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I am writing a essay about technology. To be more specific (Video gaming and Social networking sites) I need a introduction and a conclusion... Can you please help me in any kind of way I am going to include what I have written so far in my essay Technology In today's society technology is used frequently and convenient at the tip of my fingers. I rely on technical devices for majority of everything in my life. Technology has improved over the past years and is constantly growing. Video games and Social networking sites has made a positive effect in my life. Video games are enriching in many different ways. For example, When I was in grade school. I played a video game called Jump Start Second Grade. In the game, I learned how to count, spell, and memorization skills. The game was motivating for me because I unlocked different levels and got awarded for my improvement. According to Douglas A. Gentile “Video games are natural teachers. Children find them highly motivating†(1). Another way, My little cousin Mariah is two years old. Her mother Jessica bought her a Dora The Explorer video game. Mariah is motivated by the goals she accomplishes. This game allows her to count from one to ten in English and Spanish, improves her thinking skills, and learning different shapes. Video gaming has a wonderful and educational impact in childrens lives. Social Networking Sites are a convenient way of communication. According to Regina Lynn “Facebook, MySpace, and other social networking sites offer users a chance to keep up with friends, connect with new people, share photos, and even discuss music and politics†(83). For Instance, My sister Emily lives in Norman, Oklahoma. Facebook allows me to interact with her as far as a instant message and view her updated pictures. Me and Emily talk on the daily basis and keep each other updated on your lives. Social Networking Sites are useful in every kind of relationship.
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Tuesday, January 28, 2014
Tuesday, January 14, 2014
Please Help Soon, I am just overwhelmed!!!?
Please Help Soon, I am just overwhelmed!!!?
My BF said he needed time to study for his Final Exam, which he has been excluded from. Though we both thought it to be a good idea to take it to see what he has retained. The problem is, he spends most of his time playing on the internet instead of studying. Tonight I called him, because I missed him so much. I spent the day with the daughter of my Ex of 11 years. She is like my daughter and he is my best friend and family considering I have no biological family. He gets along well with my current BF and evens helps him if needed. I became upset with my bf because last night he told me I could not snuggle with him because he had to study until Tuesday, instead I found out he has been playing on the internet instead of studying. This made me feel a bit unwanted. He then became angry and blamed it all on me, saying I do not respect him. I RESPECT DIRECTNESS, LOYALTY AND HONESTY. He made a comment that hurt the feeling of my ex's daughter who is 12 years old. My bf and her spent two days together playing video games until daylight both time and she stayed at his home and he enjoyed as much or more than her. When I questioned his hurting her feelings, he said he did not care, "she is not my daughter". No she is not, but she is a 12 yo child with feelings. I am not concerned that he needs alone time, just tell the truth as to why you need it. I even let him go to bars alone when I am at my newly purchased condo (that I purchased with my ex due to financial reasons. Before the purchase I discussed this with my current bf and it is all okay with him. I love this guy, but am overwhelmed that, I am sometimes blocked from seeing his Facebook, He shows no pics of us on his FB, hides them from everyone. He only shows himself shirtless, his cat and his accomplishments. What do you think? I will go as far to say that I have seen many email between my bf and his ex of 3 years. He treated him the same. WHen his is out with friends, even one he met just days ago, I am ignored until he has time. He tells his friends negative things about me and then expects me to want to hang out with them after he tells me they do not like me, though they have never met me... He has been caught kissing guys in the bar ( 3 times)when I was back home visiting my ma. Went to a guys home at 2 am he met in the bar and said it was to make a new friend. This guy had his hand on my BF's back the whole night. He lied at first then came clean when I questioned it. I honestly believe in my heart he has never done anything more. I always want him to put himself first. This is why I help him gain his independence (own apt, own car, etc.) For the record, I do not think he has cheated. Yet his actions are not appropriate. For some odd reason he thinksI want to prevent him from finishing school, when all I ever do is want him to achieve all of his dreams and goals.
Other - Family & Relationships - 5 Answers
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i think hes been cheating on you
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The writing is on the wall. But, you care not to read it. Baby, you talking about the down low. You are on a ride faster than nascar. Undo these tie-es, an get some closer. Move on.
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Why punish yourself with this loser? Move on.
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He's not giving you what, so why bother with him anymore? He's shady, and ask yourself if you're willing to put up with that or not. His shirtless FB pic and accomplishments list says it all: he's in love with himself, more than anyone, and you can see it in his actions.
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Ciome on kids grow up and smell the coffee..Your BF is either stupid or not interested ,your Exs daughter should not be left with him .... Stop getting involved with blokes just date nice lads and enjoy your tender years Mr Right will turn up when you are not looking for a relationship yes never trust anyone who uses social networking sites ..Dont live a life of texting and mobile phones
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My BF said he needed time to study for his Final Exam, which he has been excluded from. Though we both thought it to be a good idea to take it to see what he has retained. The problem is, he spends most of his time playing on the internet instead of studying. Tonight I called him, because I missed him so much. I spent the day with the daughter of my Ex of 11 years. She is like my daughter and he is my best friend and family considering I have no biological family. He gets along well with my current BF and evens helps him if needed. I became upset with my bf because last night he told me I could not snuggle with him because he had to study until Tuesday, instead I found out he has been playing on the internet instead of studying. This made me feel a bit unwanted. He then became angry and blamed it all on me, saying I do not respect him. I RESPECT DIRECTNESS, LOYALTY AND HONESTY. He made a comment that hurt the feeling of my ex's daughter who is 12 years old. My bf and her spent two days together playing video games until daylight both time and she stayed at his home and he enjoyed as much or more than her. When I questioned his hurting her feelings, he said he did not care, "she is not my daughter". No she is not, but she is a 12 yo child with feelings. I am not concerned that he needs alone time, just tell the truth as to why you need it. I even let him go to bars alone when I am at my newly purchased condo (that I purchased with my ex due to financial reasons. Before the purchase I discussed this with my current bf and it is all okay with him. I love this guy, but am overwhelmed that, I am sometimes blocked from seeing his Facebook, He shows no pics of us on his FB, hides them from everyone. He only shows himself shirtless, his cat and his accomplishments. What do you think? I will go as far to say that I have seen many email between my bf and his ex of 3 years. He treated him the same. WHen his is out with friends, even one he met just days ago, I am ignored until he has time. He tells his friends negative things about me and then expects me to want to hang out with them after he tells me they do not like me, though they have never met me... He has been caught kissing guys in the bar ( 3 times)when I was back home visiting my ma. Went to a guys home at 2 am he met in the bar and said it was to make a new friend. This guy had his hand on my BF's back the whole night. He lied at first then came clean when I questioned it. I honestly believe in my heart he has never done anything more. I always want him to put himself first. This is why I help him gain his independence (own apt, own car, etc.) For the record, I do not think he has cheated. Yet his actions are not appropriate. For some odd reason he thinksI want to prevent him from finishing school, when all I ever do is want him to achieve all of his dreams and goals.
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i think hes been cheating on you
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The writing is on the wall. But, you care not to read it. Baby, you talking about the down low. You are on a ride faster than nascar. Undo these tie-es, an get some closer. Move on.
3 :
Why punish yourself with this loser? Move on.
4 :
He's not giving you what, so why bother with him anymore? He's shady, and ask yourself if you're willing to put up with that or not. His shirtless FB pic and accomplishments list says it all: he's in love with himself, more than anyone, and you can see it in his actions.
5 :
Ciome on kids grow up and smell the coffee..Your BF is either stupid or not interested ,your Exs daughter should not be left with him .... Stop getting involved with blokes just date nice lads and enjoy your tender years Mr Right will turn up when you are not looking for a relationship yes never trust anyone who uses social networking sites ..Dont live a life of texting and mobile phones
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Tuesday, January 7, 2014
Are white liberal males sexists, sadists or both in their hopes and aspirations toward Sarah Palin's demise?
Are white liberal males sexists, sadists or both in their hopes and aspirations toward Sarah Palin's demise?
A New Hampshire state legislator resigned his office Thursday after becoming the second Democrat in as many days to speculate about Sarah Palin's death on Facebook. State Rep. Timothy Horrigan made the remarks Wednesday night in a thread discussing the Alaska plane crash that killed former Sen. Ted Stevens. "Well a dead Palin wd be even more dangerous than a live one...she is all about her myth & if she was dead she cldn't commit any more gaffes," Horrigan wrote. http://politicalticker.blogs.cnn.com/2010/08/12/legislator-resigns-after-dead-palin-comment/
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What he said is true, but in poor taste.
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they are blacks who hate whites just like 0bama and Waters
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Libbies are scared to death of Palin because she's loved and admired by so many "real" Americans. They want to kill her but in her place will rise hundreds more.
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While I extremely dislike Palin that goes a little far and it's in poor taste.
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They are fools. Palin is just a distraction ploy to get libs to ignore real issues..
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Har! Sarah Palin has proven quite capable of bringing about her own demise without the help of any particular ethnic group. And, really, who is Sarah Palin without the support of rich white male conservatives? She hasn't achieved anything noteworthy. Women don't like her. Alaskans don't care for her. And the Johnstons absolutely despise her.
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The entire democratic party will be dead in 2011 left without a job or direction/ good riddance to the Whigs democratic party.. you think they would have learned the first time..
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That goes a bit far, yes. I'm sure no conservative has ever made similar comments in regards to Hillary Clinton or Nancy Pelosi. I'm glad to see that Tenth Amendment saw fit to place quotation marks on the word "real". Furthermore, I'm amused at how he (she?) then goes on to make Palin sound like the enchanted broom in Fantasia.
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white liberal males are basically feminist welfare pimps. selling out for the feminist vote. not much different from feminist males. they remind me of quisling jews that helped nazi's or blacks who joined the colored man's auxilliary to the kkk. black democrat males are worse, because there are far more black women voters than black male voters. Liberal males and feminists hate and attack Palin because she is not a feminist, despite being a female. They do this appeal to the feminist welfare special interest crowd. This is like a black condemning an upity black to appeal to racists whites; or a jew condemning jewish bankers to appeal to NAZIs.
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A New Hampshire state legislator resigned his office Thursday after becoming the second Democrat in as many days to speculate about Sarah Palin's death on Facebook. State Rep. Timothy Horrigan made the remarks Wednesday night in a thread discussing the Alaska plane crash that killed former Sen. Ted Stevens. "Well a dead Palin wd be even more dangerous than a live one...she is all about her myth & if she was dead she cldn't commit any more gaffes," Horrigan wrote. http://politicalticker.blogs.cnn.com/2010/08/12/legislator-resigns-after-dead-palin-comment/
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What he said is true, but in poor taste.
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they are blacks who hate whites just like 0bama and Waters
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Libbies are scared to death of Palin because she's loved and admired by so many "real" Americans. They want to kill her but in her place will rise hundreds more.
4 :
While I extremely dislike Palin that goes a little far and it's in poor taste.
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They are fools. Palin is just a distraction ploy to get libs to ignore real issues..
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Har! Sarah Palin has proven quite capable of bringing about her own demise without the help of any particular ethnic group. And, really, who is Sarah Palin without the support of rich white male conservatives? She hasn't achieved anything noteworthy. Women don't like her. Alaskans don't care for her. And the Johnstons absolutely despise her.
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The entire democratic party will be dead in 2011 left without a job or direction/ good riddance to the Whigs democratic party.. you think they would have learned the first time..
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That goes a bit far, yes. I'm sure no conservative has ever made similar comments in regards to Hillary Clinton or Nancy Pelosi. I'm glad to see that Tenth Amendment saw fit to place quotation marks on the word "real". Furthermore, I'm amused at how he (she?) then goes on to make Palin sound like the enchanted broom in Fantasia.
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white liberal males are basically feminist welfare pimps. selling out for the feminist vote. not much different from feminist males. they remind me of quisling jews that helped nazi's or blacks who joined the colored man's auxilliary to the kkk. black democrat males are worse, because there are far more black women voters than black male voters. Liberal males and feminists hate and attack Palin because she is not a feminist, despite being a female. They do this appeal to the feminist welfare special interest crowd. This is like a black condemning an upity black to appeal to racists whites; or a jew condemning jewish bankers to appeal to NAZIs.
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Wednesday, January 1, 2014
Please Help Soon, I am just overwhelmed!!!?
Please Help Soon, I am just overwhelmed!!!?
My BF said he needed time to study for his Final Exam, which he has been excluded from. Though we both thought it to be a good idea to take it to see what he has retained. The problem is, he spends most of his time playing on the internet instead of studying. Tonight I called him, because I missed him so much. I spent the day with the daughter of my Ex of 11 years. She is like my daughter and he is my best friend and family considering I have no biological family. He gets along well with my current BF and evens helps him if needed. I became upset with my bf because last night he told me I could not snuggle with him because he had to study until Tuesday, instead I found out he has been playing on the internet instead of studying. This made me feel a bit unwanted. He then became angry and blamed it all on me, saying I do not respect him. I RESPECT DIRECTNESS, LOYALTY AND HONESTY. He made a comment that hurt the feeling of my ex's daughter who is 12 years old. My bf and her spent two days together playing video games until daylight both time and she stayed at his home and he enjoyed as much or more than her. When I questioned his hurting her feelings, he said he did not care, "she is not my daughter". No she is not, but she is a 12 yo child with feelings. I am not concerned that he needs alone time, just tell the truth as to why you need it. I even let him go to bars alone when I am at my newly purchased condo (that I purchased with my ex due to financial reasons. Before the purchase I discussed this with my current bf and it is all okay with him. I love this guy, but am overwhelmed that, I am sometimes blocked from seeing his Facebook, He shows no pics of us on his FB, hides them from everyone. He only shows himself shirtless, his cat and his accomplishments. What do you think? 21 minutes ago - 4 days left to answer. Additional Details I will go as far to say that I have seen many email between my bf and his ex of 3 years. He treated him the same. WHen his is out with friends, even one he met just days ago, I am ignored until he has time. He tells his friends negative things about me and then expects me to want to hang out with them after he tells me they do not like me, though they have never met me... He has been caught kissing guys in the bar ( 3 times)when I was back home visiting my ma. Went to a guys home at 2 am he met in the bar and said it was to make a new friend. This guy had his hand on my BF's back the whole night. He lied at first then came clean when I questioned it. I honestly believe in my heart he has never done anything more. I always want him to put himself first. This is why I help him gain his independence (own apt, own car, etc.) For the record, I do not think he has cheated. Yet his actions are not appropriate. For some odd reason he thinksI want to prevent him from finishing school, when all I ever do is want him to achieve all of his dreams and goals.
Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered - 5 Answers
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Your boyfriend is a total jerk. Break off with him. Today. A week from now you will be so glad you did. There are lots of good ones out there waiting for you.
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I see you've gotten yourself into a lot of drama here, Well i think your boyfriend shows a lack of sensitivity and kindness, don't you think you'd be better off with someone who is kind and warm hearted? Don't settle with something that you don't want, go for what you really want. You have feelings of love for him but i think if the feeling were so mutual then he would behave in a much more decent manner, and the fact that he hides so much from you really makes me wonder what's going on with him. I think it would be best if you left him, otherwise your going to end up many years down the line betrayed or unsatisfied. I do not like the way he treats you and how he disses you in front of his friends. It may be painful to leave someone that you've been with for such a time but its now or never, im sure there are many more, much more lovely men to be with then him.
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This guy talks about respecting him and gives 0 to you. He should not be saying anything about your daughter to hurt her feelings, and saying shes not his daughter so he doesnt care is ridiculous. Your boyfriend is off kissing guys whilst your not around, do you really trust this guy? I think you should sit down and have a think about what you want out of this relationship because this guy sounds like an a**.
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That guy is crazy and I don't undertstand why you are with him.
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He must be really hung for you to keep hanging on to him.
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My BF said he needed time to study for his Final Exam, which he has been excluded from. Though we both thought it to be a good idea to take it to see what he has retained. The problem is, he spends most of his time playing on the internet instead of studying. Tonight I called him, because I missed him so much. I spent the day with the daughter of my Ex of 11 years. She is like my daughter and he is my best friend and family considering I have no biological family. He gets along well with my current BF and evens helps him if needed. I became upset with my bf because last night he told me I could not snuggle with him because he had to study until Tuesday, instead I found out he has been playing on the internet instead of studying. This made me feel a bit unwanted. He then became angry and blamed it all on me, saying I do not respect him. I RESPECT DIRECTNESS, LOYALTY AND HONESTY. He made a comment that hurt the feeling of my ex's daughter who is 12 years old. My bf and her spent two days together playing video games until daylight both time and she stayed at his home and he enjoyed as much or more than her. When I questioned his hurting her feelings, he said he did not care, "she is not my daughter". No she is not, but she is a 12 yo child with feelings. I am not concerned that he needs alone time, just tell the truth as to why you need it. I even let him go to bars alone when I am at my newly purchased condo (that I purchased with my ex due to financial reasons. Before the purchase I discussed this with my current bf and it is all okay with him. I love this guy, but am overwhelmed that, I am sometimes blocked from seeing his Facebook, He shows no pics of us on his FB, hides them from everyone. He only shows himself shirtless, his cat and his accomplishments. What do you think? 21 minutes ago - 4 days left to answer. Additional Details I will go as far to say that I have seen many email between my bf and his ex of 3 years. He treated him the same. WHen his is out with friends, even one he met just days ago, I am ignored until he has time. He tells his friends negative things about me and then expects me to want to hang out with them after he tells me they do not like me, though they have never met me... He has been caught kissing guys in the bar ( 3 times)when I was back home visiting my ma. Went to a guys home at 2 am he met in the bar and said it was to make a new friend. This guy had his hand on my BF's back the whole night. He lied at first then came clean when I questioned it. I honestly believe in my heart he has never done anything more. I always want him to put himself first. This is why I help him gain his independence (own apt, own car, etc.) For the record, I do not think he has cheated. Yet his actions are not appropriate. For some odd reason he thinksI want to prevent him from finishing school, when all I ever do is want him to achieve all of his dreams and goals.
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Your boyfriend is a total jerk. Break off with him. Today. A week from now you will be so glad you did. There are lots of good ones out there waiting for you.
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I see you've gotten yourself into a lot of drama here, Well i think your boyfriend shows a lack of sensitivity and kindness, don't you think you'd be better off with someone who is kind and warm hearted? Don't settle with something that you don't want, go for what you really want. You have feelings of love for him but i think if the feeling were so mutual then he would behave in a much more decent manner, and the fact that he hides so much from you really makes me wonder what's going on with him. I think it would be best if you left him, otherwise your going to end up many years down the line betrayed or unsatisfied. I do not like the way he treats you and how he disses you in front of his friends. It may be painful to leave someone that you've been with for such a time but its now or never, im sure there are many more, much more lovely men to be with then him.
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This guy talks about respecting him and gives 0 to you. He should not be saying anything about your daughter to hurt her feelings, and saying shes not his daughter so he doesnt care is ridiculous. Your boyfriend is off kissing guys whilst your not around, do you really trust this guy? I think you should sit down and have a think about what you want out of this relationship because this guy sounds like an a**.
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That guy is crazy and I don't undertstand why you are with him.
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He must be really hung for you to keep hanging on to him.
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Saturday, December 28, 2013
my mom is ruining my relationships?
my mom is ruining my relationships?
i'm 20 years old and in college. my mom has been very controlling over my relationships and truthfully she has gotten kind of psycho. she will send my boyfriends threatening text messages and emails them on facebook. i talked to her about it and finally got her to stop, but it's really a big deal because she totally disregards my privacy and independence. although i live at home i think it's totally unfair for her to dictate to me who i can and cannot date. that's wrong. my ex boyfriend recently "graduated" from rehab. i know it seems like it's a bad idea, but we have discussed things over. he has told me that he is willing and able to handle a relationship. and he has shown signs of change. he has to get drug tested every 2 weeks anyway so he's staying clean. the thing is my mom hates him and will get really mad if she finds out we're dating again. i don't want to lie to her but i also think it's unfair for her to constantly judge me. i don't have a lot of friends because he was first and foremost my best friend and then we started dating. i really care about him and want to be with him. how should i handle this? I know people fresh out of rehab should not be in a relationship. He knows this too, but he's the one who intiated it. It wasn't me. And he's not dependent upon me nor will he become dependent on me because we already discussed these things. and I don't give my mom their phone numbers, she uses my phone and texts them pretending to be me. i'm not that stupid. i've already told her i am a grown woman and that i can handle it on my own. she doesn't listen. First of all Peggy, there's no need for you to call me selfish and immature. I am not being immature nor selfish. I talked to him and made sure he was emotionally ok with all of this. If anything you would understand that I'm the only good influence in his life. His friends are all drug addicts. Rehab suggests that you don't have any NEW relationships once you get out. I'm not new. I've been in his life for 6+ months. I'm actually helping him. Second of all, I do have a job and I do practically everything on my own. It is my decision to date who I want. And third of all I am focused on school, there's no need for you to call me out. I was pre-med and just switched to pre-law. I have a 3.6 gpa. I am pretty focused on school.
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kick her in the head
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People fresh out of rehab should not be in any relationship for at least their first year of sobriety please don't jeopardize his progress by resuming your relationship sop soon! If you have feelings for him be his friend for now and nothing more until he is fully capable of maintaining his sobriety on his own, addicts can come to depend on people as much as they depended on their drug of choice and you don't want to be his next addiction! If you want to see other guys I would suggest you not give their phone numbers to your mother and tell her to butt out! If she can't see if maybe a couple of your friends could like to share an apartment with you? You need to tell your mother politely that you are a grown woman and capable of making your own decisions on life and if you can't do that under her roof you'll do it elsewhere. Good luck :)
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In one ear and out the other. You're old enough to do what you want. It might take a while but in the end she'll see she can't win and eventually give up.
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Will your mama do the same thing for all your BF, if not then she is protecting you only if not then there is something really wrong with your mama. In the first scenario, you should sit down with your mama and discuss it with you mama and Point out that you are grown up now but try to get why she do not like him because she can see the situation from out side (while you only think from your heart). The second scenario is the worst one, and if so try to stand up and take a position for your self (shrink)
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I have a mum like that. So I moved out and don't talk to her anymore. Sounds harsh I know but that's not the full story. My life is so much better now.
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Okay, you have to hide this from her then. Also, don't do anything which may risk the guy's progress. Since, he's just out of rehab, don't cause any emotional pain to him.
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First of all, she has a reason for being concerned if they are all like this bf of yours. He needs to take rehab seriously. You are not doing him any favors by being with him. There is a serious reason for them saying that he needs time alone. that is for him to think about why he got so bad and what he wants for his future. As long as you are in the picture, he will not be focusing only on himself. That is what he needs to do to get himself back together. You are being selfish by agreeing to seeing him again. You could unintentionally ruin his life by hindering his recovery whether your realize it or not!!! Try not being so selfish and immature. Let him go. As for your mother, it is her house and she can do as she pleases if she pays the bills. You are 20, and can get a job and find yourself a place to live. I do not agree with what she is doing, but as long as she is paying your bills, she is going to be in your business. Maybe she is just trying to make sure you get a good education and do not get involved in anything that could cause you harm. That is what loving mothers do. If you were more mature, she would not have to be doing all of this to keep you focused on school.
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i'm 20 years old and in college. my mom has been very controlling over my relationships and truthfully she has gotten kind of psycho. she will send my boyfriends threatening text messages and emails them on facebook. i talked to her about it and finally got her to stop, but it's really a big deal because she totally disregards my privacy and independence. although i live at home i think it's totally unfair for her to dictate to me who i can and cannot date. that's wrong. my ex boyfriend recently "graduated" from rehab. i know it seems like it's a bad idea, but we have discussed things over. he has told me that he is willing and able to handle a relationship. and he has shown signs of change. he has to get drug tested every 2 weeks anyway so he's staying clean. the thing is my mom hates him and will get really mad if she finds out we're dating again. i don't want to lie to her but i also think it's unfair for her to constantly judge me. i don't have a lot of friends because he was first and foremost my best friend and then we started dating. i really care about him and want to be with him. how should i handle this? I know people fresh out of rehab should not be in a relationship. He knows this too, but he's the one who intiated it. It wasn't me. And he's not dependent upon me nor will he become dependent on me because we already discussed these things. and I don't give my mom their phone numbers, she uses my phone and texts them pretending to be me. i'm not that stupid. i've already told her i am a grown woman and that i can handle it on my own. she doesn't listen. First of all Peggy, there's no need for you to call me selfish and immature. I am not being immature nor selfish. I talked to him and made sure he was emotionally ok with all of this. If anything you would understand that I'm the only good influence in his life. His friends are all drug addicts. Rehab suggests that you don't have any NEW relationships once you get out. I'm not new. I've been in his life for 6+ months. I'm actually helping him. Second of all, I do have a job and I do practically everything on my own. It is my decision to date who I want. And third of all I am focused on school, there's no need for you to call me out. I was pre-med and just switched to pre-law. I have a 3.6 gpa. I am pretty focused on school.
Singles & Dating - 7 Answers
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kick her in the head
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People fresh out of rehab should not be in any relationship for at least their first year of sobriety please don't jeopardize his progress by resuming your relationship sop soon! If you have feelings for him be his friend for now and nothing more until he is fully capable of maintaining his sobriety on his own, addicts can come to depend on people as much as they depended on their drug of choice and you don't want to be his next addiction! If you want to see other guys I would suggest you not give their phone numbers to your mother and tell her to butt out! If she can't see if maybe a couple of your friends could like to share an apartment with you? You need to tell your mother politely that you are a grown woman and capable of making your own decisions on life and if you can't do that under her roof you'll do it elsewhere. Good luck :)
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In one ear and out the other. You're old enough to do what you want. It might take a while but in the end she'll see she can't win and eventually give up.
4 :
Will your mama do the same thing for all your BF, if not then she is protecting you only if not then there is something really wrong with your mama. In the first scenario, you should sit down with your mama and discuss it with you mama and Point out that you are grown up now but try to get why she do not like him because she can see the situation from out side (while you only think from your heart). The second scenario is the worst one, and if so try to stand up and take a position for your self (shrink)
5 :
I have a mum like that. So I moved out and don't talk to her anymore. Sounds harsh I know but that's not the full story. My life is so much better now.
6 :
Okay, you have to hide this from her then. Also, don't do anything which may risk the guy's progress. Since, he's just out of rehab, don't cause any emotional pain to him.
7 :
First of all, she has a reason for being concerned if they are all like this bf of yours. He needs to take rehab seriously. You are not doing him any favors by being with him. There is a serious reason for them saying that he needs time alone. that is for him to think about why he got so bad and what he wants for his future. As long as you are in the picture, he will not be focusing only on himself. That is what he needs to do to get himself back together. You are being selfish by agreeing to seeing him again. You could unintentionally ruin his life by hindering his recovery whether your realize it or not!!! Try not being so selfish and immature. Let him go. As for your mother, it is her house and she can do as she pleases if she pays the bills. You are 20, and can get a job and find yourself a place to live. I do not agree with what she is doing, but as long as she is paying your bills, she is going to be in your business. Maybe she is just trying to make sure you get a good education and do not get involved in anything that could cause you harm. That is what loving mothers do. If you were more mature, she would not have to be doing all of this to keep you focused on school.
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Saturday, December 14, 2013
I have so much hatred... what can I do to destroy it?
I have so much hatred... what can I do to destroy it?
It all started on August 12, 2009. My life circumstances have gone totally downhill and I have stored so much hatred against two people, the ones responsible for all my disgrace until this very second I'm writing. I had a good job in Northern Virginia. Good pay, my own apartment, good friends, and an overall stability. Though my job was never the best environment, this date I mentioned above, changed my life and up to now it has been all generally bad. I had a question on a job I was doing and I went to my supervisor. He took the time to ask me a question to test my knowledge and I could not provide the right answer. His mood went bad. He told me he was shocked and began to scold me for past works, that I was taking long and from there, it just went really bad. I did not have a good evaluation even after taking my free time to study and read and get up to speed because his question went more difficult and more difficult. In September, he gave me a job but never told what was the deadline, so I tried to do it the best I could, and it was my very first time doing such a job. The following day he came to me to ask me if I was finished, but I was just on my 20%. So I took the job home and tried to rush and kept working until 4:30am. I did not sleep much, and I delivered the job next day. Everything seemed ok. The next week one of my coworkers found a mistake and told him and he scolded me inside his office with the door shut criticizing my job. Next day he gave me a "technical" evaluation and he told almost two hours just to mention how bad I was doing. Then, a couple of weeks later, because I was going to have a new supervisor because this SOB went to another branch, he took my new supervisor for the final evaluation. He denigrated me in front of the other, passing the bad perception to him because though my personal relationship with the new supervisor was somehow better, he still gave me a bad evaluation later. I quickly noticed when discussing with him that he was simply afraid to give me a good evaluation because it would seem weird and could cause a bad perception on his boss in terms of inconsistency. But the thing that worsened the situation was this f@#$ SOB co-worker, he mocked me every way he could, in Facebook, in Evite Invitations, in e-mails, I was a fool to not have reported him I know, but this guy I am sure was the masterpiece author of all my disgraces there. He mocked a handicapped co-worker as well and was extremely troublesome with many people around- but he had 15 years of experience and so he delivered good jobs in short time, which is basically what matters to most companies. He went to some of my friends to talk about me and how bad I was doing, but they knew better and noticed he was a prick. Some of them ended infuriated with him because of personal problems with him (which I had nothing to do with). He even slammed a door to one of the female workers in the office. So, having made very good friends and liking the area (I still talk to them today), I made the sad decision to give up my independence and stability and had to resign, had to leave the area and now I am in Florida. Before leaving, the supervisor gave me fair evaluation and even a portrait. Weird, right? Here I am- living my parents, passing through very tough moments, have no money, no independence, bored, have applied to hundreds of jobs and it is now, almost one year later, that I have been contacted for interviews. It is now that I am feeling some sort of comfort but my first interview did not work, I believe I did well but they simply chose someone better; and now I am waiting for another interview, it was going to be yesterday but they had to postpone it to sometime in the future they don't still know. They said they were going to call me to set the new time, but I guess I have to wait. Nevertheless, there is a big situation in my family which is going to burst pretty soon and I will have to presence it. My friends there in Virginia keep having a lot of success (and I am happy with them!) while here I am, stuck, stagnant, fu@#$% depending on my parents like a fu@#$% kid, 28 years old I am supposed to have a home, independence, I have tried lots of jobs in my field and unrelated to my field but the freakin' economy is bad and I have no freakin' clue when I will have a job, and all of this is thanks to those two f@#$% SOB that I hate with all my heart! I am in the point I am cursing them everyday, my hatred against them is so, so strong, they have made my life miserable, I remember by good times as an independent man and thanks to with those f@#$%%'s I am here waiting for a big problem to burst in my family and having to be here when it happens (I have nothing to do with it), not be able to travel around because I have no money. I was raised a Christian and I never hated anyone, of course there have been incidents with some people, but these two are the ones that h
Religion & Spirituality - 5 Answers
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1 :
Anger Management/Counseling
2 :
You will have to stop acting like a kid if you want to be not treated like one. I read this and i thought it was like a 15 year old or something
3 :
Go to your knees and pray that the Holy Spirit will calm your mind and give you peace. Spend more time studying the word of God in the Holy Bible and try to be obedient to God's will in all that you do. There will be no more room in your heart for hate.
4 :
Counseling... or marijuana
5 :
Well calm down. I know that you have hate in your heart but you -have- to let it go and you-have- to forgive them. You need to ask God for the strength to move on with your life and to forget about your past. It's done and over with, there is nothing you can do. You have to forgive those who wrong you if you want to be forgiven by God. So take it for what it is and let it go. Ask God to help you love these people. Pray for them everyday that they learn how to treat people better. Life is hard for a lot of people out there now, not just you. So be grateful that you even have a family to turn to in a time of need, and you aren't homeless! Have faith that God will take care of you and He will. Read the New Testament with an open heart. Be accepting of Jesus Christ and let go of all your anger and hate. Talk with God in prayer and allow Him to heal you.
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It all started on August 12, 2009. My life circumstances have gone totally downhill and I have stored so much hatred against two people, the ones responsible for all my disgrace until this very second I'm writing. I had a good job in Northern Virginia. Good pay, my own apartment, good friends, and an overall stability. Though my job was never the best environment, this date I mentioned above, changed my life and up to now it has been all generally bad. I had a question on a job I was doing and I went to my supervisor. He took the time to ask me a question to test my knowledge and I could not provide the right answer. His mood went bad. He told me he was shocked and began to scold me for past works, that I was taking long and from there, it just went really bad. I did not have a good evaluation even after taking my free time to study and read and get up to speed because his question went more difficult and more difficult. In September, he gave me a job but never told what was the deadline, so I tried to do it the best I could, and it was my very first time doing such a job. The following day he came to me to ask me if I was finished, but I was just on my 20%. So I took the job home and tried to rush and kept working until 4:30am. I did not sleep much, and I delivered the job next day. Everything seemed ok. The next week one of my coworkers found a mistake and told him and he scolded me inside his office with the door shut criticizing my job. Next day he gave me a "technical" evaluation and he told almost two hours just to mention how bad I was doing. Then, a couple of weeks later, because I was going to have a new supervisor because this SOB went to another branch, he took my new supervisor for the final evaluation. He denigrated me in front of the other, passing the bad perception to him because though my personal relationship with the new supervisor was somehow better, he still gave me a bad evaluation later. I quickly noticed when discussing with him that he was simply afraid to give me a good evaluation because it would seem weird and could cause a bad perception on his boss in terms of inconsistency. But the thing that worsened the situation was this f@#$ SOB co-worker, he mocked me every way he could, in Facebook, in Evite Invitations, in e-mails, I was a fool to not have reported him I know, but this guy I am sure was the masterpiece author of all my disgraces there. He mocked a handicapped co-worker as well and was extremely troublesome with many people around- but he had 15 years of experience and so he delivered good jobs in short time, which is basically what matters to most companies. He went to some of my friends to talk about me and how bad I was doing, but they knew better and noticed he was a prick. Some of them ended infuriated with him because of personal problems with him (which I had nothing to do with). He even slammed a door to one of the female workers in the office. So, having made very good friends and liking the area (I still talk to them today), I made the sad decision to give up my independence and stability and had to resign, had to leave the area and now I am in Florida. Before leaving, the supervisor gave me fair evaluation and even a portrait. Weird, right? Here I am- living my parents, passing through very tough moments, have no money, no independence, bored, have applied to hundreds of jobs and it is now, almost one year later, that I have been contacted for interviews. It is now that I am feeling some sort of comfort but my first interview did not work, I believe I did well but they simply chose someone better; and now I am waiting for another interview, it was going to be yesterday but they had to postpone it to sometime in the future they don't still know. They said they were going to call me to set the new time, but I guess I have to wait. Nevertheless, there is a big situation in my family which is going to burst pretty soon and I will have to presence it. My friends there in Virginia keep having a lot of success (and I am happy with them!) while here I am, stuck, stagnant, fu@#$% depending on my parents like a fu@#$% kid, 28 years old I am supposed to have a home, independence, I have tried lots of jobs in my field and unrelated to my field but the freakin' economy is bad and I have no freakin' clue when I will have a job, and all of this is thanks to those two f@#$% SOB that I hate with all my heart! I am in the point I am cursing them everyday, my hatred against them is so, so strong, they have made my life miserable, I remember by good times as an independent man and thanks to with those f@#$%%'s I am here waiting for a big problem to burst in my family and having to be here when it happens (I have nothing to do with it), not be able to travel around because I have no money. I was raised a Christian and I never hated anyone, of course there have been incidents with some people, but these two are the ones that h
Religion & Spirituality - 5 Answers
Random Answers, Critics, Comments, Opinions :
1 :
Anger Management/Counseling
2 :
You will have to stop acting like a kid if you want to be not treated like one. I read this and i thought it was like a 15 year old or something
3 :
Go to your knees and pray that the Holy Spirit will calm your mind and give you peace. Spend more time studying the word of God in the Holy Bible and try to be obedient to God's will in all that you do. There will be no more room in your heart for hate.
4 :
Counseling... or marijuana
5 :
Well calm down. I know that you have hate in your heart but you -have- to let it go and you-have- to forgive them. You need to ask God for the strength to move on with your life and to forget about your past. It's done and over with, there is nothing you can do. You have to forgive those who wrong you if you want to be forgiven by God. So take it for what it is and let it go. Ask God to help you love these people. Pray for them everyday that they learn how to treat people better. Life is hard for a lot of people out there now, not just you. So be grateful that you even have a family to turn to in a time of need, and you aren't homeless! Have faith that God will take care of you and He will. Read the New Testament with an open heart. Be accepting of Jesus Christ and let go of all your anger and hate. Talk with God in prayer and allow Him to heal you.
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Saturday, December 7, 2013
Boyfriend vs guy friend?
Boyfriend vs guy friend?
I have a loving boyfriend of 5 years. last fall, we had a rocky time in our relationship because i started liking a guy from my school and i felt horribly guilty about it and ended up confessing it to my boyfriend. since then, he has had slight trust issues and made me delete that guy friend from my facebook and made me promise that i didn't like him anymore and wouldn't talk to him. so i had a really hard time because i still liked the other guy (even though i hardly knew him). i talked to him a few times last fall, but then i stopped and we didn't see each other for months. last week, the guy friend, after not talking to me/seeing me for months, came up to my boyfriend and i at an awards ceremony in which i won an award and this guy congratulated me! since last week, i haven't been able to stop thinking of him. i was completely obsessed with this guy, so i emailed him a few times, without my boyfriend knowing and today, i met up with this guy for coffee to discuss forming an extracurricular group together this fall at our school. now that i've gotten a chance to talk to him more, i don't feel like i have much of a crush on this guy anymore, but i still really want to be friends with him. however, i know my boyfriend would never understand because of how i felt about this other guy last year. i feel like i'd be missing out on a lot of experiences if i didn't become friends with this other guy, but i don't know what to do about my boyfriend. i love him, but i just wish he never knew about this other guy so i could openly be friends with him and not hide things from my boyfriend. i also feel like i want more independence and not to have to tell my boyfriend everything, to be able to be friends and hang out with anyone i want to. i need something to change soon. what should i do?
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Just hangout with the guy if your bf don’t like it, then dump him. don’t ever let a man control you.
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I have a loving boyfriend of 5 years. last fall, we had a rocky time in our relationship because i started liking a guy from my school and i felt horribly guilty about it and ended up confessing it to my boyfriend. since then, he has had slight trust issues and made me delete that guy friend from my facebook and made me promise that i didn't like him anymore and wouldn't talk to him. so i had a really hard time because i still liked the other guy (even though i hardly knew him). i talked to him a few times last fall, but then i stopped and we didn't see each other for months. last week, the guy friend, after not talking to me/seeing me for months, came up to my boyfriend and i at an awards ceremony in which i won an award and this guy congratulated me! since last week, i haven't been able to stop thinking of him. i was completely obsessed with this guy, so i emailed him a few times, without my boyfriend knowing and today, i met up with this guy for coffee to discuss forming an extracurricular group together this fall at our school. now that i've gotten a chance to talk to him more, i don't feel like i have much of a crush on this guy anymore, but i still really want to be friends with him. however, i know my boyfriend would never understand because of how i felt about this other guy last year. i feel like i'd be missing out on a lot of experiences if i didn't become friends with this other guy, but i don't know what to do about my boyfriend. i love him, but i just wish he never knew about this other guy so i could openly be friends with him and not hide things from my boyfriend. i also feel like i want more independence and not to have to tell my boyfriend everything, to be able to be friends and hang out with anyone i want to. i need something to change soon. what should i do?
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Just hangout with the guy if your bf don’t like it, then dump him. don’t ever let a man control you.
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