Getting my nephew back in the family?
Ok condensed family history first. In the 70's my parents aren't married to each other. Dad is married, has a son, gets divorced. In the late 80's my mom and he are dating. She is working as a nurse and I'm a baby born to a drunk who attacked police when they came to get me from being left alone. She couldn't have kids so she and Dad married and adopted me. Fast forward to 1998. I knew my half brother (who henceforth I'll call brother.) 'Mike' from when I was very young but he had too many wild years. He became estranged from Dad and they saw each other once in like 7 years or so. In 1998 we get a call through the grapevine that Mike was killed on a hunting trip. Shot in the face with a hunting rifle in a house by his two 'buddies' who he owed money. They claimed accident. The judge claimed BS. I am 11 years old as this goes on. The trial brings the extended family of half siblings and Dad's ex back to the state etc... They get sent away on manslaughter. Total bull. It was at this time we learned he'd had a son named 'Danny'. If memory serves Mike and 'Anne' were not married, but were living together. Danny did not have the family last name, rather, hers. Don't know if it was always like that or just post Mike's death. For a while my dad got to know his young grandson, and me, my nephew. Then Anne said she wanted to move on as this would be hard on Danny etc... I don't remember all the details as she discussed them with my folks. We haven't seen or heard from them in ten years. Now I remember she runs a small business an hour away. I have googled her and she isn't on facebook but I've found through various places on the web she married and had two kids and I found Danny on a school's baseball website with her new last name. I'd like to go into her business as a customer, tell her who I am (I'm sure she wouldn't recognize me), and just make a simple plea to consider the fact that my dad turned 60 this year and is only getting older, while he still smokes. Yes it may be complicated for him to potentially have up to 3 sets of grandparents but it's the right thing for them to have a connection. Selfishly, I'd like to be an uncle. I don't have any other siblings. Then I'll leave either way. No muss, no fuss. Just talk to her. I'm about the age she was she met my brother I believe so... Thoughts? I mean she could say I'm harassing her once she knows it's me.
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It depends on how you approach her. It's worth a try, since it's THAT important to you and your dad. :)
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