Long Distance Relationship Question!?
Okay so me and this girl have been talking since October 2009, We met thru mutual friends on Facebook. I live in Missouri and shit lives in Washington. We have discussed each one of us potentially moving to each others state. Well we have come to the conclusion that it would be best for her to move here. We talk for at least 16 hours a day via phone/txt. We go to each other for everything and tell each other everything, basically we are very dependent on each other. THE PROBLEM IS she will not commit to anything, where as ive committed to the whole idea months ago. Ive been giving it my all to make her just agree to everything. Shes very indecisive about the whole thing. One day she says "This is what I want, but I don't know if its what I need" then the next day she says "I just don't know if this is what I want" HOW DO I MAKE HER UNDERSTAND THAT THIS IS FOR THE BEST? WHAT DOES IT MEAN IF SHE IS VERY DEPENDENT ON ME? (which i love that she is dependent because it makes me feel like she NEEDS me). She always says that this situation ISNT easy, when in all reality it IS VERY easy. All she has to do is commit and buy her plane ticket for July (that's when the moving will occur) PLEASE HELP ME IN GETTING WHAT I WANT. DOES ANYONE THINK SHE IS REALLY INTERESTED? SHE SAYS SHE "LOVES ME" ALL THE TIME. but sometimes i dont feel it i forgot to add that she came to visit me for a week in February and things went great. :)
Singles & Dating - 3 Answers
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Unfortunately, she's a person, just like you. Which means it's no longer about WHAT YOU WANT, but about WHAT'S BEST FOR BOTH OF YOU AS A COUPLE. You can't control her, and you can't control her needs. Probably would be a good idea to back off for a while.
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No it's not as easy as buying a plane ticket and moving. Remember she would be leaving behind her family, friends, home, job etc. Have the two of you even met in person? Honestly it sounds a little bit like maybe you guys just got caught up in a romantic fantasy type thing. You can't force major life decisions on someone. If you really are in love and committed, just slow it down, what's the rush. Have her come for a visit instead of just packing up and moving her life.
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ok..you never met in person? here's what i would do. go a whole day without contact (oooooh i know this is hard to do) maybe half a day. if she asks...you had an earlier commitment to (fill in the blank). 3 days later...you were too busy with (fill in the blank) this is not a head game...you are training yourself to back off some so you won't get hurt bad if she doesn't want to move there. also, you can test this out to see if she said things like" i really missed you" as apposed to "i really needed you". start deterring yourself a bit..(go to a movie, read some books, etc) she might be interested in someone else, but i dont think so, but she might be. good luck..
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Wednesday, December 28, 2011
Wednesday, December 14, 2011
question about long distance dating - guys answers?
question about long distance dating - guys answers?
The guy that is currently my boyfriend just moved from Tennessee back to New York to live with his Dad and his new family ( his parents are divorced) we first met when we were in 7th grade and we began to lose contact during the middle of freshmen year and didn't speak again until June 2010. He was in NY visiting September 2010 and we ended up hanging out talking about the past and both mentioned we had extreme crushes when we were younger - he never knew I liked him back. We kissed right before he left and kept in contact through facebook chat, texting, and phone calls. He finally decided to move back to NY for good & is currently here now. I know my boyfriend was a big partier back in Tennessee, huge parties tons of alcohol girls and hooking up. At the time we never really discussed exclusivity but due to the fact we kept in touch for 2 months waiting for him to return for Thanksgiving braek I knew a relationship was in the works. He mentioned a story about some girl he was once invovled with was ohdee drunk throwing herself on him trying to kiss him while he was midconversation with his friends. He said he was like pushing her off - but now that he mentioned that story I feel as if there were more of those situations. We were listening to Jonny Craig in his car recently and one verse goes "I have a queen why would settle for a fucking maid." and he said that's this song describes he's whole time away from me in Tennessee. question : Relating to my circumstancs the fact that I basically grew up with him - If you really liked a girl but knew distance was going to keep you away for a while would you hook up with other girls as long as she didn't know? I had mentioned to him that I waited for him for 3 months meaning no other guys but he really didn't say no I did absolutely nothing with any other girl.
Singles & Dating - 2 Answers
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well im currently am...well was from today...in a long distance relationship, i hadnt seen her for 2 months, but i kept faithful to her, i didnt cheat and not meaning to sound vain, i have girls asking me to jump into bed with them quite a lot, but when a guy likes a girl a lot, or even loves a girl, he wont cheat and will stay faithful :) if you're confident he really likes you, then he will have stayed faithful, in my opinion, if he rejected it once, he probably rejected it all the times he had oppertunities :) hope i helped
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Long distance relationships can work but that depends on the people involved. I have seen them work out but in most cases they tend to fail. Most guys will hook up with another girl just because what you don't know won't hurt you and will deal with the consequences if or when they arise. You either trust him or not.
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The guy that is currently my boyfriend just moved from Tennessee back to New York to live with his Dad and his new family ( his parents are divorced) we first met when we were in 7th grade and we began to lose contact during the middle of freshmen year and didn't speak again until June 2010. He was in NY visiting September 2010 and we ended up hanging out talking about the past and both mentioned we had extreme crushes when we were younger - he never knew I liked him back. We kissed right before he left and kept in contact through facebook chat, texting, and phone calls. He finally decided to move back to NY for good & is currently here now. I know my boyfriend was a big partier back in Tennessee, huge parties tons of alcohol girls and hooking up. At the time we never really discussed exclusivity but due to the fact we kept in touch for 2 months waiting for him to return for Thanksgiving braek I knew a relationship was in the works. He mentioned a story about some girl he was once invovled with was ohdee drunk throwing herself on him trying to kiss him while he was midconversation with his friends. He said he was like pushing her off - but now that he mentioned that story I feel as if there were more of those situations. We were listening to Jonny Craig in his car recently and one verse goes "I have a queen why would settle for a fucking maid." and he said that's this song describes he's whole time away from me in Tennessee. question : Relating to my circumstancs the fact that I basically grew up with him - If you really liked a girl but knew distance was going to keep you away for a while would you hook up with other girls as long as she didn't know? I had mentioned to him that I waited for him for 3 months meaning no other guys but he really didn't say no I did absolutely nothing with any other girl.
Singles & Dating - 2 Answers
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well im currently am...well was from today...in a long distance relationship, i hadnt seen her for 2 months, but i kept faithful to her, i didnt cheat and not meaning to sound vain, i have girls asking me to jump into bed with them quite a lot, but when a guy likes a girl a lot, or even loves a girl, he wont cheat and will stay faithful :) if you're confident he really likes you, then he will have stayed faithful, in my opinion, if he rejected it once, he probably rejected it all the times he had oppertunities :) hope i helped
2 :
Long distance relationships can work but that depends on the people involved. I have seen them work out but in most cases they tend to fail. Most guys will hook up with another girl just because what you don't know won't hurt you and will deal with the consequences if or when they arise. You either trust him or not.
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Wednesday, December 7, 2011
Why is neither the left or right reporting this news about the WH crashers and Obama connection?
Why is neither the left or right reporting this news about the WH crashers and Obama connection?
I'm puzzled and I would just like some opinions and what is the angle - I can't figure it out! Why the secret service is investigating itself, the white house is investigating and the couple are not discussing that the husband and Obama worked at the Univ of Chicago together and he worked on Obama's campaign - they know eachother and they act like they've never met! There is no way to link so I'll paste, but here's the original stories: http://canadafreepress.com/index.php/article/17310 http://www.wnd.com/index.php?fa=PAGE.view&pageId=117478 And cut and paste for the rest of you: "Unprecedented†first state dinner in a tent “Party Crashers†had five-year relationship with Obama before state dinner Judi McLeod Bio Print friendly E-mail a friend Contact Us By Judi McLeod Saturday, November 28, 2009 While the big gun media and American Secret Service are out there investigating “party crashers†Tareq and Michaele Salahi, no one’s telling the truth: Obama knew the Salahis when he was still an Illinois senator. Polo Contacts Worldwide could make it easy for the investigating Secret Service by brown-enveloping them this picture: Hey Secret Agent Man, here’s Obama, the senator flashing his pearly whites with Randy Jackson, better known as a judge on American Idol. “Others pictured are Black Eyed Peas Rock Band; Tareq Salahi the President of the America’s Polo Cup; President Elect Obama, Fergie from Black eyed Peas and Michaele Salahi, posing this time as a former Miss USA and SuperModel.†Interesting little detail for White House gumshoes: As the above photo was published in June 2005, Barack Obama was still Senator Obama and not the President Elect. And with Michaele Salahi yesterday having been caught out—Facebook pompoms notwithstanding—as a bogus cheerleader for the Washington Red Skins and not a model for Victoria’s Secret as claimed, Canada Free Press (CFP) leaves it to FoxNews.com to find out if she ever was a “former Miss USAâ€. We do know for a fact that among the slew of memberships on charitable boards, Tareq Salahi is a former member of The American Task Force on Palestine (ATFP). The only way to know for a fact is because even though ATFP scrubbed all references to Salahi as a board member, he can still be found on Google cache. (Canada Free Press) Sad that White House Secret Service are looking like Keystone Kops in the aftermath of Obama’s very first state house dinner in the tent. While the media is fixated on the hitch in Michaele Salahi’s git-along, there can be no doubt that these recently minted “party crashers†really get around. We take you back to June 9, 2005 when Tom Nelson, operating officer of AARP, was summing up the Rock the Vote Awards night. According to the Washington Post “everyone from Sens. John McCain and Barack Obama to “American Idol†judge Randy Jackson and R&B singer Mya gathered in the National Building Museum’s Great Hall: “You were probably wondering, as you sat down at your table, ‘What the heck is the AARP doing in a Rock the Vote Event?’†Nelson noted. Time would soon tell that the AARP would show up in other fishy places. And if there is anyone who must know that this weekend’s party crasher story is a crock it’s John McCain who was at the Vote Awards Night, and who along with Barack Obama, was honored with the Rock the Nation Award, Obama “for forming a multiracial coalition in winning his seatâ€. McCain was handed his award for “his work on campaign finance reformâ€. “Just call me Funk Master McCain,†he told the audience of 1,000 in accepting his award.: (washingtonpost.com, June 9, 2005. Meanwhile, don’t know why Obama’s long time associates possibly could be mistaken for party crashers when they came into the tent with a Bravo Reality TV Show “Real Housewives of DC†professional camera crew and makeup artist in tow unless he was hoping for a Reality gig for wife Michelle, CBS celebrity Katie Couric or Chief of Staff Rahm Emanuel. Obama could end the “party crasher†goose chase for White House Secret Service in a proverbial New York Minute by coming clean on his almost 5-year-old social/political relationship with Tareq and Michaele Salahi. It could save money in these recessionary times and put an end to the drama of Washington’s “unprecedented†first state dinner in a tent WorldNetDaily Exclusive White House 'gatecrashers' tied to terror sympathizer Salahi served in same anti-Israel group as Obama's Palestinian professor pal -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Posted: November 29, 2009 5:12 pm Eastern By Aaron Klein © 2009 WorldNetDaily Rashid Khalidi The Virginia couple who allegedly crashed a White House state dinner is tied to Rashid Khalidi, a pro-Palestinian professor who excuses terrorism and has been a close associate to President Obama. Michaele and Tareq Salahi met Obama in To THINK, I'm truly not slamming anyone, since I don't believe the government of either side! Just confused wondering why.
Politics - 5 Answers
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Do tell. Somehow, I knew it was Obama's fault.
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They don't want to let people know that Hussein is hanging around muslim terrorists. They were busy talking about Tiger Woods' fire hydrant. Fox News is far from conservative, it's exactly the same as CNN and other liberal news outlets.
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If that is true, then why didn't Obama just come right out and say so? He is such a wishy washy person and does not like to be clear and precise about anything. And libs on answers support him? the Loons following the Loon I guess.
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Headline News reported they were 0bama's coke connection.
5 :
Well if the guy DID know the President from before and said that then it probably helped him get in. But who really cares? What are they supposed to pay the taxpayer back for the shrimp cocktails they ate?
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I'm puzzled and I would just like some opinions and what is the angle - I can't figure it out! Why the secret service is investigating itself, the white house is investigating and the couple are not discussing that the husband and Obama worked at the Univ of Chicago together and he worked on Obama's campaign - they know eachother and they act like they've never met! There is no way to link so I'll paste, but here's the original stories: http://canadafreepress.com/index.php/article/17310 http://www.wnd.com/index.php?fa=PAGE.view&pageId=117478 And cut and paste for the rest of you: "Unprecedented†first state dinner in a tent “Party Crashers†had five-year relationship with Obama before state dinner Judi McLeod Bio Print friendly E-mail a friend Contact Us By Judi McLeod Saturday, November 28, 2009 While the big gun media and American Secret Service are out there investigating “party crashers†Tareq and Michaele Salahi, no one’s telling the truth: Obama knew the Salahis when he was still an Illinois senator. Polo Contacts Worldwide could make it easy for the investigating Secret Service by brown-enveloping them this picture: Hey Secret Agent Man, here’s Obama, the senator flashing his pearly whites with Randy Jackson, better known as a judge on American Idol. “Others pictured are Black Eyed Peas Rock Band; Tareq Salahi the President of the America’s Polo Cup; President Elect Obama, Fergie from Black eyed Peas and Michaele Salahi, posing this time as a former Miss USA and SuperModel.†Interesting little detail for White House gumshoes: As the above photo was published in June 2005, Barack Obama was still Senator Obama and not the President Elect. And with Michaele Salahi yesterday having been caught out—Facebook pompoms notwithstanding—as a bogus cheerleader for the Washington Red Skins and not a model for Victoria’s Secret as claimed, Canada Free Press (CFP) leaves it to FoxNews.com to find out if she ever was a “former Miss USAâ€. We do know for a fact that among the slew of memberships on charitable boards, Tareq Salahi is a former member of The American Task Force on Palestine (ATFP). The only way to know for a fact is because even though ATFP scrubbed all references to Salahi as a board member, he can still be found on Google cache. (Canada Free Press) Sad that White House Secret Service are looking like Keystone Kops in the aftermath of Obama’s very first state house dinner in the tent. While the media is fixated on the hitch in Michaele Salahi’s git-along, there can be no doubt that these recently minted “party crashers†really get around. We take you back to June 9, 2005 when Tom Nelson, operating officer of AARP, was summing up the Rock the Vote Awards night. According to the Washington Post “everyone from Sens. John McCain and Barack Obama to “American Idol†judge Randy Jackson and R&B singer Mya gathered in the National Building Museum’s Great Hall: “You were probably wondering, as you sat down at your table, ‘What the heck is the AARP doing in a Rock the Vote Event?’†Nelson noted. Time would soon tell that the AARP would show up in other fishy places. And if there is anyone who must know that this weekend’s party crasher story is a crock it’s John McCain who was at the Vote Awards Night, and who along with Barack Obama, was honored with the Rock the Nation Award, Obama “for forming a multiracial coalition in winning his seatâ€. McCain was handed his award for “his work on campaign finance reformâ€. “Just call me Funk Master McCain,†he told the audience of 1,000 in accepting his award.: (washingtonpost.com, June 9, 2005. Meanwhile, don’t know why Obama’s long time associates possibly could be mistaken for party crashers when they came into the tent with a Bravo Reality TV Show “Real Housewives of DC†professional camera crew and makeup artist in tow unless he was hoping for a Reality gig for wife Michelle, CBS celebrity Katie Couric or Chief of Staff Rahm Emanuel. Obama could end the “party crasher†goose chase for White House Secret Service in a proverbial New York Minute by coming clean on his almost 5-year-old social/political relationship with Tareq and Michaele Salahi. It could save money in these recessionary times and put an end to the drama of Washington’s “unprecedented†first state dinner in a tent WorldNetDaily Exclusive White House 'gatecrashers' tied to terror sympathizer Salahi served in same anti-Israel group as Obama's Palestinian professor pal -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Posted: November 29, 2009 5:12 pm Eastern By Aaron Klein © 2009 WorldNetDaily Rashid Khalidi The Virginia couple who allegedly crashed a White House state dinner is tied to Rashid Khalidi, a pro-Palestinian professor who excuses terrorism and has been a close associate to President Obama. Michaele and Tareq Salahi met Obama in To THINK, I'm truly not slamming anyone, since I don't believe the government of either side! Just confused wondering why.
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Do tell. Somehow, I knew it was Obama's fault.
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They don't want to let people know that Hussein is hanging around muslim terrorists. They were busy talking about Tiger Woods' fire hydrant. Fox News is far from conservative, it's exactly the same as CNN and other liberal news outlets.
3 :
If that is true, then why didn't Obama just come right out and say so? He is such a wishy washy person and does not like to be clear and precise about anything. And libs on answers support him? the Loons following the Loon I guess.
4 :
Headline News reported they were 0bama's coke connection.
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Well if the guy DID know the President from before and said that then it probably helped him get in. But who really cares? What are they supposed to pay the taxpayer back for the shrimp cocktails they ate?
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Thursday, December 1, 2011
Is it hard to find a new best friend in a new high school?
Is it hard to find a new best friend in a new high school?
I moved states (From Florida to Washington!) For the moment I'm being home schooled so I can start school next year. I've been feeling REALLY really lonely :( I have nobody and I'm getting sick of my family being the only people I see everyday. I really long for a bestfriend, I have certain qualities that my old BFF had that I would like to find in a new one. But I've known her since we were 10, I checked her facebook just now, she's long gone and has forgotten about me because of a fight we had, I feel really guilty, it was all my fault and I deeply regret everything. But now that I'm starting new I was wondering how hard would it be in high school to find a life best friend with all the qualities I want (they're not a while lot, just that she has to like animals a whole lot, to be sensitive and caring one who no matter what won't ditch me) I have no trouble making friends, I'm pretty eccentric have many cool things to discuss, I'm very confident etc. But I'm not looking for someone to call every now and then, I'm looking for someone's shoulder to lie on. Please help, I'm so lonely it's making me sick.
Friends - 2 Answers
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I'm from Wa too :) Well, when you go to school, I think you will have no problem making new friends. Just be selective and make sure they have good qualities like yourself. I know that loneliness can be so over whelming..
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Finding friends shouldn't be too difficult. Be yourself and see what will happen.
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I moved states (From Florida to Washington!) For the moment I'm being home schooled so I can start school next year. I've been feeling REALLY really lonely :( I have nobody and I'm getting sick of my family being the only people I see everyday. I really long for a bestfriend, I have certain qualities that my old BFF had that I would like to find in a new one. But I've known her since we were 10, I checked her facebook just now, she's long gone and has forgotten about me because of a fight we had, I feel really guilty, it was all my fault and I deeply regret everything. But now that I'm starting new I was wondering how hard would it be in high school to find a life best friend with all the qualities I want (they're not a while lot, just that she has to like animals a whole lot, to be sensitive and caring one who no matter what won't ditch me) I have no trouble making friends, I'm pretty eccentric have many cool things to discuss, I'm very confident etc. But I'm not looking for someone to call every now and then, I'm looking for someone's shoulder to lie on. Please help, I'm so lonely it's making me sick.
Friends - 2 Answers
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I'm from Wa too :) Well, when you go to school, I think you will have no problem making new friends. Just be selective and make sure they have good qualities like yourself. I know that loneliness can be so over whelming..
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Finding friends shouldn't be too difficult. Be yourself and see what will happen.
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Monday, November 28, 2011
What are my legal options against a police officer who arrested my son and lied in court?
What are my legal options against a police officer who arrested my son and lied in court?
I will try to be brief: While my son and I were visiting his high school this summer for a meeting with the football coach and guidance office, a police detective approached us. The detective asked if I could bring my son to police headquarters to discuss an incident that occurred on July 4th. We immediately went to police headquarters and talked to the detective outside, He asked if he could speak with my son alone, for which I objected. He then stated that my son was NOT under suspicion for ANY crimes, and was simply seeking information about a July 4th incident. My son indicated that he didn't know what occurred on July 4th and couldn't offer any information. The detective was insistent about speaking with my son alone. I objected, but my 17 yr old son offered to speak to the detective alone, since he didn't have anything to hide. Well, what resulted from this was my son being photographed and fingerprinted against his will. My son told me what happened, and I immediately requested answers from the detective. Two days later, the detective called my home and requested that my son return to the police department for more questions. When I told him I would not bring him back, on the advice of our attorney, the detective informed me that my son was going to be arrested for a crime that occurred on July 20th. The evidence used to make the arrest was the photograph the detective took of my son two days prior. Please note, my son had a clear record prior to this arrest. My son had to endure weeks in a juvenile detention center before we could go to trial. Unknown to the detective, the following facts existed: 1) My family returned home from a two week vacation on July 19, and I was able to account for my son's movements for the entire day on July 20. 2) The police report and the victim's statement indicated that the person who committed the crime has a close cut hair style. On July 20th my son had long twisted hair about 8 inches long. I provided video and photographs from a wedding my family attended on July 18 some 500 miles away. My son cut his hair five days prior to meeting the detective because he was getting ready for football season. 3) During the time of the incident he was charged with, he was on his Facebook account chatting with numerous friends. This information was provided at trial by certified records from Facebook. To sum this up, my son's trial showed how the detective lied on numerous occasions. His testimony at trial didn't match his written statement or the testimony of the victim. The victim and the detective called each other liars during the trial. Thankfully, the trial judge found the detective's actions were deceitful and not creditable, and my son was found not involved in the crime. My wife and I want to seek legal action against the detective, as my son lost over four weeks of school as a result of being in a juvenile detention center; missed out on his football season (my son is among the Top 5 sprinters in the state of Maryland); and was a mental and financial drain for us. Can we do anything? Thank you For the person who insist the information I provided is false, my son's case number is JA-09-1414 in the state of Maryland. Everything I stated in my question can be substantiated. I posted my question in the hopes that I can obtain useful information as to my next course of action. To answer the question as to why I went to the police station and let the detective speak to my son: Because I feared the police/detective would have simply picked my son up at some later point and taken him to the police station and called me after the fact. I felt I was cooperating fully, and since my son assured me he was not involved in anythig, we had nothing to worry about. Order of Events: 8/10/09 - Date when my son & I went to high school, was approached by the detective, and when my son spoke with the detective. Detective was waiting at the school. Per his testimony at trial, he contacted the school ahead of time and the school informed him that my son and I were going to be there. 8/12/09 - Date my son was arrested. 8/13/09 - My son was detained and sent to juvenile detention center to await merit hearing (trial). 9/8/09 - Original date of trial. Trial was postponed until October 13 to allow our attorney to obtain records from Facebook. 9/1509 - My son was released from juvenile detention center under Electronic Monitoring. Merits Hearing (Trial) is again postponed until 11/5/09 to allow Facebook time to produce Certified Records of my son's account. 11/509 - Merit Hearing (Trial). My son was found Not Involved (Not Guilty) of all counts. Judge also reprimanded detective for his conduct in handling this case. Other Dates: 7/4/09 - During the July 4th fireworks celebration in our town, a young man was robbed of his skateboard. My son was at the celebration with his girlfriend, and the person accused of the robbery was a former friend of my son. This was the reason the detective claimed why he wanted to talk to my son. 7/20/09 - A person was assualted and robbed of his cellphone by a group of young men in the same area as the skateboard incident. Based on the testimony of the detective, he believed my son was involved because of his past friendships. When my son spoke to the detective on 8/10/09, he was never asked about the incident on 7/20/09. His entire written statement was one paragraph that stated he had no knowledge of what happened on 7/4/09. The detective showed the victim a picture of my son on 8/11/09, and the victim indicated my son "could have been" one of the people who attacked him and stole his cell phone. This was the detective's basis for arresting my son. The importance of the hairstyle is that my son's hair was about 7-8 inches long, styled in a twist. The victim's police statement indicated the attacker had a short, close cut hairstyle. My son cut his hair on 8/5/09, 16 days after the incident, because he was getting ready for football season, and he couldn't afford paying $50 every three weeks to have his hair styled. The Facebook records were critical because it showed my son was home with me at the time, and was on his computer. Our attorney need to show it was impossible to be at the crime scene, which was three miles from my home, and on his computer chatting with friends. As for the detective lying: During the trial, detective indicated that he went to the victim's home to show him photos of possible suspects. However, the victim testified he went to the police station and looked at some photo books. On 8/11/09, the detective showed him a photo of my son and said "he believes we have the right guy". At that time he picked the photo of my son. All of this is on record and part of the trial testimony. Also, when I arrived at the police station with my son, I asked the detective if I need to have my attorney here, or if my son was under suspicion for anything. He said "no". But he testified that he informed me my son was a suspect. This was challenged during cross examination, and he eventually recanted some of his previous testimony, where he "assumed" I was informed of the information.
Law Enforcement & Police - 4 Answers
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I didn't read past paragraph one, but... 1) WHY did you go to the police station? 2) WHY did you let him speak to your son? You failed as parents.
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first talk to an attorney. next I would seek to file suit against the city, the police department, the corrections department, and the detective, and police chief personally. (You may want to include personally the mayor, and certain members of the city council.) Since the police officer, was an employee of the city, the entire change of command was responsible for his actions. since you did not mention that they intend to punish the cop for his actions, then by omission, they supported it. Therefore, since they are supporting illegal and immoral acts that negatively impact the citizens, then they must also be held liable. No one that has come forward to repremand the detective, should be included as well.
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You can call your area "Legal Aid Society" or talk to the "States Attorney" office for your area and ask them. It doesn't sound good at all. Your son who is in high school, is a team player and is well adapted socially was forced to be in "Juvie" with all the real horrible losers? This detective will do this again if he isn't reprimanded.
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i have came to a conclusion , this story you have told is false, a lie, fairytale, not true, fib, and the list goes on. shame on you coming to this site telling such to innocent people that are somewhat easy to believe anything that liars like you tell. shame on you, shame shame shame shame shame shame shame shame.
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I will try to be brief: While my son and I were visiting his high school this summer for a meeting with the football coach and guidance office, a police detective approached us. The detective asked if I could bring my son to police headquarters to discuss an incident that occurred on July 4th. We immediately went to police headquarters and talked to the detective outside, He asked if he could speak with my son alone, for which I objected. He then stated that my son was NOT under suspicion for ANY crimes, and was simply seeking information about a July 4th incident. My son indicated that he didn't know what occurred on July 4th and couldn't offer any information. The detective was insistent about speaking with my son alone. I objected, but my 17 yr old son offered to speak to the detective alone, since he didn't have anything to hide. Well, what resulted from this was my son being photographed and fingerprinted against his will. My son told me what happened, and I immediately requested answers from the detective. Two days later, the detective called my home and requested that my son return to the police department for more questions. When I told him I would not bring him back, on the advice of our attorney, the detective informed me that my son was going to be arrested for a crime that occurred on July 20th. The evidence used to make the arrest was the photograph the detective took of my son two days prior. Please note, my son had a clear record prior to this arrest. My son had to endure weeks in a juvenile detention center before we could go to trial. Unknown to the detective, the following facts existed: 1) My family returned home from a two week vacation on July 19, and I was able to account for my son's movements for the entire day on July 20. 2) The police report and the victim's statement indicated that the person who committed the crime has a close cut hair style. On July 20th my son had long twisted hair about 8 inches long. I provided video and photographs from a wedding my family attended on July 18 some 500 miles away. My son cut his hair five days prior to meeting the detective because he was getting ready for football season. 3) During the time of the incident he was charged with, he was on his Facebook account chatting with numerous friends. This information was provided at trial by certified records from Facebook. To sum this up, my son's trial showed how the detective lied on numerous occasions. His testimony at trial didn't match his written statement or the testimony of the victim. The victim and the detective called each other liars during the trial. Thankfully, the trial judge found the detective's actions were deceitful and not creditable, and my son was found not involved in the crime. My wife and I want to seek legal action against the detective, as my son lost over four weeks of school as a result of being in a juvenile detention center; missed out on his football season (my son is among the Top 5 sprinters in the state of Maryland); and was a mental and financial drain for us. Can we do anything? Thank you For the person who insist the information I provided is false, my son's case number is JA-09-1414 in the state of Maryland. Everything I stated in my question can be substantiated. I posted my question in the hopes that I can obtain useful information as to my next course of action. To answer the question as to why I went to the police station and let the detective speak to my son: Because I feared the police/detective would have simply picked my son up at some later point and taken him to the police station and called me after the fact. I felt I was cooperating fully, and since my son assured me he was not involved in anythig, we had nothing to worry about. Order of Events: 8/10/09 - Date when my son & I went to high school, was approached by the detective, and when my son spoke with the detective. Detective was waiting at the school. Per his testimony at trial, he contacted the school ahead of time and the school informed him that my son and I were going to be there. 8/12/09 - Date my son was arrested. 8/13/09 - My son was detained and sent to juvenile detention center to await merit hearing (trial). 9/8/09 - Original date of trial. Trial was postponed until October 13 to allow our attorney to obtain records from Facebook. 9/1509 - My son was released from juvenile detention center under Electronic Monitoring. Merits Hearing (Trial) is again postponed until 11/5/09 to allow Facebook time to produce Certified Records of my son's account. 11/509 - Merit Hearing (Trial). My son was found Not Involved (Not Guilty) of all counts. Judge also reprimanded detective for his conduct in handling this case. Other Dates: 7/4/09 - During the July 4th fireworks celebration in our town, a young man was robbed of his skateboard. My son was at the celebration with his girlfriend, and the person accused of the robbery was a former friend of my son. This was the reason the detective claimed why he wanted to talk to my son. 7/20/09 - A person was assualted and robbed of his cellphone by a group of young men in the same area as the skateboard incident. Based on the testimony of the detective, he believed my son was involved because of his past friendships. When my son spoke to the detective on 8/10/09, he was never asked about the incident on 7/20/09. His entire written statement was one paragraph that stated he had no knowledge of what happened on 7/4/09. The detective showed the victim a picture of my son on 8/11/09, and the victim indicated my son "could have been" one of the people who attacked him and stole his cell phone. This was the detective's basis for arresting my son. The importance of the hairstyle is that my son's hair was about 7-8 inches long, styled in a twist. The victim's police statement indicated the attacker had a short, close cut hairstyle. My son cut his hair on 8/5/09, 16 days after the incident, because he was getting ready for football season, and he couldn't afford paying $50 every three weeks to have his hair styled. The Facebook records were critical because it showed my son was home with me at the time, and was on his computer. Our attorney need to show it was impossible to be at the crime scene, which was three miles from my home, and on his computer chatting with friends. As for the detective lying: During the trial, detective indicated that he went to the victim's home to show him photos of possible suspects. However, the victim testified he went to the police station and looked at some photo books. On 8/11/09, the detective showed him a photo of my son and said "he believes we have the right guy". At that time he picked the photo of my son. All of this is on record and part of the trial testimony. Also, when I arrived at the police station with my son, I asked the detective if I need to have my attorney here, or if my son was under suspicion for anything. He said "no". But he testified that he informed me my son was a suspect. This was challenged during cross examination, and he eventually recanted some of his previous testimony, where he "assumed" I was informed of the information.
Law Enforcement & Police - 4 Answers
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I didn't read past paragraph one, but... 1) WHY did you go to the police station? 2) WHY did you let him speak to your son? You failed as parents.
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first talk to an attorney. next I would seek to file suit against the city, the police department, the corrections department, and the detective, and police chief personally. (You may want to include personally the mayor, and certain members of the city council.) Since the police officer, was an employee of the city, the entire change of command was responsible for his actions. since you did not mention that they intend to punish the cop for his actions, then by omission, they supported it. Therefore, since they are supporting illegal and immoral acts that negatively impact the citizens, then they must also be held liable. No one that has come forward to repremand the detective, should be included as well.
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You can call your area "Legal Aid Society" or talk to the "States Attorney" office for your area and ask them. It doesn't sound good at all. Your son who is in high school, is a team player and is well adapted socially was forced to be in "Juvie" with all the real horrible losers? This detective will do this again if he isn't reprimanded.
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i have came to a conclusion , this story you have told is false, a lie, fairytale, not true, fib, and the list goes on. shame on you coming to this site telling such to innocent people that are somewhat easy to believe anything that liars like you tell. shame on you, shame shame shame shame shame shame shame shame.
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Monday, November 14, 2011
What do you think of these comments on Christian forum "Rapture Ready"?
What do you think of these comments on Christian forum "Rapture Ready"?
http://rr-bb.com/showthread.php?151193-Christian-woman-sentenced-to-death-in-Pakistan-for-alleged-quot-blasphemy-quot-against-Mohammad&p=1965543#post1965543 (in discussing blasphemy laws in Pakistan) How ironic that the Left would love to have such a blasphemy law passed against Christians to keep them from speaking the truth about homosexuality, abortion, etc, the gods of the Left. They're caught in a conundrum because they have a fetish for Islam because they want to use it against us, yet it happens to be the most oppressive, violent, and anti-Left religion out there. They will fight to put some make-up on Islam to make it appear more tolerable so that it can expand and gain a better stranglehold in the West, but at the same time it is going to turn on them and do them in. Meanwhile, the Left wants to put us, the only ones who understand the real danger of Islam, in a very similar choke-hold of their own. Truly darkened minds and deceived by their lusts. == http://rr-bb.com/showthread.php?151041-Victims-of-the-bully They are laying a groundwork for persecuting Christians. As a mentally ill individual who has battled suicide, I can assure you depression is 100% responsible for suicide. Not bullying. I have been bullied this year, after refusing sexual advances. Am I sucidal? No. I dread going into work sometimes, I avoid him if at all possible, but I'm not killing myself over it. The media is trying to build a foundation: Christianity is hate speech (Bible verses protesting homosexuality); "Hate speech" is bullying. Bullying causes suicide (NOT TRUE). Ergo, Christian beliefs, when expressed, lead to suicide. We have to restrict this! I can see it VERY clearly. It's not about bullying at all; it's about taking away our rights to speak of Jesus and the Bible. Mark my words on this. == http://rr-bb.com/showthread.php?149133-Use-Facebook&p=1946245#post1946245 Facebook has brought more harm to my family in recent history than anything I can recall. Because of it my nephew is getting divorced. My oldest daughter is not speaking to me after I called her out over some questionable posts. My nephew's lawyer told my sister that in a recent consensus of lawyers, Facebook had played a role in 8 out of 10 divorce cases. Just this week Facebook announced their support of gay rights, stating "They were going to take an aggressive stance against Hate Speach". Thus they basically announced the censorship of christian messages and posts is going to increase. Therefore "I Believe" it is an agent of satan and his world. == http://rr-bb.com/showthread.php?150556-Left-Coast-Status-Quo-in-Election/page2 [Re: How could Democrats have won in California?] My daughter was near inconsolable and kept saying, "I don't understand", "I don't understand". I did, all to readily. I explained t her about darkness, spritual blindness, evil, stuff she already knows. But she kept shaking her head on how so many people could be SO blind as to not see what the progressive/left/demos/etc. are up to. I told her that Massachusetts, Nevada, and CA are still dark states and will continue to cling to their darkness. == http://rr-bb.com/showthread.php?148084-Post-Rapture-%28Atheist%29-Survival-Guide&p=1933906#post1933906 Post Rapture (Atheist) Survival Guide You guys will NEVER believe this!! I posted this thread first on the City-Data religious section of the forum for Atheist and other nonbelievers just a few minutes ago. It is a survival guide for Atheist who have rejected God and will be left behind. It's by Kurt Seland. Not less than 5 minutes after posting it up, it was subsequently deleted (I believe an Atheist reported me) and I received an infraction (temporary ban) from the City-Data forums for copyright infringement!! Wow!! But we all know what the REAL reason was! Here is my thread! EDIT: Deleted the thread. Wow I just realized the post by Kurt Seland is the same as Rapture Ready's! But still!! EDIT 2: Wow I have just received YET ANOTHER infraction for the very same thing!! Atheist are the devil-incarnate I swear!!! == http://rr-bb.com/showthread.php?148146-Even-little-mice-pray!&p=1934614#post1934614 Even little mice pray! Had a real God moment today when I stopped in the pet store to look at all the cute and furry critters. At the mice cage there was this one really pretty little black and white mouse. She was sitting on her hind legs, eyes closed and her two tiny front paws folded in prayer. Cutest thing ever!!!! I wonder what she was praying, "oh, please Jesus let me find a good home where there are no kittehs."
Religion & Spirituality - 6 Answers
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Instead of wasting my time reading all of that, I'm just going to conclude that you're an idiot.
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It shows how fricking insane some people are.
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I think the persecutors are the first to claim they are persecuted. That site is for morons, as you can see. The theological notion of a "rapture" was invented 170 years ago. In 1830, in Port Glasgow, Scotland, fifteen year old Margaret MacDonald had a vision concerning the return of Christ. Her vision was adopted by John Nelson Darby a British minister and founder of a denomination called the "Plymouth Brethern." In 1909, an American, C. I. Scofield, pubished an annotated version of the "King James" translation of the Bible called the "Scofield Reference Bible." Scofield's annotations were based on the theology of John Nelson Darby. The "Scofield Reference Bible" popularized the teachings of Darby. Fundamentalist Christians in the U. S. adopted Scofield's Bible as authoritative. With the rise of fundamentalism in the U. S. in recent years, the popularity of the theological notion of the "rapture" has also gained popularity.
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These people are actually insane
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Amen. Even so, come Lord Jesus. Revelation 22:20
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Jhn 3:1 ¶ There was a man of the Pharisees, named Nicodemus, a ruler of the Jews: Jhn 3:2 The same came to Jesus by night, and said unto him, Rabbi, we know that thou art a teacher come from God: for no man can do these miracles that thou doest, except God be with him. Jhn 3:3 Jesus answered and said unto him, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God. Jhn 3:4 Nicodemus saith unto him, How can a man be born when he is old? can he enter the second time into his mother's womb, and be born? Jhn 3:5 Jesus answered, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born of water and [of] the Spirit, he cannot enter into the kingdom of God. Jhn 3:6 That which is born of the flesh is flesh; and that which is born of the Spirit is spirit. Jhn 3:7 Marvel not that I said unto thee, Ye must be born again. Jhn 3:8 The wind bloweth where it listeth, and thou hearest the sound thereof, but canst not tell whence it cometh, and whither it goeth: so is every one that is born of the Spirit. Jhn 3:9 Nicodemus answered and said unto him, How can these things be? Jhn 3:10 Jesus answered and said unto him, Art thou a master of Israel, and knowest not these things? Jhn 3:11 Verily, verily, I say unto thee, We speak that we do know, and testify that we have seen; and ye receive not our witness. Jhn 3:12 If I have told you earthly things, and ye believe not, how shall ye believe, if I tell you [of] heavenly things? Jhn 3:13 And no man hath ascended up to heaven, but he that came down from heaven, [even] the Son of man which is in heaven. Jhn 3:14 And as Moses lifted up the serpent in the wilderness, even so must the Son of man be lifted up: Jhn 3:15 That whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have eternal life. Jhn 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. Jhn 3:17 For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved. Jhn 3:18 He that believeth on him is not condemned: but he that believeth not is condemned already, because he hath not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God. http://www.biblebelievers.com/AllThis.html Brian Free - Where Would You Be http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ces45ygLzXI http://jesus-is-lord.com/index.htm http://www.thegospelhiway.org/home/
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http://rr-bb.com/showthread.php?151193-Christian-woman-sentenced-to-death-in-Pakistan-for-alleged-quot-blasphemy-quot-against-Mohammad&p=1965543#post1965543 (in discussing blasphemy laws in Pakistan) How ironic that the Left would love to have such a blasphemy law passed against Christians to keep them from speaking the truth about homosexuality, abortion, etc, the gods of the Left. They're caught in a conundrum because they have a fetish for Islam because they want to use it against us, yet it happens to be the most oppressive, violent, and anti-Left religion out there. They will fight to put some make-up on Islam to make it appear more tolerable so that it can expand and gain a better stranglehold in the West, but at the same time it is going to turn on them and do them in. Meanwhile, the Left wants to put us, the only ones who understand the real danger of Islam, in a very similar choke-hold of their own. Truly darkened minds and deceived by their lusts. == http://rr-bb.com/showthread.php?151041-Victims-of-the-bully They are laying a groundwork for persecuting Christians. As a mentally ill individual who has battled suicide, I can assure you depression is 100% responsible for suicide. Not bullying. I have been bullied this year, after refusing sexual advances. Am I sucidal? No. I dread going into work sometimes, I avoid him if at all possible, but I'm not killing myself over it. The media is trying to build a foundation: Christianity is hate speech (Bible verses protesting homosexuality); "Hate speech" is bullying. Bullying causes suicide (NOT TRUE). Ergo, Christian beliefs, when expressed, lead to suicide. We have to restrict this! I can see it VERY clearly. It's not about bullying at all; it's about taking away our rights to speak of Jesus and the Bible. Mark my words on this. == http://rr-bb.com/showthread.php?149133-Use-Facebook&p=1946245#post1946245 Facebook has brought more harm to my family in recent history than anything I can recall. Because of it my nephew is getting divorced. My oldest daughter is not speaking to me after I called her out over some questionable posts. My nephew's lawyer told my sister that in a recent consensus of lawyers, Facebook had played a role in 8 out of 10 divorce cases. Just this week Facebook announced their support of gay rights, stating "They were going to take an aggressive stance against Hate Speach". Thus they basically announced the censorship of christian messages and posts is going to increase. Therefore "I Believe" it is an agent of satan and his world. == http://rr-bb.com/showthread.php?150556-Left-Coast-Status-Quo-in-Election/page2 [Re: How could Democrats have won in California?] My daughter was near inconsolable and kept saying, "I don't understand", "I don't understand". I did, all to readily. I explained t her about darkness, spritual blindness, evil, stuff she already knows. But she kept shaking her head on how so many people could be SO blind as to not see what the progressive/left/demos/etc. are up to. I told her that Massachusetts, Nevada, and CA are still dark states and will continue to cling to their darkness. == http://rr-bb.com/showthread.php?148084-Post-Rapture-%28Atheist%29-Survival-Guide&p=1933906#post1933906 Post Rapture (Atheist) Survival Guide You guys will NEVER believe this!! I posted this thread first on the City-Data religious section of the forum for Atheist and other nonbelievers just a few minutes ago. It is a survival guide for Atheist who have rejected God and will be left behind. It's by Kurt Seland. Not less than 5 minutes after posting it up, it was subsequently deleted (I believe an Atheist reported me) and I received an infraction (temporary ban) from the City-Data forums for copyright infringement!! Wow!! But we all know what the REAL reason was! Here is my thread! EDIT: Deleted the thread. Wow I just realized the post by Kurt Seland is the same as Rapture Ready's! But still!! EDIT 2: Wow I have just received YET ANOTHER infraction for the very same thing!! Atheist are the devil-incarnate I swear!!! == http://rr-bb.com/showthread.php?148146-Even-little-mice-pray!&p=1934614#post1934614 Even little mice pray! Had a real God moment today when I stopped in the pet store to look at all the cute and furry critters. At the mice cage there was this one really pretty little black and white mouse. She was sitting on her hind legs, eyes closed and her two tiny front paws folded in prayer. Cutest thing ever!!!! I wonder what she was praying, "oh, please Jesus let me find a good home where there are no kittehs."
Religion & Spirituality - 6 Answers
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Instead of wasting my time reading all of that, I'm just going to conclude that you're an idiot.
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It shows how fricking insane some people are.
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I think the persecutors are the first to claim they are persecuted. That site is for morons, as you can see. The theological notion of a "rapture" was invented 170 years ago. In 1830, in Port Glasgow, Scotland, fifteen year old Margaret MacDonald had a vision concerning the return of Christ. Her vision was adopted by John Nelson Darby a British minister and founder of a denomination called the "Plymouth Brethern." In 1909, an American, C. I. Scofield, pubished an annotated version of the "King James" translation of the Bible called the "Scofield Reference Bible." Scofield's annotations were based on the theology of John Nelson Darby. The "Scofield Reference Bible" popularized the teachings of Darby. Fundamentalist Christians in the U. S. adopted Scofield's Bible as authoritative. With the rise of fundamentalism in the U. S. in recent years, the popularity of the theological notion of the "rapture" has also gained popularity.
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These people are actually insane
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Amen. Even so, come Lord Jesus. Revelation 22:20
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Jhn 3:1 ¶ There was a man of the Pharisees, named Nicodemus, a ruler of the Jews: Jhn 3:2 The same came to Jesus by night, and said unto him, Rabbi, we know that thou art a teacher come from God: for no man can do these miracles that thou doest, except God be with him. Jhn 3:3 Jesus answered and said unto him, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God. Jhn 3:4 Nicodemus saith unto him, How can a man be born when he is old? can he enter the second time into his mother's womb, and be born? Jhn 3:5 Jesus answered, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born of water and [of] the Spirit, he cannot enter into the kingdom of God. Jhn 3:6 That which is born of the flesh is flesh; and that which is born of the Spirit is spirit. Jhn 3:7 Marvel not that I said unto thee, Ye must be born again. Jhn 3:8 The wind bloweth where it listeth, and thou hearest the sound thereof, but canst not tell whence it cometh, and whither it goeth: so is every one that is born of the Spirit. Jhn 3:9 Nicodemus answered and said unto him, How can these things be? Jhn 3:10 Jesus answered and said unto him, Art thou a master of Israel, and knowest not these things? Jhn 3:11 Verily, verily, I say unto thee, We speak that we do know, and testify that we have seen; and ye receive not our witness. Jhn 3:12 If I have told you earthly things, and ye believe not, how shall ye believe, if I tell you [of] heavenly things? Jhn 3:13 And no man hath ascended up to heaven, but he that came down from heaven, [even] the Son of man which is in heaven. Jhn 3:14 And as Moses lifted up the serpent in the wilderness, even so must the Son of man be lifted up: Jhn 3:15 That whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have eternal life. Jhn 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. Jhn 3:17 For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved. Jhn 3:18 He that believeth on him is not condemned: but he that believeth not is condemned already, because he hath not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God. http://www.biblebelievers.com/AllThis.html Brian Free - Where Would You Be http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ces45ygLzXI http://jesus-is-lord.com/index.htm http://www.thegospelhiway.org/home/
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Monday, November 7, 2011
My ex broke up with me (I STILL LOVE HIM) and wants nothing to do with me, how do I forget him!!!?
My ex broke up with me (I STILL LOVE HIM) and wants nothing to do with me, how do I forget him!!!?
I met my ex on a Middle Eastern Dating website, we talked on the phone for a week, he flew to Boston a few times to see me since he was living in Ohio trying to start his career as a doctor. Everything went great, the chemistry was there, he met my family, my friends, even my BOSS....I fell in love with him so fast, and he claimed to have the same feelings for me...we even decided he would have his family go to my family and ask for my hand (thats how our culture does it) On Thursday December 4th, I was talking to him online from work like we usually did and we started discussing the wedding, me moving to Ohio and everything seemed great. Later on that afternoon, he came online and was absolutely livid!! He told me he had gone on my FACEBOOK account and read past messages from a guy I had never met, and the messages were from a year and 3 months ago!!!! The messages included pet names,somewhat sexual content and sometimes hinted towards us meeting and maybe getting married. BELIEVE ME, I HAVE NO REASON TO LIE RIGHT NOW, I WASNT GOING TO MARRY THIS GUY, I WAS 22 AT THE TIME, IM 24 NOW, AND WAS JUST BEING IMMATURE. Needless to say, he confronted me with this information and told me I must talk to all guys like this etc. I told him that wasnt true, and that I had never met him and that I was younger and most importantly, a year and 3 months ago, I didnt know he was existant and he didnt know I was either, so how can he judge me for that!!???? DOESNT EVERYONE HAVE A PAST?? Keep in mind, this whole convo took place on MSN. He went on to block me on MSN, on Facebook, and 3 days later, changed his phone number!!!!!!!! I e mailed him a few times, first asking him why he did what he did,he responded that he had thought long and hard about it and made a final decision, so I left it alone for about 2 days and then couldnt help but e mail him again, this time I went on to the hate e mails, because like we all know, sometimes a girl uses her emotions before her mind!! He e mailed me telling me how much I hurt him in the e mails and that now there really was no chance of getting back together. I emailed him telling him that words are words, but his actions spoke a lot louder than my words...breakingf up with me, blocking me, refusing to communicate with me, changing his number, literally talking to me about marriage 4 hours before he so abruptly and insensitively broke up with me ONLINE. He went on to e mail me a few days later, this time telling me it wasnt my PAST....it was my behavior when I got upset and my reaction every time he mentioned his family. Keep in mind, I do have a temper sometimes, but have a great heart and neverrrrr hold a grudge, and he knew this very well. In regards to hsi family, I never showed anything other than respect for his family and they liked me a lot actually and I liked them. I feel like he just came up with excuses to break up with me,but his actions when he came to Boston both times were so the opposite, just full of love and affection and the way he looked at me was so loving, that I cant believe he broke up with me. It's been a month now, I still love him, I think about him, I even cry at times, but I know I need to move on, because he was able to give up on an entire future so quickly and that killed me....PLEASE HELP AND GIVE ME ADVICE!!!! </3
Singles & Dating - 1 Answers
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girl i so know how u feel my ex told me he loved me one day and the next asked if we could be friend....but now i try to talk to him he hates me now. i cried forever but ya GL.
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I met my ex on a Middle Eastern Dating website, we talked on the phone for a week, he flew to Boston a few times to see me since he was living in Ohio trying to start his career as a doctor. Everything went great, the chemistry was there, he met my family, my friends, even my BOSS....I fell in love with him so fast, and he claimed to have the same feelings for me...we even decided he would have his family go to my family and ask for my hand (thats how our culture does it) On Thursday December 4th, I was talking to him online from work like we usually did and we started discussing the wedding, me moving to Ohio and everything seemed great. Later on that afternoon, he came online and was absolutely livid!! He told me he had gone on my FACEBOOK account and read past messages from a guy I had never met, and the messages were from a year and 3 months ago!!!! The messages included pet names,somewhat sexual content and sometimes hinted towards us meeting and maybe getting married. BELIEVE ME, I HAVE NO REASON TO LIE RIGHT NOW, I WASNT GOING TO MARRY THIS GUY, I WAS 22 AT THE TIME, IM 24 NOW, AND WAS JUST BEING IMMATURE. Needless to say, he confronted me with this information and told me I must talk to all guys like this etc. I told him that wasnt true, and that I had never met him and that I was younger and most importantly, a year and 3 months ago, I didnt know he was existant and he didnt know I was either, so how can he judge me for that!!???? DOESNT EVERYONE HAVE A PAST?? Keep in mind, this whole convo took place on MSN. He went on to block me on MSN, on Facebook, and 3 days later, changed his phone number!!!!!!!! I e mailed him a few times, first asking him why he did what he did,he responded that he had thought long and hard about it and made a final decision, so I left it alone for about 2 days and then couldnt help but e mail him again, this time I went on to the hate e mails, because like we all know, sometimes a girl uses her emotions before her mind!! He e mailed me telling me how much I hurt him in the e mails and that now there really was no chance of getting back together. I emailed him telling him that words are words, but his actions spoke a lot louder than my words...breakingf up with me, blocking me, refusing to communicate with me, changing his number, literally talking to me about marriage 4 hours before he so abruptly and insensitively broke up with me ONLINE. He went on to e mail me a few days later, this time telling me it wasnt my PAST....it was my behavior when I got upset and my reaction every time he mentioned his family. Keep in mind, I do have a temper sometimes, but have a great heart and neverrrrr hold a grudge, and he knew this very well. In regards to hsi family, I never showed anything other than respect for his family and they liked me a lot actually and I liked them. I feel like he just came up with excuses to break up with me,but his actions when he came to Boston both times were so the opposite, just full of love and affection and the way he looked at me was so loving, that I cant believe he broke up with me. It's been a month now, I still love him, I think about him, I even cry at times, but I know I need to move on, because he was able to give up on an entire future so quickly and that killed me....PLEASE HELP AND GIVE ME ADVICE!!!! </3
Singles & Dating - 1 Answers
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girl i so know how u feel my ex told me he loved me one day and the next asked if we could be friend....but now i try to talk to him he hates me now. i cried forever but ya GL.
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Tuesday, November 1, 2011
question about long distance dating - guys answers?
question about long distance dating - guys answers?
The guy that is currently my boyfriend just moved from Tennessee back to New York to live with his Dad and his new family ( his parents are divorced) we first met when we were in 7th grade and we began to lose contact during the middle of freshmen year and didn't speak again until June 2010. He was in NY visiting September 2010 and we ended up hanging out talking about the past and both mentioned we had extreme crushes when we were younger - he never knew I liked him back. We kissed right before he left and kept in contact through facebook chat, texting, and phone calls. He finally decided to move back to NY for good & is currently here now. I know my boyfriend was a big partier back in Tennessee, huge parties tons of alcohol girls and hooking up. At the time we never really discussed exclusivity but due to the fact we kept in touch for 2 months waiting for him to return for Thanksgiving braek I knew a relationship was in the works. He mentioned a story about some girl he was once invovled with was ohdee drunk throwing herself on him trying to kiss him while he was midconversation with his friends. He said he was like pushing her off - but now that he mentioned that story I feel as if there were more of those situations. We were listening to Jonny Craig in his car recently and one verse goes "I have a queen why would settle for a fucking maid." and he said that's this song describes he's whole time away from me in Tennessee. question : Relating to my circumstancs the fact that I basically grew up with him - If you really liked a girl but knew distance was going to keep you away for a while would you hook up with other girls as long as she didn't know? I had mentioned to him that I waited for him for 3 months meaning no other guys but he really didn't say no I did absolutely nothing with any other girl.
Singles & Dating - 2 Answers
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well im currently am...well was from today...in a long distance relationship, i hadnt seen her for 2 months, but i kept faithful to her, i didnt cheat and not meaning to sound vain, i have girls asking me to jump into bed with them quite a lot, but when a guy likes a girl a lot, or even loves a girl, he wont cheat and will stay faithful :) if you're confident he really likes you, then he will have stayed faithful, in my opinion, if he rejected it once, he probably rejected it all the times he had oppertunities :) hope i helped
2 :
Long distance relationships can work but that depends on the people involved. I have seen them work out but in most cases they tend to fail. Most guys will hook up with another girl just because what you don't know won't hurt you and will deal with the consequences if or when they arise. You either trust him or not.
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The guy that is currently my boyfriend just moved from Tennessee back to New York to live with his Dad and his new family ( his parents are divorced) we first met when we were in 7th grade and we began to lose contact during the middle of freshmen year and didn't speak again until June 2010. He was in NY visiting September 2010 and we ended up hanging out talking about the past and both mentioned we had extreme crushes when we were younger - he never knew I liked him back. We kissed right before he left and kept in contact through facebook chat, texting, and phone calls. He finally decided to move back to NY for good & is currently here now. I know my boyfriend was a big partier back in Tennessee, huge parties tons of alcohol girls and hooking up. At the time we never really discussed exclusivity but due to the fact we kept in touch for 2 months waiting for him to return for Thanksgiving braek I knew a relationship was in the works. He mentioned a story about some girl he was once invovled with was ohdee drunk throwing herself on him trying to kiss him while he was midconversation with his friends. He said he was like pushing her off - but now that he mentioned that story I feel as if there were more of those situations. We were listening to Jonny Craig in his car recently and one verse goes "I have a queen why would settle for a fucking maid." and he said that's this song describes he's whole time away from me in Tennessee. question : Relating to my circumstancs the fact that I basically grew up with him - If you really liked a girl but knew distance was going to keep you away for a while would you hook up with other girls as long as she didn't know? I had mentioned to him that I waited for him for 3 months meaning no other guys but he really didn't say no I did absolutely nothing with any other girl.
Singles & Dating - 2 Answers
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well im currently am...well was from today...in a long distance relationship, i hadnt seen her for 2 months, but i kept faithful to her, i didnt cheat and not meaning to sound vain, i have girls asking me to jump into bed with them quite a lot, but when a guy likes a girl a lot, or even loves a girl, he wont cheat and will stay faithful :) if you're confident he really likes you, then he will have stayed faithful, in my opinion, if he rejected it once, he probably rejected it all the times he had oppertunities :) hope i helped
2 :
Long distance relationships can work but that depends on the people involved. I have seen them work out but in most cases they tend to fail. Most guys will hook up with another girl just because what you don't know won't hurt you and will deal with the consequences if or when they arise. You either trust him or not.
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Friday, October 28, 2011
I moved out left roommate by herself?
So I moved out of my roommate apt On June 12th I paid all of June rent. I didn't get on her lease and didn't sign a lease with her. I was just there helping her out while she could get back on her feet I was there for eight months and things started off good but come about Jan thing started going down hill she didn't clean any thing any time she wanted to ask me stuff she did it threw facebook even know I was in the room next to hers. I work 10 hrs or more a day and she works from home and was always there but still never cleaned she had 2 cats and I had 1 and I since the time I moved in always paid for the cat food and cat litter. I ask her once to set down and have a meeting to discussed house choirs. She didn't want to and blew me off I have a dog also and she would lock my dog up in my room with out water and food and my room would get 92degress So I had to get my own place she lived like she was a pig or something. But now shes saying I need to find her a roommate and pay for July rent because its my job to find her a roommate I was nice enough to put it on craigslist for her with her number but my email I have 6 emails saying they have been trying to call her but she wont call them back. So I was wondering since I didn't sign the lease and I am not a sub leaser if she really has any right to ask me to pay for July rent I am in Memphis TN, Thank for your help
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No, she's being ridiculous. You have been more than fair and it's time that she learned to take care of herself.
2 :
she has no right! she's just being lazy and stupid she has to look for one not you. you did enough by putting it on craigs list
3 :
You were right to leave and if you have nothing legally binding you to her lease and you paid the rent for June you have nothing to worry about blow her off like she did you.Its her job to find someone who wants to live with her .you no longer live with her so its her place, her lease, and her problem.hope it helps:)
4 :
You were allot nicer than any of my past roommates were. They took off without saying anything and no rent. I had to cover the whole months rent and find another roommate. This happened a few times. You did more than you needed to already.
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So I moved out of my roommate apt On June 12th I paid all of June rent. I didn't get on her lease and didn't sign a lease with her. I was just there helping her out while she could get back on her feet I was there for eight months and things started off good but come about Jan thing started going down hill she didn't clean any thing any time she wanted to ask me stuff she did it threw facebook even know I was in the room next to hers. I work 10 hrs or more a day and she works from home and was always there but still never cleaned she had 2 cats and I had 1 and I since the time I moved in always paid for the cat food and cat litter. I ask her once to set down and have a meeting to discussed house choirs. She didn't want to and blew me off I have a dog also and she would lock my dog up in my room with out water and food and my room would get 92degress So I had to get my own place she lived like she was a pig or something. But now shes saying I need to find her a roommate and pay for July rent because its my job to find her a roommate I was nice enough to put it on craigslist for her with her number but my email I have 6 emails saying they have been trying to call her but she wont call them back. So I was wondering since I didn't sign the lease and I am not a sub leaser if she really has any right to ask me to pay for July rent I am in Memphis TN, Thank for your help
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No, she's being ridiculous. You have been more than fair and it's time that she learned to take care of herself.
2 :
she has no right! she's just being lazy and stupid she has to look for one not you. you did enough by putting it on craigs list
3 :
You were right to leave and if you have nothing legally binding you to her lease and you paid the rent for June you have nothing to worry about blow her off like she did you.Its her job to find someone who wants to live with her .you no longer live with her so its her place, her lease, and her problem.hope it helps:)
4 :
You were allot nicer than any of my past roommates were. They took off without saying anything and no rent. I had to cover the whole months rent and find another roommate. This happened a few times. You did more than you needed to already.
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Friday, October 14, 2011
My friend blocked me on facebook for no reason at all??? please read?
My friend blocked me on facebook for no reason at all??? please read?
So yesterday i was updating my wedding website to include my cousin who I asked to be a bridesmaid, and i went to get her picture off of facebook to add with a discription and i found she had blocked me, and i was shocked because i hadn't done anything to her. I asked her sister to check and she was still included on her friends list and so were a few other people. I had talked to her a few days ago and we were fine. I had even sent her a blackberry curve under the understand she would pay me on the 25th for the phone, anyways her sister came to stay at my place friday night and went out saturday night, I found out friday she had suffered a miscarriage *she has two older kids*, anyways i offered my moral support and stuff, but for no reason at all i see she was bad mouthing me to her sister and her sister told me all the things she says about me, I was quited shocked because she always so nice to me but she has been knowen to fib and talked trash about her own family so as shocked as i am i am not suprised. (anyways before people go well she had a miscarriage who cares about a phone i know its just a phone but we made an agreement that also cost me 600.00 dollars, and i basically gave it away,)\ so her sister messaged her and asked if she is not going to pay for thphone to please send it back to me she messages back i did not get the phone, and then she started on this rant about her sister being selfish and that she was being mean, and that she was not offering her moral support when she was we all were and then told her she waso nly being this way because she was with Amanda the fking btch, i was shocked because i truly have done nothing to provoce her in anyway, i know that her husbands family is very controlling and in her head she thinks she is friends with good charlotte *no joke she tells me all the time* and she really has an amazing imagination, and i understand miscarring can be a tramatic event but why take it out on me and, for another thing could she be jealous that i am getting married and have support her, she has no one where she is but could jealouy really act so out of character when i tried to call her to discuss these things she hangs up on me before she says anything, please advice form mature adults
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She might have thought that you don't want her to be your bridesmaid. She could have got the wrong idea.
2 :
Leave her alone. Whether she has a miscarriage or not,she shows her true feelings toward you. You can be nice and polite around her but stop having any kind of personal and deep relationship with her. She will hurt you again becauseshedon't really like you. Jealousy, envy, difference, misunderstanding, whatever it is be sorry for her and move on. This happened to me too and I just moved on and it is way better. A friend who I confided in one really bad day,went to a family member and told on me... That family member wrecked theall family and never told her what she was told. Problems occured for a year...in the end,we reconciled and that person will face the truth of her badmouthing one day. Be where love,honesty and good people are...leavethe rest alone!
3 :
It sounds like high school drama. YOu just need to let her be angry at someone else because it is going to be your big day and she is trying to get empathy. Just let her work it out. If she doesn't, just confront her about it with a little support.
4 :
ok so i think that she might be jealous of you getting married. but i think shes really heart-broken that she had a miscarriage.It takes time for her to heal, so what you should have done would have been to give her time to heal id say about a month, then talk to her. Shes also probably jealous that you can get pregnant and not her.
5 :
Well just leave her be it's obvious she doesn't want to talk to you so ya and if keep tryin to talk to her wen she's already pissed at u ur going to make her have a bf=bitch flip.
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So yesterday i was updating my wedding website to include my cousin who I asked to be a bridesmaid, and i went to get her picture off of facebook to add with a discription and i found she had blocked me, and i was shocked because i hadn't done anything to her. I asked her sister to check and she was still included on her friends list and so were a few other people. I had talked to her a few days ago and we were fine. I had even sent her a blackberry curve under the understand she would pay me on the 25th for the phone, anyways her sister came to stay at my place friday night and went out saturday night, I found out friday she had suffered a miscarriage *she has two older kids*, anyways i offered my moral support and stuff, but for no reason at all i see she was bad mouthing me to her sister and her sister told me all the things she says about me, I was quited shocked because she always so nice to me but she has been knowen to fib and talked trash about her own family so as shocked as i am i am not suprised. (anyways before people go well she had a miscarriage who cares about a phone i know its just a phone but we made an agreement that also cost me 600.00 dollars, and i basically gave it away,)\ so her sister messaged her and asked if she is not going to pay for thphone to please send it back to me she messages back i did not get the phone, and then she started on this rant about her sister being selfish and that she was being mean, and that she was not offering her moral support when she was we all were and then told her she waso nly being this way because she was with Amanda the fking btch, i was shocked because i truly have done nothing to provoce her in anyway, i know that her husbands family is very controlling and in her head she thinks she is friends with good charlotte *no joke she tells me all the time* and she really has an amazing imagination, and i understand miscarring can be a tramatic event but why take it out on me and, for another thing could she be jealous that i am getting married and have support her, she has no one where she is but could jealouy really act so out of character when i tried to call her to discuss these things she hangs up on me before she says anything, please advice form mature adults
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She might have thought that you don't want her to be your bridesmaid. She could have got the wrong idea.
2 :
Leave her alone. Whether she has a miscarriage or not,she shows her true feelings toward you. You can be nice and polite around her but stop having any kind of personal and deep relationship with her. She will hurt you again becauseshedon't really like you. Jealousy, envy, difference, misunderstanding, whatever it is be sorry for her and move on. This happened to me too and I just moved on and it is way better. A friend who I confided in one really bad day,went to a family member and told on me... That family member wrecked theall family and never told her what she was told. Problems occured for a year...in the end,we reconciled and that person will face the truth of her badmouthing one day. Be where love,honesty and good people are...leavethe rest alone!
3 :
It sounds like high school drama. YOu just need to let her be angry at someone else because it is going to be your big day and she is trying to get empathy. Just let her work it out. If she doesn't, just confront her about it with a little support.
4 :
ok so i think that she might be jealous of you getting married. but i think shes really heart-broken that she had a miscarriage.It takes time for her to heal, so what you should have done would have been to give her time to heal id say about a month, then talk to her. Shes also probably jealous that you can get pregnant and not her.
5 :
Well just leave her be it's obvious she doesn't want to talk to you so ya and if keep tryin to talk to her wen she's already pissed at u ur going to make her have a bf=bitch flip.
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Friday, October 7, 2011
Friend blocked me on facebook and is trash talking me, for no reason??? please read?
Friend blocked me on facebook and is trash talking me, for no reason??? please read?
So yesterday i was updating my wedding website to include my cousin who I asked to be a bridesmaid, and i went to get her picture off of facebook to add with a discription and i found she had blocked me, and i was shocked because i hadn't done anything to her. I asked her sister to check and she was still included on her friends list and so were a few other people. I had talked to her a few days ago and we were fine. I had even sent her a blackberry curve under the understand she would pay me on the 25th for the phone, anyways her sister came to stay at my place friday night and went out saturday night, I found out friday she had suffered a miscarriage *she has two older kids*, anyways i offered my moral support and stuff, but for no reason at all i see she was bad mouthing me to her sister and her sister told me all the things she says about me, I was quited shocked because she always so nice to me but she has been knowen to fib and talked trash about her own family so as shocked as i am i am not suprised. (anyways before people go well she had a miscarriage who cares about a phone i know its just a phone but we made an agreement that also cost me 600.00 dollars, and i basically gave it away,)\ so her sister messaged her and asked if she is not going to pay for thphone to please send it back to me she messages back i did not get the phone, and then she started on this rant about her sister being selfish and that she was being mean, and that she was not offering her moral support when she was we all were and then told her she waso nly being this way because she was with Amanda the fking btch, i was shocked because i truly have done nothing to provoce her in anyway, i know that her husbands family is very controlling and in her head she thinks she is friends with good charlotte *no joke she tells me all the time* and she really has an amazing imagination, and i understand miscarring can be a tramatic event but why take it out on me and, for another thing could she be jealous that i am getting married and have support her, she has no one where she is but could jealouy really act so out of character when i tried to call her to discuss these things she hangs up on me before she says anything, please advice form mature adults
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I would go to her house and talk. Or attempt to talk. She's acting like a 3 year old. I know miscarriages are hard, but she's being mean to you for no reason whatsoever.
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She i problly menatly unstable thats what it sounds like to me if she thinks good chrlotte is her friend shes gotta be crazy hello!?!?! ko co ko co and she shouldnt be talking like that she needs help asap!
3 :
to be honest she sounds like she might need some professional help, maybe you could suggest to a family member some counciling or get a doctor to check her out, (i've had experience with a person with a mental illness and they can act in the most unpredictable ways and no matter how hard you question the motives behind their actions they may never make sense.) and then deal with the buisness of the phone afterwards, people do things that make no sense whatsoever when they are under extraordinary amounts of stress which could be brought on by controlling inlaws and the miscarriage. she'll probably be experiencing all kinds of emotions on account of the miscarriage that she may not understand properly if you get what i mean, if jealousy is the one emotion she can get her head round then that could explain why she is taking it out on you, hope this helped xx
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So yesterday i was updating my wedding website to include my cousin who I asked to be a bridesmaid, and i went to get her picture off of facebook to add with a discription and i found she had blocked me, and i was shocked because i hadn't done anything to her. I asked her sister to check and she was still included on her friends list and so were a few other people. I had talked to her a few days ago and we were fine. I had even sent her a blackberry curve under the understand she would pay me on the 25th for the phone, anyways her sister came to stay at my place friday night and went out saturday night, I found out friday she had suffered a miscarriage *she has two older kids*, anyways i offered my moral support and stuff, but for no reason at all i see she was bad mouthing me to her sister and her sister told me all the things she says about me, I was quited shocked because she always so nice to me but she has been knowen to fib and talked trash about her own family so as shocked as i am i am not suprised. (anyways before people go well she had a miscarriage who cares about a phone i know its just a phone but we made an agreement that also cost me 600.00 dollars, and i basically gave it away,)\ so her sister messaged her and asked if she is not going to pay for thphone to please send it back to me she messages back i did not get the phone, and then she started on this rant about her sister being selfish and that she was being mean, and that she was not offering her moral support when she was we all were and then told her she waso nly being this way because she was with Amanda the fking btch, i was shocked because i truly have done nothing to provoce her in anyway, i know that her husbands family is very controlling and in her head she thinks she is friends with good charlotte *no joke she tells me all the time* and she really has an amazing imagination, and i understand miscarring can be a tramatic event but why take it out on me and, for another thing could she be jealous that i am getting married and have support her, she has no one where she is but could jealouy really act so out of character when i tried to call her to discuss these things she hangs up on me before she says anything, please advice form mature adults
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I would go to her house and talk. Or attempt to talk. She's acting like a 3 year old. I know miscarriages are hard, but she's being mean to you for no reason whatsoever.
2 :
She i problly menatly unstable thats what it sounds like to me if she thinks good chrlotte is her friend shes gotta be crazy hello!?!?! ko co ko co and she shouldnt be talking like that she needs help asap!
3 :
to be honest she sounds like she might need some professional help, maybe you could suggest to a family member some counciling or get a doctor to check her out, (i've had experience with a person with a mental illness and they can act in the most unpredictable ways and no matter how hard you question the motives behind their actions they may never make sense.) and then deal with the buisness of the phone afterwards, people do things that make no sense whatsoever when they are under extraordinary amounts of stress which could be brought on by controlling inlaws and the miscarriage. she'll probably be experiencing all kinds of emotions on account of the miscarriage that she may not understand properly if you get what i mean, if jealousy is the one emotion she can get her head round then that could explain why she is taking it out on you, hope this helped xx
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Saturday, October 1, 2011
My ex broke up with me (I STILL LOVE HIM) and wants nothing to do with me, how do I forget him!!!?
My ex broke up with me (I STILL LOVE HIM) and wants nothing to do with me, how do I forget him!!!?
I met my ex on a Middle Eastern Dating website, we talked on the phone for a week, he flew to Boston a few times to see me since he was living in Ohio trying to start his career as a doctor. Everything went great, the chemistry was there, he met my family, my friends, even my BOSS....I fell in love with him so fast, and he claimed to have the same feelings for me...we even decided he would have his family go to my family and ask for my hand (thats how our culture does it) On Thursday December 4th, I was talking to him online from work like we usually did and we started discussing the wedding, me moving to Ohio and everything seemed great. Later on that afternoon, he came online and was absolutely livid!! He told me he had gone on my FACEBOOK account and read past messages from a guy I had never met, and the messages were from a year and 3 months ago!!!! The messages included pet names,somewhat sexual content and sometimes hinted towards us meeting and maybe getting married. BELIEVE ME, I HAVE NO REASON TO LIE RIGHT NOW, I WASNT GOING TO MARRY THIS GUY, I WAS 22 AT THE TIME, IM 24 NOW, AND WAS JUST BEING IMMATURE. Needless to say, he confronted me with this information and told me I must talk to all guys like this etc. I told him that wasnt true, and that I had never met him and that I was younger and most importantly, a year and 3 months ago, I didnt know he was existant and he didnt know I was either, so how can he judge me for that!!???? DOESNT EVERYONE HAVE A PAST?? Keep in mind, this whole convo took place on MSN. He went on to block me on MSN, on Facebook, and 3 days later, changed his phone number!!!!!!!! I e mailed him a few times, first asking him why he did what he did,he responded that he had thought long and hard about it and made a final decision, so I left it alone for about 2 days and then couldnt help but e mail him again, this time I went on to the hate e mails, because like we all know, sometimes a girl uses her emotions before her mind!! He e mailed me telling me how much I hurt him in the e mails and that now there really was no chance of getting back together. I emailed him telling him that words are words, but his actions spoke a lot louder than my words...breakingf up with me, blocking me, refusing to communicate with me, changing his number, literally talking to me about marriage 4 hours before he so abruptly and insensitively broke up with me ONLINE. He went on to e mail me a few days later, this time telling me it wasnt my PAST....it was my behavior when I got upset and my reaction every time he mentioned his family. Keep in mind, I do have a temper sometimes, but have a great heart and neverrrrr hold a grudge, and he knew this very well. In regards to hsi family, I never showed anything other than respect for his family and they liked me a lot actually and I liked them. I feel like he just came up with excuses to break up with me,but his actions when he came to Boston both times were so the opposite, just full of love and affection and the way he looked at me was so loving, that I cant believe he broke up with me. It's been a month now, I still love him, I think about him, I even cry at times, but I know I need to move on, because he was able to give up on an entire future so quickly and that killed me....PLEASE HELP AND GIVE ME ADVICE!!!! </3
Singles & Dating - 1 Answers
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girl i so know how u feel my ex told me he loved me one day and the next asked if we could be friend....but now i try to talk to him he hates me now. i cried forever but ya GL.
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I met my ex on a Middle Eastern Dating website, we talked on the phone for a week, he flew to Boston a few times to see me since he was living in Ohio trying to start his career as a doctor. Everything went great, the chemistry was there, he met my family, my friends, even my BOSS....I fell in love with him so fast, and he claimed to have the same feelings for me...we even decided he would have his family go to my family and ask for my hand (thats how our culture does it) On Thursday December 4th, I was talking to him online from work like we usually did and we started discussing the wedding, me moving to Ohio and everything seemed great. Later on that afternoon, he came online and was absolutely livid!! He told me he had gone on my FACEBOOK account and read past messages from a guy I had never met, and the messages were from a year and 3 months ago!!!! The messages included pet names,somewhat sexual content and sometimes hinted towards us meeting and maybe getting married. BELIEVE ME, I HAVE NO REASON TO LIE RIGHT NOW, I WASNT GOING TO MARRY THIS GUY, I WAS 22 AT THE TIME, IM 24 NOW, AND WAS JUST BEING IMMATURE. Needless to say, he confronted me with this information and told me I must talk to all guys like this etc. I told him that wasnt true, and that I had never met him and that I was younger and most importantly, a year and 3 months ago, I didnt know he was existant and he didnt know I was either, so how can he judge me for that!!???? DOESNT EVERYONE HAVE A PAST?? Keep in mind, this whole convo took place on MSN. He went on to block me on MSN, on Facebook, and 3 days later, changed his phone number!!!!!!!! I e mailed him a few times, first asking him why he did what he did,he responded that he had thought long and hard about it and made a final decision, so I left it alone for about 2 days and then couldnt help but e mail him again, this time I went on to the hate e mails, because like we all know, sometimes a girl uses her emotions before her mind!! He e mailed me telling me how much I hurt him in the e mails and that now there really was no chance of getting back together. I emailed him telling him that words are words, but his actions spoke a lot louder than my words...breakingf up with me, blocking me, refusing to communicate with me, changing his number, literally talking to me about marriage 4 hours before he so abruptly and insensitively broke up with me ONLINE. He went on to e mail me a few days later, this time telling me it wasnt my PAST....it was my behavior when I got upset and my reaction every time he mentioned his family. Keep in mind, I do have a temper sometimes, but have a great heart and neverrrrr hold a grudge, and he knew this very well. In regards to hsi family, I never showed anything other than respect for his family and they liked me a lot actually and I liked them. I feel like he just came up with excuses to break up with me,but his actions when he came to Boston both times were so the opposite, just full of love and affection and the way he looked at me was so loving, that I cant believe he broke up with me. It's been a month now, I still love him, I think about him, I even cry at times, but I know I need to move on, because he was able to give up on an entire future so quickly and that killed me....PLEASE HELP AND GIVE ME ADVICE!!!! </3
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girl i so know how u feel my ex told me he loved me one day and the next asked if we could be friend....but now i try to talk to him he hates me now. i cried forever but ya GL.
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Wednesday, September 28, 2011
Third Party Disclosure by U.S. bank collections?
Third Party Disclosure by U.S. bank collections?
I put a friend on my credit card, long story short, he used my money w/o my permission and I have (over time) accumlated in facebook msgs him saying he owes me money and will pay me back but doesn't actually do it... he has paid me 350 dollars but that is the money I had to pay to the lendor to keep my account from getting charged off. However, we did sit down discuss the terms of paying back and he said that he will pay me 100 a week and we never got around to that. I was out of the country the time that he used my credit card. my limit on the card was $7000. He used $3500. When I first came to know about this he told me he had sent in $500 dollars and kept up with the payments. When I checked a few weeks later, no money had been sent in whatsoever ever since the first transaction and my account was in collections. It is not a 3rd party collections, it hasn't charged off yet and it hopefully won't get charged off. It is U.S. Bank collections department thats collecting on it. They called me and verified information. I was told I was responsible for the charges since I'm the primary account holder. Then they asked me who all they were allowed to speak with in regards to this account and I told them ONLY me. I told them to not call my so called friend and not to discuss anything with him. I strictly asked them not to do so. I missed 2 payments because I do not have a job yet (Ohio's unemployment rates are skyrocketting, no jobs whatsoever). So they called my house, couldn't find me cuz i'm a student i'm usually on campus and I do not have lunch/gas money let alone money for a cellphone. So they called my friend's cell which I had asked them NOT to call and they asked him if he was ME and he answered yes and without verifying anything like SSN or Address or anything else... they discussed the details with him. He msged me on facebook and was like your bank called me and discussed some things with me. They told me you missed a payment for two months and you need to pay that in order to stay in the hardship program. WTFFF! Isn't that a 3rd party disclosure? Is U.S. bank collections regulated by the FDCPA rules and guidelines which are enforced by the FTC? Is a lawsuit a possibility and if it is what are my chances because clearly someone who stole from me knows the ongoings of my personal life? What should I do? What should be my next step? Should I file a police report against my friend for pretending to be me and invading my privacy? I am really worried because I'm not sure what all other details the collections department discussed with my friend... Please tell me if there is a way out of this and what I can do to U.S. bank for disclosing my personal information to a third person.
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Even if a lawsuit is a possibility, I do not think that you would receive any money from it. The bank could always countersue for whatever you owe them, and, even if the judge ruled that they did anything wrong (which might or might not be the case), they could ask the judge to say that because you owe more for the unpaid credit card bills than they owe you for whatever they did, they do not have to pay you anything.
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I couldn't wade thru your whole post -- paragraphs would make it easier to read. The FDCPA applies to third party collection agencies. US bank is the original creditor and does not have to comply with the FDCPA.
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I put a friend on my credit card, long story short, he used my money w/o my permission and I have (over time) accumlated in facebook msgs him saying he owes me money and will pay me back but doesn't actually do it... he has paid me 350 dollars but that is the money I had to pay to the lendor to keep my account from getting charged off. However, we did sit down discuss the terms of paying back and he said that he will pay me 100 a week and we never got around to that. I was out of the country the time that he used my credit card. my limit on the card was $7000. He used $3500. When I first came to know about this he told me he had sent in $500 dollars and kept up with the payments. When I checked a few weeks later, no money had been sent in whatsoever ever since the first transaction and my account was in collections. It is not a 3rd party collections, it hasn't charged off yet and it hopefully won't get charged off. It is U.S. Bank collections department thats collecting on it. They called me and verified information. I was told I was responsible for the charges since I'm the primary account holder. Then they asked me who all they were allowed to speak with in regards to this account and I told them ONLY me. I told them to not call my so called friend and not to discuss anything with him. I strictly asked them not to do so. I missed 2 payments because I do not have a job yet (Ohio's unemployment rates are skyrocketting, no jobs whatsoever). So they called my house, couldn't find me cuz i'm a student i'm usually on campus and I do not have lunch/gas money let alone money for a cellphone. So they called my friend's cell which I had asked them NOT to call and they asked him if he was ME and he answered yes and without verifying anything like SSN or Address or anything else... they discussed the details with him. He msged me on facebook and was like your bank called me and discussed some things with me. They told me you missed a payment for two months and you need to pay that in order to stay in the hardship program. WTFFF! Isn't that a 3rd party disclosure? Is U.S. bank collections regulated by the FDCPA rules and guidelines which are enforced by the FTC? Is a lawsuit a possibility and if it is what are my chances because clearly someone who stole from me knows the ongoings of my personal life? What should I do? What should be my next step? Should I file a police report against my friend for pretending to be me and invading my privacy? I am really worried because I'm not sure what all other details the collections department discussed with my friend... Please tell me if there is a way out of this and what I can do to U.S. bank for disclosing my personal information to a third person.
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Even if a lawsuit is a possibility, I do not think that you would receive any money from it. The bank could always countersue for whatever you owe them, and, even if the judge ruled that they did anything wrong (which might or might not be the case), they could ask the judge to say that because you owe more for the unpaid credit card bills than they owe you for whatever they did, they do not have to pay you anything.
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I couldn't wade thru your whole post -- paragraphs would make it easier to read. The FDCPA applies to third party collection agencies. US bank is the original creditor and does not have to comply with the FDCPA.
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Wednesday, September 14, 2011
How to let a guy down easy...?
How to let a guy down easy...?
Kind of annoying when u have this guy friend that kinda went somewhere but now u don't like him and he's bugging u about going out again. Ok I probably need to start in the beginning. I warn u, it's a LONG story. So I met Steve (nickname) at a spring break mission trip with my church. He was going with us. Anyways my friend (T) and I started calling this guy, Steve, because we could never remember his name. So we are having a great time getting to know each other when this other guy, N, who we didn't who he was at the time, and T started getting more that friendly with each other. So Steve became the third wheel because I started hanging out with this other chick who they didn't like but I don't like her anymore because she is really annoying. So I didn't really get to hang with them and the "lovebirds", as all the people on the trip dubbed them, N and T, really acted loveydovey and Steve was a huge third wheel. Well near the end of the trip I started hanging more out with them and since N and T were occupied, Steve and I had to hang out. It was kinda uncomfortable b/c at the time I was still going out with my ex (long story another blog for another day =]) and I didn't want to cheat on him but I didn't really like my ex anymore. So on the last night (by and by we were in New Orleans) the whole group decides we need to go the Hard Rock Cafe because it will be an adventure so we parked the cars and started walking down the French District. So since N and T were occupied again I hung out with Steve which is when we figured out we had a similar taste in music. So we were discussing those music and my ex texts me so of course the wonderful girlfriend, I text him back. I do this the entire dinner until near the end when I go to get a souvenir where Steve helps me choose it. I give him a hug and he thinks I likelike him. Anyways N&T went upstairs and sneaked around a lot and Steve makes a joke and they get pissed but are over it. Anyways that was that trip. This year I start liking Steve a bit because well idk. We went to youth group and one night he tells me he got dumped because his friend and gf were messing around. So there is the possibility of us going out now. So at the church garage sale I get prettied up for him but he left before I could see him. That would be the last time I see him for awhile and I wondered where he disappeared to. We went to different schools so I wouldn't find out where he went until I find out not from him but from T. She tells me his family problems just grow and he moves to Louisiana to his grandparents. I feel really hurt but mostly angry at his parents. I couldn't believe that he left without telling me. So we text and he apologizes and I accept it. I was still hurt though. Anyways we decide we should go out for awhile but over a long-distance. I tried it and it sucked!! I looked at other relationships and see couples hugging small talking just being together and I can't take it. I needed an arm around me to comfort me. I needed someone there where I can just be with and feel safe so I break up with him. It was a clean cut and I promised it would be a fresh start. So anyways he starts saying he's coming back to austin and he comes and sees my musical and that night i had a cast party so I couldn't hang out with him. Now he keeps asking to see if we can date but I don't want to. He has changed and I don't like the way he is now. Plus I try to avoid him on like Facebook so I don't think that is normal. I really want to let him down easy.
Singles & Dating - 2 Answers
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just use the lies you women always do,just don't run back to him when you find out the grass isn't greener on the other side.
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You were right a long story, and my head hurts from hitting the desk three times. My coffee just didn't help. Yawn! A small lesson with guys. Ignore and distance yourself from those that just don't fit in to you. Be polite and direct and tell him how you two just don't click. Be as honest as you can for this task. Lying is poor choice. Let him know that you were wrong on leading him on if he feels that way. Otherwise you feel he is a nice guy, but not for a boy friend at this time. That way he will walk away thinking he was close but no cigar. Be nice to him in this conversation and don't get into an argument. Just be polite and calm. Nice way to assess him in his being turned down phase and how he handles it. Maybe you were right or maybe wrong. Who knows if he might grow in maturity and shape up or puts that L on his forehead and takes it like a jerk.......
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Kind of annoying when u have this guy friend that kinda went somewhere but now u don't like him and he's bugging u about going out again. Ok I probably need to start in the beginning. I warn u, it's a LONG story. So I met Steve (nickname) at a spring break mission trip with my church. He was going with us. Anyways my friend (T) and I started calling this guy, Steve, because we could never remember his name. So we are having a great time getting to know each other when this other guy, N, who we didn't who he was at the time, and T started getting more that friendly with each other. So Steve became the third wheel because I started hanging out with this other chick who they didn't like but I don't like her anymore because she is really annoying. So I didn't really get to hang with them and the "lovebirds", as all the people on the trip dubbed them, N and T, really acted loveydovey and Steve was a huge third wheel. Well near the end of the trip I started hanging more out with them and since N and T were occupied, Steve and I had to hang out. It was kinda uncomfortable b/c at the time I was still going out with my ex (long story another blog for another day =]) and I didn't want to cheat on him but I didn't really like my ex anymore. So on the last night (by and by we were in New Orleans) the whole group decides we need to go the Hard Rock Cafe because it will be an adventure so we parked the cars and started walking down the French District. So since N and T were occupied again I hung out with Steve which is when we figured out we had a similar taste in music. So we were discussing those music and my ex texts me so of course the wonderful girlfriend, I text him back. I do this the entire dinner until near the end when I go to get a souvenir where Steve helps me choose it. I give him a hug and he thinks I likelike him. Anyways N&T went upstairs and sneaked around a lot and Steve makes a joke and they get pissed but are over it. Anyways that was that trip. This year I start liking Steve a bit because well idk. We went to youth group and one night he tells me he got dumped because his friend and gf were messing around. So there is the possibility of us going out now. So at the church garage sale I get prettied up for him but he left before I could see him. That would be the last time I see him for awhile and I wondered where he disappeared to. We went to different schools so I wouldn't find out where he went until I find out not from him but from T. She tells me his family problems just grow and he moves to Louisiana to his grandparents. I feel really hurt but mostly angry at his parents. I couldn't believe that he left without telling me. So we text and he apologizes and I accept it. I was still hurt though. Anyways we decide we should go out for awhile but over a long-distance. I tried it and it sucked!! I looked at other relationships and see couples hugging small talking just being together and I can't take it. I needed an arm around me to comfort me. I needed someone there where I can just be with and feel safe so I break up with him. It was a clean cut and I promised it would be a fresh start. So anyways he starts saying he's coming back to austin and he comes and sees my musical and that night i had a cast party so I couldn't hang out with him. Now he keeps asking to see if we can date but I don't want to. He has changed and I don't like the way he is now. Plus I try to avoid him on like Facebook so I don't think that is normal. I really want to let him down easy.
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just use the lies you women always do,just don't run back to him when you find out the grass isn't greener on the other side.
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You were right a long story, and my head hurts from hitting the desk three times. My coffee just didn't help. Yawn! A small lesson with guys. Ignore and distance yourself from those that just don't fit in to you. Be polite and direct and tell him how you two just don't click. Be as honest as you can for this task. Lying is poor choice. Let him know that you were wrong on leading him on if he feels that way. Otherwise you feel he is a nice guy, but not for a boy friend at this time. That way he will walk away thinking he was close but no cigar. Be nice to him in this conversation and don't get into an argument. Just be polite and calm. Nice way to assess him in his being turned down phase and how he handles it. Maybe you were right or maybe wrong. Who knows if he might grow in maturity and shape up or puts that L on his forehead and takes it like a jerk.......
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Wednesday, September 7, 2011
Friend blocked me on facebook and is trash talking me, for no reason??? please read?
Friend blocked me on facebook and is trash talking me, for no reason??? please read?
So yesterday i was updating my wedding website to include my cousin who I asked to be a bridesmaid, and i went to get her picture off of facebook to add with a discription and i found she had blocked me, and i was shocked because i hadn't done anything to her. I asked her sister to check and she was still included on her friends list and so were a few other people. I had talked to her a few days ago and we were fine. I had even sent her a blackberry curve under the understand she would pay me on the 25th for the phone, anyways her sister came to stay at my place friday night and went out saturday night, I found out friday she had suffered a miscarriage *she has two older kids*, anyways i offered my moral support and stuff, but for no reason at all i see she was bad mouthing me to her sister and her sister told me all the things she says about me, I was quited shocked because she always so nice to me but she has been knowen to fib and talked trash about her own family so as shocked as i am i am not suprised. (anyways before people go well she had a miscarriage who cares about a phone i know its just a phone but we made an agreement that also cost me 600.00 dollars, and i basically gave it away,)\ so her sister messaged her and asked if she is not going to pay for thphone to please send it back to me she messages back i did not get the phone, and then she started on this rant about her sister being selfish and that she was being mean, and that she was not offering her moral support when she was we all were and then told her she waso nly being this way because she was with Amanda the fking btch, i was shocked because i truly have done nothing to provoce her in anyway, i know that her husbands family is very controlling and in her head she thinks she is friends with good charlotte *no joke she tells me all the time* and she really has an amazing imagination, and i understand miscarring can be a tramatic event but why take it out on me and, for another thing could she be jealous that i am getting married and have support her, she has no one where she is but could jealouy really act so out of character when i tried to call her to discuss these things she hangs up on me before she says anything, please advice form mature adults
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I would go to her house and talk. Or attempt to talk. She's acting like a 3 year old. I know miscarriages are hard, but she's being mean to you for no reason whatsoever.
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She i problly menatly unstable thats what it sounds like to me if she thinks good chrlotte is her friend shes gotta be crazy hello!?!?! ko co ko co and she shouldnt be talking like that she needs help asap!
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to be honest she sounds like she might need some professional help, maybe you could suggest to a family member some counciling or get a doctor to check her out, (i've had experience with a person with a mental illness and they can act in the most unpredictable ways and no matter how hard you question the motives behind their actions they may never make sense.) and then deal with the buisness of the phone afterwards, people do things that make no sense whatsoever when they are under extraordinary amounts of stress which could be brought on by controlling inlaws and the miscarriage. she'll probably be experiencing all kinds of emotions on account of the miscarriage that she may not understand properly if you get what i mean, if jealousy is the one emotion she can get her head round then that could explain why she is taking it out on you, hope this helped xx
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So yesterday i was updating my wedding website to include my cousin who I asked to be a bridesmaid, and i went to get her picture off of facebook to add with a discription and i found she had blocked me, and i was shocked because i hadn't done anything to her. I asked her sister to check and she was still included on her friends list and so were a few other people. I had talked to her a few days ago and we were fine. I had even sent her a blackberry curve under the understand she would pay me on the 25th for the phone, anyways her sister came to stay at my place friday night and went out saturday night, I found out friday she had suffered a miscarriage *she has two older kids*, anyways i offered my moral support and stuff, but for no reason at all i see she was bad mouthing me to her sister and her sister told me all the things she says about me, I was quited shocked because she always so nice to me but she has been knowen to fib and talked trash about her own family so as shocked as i am i am not suprised. (anyways before people go well she had a miscarriage who cares about a phone i know its just a phone but we made an agreement that also cost me 600.00 dollars, and i basically gave it away,)\ so her sister messaged her and asked if she is not going to pay for thphone to please send it back to me she messages back i did not get the phone, and then she started on this rant about her sister being selfish and that she was being mean, and that she was not offering her moral support when she was we all were and then told her she waso nly being this way because she was with Amanda the fking btch, i was shocked because i truly have done nothing to provoce her in anyway, i know that her husbands family is very controlling and in her head she thinks she is friends with good charlotte *no joke she tells me all the time* and she really has an amazing imagination, and i understand miscarring can be a tramatic event but why take it out on me and, for another thing could she be jealous that i am getting married and have support her, she has no one where she is but could jealouy really act so out of character when i tried to call her to discuss these things she hangs up on me before she says anything, please advice form mature adults
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I would go to her house and talk. Or attempt to talk. She's acting like a 3 year old. I know miscarriages are hard, but she's being mean to you for no reason whatsoever.
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She i problly menatly unstable thats what it sounds like to me if she thinks good chrlotte is her friend shes gotta be crazy hello!?!?! ko co ko co and she shouldnt be talking like that she needs help asap!
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to be honest she sounds like she might need some professional help, maybe you could suggest to a family member some counciling or get a doctor to check her out, (i've had experience with a person with a mental illness and they can act in the most unpredictable ways and no matter how hard you question the motives behind their actions they may never make sense.) and then deal with the buisness of the phone afterwards, people do things that make no sense whatsoever when they are under extraordinary amounts of stress which could be brought on by controlling inlaws and the miscarriage. she'll probably be experiencing all kinds of emotions on account of the miscarriage that she may not understand properly if you get what i mean, if jealousy is the one emotion she can get her head round then that could explain why she is taking it out on you, hope this helped xx
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oes she have a right to hate me?!? ...And what did I really do that was so wrong?
oes she have a right to hate me?!? ...And what did I really do that was so wrong?
Cassie: Dating Austin, used to hate Danielle, now she's okay-ish with her. Austin: Dating Cassie, used to date Danielle. Danielle: Used to date Austin, used to hate Cassie, now she's okay-ish with her. Nichole: (me) Best friends with Cassie and Danielle. Can't stand Austin because she knows that he is a cheating liar. So, Danielle sends Austin some pictures of a naked girl (she's a girl from school that nobody likes and they thought it would be funny to send the pics to everyone in Danielle's contacts). So Austin flips out about it to Cassie, telling her that it's absolutely 'vomit' and disgusting. Cassie texts me and says that she's super p***** off and that it's because of the pictures. She thinks that Danielle is trying to screw up her relationship with Austin. I text Danielle to see if she really sent the pictures. I'm friends with Danielle and I'm not going to just let her get thrown under the bus if she didn't really send them. She sent them. So the next day at school I get into a screaming match with her. Turns out, it was supposed to be a joke, and Austin thought it was funny....at least that's what he told Danielle. So Danielle showed me the text messages that they shared back and forth. I even checked the number to be sure that it was his. In the messages he was saying things like 'You're the best ever Dannybabe' and 'You know...we would still be together if it weren't for your parents.' and 'Ive been thinking about you a lot lately...and how you're doing. Don't ask why though, lol.' He also lied to Cassie, because he told her that he thought the pictures were gross, but he told Danielle that they absolutely made his day. So, trying to be a good friend and watch out for Cassie (You see, Austin has cheated on her, left her for other girls, and lied to her before) I decided to tell her about these things. She gets mad at me, saying that I'm bringing up something that she doesn't want to hear about and etc. So I got defensive, asking her if she would rather just ignore it until her screwed her over for real...AGAIN. She would never answer that particular question. She just kept telling me that it was hard to believe and that she didn't want to hear it because every time things were good between her and Austin, something bad came up. So, she wasn't really talking to me. She hadn't texted me all day. So (yeah I really didn't need to) I texted Austin and asked him why he was lying to Cassie and flirting with Danielle. He, of course, denied everything and tried to lie himself to hell...it didn't work on me. But then he accused me of calling Cassie a s***** a** friend ....that tore it. I've never said that and I would never say that. I've always been a great friend to her, always there when she needed me, offered her a shoulder to cry on, and picked up the shattered pieces of her heart when he stepped on them and ground them into the dirt. So...she didn't talk to me at all the next day. She was in school, but we didn't talk. Even though I knew that she had heard about my texting Austin. Apparently she and Danielle had discussed it on Facebook the night before. So at the end of the day I posted a tweet on twitter.com about how we were just going to ignore this too...and she finally texted me. We ended up getting into an argument. I thought that she needed to confront him about his lying and flirting with his ex. She wanted to forget about it. So eventually she told me that she didn't need my bull**** and that she was done with me. To delete her number from my f******* phone and delete his too. ....So honestly? What the h*** did I do? I tried to be a good friend. I made sure that what I thought he was doing was true before I told her about it. I let her know that her boyfriend was lying to her. I let her know that her boyfriend was flirting with his ex-girlfriend. If I had hidden this and he had hurt her later on, and she found out I had known and not told her, I'd lose a friend because of that....so what should I have done? Stand by and let her get hurt and then lose her because I lied by keeping it from her? I'm not that kind of person. Now she wants nothing to do with me and she hates me. She refuses to even look at me let alone talk to me or acknowledge my presence. So, honest opinion....what did I do that was so wrong? What did I do to deserve losing a supposed best friend?
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ooyyy people grow uppp...
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What you did was you opened up your mouth said what you had to say ( right or wrong) and then wouldn't stop . ITS ONE THING TO BACK A FRIEND UP, ITS ANOTHER STORY ALTOGETHER TO TRY MARCHING THEM INTO BATTLE AGAINST THEIR WILL. But personally, I'd start looking around for friends who had more self respect, or respect for others, as all three sound like overly self centered people.
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Cassie: Dating Austin, used to hate Danielle, now she's okay-ish with her. Austin: Dating Cassie, used to date Danielle. Danielle: Used to date Austin, used to hate Cassie, now she's okay-ish with her. Nichole: (me) Best friends with Cassie and Danielle. Can't stand Austin because she knows that he is a cheating liar. So, Danielle sends Austin some pictures of a naked girl (she's a girl from school that nobody likes and they thought it would be funny to send the pics to everyone in Danielle's contacts). So Austin flips out about it to Cassie, telling her that it's absolutely 'vomit' and disgusting. Cassie texts me and says that she's super p***** off and that it's because of the pictures. She thinks that Danielle is trying to screw up her relationship with Austin. I text Danielle to see if she really sent the pictures. I'm friends with Danielle and I'm not going to just let her get thrown under the bus if she didn't really send them. She sent them. So the next day at school I get into a screaming match with her. Turns out, it was supposed to be a joke, and Austin thought it was funny....at least that's what he told Danielle. So Danielle showed me the text messages that they shared back and forth. I even checked the number to be sure that it was his. In the messages he was saying things like 'You're the best ever Dannybabe' and 'You know...we would still be together if it weren't for your parents.' and 'Ive been thinking about you a lot lately...and how you're doing. Don't ask why though, lol.' He also lied to Cassie, because he told her that he thought the pictures were gross, but he told Danielle that they absolutely made his day. So, trying to be a good friend and watch out for Cassie (You see, Austin has cheated on her, left her for other girls, and lied to her before) I decided to tell her about these things. She gets mad at me, saying that I'm bringing up something that she doesn't want to hear about and etc. So I got defensive, asking her if she would rather just ignore it until her screwed her over for real...AGAIN. She would never answer that particular question. She just kept telling me that it was hard to believe and that she didn't want to hear it because every time things were good between her and Austin, something bad came up. So, she wasn't really talking to me. She hadn't texted me all day. So (yeah I really didn't need to) I texted Austin and asked him why he was lying to Cassie and flirting with Danielle. He, of course, denied everything and tried to lie himself to hell...it didn't work on me. But then he accused me of calling Cassie a s***** a** friend ....that tore it. I've never said that and I would never say that. I've always been a great friend to her, always there when she needed me, offered her a shoulder to cry on, and picked up the shattered pieces of her heart when he stepped on them and ground them into the dirt. So...she didn't talk to me at all the next day. She was in school, but we didn't talk. Even though I knew that she had heard about my texting Austin. Apparently she and Danielle had discussed it on Facebook the night before. So at the end of the day I posted a tweet on twitter.com about how we were just going to ignore this too...and she finally texted me. We ended up getting into an argument. I thought that she needed to confront him about his lying and flirting with his ex. She wanted to forget about it. So eventually she told me that she didn't need my bull**** and that she was done with me. To delete her number from my f******* phone and delete his too. ....So honestly? What the h*** did I do? I tried to be a good friend. I made sure that what I thought he was doing was true before I told her about it. I let her know that her boyfriend was lying to her. I let her know that her boyfriend was flirting with his ex-girlfriend. If I had hidden this and he had hurt her later on, and she found out I had known and not told her, I'd lose a friend because of that....so what should I have done? Stand by and let her get hurt and then lose her because I lied by keeping it from her? I'm not that kind of person. Now she wants nothing to do with me and she hates me. She refuses to even look at me let alone talk to me or acknowledge my presence. So, honest opinion....what did I do that was so wrong? What did I do to deserve losing a supposed best friend?
Friends - 2 Answers
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ooyyy people grow uppp...
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What you did was you opened up your mouth said what you had to say ( right or wrong) and then wouldn't stop . ITS ONE THING TO BACK A FRIEND UP, ITS ANOTHER STORY ALTOGETHER TO TRY MARCHING THEM INTO BATTLE AGAINST THEIR WILL. But personally, I'd start looking around for friends who had more self respect, or respect for others, as all three sound like overly self centered people.
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Thursday, September 1, 2011
Hey, i got a legal question and i need help asap!!!?
Hey, i got a legal question and i need help asap!!!?
Ok, so i used to volunteer at an airsoft arena right before thay baned me for threatening for leaving for good. Here lately iv been bad mouthing this arena. Thay just sent me this to me becouse of the bad mouthing over facebook. Austin, You are hereby on formal notice that if you continue to post and spread false rumours about Metropolis, you and your parents will receive formal notice of a lawsuit. The circumstances surrounding your notice not to return to Metropolis was for liability and defamation reasons that was made by the lawfirm representing Metropolis, both of which you and your parents are liable for. Metropolis has been nothing but overly generous with you considering your defamation, disloyalty, offensive, and even possible theft which your name has come up on a few occassions by customers. Nevertheless, Metropolis gave you numerous chances to correct your behavior but your defamation and outright slander was the last straw. I strongly recommend that you notify your parents immediately to hire an attorney so you clearly understand the legal consequences of your past and current behavior. We already have people hearing from you and witnessing your outright false and defamatory statements but we also have meticulous record at Metropolis of complaints against you for your behavior and possible theft. The decision was made by the lawfirm that you should not be allowed to return to Metropolis until further notice due to investigation and legal case against you due to customer complaints, as well as your recent illegal behavior. Your immaturity indicates and confirms you have no idea what legal liability you and your parents as guardian are are facing but that's up to you as to how irresponsible and reckless you want to continue to handle this, ultimately leading to you and your parents becoming involved in what has turned out to be a legal matter for the lawfirm to handle on behalf of Metropolis. This is your last and final notice. We expect that you will be smart enough to hire an attorney and have him or her, as well as your parents contact me immediately to discuss this legal matter. Please have your parents and/or your attorney contact my office immediately to see if Metropolis is even amenable to not pursuing legal action for defamation and possible theft, depending on whether you retract and/or discontinue your defamatory statements. We are sending you a courtesy message through your facebook but you and your parents will be receiving in the mail a formal legal notice within 7 days unless you retract your statements immediately. Govern yourself accordingly, Holly Geerdes, Esq. Geerdes and Kim, LLC 555 Sun Valley Drive, Ste. N Roswell, GA 30076 770-643-9912 678-909-0409 (fax) I have never stolen anything and everyone that ever came by loved me. I could basically do no wrong. Could i get in any trouble if i continued to smack talked this arena on facebook?
Law & Legal - 3 Answers
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Yep...........gonna hammer you and your parents.........appears you have a big mouth.........now its time to pay up.........
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It looks like you and your parents are going to be sued for slander if you keep "talking smack". It is indeed illegal to spread lies about a person or company, especially if that person or company suffers real damages from those lies. Even if you never stole anything, you can still be liable for big damages. Or rather, your parents will be forced to pay a large fine, and you might possibly be subject to other discipline (not just from your parents, either).
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Yes, you can be sued for libel and slander. So can your parents.
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Ok, so i used to volunteer at an airsoft arena right before thay baned me for threatening for leaving for good. Here lately iv been bad mouthing this arena. Thay just sent me this to me becouse of the bad mouthing over facebook. Austin, You are hereby on formal notice that if you continue to post and spread false rumours about Metropolis, you and your parents will receive formal notice of a lawsuit. The circumstances surrounding your notice not to return to Metropolis was for liability and defamation reasons that was made by the lawfirm representing Metropolis, both of which you and your parents are liable for. Metropolis has been nothing but overly generous with you considering your defamation, disloyalty, offensive, and even possible theft which your name has come up on a few occassions by customers. Nevertheless, Metropolis gave you numerous chances to correct your behavior but your defamation and outright slander was the last straw. I strongly recommend that you notify your parents immediately to hire an attorney so you clearly understand the legal consequences of your past and current behavior. We already have people hearing from you and witnessing your outright false and defamatory statements but we also have meticulous record at Metropolis of complaints against you for your behavior and possible theft. The decision was made by the lawfirm that you should not be allowed to return to Metropolis until further notice due to investigation and legal case against you due to customer complaints, as well as your recent illegal behavior. Your immaturity indicates and confirms you have no idea what legal liability you and your parents as guardian are are facing but that's up to you as to how irresponsible and reckless you want to continue to handle this, ultimately leading to you and your parents becoming involved in what has turned out to be a legal matter for the lawfirm to handle on behalf of Metropolis. This is your last and final notice. We expect that you will be smart enough to hire an attorney and have him or her, as well as your parents contact me immediately to discuss this legal matter. Please have your parents and/or your attorney contact my office immediately to see if Metropolis is even amenable to not pursuing legal action for defamation and possible theft, depending on whether you retract and/or discontinue your defamatory statements. We are sending you a courtesy message through your facebook but you and your parents will be receiving in the mail a formal legal notice within 7 days unless you retract your statements immediately. Govern yourself accordingly, Holly Geerdes, Esq. Geerdes and Kim, LLC 555 Sun Valley Drive, Ste. N Roswell, GA 30076 770-643-9912 678-909-0409 (fax) I have never stolen anything and everyone that ever came by loved me. I could basically do no wrong. Could i get in any trouble if i continued to smack talked this arena on facebook?
Law & Legal - 3 Answers
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Yep...........gonna hammer you and your parents.........appears you have a big mouth.........now its time to pay up.........
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It looks like you and your parents are going to be sued for slander if you keep "talking smack". It is indeed illegal to spread lies about a person or company, especially if that person or company suffers real damages from those lies. Even if you never stole anything, you can still be liable for big damages. Or rather, your parents will be forced to pay a large fine, and you might possibly be subject to other discipline (not just from your parents, either).
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Yes, you can be sued for libel and slander. So can your parents.
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Sunday, August 28, 2011
Should my teacher really be talking about this stuff? I don't think so..?
Should my teacher really be talking about this stuff? I don't think so..?
All right.. I'm a 10th grader in 9th grade physical science. I don't think you needed to know that. But anyways, ever since I started this class 2nd semester, I've always heard her tell personal things. Like, how she was going down to Florida to adopt/gain guardianship of her nephew because his mother [her sister] died of a stroke. And when she finally got custody of him and brought him up here to Wisconsin, she told us his name and said that we should look him up on myspace and facebook. Then, today, there was this one girl who wasn't in class, and there's a rumor that she ran away. Our teacher told us she knew 5 other kids who ran away -- but she wouldn't tell us the names. Later, she called me over and asked if I knew if she ran away. I said no, but that a lot of freshmen have run away lately. Then, she said one of their names. Thank goodness I already knew she was missing, so she wasn't feeding me any new information. But do you think it's inappropriate for her to be discussing so many personal issues with her students? I do. Nick: She didn't know if this girl had run away. It was told to her by another student in class that she MIGHT have run away. Just so ya know.
Primary & Secondary Education - 4 Answers
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it could just be that your teacher is trying to conect with what happened in her life to what's happening now
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It's not very professional of her to be taking part in the rumors and gossip, no. Especially disclosing information about another student's personal affairs. It's possible she was instructed to let those that may be close to the student know that she has run away (the administration may have asked her teachers to inform other students to see if anyone knew about it already, or knew where she might have possibly gone to). So...if she was asked to do it by administration for the purpose of helping the child or locating him/her, that's not really a problem. Also, talking about students that have run away at points in their lives isn't necessarily wrong, as she didn't give any of the names of those ones. It's off topic, yes, but not a bad thing. Just idle chatter. Same thing with her nephew. Teachers will typically share their personal lives with students, especially in high school, where the student-teacher relationship has evolved in to something more than just 'educator and learner.' Plus the nephew might have been around your age, and she was just trying to get him used to the area by introducing him indirectly to some of his peers or future classmates. Maybe he doesn't have any friends?
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I think you should tell your teacher that it makes you uncomfortable for her to tell you things like that and ask her to please stop. she is a teacher and should not be discussing personal things with her students and if it doesn't stop i would go to the principle and let him/her know.
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you're right
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All right.. I'm a 10th grader in 9th grade physical science. I don't think you needed to know that. But anyways, ever since I started this class 2nd semester, I've always heard her tell personal things. Like, how she was going down to Florida to adopt/gain guardianship of her nephew because his mother [her sister] died of a stroke. And when she finally got custody of him and brought him up here to Wisconsin, she told us his name and said that we should look him up on myspace and facebook. Then, today, there was this one girl who wasn't in class, and there's a rumor that she ran away. Our teacher told us she knew 5 other kids who ran away -- but she wouldn't tell us the names. Later, she called me over and asked if I knew if she ran away. I said no, but that a lot of freshmen have run away lately. Then, she said one of their names. Thank goodness I already knew she was missing, so she wasn't feeding me any new information. But do you think it's inappropriate for her to be discussing so many personal issues with her students? I do. Nick: She didn't know if this girl had run away. It was told to her by another student in class that she MIGHT have run away. Just so ya know.
Primary & Secondary Education - 4 Answers
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it could just be that your teacher is trying to conect with what happened in her life to what's happening now
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It's not very professional of her to be taking part in the rumors and gossip, no. Especially disclosing information about another student's personal affairs. It's possible she was instructed to let those that may be close to the student know that she has run away (the administration may have asked her teachers to inform other students to see if anyone knew about it already, or knew where she might have possibly gone to). So...if she was asked to do it by administration for the purpose of helping the child or locating him/her, that's not really a problem. Also, talking about students that have run away at points in their lives isn't necessarily wrong, as she didn't give any of the names of those ones. It's off topic, yes, but not a bad thing. Just idle chatter. Same thing with her nephew. Teachers will typically share their personal lives with students, especially in high school, where the student-teacher relationship has evolved in to something more than just 'educator and learner.' Plus the nephew might have been around your age, and she was just trying to get him used to the area by introducing him indirectly to some of his peers or future classmates. Maybe he doesn't have any friends?
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I think you should tell your teacher that it makes you uncomfortable for her to tell you things like that and ask her to please stop. she is a teacher and should not be discussing personal things with her students and if it doesn't stop i would go to the principle and let him/her know.
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you're right
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Sunday, August 14, 2011
Why cant I just let it go?
Why cant I just let it go?
Well my husband and I have been together since High School. We are 30 years old and benn out of high school for 12years now! Any way when we were dating in our senor year my husband had a crush on this female. Well all these years he denied anything happened between them but in January he admitted that he had feelings for her when we were in high school. Well we started face booking and I noticed that she was one of his friends on facebook. At first it didn't bother me.............I was going through my husband phone one day and noticed a strange text. It wasn't nothing sexual just casual conversation but I just couldn't put my finger on who this person was. I knew it was a female and it made me very upset! Why? Because I felt he was being sneaky about it! I suspect that it was this other female from high school and we discussed it and he WOULD NOT tell me who it was! Well just yesterday I noticed he text ed this female Happy Birthday and put 2 and 2 together and realized it was her. Well I WAS JEALOUS about the whole thing because for one she is single! I asked him why he felt the need to text her for every holiday and her birthday and he stated because they are cool friends and nothing more than that! I pissed off that he even has her phone number!! I cant sleep because I just cant let it go..............I cant help to think how often they text each other and what is it that they need to talk about. She lives in Virginia and we live in Florida. They are not sleeping around but what is considering cheating? Im am very heart broken about this and he says I become annoying when I bring her up because its nothing. I feel he shouldn't be communicating with her. What are your thoughts should I maker her my facebook friend?
Marriage & Divorce - 9 Answers
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annoying? he chats with another woman and says you are annoying? unbelievable! get your phone and find someone to text and see how he likes it. he wont but maybe he will get it then. sometimes you have to do the same to make them understand.
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Well I'm not sure if he's cheating, but he's hiding things and that is always a bad sign.
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He needs to stop talking to her because he at one time had feelings for this person and maybe even did something with this person in the past that you dont know about. I am recently married and I respect my husband enough to have to contact with anyone i have had feeing for dated slept with nothing..if i run into them and they say hi i say a simple hi back and leave it at that. My husband and I attend the same church as my ex best friend/boyfriend. And i respect my ex at church but I dont go out of my way to text him or have contact with him for respect for my husband. And my husband has no contact with anyone from his past. When your actually MARRIED no wife or husband should have any contact with someone they have or had lust towards..its sinful in the eyes of the LORD! He needs to drop the girl and her number or go be with her.
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I feel the same as you! What is the need to talk to her? If he see your hurt by it and is bringing it up then he needs to stop it. If it is not important it shouldn't be a problem to stop it. Did she say tell your wife hello? did she call to speak with you to make all three of you friends? why so many secrets? I wouldn't care if she lived in Virginia! That means nothing these days. I don't like the sounds of this!!!!!
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Couldn't agree with you more. The fact that you found out that he was communicating with her on your own without him telling you shows that he never had any intention of you finding out. He wanted to keep it secret because he didn't want to have to explain to you. If he didn't want to explain it there's a reason. Clearly he still has a thing for her and to say it's annoying when you bring it up just adds insult to injury. If I were you I'd text or call her myself and find out why she thinks she needs to be in contact with your husband and then I'd have some choice words for her too. Put your foot down with your husband, throw a fit, whatever you need to do and tell him that this relationship he's having with her needs to end now. Tell him it's either you or her, end of story. I'm sorry but this is retarded. Your husband is taken, he has no right to be flirting and carrying on an emotional affair with this woman from high school. Stop allowing this. You have more power in this situation than you think - start exercising that power.
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He's disrespecting you and your marriage. There's no reason for him to be chatting up and taking an emotional interest in an old high school crush. And there's absolutely no reason that he should be hiding things from you. You have the right to be upset about his behavior and demand accountability for his actions.
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Well you should talk to him about this. After all of this, if it still keeps going on, then ask him why he feels it necessary to talk to her behind your back. However, I will also say you sound very jealous and controlling, and so the reason why you can't let it go is because the thought of him texting an old high school sweetheart is far to disturbing to you than it is to him, being cordial to someone he once cared about. Frankly does he listen in on your conversations with your friends? Probably not. So he hardly knows about who you talk to and why. He figures he can trust you, therefore you can trust him. However, its apparent you don't trust him. That's why you can't trust him.
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If it really is nothing then your husband should have no problem discontinuing contact with her. He needs to choose between what is more important. His wife or his "friend." It doesn't matter if anything is going on. The fact is you are bothered by her. He needs to value your feelings enough to stop any communication via FB, texting or phone calls.
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No, you need to get the phone bill and see just how often he does talk to her. If he had to sneak to do it it is cheating. Have him call or text her and be very clear that there will be no more contact. Don't add her to fb, delete her from his. Good luck!
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Well my husband and I have been together since High School. We are 30 years old and benn out of high school for 12years now! Any way when we were dating in our senor year my husband had a crush on this female. Well all these years he denied anything happened between them but in January he admitted that he had feelings for her when we were in high school. Well we started face booking and I noticed that she was one of his friends on facebook. At first it didn't bother me.............I was going through my husband phone one day and noticed a strange text. It wasn't nothing sexual just casual conversation but I just couldn't put my finger on who this person was. I knew it was a female and it made me very upset! Why? Because I felt he was being sneaky about it! I suspect that it was this other female from high school and we discussed it and he WOULD NOT tell me who it was! Well just yesterday I noticed he text ed this female Happy Birthday and put 2 and 2 together and realized it was her. Well I WAS JEALOUS about the whole thing because for one she is single! I asked him why he felt the need to text her for every holiday and her birthday and he stated because they are cool friends and nothing more than that! I pissed off that he even has her phone number!! I cant sleep because I just cant let it go..............I cant help to think how often they text each other and what is it that they need to talk about. She lives in Virginia and we live in Florida. They are not sleeping around but what is considering cheating? Im am very heart broken about this and he says I become annoying when I bring her up because its nothing. I feel he shouldn't be communicating with her. What are your thoughts should I maker her my facebook friend?
Marriage & Divorce - 9 Answers
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annoying? he chats with another woman and says you are annoying? unbelievable! get your phone and find someone to text and see how he likes it. he wont but maybe he will get it then. sometimes you have to do the same to make them understand.
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Well I'm not sure if he's cheating, but he's hiding things and that is always a bad sign.
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He needs to stop talking to her because he at one time had feelings for this person and maybe even did something with this person in the past that you dont know about. I am recently married and I respect my husband enough to have to contact with anyone i have had feeing for dated slept with nothing..if i run into them and they say hi i say a simple hi back and leave it at that. My husband and I attend the same church as my ex best friend/boyfriend. And i respect my ex at church but I dont go out of my way to text him or have contact with him for respect for my husband. And my husband has no contact with anyone from his past. When your actually MARRIED no wife or husband should have any contact with someone they have or had lust towards..its sinful in the eyes of the LORD! He needs to drop the girl and her number or go be with her.
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I feel the same as you! What is the need to talk to her? If he see your hurt by it and is bringing it up then he needs to stop it. If it is not important it shouldn't be a problem to stop it. Did she say tell your wife hello? did she call to speak with you to make all three of you friends? why so many secrets? I wouldn't care if she lived in Virginia! That means nothing these days. I don't like the sounds of this!!!!!
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Couldn't agree with you more. The fact that you found out that he was communicating with her on your own without him telling you shows that he never had any intention of you finding out. He wanted to keep it secret because he didn't want to have to explain to you. If he didn't want to explain it there's a reason. Clearly he still has a thing for her and to say it's annoying when you bring it up just adds insult to injury. If I were you I'd text or call her myself and find out why she thinks she needs to be in contact with your husband and then I'd have some choice words for her too. Put your foot down with your husband, throw a fit, whatever you need to do and tell him that this relationship he's having with her needs to end now. Tell him it's either you or her, end of story. I'm sorry but this is retarded. Your husband is taken, he has no right to be flirting and carrying on an emotional affair with this woman from high school. Stop allowing this. You have more power in this situation than you think - start exercising that power.
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He's disrespecting you and your marriage. There's no reason for him to be chatting up and taking an emotional interest in an old high school crush. And there's absolutely no reason that he should be hiding things from you. You have the right to be upset about his behavior and demand accountability for his actions.
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Well you should talk to him about this. After all of this, if it still keeps going on, then ask him why he feels it necessary to talk to her behind your back. However, I will also say you sound very jealous and controlling, and so the reason why you can't let it go is because the thought of him texting an old high school sweetheart is far to disturbing to you than it is to him, being cordial to someone he once cared about. Frankly does he listen in on your conversations with your friends? Probably not. So he hardly knows about who you talk to and why. He figures he can trust you, therefore you can trust him. However, its apparent you don't trust him. That's why you can't trust him.
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If it really is nothing then your husband should have no problem discontinuing contact with her. He needs to choose between what is more important. His wife or his "friend." It doesn't matter if anything is going on. The fact is you are bothered by her. He needs to value your feelings enough to stop any communication via FB, texting or phone calls.
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No, you need to get the phone bill and see just how often he does talk to her. If he had to sneak to do it it is cheating. Have him call or text her and be very clear that there will be no more contact. Don't add her to fb, delete her from his. Good luck!
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Sunday, August 7, 2011
I have so much hatred... what can I do to destroy it?
I have so much hatred... what can I do to destroy it?
It all started on August 12, 2009. My life circumstances have gone totally downhill and I have stored so much hatred against two people, the ones responsible for all my disgrace until this very second I'm writing. I had a good job in Northern Virginia. Good pay, my own apartment, good friends, and an overall stability. Though my job was never the best environment, this date I mentioned above, changed my life and up to now it has been all generally bad. I had a question on a job I was doing and I went to my supervisor. He took the time to ask me a question to test my knowledge and I could not provide the right answer. His mood went bad. He told me he was shocked and began to scold me for past works, that I was taking long and from there, it just went really bad. I did not have a good evaluation even after taking my free time to study and read and get up to speed because his question went more difficult and more difficult. In September, he gave me a job but never told what was the deadline, so I tried to do it the best I could, and it was my very first time doing such a job. The following day he came to me to ask me if I was finished, but I was just on my 20%. So I took the job home and tried to rush and kept working until 4:30am. I did not sleep much, and I delivered the job next day. Everything seemed ok. The next week one of my coworkers found a mistake and told him and he scolded me inside his office with the door shut criticizing my job. Next day he gave me a "technical" evaluation and he told almost two hours just to mention how bad I was doing. Then, a couple of weeks later, because I was going to have a new supervisor because this SOB went to another branch, he took my new supervisor for the final evaluation. He denigrated me in front of the other, passing the bad perception to him because though my personal relationship with the new supervisor was somehow better, he still gave me a bad evaluation later. I quickly noticed when discussing with him that he was simply afraid to give me a good evaluation because it would seem weird and could cause a bad perception on his boss in terms of inconsistency. But the thing that worsened the situation was this f@#$ SOB co-worker, he mocked me every way he could, in Facebook, in Evite Invitations, in e-mails, I was a fool to not have reported him I know, but this guy I am sure was the masterpiece author of all my disgraces there. He mocked a handicapped co-worker as well and was extremely troublesome with many people around- but he had 15 years of experience and so he delivered good jobs in short time, which is basically what matters to most companies. He went to some of my friends to talk about me and how bad I was doing, but they knew better and noticed he was a prick. Some of them ended infuriated with him because of personal problems with him (which I had nothing to do with). He even slammed a door to one of the female workers in the office. So, having made very good friends and liking the area (I still talk to them today), I made the sad decision to give up my independence and stability and had to resign, had to leave the area and now I am in Florida. Before leaving, the supervisor gave me fair evaluation and even a portrait. Weird, right? Here I am- living my parents, passing through very tough moments, have no money, no independence, bored, have applied to hundreds of jobs and it is now, almost one year later, that I have been contacted for interviews. It is now that I am feeling some sort of comfort but my first interview did not work, I believe I did well but they simply chose someone better; and now I am waiting for another interview, it was going to be yesterday but they had to postpone it to sometime in the future they don't still know. They said they were going to call me to set the new time, but I guess I have to wait. Nevertheless, there is a big situation in my family which is going to burst pretty soon and I will have to presence it. My friends there in Virginia keep having a lot of success (and I am happy with them!) while here I am, stuck, stagnant, fu@#$% depending on my parents like a fu@#$% kid, 28 years old I am supposed to have a home, independence, I have tried lots of jobs in my field and unrelated to my field but the freakin' economy is bad and I have no freakin' clue when I will have a job, and all of this is thanks to those two f@#$% SOB that I hate with all my heart! I am in the point I am cursing them everyday, my hatred against them is so, so strong, they have made my life miserable, I remember by good times as an independent man and thanks to with those f@#$%%'s I am here waiting for a big problem to burst in my family and having to be here when it happens (I have nothing to do with it), not be able to travel around because I have no money. I was raised a Christian and I never hated anyone, of course there have been incidents with some people, but these two are the ones that h
Religion & Spirituality - 5 Answers
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Anger Management/Counseling
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You will have to stop acting like a kid if you want to be not treated like one. I read this and i thought it was like a 15 year old or something
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Go to your knees and pray that the Holy Spirit will calm your mind and give you peace. Spend more time studying the word of God in the Holy Bible and try to be obedient to God's will in all that you do. There will be no more room in your heart for hate.
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Counseling... or marijuana
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Well calm down. I know that you have hate in your heart but you -have- to let it go and you-have- to forgive them. You need to ask God for the strength to move on with your life and to forget about your past. It's done and over with, there is nothing you can do. You have to forgive those who wrong you if you want to be forgiven by God. So take it for what it is and let it go. Ask God to help you love these people. Pray for them everyday that they learn how to treat people better. Life is hard for a lot of people out there now, not just you. So be grateful that you even have a family to turn to in a time of need, and you aren't homeless! Have faith that God will take care of you and He will. Read the New Testament with an open heart. Be accepting of Jesus Christ and let go of all your anger and hate. Talk with God in prayer and allow Him to heal you.
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It all started on August 12, 2009. My life circumstances have gone totally downhill and I have stored so much hatred against two people, the ones responsible for all my disgrace until this very second I'm writing. I had a good job in Northern Virginia. Good pay, my own apartment, good friends, and an overall stability. Though my job was never the best environment, this date I mentioned above, changed my life and up to now it has been all generally bad. I had a question on a job I was doing and I went to my supervisor. He took the time to ask me a question to test my knowledge and I could not provide the right answer. His mood went bad. He told me he was shocked and began to scold me for past works, that I was taking long and from there, it just went really bad. I did not have a good evaluation even after taking my free time to study and read and get up to speed because his question went more difficult and more difficult. In September, he gave me a job but never told what was the deadline, so I tried to do it the best I could, and it was my very first time doing such a job. The following day he came to me to ask me if I was finished, but I was just on my 20%. So I took the job home and tried to rush and kept working until 4:30am. I did not sleep much, and I delivered the job next day. Everything seemed ok. The next week one of my coworkers found a mistake and told him and he scolded me inside his office with the door shut criticizing my job. Next day he gave me a "technical" evaluation and he told almost two hours just to mention how bad I was doing. Then, a couple of weeks later, because I was going to have a new supervisor because this SOB went to another branch, he took my new supervisor for the final evaluation. He denigrated me in front of the other, passing the bad perception to him because though my personal relationship with the new supervisor was somehow better, he still gave me a bad evaluation later. I quickly noticed when discussing with him that he was simply afraid to give me a good evaluation because it would seem weird and could cause a bad perception on his boss in terms of inconsistency. But the thing that worsened the situation was this f@#$ SOB co-worker, he mocked me every way he could, in Facebook, in Evite Invitations, in e-mails, I was a fool to not have reported him I know, but this guy I am sure was the masterpiece author of all my disgraces there. He mocked a handicapped co-worker as well and was extremely troublesome with many people around- but he had 15 years of experience and so he delivered good jobs in short time, which is basically what matters to most companies. He went to some of my friends to talk about me and how bad I was doing, but they knew better and noticed he was a prick. Some of them ended infuriated with him because of personal problems with him (which I had nothing to do with). He even slammed a door to one of the female workers in the office. So, having made very good friends and liking the area (I still talk to them today), I made the sad decision to give up my independence and stability and had to resign, had to leave the area and now I am in Florida. Before leaving, the supervisor gave me fair evaluation and even a portrait. Weird, right? Here I am- living my parents, passing through very tough moments, have no money, no independence, bored, have applied to hundreds of jobs and it is now, almost one year later, that I have been contacted for interviews. It is now that I am feeling some sort of comfort but my first interview did not work, I believe I did well but they simply chose someone better; and now I am waiting for another interview, it was going to be yesterday but they had to postpone it to sometime in the future they don't still know. They said they were going to call me to set the new time, but I guess I have to wait. Nevertheless, there is a big situation in my family which is going to burst pretty soon and I will have to presence it. My friends there in Virginia keep having a lot of success (and I am happy with them!) while here I am, stuck, stagnant, fu@#$% depending on my parents like a fu@#$% kid, 28 years old I am supposed to have a home, independence, I have tried lots of jobs in my field and unrelated to my field but the freakin' economy is bad and I have no freakin' clue when I will have a job, and all of this is thanks to those two f@#$% SOB that I hate with all my heart! I am in the point I am cursing them everyday, my hatred against them is so, so strong, they have made my life miserable, I remember by good times as an independent man and thanks to with those f@#$%%'s I am here waiting for a big problem to burst in my family and having to be here when it happens (I have nothing to do with it), not be able to travel around because I have no money. I was raised a Christian and I never hated anyone, of course there have been incidents with some people, but these two are the ones that h
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1 :
Anger Management/Counseling
2 :
You will have to stop acting like a kid if you want to be not treated like one. I read this and i thought it was like a 15 year old or something
3 :
Go to your knees and pray that the Holy Spirit will calm your mind and give you peace. Spend more time studying the word of God in the Holy Bible and try to be obedient to God's will in all that you do. There will be no more room in your heart for hate.
4 :
Counseling... or marijuana
5 :
Well calm down. I know that you have hate in your heart but you -have- to let it go and you-have- to forgive them. You need to ask God for the strength to move on with your life and to forget about your past. It's done and over with, there is nothing you can do. You have to forgive those who wrong you if you want to be forgiven by God. So take it for what it is and let it go. Ask God to help you love these people. Pray for them everyday that they learn how to treat people better. Life is hard for a lot of people out there now, not just you. So be grateful that you even have a family to turn to in a time of need, and you aren't homeless! Have faith that God will take care of you and He will. Read the New Testament with an open heart. Be accepting of Jesus Christ and let go of all your anger and hate. Talk with God in prayer and allow Him to heal you.
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