scofield's Bible as authoritative. With the rise of fundamentalism in the U. S. in recent years, the popularity of the theological notion of the "rapture" has also gained popularity.
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These people are actually insane
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Amen. Even so, come Lord Jesus. Revelation 22:20
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Jhn 3:1 ¶ There was a man of the Pharisees, named Nicodemus, a ruler of the Jews: Jhn 3:2 The same came to Jesus by night, and said unto him, Rabbi, we know that thou art a teacher come from God: for no man can do these miracles that thou doest, except God be with him. Jhn 3:3 Jesus answered and said unto him, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God. Jhn 3:4 Nicodemus saith unto him, How can a man be born when he is old? can he enter the second time into his mother's womb, and be born? Jhn 3:5 Jesus answered, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born of water and [of] the Spirit, he cannot enter into the kingdom of God. Jhn 3:6 That which is born of the flesh is flesh; and that which is born of the Spirit is spirit. Jhn 3:7 Marvel not that I said unto thee, Ye must be born again. Jhn 3:8 The wind bloweth where it listeth, and thou hearest the sound thereof, but canst not tell whence it cometh, and whither it goeth: so is every one that is born of the Spirit. Jhn 3:9 Nicodemus answered and said unto him, How can these things be? Jhn 3:10 Jesus answered and said unto him, Art thou a master of Israel, and knowest not these things? Jhn 3:11 Verily, verily, I say unto thee, We speak that we do know, and testify that we have seen; and ye receive not our witness. Jhn 3:12 If I have told you earthly things, and ye believe not, how shall ye believe, if I tell you [of] heavenly things? Jhn 3:13 And no man hath ascended up to heaven, but he that came down from heaven, [even] the Son of man which is in heaven. Jhn 3:14 And as Moses lifted up the serpent in the wilderness, even so must the Son of man be lifted up: Jhn 3:15 That whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have eternal life. Jhn 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. Jhn 3:17 For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved. Jhn 3:18 He that believeth on him is not condemned: but he that believeth not is condemned already, because he hath not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God. http://www.biblebelievers.com/AllThis.html Brian Free - Where Would You Be http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ces45ygLzXI http://jesus-is-lord.com/index.htm http://www.thegospelhiway.org/home/
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Thursday, October 28, 2010
My boyfriend still talks to his ex girlfriend and IT BOTHERS THE HECK OUTTA ME i cant do it anymore!?
My boyfriend still talks to his ex girlfriend and IT BOTHERS THE HECK OUTTA ME i cant do it anymore!?
Let me tell you the whole story, not in detail because it way too much. But close so you can understand where I'm coming from. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 6 months now. We are pretty serious. We hardly have fights, only a few disagreements. And we pretty much get along with everything. HOWEVER, his ex girlfriend has been the biggest problem, ever since the beginning. But I live in NY and she lives in CALI. In the very very beginning of our relationship, his mother and himself got into a huge argument and she brought his ex UP (lets call her "Lisa") His mother does not like me, and there really is no reason for that because I am very respectful and polite, she is just one of those "mothers". So yeah she brought up Lisa saying "what is Lisa gonna think when she finds out Mary is here?!" (Mary is my fake name for the story) So i was pissed and me and him discussed the whole matter and talked and talked and his mom was just being a bI***. They broke up a couple months before, she lives in cali he lives in ny. they werent together. he even proved it to me by texting her. it was all resolved. Fine. but.... After that he told me they were just friends. Now just to tell you, they were together for about 3 years and he moved to California to live with her for 2 years and she came here to live with him for about 3 months. So them being friends kinda pissed me off, but i trust him and she lives in Cali you know? He told me he has no feelings for her what so ever and I trust him. But every time me and him hung out she would text him and it would piss me the hell off. She invited him on a cruise. WTF. but he said no. A month later we talked about it and resolved it, he obviously told her not to text him anymore bcuz after that she didnt text him. ok... but now... His mom is a bi*** and she is always bringing her up. Why? Idk, like here's an example. One time I got my period and I needed feminine products and I was at his house. So I asked him mom if she had any, and she said (in these exact words) "Check in the downstairs bathroom. His ex Lisa had them under the sink" Why would she say that? Just to piss me off of course. I talked to him about it, and he apologized and tried talkin to his mom, but she is just naturally bi***y. She stopped bringing her up, but she is still bi***. ok thats solved butttt.... I always find sh** laying around his room, like once i found a photo album of them . I got pissed he apologized put it away. Once I found a note. and so on and so on. You get the point. We discussed this. His room is pretty messy, so he doesnt do it on purpose but still , like you put that stuff away. You know? NoW... i AM NOT a jealous person but wouldnt you be pissed off if they still were friends after all of this drama? No matter how many miles away she is, it still bothers me. We got into arguements (as you can see) about it, and he told me he wont talk to her anymore/ but she face books him all the time. and i know facebook is something kiddish, but it bothers me. Why does she have to face book him? and we just had a talk about it. I told him how i felt, but he told me i shouldnt worry. I am not worrying. It just bothers me. It the fact that all of this drama happened and the fact that her facebook still has pictures of them together. Yeah she cant control her and what she does, but he can control what she does. I asked him to delete her, so this drama could end. But he isnt gonna delete. He isnt gona stop being friends with her. And whats his reason? HE FEELS BAD BECAUSE SHE IS LONELY IN CALIFORNIA. HE DOESNT WANNA JUST BE A "JERK". I dont know what to do. I've had so many convos with him about this and about how it bothers me. But he says hes not the type of guy who stops talking to someone because someone else said they have to . Are you serious? I dont know what to do. I love him, i dont want our relationship to end. WTF SHOULD I DO!? I'm not being paranoid. I trust him. It's the fact that she is still in love with him and he knows it. And the fact that I always find stuff from when they were together in his room. And some added note, he cheated on her and she knows, yet she still wants to be friends with him. It just doesnt make any sense. To me anyway
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wow . you are really controlling ...
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Plain and simple, if he doesnt stop talking to her leave him. if he really wants you, he'll do what it takes. He is still attached to her for some reason. Whatever the reason is is not your concern its his and he has to work that out...with you or without you. You have to allow hime to do that even if he doesnt know he needs the time.
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Well you told him to stop talking to her right and how you felt? I guess you can always go are you still in love with her? And that I am sorry but I am leaving you because if you really cared about me and my feelings you would stop talking to her and you haven't so that says that you still love her and your not over her. Sorry :'( been there and it's a hurtful road but I luckily found the man who truly loves me and respects me a year later after a guy that is kinda like yours.
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okay well wow! but seeing as he has been with that other girl for 3 years! i think that is pretty serious and i understand him when he says he does not want to stop being friends because im sure in a way he still cares for her. So i think first you should talk to HER (with ur bf knowing about it tho) about their whole "friend relationship" If you are certain he is in love with you then he won't mind but do not attack her or anyting to make her dislike you because then hes gonna be in a pickle. Then of course when thats resolved talk to his mother about how rude she is being. best of luck! if worse comes to worse, move on!! you don't need inlaw drama.
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stop being so paranoid and chasing him off from ur life... instead of being pissed with him still in contact with the ex, u should instead improve on ur relationship with him.. come as u say she not even physically there to ruin ur relationship. come on they been together for few yrs sure he still have lingering feelings its only natural. U should instead be a better gf then her to make him stop thinking of her... U wanna pisse the gf off ask ur bf put pictures of u 2 together.. Seriously u getting way to involve about his ex... on his mom it takes time to get in her books and 1st is stop being paranoid
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Let me tell you the whole story, not in detail because it way too much. But close so you can understand where I'm coming from. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 6 months now. We are pretty serious. We hardly have fights, only a few disagreements. And we pretty much get along with everything. HOWEVER, his ex girlfriend has been the biggest problem, ever since the beginning. But I live in NY and she lives in CALI. In the very very beginning of our relationship, his mother and himself got into a huge argument and she brought his ex UP (lets call her "Lisa") His mother does not like me, and there really is no reason for that because I am very respectful and polite, she is just one of those "mothers". So yeah she brought up Lisa saying "what is Lisa gonna think when she finds out Mary is here?!" (Mary is my fake name for the story) So i was pissed and me and him discussed the whole matter and talked and talked and his mom was just being a bI***. They broke up a couple months before, she lives in cali he lives in ny. they werent together. he even proved it to me by texting her. it was all resolved. Fine. but.... After that he told me they were just friends. Now just to tell you, they were together for about 3 years and he moved to California to live with her for 2 years and she came here to live with him for about 3 months. So them being friends kinda pissed me off, but i trust him and she lives in Cali you know? He told me he has no feelings for her what so ever and I trust him. But every time me and him hung out she would text him and it would piss me the hell off. She invited him on a cruise. WTF. but he said no. A month later we talked about it and resolved it, he obviously told her not to text him anymore bcuz after that she didnt text him. ok... but now... His mom is a bi*** and she is always bringing her up. Why? Idk, like here's an example. One time I got my period and I needed feminine products and I was at his house. So I asked him mom if she had any, and she said (in these exact words) "Check in the downstairs bathroom. His ex Lisa had them under the sink" Why would she say that? Just to piss me off of course. I talked to him about it, and he apologized and tried talkin to his mom, but she is just naturally bi***y. She stopped bringing her up, but she is still bi***. ok thats solved butttt.... I always find sh** laying around his room, like once i found a photo album of them . I got pissed he apologized put it away. Once I found a note. and so on and so on. You get the point. We discussed this. His room is pretty messy, so he doesnt do it on purpose but still , like you put that stuff away. You know? NoW... i AM NOT a jealous person but wouldnt you be pissed off if they still were friends after all of this drama? No matter how many miles away she is, it still bothers me. We got into arguements (as you can see) about it, and he told me he wont talk to her anymore/ but she face books him all the time. and i know facebook is something kiddish, but it bothers me. Why does she have to face book him? and we just had a talk about it. I told him how i felt, but he told me i shouldnt worry. I am not worrying. It just bothers me. It the fact that all of this drama happened and the fact that her facebook still has pictures of them together. Yeah she cant control her and what she does, but he can control what she does. I asked him to delete her, so this drama could end. But he isnt gonna delete. He isnt gona stop being friends with her. And whats his reason? HE FEELS BAD BECAUSE SHE IS LONELY IN CALIFORNIA. HE DOESNT WANNA JUST BE A "JERK". I dont know what to do. I've had so many convos with him about this and about how it bothers me. But he says hes not the type of guy who stops talking to someone because someone else said they have to . Are you serious? I dont know what to do. I love him, i dont want our relationship to end. WTF SHOULD I DO!? I'm not being paranoid. I trust him. It's the fact that she is still in love with him and he knows it. And the fact that I always find stuff from when they were together in his room. And some added note, he cheated on her and she knows, yet she still wants to be friends with him. It just doesnt make any sense. To me anyway
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wow . you are really controlling ...
2 :
Plain and simple, if he doesnt stop talking to her leave him. if he really wants you, he'll do what it takes. He is still attached to her for some reason. Whatever the reason is is not your concern its his and he has to work that out...with you or without you. You have to allow hime to do that even if he doesnt know he needs the time.
3 :
Well you told him to stop talking to her right and how you felt? I guess you can always go are you still in love with her? And that I am sorry but I am leaving you because if you really cared about me and my feelings you would stop talking to her and you haven't so that says that you still love her and your not over her. Sorry :'( been there and it's a hurtful road but I luckily found the man who truly loves me and respects me a year later after a guy that is kinda like yours.
4 :
okay well wow! but seeing as he has been with that other girl for 3 years! i think that is pretty serious and i understand him when he says he does not want to stop being friends because im sure in a way he still cares for her. So i think first you should talk to HER (with ur bf knowing about it tho) about their whole "friend relationship" If you are certain he is in love with you then he won't mind but do not attack her or anyting to make her dislike you because then hes gonna be in a pickle. Then of course when thats resolved talk to his mother about how rude she is being. best of luck! if worse comes to worse, move on!! you don't need inlaw drama.
5 :
stop being so paranoid and chasing him off from ur life... instead of being pissed with him still in contact with the ex, u should instead improve on ur relationship with him.. come as u say she not even physically there to ruin ur relationship. come on they been together for few yrs sure he still have lingering feelings its only natural. U should instead be a better gf then her to make him stop thinking of her... U wanna pisse the gf off ask ur bf put pictures of u 2 together.. Seriously u getting way to involve about his ex... on his mom it takes time to get in her books and 1st is stop being paranoid
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Thursday, October 14, 2010
SHOULD I pay any rent at all?
SHOULD I pay any rent at all?
Short version: We never agreed on terms, and I never moved in. His demands were nuts, so I backed out. Do I owe anything at all? Long version: I thought I'd agreed to move in to a shared 5 bedroom house with 4 existing roommates, into a room that would be available once the master tenant moved out and into another room. I met with the last potential roommate and told the master tenant I wanted to move in, and we settled on giving him a week ('till the 9th of May) to move rooms and I expected to move in and pay rent from that date. Yesterday (Monday, May 3) I went over to drop off a check to seal the deal, and the master tenant demanded I pay from the first. He thought I'd said some things during our interview discussions to indicate that I'd pay from the first. I don't think even think the things he claims were said would have set that expectation: When I first saw the place Apr 26, he said that he wanted to get it filled ASAP - with someone who could take it from the 1st if possible. He asked when I could move, and I said I didn't have to give 30 days notice, and yes I could afford to pay double rent for the time it took to move my stuff. We didn't discuss a lease/occupancy time period other than him requiring (and me verbally agreeing in principle to, that is saying "I'd be ok with") a 1-2 month mutual no-bad-feelings trial period, and a stated monthly rent. Also, he mentioned wanting a tenant to move in ASAP, by the 1st if possible. Seems to me that if you expect someone to pay rent from before they move in, your expectation isn't reasonable if you have no rental agreement, no rent in hand, no clear oral agreement, and the delayed move is because the room is fully occupied and needs to be cleared out. I don't want to live with someone who is so unclear on the distinction between what he wants and what others agree to provide, and so adamantly asserts his needs as primary. (There were prior warning signs I knew about (e.g. loud arguing and violent behavior toward a lover, and an incident where he put his needs first, above those of the group) but talks with the roommates had for a time convinced me he wasn't excessively demanding of others and a good communicator.) Because this particular kind of personality conflict (over unreasonable expectations) is very bothersome to me, I don't want to move in anymore, as I feel it's likely to recur often, and told him that. He is repeatedly calling, chatting, and emailing (on and off Facebook), telling me not to f*** him, to not s***w him over, and not mess up his relationship with his landlord, and is insistent that pay him a month's rent because I agreed to move in. SHOULD I pay? If so, what? There's nothing material in writing - just him offering the place, the rent, and me texting that I wanted to move in. No consideration has changed hands, and I don't think there was a 'meeting of the minds' for an oral agreement either. I ask because he is so adamant that I pay that I'm questioning my own judgement. I'm also curious about any legal thoughts or opinion, but we have friends in common, so a legal answer that doesn't take ethics into consideration isn't what I'm looking for. Legally, everything is in my favor: no written agreement, no oral agreement, no consideration, and < $1000 in question. Venue: California. So legally, it's a no-brainer, IMO. I think there's a decent argument that I pay for three days rent - from when I said I would move in 'till I realized the terms were not agreeable - and that a perfect gentleman would offer to pay that - and that a perfect gentleman would refuse the payment. Should I pay that? What do you think I should do, and why? Debdeb: "The guy who is actually preventing you from moving in sooner thinks you should pay for 8 days of the month that he occupied your room. Is that right?" Yup. Just to be complete, I should mention that after a lengthy battle (several long phone calls) he did say that though I needed to pay the full rent now, he'd give me back $100 or so, or more if he was able to rent it out before the end of the month. And after I got so fed up I said I wasn't moving in, he did offer to accept just the rent from the 9th to the end of the month. <sarcasm>Generous, don't you think?</sarcasm> Anyway, thanks for the reality check. I really appreciate it.
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I think you'd be nuts if you did move in! You don't owe him anything. He's crazy out of control, and you don't need his drama. Do not pay him anything. To pay him anything at this point would be an admission that you agreed to move in under whatever conditions he's currently claiming exist. Change your phone number and whatever else you have to change so he can no longer pester you.
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There's a lot of words there, but what I think I see is that you agreed to move into the room on May 9, expecting to pay partial rent in May starting that day. Nothing is signed. The guy who is actually preventing you from moving in sooner thinks you should pay for 8 days of the month that he occupied your room. Is that right? He wants to fill the room by May 1 if possible, but he won't be out of it until May 8. What am I missing here? How could anyone think you should pay for the time when he prevented you from occupying the room? I don't think you owe anything, and I'd stay away from this demanding bozo.
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Short version: We never agreed on terms, and I never moved in. His demands were nuts, so I backed out. Do I owe anything at all? Long version: I thought I'd agreed to move in to a shared 5 bedroom house with 4 existing roommates, into a room that would be available once the master tenant moved out and into another room. I met with the last potential roommate and told the master tenant I wanted to move in, and we settled on giving him a week ('till the 9th of May) to move rooms and I expected to move in and pay rent from that date. Yesterday (Monday, May 3) I went over to drop off a check to seal the deal, and the master tenant demanded I pay from the first. He thought I'd said some things during our interview discussions to indicate that I'd pay from the first. I don't think even think the things he claims were said would have set that expectation: When I first saw the place Apr 26, he said that he wanted to get it filled ASAP - with someone who could take it from the 1st if possible. He asked when I could move, and I said I didn't have to give 30 days notice, and yes I could afford to pay double rent for the time it took to move my stuff. We didn't discuss a lease/occupancy time period other than him requiring (and me verbally agreeing in principle to, that is saying "I'd be ok with") a 1-2 month mutual no-bad-feelings trial period, and a stated monthly rent. Also, he mentioned wanting a tenant to move in ASAP, by the 1st if possible. Seems to me that if you expect someone to pay rent from before they move in, your expectation isn't reasonable if you have no rental agreement, no rent in hand, no clear oral agreement, and the delayed move is because the room is fully occupied and needs to be cleared out. I don't want to live with someone who is so unclear on the distinction between what he wants and what others agree to provide, and so adamantly asserts his needs as primary. (There were prior warning signs I knew about (e.g. loud arguing and violent behavior toward a lover, and an incident where he put his needs first, above those of the group) but talks with the roommates had for a time convinced me he wasn't excessively demanding of others and a good communicator.) Because this particular kind of personality conflict (over unreasonable expectations) is very bothersome to me, I don't want to move in anymore, as I feel it's likely to recur often, and told him that. He is repeatedly calling, chatting, and emailing (on and off Facebook), telling me not to f*** him, to not s***w him over, and not mess up his relationship with his landlord, and is insistent that pay him a month's rent because I agreed to move in. SHOULD I pay? If so, what? There's nothing material in writing - just him offering the place, the rent, and me texting that I wanted to move in. No consideration has changed hands, and I don't think there was a 'meeting of the minds' for an oral agreement either. I ask because he is so adamant that I pay that I'm questioning my own judgement. I'm also curious about any legal thoughts or opinion, but we have friends in common, so a legal answer that doesn't take ethics into consideration isn't what I'm looking for. Legally, everything is in my favor: no written agreement, no oral agreement, no consideration, and < $1000 in question. Venue: California. So legally, it's a no-brainer, IMO. I think there's a decent argument that I pay for three days rent - from when I said I would move in 'till I realized the terms were not agreeable - and that a perfect gentleman would offer to pay that - and that a perfect gentleman would refuse the payment. Should I pay that? What do you think I should do, and why? Debdeb: "The guy who is actually preventing you from moving in sooner thinks you should pay for 8 days of the month that he occupied your room. Is that right?" Yup. Just to be complete, I should mention that after a lengthy battle (several long phone calls) he did say that though I needed to pay the full rent now, he'd give me back $100 or so, or more if he was able to rent it out before the end of the month. And after I got so fed up I said I wasn't moving in, he did offer to accept just the rent from the 9th to the end of the month. <sarcasm>Generous, don't you think?</sarcasm> Anyway, thanks for the reality check. I really appreciate it.
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I think you'd be nuts if you did move in! You don't owe him anything. He's crazy out of control, and you don't need his drama. Do not pay him anything. To pay him anything at this point would be an admission that you agreed to move in under whatever conditions he's currently claiming exist. Change your phone number and whatever else you have to change so he can no longer pester you.
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There's a lot of words there, but what I think I see is that you agreed to move into the room on May 9, expecting to pay partial rent in May starting that day. Nothing is signed. The guy who is actually preventing you from moving in sooner thinks you should pay for 8 days of the month that he occupied your room. Is that right? He wants to fill the room by May 1 if possible, but he won't be out of it until May 8. What am I missing here? How could anyone think you should pay for the time when he prevented you from occupying the room? I don't think you owe anything, and I'd stay away from this demanding bozo.
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Thursday, October 7, 2010
need motivation and people's opinion?
need motivation and people's opinion?
okay,this may be long but I hope someone can help. So I'm a community college student and I am on this "crossroad" dilemma. I apply to transfer to a 4 year university in California after being at a community college for 3 years. I am already got in to 1 and I'm on my last 2 weeks waiting for 4 more admission decisions. As I wait for these decisions, I have been thinking about my life within the last 3 years after high school graduation. The last 3 years have been weird. What happen is that i live a sort of uncommon life in comparison to my friends to my friends and peers. I dedicate myself to my studies these days that I happen to become a loner. I rarely go out with friends anymore. And some of group of friends that I kind of wish I could spend more time have a flaw: they're friends with an ex-girlfriend of mine. I have low paying job since I want to get a car but the only problem is I only work once a week and finding a better paying job are away and definitely need a car. Almost all my peers have cars and they're enjoying the heck out of their lives. From my observation is that I feel that I'm missing out the fun in my early 20's. First of all, my closest friends don't go to college and they work. So I can't discuss school related stuff as often. Plus,they're into video games, which I'm not. Another draw back is that those who do go to school (community college or university) are not majoring in science so I feel the weird one. I love science because of the fact that while its difficult,I'm actually learning stuff. Not to criticize liberal art majors but the harder courses make you think "outside the box" like in calculus or chemistry (funny thing though is that I need some psychological help in my question;irony,lol!). Anyways, the biggest problem I have is when people ask me why I don't have a girlfriend. Now, I have dated about once or twice but at those times, I just felt uncomfortable being with another person. I just didn't felt in the mood of a relationship; I didn't have feelings for that person. So it bugs me when some of my friends (guy or girl) ask me why I'm not in one. For me, I feel that I want to transfer out to a good school because I don't want to work in low paying job as I am right now;I really care about education and it saddens me that some just view it as a chore or something. But while my friends respect my decision, my ex-girlfriends ask me the same question. At this point, I am like "wth???why do you care?". What happen is that I use to try to get her back with me for 2 years after she broke up with me. So I decided that once she was in college,I will never ever talk to her again (in person). We have always been friends online since we broke up but we have added and deleted each other several times. The last time she deleted me, I decided I will not be Mr. Nice Guy anymore. She added me again in December but I vow not to chat her on facebook. She has always started the conversation the few times I spoke to her in Fb. But the last 2 times she kept mentioning "her man" and that she was serious about him and she was going to drop out of college for him (her current boyfriend is about to graduate next year and they plan to come back to California since she is at Iowa). And while I could care less now, yesterday she ask about "any lucky gals out there for me?" after she had mention her bf many times before. It feels she is rubbing it in my face because she knows I was in deep love for her 3 years ago. So in essence,I am asking what should I do about my life as I go on with my life.Should I work hard to get a car(I don't think I need a car since I plan to dorm when I transfer)?What should I do with my closest friends(should I try to be into video games because that's like the one thing they're super into)?what should I do with my ex-girlfriend(I wanted to delete her on Facebook but I want to show that I'm stronger than her and that I have move on. Seriously, I feel like I'm competing against her. I don't care about relationships right now because I have not gotten that feeling to be someone yet.EEERRR,but I want to show that the day she left me was her biggest mistake(btw,the break up was on 2008)). I can wait to transfer out so I can finally meet some people with the same interest like me and possibly find a good girl that cares about me.
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It's a long read. First, don't look back. Stop thinking about the past three years. Instead focus on the next three years. About your friends: If your friends have different interests than yours, then try to look for new friends that shares the same interest as you are. Remember, birds of a same feather flocks together, so it's understandable that you will not be compelled to stick with your old friends. About your ex-girlfriend: Move on. Meet someone else. The easiest way to get him out of your mind is to meet someone else. About motivation: Set a goal. If you think you need to get a car to get yourself motivated, then do it. Don't let yourself get distracted by things. I recommend reading the link below to get you more motivated.
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okay,this may be long but I hope someone can help. So I'm a community college student and I am on this "crossroad" dilemma. I apply to transfer to a 4 year university in California after being at a community college for 3 years. I am already got in to 1 and I'm on my last 2 weeks waiting for 4 more admission decisions. As I wait for these decisions, I have been thinking about my life within the last 3 years after high school graduation. The last 3 years have been weird. What happen is that i live a sort of uncommon life in comparison to my friends to my friends and peers. I dedicate myself to my studies these days that I happen to become a loner. I rarely go out with friends anymore. And some of group of friends that I kind of wish I could spend more time have a flaw: they're friends with an ex-girlfriend of mine. I have low paying job since I want to get a car but the only problem is I only work once a week and finding a better paying job are away and definitely need a car. Almost all my peers have cars and they're enjoying the heck out of their lives. From my observation is that I feel that I'm missing out the fun in my early 20's. First of all, my closest friends don't go to college and they work. So I can't discuss school related stuff as often. Plus,they're into video games, which I'm not. Another draw back is that those who do go to school (community college or university) are not majoring in science so I feel the weird one. I love science because of the fact that while its difficult,I'm actually learning stuff. Not to criticize liberal art majors but the harder courses make you think "outside the box" like in calculus or chemistry (funny thing though is that I need some psychological help in my question;irony,lol!). Anyways, the biggest problem I have is when people ask me why I don't have a girlfriend. Now, I have dated about once or twice but at those times, I just felt uncomfortable being with another person. I just didn't felt in the mood of a relationship; I didn't have feelings for that person. So it bugs me when some of my friends (guy or girl) ask me why I'm not in one. For me, I feel that I want to transfer out to a good school because I don't want to work in low paying job as I am right now;I really care about education and it saddens me that some just view it as a chore or something. But while my friends respect my decision, my ex-girlfriends ask me the same question. At this point, I am like "wth???why do you care?". What happen is that I use to try to get her back with me for 2 years after she broke up with me. So I decided that once she was in college,I will never ever talk to her again (in person). We have always been friends online since we broke up but we have added and deleted each other several times. The last time she deleted me, I decided I will not be Mr. Nice Guy anymore. She added me again in December but I vow not to chat her on facebook. She has always started the conversation the few times I spoke to her in Fb. But the last 2 times she kept mentioning "her man" and that she was serious about him and she was going to drop out of college for him (her current boyfriend is about to graduate next year and they plan to come back to California since she is at Iowa). And while I could care less now, yesterday she ask about "any lucky gals out there for me?" after she had mention her bf many times before. It feels she is rubbing it in my face because she knows I was in deep love for her 3 years ago. So in essence,I am asking what should I do about my life as I go on with my life.Should I work hard to get a car(I don't think I need a car since I plan to dorm when I transfer)?What should I do with my closest friends(should I try to be into video games because that's like the one thing they're super into)?what should I do with my ex-girlfriend(I wanted to delete her on Facebook but I want to show that I'm stronger than her and that I have move on. Seriously, I feel like I'm competing against her. I don't care about relationships right now because I have not gotten that feeling to be someone yet.EEERRR,but I want to show that the day she left me was her biggest mistake(btw,the break up was on 2008)). I can wait to transfer out so I can finally meet some people with the same interest like me and possibly find a good girl that cares about me.
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It's a long read. First, don't look back. Stop thinking about the past three years. Instead focus on the next three years. About your friends: If your friends have different interests than yours, then try to look for new friends that shares the same interest as you are. Remember, birds of a same feather flocks together, so it's understandable that you will not be compelled to stick with your old friends. About your ex-girlfriend: Move on. Meet someone else. The easiest way to get him out of your mind is to meet someone else. About motivation: Set a goal. If you think you need to get a car to get yourself motivated, then do it. Don't let yourself get distracted by things. I recommend reading the link below to get you more motivated.
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Friday, October 1, 2010
(Long details) Is my wife over-reacting to me removing her on Facebook or did she get what she deserves?
(Long details) Is my wife over-reacting to me removing her on Facebook or did she get what she deserves?
My wife is a total pedant. She doesn't want me commenting on ANYTHING she posts and she doesn't want me posting on her wall. I told her that if she doesn't want me posting anything in her "personal space" then she should put privacy filters up so I can't see it. She refuses to and she just expects me to "behave myself". I'll violate her "rules of Facebook" by posting a remark on her stuff that's meant to be funny. She can't see the sense of humor in it and she calls it "passive-aggressive" because she sees it as "inappropriate" yet the teasing I do is the same teasing everyone else does online in our circle of friends. Yesterday, my wife posted a status shuffle about needing more coffee. It was meant as a joke to everyone reading it. I posted a comment "Typical Morning" as a way to poke fun that she always feels this way. Since she can't laugh at her flaws due to some incredibly low self esteem (that she's doing nothing for but whining) she raged. So I deleted the comment. Then I went to her wall and posted on her wall "OMG! I just posted something on your wall! lololololololololol". Then I commented on it saying "OMG! I just commented on the post that I put on your wall lolololololololololol" and then after I knew she saw it I deleted it when she told me it wasn't funny and got extremely angry. Finally I said "what's the point of having you on my friends list if I can't enjoy your company?" and I blocked her. I did NOT like the solution I made for this argument but if she was unwilling to put filters up and if she's unwilling to go to marriage counseling for HER issues (I'm in therapy so I'm working out mine already) then I think I made the only solution available. Personally I feel the entire thing is immature and just more ways she's trying to control me (this isn't the only thing she does to prove she's more important than me). Since I've blocked her, she's accusing me of not seeing her point of view. I see her point of view just fine, she's fragile because of her low self esteem and because she's fragile she expects me to follow these pedantic rules to give her a good public image on her Facebook wall so her friends can like her more and it will boost her image. But this is a childish way of looking at things, she shouldn't have artificial self esteem by bolstering it with Facebook and FAKE friends so I stood my ground because this is about the way SHE treats ME on the social network and rather than have retarded problems that didn't exist until Facebook and MySpace came around, I'd rather just end communications this way so she can have her Facebook and I can have mine. If you watched the Social Network movie, my wife's behavior is very similar to the Asian girl that Eduardo was dating while Mark was in California... After she got off work, she gave me a 4 hour silent treatment (more psychological aggression). I asked her if she wanted to talk this through and she asked "did you unblock me from Facebook" and I told her "No, that's what we need to talk about" and she said "Well, then I have nothing to discuss right now since I'm not married any more"... I knew what she was doing is using this as a guilt trip (more psychological aggression) so that she could win this argument without having to tell me she was sorry for being oversensitive and for controlling me... Finally she's headed to bed 1 hour earlier than usual just so she can avoid our inevitable discussion; but before she closes and LOCKS the door (isolation, another psychological aggression) she said "Oh, I guess you can sleep on the couch because I only sleep in my bed with my husband. And according to Facebook I'm single". So she's using the relationship as a weapon against me aggressively. Sure, she may not be raising her voice, sure she may not be hitting me, and I understand the cops wouldn't see this as spouse abuse because "this is what women do"; but this doesn't mean that manipulation is EVER okay. What she is trying to do is manipulate me and guilt me for something that I feel I have 100% valid reason to act the way that I did. This all would have never happened if she didn't take this VIRTUAL REALITY seriously. If she took my marriage with her as serious as she takes Facebook and what her friends think, then I bet she and I would live happily ever after. I've closed my Facebook account several times during arguments like this proving I don't need it to be happy; but then I lost all my friends and had to start all over when I realized she didn't want resolution in the marriage..... My wife DOES NOT want a divorce, but I don't know a man that would put up with have the crap that I do... What's your thoughts on the matter? I have my friends, she has hers. Both of our friends don't use emails any more or their phones, they do ALL of their event planning and ALL of their communication on Facebook so getting rid of our Facebook would eliminate our social life with others (which in my opinion is just fine because the only person who matters is my wife but she can't seem to reciprocate that feeling). As far as me posting things on her wall, I have done loving stuff too and she'll ask me to take it down. I'd put "I love you" on her wall and she would reciprocate it or even "like" it. The marriage isn't that much different off Facebook either, I will do something nice for her, like rub her back or pop the zits on her face or back, and she will NEVER reciprocate the gesture. If all I had to do was NOT communicate with her, then why does she need to be my Facebook friend? Seems like dead weight and like she's only using her access to my wall as a snooping service to see if I'm keeping secrets or not. Well she h Correction to a typo she WOULDN'T reciprocate an "I love you" on her wall. To Booban - The reply could have been "I love you" instead of "Typical Morning" and she would have seen it as an insult. The fact I clicked the "comment" button set her off. She almost 100% denies my existence to keep a positive (fake) front with her friends. By the way, up until 2010 I've been known for being a pessimist. But since I've been to therapy in 2010 (mid 2010 at that) I've been 100% optimistic. She's the one that's construing it and bending it the wrong way. Typical morning was supposed to be a joke implying that her needing a second cup of coffee is very usual for her.
Marriage & Divorce - 10 Answers
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maybe conduct your married life AWAY from facebook might be a good start
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Who cares what SHE wants...do YOU want a divorce? I'm pretty sure I'd be seeing a lawyer. My partner knows how to have fun, or I wouldn't be married to him. Sounds like your wife can't even spell "fun", so she'd be history.
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I went threw the same crap, you know what I did? I told her that since I can't post anything on your wall (hmmm maybe she's hiding something) then whats the sense on having a fb account? I went on and sent all of my friends my email address and deactivated my account. I don't care what she does and she can no longer watch what I do. good luck, seems like we both have control freaks to deal with.
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Raven could not have said it more perfectly. I truly believe that sites such as facebook and friends reunited etc only bring trouble. Neither my husband or I bother with them as we are happy in the real world.
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1. Your wife, the one you are suppose to cherish, doesn't appreciate your jokes. 2. She has politely asked you not to post your 'jokes'. You have refused. You think it's funny. You poke fun of something that hurts her feelings. She has opened herself up to you to let you know what hurts her the most yet you continue to use it against her. 3. You are being immature for refusing to grow up and stop posting your 'jokes'. Your wife is embarrassed by your immaturity on facebook for the world to see. She loves you, wants to be married to you, she just doesn't want to be embarrassed by you. 4. If you would shut the F up on facebook - a very simple thing to do, you could live happily ever after
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Your wife is childish and so is the fact that you guys are fighting over this. I just don't understand what the problem is in posting on her wall. So what does she want? she just want's to be friends with you, but have nothing to do with you??? she is immature. Let her relise she is wrong.
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Facebook is a home wreck.I suggest u too stay away from facebook It is a step 2wards avoiding the pending doom of your marriage.
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Here's a solution to the facebook problem - both of you cancel your profiles. It's stupid anyway. Just because you block her doesn't mean that the facebook issue will be resolved. It will just turn into her complaining that she can't see your profile, accusing that you must be flirting with some woman on there, blah blah blah. Do yourselves a favor and can the stupid online game and get into couples/marriage counseling.
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Ok, I'm not going to read the whole thing. I stopped where you childishly blocked her. How old are both of you? Sounds like you're in high school to me. Jeeezus, it's facebook. Get a grip and grow up.
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What did you mean by "Typical morning"?. It seems that she is grumpy without coffee and in a bad moon in the morning and argue? Maybe you are negative to her very often and she now is very sensitive to your attitude towards her because there is constant friction between the two of you. If you are negative all the time and never positive, the next little thing can set anybody off. You display possible issues in your relationship to you openly and purposely embarrass her. Remember, she is your wife, not your regular net buddies who think its funny to tease each other. Maybe her anxiety for the state of her relationship to you is founded on something real. Maybe if you solve these deeper issues, she will more immune to a little ribbing. You psycho analyze her, but not your own actions? Instead of 'typical morning' maybe you should have written "I'll get your some coffee honey'.
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My wife is a total pedant. She doesn't want me commenting on ANYTHING she posts and she doesn't want me posting on her wall. I told her that if she doesn't want me posting anything in her "personal space" then she should put privacy filters up so I can't see it. She refuses to and she just expects me to "behave myself". I'll violate her "rules of Facebook" by posting a remark on her stuff that's meant to be funny. She can't see the sense of humor in it and she calls it "passive-aggressive" because she sees it as "inappropriate" yet the teasing I do is the same teasing everyone else does online in our circle of friends. Yesterday, my wife posted a status shuffle about needing more coffee. It was meant as a joke to everyone reading it. I posted a comment "Typical Morning" as a way to poke fun that she always feels this way. Since she can't laugh at her flaws due to some incredibly low self esteem (that she's doing nothing for but whining) she raged. So I deleted the comment. Then I went to her wall and posted on her wall "OMG! I just posted something on your wall! lololololololololol". Then I commented on it saying "OMG! I just commented on the post that I put on your wall lolololololololololol" and then after I knew she saw it I deleted it when she told me it wasn't funny and got extremely angry. Finally I said "what's the point of having you on my friends list if I can't enjoy your company?" and I blocked her. I did NOT like the solution I made for this argument but if she was unwilling to put filters up and if she's unwilling to go to marriage counseling for HER issues (I'm in therapy so I'm working out mine already) then I think I made the only solution available. Personally I feel the entire thing is immature and just more ways she's trying to control me (this isn't the only thing she does to prove she's more important than me). Since I've blocked her, she's accusing me of not seeing her point of view. I see her point of view just fine, she's fragile because of her low self esteem and because she's fragile she expects me to follow these pedantic rules to give her a good public image on her Facebook wall so her friends can like her more and it will boost her image. But this is a childish way of looking at things, she shouldn't have artificial self esteem by bolstering it with Facebook and FAKE friends so I stood my ground because this is about the way SHE treats ME on the social network and rather than have retarded problems that didn't exist until Facebook and MySpace came around, I'd rather just end communications this way so she can have her Facebook and I can have mine. If you watched the Social Network movie, my wife's behavior is very similar to the Asian girl that Eduardo was dating while Mark was in California... After she got off work, she gave me a 4 hour silent treatment (more psychological aggression). I asked her if she wanted to talk this through and she asked "did you unblock me from Facebook" and I told her "No, that's what we need to talk about" and she said "Well, then I have nothing to discuss right now since I'm not married any more"... I knew what she was doing is using this as a guilt trip (more psychological aggression) so that she could win this argument without having to tell me she was sorry for being oversensitive and for controlling me... Finally she's headed to bed 1 hour earlier than usual just so she can avoid our inevitable discussion; but before she closes and LOCKS the door (isolation, another psychological aggression) she said "Oh, I guess you can sleep on the couch because I only sleep in my bed with my husband. And according to Facebook I'm single". So she's using the relationship as a weapon against me aggressively. Sure, she may not be raising her voice, sure she may not be hitting me, and I understand the cops wouldn't see this as spouse abuse because "this is what women do"; but this doesn't mean that manipulation is EVER okay. What she is trying to do is manipulate me and guilt me for something that I feel I have 100% valid reason to act the way that I did. This all would have never happened if she didn't take this VIRTUAL REALITY seriously. If she took my marriage with her as serious as she takes Facebook and what her friends think, then I bet she and I would live happily ever after. I've closed my Facebook account several times during arguments like this proving I don't need it to be happy; but then I lost all my friends and had to start all over when I realized she didn't want resolution in the marriage..... My wife DOES NOT want a divorce, but I don't know a man that would put up with have the crap that I do... What's your thoughts on the matter? I have my friends, she has hers. Both of our friends don't use emails any more or their phones, they do ALL of their event planning and ALL of their communication on Facebook so getting rid of our Facebook would eliminate our social life with others (which in my opinion is just fine because the only person who matters is my wife but she can't seem to reciprocate that feeling). As far as me posting things on her wall, I have done loving stuff too and she'll ask me to take it down. I'd put "I love you" on her wall and she would reciprocate it or even "like" it. The marriage isn't that much different off Facebook either, I will do something nice for her, like rub her back or pop the zits on her face or back, and she will NEVER reciprocate the gesture. If all I had to do was NOT communicate with her, then why does she need to be my Facebook friend? Seems like dead weight and like she's only using her access to my wall as a snooping service to see if I'm keeping secrets or not. Well she h Correction to a typo she WOULDN'T reciprocate an "I love you" on her wall. To Booban - The reply could have been "I love you" instead of "Typical Morning" and she would have seen it as an insult. The fact I clicked the "comment" button set her off. She almost 100% denies my existence to keep a positive (fake) front with her friends. By the way, up until 2010 I've been known for being a pessimist. But since I've been to therapy in 2010 (mid 2010 at that) I've been 100% optimistic. She's the one that's construing it and bending it the wrong way. Typical morning was supposed to be a joke implying that her needing a second cup of coffee is very usual for her.
Marriage & Divorce - 10 Answers
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maybe conduct your married life AWAY from facebook might be a good start
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Who cares what SHE wants...do YOU want a divorce? I'm pretty sure I'd be seeing a lawyer. My partner knows how to have fun, or I wouldn't be married to him. Sounds like your wife can't even spell "fun", so she'd be history.
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I went threw the same crap, you know what I did? I told her that since I can't post anything on your wall (hmmm maybe she's hiding something) then whats the sense on having a fb account? I went on and sent all of my friends my email address and deactivated my account. I don't care what she does and she can no longer watch what I do. good luck, seems like we both have control freaks to deal with.
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Raven could not have said it more perfectly. I truly believe that sites such as facebook and friends reunited etc only bring trouble. Neither my husband or I bother with them as we are happy in the real world.
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1. Your wife, the one you are suppose to cherish, doesn't appreciate your jokes. 2. She has politely asked you not to post your 'jokes'. You have refused. You think it's funny. You poke fun of something that hurts her feelings. She has opened herself up to you to let you know what hurts her the most yet you continue to use it against her. 3. You are being immature for refusing to grow up and stop posting your 'jokes'. Your wife is embarrassed by your immaturity on facebook for the world to see. She loves you, wants to be married to you, she just doesn't want to be embarrassed by you. 4. If you would shut the F up on facebook - a very simple thing to do, you could live happily ever after
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Your wife is childish and so is the fact that you guys are fighting over this. I just don't understand what the problem is in posting on her wall. So what does she want? she just want's to be friends with you, but have nothing to do with you??? she is immature. Let her relise she is wrong.
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Facebook is a home wreck.I suggest u too stay away from facebook It is a step 2wards avoiding the pending doom of your marriage.
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Here's a solution to the facebook problem - both of you cancel your profiles. It's stupid anyway. Just because you block her doesn't mean that the facebook issue will be resolved. It will just turn into her complaining that she can't see your profile, accusing that you must be flirting with some woman on there, blah blah blah. Do yourselves a favor and can the stupid online game and get into couples/marriage counseling.
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Ok, I'm not going to read the whole thing. I stopped where you childishly blocked her. How old are both of you? Sounds like you're in high school to me. Jeeezus, it's facebook. Get a grip and grow up.
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What did you mean by "Typical morning"?. It seems that she is grumpy without coffee and in a bad moon in the morning and argue? Maybe you are negative to her very often and she now is very sensitive to your attitude towards her because there is constant friction between the two of you. If you are negative all the time and never positive, the next little thing can set anybody off. You display possible issues in your relationship to you openly and purposely embarrass her. Remember, she is your wife, not your regular net buddies who think its funny to tease each other. Maybe her anxiety for the state of her relationship to you is founded on something real. Maybe if you solve these deeper issues, she will more immune to a little ribbing. You psycho analyze her, but not your own actions? Instead of 'typical morning' maybe you should have written "I'll get your some coffee honey'.
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Tuesday, September 28, 2010
??help! SExual predator?
??help! SExual predator?
This HOT guy that had no mutual friends with me on facebook, but I accepted him because he was so HOT!! And at first I believed that he was real(Hi i know I'm a bit naive) until things just stopped making sense. I'm not stupid and when he told me he was a model i realized he was completely BSing ! lol Because I know that a model, and working guy(as he claims) wouldn't be on facebook 24/7!!And when I asked him wat he modeled for he was very abstract and changed the subject. And he told me he lives in new york and then he gave me his number and told me to txt him, which i didn't, but I searched th number and it turns out to be an area code from California! I'm 17 and I plan to stay completely celibate till marriage and it creeped me out when he was discussing alot of sexual things with me, and offered to send me graphic pictures. CREEPY MUCH??!! What do u think about this?
Friends - 5 Answers
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well duh almost everyone lies over teh internet. if this bugs you then just delete him. problem solved not a big deal.
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delete all contact with him. please. its so simple. so just do it.
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yeah so? he's a weirdo.. just delete him from your friends. you;re not the only girl he's probably stalking. he wont notice. and what can he do?
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Delete him or trick him into meetingyou somewhere and have his a** kicked all over town cause thats what pervs like him deserve. I would do it for free if it was near me.
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See, here's the thing. Poor spelling and grammar leads sexual predators to believe that you are some dumb chick, and will be easy to get. Take an english class. Read a book. And don't add someone you don't know on facebook because he's "HOT!" and he claims he's a model
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This HOT guy that had no mutual friends with me on facebook, but I accepted him because he was so HOT!! And at first I believed that he was real(Hi i know I'm a bit naive) until things just stopped making sense. I'm not stupid and when he told me he was a model i realized he was completely BSing ! lol Because I know that a model, and working guy(as he claims) wouldn't be on facebook 24/7!!And when I asked him wat he modeled for he was very abstract and changed the subject. And he told me he lives in new york and then he gave me his number and told me to txt him, which i didn't, but I searched th number and it turns out to be an area code from California! I'm 17 and I plan to stay completely celibate till marriage and it creeped me out when he was discussing alot of sexual things with me, and offered to send me graphic pictures. CREEPY MUCH??!! What do u think about this?
Friends - 5 Answers
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well duh almost everyone lies over teh internet. if this bugs you then just delete him. problem solved not a big deal.
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delete all contact with him. please. its so simple. so just do it.
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yeah so? he's a weirdo.. just delete him from your friends. you;re not the only girl he's probably stalking. he wont notice. and what can he do?
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Delete him or trick him into meetingyou somewhere and have his a** kicked all over town cause thats what pervs like him deserve. I would do it for free if it was near me.
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See, here's the thing. Poor spelling and grammar leads sexual predators to believe that you are some dumb chick, and will be easy to get. Take an english class. Read a book. And don't add someone you don't know on facebook because he's "HOT!" and he claims he's a model
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Tuesday, September 14, 2010
Have I handled this situation well so far? And how should I continue?
Have I handled this situation well so far? And how should I continue?
So this is the shorter version of the long story. I have been talking to this guy John since June, so it has been four months. We never did anything sexual, we were literally just talking, getting to know each other, etc (we were long distance, so it was impossible to have sex LOL). It had been going very well, except for one minor situation where he forgot to call me when he said he would. On sunday night, an anonymous twitter account tagged me and this girl named Sarah, in a tweet. This mention led us to find out that we were talking to the same guy. Now, this guy had twitter, and back in July, 3 months ago, he tweeted me in response to a tweet of my own saying he wanted to be my boyfriend. I didn't take it seriously, but clearly, he had an interest in me. He never updated his twitter since then. So I was his top tweet for the last 3 months. So she must have had seen this within the last three months if she talks to him. Basically, she has been talking to him for 10 months. She said they do everything that a typical couple does such as spending time together, having sex, and they tell each other "I Love You". BUT-- she says that the reason they are not together is because he says "he's not ready for a relationship and doesn't want to ruin their friendship." ----My opinion? She is just his jump off; and he clearly doesn't want to commit to her. I have a ton of guy friends and from what I know that's the oldest line in the book! If he really loved her and wanted to be with her, he would. Especially after almost a whole year. She was very diplomatic about the whole thing, but in one of our messages she said "Well dont get me wrong but come on he plays football and your all the way in New York did u really think that he was goin to be talkin to one girl? NO DISRESPECT AT ALL just askin a question?" Now, I had a feeling he had been talking to girls besides me, just as I had been chatting with a few other guys. But what I find funny is that she's saying that of course hes going to talk to someone closer since I'm all the way in New York. Yet, she is in the same state as him, a 45 minute drive....so WHY is he talking to someone else? What does that say about her? I have been talking to John for 4 months, which means that we started talking while they were at 6 months. What does that tell her? She obviously wasn't fulfilling all his wants and needs in a female, so he went and looked for someone else. Another thing that I find interesting is that her facebook is set to "In a relationship" and his says "single". ... All her little friends are saying shit like I'm a side chick, and I'm a hoe, and "every dog is gone have his fleas". But EXCUSE ME, You aren't even a relationship with him in the first place! And Im not having sex with him so I'm definitely not a whore. And he calls me everyday, so I'm not "on the side." So after I discussed all of this with her, I talked to him on facebook chat, and I asked why he deleted the status about me from twitter. He did not answer me as he went idle so he probably wasn't at his computer. I put up a status on facebook that says "I don't fuck with people who can't keep it 100, It's as simple as that." The next morning, I was on facebook chat and he responded from the night before, saying "he had to delete it". I said "okay, whatever, bye." Then, He blocked me on facebook! So I texted him, asking why, and he said that there was too many people coming at him with bullshit. I guess that her and her friends went psycho on him because I ain't do shit! I've been keeping it very mature and very diplomatic. I said "so what are just never gone speak again" and he said "I'm gone speak, I'm just waiting until I find out cause it's some bullshit going on." I respected that. I didn't talk to him after that text, until about 9 last night, when I left him a voicemail. In the voicemail I said to him: "Listen, I want to let you know that I wasn't mad about the fact that you were talking to another girl, I was mad about the fact that you lied about it. I really wouldn't have been bothered by it because we were not in a relationship. I understand that you have a lot going on with school and football, so give me a call back when you're ready to talk." He did not call me back, so this morning I texted him saying "Good morning, I hope you have a better day today. Even though what you did was disrespectful I still want to try to at least work it out, cause I'm not the type to just throw someone away and I was starting to care about you." He wrote me back, saying "We will talk about that later." and i said "yea I understand." I am very prooud of myself for not chasing him, or acting hurt, or acting needy! Sooo I gue
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If that is short, I don't want to see the long one. To long to read shorten it and you might get answers.
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So this is the shorter version of the long story. I have been talking to this guy John since June, so it has been four months. We never did anything sexual, we were literally just talking, getting to know each other, etc (we were long distance, so it was impossible to have sex LOL). It had been going very well, except for one minor situation where he forgot to call me when he said he would. On sunday night, an anonymous twitter account tagged me and this girl named Sarah, in a tweet. This mention led us to find out that we were talking to the same guy. Now, this guy had twitter, and back in July, 3 months ago, he tweeted me in response to a tweet of my own saying he wanted to be my boyfriend. I didn't take it seriously, but clearly, he had an interest in me. He never updated his twitter since then. So I was his top tweet for the last 3 months. So she must have had seen this within the last three months if she talks to him. Basically, she has been talking to him for 10 months. She said they do everything that a typical couple does such as spending time together, having sex, and they tell each other "I Love You". BUT-- she says that the reason they are not together is because he says "he's not ready for a relationship and doesn't want to ruin their friendship." ----My opinion? She is just his jump off; and he clearly doesn't want to commit to her. I have a ton of guy friends and from what I know that's the oldest line in the book! If he really loved her and wanted to be with her, he would. Especially after almost a whole year. She was very diplomatic about the whole thing, but in one of our messages she said "Well dont get me wrong but come on he plays football and your all the way in New York did u really think that he was goin to be talkin to one girl? NO DISRESPECT AT ALL just askin a question?" Now, I had a feeling he had been talking to girls besides me, just as I had been chatting with a few other guys. But what I find funny is that she's saying that of course hes going to talk to someone closer since I'm all the way in New York. Yet, she is in the same state as him, a 45 minute drive....so WHY is he talking to someone else? What does that say about her? I have been talking to John for 4 months, which means that we started talking while they were at 6 months. What does that tell her? She obviously wasn't fulfilling all his wants and needs in a female, so he went and looked for someone else. Another thing that I find interesting is that her facebook is set to "In a relationship" and his says "single". ... All her little friends are saying shit like I'm a side chick, and I'm a hoe, and "every dog is gone have his fleas". But EXCUSE ME, You aren't even a relationship with him in the first place! And Im not having sex with him so I'm definitely not a whore. And he calls me everyday, so I'm not "on the side." So after I discussed all of this with her, I talked to him on facebook chat, and I asked why he deleted the status about me from twitter. He did not answer me as he went idle so he probably wasn't at his computer. I put up a status on facebook that says "I don't fuck with people who can't keep it 100, It's as simple as that." The next morning, I was on facebook chat and he responded from the night before, saying "he had to delete it". I said "okay, whatever, bye." Then, He blocked me on facebook! So I texted him, asking why, and he said that there was too many people coming at him with bullshit. I guess that her and her friends went psycho on him because I ain't do shit! I've been keeping it very mature and very diplomatic. I said "so what are just never gone speak again" and he said "I'm gone speak, I'm just waiting until I find out cause it's some bullshit going on." I respected that. I didn't talk to him after that text, until about 9 last night, when I left him a voicemail. In the voicemail I said to him: "Listen, I want to let you know that I wasn't mad about the fact that you were talking to another girl, I was mad about the fact that you lied about it. I really wouldn't have been bothered by it because we were not in a relationship. I understand that you have a lot going on with school and football, so give me a call back when you're ready to talk." He did not call me back, so this morning I texted him saying "Good morning, I hope you have a better day today. Even though what you did was disrespectful I still want to try to at least work it out, cause I'm not the type to just throw someone away and I was starting to care about you." He wrote me back, saying "We will talk about that later." and i said "yea I understand." I am very prooud of myself for not chasing him, or acting hurt, or acting needy! Sooo I gue
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If that is short, I don't want to see the long one. To long to read shorten it and you might get answers.
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Tuesday, September 7, 2010
question about long distance dating - guys answers?
question about long distance dating - guys answers?
The guy that is currently my boyfriend just moved from Tennessee back to New York to live with his Dad and his new family ( his parents are divorced) we first met when we were in 7th grade and we began to lose contact during the middle of freshmen year and didn't speak again until June 2010. He was in NY visiting September 2010 and we ended up hanging out talking about the past and both mentioned we had extreme crushes when we were younger - he never knew I liked him back. We kissed right before he left and kept in contact through facebook chat, texting, and phone calls. He finally decided to move back to NY for good & is currently here now. I know my boyfriend was a big partier back in Tennessee, huge parties tons of alcohol girls and hooking up. At the time we never really discussed exclusivity but due to the fact we kept in touch for 2 months waiting for him to return for Thanksgiving braek I knew a relationship was in the works. He mentioned a story about some girl he was once invovled with was ohdee drunk throwing herself on him trying to kiss him while he was midconversation with his friends. He said he was like pushing her off - but now that he mentioned that story I feel as if there were more of those situations. We were listening to Jonny Craig in his car recently and one verse goes "I have a queen why would settle for a fucking maid." and he said that's this song describes he's whole time away from me in Tennessee. question : Relating to my circumstancs the fact that I basically grew up with him - If you really liked a girl but knew distance was going to keep you away for a while would you hook up with other girls as long as she didn't know? I had mentioned to him that I waited for him for 3 months meaning no other guys but he really didn't say no I did absolutely nothing with any other girl.
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well im currently am...well was from today...in a long distance relationship, i hadnt seen her for 2 months, but i kept faithful to her, i didnt cheat and not meaning to sound vain, i have girls asking me to jump into bed with them quite a lot, but when a guy likes a girl a lot, or even loves a girl, he wont cheat and will stay faithful :) if you're confident he really likes you, then he will have stayed faithful, in my opinion, if he rejected it once, he probably rejected it all the times he had oppertunities :) hope i helped
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Long distance relationships can work but that depends on the people involved. I have seen them work out but in most cases they tend to fail. Most guys will hook up with another girl just because what you don't know won't hurt you and will deal with the consequences if or when they arise. You either trust him or not.
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The guy that is currently my boyfriend just moved from Tennessee back to New York to live with his Dad and his new family ( his parents are divorced) we first met when we were in 7th grade and we began to lose contact during the middle of freshmen year and didn't speak again until June 2010. He was in NY visiting September 2010 and we ended up hanging out talking about the past and both mentioned we had extreme crushes when we were younger - he never knew I liked him back. We kissed right before he left and kept in contact through facebook chat, texting, and phone calls. He finally decided to move back to NY for good & is currently here now. I know my boyfriend was a big partier back in Tennessee, huge parties tons of alcohol girls and hooking up. At the time we never really discussed exclusivity but due to the fact we kept in touch for 2 months waiting for him to return for Thanksgiving braek I knew a relationship was in the works. He mentioned a story about some girl he was once invovled with was ohdee drunk throwing herself on him trying to kiss him while he was midconversation with his friends. He said he was like pushing her off - but now that he mentioned that story I feel as if there were more of those situations. We were listening to Jonny Craig in his car recently and one verse goes "I have a queen why would settle for a fucking maid." and he said that's this song describes he's whole time away from me in Tennessee. question : Relating to my circumstancs the fact that I basically grew up with him - If you really liked a girl but knew distance was going to keep you away for a while would you hook up with other girls as long as she didn't know? I had mentioned to him that I waited for him for 3 months meaning no other guys but he really didn't say no I did absolutely nothing with any other girl.
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well im currently am...well was from today...in a long distance relationship, i hadnt seen her for 2 months, but i kept faithful to her, i didnt cheat and not meaning to sound vain, i have girls asking me to jump into bed with them quite a lot, but when a guy likes a girl a lot, or even loves a girl, he wont cheat and will stay faithful :) if you're confident he really likes you, then he will have stayed faithful, in my opinion, if he rejected it once, he probably rejected it all the times he had oppertunities :) hope i helped
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Long distance relationships can work but that depends on the people involved. I have seen them work out but in most cases they tend to fail. Most guys will hook up with another girl just because what you don't know won't hurt you and will deal with the consequences if or when they arise. You either trust him or not.
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Wednesday, September 1, 2010
What should I do now?? He stopped talking to me & his b-day is coming up?
What should I do now?? He stopped talking to me & his b-day is coming up?
This random guy added me to his Facebook account about 6 months ago and started flirting with me on Facebook like he would comment on my pictures, status etc. So, we became friends and then exchanged numbers. In our conversations, we discussed about our past experience in relationship. We came to realized that we both been through same stuff . To make it long story short; he confessed to me his feelings and asked me to visit him; which I denied. (he’s in Mexico and I am in USA ) He was pretty honest about everything about his past like he told me he was into drugs and has tried to commit a suicide etc and also he helped me with my resume. Since, I told him that I would not visit him he has stopped talking to me and I tried to talk to him through emails and text message. He would reply back text message right away but that’s about it and would not continue conversation. I asked him what’s bugging him he would say “nothing†and that’s it. I emailed him three times to break the ice and get him talking but still there’s no response from his side. My question is: His birthday is coming up- Do you think I should write him an another email and call him or just ask him again about his behavior ? or totally ignore him and wait for him to come and talk to me?
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Option 3, if he comes back to you, totally ignore him. Sounds like dude isn't worth your time. Start talking to guys in your own town too.
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Honestly I think he just wanted get with you just write happybirthday on hi fb wall
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I would just ignore him. If he really wants to be your friend and misses you, then he will eventually contact you. If your email friendship isnt what hes looking for then thats his problem. No reason to chase after the friendship.
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ignore him.. how can you like someone you havent met.. i think you need to find someone in your own town... i would be too scared seeing someone i have met on the internet.. remember what happened to that model girl that got acid thrown in her face? Ignore him and move on x delete him off facebook too.. good luck
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Any guy who resorts to pursuing a girl on Facebook by commenting on her pics and stuff is a perv. 99% sure. I'd delete and block him. No offense, but Mexico kind of scares me...especially after reading about the crime over there...
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Well, if you dont wanna feel guilty for ignoring him then y dun u call or message him on his birthday and ask what he want from you, continue being ur friend or ending it up. But frankly speaking, the best option is that you tell him y u find him v. irritating and end up after talking to him for the last time. From his point of view, he stopped talking to you coz he might be thinking it's a waste of time if you're not thinking to visit him atleast for short time and he's not willing to come over too. Well sweety, Long-distance relationship doesnt last long unless you know each other but you guys are totally strangers for each other. Let us know, what ever your final decision is......Good Luck
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This random guy added me to his Facebook account about 6 months ago and started flirting with me on Facebook like he would comment on my pictures, status etc. So, we became friends and then exchanged numbers. In our conversations, we discussed about our past experience in relationship. We came to realized that we both been through same stuff . To make it long story short; he confessed to me his feelings and asked me to visit him; which I denied. (he’s in Mexico and I am in USA ) He was pretty honest about everything about his past like he told me he was into drugs and has tried to commit a suicide etc and also he helped me with my resume. Since, I told him that I would not visit him he has stopped talking to me and I tried to talk to him through emails and text message. He would reply back text message right away but that’s about it and would not continue conversation. I asked him what’s bugging him he would say “nothing†and that’s it. I emailed him three times to break the ice and get him talking but still there’s no response from his side. My question is: His birthday is coming up- Do you think I should write him an another email and call him or just ask him again about his behavior ? or totally ignore him and wait for him to come and talk to me?
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Option 3, if he comes back to you, totally ignore him. Sounds like dude isn't worth your time. Start talking to guys in your own town too.
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Honestly I think he just wanted get with you just write happybirthday on hi fb wall
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I would just ignore him. If he really wants to be your friend and misses you, then he will eventually contact you. If your email friendship isnt what hes looking for then thats his problem. No reason to chase after the friendship.
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ignore him.. how can you like someone you havent met.. i think you need to find someone in your own town... i would be too scared seeing someone i have met on the internet.. remember what happened to that model girl that got acid thrown in her face? Ignore him and move on x delete him off facebook too.. good luck
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Any guy who resorts to pursuing a girl on Facebook by commenting on her pics and stuff is a perv. 99% sure. I'd delete and block him. No offense, but Mexico kind of scares me...especially after reading about the crime over there...
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Well, if you dont wanna feel guilty for ignoring him then y dun u call or message him on his birthday and ask what he want from you, continue being ur friend or ending it up. But frankly speaking, the best option is that you tell him y u find him v. irritating and end up after talking to him for the last time. From his point of view, he stopped talking to you coz he might be thinking it's a waste of time if you're not thinking to visit him atleast for short time and he's not willing to come over too. Well sweety, Long-distance relationship doesnt last long unless you know each other but you guys are totally strangers for each other. Let us know, what ever your final decision is......Good Luck
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Saturday, August 28, 2010
Is this love. . . . . . .?
Is this love. . . . . . .?
This random guy added me to his Facebook account about 6 months ago and started flirting with me on Facebook like he would comment on my pictures, status etc. So, we became friends and then exchanged numbers. In our conversations, we discussed about our past experience in relationship. We came to realized that we both been through same stuff . To make it long story short; he confessed to me his feelings and asked me to visit him; which I denied. (he’s in Mexico and I am in USA ) He was pretty honest about everything about his past like he told me he was into drugs and has tried to commit a suicide etc and also he helped me with my resume. Since, I told him that I would not visit him he has stopped talking to me and I tried to talk to him through emails and text message. He would reply back text message right away but that’s about it and would not continue conversation. I asked him what’s bugging him he would say “nothing†and that’s it. I emailed him three times to break the ice and get him talking but still there’s no response from his side. My question is: His birthday is coming up- Do you think I should write him an another email and call him or just ask him again about his behavior ? or totally ignore him and wait for him to come and talk to me?
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Be careful. He may be trying to get to you because you're American, and may manipulate your status as a citizen in order to obtain citizenship... This is completely serious. Please take this into consideration before you do anything rash.
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you havent met. and he is probably a paedophile somewhere. Its not love. sorry
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The guy is a mess forget him you can find better people
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Sounds to me like whatever he really wanted from you, he decided he wasnt going to get it. If he doesnt want to share the effort to maintain the relationship, don't keep emotionally investing unilaterally.
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you don't know the guy who are sitting in front of the computer...so be care full i think it could be love...but i just don't believe in "love far" its useless well...that's my opinion
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This random guy added me to his Facebook account about 6 months ago and started flirting with me on Facebook like he would comment on my pictures, status etc. So, we became friends and then exchanged numbers. In our conversations, we discussed about our past experience in relationship. We came to realized that we both been through same stuff . To make it long story short; he confessed to me his feelings and asked me to visit him; which I denied. (he’s in Mexico and I am in USA ) He was pretty honest about everything about his past like he told me he was into drugs and has tried to commit a suicide etc and also he helped me with my resume. Since, I told him that I would not visit him he has stopped talking to me and I tried to talk to him through emails and text message. He would reply back text message right away but that’s about it and would not continue conversation. I asked him what’s bugging him he would say “nothing†and that’s it. I emailed him three times to break the ice and get him talking but still there’s no response from his side. My question is: His birthday is coming up- Do you think I should write him an another email and call him or just ask him again about his behavior ? or totally ignore him and wait for him to come and talk to me?
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Be careful. He may be trying to get to you because you're American, and may manipulate your status as a citizen in order to obtain citizenship... This is completely serious. Please take this into consideration before you do anything rash.
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you havent met. and he is probably a paedophile somewhere. Its not love. sorry
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The guy is a mess forget him you can find better people
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Sounds to me like whatever he really wanted from you, he decided he wasnt going to get it. If he doesnt want to share the effort to maintain the relationship, don't keep emotionally investing unilaterally.
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you don't know the guy who are sitting in front of the computer...so be care full i think it could be love...but i just don't believe in "love far" its useless well...that's my opinion
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Saturday, August 14, 2010
Whats wrong and what's on his mind?
Whats wrong and what's on his mind?
This random guy added me to his Facebook account about 6 months ago and started flirting with me on Facebook like he would comment on my pictures, status etc. So, we became friends and exchanged numbers. In our conversation, we discussed about our past and whatnot. We came to realized we both been through same stuff etc. To make it long story short; he confessed to me his feelings and asked me to visit him; which I denied. ( he’s in Mexico and I am in USA ) He was pretty honest about everything about his past like he told me he was into drugs and have tried to commit a suicide etc and also he helped me with my resume. Since, I told him that I would not visit him he has stopped talking to me and I tried to talk to him through emails and text message. He would reply back text message but that’s about it and would not continue conversation. I asked him what’s bugging him he would say “nothing†and that’s it. I emailed him three times to break the ice and get him talking but still there’s no response from his side. My question is: His birthday is coming up- Do you think I should write him an another email and call him or just ask him again about his behaviour ? Please be positive and sensitive while providing advice. Thank you in advance for reading.
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he's prolly hurt. apologize
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This random guy added me to his Facebook account about 6 months ago and started flirting with me on Facebook like he would comment on my pictures, status etc. So, we became friends and exchanged numbers. In our conversation, we discussed about our past and whatnot. We came to realized we both been through same stuff etc. To make it long story short; he confessed to me his feelings and asked me to visit him; which I denied. ( he’s in Mexico and I am in USA ) He was pretty honest about everything about his past like he told me he was into drugs and have tried to commit a suicide etc and also he helped me with my resume. Since, I told him that I would not visit him he has stopped talking to me and I tried to talk to him through emails and text message. He would reply back text message but that’s about it and would not continue conversation. I asked him what’s bugging him he would say “nothing†and that’s it. I emailed him three times to break the ice and get him talking but still there’s no response from his side. My question is: His birthday is coming up- Do you think I should write him an another email and call him or just ask him again about his behaviour ? Please be positive and sensitive while providing advice. Thank you in advance for reading.
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he's prolly hurt. apologize
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Saturday, August 7, 2010
Why is neither the left or right reporting this news about the WH crashers and Obama connection?
Why is neither the left or right reporting this news about the WH crashers and Obama connection?
I'm puzzled and I would just like some opinions and what is the angle - I can't figure it out! Why the secret service is investigating itself, the white house is investigating and the couple are not discussing that the husband and Obama worked at the Univ of Chicago together and he worked on Obama's campaign - they know eachother and they act like they've never met! There is no way to link so I'll paste, but here's the original stories: http://canadafreepress.com/index.php/article/17310 http://www.wnd.com/index.php?fa=PAGE.view&pageId=117478 And cut and paste for the rest of you: "Unprecedented†first state dinner in a tent “Party Crashers†had five-year relationship with Obama before state dinner Judi McLeod Bio Print friendly E-mail a friend Contact Us By Judi McLeod Saturday, November 28, 2009 While the big gun media and American Secret Service are out there investigating “party crashers†Tareq and Michaele Salahi, no one’s telling the truth: Obama knew the Salahis when he was still an Illinois senator. Polo Contacts Worldwide could make it easy for the investigating Secret Service by brown-enveloping them this picture: Hey Secret Agent Man, here’s Obama, the senator flashing his pearly whites with Randy Jackson, better known as a judge on American Idol. “Others pictured are Black Eyed Peas Rock Band; Tareq Salahi the President of the America’s Polo Cup; President Elect Obama, Fergie from Black eyed Peas and Michaele Salahi, posing this time as a former Miss USA and SuperModel.†Interesting little detail for White House gumshoes: As the above photo was published in June 2005, Barack Obama was still Senator Obama and not the President Elect. And with Michaele Salahi yesterday having been caught out—Facebook pompoms notwithstanding—as a bogus cheerleader for the Washington Red Skins and not a model for Victoria’s Secret as claimed, Canada Free Press (CFP) leaves it to FoxNews.com to find out if she ever was a “former Miss USAâ€. We do know for a fact that among the slew of memberships on charitable boards, Tareq Salahi is a former member of The American Task Force on Palestine (ATFP). The only way to know for a fact is because even though ATFP scrubbed all references to Salahi as a board member, he can still be found on Google cache. (Canada Free Press) Sad that White House Secret Service are looking like Keystone Kops in the aftermath of Obama’s very first state house dinner in the tent. While the media is fixated on the hitch in Michaele Salahi’s git-along, there can be no doubt that these recently minted “party crashers†really get around. We take you back to June 9, 2005 when Tom Nelson, operating officer of AARP, was summing up the Rock the Vote Awards night. According to the Washington Post “everyone from Sens. John McCain and Barack Obama to “American Idol†judge Randy Jackson and R&B singer Mya gathered in the National Building Museum’s Great Hall: “You were probably wondering, as you sat down at your table, ‘What the heck is the AARP doing in a Rock the Vote Event?’†Nelson noted. Time would soon tell that the AARP would show up in other fishy places. And if there is anyone who must know that this weekend’s party crasher story is a crock it’s John McCain who was at the Vote Awards Night, and who along with Barack Obama, was honored with the Rock the Nation Award, Obama “for forming a multiracial coalition in winning his seatâ€. McCain was handed his award for “his work on campaign finance reformâ€. “Just call me Funk Master McCain,†he told the audience of 1,000 in accepting his award.: (washingtonpost.com, June 9, 2005. Meanwhile, don’t know why Obama’s long time associates possibly could be mistaken for party crashers when they came into the tent with a Bravo Reality TV Show “Real Housewives of DC†professional camera crew and makeup artist in tow unless he was hoping for a Reality gig for wife Michelle, CBS celebrity Katie Couric or Chief of Staff Rahm Emanuel. Obama could end the “party crasher†goose chase for White House Secret Service in a proverbial New York Minute by coming clean on his almost 5-year-old social/political relationship with Tareq and Michaele Salahi. It could save money in these recessionary times and put an end to the drama of Washington’s “unprecedented†first state dinner in a tent WorldNetDaily Exclusive White House 'gatecrashers' tied to terror sympathizer Salahi served in same anti-Israel group as Obama's Palestinian professor pal -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Posted: November 29, 2009 5:12 pm Eastern By Aaron Klein © 2009 WorldNetDaily Rashid Khalidi The Virginia couple who allegedly crashed a White House state dinner is tied to Rashid Khalidi, a pro-Palestinian professor who excuses terrorism and has been a close associate to President Obama. Michaele and Tareq Salahi met Obama in To THINK, I'm truly not slamming anyone, since I don't believe the government of either side! Just confused wondering why.
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Do tell. Somehow, I knew it was Obama's fault.
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They don't want to let people know that Hussein is hanging around muslim terrorists. They were busy talking about Tiger Woods' fire hydrant. Fox News is far from conservative, it's exactly the same as CNN and other liberal news outlets.
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If that is true, then why didn't Obama just come right out and say so? He is such a wishy washy person and does not like to be clear and precise about anything. And libs on answers support him? the Loons following the Loon I guess.
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Headline News reported they were 0bama's coke connection.
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Well if the guy DID know the President from before and said that then it probably helped him get in. But who really cares? What are they supposed to pay the taxpayer back for the shrimp cocktails they ate?
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I'm puzzled and I would just like some opinions and what is the angle - I can't figure it out! Why the secret service is investigating itself, the white house is investigating and the couple are not discussing that the husband and Obama worked at the Univ of Chicago together and he worked on Obama's campaign - they know eachother and they act like they've never met! There is no way to link so I'll paste, but here's the original stories: http://canadafreepress.com/index.php/article/17310 http://www.wnd.com/index.php?fa=PAGE.view&pageId=117478 And cut and paste for the rest of you: "Unprecedented†first state dinner in a tent “Party Crashers†had five-year relationship with Obama before state dinner Judi McLeod Bio Print friendly E-mail a friend Contact Us By Judi McLeod Saturday, November 28, 2009 While the big gun media and American Secret Service are out there investigating “party crashers†Tareq and Michaele Salahi, no one’s telling the truth: Obama knew the Salahis when he was still an Illinois senator. Polo Contacts Worldwide could make it easy for the investigating Secret Service by brown-enveloping them this picture: Hey Secret Agent Man, here’s Obama, the senator flashing his pearly whites with Randy Jackson, better known as a judge on American Idol. “Others pictured are Black Eyed Peas Rock Band; Tareq Salahi the President of the America’s Polo Cup; President Elect Obama, Fergie from Black eyed Peas and Michaele Salahi, posing this time as a former Miss USA and SuperModel.†Interesting little detail for White House gumshoes: As the above photo was published in June 2005, Barack Obama was still Senator Obama and not the President Elect. And with Michaele Salahi yesterday having been caught out—Facebook pompoms notwithstanding—as a bogus cheerleader for the Washington Red Skins and not a model for Victoria’s Secret as claimed, Canada Free Press (CFP) leaves it to FoxNews.com to find out if she ever was a “former Miss USAâ€. We do know for a fact that among the slew of memberships on charitable boards, Tareq Salahi is a former member of The American Task Force on Palestine (ATFP). The only way to know for a fact is because even though ATFP scrubbed all references to Salahi as a board member, he can still be found on Google cache. (Canada Free Press) Sad that White House Secret Service are looking like Keystone Kops in the aftermath of Obama’s very first state house dinner in the tent. While the media is fixated on the hitch in Michaele Salahi’s git-along, there can be no doubt that these recently minted “party crashers†really get around. We take you back to June 9, 2005 when Tom Nelson, operating officer of AARP, was summing up the Rock the Vote Awards night. According to the Washington Post “everyone from Sens. John McCain and Barack Obama to “American Idol†judge Randy Jackson and R&B singer Mya gathered in the National Building Museum’s Great Hall: “You were probably wondering, as you sat down at your table, ‘What the heck is the AARP doing in a Rock the Vote Event?’†Nelson noted. Time would soon tell that the AARP would show up in other fishy places. And if there is anyone who must know that this weekend’s party crasher story is a crock it’s John McCain who was at the Vote Awards Night, and who along with Barack Obama, was honored with the Rock the Nation Award, Obama “for forming a multiracial coalition in winning his seatâ€. McCain was handed his award for “his work on campaign finance reformâ€. “Just call me Funk Master McCain,†he told the audience of 1,000 in accepting his award.: (washingtonpost.com, June 9, 2005. Meanwhile, don’t know why Obama’s long time associates possibly could be mistaken for party crashers when they came into the tent with a Bravo Reality TV Show “Real Housewives of DC†professional camera crew and makeup artist in tow unless he was hoping for a Reality gig for wife Michelle, CBS celebrity Katie Couric or Chief of Staff Rahm Emanuel. Obama could end the “party crasher†goose chase for White House Secret Service in a proverbial New York Minute by coming clean on his almost 5-year-old social/political relationship with Tareq and Michaele Salahi. It could save money in these recessionary times and put an end to the drama of Washington’s “unprecedented†first state dinner in a tent WorldNetDaily Exclusive White House 'gatecrashers' tied to terror sympathizer Salahi served in same anti-Israel group as Obama's Palestinian professor pal -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Posted: November 29, 2009 5:12 pm Eastern By Aaron Klein © 2009 WorldNetDaily Rashid Khalidi The Virginia couple who allegedly crashed a White House state dinner is tied to Rashid Khalidi, a pro-Palestinian professor who excuses terrorism and has been a close associate to President Obama. Michaele and Tareq Salahi met Obama in To THINK, I'm truly not slamming anyone, since I don't believe the government of either side! Just confused wondering why.
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Do tell. Somehow, I knew it was Obama's fault.
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They don't want to let people know that Hussein is hanging around muslim terrorists. They were busy talking about Tiger Woods' fire hydrant. Fox News is far from conservative, it's exactly the same as CNN and other liberal news outlets.
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If that is true, then why didn't Obama just come right out and say so? He is such a wishy washy person and does not like to be clear and precise about anything. And libs on answers support him? the Loons following the Loon I guess.
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Headline News reported they were 0bama's coke connection.
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Well if the guy DID know the President from before and said that then it probably helped him get in. But who really cares? What are they supposed to pay the taxpayer back for the shrimp cocktails they ate?
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Sunday, August 1, 2010
Whats going on in his mind...?
Whats going on in his mind...?
This random guy added me to his Facebook account about 6 months ago and started flirting with me on Facebook like he would comment on my pictures, status etc. So, we became friends and then exchanged numbers. In our conversations, we discussed about our past experience in relationship. We came to realized that we both been through same stuff . To make it long story short; he confessed to me his feelings and asked me to visit him; which I denied. (he’s in Mexico and I am in USA ) He was pretty honest about everything about his past like he told me he was into drugs and has tried to commit a suicide etc and also he helped me with my resume. Since, I told him that I would not visit him he has stopped talking to me and I tried to talk to him through emails and text message. He would reply back text message right away but that’s about it and would not continue conversation. I asked him what’s bugging him he would say “nothing†and that’s it. I emailed him three times to break the ice and get him talking but still there’s no response from his side. My question is: His birthday is coming up- Do you think I should write him an another email and call him or just ask him again about his behavior ? or totally ignore him and wait for him to come and talk to me?
Singles & Dating - 2 Answers
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he wants you to visit mexico because he is really a criminal posing as this loser guy. he wants you to go there so his gang can capture you and sell you as a prostitute on the black market
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In his mind, he might've been thinking that you're the one. So of course you'd go and see him. When you told him no, you broke up his fantasy and snapped him back to reality. Sounds like he was expecting too much from you and didn't realize it. He won't talk to you because he's realized that it won't work... why should he bother? Don't mess with another email. Continuing to talk to him might give him the wrong idea. He might hold onto false hope that something exists between the two of you and might start asking you for more than you can provide. That, or he just doesn't want to be bothered. If this were an actual bf/ gf relationship, then more might need said. It isn't so don't do anything that might make it seem like one.
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This random guy added me to his Facebook account about 6 months ago and started flirting with me on Facebook like he would comment on my pictures, status etc. So, we became friends and then exchanged numbers. In our conversations, we discussed about our past experience in relationship. We came to realized that we both been through same stuff . To make it long story short; he confessed to me his feelings and asked me to visit him; which I denied. (he’s in Mexico and I am in USA ) He was pretty honest about everything about his past like he told me he was into drugs and has tried to commit a suicide etc and also he helped me with my resume. Since, I told him that I would not visit him he has stopped talking to me and I tried to talk to him through emails and text message. He would reply back text message right away but that’s about it and would not continue conversation. I asked him what’s bugging him he would say “nothing†and that’s it. I emailed him three times to break the ice and get him talking but still there’s no response from his side. My question is: His birthday is coming up- Do you think I should write him an another email and call him or just ask him again about his behavior ? or totally ignore him and wait for him to come and talk to me?
Singles & Dating - 2 Answers
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he wants you to visit mexico because he is really a criminal posing as this loser guy. he wants you to go there so his gang can capture you and sell you as a prostitute on the black market
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In his mind, he might've been thinking that you're the one. So of course you'd go and see him. When you told him no, you broke up his fantasy and snapped him back to reality. Sounds like he was expecting too much from you and didn't realize it. He won't talk to you because he's realized that it won't work... why should he bother? Don't mess with another email. Continuing to talk to him might give him the wrong idea. He might hold onto false hope that something exists between the two of you and might start asking you for more than you can provide. That, or he just doesn't want to be bothered. If this were an actual bf/ gf relationship, then more might need said. It isn't so don't do anything that might make it seem like one.
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