Should I "break up" with my lifelong friend?
I have this friend...her and I basically grew up together. In high school...she kind of was like the "pack leader" where everyone followed and wanted to be with...in high school I was pretty lame! LOL! To make a long story short...I don't even know where to begin...cause there is so much to write. My friend and I argue alot. She hasn't been the healthiest with a brain tumor and brain surgery so I humor her but lately I've been arguing back cause it's getting out of control. Her husband has this friend who I used to date...I met his friend through her and her husband...when we met they were not even dating at the time. To make a long story short..this friend treated me really bad..and I allowed it. My friend always defends this guy because he is her husband's friend and always goes against me saying I was full of bullshit cause I trashed him and all I was a hook up to him...when I was seeing this guy .. it seemed more like a hookup. This is all ancient history now but back in April me, my friend and her sister in law all went to Las Vegas and we got to talking about exes...I mentioned this guy that is friends with her husband and she started going off on me and yelling at me about how I am full of shit and that this guy only saw me as a hookup (meanwhile the night before she was at a club with him) ... I yelled at her back and told her to shut up cause this was stuff she was bringing up that took place like over 8 years ago...I walked out and left the rest. She never compliments me, she knocks down everything in my life that means something to me....I posted a pic of me and another friend...the pic was of us at this friends wedding and I was her maid of honor...well my "lifelong" friend commented on facebook for all to see that I need to stand up straight and not slouch otherwise it's a nice pic. This lifelong friend did not have me in her wedding but had the guy i dated as the best man. She posts pics of him on facebook. Also...she has been there for me a few times and lent me money....listened to me vent about my problems...but I noticed that when I vent to her....she turns it around as me trash talking the person and calls me phony...and says gee if you're like this...how do I know you're not phony to me...she says this after knowing me all these years! She even went as far as to accuse me of being in love with her 17 year old brother...I was 28 or 29 at the time all because i got mad at him for something on facebook... There is this guy at work I was sort of seeing and it didnt work out...she went ahead and befriended him against my wishes and even went as far as meeting him in grand central but saying they bumped into each other...this guy and I had issues but we worked them out....but when we had issues and I would discuss them with her..she would take his side and call me mentally ill. This is the big one...almost done: I used to work at a radio station where one of the talk show hosts is a big time medical professional in NYC...this talk show host got my friend an appointment with one of the top neurologists in NYC to perform her surgery...afterwards my friend's husband didnt know how to thank me but not one person in her family did or knew I did this....Im not looking for gratitude but my friend now constantly knocks down the radio station and calls everyone there losers!!!! What do I do? I have known her more than half my life plus she's been so sick...how do I just drop her when I'm also friends with some of her family members???
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You're trying to rationalize an emotional decision. Relationships -- even long and good ones -- can become toxic. It sounds like that's where you are. Drop contact. If she connects with you and asks why you've been distant, tell her you felt your relationship had run its course. Explain how ugly she'd been. She'll have to own up one way or the other. Her illness does not exonerate her from treating you poorly.
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It honestly sounds like you're now friends with her simply out of obligation - only because you've known her for so long. There really isn't any substance to this friendship if all there is is an exchange of favors but not respect. You aren't obligated to be friends with anyone. So, you know her family -- but if she's not being a good friend any more, then things have obviously run their course and it's not her family's fault. It's sad, what's she's going through, but you need to do what's right for YOU - YOU are the only one taking care of yourself in the end and friendships today seem to come down to obligation simply because you "grew up" with them. However, if you're not going to grow "old "with these friends, and it's not beneficial your life, why hang around? Is this someone you want to be a part of your life forever??? Really think about it and think about all the potential friends you will make in your lifetime - is this one person worth it just because you shared the same toys growing up? The length of your question proves that you're trying to justify having her in your life and you're trying to make sense of the drama surrounding this friendship. Sometimes, enough is enough... PS - if YOU were the one who was sick, would she be there unconditionally for YOU???
Should I "break up" with my lifelong friend?
I have this friend...her and I basically grew up together. In high school...she kind of was like the "pack leader" where everyone followed and wanted to be with...in high school I was pretty lame! LOL! To make a long story short...I don't even know where to begin...cause there is so much to write. My friend and I argue alot. She hasn't been the healthiest with a brain tumor and brain surgery so I humor her but lately I've been arguing back cause it's getting out of control. Her husband has this friend who I used to date...I met his friend through her and her husband...when we met they were not even dating at the time. To make a long story short..this friend treated me really bad..and I allowed it. My friend always defends this guy because he is her husband's friend and always goes against me saying I was full of bullshit cause I trashed him and all I was a hook up to him...when I was seeing this guy .. it seemed more like a hookup. This is all ancient history now but back in April me, my friend and her sister in law all went to Las Vegas and we got to talking about exes...I mentioned this guy that is friends with her husband and she started going off on me and yelling at me about how I am full of shit and that this guy only saw me as a hookup (meanwhile the night before she was at a club with him) ... I yelled at her back and told her to shut up cause this was stuff she was bringing up that took place like over 8 years ago...I walked out and left the rest. She never compliments me, she knocks down everything in my life that means something to me....I posted a pic of me and another friend...the pic was of us at this friends wedding and I was her maid of honor...well my "lifelong" friend commented on facebook for all to see that I need to stand up straight and not slouch otherwise it's a nice pic. This lifelong friend did not have me in her wedding but had the guy i dated as the best man. She posts pics of him on facebook. Also...she has been there for me a few times and lent me money....listened to me vent about my problems...but I noticed that when I vent to her....she turns it around as me trash talking the person and calls me phony...and says gee if you're like this...how do I know you're not phony to me...she says this after knowing me all these years! She even went as far as to accuse me of being in love with her 17 year old brother...I was 28 or 29 at the time all because i got mad at him for something on facebook... There is this guy at work I was sort of seeing and it didnt work out...she went ahead and befriended him against my wishes and even went as far as meeting him in grand central but saying they bumped into each other...this guy and I had issues but we worked them out....but when we had issues and I would discuss them with her..she would take his side and call me mentally ill. This is the big one...almost done: I used to work at a radio station where one of the talk show hosts is a big time medical professional in NYC...this talk show host got my friend an appointment with one of the top neurologists in NYC to perform her surgery...afterwards my friend's husband didnt know how to thank me but not one person in her family did or knew I did this....Im not looking for gratitude but my friend now constantly knocks down the radio station and calls everyone there losers!!!! What do I do? I have known her more than half my life plus she's been so sick...how do I just drop her when I'm also friends with some of her family members???
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You're trying to rationalize an emotional decision. Relationships -- even long and good ones -- can become toxic. It sounds like that's where you are. Drop contact. If she connects with you and asks why you've been distant, tell her you felt your relationship had run its course. Explain how ugly she'd been. She'll have to own up one way or the other. Her illness does not exonerate her from treating you poorly.
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It honestly sounds like you're now friends with her simply out of obligation - only because you've known her for so long. There really isn't any substance to this friendship if all there is is an exchange of favors but not respect. You aren't obligated to be friends with anyone. So, you know her family -- but if she's not being a good friend any more, then things have obviously run their course and it's not her family's fault. It's sad, what's she's going through, but you need to do what's right for YOU - YOU are the only one taking care of yourself in the end and friendships today seem to come down to obligation simply because you "grew up" with them. However, if you're not going to grow "old "with these friends, and it's not beneficial your life, why hang around? Is this someone you want to be a part of your life forever??? Really think about it and think about all the potential friends you will make in your lifetime - is this one person worth it just because you shared the same toys growing up? The length of your question proves that you're trying to justify having her in your life and you're trying to make sense of the drama surrounding this friendship. Sometimes, enough is enough... PS - if YOU were the one who was sick, would she be there unconditionally for YOU???
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Saturday, January 28, 2012
Saturday, January 14, 2012
friend advice, help please 10 points!?
friend advice, help please 10 points!?
***this might be a bit long but 10 points for whoever answers the best*** okay, so in like 5 weeks im going on a 7 day cruise that my parents got me for my birthday, and they purchased 2 tickets so i can take a friend. like 10 weeks ago i asked stacie, my best friend of 10+ years if she wanted to go (of course she said yes, because EVERYTHING is 100% free to her.) well, like 1-2 weeks after we discussed it, she invited me to go to las vegas with her for 2 days (friday and saturday, she asked me on wednesday) and i told her i cant friday, but what about saturday and sunday instead, well she agreed and was like yeah i can do that, were gonna have so much fun yada yada. well on friday i get home from work, and i see on her facebook "having a blast in las vegas with krista!" so of course im pissed off, and rightfully so(at least in my mind), so after she got back i confronted her about it, and she was like "sorry but i didnt want to wait" or something like that, and we got into a big argument because i didnt make any plans that weekend and stuff. well we didnt talk for awhile, and i wasn't about to talk to her until she apologized because she hadn't, and after like 2 weeks i asked my other good friend kendra if she wanted to go on the cruise with me, and she said yes. a few days later i talked to kendra about it again and she still was going, then a few days later i talked to stacie and she apologized, but i didnt mention the cruise (because i want to take kendra), and i talked to kendra today because she still was making sure were going and i told her yes. im afraid stacie is going to be p!ssed when she finds out im going with kendra, and i dont wanna fight with her again, because she is my best friend ever. so IDK what to do, im taking kendra and not stacie, but IDK! HELP!
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Tell kendra there was a change of plains and its now cancelled and your moms in the hospitle... Than take staci!
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yu shuld explain whut happened with stacie to kendra.. That is , if yu change yur mind to take stacie. If yu really wanna take kendra.. then shell be mad, obviously.. but hopefully shell understand?..
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Okay what I would do is, Talk to Stacie. Ask her about Vegas. Then tell her your sorry you were asking her to wait and you really don't want to fight. Then say, well I'm thinking about taking kendra on the cruise. I know I asked you but when you took ( BLANK ) to vegas I knida asked kendra. I hope everything works out!
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just explain it to her if she fights with you. if stacie is really your friend she will understand.
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Just tell her that you're sorry but you got pissed and invited someone else and you can't tell kendra that you're taking her. Oh and be like you dont want to fight again. Basically, what you just said in this question :D. Have fun! ~Nikki
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Just explain the situation to her and how devastated you were when you found out that she went to Vegas without you. That'll for sure get her to apologize & I'm positive that she'll understand:) & I hope you have funnn on your cruise:)
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***this might be a bit long but 10 points for whoever answers the best*** okay, so in like 5 weeks im going on a 7 day cruise that my parents got me for my birthday, and they purchased 2 tickets so i can take a friend. like 10 weeks ago i asked stacie, my best friend of 10+ years if she wanted to go (of course she said yes, because EVERYTHING is 100% free to her.) well, like 1-2 weeks after we discussed it, she invited me to go to las vegas with her for 2 days (friday and saturday, she asked me on wednesday) and i told her i cant friday, but what about saturday and sunday instead, well she agreed and was like yeah i can do that, were gonna have so much fun yada yada. well on friday i get home from work, and i see on her facebook "having a blast in las vegas with krista!" so of course im pissed off, and rightfully so(at least in my mind), so after she got back i confronted her about it, and she was like "sorry but i didnt want to wait" or something like that, and we got into a big argument because i didnt make any plans that weekend and stuff. well we didnt talk for awhile, and i wasn't about to talk to her until she apologized because she hadn't, and after like 2 weeks i asked my other good friend kendra if she wanted to go on the cruise with me, and she said yes. a few days later i talked to kendra about it again and she still was going, then a few days later i talked to stacie and she apologized, but i didnt mention the cruise (because i want to take kendra), and i talked to kendra today because she still was making sure were going and i told her yes. im afraid stacie is going to be p!ssed when she finds out im going with kendra, and i dont wanna fight with her again, because she is my best friend ever. so IDK what to do, im taking kendra and not stacie, but IDK! HELP!
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Tell kendra there was a change of plains and its now cancelled and your moms in the hospitle... Than take staci!
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yu shuld explain whut happened with stacie to kendra.. That is , if yu change yur mind to take stacie. If yu really wanna take kendra.. then shell be mad, obviously.. but hopefully shell understand?..
3 :
Okay what I would do is, Talk to Stacie. Ask her about Vegas. Then tell her your sorry you were asking her to wait and you really don't want to fight. Then say, well I'm thinking about taking kendra on the cruise. I know I asked you but when you took ( BLANK ) to vegas I knida asked kendra. I hope everything works out!
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just explain it to her if she fights with you. if stacie is really your friend she will understand.
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Just tell her that you're sorry but you got pissed and invited someone else and you can't tell kendra that you're taking her. Oh and be like you dont want to fight again. Basically, what you just said in this question :D. Have fun! ~Nikki
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Just explain the situation to her and how devastated you were when you found out that she went to Vegas without you. That'll for sure get her to apologize & I'm positive that she'll understand:) & I hope you have funnn on your cruise:)
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Saturday, January 7, 2012
Should my teacher really be talking about this stuff? I don't think so..?
Should my teacher really be talking about this stuff? I don't think so..?
All right.. I'm a 10th grader in 9th grade physical science. I don't think you needed to know that. But anyways, ever since I started this class 2nd semester, I've always heard her tell personal things. Like, how she was going down to Florida to adopt/gain guardianship of her nephew because his mother [her sister] died of a stroke. And when she finally got custody of him and brought him up here to Wisconsin, she told us his name and said that we should look him up on myspace and facebook. Then, today, there was this one girl who wasn't in class, and there's a rumor that she ran away. Our teacher told us she knew 5 other kids who ran away -- but she wouldn't tell us the names. Later, she called me over and asked if I knew if she ran away. I said no, but that a lot of freshmen have run away lately. Then, she said one of their names. Thank goodness I already knew she was missing, so she wasn't feeding me any new information. But do you think it's inappropriate for her to be discussing so many personal issues with her students? I do. Nick: She didn't know if this girl had run away. It was told to her by another student in class that she MIGHT have run away. Just so ya know.
Primary & Secondary Education - 4 Answers
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it could just be that your teacher is trying to conect with what happened in her life to what's happening now
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It's not very professional of her to be taking part in the rumors and gossip, no. Especially disclosing information about another student's personal affairs. It's possible she was instructed to let those that may be close to the student know that she has run away (the administration may have asked her teachers to inform other students to see if anyone knew about it already, or knew where she might have possibly gone to). So...if she was asked to do it by administration for the purpose of helping the child or locating him/her, that's not really a problem. Also, talking about students that have run away at points in their lives isn't necessarily wrong, as she didn't give any of the names of those ones. It's off topic, yes, but not a bad thing. Just idle chatter. Same thing with her nephew. Teachers will typically share their personal lives with students, especially in high school, where the student-teacher relationship has evolved in to something more than just 'educator and learner.' Plus the nephew might have been around your age, and she was just trying to get him used to the area by introducing him indirectly to some of his peers or future classmates. Maybe he doesn't have any friends?
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I think you should tell your teacher that it makes you uncomfortable for her to tell you things like that and ask her to please stop. she is a teacher and should not be discussing personal things with her students and if it doesn't stop i would go to the principle and let him/her know.
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you're right
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All right.. I'm a 10th grader in 9th grade physical science. I don't think you needed to know that. But anyways, ever since I started this class 2nd semester, I've always heard her tell personal things. Like, how she was going down to Florida to adopt/gain guardianship of her nephew because his mother [her sister] died of a stroke. And when she finally got custody of him and brought him up here to Wisconsin, she told us his name and said that we should look him up on myspace and facebook. Then, today, there was this one girl who wasn't in class, and there's a rumor that she ran away. Our teacher told us she knew 5 other kids who ran away -- but she wouldn't tell us the names. Later, she called me over and asked if I knew if she ran away. I said no, but that a lot of freshmen have run away lately. Then, she said one of their names. Thank goodness I already knew she was missing, so she wasn't feeding me any new information. But do you think it's inappropriate for her to be discussing so many personal issues with her students? I do. Nick: She didn't know if this girl had run away. It was told to her by another student in class that she MIGHT have run away. Just so ya know.
Primary & Secondary Education - 4 Answers
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it could just be that your teacher is trying to conect with what happened in her life to what's happening now
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It's not very professional of her to be taking part in the rumors and gossip, no. Especially disclosing information about another student's personal affairs. It's possible she was instructed to let those that may be close to the student know that she has run away (the administration may have asked her teachers to inform other students to see if anyone knew about it already, or knew where she might have possibly gone to). So...if she was asked to do it by administration for the purpose of helping the child or locating him/her, that's not really a problem. Also, talking about students that have run away at points in their lives isn't necessarily wrong, as she didn't give any of the names of those ones. It's off topic, yes, but not a bad thing. Just idle chatter. Same thing with her nephew. Teachers will typically share their personal lives with students, especially in high school, where the student-teacher relationship has evolved in to something more than just 'educator and learner.' Plus the nephew might have been around your age, and she was just trying to get him used to the area by introducing him indirectly to some of his peers or future classmates. Maybe he doesn't have any friends?
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I think you should tell your teacher that it makes you uncomfortable for her to tell you things like that and ask her to please stop. she is a teacher and should not be discussing personal things with her students and if it doesn't stop i would go to the principle and let him/her know.
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you're right
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Sunday, January 1, 2012
What should I do about my relationship?
What should I do about my relationship?
I have been with my girlfriend for about 13 months now. We met each other online (not through a dating site, just happened to be fans of a subject, talked on aim, then on facebook, then texting, then calling, then we finally met, one of those once in a life time things) and I was attending a college in Indiana and she was in a college in Wisconsin. We both wanted to be together, and I finally decided to transfer schools to her school in Wisconsin. It went fine and everything, however the school ended up being more costly than I thought, and I will have to return to my much much more grant friendly school this fall in Indiana. She is going to return to her college in Wisconsin. First, the plan was for her to stay in Wisconsin during summer, work, and save up some money, and transfer to my school in Indiana. However they told her she is a few credits short of transferring so she has to go back to Wisconsin. So she has stayed with me in Indiana at my home for the summer, and we have been really sad and stressing out about what we should do. We both truly love each other and feel that even if we were apart from each other that we would still want to be together. First she was just going to go back to Wisconsin for the few credits and still come to my school but now she is questioning that and may end up just staying in her state for her schooling. She is a sophomore and I'm a junior. It's really depressing to be apart from her and I don't know what to do. We had a bit of a flare up the other night about being so sad about being a part for the first time in our relationship we actually discussed if we should break up so were not sad apart from each other but that got thrown down. Any and all feedback is really appreciated. I am just at a loss for what to do. Thanks.
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Thats just part of it man. If you're really comitted and love eachother then nothing can or will break you apart unless thats what you want and think would be best. The fact is your not the only ones going through this, theres many people with issues like that due to military,college, work, etc. As said if you're truly comitted theres nothing to worry about. One day when you're both out of college and doing well in life you'll be very thankful that you decided to stay together. This time you 2 are seperated because of college is a very very short time compared to the life you will be together. Think of it this way, you have married couples being seperated for years years due to military. this is a very common thing, if they're making it for years and years apart why wouldnt you be able to make it for your short time? You really are a lot better off than many other relationships out there even though it does suck and seems like forever.
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I have been with my girlfriend for about 13 months now. We met each other online (not through a dating site, just happened to be fans of a subject, talked on aim, then on facebook, then texting, then calling, then we finally met, one of those once in a life time things) and I was attending a college in Indiana and she was in a college in Wisconsin. We both wanted to be together, and I finally decided to transfer schools to her school in Wisconsin. It went fine and everything, however the school ended up being more costly than I thought, and I will have to return to my much much more grant friendly school this fall in Indiana. She is going to return to her college in Wisconsin. First, the plan was for her to stay in Wisconsin during summer, work, and save up some money, and transfer to my school in Indiana. However they told her she is a few credits short of transferring so she has to go back to Wisconsin. So she has stayed with me in Indiana at my home for the summer, and we have been really sad and stressing out about what we should do. We both truly love each other and feel that even if we were apart from each other that we would still want to be together. First she was just going to go back to Wisconsin for the few credits and still come to my school but now she is questioning that and may end up just staying in her state for her schooling. She is a sophomore and I'm a junior. It's really depressing to be apart from her and I don't know what to do. We had a bit of a flare up the other night about being so sad about being a part for the first time in our relationship we actually discussed if we should break up so were not sad apart from each other but that got thrown down. Any and all feedback is really appreciated. I am just at a loss for what to do. Thanks.
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Thats just part of it man. If you're really comitted and love eachother then nothing can or will break you apart unless thats what you want and think would be best. The fact is your not the only ones going through this, theres many people with issues like that due to military,college, work, etc. As said if you're truly comitted theres nothing to worry about. One day when you're both out of college and doing well in life you'll be very thankful that you decided to stay together. This time you 2 are seperated because of college is a very very short time compared to the life you will be together. Think of it this way, you have married couples being seperated for years years due to military. this is a very common thing, if they're making it for years and years apart why wouldnt you be able to make it for your short time? You really are a lot better off than many other relationships out there even though it does suck and seems like forever.
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Wednesday, December 28, 2011
Long Distance Relationship Question!?
Long Distance Relationship Question!?
Okay so me and this girl have been talking since October 2009, We met thru mutual friends on Facebook. I live in Missouri and shit lives in Washington. We have discussed each one of us potentially moving to each others state. Well we have come to the conclusion that it would be best for her to move here. We talk for at least 16 hours a day via phone/txt. We go to each other for everything and tell each other everything, basically we are very dependent on each other. THE PROBLEM IS she will not commit to anything, where as ive committed to the whole idea months ago. Ive been giving it my all to make her just agree to everything. Shes very indecisive about the whole thing. One day she says "This is what I want, but I don't know if its what I need" then the next day she says "I just don't know if this is what I want" HOW DO I MAKE HER UNDERSTAND THAT THIS IS FOR THE BEST? WHAT DOES IT MEAN IF SHE IS VERY DEPENDENT ON ME? (which i love that she is dependent because it makes me feel like she NEEDS me). She always says that this situation ISNT easy, when in all reality it IS VERY easy. All she has to do is commit and buy her plane ticket for July (that's when the moving will occur) PLEASE HELP ME IN GETTING WHAT I WANT. DOES ANYONE THINK SHE IS REALLY INTERESTED? SHE SAYS SHE "LOVES ME" ALL THE TIME. but sometimes i dont feel it i forgot to add that she came to visit me for a week in February and things went great. :)
Singles & Dating - 3 Answers
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Unfortunately, she's a person, just like you. Which means it's no longer about WHAT YOU WANT, but about WHAT'S BEST FOR BOTH OF YOU AS A COUPLE. You can't control her, and you can't control her needs. Probably would be a good idea to back off for a while.
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No it's not as easy as buying a plane ticket and moving. Remember she would be leaving behind her family, friends, home, job etc. Have the two of you even met in person? Honestly it sounds a little bit like maybe you guys just got caught up in a romantic fantasy type thing. You can't force major life decisions on someone. If you really are in love and committed, just slow it down, what's the rush. Have her come for a visit instead of just packing up and moving her life.
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ok..you never met in person? here's what i would do. go a whole day without contact (oooooh i know this is hard to do) maybe half a day. if she asks...you had an earlier commitment to (fill in the blank). 3 days later...you were too busy with (fill in the blank) this is not a head game...you are training yourself to back off some so you won't get hurt bad if she doesn't want to move there. also, you can test this out to see if she said things like" i really missed you" as apposed to "i really needed you". start deterring yourself a bit..(go to a movie, read some books, etc) she might be interested in someone else, but i dont think so, but she might be. good luck..
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Okay so me and this girl have been talking since October 2009, We met thru mutual friends on Facebook. I live in Missouri and shit lives in Washington. We have discussed each one of us potentially moving to each others state. Well we have come to the conclusion that it would be best for her to move here. We talk for at least 16 hours a day via phone/txt. We go to each other for everything and tell each other everything, basically we are very dependent on each other. THE PROBLEM IS she will not commit to anything, where as ive committed to the whole idea months ago. Ive been giving it my all to make her just agree to everything. Shes very indecisive about the whole thing. One day she says "This is what I want, but I don't know if its what I need" then the next day she says "I just don't know if this is what I want" HOW DO I MAKE HER UNDERSTAND THAT THIS IS FOR THE BEST? WHAT DOES IT MEAN IF SHE IS VERY DEPENDENT ON ME? (which i love that she is dependent because it makes me feel like she NEEDS me). She always says that this situation ISNT easy, when in all reality it IS VERY easy. All she has to do is commit and buy her plane ticket for July (that's when the moving will occur) PLEASE HELP ME IN GETTING WHAT I WANT. DOES ANYONE THINK SHE IS REALLY INTERESTED? SHE SAYS SHE "LOVES ME" ALL THE TIME. but sometimes i dont feel it i forgot to add that she came to visit me for a week in February and things went great. :)
Singles & Dating - 3 Answers
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Unfortunately, she's a person, just like you. Which means it's no longer about WHAT YOU WANT, but about WHAT'S BEST FOR BOTH OF YOU AS A COUPLE. You can't control her, and you can't control her needs. Probably would be a good idea to back off for a while.
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No it's not as easy as buying a plane ticket and moving. Remember she would be leaving behind her family, friends, home, job etc. Have the two of you even met in person? Honestly it sounds a little bit like maybe you guys just got caught up in a romantic fantasy type thing. You can't force major life decisions on someone. If you really are in love and committed, just slow it down, what's the rush. Have her come for a visit instead of just packing up and moving her life.
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ok..you never met in person? here's what i would do. go a whole day without contact (oooooh i know this is hard to do) maybe half a day. if she asks...you had an earlier commitment to (fill in the blank). 3 days later...you were too busy with (fill in the blank) this is not a head game...you are training yourself to back off some so you won't get hurt bad if she doesn't want to move there. also, you can test this out to see if she said things like" i really missed you" as apposed to "i really needed you". start deterring yourself a bit..(go to a movie, read some books, etc) she might be interested in someone else, but i dont think so, but she might be. good luck..
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Wednesday, December 14, 2011
question about long distance dating - guys answers?
question about long distance dating - guys answers?
The guy that is currently my boyfriend just moved from Tennessee back to New York to live with his Dad and his new family ( his parents are divorced) we first met when we were in 7th grade and we began to lose contact during the middle of freshmen year and didn't speak again until June 2010. He was in NY visiting September 2010 and we ended up hanging out talking about the past and both mentioned we had extreme crushes when we were younger - he never knew I liked him back. We kissed right before he left and kept in contact through facebook chat, texting, and phone calls. He finally decided to move back to NY for good & is currently here now. I know my boyfriend was a big partier back in Tennessee, huge parties tons of alcohol girls and hooking up. At the time we never really discussed exclusivity but due to the fact we kept in touch for 2 months waiting for him to return for Thanksgiving braek I knew a relationship was in the works. He mentioned a story about some girl he was once invovled with was ohdee drunk throwing herself on him trying to kiss him while he was midconversation with his friends. He said he was like pushing her off - but now that he mentioned that story I feel as if there were more of those situations. We were listening to Jonny Craig in his car recently and one verse goes "I have a queen why would settle for a fucking maid." and he said that's this song describes he's whole time away from me in Tennessee. question : Relating to my circumstancs the fact that I basically grew up with him - If you really liked a girl but knew distance was going to keep you away for a while would you hook up with other girls as long as she didn't know? I had mentioned to him that I waited for him for 3 months meaning no other guys but he really didn't say no I did absolutely nothing with any other girl.
Singles & Dating - 2 Answers
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well im currently am...well was from today...in a long distance relationship, i hadnt seen her for 2 months, but i kept faithful to her, i didnt cheat and not meaning to sound vain, i have girls asking me to jump into bed with them quite a lot, but when a guy likes a girl a lot, or even loves a girl, he wont cheat and will stay faithful :) if you're confident he really likes you, then he will have stayed faithful, in my opinion, if he rejected it once, he probably rejected it all the times he had oppertunities :) hope i helped
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Long distance relationships can work but that depends on the people involved. I have seen them work out but in most cases they tend to fail. Most guys will hook up with another girl just because what you don't know won't hurt you and will deal with the consequences if or when they arise. You either trust him or not.
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The guy that is currently my boyfriend just moved from Tennessee back to New York to live with his Dad and his new family ( his parents are divorced) we first met when we were in 7th grade and we began to lose contact during the middle of freshmen year and didn't speak again until June 2010. He was in NY visiting September 2010 and we ended up hanging out talking about the past and both mentioned we had extreme crushes when we were younger - he never knew I liked him back. We kissed right before he left and kept in contact through facebook chat, texting, and phone calls. He finally decided to move back to NY for good & is currently here now. I know my boyfriend was a big partier back in Tennessee, huge parties tons of alcohol girls and hooking up. At the time we never really discussed exclusivity but due to the fact we kept in touch for 2 months waiting for him to return for Thanksgiving braek I knew a relationship was in the works. He mentioned a story about some girl he was once invovled with was ohdee drunk throwing herself on him trying to kiss him while he was midconversation with his friends. He said he was like pushing her off - but now that he mentioned that story I feel as if there were more of those situations. We were listening to Jonny Craig in his car recently and one verse goes "I have a queen why would settle for a fucking maid." and he said that's this song describes he's whole time away from me in Tennessee. question : Relating to my circumstancs the fact that I basically grew up with him - If you really liked a girl but knew distance was going to keep you away for a while would you hook up with other girls as long as she didn't know? I had mentioned to him that I waited for him for 3 months meaning no other guys but he really didn't say no I did absolutely nothing with any other girl.
Singles & Dating - 2 Answers
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well im currently am...well was from today...in a long distance relationship, i hadnt seen her for 2 months, but i kept faithful to her, i didnt cheat and not meaning to sound vain, i have girls asking me to jump into bed with them quite a lot, but when a guy likes a girl a lot, or even loves a girl, he wont cheat and will stay faithful :) if you're confident he really likes you, then he will have stayed faithful, in my opinion, if he rejected it once, he probably rejected it all the times he had oppertunities :) hope i helped
2 :
Long distance relationships can work but that depends on the people involved. I have seen them work out but in most cases they tend to fail. Most guys will hook up with another girl just because what you don't know won't hurt you and will deal with the consequences if or when they arise. You either trust him or not.
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Wednesday, December 7, 2011
Why is neither the left or right reporting this news about the WH crashers and Obama connection?
Why is neither the left or right reporting this news about the WH crashers and Obama connection?
I'm puzzled and I would just like some opinions and what is the angle - I can't figure it out! Why the secret service is investigating itself, the white house is investigating and the couple are not discussing that the husband and Obama worked at the Univ of Chicago together and he worked on Obama's campaign - they know eachother and they act like they've never met! There is no way to link so I'll paste, but here's the original stories: http://canadafreepress.com/index.php/article/17310 http://www.wnd.com/index.php?fa=PAGE.view&pageId=117478 And cut and paste for the rest of you: "Unprecedented†first state dinner in a tent “Party Crashers†had five-year relationship with Obama before state dinner Judi McLeod Bio Print friendly E-mail a friend Contact Us By Judi McLeod Saturday, November 28, 2009 While the big gun media and American Secret Service are out there investigating “party crashers†Tareq and Michaele Salahi, no one’s telling the truth: Obama knew the Salahis when he was still an Illinois senator. Polo Contacts Worldwide could make it easy for the investigating Secret Service by brown-enveloping them this picture: Hey Secret Agent Man, here’s Obama, the senator flashing his pearly whites with Randy Jackson, better known as a judge on American Idol. “Others pictured are Black Eyed Peas Rock Band; Tareq Salahi the President of the America’s Polo Cup; President Elect Obama, Fergie from Black eyed Peas and Michaele Salahi, posing this time as a former Miss USA and SuperModel.†Interesting little detail for White House gumshoes: As the above photo was published in June 2005, Barack Obama was still Senator Obama and not the President Elect. And with Michaele Salahi yesterday having been caught out—Facebook pompoms notwithstanding—as a bogus cheerleader for the Washington Red Skins and not a model for Victoria’s Secret as claimed, Canada Free Press (CFP) leaves it to FoxNews.com to find out if she ever was a “former Miss USAâ€. We do know for a fact that among the slew of memberships on charitable boards, Tareq Salahi is a former member of The American Task Force on Palestine (ATFP). The only way to know for a fact is because even though ATFP scrubbed all references to Salahi as a board member, he can still be found on Google cache. (Canada Free Press) Sad that White House Secret Service are looking like Keystone Kops in the aftermath of Obama’s very first state house dinner in the tent. While the media is fixated on the hitch in Michaele Salahi’s git-along, there can be no doubt that these recently minted “party crashers†really get around. We take you back to June 9, 2005 when Tom Nelson, operating officer of AARP, was summing up the Rock the Vote Awards night. According to the Washington Post “everyone from Sens. John McCain and Barack Obama to “American Idol†judge Randy Jackson and R&B singer Mya gathered in the National Building Museum’s Great Hall: “You were probably wondering, as you sat down at your table, ‘What the heck is the AARP doing in a Rock the Vote Event?’†Nelson noted. Time would soon tell that the AARP would show up in other fishy places. And if there is anyone who must know that this weekend’s party crasher story is a crock it’s John McCain who was at the Vote Awards Night, and who along with Barack Obama, was honored with the Rock the Nation Award, Obama “for forming a multiracial coalition in winning his seatâ€. McCain was handed his award for “his work on campaign finance reformâ€. “Just call me Funk Master McCain,†he told the audience of 1,000 in accepting his award.: (washingtonpost.com, June 9, 2005. Meanwhile, don’t know why Obama’s long time associates possibly could be mistaken for party crashers when they came into the tent with a Bravo Reality TV Show “Real Housewives of DC†professional camera crew and makeup artist in tow unless he was hoping for a Reality gig for wife Michelle, CBS celebrity Katie Couric or Chief of Staff Rahm Emanuel. Obama could end the “party crasher†goose chase for White House Secret Service in a proverbial New York Minute by coming clean on his almost 5-year-old social/political relationship with Tareq and Michaele Salahi. It could save money in these recessionary times and put an end to the drama of Washington’s “unprecedented†first state dinner in a tent WorldNetDaily Exclusive White House 'gatecrashers' tied to terror sympathizer Salahi served in same anti-Israel group as Obama's Palestinian professor pal -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Posted: November 29, 2009 5:12 pm Eastern By Aaron Klein © 2009 WorldNetDaily Rashid Khalidi The Virginia couple who allegedly crashed a White House state dinner is tied to Rashid Khalidi, a pro-Palestinian professor who excuses terrorism and has been a close associate to President Obama. Michaele and Tareq Salahi met Obama in To THINK, I'm truly not slamming anyone, since I don't believe the government of either side! Just confused wondering why.
Politics - 5 Answers
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Do tell. Somehow, I knew it was Obama's fault.
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They don't want to let people know that Hussein is hanging around muslim terrorists. They were busy talking about Tiger Woods' fire hydrant. Fox News is far from conservative, it's exactly the same as CNN and other liberal news outlets.
3 :
If that is true, then why didn't Obama just come right out and say so? He is such a wishy washy person and does not like to be clear and precise about anything. And libs on answers support him? the Loons following the Loon I guess.
4 :
Headline News reported they were 0bama's coke connection.
5 :
Well if the guy DID know the President from before and said that then it probably helped him get in. But who really cares? What are they supposed to pay the taxpayer back for the shrimp cocktails they ate?
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I'm puzzled and I would just like some opinions and what is the angle - I can't figure it out! Why the secret service is investigating itself, the white house is investigating and the couple are not discussing that the husband and Obama worked at the Univ of Chicago together and he worked on Obama's campaign - they know eachother and they act like they've never met! There is no way to link so I'll paste, but here's the original stories: http://canadafreepress.com/index.php/article/17310 http://www.wnd.com/index.php?fa=PAGE.view&pageId=117478 And cut and paste for the rest of you: "Unprecedented†first state dinner in a tent “Party Crashers†had five-year relationship with Obama before state dinner Judi McLeod Bio Print friendly E-mail a friend Contact Us By Judi McLeod Saturday, November 28, 2009 While the big gun media and American Secret Service are out there investigating “party crashers†Tareq and Michaele Salahi, no one’s telling the truth: Obama knew the Salahis when he was still an Illinois senator. Polo Contacts Worldwide could make it easy for the investigating Secret Service by brown-enveloping them this picture: Hey Secret Agent Man, here’s Obama, the senator flashing his pearly whites with Randy Jackson, better known as a judge on American Idol. “Others pictured are Black Eyed Peas Rock Band; Tareq Salahi the President of the America’s Polo Cup; President Elect Obama, Fergie from Black eyed Peas and Michaele Salahi, posing this time as a former Miss USA and SuperModel.†Interesting little detail for White House gumshoes: As the above photo was published in June 2005, Barack Obama was still Senator Obama and not the President Elect. And with Michaele Salahi yesterday having been caught out—Facebook pompoms notwithstanding—as a bogus cheerleader for the Washington Red Skins and not a model for Victoria’s Secret as claimed, Canada Free Press (CFP) leaves it to FoxNews.com to find out if she ever was a “former Miss USAâ€. We do know for a fact that among the slew of memberships on charitable boards, Tareq Salahi is a former member of The American Task Force on Palestine (ATFP). The only way to know for a fact is because even though ATFP scrubbed all references to Salahi as a board member, he can still be found on Google cache. (Canada Free Press) Sad that White House Secret Service are looking like Keystone Kops in the aftermath of Obama’s very first state house dinner in the tent. While the media is fixated on the hitch in Michaele Salahi’s git-along, there can be no doubt that these recently minted “party crashers†really get around. We take you back to June 9, 2005 when Tom Nelson, operating officer of AARP, was summing up the Rock the Vote Awards night. According to the Washington Post “everyone from Sens. John McCain and Barack Obama to “American Idol†judge Randy Jackson and R&B singer Mya gathered in the National Building Museum’s Great Hall: “You were probably wondering, as you sat down at your table, ‘What the heck is the AARP doing in a Rock the Vote Event?’†Nelson noted. Time would soon tell that the AARP would show up in other fishy places. And if there is anyone who must know that this weekend’s party crasher story is a crock it’s John McCain who was at the Vote Awards Night, and who along with Barack Obama, was honored with the Rock the Nation Award, Obama “for forming a multiracial coalition in winning his seatâ€. McCain was handed his award for “his work on campaign finance reformâ€. “Just call me Funk Master McCain,†he told the audience of 1,000 in accepting his award.: (washingtonpost.com, June 9, 2005. Meanwhile, don’t know why Obama’s long time associates possibly could be mistaken for party crashers when they came into the tent with a Bravo Reality TV Show “Real Housewives of DC†professional camera crew and makeup artist in tow unless he was hoping for a Reality gig for wife Michelle, CBS celebrity Katie Couric or Chief of Staff Rahm Emanuel. Obama could end the “party crasher†goose chase for White House Secret Service in a proverbial New York Minute by coming clean on his almost 5-year-old social/political relationship with Tareq and Michaele Salahi. It could save money in these recessionary times and put an end to the drama of Washington’s “unprecedented†first state dinner in a tent WorldNetDaily Exclusive White House 'gatecrashers' tied to terror sympathizer Salahi served in same anti-Israel group as Obama's Palestinian professor pal -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Posted: November 29, 2009 5:12 pm Eastern By Aaron Klein © 2009 WorldNetDaily Rashid Khalidi The Virginia couple who allegedly crashed a White House state dinner is tied to Rashid Khalidi, a pro-Palestinian professor who excuses terrorism and has been a close associate to President Obama. Michaele and Tareq Salahi met Obama in To THINK, I'm truly not slamming anyone, since I don't believe the government of either side! Just confused wondering why.
Politics - 5 Answers
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Do tell. Somehow, I knew it was Obama's fault.
2 :
They don't want to let people know that Hussein is hanging around muslim terrorists. They were busy talking about Tiger Woods' fire hydrant. Fox News is far from conservative, it's exactly the same as CNN and other liberal news outlets.
3 :
If that is true, then why didn't Obama just come right out and say so? He is such a wishy washy person and does not like to be clear and precise about anything. And libs on answers support him? the Loons following the Loon I guess.
4 :
Headline News reported they were 0bama's coke connection.
5 :
Well if the guy DID know the President from before and said that then it probably helped him get in. But who really cares? What are they supposed to pay the taxpayer back for the shrimp cocktails they ate?
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