Which one of my children's moms should I be with? My wife, my ex-girlfriend or my current girlfriend?
I swear on everything that I'm not trolling. I am in love with my wife, my ex-girlfriend(first love) and my current girlfriend. I'm 40 years old and I feel like a stupid teenage boy for doing this to them because they are all amazing women. All of whom I have a child with or expecting a child with. So, I have to make a choice and I'd appreciate some advice and opinions. I met and fell in love with Rachel while we were in college and we dated steadily for over three years(1988-1991). I was just beginning to shed my "nerd" image after high school and Rachel became my first love when I got into college. We lost our virginity together and everything. During my fourth year in college in 1991, I had to spend four months in Europe studying abroad. Rachel and I had a big argument before I left for Europe but we didn't exactly breakup. While I was in Europe, I met Jenny. Although I've never seen her around campus, she was also studying abroad and she was attending the same college as Rachel and me. Jenny and I started studying together and then dating and then falling in love. The closer I got to Jenny, the farther apart I got from Rachel. When I returned to Florida, I told Rachel that I fell for someone else so we broke up and it broke her heart. Jenny and I stayed together, finished college, got married in 1996, had our daughter Tammi in 1999 and our son Damien in 2001. Jenny and I had a great marriage and I NEVER cheated until last year. Rachel and I reunited via Facebook in March 2009 through a mutual former classmate. She's divorced and she has a son around my kids' age; her ex-husband was an abusive jerk. Sparks started flying again, we met up in person and I proceeded to have an affair with Rachel while married to Jennifer. I still love Rachel but I had no plans on leaving Jenny. Rachel feels no remorse about dating me because she feels as though Jenny "robbed" her of what she could have had with me. True. In college, Jennifer did tell me to make a choice between her and Rachel and I chose Jennifer. So, I guess Rachel is still bitter after all these years. After two months of reconnecting with Rachel, Jenny found out about her. She was hurt and she told me to leave. So, I moved out in May 2009 but we still remained legally married. Although I continue to sleep with Rachel, I wasn't ready to commit myself to her because I was still sad about separating from Jenny. Even when Rachel got pregnant and gave birth to our daughter Destiny in April 2010, I still didn't commit. In July 2009, I met Stephanie. She was single, beautiful, smart, funny and sweet. She's 13 years my junior but she's VERY mature. Stephanie and I have been dating ever since then and we moved in together five months ago. I'm really in love with Stephanie and she's 3 months pregnant now. I'm going to admit that ever since Jenny and I separated, we would occasionally spend the night together, have sex and sometimes discuss reconciling. Just like I'm in a relationship with Stephanie, Jenny has a boyfriend of her own. Now, Jennifer is sick of "playing games" with me, she told me if I want to give our marriage another chance she will dump her boyfriend Andrew and I'll have to dump Stephanie pregnant or not. Or else, she's staying with Andrew, I'm staying with Stephanie and we're getting a divorce. It's a hard decision, especially with all these children involved. I'm in love with Jenny, our marriage was wonderful and it was that ONE mistake with Rachel that ruined it all. Not to mention, Jenny and I have two amazing kids who misses having both their parents together. I love Rachel with all my heart and I always looked back and felt bad about the way I betrayed her in college. So I do feel as though I owe her for that. I always wondered what would have happened if I married her instead. She NEVER would have wound up with such a monster for a husband. The more I look at the precious baby girl I have with Rachel it breaks me down and I cry. But I'm VERY happy with Stephanie and I love her so much. She's giving me my fourth child and I'm giving her her first. I'm sure she knows that I still have feelings for my wife but she has NO that I'm still seeing Rachel but she does know about our child. I don't want to keep doing this. Whichever one I choose, the other two will be hurt. What would you do if you were me? Also, for all you racists out there, if you're assuming that I'm a black man, you're wrong.
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1 :
eeenie meenie miney mo. rachel.
2 :
Here's what you need to do. Stop cheating on your wife. Now go get a vasectomy. It's obvious your morals are very low. Ever hear of forsaking all others? A-hole.
3 :
Youre black
4 :
Polygamy.
5 :
alright youve obviously screwed up bigtime heres what i think you should do. your in love with your wife right? duh! you married her so yous hould get back together stop cheating on her altogether drop it all and make sure you can see your other kids okay? and do not i repeat fight with your wife do what she says
6 :
So your telling me you fu**** all these women up and you still cant choose which one you love!!?? You know what your a player you have sex with all these women and then you break there hearts go off and fuck YOURSELF!!
7 :
You're a fucking disgusting dirty old man fucking dog. Go die in a sewer, seriously, unless this is trolling. Most importantly, WHAT are these women doing with a horrible person like you. You're just knocking girls up and running between them because you have the excuse that you have children together. God, men like you make me absolutely sick. I cannot express. I hope you live with lifelong guilt and you are castrated, and I hope none of your children ever get to see you again. They don't need something like you as an influence.
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Wow that's a really hard one. It sucks to love more than one person at one time ,but honestly if I were you I would choose Jenny because you obviously chose her over Rachel, and married her for a reason. If she is the one you really love that is who you should be with because she is the one that you hav been with th most. You even said for yourself that you felt guilty getting with Rachel because of how much you were hurt by Jenny kicking you out so obviously there is still that something that you can't let go of with her. You already put Jenny through so much when you chose between her and Rachel and this has to be alot for her too. She may have a boyfriend, but it's probably just to try to forget about you and if she's saying that she doesn't want to play games with you anymore she's saying that she can;t stop thinking about you and really loves you and can't stand seeing you in the arms of someone else. I think the thing that really got you interested in rachel again was the fact that she had an abusive boyfriend, but why ruin your wonderful marriage for an old flame. I understand you will feel bad leaving Stephanie pregnant, but just because you leave her doesn't mean you will be out of your child's life. True love is stronger than puppy love that your feeling right now. Both of your children with Jenny want to see you guys happy and those two opinions right there should count the most because of the fact that they are the oldest and you have been there everyday with them since day one. Make the right decision and go with Jenny. It won't be easy, but marriage counseling really does help and you both have to find it in yourselves to forgive, forget, and move on. Yes, the other women will be hurt, but Jenny will be hurt the most. If you do get back together don't do this to her again and stay true to your vows. The best of luck to you.
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