Boyfriends "ex", still dating her or is she crazy?
My bf of 6 months has an ex gf who lives in Pennsylvania and we live in California. They dated 5 years ago and tried to remain friends. When we first started dating she would text alot, he said they were just friends and that the ex is also best friends with his sister, that is why they stay in touch. I did look in his phone once and saw that she had been dirty texting him, I read the messages they were all her talking about what she would like to do to him. From what I can gather of the situation, he broke up with a girlfriend of two years, met me by chance a few months later, and the Pennsylvania ex was hoping he would date her again. My bf said they got into a huge fight a few months ago but wouldn't specify why other than some things that came up while they were dating was still going on and he put his foot down and put an end to it and they wouldn't be talking anymore. I tried to ask him more and he said it was between he and she and that I was prying. I looked at his ex's Facebook page yesterday and she posts alot of things about him, about how she gave him a second chance, what a jerk he is, how mentally and physically abusive he was and implied they were sleeping together. She also lied to him and said I contacted her on Facebook and we chatted, even though I never did. I don't know if I believe all of this since she lives across the country. Do you guys think she wants him back and is trying to make trouble in our relationship or they were "dating" via phone long distance? I have tried discussing the situation but never asked him outright if they were dating. I could email her, but don't know if she would even tell me the truth.
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Why are you trying to be in contact with her, you just appear to look jealous err something. I believe that your boyfriend has feeling for his ex still, and if they were obviously sexting and you two are together, the ex is probably not lying. Why are you still with the guy and trying to put the blame on the girl. It's his fault, he should know his boundaries but obviously, he doesn't. If I was you, I'd break it off. It's seems as if you're only half the relationship. He's cheating. You deserve better.
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It sounds like he was previously messed up with a psycho with some baggage that she can't let go of. I think you should take a hard line, zero tolerance policy. Tell him that if he ever communicates with her again, you will cut him. Not cut him off, but cut him, like with a sharpened steel blade. Test his loyalty by demanding that he get your name, or perhaps your portrait, tattooed on a visible part of his body. If you find out that he's been wasting you time, then create an itemized bill for everything you've ever bought him, then add 10% "just for putting up with his nonsense". I stayed up late last night and Facebooked with some of my Amish friends in Pennsylvania to see if they had any advice for you. One possible explanation for the dirty texts could be that she was just talking about where she lives. Does she by chance live in or near Intercourse, PA? My Amish friends explained that sometimes non-Amish people get confused when they get a text from an Amish person about that city. Is the ex-girlfriend Amish?
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