Boyfriends "ex", still dating her or is she crazy?
My bf of 6 months has an ex gf who lives in Pennsylvania and we live in California. They dated 5 years ago and tried to remain friends. When we first started dating she would text alot, he said they were just friends and that the ex is also best friends with his sister, that is why they stay in touch. I did look in his phone once and saw that she had been dirty texting him, I read the messages they were all her talking about what she would like to do to him. From what I can gather of the situation, he broke up with a girlfriend of two years, met me by chance a few months later, and the Pennsylvania ex was hoping he would date her again. My bf said they got into a huge fight a few months ago but wouldn't specify why other than some things that came up while they were dating was still going on and he put his foot down and put an end to it and they wouldn't be talking anymore. I tried to ask him more and he said it was between he and she and that I was prying. I looked at his ex's Facebook page yesterday and she posts alot of things about him, about how she gave him a second chance, what a jerk he is, how mentally and physically abusive he was and implied they were sleeping together. She also lied to him and said I contacted her on Facebook and we chatted, even though I never did. I don't know if I believe all of this since she lives across the country. Do you guys think she wants him back and is trying to make trouble in our relationship or they were "dating" via phone long distance? I have tried discussing the situation but never asked him outright if they were dating. I could email her, but don't know if she would even tell me the truth.
Singles & Dating - 2 Answers
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Why are you trying to be in contact with her, you just appear to look jealous err something. I believe that your boyfriend has feeling for his ex still, and if they were obviously sexting and you two are together, the ex is probably not lying. Why are you still with the guy and trying to put the blame on the girl. It's his fault, he should know his boundaries but obviously, he doesn't. If I was you, I'd break it off. It's seems as if you're only half the relationship. He's cheating. You deserve better.
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It sounds like he was previously messed up with a psycho with some baggage that she can't let go of. I think you should take a hard line, zero tolerance policy. Tell him that if he ever communicates with her again, you will cut him. Not cut him off, but cut him, like with a sharpened steel blade. Test his loyalty by demanding that he get your name, or perhaps your portrait, tattooed on a visible part of his body. If you find out that he's been wasting you time, then create an itemized bill for everything you've ever bought him, then add 10% "just for putting up with his nonsense". I stayed up late last night and Facebooked with some of my Amish friends in Pennsylvania to see if they had any advice for you. One possible explanation for the dirty texts could be that she was just talking about where she lives. Does she by chance live in or near Intercourse, PA? My Amish friends explained that sometimes non-Amish people get confused when they get a text from an Amish person about that city. Is the ex-girlfriend Amish?
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Tuesday, December 28, 2010
Tuesday, December 14, 2010
I know men love the chase, so how do I make it more exciting?
I know men love the chase, so how do I make it more exciting?
This is by far one of the most unique challenges of my life haha. I'll give you some quick facts to make this easier: -met the guy, age 20, on interpals.com -every other day we would message each other until one day he didn't message back, and I removed him from my friends list (I probably overreacted) -I requested him again & he accepted and things went back to normal -we both like discussing athletics since we are both very active (I run cross country, he practices many types of martial arts), school, and we've both hinted that we find each other attractive -we moved onto Facebook and thing got better from there. -he photoshopped a picture to make it look like we standing next to each other on the beach (which I initially found to very odd but I learned to appreciate it) -I then suggested we send private videos to each other since I don't have a webcam. He'd show me his home, neighborhood, and always adds a little humor which shows he really puts effort. I do the same and in my last video (there's only been an exchange of about 3 videos each) I asked if we could mix it up by one person asking a question and the other films a video response. -he hasn't sent me another video in about 3 days and at first I thought he must be busy but no, he's frequently posting up other video clips and doing other things on Facebook -I didn't want to appear desperate but I instant messaged him in french (i used an online translator) saying "I miss talking with my french friend!" and he responded "lol" and asked why I wasn't in school while my friends were and I told him that they're still in HS and I don't start college for another 2 weeks. He said "ok" and that he's tired. I wrote back "ok I'll let you sleep but I'd appreciate if you'd msg me tomorrow because I have to show you something." He asked what but all I said was byeeee. -That message was about 2 hours ago and I log in again and notice that he created a new photo album Bleh. I was thinking of not messaging him for at least a week. Would that be the best thing to do? ...wow that's a lot to take in and if you read the whole thing, thank you! Please give me any thoughts or advice. If you need more information just ask! Additional Details I did send him a video asking a question and he even "liked" it on youtube. But yeah, I should probably wait like 2 more days. Btw, I live in California and he lives in France, so texting is out of the question!
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"Btw, I live in California and he lives in France, so texting is out of the question!" Nothing else you said really matters except that. Long distance makes the heart grow fonder, for someone else. Find someone in CA, don't waste your energy with someone so far. Unless you have a reason to move to France. It's actually quite nice there. Put your time into a local guy. CA guys need a sweet girl like you. :)
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This is by far one of the most unique challenges of my life haha. I'll give you some quick facts to make this easier: -met the guy, age 20, on interpals.com -every other day we would message each other until one day he didn't message back, and I removed him from my friends list (I probably overreacted) -I requested him again & he accepted and things went back to normal -we both like discussing athletics since we are both very active (I run cross country, he practices many types of martial arts), school, and we've both hinted that we find each other attractive -we moved onto Facebook and thing got better from there. -he photoshopped a picture to make it look like we standing next to each other on the beach (which I initially found to very odd but I learned to appreciate it) -I then suggested we send private videos to each other since I don't have a webcam. He'd show me his home, neighborhood, and always adds a little humor which shows he really puts effort. I do the same and in my last video (there's only been an exchange of about 3 videos each) I asked if we could mix it up by one person asking a question and the other films a video response. -he hasn't sent me another video in about 3 days and at first I thought he must be busy but no, he's frequently posting up other video clips and doing other things on Facebook -I didn't want to appear desperate but I instant messaged him in french (i used an online translator) saying "I miss talking with my french friend!" and he responded "lol" and asked why I wasn't in school while my friends were and I told him that they're still in HS and I don't start college for another 2 weeks. He said "ok" and that he's tired. I wrote back "ok I'll let you sleep but I'd appreciate if you'd msg me tomorrow because I have to show you something." He asked what but all I said was byeeee. -That message was about 2 hours ago and I log in again and notice that he created a new photo album Bleh. I was thinking of not messaging him for at least a week. Would that be the best thing to do? ...wow that's a lot to take in and if you read the whole thing, thank you! Please give me any thoughts or advice. If you need more information just ask! Additional Details I did send him a video asking a question and he even "liked" it on youtube. But yeah, I should probably wait like 2 more days. Btw, I live in California and he lives in France, so texting is out of the question!
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"Btw, I live in California and he lives in France, so texting is out of the question!" Nothing else you said really matters except that. Long distance makes the heart grow fonder, for someone else. Find someone in CA, don't waste your energy with someone so far. Unless you have a reason to move to France. It's actually quite nice there. Put your time into a local guy. CA guys need a sweet girl like you. :)
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Tuesday, December 7, 2010
??help! SExual predator?
??help! SExual predator?
This HOT guy that had no mutual friends with me on facebook, but I accepted him because he was so HOT!! And at first I believed that he was real(Hi i know I'm a bit naive) until things just stopped making sense. I'm not stupid and when he told me he was a model i realized he was completely BSing ! lol Because I know that a model, and working guy(as he claims) wouldn't be on facebook 24/7!!And when I asked him wat he modeled for he was very abstract and changed the subject. And he told me he lives in new york and then he gave me his number and told me to txt him, which i didn't, but I searched th number and it turns out to be an area code from California! I'm 17 and I plan to stay completely celibate till marriage and it creeped me out when he was discussing alot of sexual things with me, and offered to send me graphic pictures. CREEPY MUCH??!! What do u think about this?
Friends - 5 Answers
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well duh almost everyone lies over teh internet. if this bugs you then just delete him. problem solved not a big deal.
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delete all contact with him. please. its so simple. so just do it.
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yeah so? he's a weirdo.. just delete him from your friends. you;re not the only girl he's probably stalking. he wont notice. and what can he do?
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Delete him or trick him into meetingyou somewhere and have his a** kicked all over town cause thats what pervs like him deserve. I would do it for free if it was near me.
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See, here's the thing. Poor spelling and grammar leads sexual predators to believe that you are some dumb chick, and will be easy to get. Take an english class. Read a book. And don't add someone you don't know on facebook because he's "HOT!" and he claims he's a model.
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This HOT guy that had no mutual friends with me on facebook, but I accepted him because he was so HOT!! And at first I believed that he was real(Hi i know I'm a bit naive) until things just stopped making sense. I'm not stupid and when he told me he was a model i realized he was completely BSing ! lol Because I know that a model, and working guy(as he claims) wouldn't be on facebook 24/7!!And when I asked him wat he modeled for he was very abstract and changed the subject. And he told me he lives in new york and then he gave me his number and told me to txt him, which i didn't, but I searched th number and it turns out to be an area code from California! I'm 17 and I plan to stay completely celibate till marriage and it creeped me out when he was discussing alot of sexual things with me, and offered to send me graphic pictures. CREEPY MUCH??!! What do u think about this?
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well duh almost everyone lies over teh internet. if this bugs you then just delete him. problem solved not a big deal.
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delete all contact with him. please. its so simple. so just do it.
3 :
yeah so? he's a weirdo.. just delete him from your friends. you;re not the only girl he's probably stalking. he wont notice. and what can he do?
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Delete him or trick him into meetingyou somewhere and have his a** kicked all over town cause thats what pervs like him deserve. I would do it for free if it was near me.
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See, here's the thing. Poor spelling and grammar leads sexual predators to believe that you are some dumb chick, and will be easy to get. Take an english class. Read a book. And don't add someone you don't know on facebook because he's "HOT!" and he claims he's a model.
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Wednesday, December 1, 2010
Do you think I'll be okay visiting my friend I met through the internet?
Do you think I'll be okay visiting my friend I met through the internet?
Alright. So. Last year, I made a friend on facebook. We met through a fan page. He's my age & everything. I've become close friends with him & a lot of his other friends. They all go to the same school (I've seen pictures of them in school). They're all from California & I'm from Kansas. I'm closest to one of the people I met via this Californian friend & I plan on meeting him this summer. Yes, I've done a background check on him. I've video chatted & talked on the phone with him many, many times. I've even talked to his parents a couple of times too. I legitimately know that he is just a normal teenage boy, not some random pervert. I've known him for a year now & we're close friends. Coincidentally, I just so happen to be going to California this summer for vacation. And since that's where my friend lives, I figured I could go down & visit him while I'm there. I've discussed it with my mom & she is okay with this. She trusts my friend & she trusts me. My friend's parents are okay with it too. My mom is going to drop me off at his house & we're going to hang out all day & he's taking me to visit the rest of my CA friends. And our parents are meeting each other as well. :3 He's 16 & I'm 15. So do you guys think I'm taking the right precautions? Do you think I'll be alright? ALSO, I've known all of my CA friends for about a year now. Like I said, I've known him for a year, I checked his background when I first met him, I've seen tons of pictures of him, we've video chatted plenty of times, talk on the phone twice a week every week, & I know he's a high school student because he sends me pictures of his high school & pictures of our mutual friends in school all the time. He is legitimately a 16 year old boy. Plus, I'm not meeting him alone. I will be with my mom & her boyfriend. AND JUST TO CLARIFY; Neither of us have any sexual intentions. We're both kind of squeamish of anything sexual. :S
Polls & Surveys - 11 Answers
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No. He says he's 16, but how can you be 100% sure he's not really 60?
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I think it will be alright :D A couple of years ago my best friend's sister had an online boyfriend, and they went on a family vacation and they met there in person. It was cute :D
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Go! Give it a shot! As they say, carpe diem!
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He`s going to fucking kill you
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My mother would never let this happen. She'd be mad that I even talked to the person, if I was 16. Being 21, she would still be mad, I think. But if you've done a background check and all that business, I think maybe it'll be ok. You really can't trust anyone though, so just have a cell phone on you at all times and stay in places with a lot of people. Good luck!
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I am pretty sure you are going to get murdered
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Yeah, i think it should be fine :) But final judgent rests on you ;)
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well...go with an adult & when you see him & know he is your age not some 30 year old pervert then the adult can ....leave you guys
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THAT'S DUMB! DONT DO IT
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i met a guy on the internet when i was 14. he was 16 and real chill and awesome. he sent me pictures. but then he started asking for naked pics of me. i didnt suspect anything until he sent me a picture of his penis. that was weird. he turned out to be a child predator. i never suspected a thing. and guess where i met him? neopets. what is the fan group? are most of the people in the group of teen age? if so that should set off alarms and how do you know his friends? you really don't know a person that you haven't met. that doesnt count. because people are different on the internet and you dont see things in their personality that you would in person. how do you know that they arent just other profiles made by this guy? predators do go to lengths like that. and how do you know that these aren't other predators pretending to be teens and helping eachother out by also pretending to be teen friends? there are predators that have guilds and things like that where they all connect and become friends and discuss ways of tricking teens into meeting them
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it sounds that you did a thorough check! And you have known him for about a year. You wouldn't be the first one to do this!! Some people who did this it was a positive experience. And others , not so positive! You are taking a bit of a chance! I wouldn't go alone!!! make sure at least your Mom goes with you!!! It looks like everything is working out. See from my point of view, I don't have the full story so I would say be cautious. When you see him face to face , it could turn you off, cs internet is 1 dimensional and face to face is 3 dimensional. edit: after reading Kendra's story , I would use even more caution!!! I would also take into consideration what Kendra says. Like what would happen when you get to the house? And would there actually be a house when you get there? I would say that you have to be with a person for about a year to know what he is like. And you cant do that over the internet! There is too many risks!!! edit: anybody can send pictures of schools and so-called friends on the internet!!!!! just googgle pictures of schools and anybody can fake being squeamish!
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Alright. So. Last year, I made a friend on facebook. We met through a fan page. He's my age & everything. I've become close friends with him & a lot of his other friends. They all go to the same school (I've seen pictures of them in school). They're all from California & I'm from Kansas. I'm closest to one of the people I met via this Californian friend & I plan on meeting him this summer. Yes, I've done a background check on him. I've video chatted & talked on the phone with him many, many times. I've even talked to his parents a couple of times too. I legitimately know that he is just a normal teenage boy, not some random pervert. I've known him for a year now & we're close friends. Coincidentally, I just so happen to be going to California this summer for vacation. And since that's where my friend lives, I figured I could go down & visit him while I'm there. I've discussed it with my mom & she is okay with this. She trusts my friend & she trusts me. My friend's parents are okay with it too. My mom is going to drop me off at his house & we're going to hang out all day & he's taking me to visit the rest of my CA friends. And our parents are meeting each other as well. :3 He's 16 & I'm 15. So do you guys think I'm taking the right precautions? Do you think I'll be alright? ALSO, I've known all of my CA friends for about a year now. Like I said, I've known him for a year, I checked his background when I first met him, I've seen tons of pictures of him, we've video chatted plenty of times, talk on the phone twice a week every week, & I know he's a high school student because he sends me pictures of his high school & pictures of our mutual friends in school all the time. He is legitimately a 16 year old boy. Plus, I'm not meeting him alone. I will be with my mom & her boyfriend. AND JUST TO CLARIFY; Neither of us have any sexual intentions. We're both kind of squeamish of anything sexual. :S
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No. He says he's 16, but how can you be 100% sure he's not really 60?
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I think it will be alright :D A couple of years ago my best friend's sister had an online boyfriend, and they went on a family vacation and they met there in person. It was cute :D
3 :
Go! Give it a shot! As they say, carpe diem!
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He`s going to fucking kill you
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My mother would never let this happen. She'd be mad that I even talked to the person, if I was 16. Being 21, she would still be mad, I think. But if you've done a background check and all that business, I think maybe it'll be ok. You really can't trust anyone though, so just have a cell phone on you at all times and stay in places with a lot of people. Good luck!
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I am pretty sure you are going to get murdered
7 :
Yeah, i think it should be fine :) But final judgent rests on you ;)
8 :
well...go with an adult & when you see him & know he is your age not some 30 year old pervert then the adult can ....leave you guys
9 :
THAT'S DUMB! DONT DO IT
10 :
i met a guy on the internet when i was 14. he was 16 and real chill and awesome. he sent me pictures. but then he started asking for naked pics of me. i didnt suspect anything until he sent me a picture of his penis. that was weird. he turned out to be a child predator. i never suspected a thing. and guess where i met him? neopets. what is the fan group? are most of the people in the group of teen age? if so that should set off alarms and how do you know his friends? you really don't know a person that you haven't met. that doesnt count. because people are different on the internet and you dont see things in their personality that you would in person. how do you know that they arent just other profiles made by this guy? predators do go to lengths like that. and how do you know that these aren't other predators pretending to be teens and helping eachother out by also pretending to be teen friends? there are predators that have guilds and things like that where they all connect and become friends and discuss ways of tricking teens into meeting them
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it sounds that you did a thorough check! And you have known him for about a year. You wouldn't be the first one to do this!! Some people who did this it was a positive experience. And others , not so positive! You are taking a bit of a chance! I wouldn't go alone!!! make sure at least your Mom goes with you!!! It looks like everything is working out. See from my point of view, I don't have the full story so I would say be cautious. When you see him face to face , it could turn you off, cs internet is 1 dimensional and face to face is 3 dimensional. edit: after reading Kendra's story , I would use even more caution!!! I would also take into consideration what Kendra says. Like what would happen when you get to the house? And would there actually be a house when you get there? I would say that you have to be with a person for about a year to know what he is like. And you cant do that over the internet! There is too many risks!!! edit: anybody can send pictures of schools and so-called friends on the internet!!!!! just googgle pictures of schools and anybody can fake being squeamish!
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Sunday, November 28, 2010
when do you think he'll contact me again?!!?
when do you think he'll contact me again?!!?
i've been friends with one of my girlfriends for about 7 years now. I met her cousin about 6 months after we became friends. he's a really sweet guy and made it very obvious that he liked me but at the time I was married so I told him we could be friends only. we text messaged and emailed each other alot. we lost contact about 4 years ago when he moved to california for the army. I divorced my then husband shortly after we lost touch. he found my on facebook tuesday morning and emailed me to say hi, it had been awhile and he'd love to hang out sometime. he asked me where I was living,working,etc. we ended up exchaging numbers/email addresses. 30 seconds after I gave him my number, he signed off facebook and started texting me. we both found out we're both single and he now lives about 45 mins away from me. we had great converstion via text messaging for about an hour and half then we both had to go (he was at college and I needed to sleep to work night shift). he told me things like: -you are still absolutely gorgeous, corny I know but had to throw it out there b/c it's true -i'm so glad we got back in touch -god, there is something about you that I absolutely love (besides you being sexy)-when i said that was probably the ONLY thing-he told me seriously it's not-there is something about you that mesmorizes me. -I love how well we get along (this was after talking for an hour) -sweet dreams beautiful (this was the last thing he texted me) and I told him I'd talk to him soon we made plans to get together soon to play poker w/a few of his friends and his cousin (my girlfriend)-his suggestion. no exact date was discussed. I haven't heard from him since and i'm just wondering when he'll contact me again. I don't want to contact him b/c I don't want to see overzealous or clingy. plus, I think me being a little hard to get is a good thing (he's the type of guy that likes the chase). we got along really well when we first met-it was painfully obvious the attraction between us no matter how hard we tried to hide it. But b/c I was married at the time, I didn't want to let things go any further than the playful flirting we did. my friend's family and friends could even tell we liked each other and gave us both a hard time about it (playfully). our birthdays are 2 days apart so I know we're quite compatible personality wise. so when do you think he'll contact me again? he told me I could text or email him anytime and I told him to do the same... thoughts?!! sorry if I seem hyper about this but I'm dying to talk to him again but I know I'll come off clingy so I'm letting him call/text first!! thanks all
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Give him a week of no contact. Then contact him yourself. If he blows you off then, you will know he was only blowing smoke up your butt.
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i've been friends with one of my girlfriends for about 7 years now. I met her cousin about 6 months after we became friends. he's a really sweet guy and made it very obvious that he liked me but at the time I was married so I told him we could be friends only. we text messaged and emailed each other alot. we lost contact about 4 years ago when he moved to california for the army. I divorced my then husband shortly after we lost touch. he found my on facebook tuesday morning and emailed me to say hi, it had been awhile and he'd love to hang out sometime. he asked me where I was living,working,etc. we ended up exchaging numbers/email addresses. 30 seconds after I gave him my number, he signed off facebook and started texting me. we both found out we're both single and he now lives about 45 mins away from me. we had great converstion via text messaging for about an hour and half then we both had to go (he was at college and I needed to sleep to work night shift). he told me things like: -you are still absolutely gorgeous, corny I know but had to throw it out there b/c it's true -i'm so glad we got back in touch -god, there is something about you that I absolutely love (besides you being sexy)-when i said that was probably the ONLY thing-he told me seriously it's not-there is something about you that mesmorizes me. -I love how well we get along (this was after talking for an hour) -sweet dreams beautiful (this was the last thing he texted me) and I told him I'd talk to him soon we made plans to get together soon to play poker w/a few of his friends and his cousin (my girlfriend)-his suggestion. no exact date was discussed. I haven't heard from him since and i'm just wondering when he'll contact me again. I don't want to contact him b/c I don't want to see overzealous or clingy. plus, I think me being a little hard to get is a good thing (he's the type of guy that likes the chase). we got along really well when we first met-it was painfully obvious the attraction between us no matter how hard we tried to hide it. But b/c I was married at the time, I didn't want to let things go any further than the playful flirting we did. my friend's family and friends could even tell we liked each other and gave us both a hard time about it (playfully). our birthdays are 2 days apart so I know we're quite compatible personality wise. so when do you think he'll contact me again? he told me I could text or email him anytime and I told him to do the same... thoughts?!! sorry if I seem hyper about this but I'm dying to talk to him again but I know I'll come off clingy so I'm letting him call/text first!! thanks all
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Give him a week of no contact. Then contact him yourself. If he blows you off then, you will know he was only blowing smoke up your butt.
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Sunday, November 14, 2010
when will he contact me again?!!?
when will he contact me again?!!?
i've been friends with one of my girlfriends for about 7 years now. I met her cousin about 6 months after we became friends. he's a really sweet guy and made it very obvious that he liked me but at the time I was married so I told him we could be friends only. we text messaged and emailed each other alot. we lost contact about 4 years ago when he moved to california for the army. I divorced my then husband shortly after we lost touch. he found my on facebook tuesday morning and emailed me to say hi, it had been awhile and he'd love to hang out sometime. he asked me where I was living,working,etc. we ended up exchaging numbers/email addresses. 30 seconds after I gave him my number, he signed off facebook and started texting me. we both found out we're both single and he now lives about 45 mins away from me. we had great converstion via text messaging for about an hour and half then we both had to go (he was at college and I needed to sleep to work night shift). he told me things like: -you are still absolutely gorgeous, corny I know but had to throw it out there b/c it's true -i'm so glad we got back in touch -god, there is something about you that I absolutely love (besides you being sexy)-when i said that was probably the ONLY thing-he told me seriously it's not-there is something about you that mesmorizes me. -I love how well we get along (this was after talking for an hour) -sweet dreams beautiful (this was the last thing he texted me) and I told him I'd talk to him soon we made plans to get together soon to play poker w/a few of his friends and his cousin (my girlfriend)-his suggestion. no exact date was discussed. I haven't heard from him since and i'm just wondering when he'll contact me again. I don't want to contact him b/c I don't want to see overzealous or clingy. plus, I think me being a little hard to get is a good thing (he's the type of guy that likes the chase). we got along really well when we first met-it was painfully obvious the attraction between us no matter how hard we tried to hide it. But b/c I was married at the time, I didn't want to let things go any further than the playful flirting we did. my friend's family and friends could even tell we liked each other and gave us both a hard time about it (playfully). our birthdays are 2 days apart so I know we're quite compatible personality wise. so when do you think he'll contact me again? he told me I could text or email him anytime and I told him to do the same. he was the one that came after me and initiated all of this so I don't think he'd go to that extent just to ignore me again.. thoughts?!! sorry if I seem hyper about this but I'm dying to talk to him again but I know I'll come off clingy so I'm letting him call/text first!! thanks all
Singles & Dating - 1 Answers
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he initiated everything; so shouldnt it be your turn? i just scanned your story; but it depends on how long you've waited for hiim to talk to you 1-2 days, then it's okay for you to go for it and if he's really into you and not a player; then he'd be ecstatic (:
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i've been friends with one of my girlfriends for about 7 years now. I met her cousin about 6 months after we became friends. he's a really sweet guy and made it very obvious that he liked me but at the time I was married so I told him we could be friends only. we text messaged and emailed each other alot. we lost contact about 4 years ago when he moved to california for the army. I divorced my then husband shortly after we lost touch. he found my on facebook tuesday morning and emailed me to say hi, it had been awhile and he'd love to hang out sometime. he asked me where I was living,working,etc. we ended up exchaging numbers/email addresses. 30 seconds after I gave him my number, he signed off facebook and started texting me. we both found out we're both single and he now lives about 45 mins away from me. we had great converstion via text messaging for about an hour and half then we both had to go (he was at college and I needed to sleep to work night shift). he told me things like: -you are still absolutely gorgeous, corny I know but had to throw it out there b/c it's true -i'm so glad we got back in touch -god, there is something about you that I absolutely love (besides you being sexy)-when i said that was probably the ONLY thing-he told me seriously it's not-there is something about you that mesmorizes me. -I love how well we get along (this was after talking for an hour) -sweet dreams beautiful (this was the last thing he texted me) and I told him I'd talk to him soon we made plans to get together soon to play poker w/a few of his friends and his cousin (my girlfriend)-his suggestion. no exact date was discussed. I haven't heard from him since and i'm just wondering when he'll contact me again. I don't want to contact him b/c I don't want to see overzealous or clingy. plus, I think me being a little hard to get is a good thing (he's the type of guy that likes the chase). we got along really well when we first met-it was painfully obvious the attraction between us no matter how hard we tried to hide it. But b/c I was married at the time, I didn't want to let things go any further than the playful flirting we did. my friend's family and friends could even tell we liked each other and gave us both a hard time about it (playfully). our birthdays are 2 days apart so I know we're quite compatible personality wise. so when do you think he'll contact me again? he told me I could text or email him anytime and I told him to do the same. he was the one that came after me and initiated all of this so I don't think he'd go to that extent just to ignore me again.. thoughts?!! sorry if I seem hyper about this but I'm dying to talk to him again but I know I'll come off clingy so I'm letting him call/text first!! thanks all
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he initiated everything; so shouldnt it be your turn? i just scanned your story; but it depends on how long you've waited for hiim to talk to you 1-2 days, then it's okay for you to go for it and if he's really into you and not a player; then he'd be ecstatic (:
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Sunday, November 7, 2010
please more answers-when will I hear from him again?!!?
please more answers-when will I hear from him again?!!?
i've been friends with one of my girlfriends for about 7 years now. I met her cousin about 6 months after we became friends. he's a really sweet guy and made it very obvious that he liked me but at the time I was married so I told him we could be friends only. we text messaged and emailed each other alot. we lost contact about 4 years ago when he moved to california for the army. I divorced my then husband shortly after we lost touch. he found my on facebook tuesday morning and emailed me to say hi, it had been awhile and he'd love to hang out sometime. he asked me where I was living,working,etc. we ended up exchaging numbers/email addresses. 30 seconds after I gave him my number, he signed off facebook and started texting me. we both found out we're both single and he now lives about 45 mins away from me. we had great converstion via text messaging for about an hour and half then we both had to go (he was at college and I needed to sleep to work night shift). he told me things like: -you are still absolutely gorgeous, corny I know but had to throw it out there b/c it's true -i'm so glad we got back in touch -god, there is something about you that I absolutely love (besides you being sexy)-when i said that was probably the ONLY thing-he told me seriously it's not-there is something about you that mesmorizes me. -I love how well we get along (this was after talking for an hour) -sweet dreams beautiful (this was the last thing he texted me) and I told him I'd talk to him soon we made plans to get together soon to play poker w/a few of his friends and his cousin (my girlfriend)-his suggestion. no exact date was discussed. I haven't heard from him since and i'm just wondering when he'll contact me again. I don't want to contact him b/c I don't want to see overzealous or clingy. plus, I think me being a little hard to get is a good thing (he's the type of guy that likes the chase). we got along really well when we first met-it was painfully obvious the attraction between us no matter how hard we tried to hide it. But b/c I was married at the time, I didn't want to let things go any further than the playful flirting we did. my friend's family and friends could even tell we liked each other and gave us both a hard time about it (playfully). our birthdays are 2 days apart so I know we're quite compatible personality wise. i'm 2 years older (i'm 30, he's 28) so when do you think he'll contact me again? he told me I could text or email him anytime and I told him to do the same. he was the one that came after me and initiated all of this so I don't think he'd go to that extent just to ignore me again.. thoughts?!! sorry if I seem hyper about this but I'm dying to talk to him again but I know I'll come off clingy so I'm letting him call/text first!! thanks all
Marriage & Divorce - 2 Answers
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He will call you when the moon turns blue.
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Personally, I would just move on from all of this. Yes, it was flattering at the time but people change over the years and we don't always know them like we think we do. If this guy was truly interested in you, then this guy would've wanted to take you out somewhere special where he could be alone with you and visit with you in person. Living 45 minutes away is not that far to drive in order to get together with someone you care about or want to see again. I don't call that "nervous". I call that "chickening out". You are right not to come across as clingy. I would keep things to the texting or phoning each other once in awhile but I wouldn't expect much more than that from this relationship. This guy is just not interested at this time in the way you would like to hope he is or he would make more of an effort to see you in person and do it sooner than later. Believe me, I've heard all those words from a guy too and I think it's just a bunch of crap in the heat of the excitement of meeting up again online. It's not a trap I've chosen to fall into. Take pride in who you are and realize what's more important...yourself or waiting around for this guy who may never commit. :)
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i've been friends with one of my girlfriends for about 7 years now. I met her cousin about 6 months after we became friends. he's a really sweet guy and made it very obvious that he liked me but at the time I was married so I told him we could be friends only. we text messaged and emailed each other alot. we lost contact about 4 years ago when he moved to california for the army. I divorced my then husband shortly after we lost touch. he found my on facebook tuesday morning and emailed me to say hi, it had been awhile and he'd love to hang out sometime. he asked me where I was living,working,etc. we ended up exchaging numbers/email addresses. 30 seconds after I gave him my number, he signed off facebook and started texting me. we both found out we're both single and he now lives about 45 mins away from me. we had great converstion via text messaging for about an hour and half then we both had to go (he was at college and I needed to sleep to work night shift). he told me things like: -you are still absolutely gorgeous, corny I know but had to throw it out there b/c it's true -i'm so glad we got back in touch -god, there is something about you that I absolutely love (besides you being sexy)-when i said that was probably the ONLY thing-he told me seriously it's not-there is something about you that mesmorizes me. -I love how well we get along (this was after talking for an hour) -sweet dreams beautiful (this was the last thing he texted me) and I told him I'd talk to him soon we made plans to get together soon to play poker w/a few of his friends and his cousin (my girlfriend)-his suggestion. no exact date was discussed. I haven't heard from him since and i'm just wondering when he'll contact me again. I don't want to contact him b/c I don't want to see overzealous or clingy. plus, I think me being a little hard to get is a good thing (he's the type of guy that likes the chase). we got along really well when we first met-it was painfully obvious the attraction between us no matter how hard we tried to hide it. But b/c I was married at the time, I didn't want to let things go any further than the playful flirting we did. my friend's family and friends could even tell we liked each other and gave us both a hard time about it (playfully). our birthdays are 2 days apart so I know we're quite compatible personality wise. i'm 2 years older (i'm 30, he's 28) so when do you think he'll contact me again? he told me I could text or email him anytime and I told him to do the same. he was the one that came after me and initiated all of this so I don't think he'd go to that extent just to ignore me again.. thoughts?!! sorry if I seem hyper about this but I'm dying to talk to him again but I know I'll come off clingy so I'm letting him call/text first!! thanks all
Marriage & Divorce - 2 Answers
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He will call you when the moon turns blue.
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Personally, I would just move on from all of this. Yes, it was flattering at the time but people change over the years and we don't always know them like we think we do. If this guy was truly interested in you, then this guy would've wanted to take you out somewhere special where he could be alone with you and visit with you in person. Living 45 minutes away is not that far to drive in order to get together with someone you care about or want to see again. I don't call that "nervous". I call that "chickening out". You are right not to come across as clingy. I would keep things to the texting or phoning each other once in awhile but I wouldn't expect much more than that from this relationship. This guy is just not interested at this time in the way you would like to hope he is or he would make more of an effort to see you in person and do it sooner than later. Believe me, I've heard all those words from a guy too and I think it's just a bunch of crap in the heat of the excitement of meeting up again online. It's not a trap I've chosen to fall into. Take pride in who you are and realize what's more important...yourself or waiting around for this guy who may never commit. :)
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