please more answers-when will I hear from him again?!!?
i've been friends with one of my girlfriends for about 7 years now. I met her cousin about 6 months after we became friends. he's a really sweet guy and made it very obvious that he liked me but at the time I was married so I told him we could be friends only. we text messaged and emailed each other alot. we lost contact about 4 years ago when he moved to california for the army. I divorced my then husband shortly after we lost touch. he found my on facebook tuesday morning and emailed me to say hi, it had been awhile and he'd love to hang out sometime. he asked me where I was living,working,etc. we ended up exchaging numbers/email addresses. 30 seconds after I gave him my number, he signed off facebook and started texting me. we both found out we're both single and he now lives about 45 mins away from me. we had great converstion via text messaging for about an hour and half then we both had to go (he was at college and I needed to sleep to work night shift). he told me things like: -you are still absolutely gorgeous, corny I know but had to throw it out there b/c it's true -i'm so glad we got back in touch -god, there is something about you that I absolutely love (besides you being sexy)-when i said that was probably the ONLY thing-he told me seriously it's not-there is something about you that mesmorizes me. -I love how well we get along (this was after talking for an hour) -sweet dreams beautiful (this was the last thing he texted me) and I told him I'd talk to him soon we made plans to get together soon to play poker w/a few of his friends and his cousin (my girlfriend)-his suggestion. no exact date was discussed. I haven't heard from him since and i'm just wondering when he'll contact me again. I don't want to contact him b/c I don't want to see overzealous or clingy. plus, I think me being a little hard to get is a good thing (he's the type of guy that likes the chase). we got along really well when we first met-it was painfully obvious the attraction between us no matter how hard we tried to hide it. But b/c I was married at the time, I didn't want to let things go any further than the playful flirting we did. my friend's family and friends could even tell we liked each other and gave us both a hard time about it (playfully). our birthdays are 2 days apart so I know we're quite compatible personality wise. i'm 2 years older (i'm 30, he's 28) so when do you think he'll contact me again? he told me I could text or email him anytime and I told him to do the same. he was the one that came after me and initiated all of this so I don't think he'd go to that extent just to ignore me again.. thoughts?!! sorry if I seem hyper about this but I'm dying to talk to him again but I know I'll come off clingy so I'm letting him call/text first!! thanks all
Marriage & Divorce - 2 Answers
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He will call you when the moon turns blue.
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Personally, I would just move on from all of this. Yes, it was flattering at the time but people change over the years and we don't always know them like we think we do. If this guy was truly interested in you, then this guy would've wanted to take you out somewhere special where he could be alone with you and visit with you in person. Living 45 minutes away is not that far to drive in order to get together with someone you care about or want to see again. I don't call that "nervous". I call that "chickening out". You are right not to come across as clingy. I would keep things to the texting or phoning each other once in awhile but I wouldn't expect much more than that from this relationship. This guy is just not interested at this time in the way you would like to hope he is or he would make more of an effort to see you in person and do it sooner than later. Believe me, I've heard all those words from a guy too and I think it's just a bunch of crap in the heat of the excitement of meeting up again online. It's not a trap I've chosen to fall into. Take pride in who you are and realize what's more important...yourself or waiting around for this guy who may never commit. :)
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