I'm hurting [please help!!!]?
Alright, here's the deal: I've been in this on-and-off again relationship for the past year and a half with this chick. Can honestly say I love her to death. I've overlooked the lies, deceit, and so forth on a few occasions and still stuck by her side to make it work. She has a daughter, who is now 3, that looks up to me and calls me daddy (even though I'm not the biological father) ... We've lived together, I'd get kicked out, invited back, I'd leave, come back. It was basically dysfunctional. (But I kept finding my way back to her in the name of "LOVE"). & even at times of our split, I still played the background and served as a safety net- and still took care of this little girl/her daughter, with no questions asked...) So, 3 weeks ago, I end my lease early to move into a spot with her.. Last week? We get into an argument, and for once, I'm the one to blame-- and I swear the argument wasn't that major.. So --- of course she still has my belongings, so we set up a date for me to get my stuff.. As I'm getting my stuff, I guess she called her cousin from W. Virginia to come/spend the night. Her cousin brought her bf and I guess a guy for my ex-girl.... They end up going to W. Virginia, and apparently these 2 (my ex and this new guy) formed a "48 hour" love thing- unbeknown to me. So, while I'm contacting my gf trying to make it work- they come back from W. Virginia and he's in her house- spending the night .. I ask if I can come over, if we can talk, have dinner and discuss our relationship. She tells me, no, her cousin is over, and not to come by because she's going back to W. Virginia later ... she just needs time by herself to think things through... Turns out, she lied to me.. Her "cousin" wasn't there at all, it was actually this new guy her cousin hooked her up with. So, last night, when I found out I couldn't sleep, it hurts me, how she could throw our family away over some new guy she just met.. She sends me a message basically saying she misses me, and we'll talk about our relationship when she gets back... Then she goes on her facebook, and updates her status saying "She met a new guy and she's feeling him a lot".. & of course we have mutual friends, so this is how I found out.. Oh yeah, forgot to mention... She told me she's planning on moving to W. Virginia soon (We live in Maryland). I told her not to contact me ever again - even in regards to the little girl.. & it's strange because she left the little girl unattended with this man while she called me the other day from the store -- i asked where "my daughter" was, and she said with her counsin, in the house.. but they're about to leave out soon... --- All of this is too much to take in, and I'm hurting tremendously..
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WOW.!!! I must say we never know people as well as we think we do. She moved on very quickly after your fight and I have to tell ya buddy. This was only a indication that she would of done this sort of thing even if the fight never of happened. People do not stray that quick unless they were waiting for the opportunity for awhile. You finally saw the person she will always be. She did you a favor. You took care of her kid and became a step up to the plate dad and she threw all of that away for some guy and lack of common sense. yeah it hurts but now you get to move on, find a woman with no baggage or drama and look to start your own family. Eventually this woman's daughter will hate her once she is old enough to know any better but now you owe it to yourself to let it go and take this as a lesson learn. Do not take her back, all of those messages are crap and she's trying to hold onto you while trying out this new guy. If she come back then either he dumped her or she could not get anything form him. You deserve someone that will not use a fight as an excuse to run off and have sex with a stranger. I hope things work out for you.
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