Is asking a question a "threat" ?
On Facebook, some one posted a poll that asked if Obama should be assassinated. The poll was taken down as soon as Facebook found out about it, and today, the Secret Service is "investigating the THREAT made against the President". Really?..... Is asking a question REALLY the same thing as making a threat? I remind you... this country was FOUNDED on the act of high treason, our Declaration of Independence CLEARLY STATES our right and duty to cast off a failing government, and our 2nd amendment gives us the RIGHT to have the guns necessary to do that very thing. Now... I am NOT saying it is time to revolt.... I am only stating the FACTS that in our government, the RIGHT to CONSIDER and DISCUSS such acts are our DUTY..... and I ask the question again.... should a "poll" (no matter how "radical") really be considered a "threat"?
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They were talking about killing someone, on something like facebook people can get the wrong idea. You could call it psychological warfare, if you're paranoid enough.
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Even after all Bush muddled F'ed up, I still never wished the man dead. I can see how posting a question such as this on a public forum would be considered a death threat
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You should probably only capitalize the first letter of a proper noun, the first letter of the first word of a sentence or an acronym. If I walked up to a person and asked them if I should punch them in the face I think they would find that threatening. If I asked a person if they wanted to die today, they would probably find that threatening as well. If I asked someone if I should sexually abuse children they would probably call the police. So yes, asking a question can be construed as a being a threat. Funny, though...Why did the secret service tell you about their investigation? Or are you taking someone's word for it.
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Best you be practical I would think, and not equate assassination with free speech. It's not protected speech to shout fire in a crowded building. I think you already know this. It's very obvious that this isn't just discussing something. I know you are not that naive. Inciting violence towards the person the nation freely elected is a grave and serious thing.
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Thursday, November 28, 2013
Thursday, November 14, 2013
What's going on between us? Is it over?
What's going on between us? Is it over?
Let's call him A. So A and myself met around this time last year when we're auditioning for band in our new college. Both of us eventually got in and from there, we've gradually became best of friends/best buddies. Since then also, he's become a major part of my life as he's never failed to bring laughter whenever i'm with him. So after many months later, playful cupid decided to shoot love arrows on us, and so we've began dating. We have agreed that what both of us wanted in this r/s is to settled down in a stable r/s and no more dramatic love story. Everything was just so perfect and in place, and we even discussed our future. Very comfortable with each other and we laughter never fail to end our day. Though he's my 4th boyfriend but it's my first time falling in love with my best friend/best buddies. We have seen each others family and also each others' friends, everything seem so fine. Though we broke up on our first month (due to some misunderstanding) , we got back together as he said that after letting me go , he realized that i am very important to him and he couldn't afford to lose me. Like wise, i felt the same. Things got better and we continue our love story, and he's as sweet as ever. Sometime ago, we couldn't meet each other for around 10 days because he's working part time and i have my own commitment in band as there's performance coming right up. First few days of that 10 days period were alright and like as usual, though we couldn't meet but we texted from day to night and we're always on each others' mind. But soon enough everything turned sour, harsh words used on each other. I blamed myself even now that if i hadn't use these words on him, we'll still be happily together now. Anyway we have decided to give each other some time to think about us . After near 2 days of not communicating , he suggested we should just be friends. I was devastated and couldn't understand why. It has been days now and i've tried consoling myself that if that's what he wanted and if he's happy, i should be happy for him as well.But sometime, i can't help but to tear up because he left me with so much to remember.I still check his facebook page and his statuses , but i don't get it. He posted (over a few days period till now ) sad music video , then on his status he posted "Regret." , "my mind is in a mess now." , "felt so much better. ^^", "I confess.I miss you." . Now that the 10 days part time job is over, he still haven't text me ever since we broke up on saturday and not even a call. I assume he doesn't want me and no longer care about me anymore , but i still believe he patronize my personal blog. But why is his statuses so contradicting. What's exactly on his mind? What's happening to us? What should i do? Thanks for reading. Please help me.
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Well this is actually quite a difficult one. He misses you, but it's common to miss someone after a break-up (regardless of who breaks up with who). As for discussions about your future, he must be quite an unusual specimen if he open discusses his future with you. Quite often a guy will talk about his future with a girl only if she brings it up, he feels like he needs to, she pressures him to, etc. Especially among college kids. In all honesty it might be best to play the field a little bit. Go out and enjoy being single for a little bit. He dumped you... you might as well make the most of it. And hey, you might even consider homosexuality! (jk)
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U need to pack a bowl and blaze it girl he's gone :/
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its quite... um, complicated. i think u should meet up with him and ask him whats wrong.
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Let's call him A. So A and myself met around this time last year when we're auditioning for band in our new college. Both of us eventually got in and from there, we've gradually became best of friends/best buddies. Since then also, he's become a major part of my life as he's never failed to bring laughter whenever i'm with him. So after many months later, playful cupid decided to shoot love arrows on us, and so we've began dating. We have agreed that what both of us wanted in this r/s is to settled down in a stable r/s and no more dramatic love story. Everything was just so perfect and in place, and we even discussed our future. Very comfortable with each other and we laughter never fail to end our day. Though he's my 4th boyfriend but it's my first time falling in love with my best friend/best buddies. We have seen each others family and also each others' friends, everything seem so fine. Though we broke up on our first month (due to some misunderstanding) , we got back together as he said that after letting me go , he realized that i am very important to him and he couldn't afford to lose me. Like wise, i felt the same. Things got better and we continue our love story, and he's as sweet as ever. Sometime ago, we couldn't meet each other for around 10 days because he's working part time and i have my own commitment in band as there's performance coming right up. First few days of that 10 days period were alright and like as usual, though we couldn't meet but we texted from day to night and we're always on each others' mind. But soon enough everything turned sour, harsh words used on each other. I blamed myself even now that if i hadn't use these words on him, we'll still be happily together now. Anyway we have decided to give each other some time to think about us . After near 2 days of not communicating , he suggested we should just be friends. I was devastated and couldn't understand why. It has been days now and i've tried consoling myself that if that's what he wanted and if he's happy, i should be happy for him as well.But sometime, i can't help but to tear up because he left me with so much to remember.I still check his facebook page and his statuses , but i don't get it. He posted (over a few days period till now ) sad music video , then on his status he posted "Regret." , "my mind is in a mess now." , "felt so much better. ^^", "I confess.I miss you." . Now that the 10 days part time job is over, he still haven't text me ever since we broke up on saturday and not even a call. I assume he doesn't want me and no longer care about me anymore , but i still believe he patronize my personal blog. But why is his statuses so contradicting. What's exactly on his mind? What's happening to us? What should i do? Thanks for reading. Please help me.
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Well this is actually quite a difficult one. He misses you, but it's common to miss someone after a break-up (regardless of who breaks up with who). As for discussions about your future, he must be quite an unusual specimen if he open discusses his future with you. Quite often a guy will talk about his future with a girl only if she brings it up, he feels like he needs to, she pressures him to, etc. Especially among college kids. In all honesty it might be best to play the field a little bit. Go out and enjoy being single for a little bit. He dumped you... you might as well make the most of it. And hey, you might even consider homosexuality! (jk)
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U need to pack a bowl and blaze it girl he's gone :/
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its quite... um, complicated. i think u should meet up with him and ask him whats wrong.
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Thursday, November 7, 2013
Honestly people.. this is a long one, but I really need advice?
Honestly people.. this is a long one, but I really need advice?
Okay. I'm dating my best friend. I've known him for 7 years, we've been best friends for 3 years, and we've been dating for just over 2 months. He was in a long term relationship, I think for 6-7 years, something like that. His ex went to France for a year for school, and dumped him over Facebook when she got there. This was last summer. Well, I had known that he had been depressed, but I didn't know why. A mutual acquaintance told me the story, and I was being a good friend and I was there for him. (for reference - and yes, this is relevant - he cheated on his ex with me on several occasions almost 4 years ago, and I've been hopelessly in love with him pretty much since I met him. Oh, and he's five years older than me) Well these events brought us much closer together. Almost every night he drove over to my neighborhood and we went on walks together, and on several occasions he spent the night with me. Eventually we started having sex again, and he ended up taking me on my first date. That night, he told me he wanted to be with me (two months after his ex left) and it took a little over a week before we actually became a couple. For the record, we're complete opposites. He's a theater nerd indie dude, kinda grungy and stuff. Very quiet and introverted. I'm just flat out wacky, kinda trendy, and loud. That's just the background information, which is necessary in this situation. Now, I know he's still bent out of shape over his ex. When we became a couple he said "well do you want to get hurt now or later?" (I had told him I was willing to take a chance, no matter how scared I am of getting hurt) and basically ended the subject of us becoming a couple (which btw took A LOT of discussing) with "this CANNOT affect our friendship" what is that supposed to mean? Am I the rebound chick? He's kind of a ladies man, and I'm ridiculously possessive and jealous. I'm mostly keeping my insanity to myself, just so I don't ruin anything. I expressed to him my concerns yesterday, which are: What am I to him? Rebound? Does he still talk to his ex? What happens between us when she comes back? Is he going to see her? Is he going to dump me to get back with her? I feel like I have to compete with her for his affection when she isn't even trying; she has a new boyfriend and IS IN EUROPE. In response to pretty much everything I said, all he responded with was "I haven't talked to her in weeks." .......okay!? What about everything else? He did agree that he can't blame me for thinking that way, which I find important on his part. Before we got together I was forcing myself to accept that it would never happen and that I just want him to be happy - with or without me. Well, now that we're an item, I can't quite tell what's going on with him. I don't want to be intrusive and ask him 20 questions, this is a new thing for me (dating a guy with a job and a car and that's significantly older than me and that isn't an abusive psychotic freak) and I'm walking on eggshells here, because I just don't want anything to go wrong. I want some insight from anyone who reads all of this - what do you see going on here? Do I have any reason to be jealous and crazy? I've already let my guard down - should I put the wall back up? What would you do if you were in a situation like this? PLEASE - please give me some insight. Anything would be helpful. Obviously I love him unconditionally. I know that it's worth it to be with him even if I get hurt in the end - but I'm so wary of it. The last thing he wants is to hurt me, and I honestly don't see a future for us. I'm taking the chance because I don't want to spend my life wondering "what if?" I want to know what people would do if they were in my shoes, or even his.
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sorry i dont have time to read all that :(
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Well.
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Give you some insight.....that's impossible. You and only you know your feelings for this guy...we don't Ask yourself if there is any future in this relationship together. l...personally would be walking away..... But this is your feelings that we are talking about.
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First thing you need to remember is that he cheated on his ex. Doesn't matter that it was with you, but that he cheated. Secondly, you need to ask yourself if you will be ok if he cheats on you. You should stay friends and keep intimacy out of it. If you cannot do that then you need to just stay away from him. I know you don't want to hear that, because you probably think HE IS THE ONE!! ...how many times I have heard that from my own daughters !! If you let him, he will hurt you later rather than sooner. It is your choice.
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Well you are the girl after a 6 year relationship, so yes you are the rebound. I personally wouldn't have gotten myself in that situation. I don't like the dude because he said "do you wanna be hurt now or later"... so I'm not sure, but just do what makes you happy.
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can you plzzzzzzz make your Q little short
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hmm, i read it all :D by the sounds of the conversation you had, he sounds like you either are the rebound girl or that he's not expecting anything too serious or long with you. by him saying that 'this CANNOT affect our friendship', i kinda get the vibe that he's expecting that it will end in one way or another? As for his response to your questions, he probably thinks that they are based on what their current stance with each other is, maybe he felt that by saying just that, he would get across that because they dont talk, he doesnt have feelings for her and that you arent the rebound. i see where the confusion comes in... maybe just try focusing on you two for now, try to forget about the ex, if you still feel that hes caught up on her even though shes not around, its probably time to talk to him about it again. hope that helped! x
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i did read all of it i think you might be right with your rebound girl theory. you'd been the other girl a few times, and then you were a shoulder to cry on. no lie not many girls wanna deal with a depressed guy. in that time he got even more used to you, and you were like the next best thing. and he told you that this CANNOT effect your friendship... in this context it sounds like hes saying that if he f*cks up like he thinks he will, then will you please forgive him and stay his friend. you should want someone who sees you as a priority instead of an option. and he clearly doesn't see you as a priority because he didn't really reassure you of any of your concerns did he? but its fair enough that you would have so many concerns. i mean he cheated on his gf of 6-7 years with you a few times, how do you know that he didn't hook up with other girls and how do you know that hes not cheating on you? straight up, you cannot expect him to not talk to his ex and you can't even really demand that (or so i think) because demands never go over well. he also can't really answer most of your questions definitely. see how can he promise you that hes not going to break up with you. does it matter if he breaks up with you for her or for someone else? girl you're an extrovert, you've definitely got this. i think it'd be in your best interest to break up with him. stay friends with him if you want but don't hook up with him anymore because the more you do, the more respect he loses for you. why would he take a relationship with you seriously if he can have fun with you without the work? i really don't mean to sound harsh i just don't think you're giving yourself enough credit. let the ladies man do his thing, he just got out of a serious relationship don't force him into another one. if he really wanted another serious relationship he'd be putting in way more effort. good luck :)
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Well first, i DON'T think you are a rebound girl. I understand why you would get jealous, i know i would. Try and put yourself in his situation, he was with this girl for years! She would have been a big part of his life. Yes he should turn all of his attention to his new girlfriend now (you) but sounds like he needs a little more time to fully get over her. I'm not saying he still loves her. But getting over a serious relationship is going to take time. You two being nothing alike sound like a good couple (: Be good to him to help him get over this girl, you can ask him the questions you have, about her and get his serious answer. I really hope it turns out good for you both, i know how good it is dating your best friend (: If it is meant to be it WILL be. Good luck! Try not to over think little things and stay positive. He's yours.
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I'm sorry but it sounds as though he may be using you until this other girl comes back, stringing you along while hoping his ex will want to pick up where they left off when she returns. I'm guessing he's deluding himself though if she broke up with him and has moved on. Why is he being evasive with his answers? Don't trust him if he can not give you straight answers. Trust your gut instincts. If you have worries after just 2 months as a couple, what will it be like in a year or 2 or when his ex does come back? Oh, and if can cheat on someone with you, he can, and most likely will, cheat with someone else on you.
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Okay. I'm dating my best friend. I've known him for 7 years, we've been best friends for 3 years, and we've been dating for just over 2 months. He was in a long term relationship, I think for 6-7 years, something like that. His ex went to France for a year for school, and dumped him over Facebook when she got there. This was last summer. Well, I had known that he had been depressed, but I didn't know why. A mutual acquaintance told me the story, and I was being a good friend and I was there for him. (for reference - and yes, this is relevant - he cheated on his ex with me on several occasions almost 4 years ago, and I've been hopelessly in love with him pretty much since I met him. Oh, and he's five years older than me) Well these events brought us much closer together. Almost every night he drove over to my neighborhood and we went on walks together, and on several occasions he spent the night with me. Eventually we started having sex again, and he ended up taking me on my first date. That night, he told me he wanted to be with me (two months after his ex left) and it took a little over a week before we actually became a couple. For the record, we're complete opposites. He's a theater nerd indie dude, kinda grungy and stuff. Very quiet and introverted. I'm just flat out wacky, kinda trendy, and loud. That's just the background information, which is necessary in this situation. Now, I know he's still bent out of shape over his ex. When we became a couple he said "well do you want to get hurt now or later?" (I had told him I was willing to take a chance, no matter how scared I am of getting hurt) and basically ended the subject of us becoming a couple (which btw took A LOT of discussing) with "this CANNOT affect our friendship" what is that supposed to mean? Am I the rebound chick? He's kind of a ladies man, and I'm ridiculously possessive and jealous. I'm mostly keeping my insanity to myself, just so I don't ruin anything. I expressed to him my concerns yesterday, which are: What am I to him? Rebound? Does he still talk to his ex? What happens between us when she comes back? Is he going to see her? Is he going to dump me to get back with her? I feel like I have to compete with her for his affection when she isn't even trying; she has a new boyfriend and IS IN EUROPE. In response to pretty much everything I said, all he responded with was "I haven't talked to her in weeks." .......okay!? What about everything else? He did agree that he can't blame me for thinking that way, which I find important on his part. Before we got together I was forcing myself to accept that it would never happen and that I just want him to be happy - with or without me. Well, now that we're an item, I can't quite tell what's going on with him. I don't want to be intrusive and ask him 20 questions, this is a new thing for me (dating a guy with a job and a car and that's significantly older than me and that isn't an abusive psychotic freak) and I'm walking on eggshells here, because I just don't want anything to go wrong. I want some insight from anyone who reads all of this - what do you see going on here? Do I have any reason to be jealous and crazy? I've already let my guard down - should I put the wall back up? What would you do if you were in a situation like this? PLEASE - please give me some insight. Anything would be helpful. Obviously I love him unconditionally. I know that it's worth it to be with him even if I get hurt in the end - but I'm so wary of it. The last thing he wants is to hurt me, and I honestly don't see a future for us. I'm taking the chance because I don't want to spend my life wondering "what if?" I want to know what people would do if they were in my shoes, or even his.
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sorry i dont have time to read all that :(
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Well.
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Give you some insight.....that's impossible. You and only you know your feelings for this guy...we don't Ask yourself if there is any future in this relationship together. l...personally would be walking away..... But this is your feelings that we are talking about.
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First thing you need to remember is that he cheated on his ex. Doesn't matter that it was with you, but that he cheated. Secondly, you need to ask yourself if you will be ok if he cheats on you. You should stay friends and keep intimacy out of it. If you cannot do that then you need to just stay away from him. I know you don't want to hear that, because you probably think HE IS THE ONE!! ...how many times I have heard that from my own daughters !! If you let him, he will hurt you later rather than sooner. It is your choice.
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Well you are the girl after a 6 year relationship, so yes you are the rebound. I personally wouldn't have gotten myself in that situation. I don't like the dude because he said "do you wanna be hurt now or later"... so I'm not sure, but just do what makes you happy.
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can you plzzzzzzz make your Q little short
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hmm, i read it all :D by the sounds of the conversation you had, he sounds like you either are the rebound girl or that he's not expecting anything too serious or long with you. by him saying that 'this CANNOT affect our friendship', i kinda get the vibe that he's expecting that it will end in one way or another? As for his response to your questions, he probably thinks that they are based on what their current stance with each other is, maybe he felt that by saying just that, he would get across that because they dont talk, he doesnt have feelings for her and that you arent the rebound. i see where the confusion comes in... maybe just try focusing on you two for now, try to forget about the ex, if you still feel that hes caught up on her even though shes not around, its probably time to talk to him about it again. hope that helped! x
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i did read all of it i think you might be right with your rebound girl theory. you'd been the other girl a few times, and then you were a shoulder to cry on. no lie not many girls wanna deal with a depressed guy. in that time he got even more used to you, and you were like the next best thing. and he told you that this CANNOT effect your friendship... in this context it sounds like hes saying that if he f*cks up like he thinks he will, then will you please forgive him and stay his friend. you should want someone who sees you as a priority instead of an option. and he clearly doesn't see you as a priority because he didn't really reassure you of any of your concerns did he? but its fair enough that you would have so many concerns. i mean he cheated on his gf of 6-7 years with you a few times, how do you know that he didn't hook up with other girls and how do you know that hes not cheating on you? straight up, you cannot expect him to not talk to his ex and you can't even really demand that (or so i think) because demands never go over well. he also can't really answer most of your questions definitely. see how can he promise you that hes not going to break up with you. does it matter if he breaks up with you for her or for someone else? girl you're an extrovert, you've definitely got this. i think it'd be in your best interest to break up with him. stay friends with him if you want but don't hook up with him anymore because the more you do, the more respect he loses for you. why would he take a relationship with you seriously if he can have fun with you without the work? i really don't mean to sound harsh i just don't think you're giving yourself enough credit. let the ladies man do his thing, he just got out of a serious relationship don't force him into another one. if he really wanted another serious relationship he'd be putting in way more effort. good luck :)
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Well first, i DON'T think you are a rebound girl. I understand why you would get jealous, i know i would. Try and put yourself in his situation, he was with this girl for years! She would have been a big part of his life. Yes he should turn all of his attention to his new girlfriend now (you) but sounds like he needs a little more time to fully get over her. I'm not saying he still loves her. But getting over a serious relationship is going to take time. You two being nothing alike sound like a good couple (: Be good to him to help him get over this girl, you can ask him the questions you have, about her and get his serious answer. I really hope it turns out good for you both, i know how good it is dating your best friend (: If it is meant to be it WILL be. Good luck! Try not to over think little things and stay positive. He's yours.
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I'm sorry but it sounds as though he may be using you until this other girl comes back, stringing you along while hoping his ex will want to pick up where they left off when she returns. I'm guessing he's deluding himself though if she broke up with him and has moved on. Why is he being evasive with his answers? Don't trust him if he can not give you straight answers. Trust your gut instincts. If you have worries after just 2 months as a couple, what will it be like in a year or 2 or when his ex does come back? Oh, and if can cheat on someone with you, he can, and most likely will, cheat with someone else on you.
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Friday, November 1, 2013
This guy always backs away in a one step forward, two steps back kind of way.?
This guy always backs away in a one step forward, two steps back kind of way.?
We're eighteen and go to the same college and have been dating for the last couple months. He's always so sweet and amazing... when I'm with him. but everytime we hit a milestone, he backs away. What gives? For example: When he took me on our first real date, he begged me to stay longer, see him the next day, etc... Then he didn't call me for a week. When he had me meet his friends, it went super well, he was pretty much attached to me the entire time, he was so cute and sweet, and begged me to stay longer.... then didn't call for a week. When he came to my formal with me, it went so well, he was so boyfriendy and made friends with everyone, it was so perfect... didn't call for almost a week. Same goes for the first time we slept together. We're both home for our winter break right now, and last week, he drove the TWO HOURS and ditched his friends for New Years to come stay at my house and be with me on New Years and even meet all of my friends AND MY PARENTS. He tried super hard to get everyone to like him (they did), he was so amazing, he didn't want to leave the next day and we spent almost the whole day together, it was so perfect. We even discussed about how we're exclusive (we never talked about it before, I had just assumed). But he's still not my BOYFRIEND, and even though I don't want to be so into labels, I really do want that validation of our relationship. And I haven't heard from him since he left last Friday. Granted, he is taking a class over break and started school today (Monday) so this past weekend were his last days with his family. He hasn't been on Facebook at all either, so I know he's not just sitting there bored. He's probably busy. But still - how can he be too busy to call me for two seconds!? What gives? Oh also: he's never had a real girlfriend. Is he not calling because he's worried I'll smother him? What do I do?
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Ok the best thing I can tell you is to give it time. Maybe he is to busy with school and other things. You should give it a week. I am sure he will come around. I mean he tried this hard to impress your parents and he brings you around his friends. He is not embarrassed of you. Those are all good things and he is definitely into you. If I may throw in the guy I slept with was actually on new years eve and he was my first. Right now it hurts so much because we decided to keep it as friends. And it hurt because he was my first and tries to make me feel bad. So if you think this guy is the right one think twice and be sure he is not gonna hurt you.
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We're eighteen and go to the same college and have been dating for the last couple months. He's always so sweet and amazing... when I'm with him. but everytime we hit a milestone, he backs away. What gives? For example: When he took me on our first real date, he begged me to stay longer, see him the next day, etc... Then he didn't call me for a week. When he had me meet his friends, it went super well, he was pretty much attached to me the entire time, he was so cute and sweet, and begged me to stay longer.... then didn't call for a week. When he came to my formal with me, it went so well, he was so boyfriendy and made friends with everyone, it was so perfect... didn't call for almost a week. Same goes for the first time we slept together. We're both home for our winter break right now, and last week, he drove the TWO HOURS and ditched his friends for New Years to come stay at my house and be with me on New Years and even meet all of my friends AND MY PARENTS. He tried super hard to get everyone to like him (they did), he was so amazing, he didn't want to leave the next day and we spent almost the whole day together, it was so perfect. We even discussed about how we're exclusive (we never talked about it before, I had just assumed). But he's still not my BOYFRIEND, and even though I don't want to be so into labels, I really do want that validation of our relationship. And I haven't heard from him since he left last Friday. Granted, he is taking a class over break and started school today (Monday) so this past weekend were his last days with his family. He hasn't been on Facebook at all either, so I know he's not just sitting there bored. He's probably busy. But still - how can he be too busy to call me for two seconds!? What gives? Oh also: he's never had a real girlfriend. Is he not calling because he's worried I'll smother him? What do I do?
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Ok the best thing I can tell you is to give it time. Maybe he is to busy with school and other things. You should give it a week. I am sure he will come around. I mean he tried this hard to impress your parents and he brings you around his friends. He is not embarrassed of you. Those are all good things and he is definitely into you. If I may throw in the guy I slept with was actually on new years eve and he was my first. Right now it hurts so much because we decided to keep it as friends. And it hurt because he was my first and tries to make me feel bad. So if you think this guy is the right one think twice and be sure he is not gonna hurt you.
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Monday, October 28, 2013
Boyfriend of 3.5 years left me pregnant and hasn't spoken to me in weeks.?
Boyfriend of 3.5 years left me pregnant and hasn't spoken to me in weeks.?
ok, so all of my questions have been about this jerk, but here goes again because I am confused and hurt... so in the beginning my ex and I lived together almost 2 years... I got pregnant, a week later we lost the apartment (he lost his job back in December and then unemployment ran out so we couldn't afford it) then he dumped me, but begged me back and I said yes to be dumped again 3 days later (all that in early August). Well now things are even worse. He has played mind games and confused the crap out of me. He went with to my appointment on August 13th and seemed excited to see the ultrasound and he even told the doctor he wants a boy and he was actually helping me despite living 2 hours away. He called often and when he was at his dad's (only 10 minutes away from where I live) he would hang out with me and buy me stuff. Then things got bad again. He left back to his moms and his calls got less frequent and I couldn't even reach him. Then he came back the week of his birthday to get more of his stuff from his dad's house to move to his mom's (2hrs away). His 22nd birthday was August 26th. We hung out the day after his birthday and I bought him shoes and we went out to dinner. We discussed the things that went wrong in our relationship and we both agreed that right now there was no point to be together when we needed to work on ourselves to correct the problems if we ever wanted a future. We even discussed names for the baby and he mentioned something about if we ever have more kids we can name them all these other things... well, he left back to his mom's house the next day and then started ignoring me which made me crazy (obviously I am hormonal, too, so being ignored didn't help and I flipped out and called too much and sent too many messages, etc) well, he finally gets back to me that Tuesday and says we will talk later about all of this and he said he has been there for me when he was at his dads and bought me stuff and whatnot. Then he sent me a message on Facebook saying that he knew I had moved on and had someone else and that it upset him but he would get over it. I sent him back a message saying that was not the case and that, yea guys like me even though they know I am pregnant, but I haven't done anything with them. Well, he continued to ignore me after that and I didn't understand why. I got pissed again and told him that if he wanted to just ignore me that I wanted all my stuff back and that I had hung out with some new people and some of them were guys. I got ignored and ignored and ignored and then the following Tuesday I finally reach him and he gets all pissed at me and tells me he hopes my dating life is going good because he has been seeing someone down by his mom's house. I was really upset by this and sent him a million facebook messages calling him an a**hole and asking him why would he tell me he doesn't want me to move on and that he still cares and it would hurt him if I had someone else and he said he didn't know. The next day he sent the following message to me because I told him I can't leave him alone and we NEED to discuss the child... "yeah u can leave me alone please stop writing me i dont wanna talk to you.. i have a date in like 30 mins and hopefully i can get lucky again tonight!! so yeah keep ur head up and well U R gonna have a baby im gonna live life and man has it been great these last couple weeks!I dont really know what u want me too say so i hope ur dating life is going as good as u said cause ur gonna need a baby daddy im just gonna pay my share." I honestly vomited all over myself when I read this and I couldn't breathe. I then blacked out and got severely depressed. I sent him messages back after I calmed down telling him he was a pathetic slut and how could he do that to anyone and that he was just trying to hurt me and make me jealous and it was sad and I asked him how he could possibly treat me like that after such a long relationship and after being there and saying he wanted to be with me. Then I blocked him on facebook, but I regretted it by that Friday and sent him a message asking him how he could be so cruel to which I got the reply ,"u def should go on dates and fuck people cause i am and its really sad u think i love u still i havent in more than a year but this is for realz ami so do what u gotta do i only pretended to love u for the kids name that was it but now i dont care nor do i want it or you im done i have moved on and advise u to do the same it wasnt fun while it lasted and if i had any commonsense i would have left ur ass a long time ago so this is it goodbye man! p.s. please stop writing me or trying to get a hold of me i do not wanna talk to u EVER so please just stop i will contact u when im in town and have ur shit together." I am so confused and heartbroken at this point. He has not talked to me at all since and its been almost 3 weeks. I am also really pissed off because all of that was over facebook and he didn't even have the balls to call me or speak to me face to face. He has blocked me and has no phone so I can't even reach him and I am so mad. I just don't understand. We were best friends for 2 years before we got together and we had talked about marriage and he told me earlier this year in like May that he wanted to be with me and he wanted kids soon and then I got pregnant and everything changed. I just don't understand at all. I spoke to his mom (which he told me she hated me bc of a thing I did that is explained in a prior question) and she told me that he doesn't know what he wants, but when they were at the Chicago Bears training camp thing in early August he was telling everyone he still loved me and he missed me. She also said he wants to go to the army, but she doesn't even know if thats what he really wants. she told me I am in a way better place in my life and that she doesn't understand why he is being such a jerk. I also spoke to his dad and his dad said he does have a female friend down there, but he doesnt know if they are together and he doesn't know if my ex just said those things to be a jerk. He also asked me why I would want to be with someone who doesn't even respect me and said "I mean, its my son and I think he is being an a**hole." So both of his parents dont agree with his behavior, but he spends a lot of time with his sister cuz she lives down by his mom and she hates me. She has convinced him I am a terrible person, I am sure and she refuses to take blame in anything she has done to cause this situation (explained in prior question)... After he was down there he told me I was having this kid to trap him (not true, I got pregnant out of LOVE with a man I thought loved me, too plus we already aborted our first child and it made me seriously depressed) and he also said that he doesn't know if its his kid because we got in a nasty fight around the time of conception and he left for the night, but came back the next day and I stayed at the neighbors house because I was completely distraught, but I slept on the couch and NOTHING happened so it hurts. I have never been unfaithful. He has also never cheated the whole time we were together, even when we broke up for 2 weeks earlier this year in March he still called me everyday and I still spent the night at our apartment 3 days a week so it wasn't like we were really even broken up. I am so confused and hurt and I don't know if he really has someone or not, but he has been ignoring me for almost a month now and it hurts like hell. I have stopped trying to contact him and at this point I don't even know if its worth it to try to make things work if he does come around. I am in love with him still and I wish he would consider my health when he chooses to say and do such mean things while I am pregnant. I just don't get it. His mom and dad both think he will come around when he sees the baby if not sooner, but I dont want to wait around holding my breath for some douche that can't even see the awesome woman he had. I am smart, creative, dependable, responsible... I am graduating college in December, I have maintained my job for 5 years now, I have 2 internships for my final quarter in school... I am pretty... guys like me... I don't understand why HE doesn't see this. He is so lucky to have had me. Especially considering he didn't graduate high school, has no job, has no drivers license, nothing. He just resented me because I couldn't pay half the rent while I was in college and he hated being broke and it caused a lot of problems, but now I am about to graduate and he could have been a stay at home dad while I focused on my career. I had no problem being the bread winner, in fact, I kind of always wanted to be the head of household because my mom set that example for me by being one herself. So I guess I just need advice, or someone that can relate, or some sort of understanding as to what his problem is. Is this all stemming from jealousy on his part that other guys are interested in me despite me being pregnant now that he dumped me? How long should I just let him ignore me? I kind of need to know things about what he plans his role to be because he tells his family that he wants to be in the kids life and be there for the baby, yet he doesn't care about my health during pregnancy when it affects the child... I just don't know anymore. I also sometimes think that maybe one day we could try to have a 2nd chance, I would like a normal family and I think he is super scared right now too since he has nothing going for him but his looks... I also know that you can't try to build your 2nd chance on the 1st rocky foundation, it has to be completely destroyed and paved over to create a stronger foundation... is that just me being hopefully ignorant? I don't know what to do. I keep living my life and going to school and hanging out with friends and I want him to see that my life goes on without him because I don't want to feed his ego anymore and make him think he can just do whatever. Please help. Oh, and as far as ages, I am 24 and he JUST turned 22 and I know younger males freak out more easily. Please help!! p.s. sorry this is ridiculously long, I have been marinating in misery and have been trying to find answers since he sent that message, but I couldn't find anyone whose situation was like mine so I needed to get all the details out for the best help... I chose the abortion at the time because I was still in college and he and I were in a band together and we wanted to continue pursuing the music thing. He supported my decision either way at that time. He also knew I wasn't on birth control because it messed with my body too much, but its not like he wore condoms, and we always said if I DID get pregnant again we would keep it. So I didn't try to trap him at all. We made the baby out of love. I didn't choose to keep this baby because I wanted to trap him. I chose to keep it because after I aborted the first one I realized I was a horrible person and that everything deserves a chance at life. My abortion made me pro-life, sorry, not a trap, but thanks for your input cuz he is a total jerk. and the abortion was last year in March... this year he was saying how he wanted kids. So, he obviously DID want to have kids with me but then I actually got pregnant and he freaked out, but he also talked at the beginning of this pregnancy about kids he wanted to have with me AFTER this kid. So, its definitely not trapping. And at this point I am confused on whether I even want him to be a part of this at all because I don't want to go to court for the next 18 years figuring out visitations/child support/etc. I'd rather he signed away his rights completely because I don't need him. I am the one who has my life in check, he is the one all over the place. sorry, I didn't know what TTC was... but I wasn't exactly trying. The old pull out method just isn't that effective. And I kind of think he tried to get me pregnant because one night he KNEW I wasn't on birth control and he decided to not pull out for whatever reason, well, duh... of course when you don't even try to pull out you are going to probably for sure get the chick pregnant.
Pregnancy - 4 Answers
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I'm really sorry..I'm sure you're very hurt.. it's the best if you leave him alone..for you and your child. stress on baby isn't good.
2 :
bottom line, this guy is a loser and obviously young. he does not know what he wants out of life. you need to stop worrying about him and start worrying about YOU and your BABY!!!! You two are the only people that count! Believe me when I say that I know your pain, I do. And please learn from my mistakes. Ignore him. I used to keep a notebook of everytime I wanted to talk to him, and I'd write it down instead of call/see him. You have reached a point that all women reach when pregnant (with supportive men or not) - YOU are now the responsible one because YOU are all that baby has. Worrying about a jerk, will only make you sad and put a strain on your body. Move on. The future is not set in stone. If he's meant to come around, he will. In the meantime focus all that love on that baby!!!!!
3 :
OMG your poor kid. At least you have it in writing that he wants nothing to do with the child, and that he will pay his share. Take him up on that. I don't care how freaked out he might be about this pregnancy this guy is obviously a huge jerk and you should move on. He is obviously not the man you thought he was, grieve, then let him go and worry about you and your baby. Did he know you were TTC? Cause if he didn't then yes, that's trapping. Especially after it was clear from your abortion he didn't want to have kids with you.
4 :
Oh my....I'm so sorry for you! But the others have said it all by now...he's immature, he is basically a jerk who has no idea what to do with his life, and clearly doesn't want the responsibility of being a father. Tell me, is that what you want for YOUR life? I mean, I know everyone tells you to think about your baby, and it's true!, but, your own feelings and life is a stake here too! Do you really want him to come back and say "I'm sorry", and get back to you? Do you truly think that will be it and he will be miracoulusly happy and ready to be a father and husband/life partner??? I don't think so...and deep inside, you know he's not. So, I think you should try to get some kind of professional help, or a counselor, go to church, talk to your pastor/priest, someone who can help you and guide you to overcome this problem....and focus on YOUR life and YOUR BABY. Don't let this jerk ruin your life and your pregnancy...move on, don't beg him for love or attention...he clearly doesn't deserve you, or your baby's love! Move on, focus on the future, and things will get better. I really encourage you to go to church, get close to God, He can heal your heart :) Lots of blessings!!! :)
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ok, so all of my questions have been about this jerk, but here goes again because I am confused and hurt... so in the beginning my ex and I lived together almost 2 years... I got pregnant, a week later we lost the apartment (he lost his job back in December and then unemployment ran out so we couldn't afford it) then he dumped me, but begged me back and I said yes to be dumped again 3 days later (all that in early August). Well now things are even worse. He has played mind games and confused the crap out of me. He went with to my appointment on August 13th and seemed excited to see the ultrasound and he even told the doctor he wants a boy and he was actually helping me despite living 2 hours away. He called often and when he was at his dad's (only 10 minutes away from where I live) he would hang out with me and buy me stuff. Then things got bad again. He left back to his moms and his calls got less frequent and I couldn't even reach him. Then he came back the week of his birthday to get more of his stuff from his dad's house to move to his mom's (2hrs away). His 22nd birthday was August 26th. We hung out the day after his birthday and I bought him shoes and we went out to dinner. We discussed the things that went wrong in our relationship and we both agreed that right now there was no point to be together when we needed to work on ourselves to correct the problems if we ever wanted a future. We even discussed names for the baby and he mentioned something about if we ever have more kids we can name them all these other things... well, he left back to his mom's house the next day and then started ignoring me which made me crazy (obviously I am hormonal, too, so being ignored didn't help and I flipped out and called too much and sent too many messages, etc) well, he finally gets back to me that Tuesday and says we will talk later about all of this and he said he has been there for me when he was at his dads and bought me stuff and whatnot. Then he sent me a message on Facebook saying that he knew I had moved on and had someone else and that it upset him but he would get over it. I sent him back a message saying that was not the case and that, yea guys like me even though they know I am pregnant, but I haven't done anything with them. Well, he continued to ignore me after that and I didn't understand why. I got pissed again and told him that if he wanted to just ignore me that I wanted all my stuff back and that I had hung out with some new people and some of them were guys. I got ignored and ignored and ignored and then the following Tuesday I finally reach him and he gets all pissed at me and tells me he hopes my dating life is going good because he has been seeing someone down by his mom's house. I was really upset by this and sent him a million facebook messages calling him an a**hole and asking him why would he tell me he doesn't want me to move on and that he still cares and it would hurt him if I had someone else and he said he didn't know. The next day he sent the following message to me because I told him I can't leave him alone and we NEED to discuss the child... "yeah u can leave me alone please stop writing me i dont wanna talk to you.. i have a date in like 30 mins and hopefully i can get lucky again tonight!! so yeah keep ur head up and well U R gonna have a baby im gonna live life and man has it been great these last couple weeks!I dont really know what u want me too say so i hope ur dating life is going as good as u said cause ur gonna need a baby daddy im just gonna pay my share." I honestly vomited all over myself when I read this and I couldn't breathe. I then blacked out and got severely depressed. I sent him messages back after I calmed down telling him he was a pathetic slut and how could he do that to anyone and that he was just trying to hurt me and make me jealous and it was sad and I asked him how he could possibly treat me like that after such a long relationship and after being there and saying he wanted to be with me. Then I blocked him on facebook, but I regretted it by that Friday and sent him a message asking him how he could be so cruel to which I got the reply ,"u def should go on dates and fuck people cause i am and its really sad u think i love u still i havent in more than a year but this is for realz ami so do what u gotta do i only pretended to love u for the kids name that was it but now i dont care nor do i want it or you im done i have moved on and advise u to do the same it wasnt fun while it lasted and if i had any commonsense i would have left ur ass a long time ago so this is it goodbye man! p.s. please stop writing me or trying to get a hold of me i do not wanna talk to u EVER so please just stop i will contact u when im in town and have ur shit together." I am so confused and heartbroken at this point. He has not talked to me at all since and its been almost 3 weeks. I am also really pissed off because all of that was over facebook and he didn't even have the balls to call me or speak to me face to face. He has blocked me and has no phone so I can't even reach him and I am so mad. I just don't understand. We were best friends for 2 years before we got together and we had talked about marriage and he told me earlier this year in like May that he wanted to be with me and he wanted kids soon and then I got pregnant and everything changed. I just don't understand at all. I spoke to his mom (which he told me she hated me bc of a thing I did that is explained in a prior question) and she told me that he doesn't know what he wants, but when they were at the Chicago Bears training camp thing in early August he was telling everyone he still loved me and he missed me. She also said he wants to go to the army, but she doesn't even know if thats what he really wants. she told me I am in a way better place in my life and that she doesn't understand why he is being such a jerk. I also spoke to his dad and his dad said he does have a female friend down there, but he doesnt know if they are together and he doesn't know if my ex just said those things to be a jerk. He also asked me why I would want to be with someone who doesn't even respect me and said "I mean, its my son and I think he is being an a**hole." So both of his parents dont agree with his behavior, but he spends a lot of time with his sister cuz she lives down by his mom and she hates me. She has convinced him I am a terrible person, I am sure and she refuses to take blame in anything she has done to cause this situation (explained in prior question)... After he was down there he told me I was having this kid to trap him (not true, I got pregnant out of LOVE with a man I thought loved me, too plus we already aborted our first child and it made me seriously depressed) and he also said that he doesn't know if its his kid because we got in a nasty fight around the time of conception and he left for the night, but came back the next day and I stayed at the neighbors house because I was completely distraught, but I slept on the couch and NOTHING happened so it hurts. I have never been unfaithful. He has also never cheated the whole time we were together, even when we broke up for 2 weeks earlier this year in March he still called me everyday and I still spent the night at our apartment 3 days a week so it wasn't like we were really even broken up. I am so confused and hurt and I don't know if he really has someone or not, but he has been ignoring me for almost a month now and it hurts like hell. I have stopped trying to contact him and at this point I don't even know if its worth it to try to make things work if he does come around. I am in love with him still and I wish he would consider my health when he chooses to say and do such mean things while I am pregnant. I just don't get it. His mom and dad both think he will come around when he sees the baby if not sooner, but I dont want to wait around holding my breath for some douche that can't even see the awesome woman he had. I am smart, creative, dependable, responsible... I am graduating college in December, I have maintained my job for 5 years now, I have 2 internships for my final quarter in school... I am pretty... guys like me... I don't understand why HE doesn't see this. He is so lucky to have had me. Especially considering he didn't graduate high school, has no job, has no drivers license, nothing. He just resented me because I couldn't pay half the rent while I was in college and he hated being broke and it caused a lot of problems, but now I am about to graduate and he could have been a stay at home dad while I focused on my career. I had no problem being the bread winner, in fact, I kind of always wanted to be the head of household because my mom set that example for me by being one herself. So I guess I just need advice, or someone that can relate, or some sort of understanding as to what his problem is. Is this all stemming from jealousy on his part that other guys are interested in me despite me being pregnant now that he dumped me? How long should I just let him ignore me? I kind of need to know things about what he plans his role to be because he tells his family that he wants to be in the kids life and be there for the baby, yet he doesn't care about my health during pregnancy when it affects the child... I just don't know anymore. I also sometimes think that maybe one day we could try to have a 2nd chance, I would like a normal family and I think he is super scared right now too since he has nothing going for him but his looks... I also know that you can't try to build your 2nd chance on the 1st rocky foundation, it has to be completely destroyed and paved over to create a stronger foundation... is that just me being hopefully ignorant? I don't know what to do. I keep living my life and going to school and hanging out with friends and I want him to see that my life goes on without him because I don't want to feed his ego anymore and make him think he can just do whatever. Please help. Oh, and as far as ages, I am 24 and he JUST turned 22 and I know younger males freak out more easily. Please help!! p.s. sorry this is ridiculously long, I have been marinating in misery and have been trying to find answers since he sent that message, but I couldn't find anyone whose situation was like mine so I needed to get all the details out for the best help... I chose the abortion at the time because I was still in college and he and I were in a band together and we wanted to continue pursuing the music thing. He supported my decision either way at that time. He also knew I wasn't on birth control because it messed with my body too much, but its not like he wore condoms, and we always said if I DID get pregnant again we would keep it. So I didn't try to trap him at all. We made the baby out of love. I didn't choose to keep this baby because I wanted to trap him. I chose to keep it because after I aborted the first one I realized I was a horrible person and that everything deserves a chance at life. My abortion made me pro-life, sorry, not a trap, but thanks for your input cuz he is a total jerk. and the abortion was last year in March... this year he was saying how he wanted kids. So, he obviously DID want to have kids with me but then I actually got pregnant and he freaked out, but he also talked at the beginning of this pregnancy about kids he wanted to have with me AFTER this kid. So, its definitely not trapping. And at this point I am confused on whether I even want him to be a part of this at all because I don't want to go to court for the next 18 years figuring out visitations/child support/etc. I'd rather he signed away his rights completely because I don't need him. I am the one who has my life in check, he is the one all over the place. sorry, I didn't know what TTC was... but I wasn't exactly trying. The old pull out method just isn't that effective. And I kind of think he tried to get me pregnant because one night he KNEW I wasn't on birth control and he decided to not pull out for whatever reason, well, duh... of course when you don't even try to pull out you are going to probably for sure get the chick pregnant.
Pregnancy - 4 Answers
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1 :
I'm really sorry..I'm sure you're very hurt.. it's the best if you leave him alone..for you and your child. stress on baby isn't good.
2 :
bottom line, this guy is a loser and obviously young. he does not know what he wants out of life. you need to stop worrying about him and start worrying about YOU and your BABY!!!! You two are the only people that count! Believe me when I say that I know your pain, I do. And please learn from my mistakes. Ignore him. I used to keep a notebook of everytime I wanted to talk to him, and I'd write it down instead of call/see him. You have reached a point that all women reach when pregnant (with supportive men or not) - YOU are now the responsible one because YOU are all that baby has. Worrying about a jerk, will only make you sad and put a strain on your body. Move on. The future is not set in stone. If he's meant to come around, he will. In the meantime focus all that love on that baby!!!!!
3 :
OMG your poor kid. At least you have it in writing that he wants nothing to do with the child, and that he will pay his share. Take him up on that. I don't care how freaked out he might be about this pregnancy this guy is obviously a huge jerk and you should move on. He is obviously not the man you thought he was, grieve, then let him go and worry about you and your baby. Did he know you were TTC? Cause if he didn't then yes, that's trapping. Especially after it was clear from your abortion he didn't want to have kids with you.
4 :
Oh my....I'm so sorry for you! But the others have said it all by now...he's immature, he is basically a jerk who has no idea what to do with his life, and clearly doesn't want the responsibility of being a father. Tell me, is that what you want for YOUR life? I mean, I know everyone tells you to think about your baby, and it's true!, but, your own feelings and life is a stake here too! Do you really want him to come back and say "I'm sorry", and get back to you? Do you truly think that will be it and he will be miracoulusly happy and ready to be a father and husband/life partner??? I don't think so...and deep inside, you know he's not. So, I think you should try to get some kind of professional help, or a counselor, go to church, talk to your pastor/priest, someone who can help you and guide you to overcome this problem....and focus on YOUR life and YOUR BABY. Don't let this jerk ruin your life and your pregnancy...move on, don't beg him for love or attention...he clearly doesn't deserve you, or your baby's love! Move on, focus on the future, and things will get better. I really encourage you to go to church, get close to God, He can heal your heart :) Lots of blessings!!! :)
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Monday, October 14, 2013
Why Is He Ignoring Me?
Why Is He Ignoring Me?
A couple of weeks ago I hung out with this guy and he stayed over my house for a few days. We hung out with my friends just to introduce him to them so we went to dinner together and watched a movie. The next day we ended up going to the zoo and later that night he left so that was the last time I saw him. I have been seeing this guy for over three years and basically its just an open ended relationship. A couple of times he wanted to discuss our 'relationship' because was at a point worried that he was going to lose me and said he couldn't sleep with anyone else. Also he has asked me to move in with him at a point and once asked me to his girlfriend but that was when he was drunk. I didn't know how to take it so I asked to ask me another time because he was really wasted. So we do act like a couple around others like kiss, hold hands, cuddle, and ect. After that I haven't really heard from him since. Except he sent me an e-mail on facebook wishing me a happy birthday and asked if he left his charger at my place. I didn't have his charger and then I asked him if he wanted to see a certain movie. But he said no and instead he wanted to see Harry Potter which comes out this week but at that time it was coming out in two weeks. So it was a really long period to wait and see each other. Finally I started talking to him this Sunday asking if we were still going to the movie but he said "yeah sure but idk about opening night because it will be packed." I then replied back asking what day we should go and also asked him if he would like to come over. I haven't gotten a reply and its been a few days! I know thats not really a long waiting period but he's been on facebook. He updates his status like about his phone and how he was getting a new charger last Friday. Thats why I didn't call him because his phone couldn't be charged. Also recently he put a quote saying "Meeting you was fate, becoming your friend was a choice, but falling in love with you was beyond my control." I honestly don't think thats for me and I have no idea what is going on. Like did I do something? did he find someone? I have no idea what to do in a situation where the guy is clearly online but won't reply to my message. Please Help?
Singles & Dating - 3 Answers
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Stop caring. Stop caring about everything. Nothing in the world is good.
2 :
Tell him you want to discuss your relationship in person and have him come meet your somewhere (if its as far as i think maybe a small meeting point halfway). If he has found another person then i am sorry for the pain you have went through but if it's not he may just be having cold feet
3 :
This is going no where. Why would you waste your time on fretting and typing about someone who is not interested in you. You are special. Go out with friends and socialize. You will meet someone ready to have fun.
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A couple of weeks ago I hung out with this guy and he stayed over my house for a few days. We hung out with my friends just to introduce him to them so we went to dinner together and watched a movie. The next day we ended up going to the zoo and later that night he left so that was the last time I saw him. I have been seeing this guy for over three years and basically its just an open ended relationship. A couple of times he wanted to discuss our 'relationship' because was at a point worried that he was going to lose me and said he couldn't sleep with anyone else. Also he has asked me to move in with him at a point and once asked me to his girlfriend but that was when he was drunk. I didn't know how to take it so I asked to ask me another time because he was really wasted. So we do act like a couple around others like kiss, hold hands, cuddle, and ect. After that I haven't really heard from him since. Except he sent me an e-mail on facebook wishing me a happy birthday and asked if he left his charger at my place. I didn't have his charger and then I asked him if he wanted to see a certain movie. But he said no and instead he wanted to see Harry Potter which comes out this week but at that time it was coming out in two weeks. So it was a really long period to wait and see each other. Finally I started talking to him this Sunday asking if we were still going to the movie but he said "yeah sure but idk about opening night because it will be packed." I then replied back asking what day we should go and also asked him if he would like to come over. I haven't gotten a reply and its been a few days! I know thats not really a long waiting period but he's been on facebook. He updates his status like about his phone and how he was getting a new charger last Friday. Thats why I didn't call him because his phone couldn't be charged. Also recently he put a quote saying "Meeting you was fate, becoming your friend was a choice, but falling in love with you was beyond my control." I honestly don't think thats for me and I have no idea what is going on. Like did I do something? did he find someone? I have no idea what to do in a situation where the guy is clearly online but won't reply to my message. Please Help?
Singles & Dating - 3 Answers
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Stop caring. Stop caring about everything. Nothing in the world is good.
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Tell him you want to discuss your relationship in person and have him come meet your somewhere (if its as far as i think maybe a small meeting point halfway). If he has found another person then i am sorry for the pain you have went through but if it's not he may just be having cold feet
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This is going no where. Why would you waste your time on fretting and typing about someone who is not interested in you. You are special. Go out with friends and socialize. You will meet someone ready to have fun.
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Monday, October 7, 2013
Does Vector Marketing reward their employees for recommending people to hire or something?
Does Vector Marketing reward their employees for recommending people to hire or something?
Hi, I received a phone call from a local cell phone number yesterday. On the other end was a bubbly, young teenage-sounding girl, telling me that an ex-classmate I graduated with a year ago recommended me to work at her new job, claiming that I "would like the extra money". I told her to call back later because I had just woken up and wasn't prepared to discuss it at the moment. I messaged my ex-classmate on Facebook (who is NOT my Facebook friend, and has no contact with me whatsoever, but somehow got my phone number), telling her that I got a phone call vaguely telling me I was recommended and I had no idea who the person was or what the job was. She then told me that she just got a job at Vector Marketing selling knives, and some spiel about how it's a great opportunity and so forth. I've already been looking up Vector online and read mixed opinions about the company and nothing but arguments back and forth, so I'm not looking for comments like "IT'S A SCAM BECAUSE ______" or "IT'S NOT A SCAM BEACUSE _____". I want to know why she would even bother recommending me, because I haven't spoken to her in over a year, and I don't even know what possessed to her recommend me, unless she just named off a bunch of people she knew from high school that still lived in the area. I'm not interested in that kind of job, so I'm not dealing with them, but I was curious as to if they demanded employees to recruit new people, or if they were rewarded for it, etc. etc. If you absolutely have to share your experience with Vector, please do, but it's not going to influence me to accept their phone calls and actually work for them. That's just not the kind of thing I'm into, whether you're promised a lot of money or not. Thanks in advance.
Marketing & Sales - 1 Answers
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None of the Vector (Cutco) materials mention "referral" fees paid to employees. But they probably do ask for the names of potential employees. So your call was from a telemarketer for the company who was not getting a referral fee. She was getting a paycheck for calling a "lead". There might be a new "lead-generating" reward for employees that is not advertised
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Hi, I received a phone call from a local cell phone number yesterday. On the other end was a bubbly, young teenage-sounding girl, telling me that an ex-classmate I graduated with a year ago recommended me to work at her new job, claiming that I "would like the extra money". I told her to call back later because I had just woken up and wasn't prepared to discuss it at the moment. I messaged my ex-classmate on Facebook (who is NOT my Facebook friend, and has no contact with me whatsoever, but somehow got my phone number), telling her that I got a phone call vaguely telling me I was recommended and I had no idea who the person was or what the job was. She then told me that she just got a job at Vector Marketing selling knives, and some spiel about how it's a great opportunity and so forth. I've already been looking up Vector online and read mixed opinions about the company and nothing but arguments back and forth, so I'm not looking for comments like "IT'S A SCAM BECAUSE ______" or "IT'S NOT A SCAM BEACUSE _____". I want to know why she would even bother recommending me, because I haven't spoken to her in over a year, and I don't even know what possessed to her recommend me, unless she just named off a bunch of people she knew from high school that still lived in the area. I'm not interested in that kind of job, so I'm not dealing with them, but I was curious as to if they demanded employees to recruit new people, or if they were rewarded for it, etc. etc. If you absolutely have to share your experience with Vector, please do, but it's not going to influence me to accept their phone calls and actually work for them. That's just not the kind of thing I'm into, whether you're promised a lot of money or not. Thanks in advance.
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None of the Vector (Cutco) materials mention "referral" fees paid to employees. But they probably do ask for the names of potential employees. So your call was from a telemarketer for the company who was not getting a referral fee. She was getting a paycheck for calling a "lead". There might be a new "lead-generating" reward for employees that is not advertised
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