Which one of my children's dads should I be with? My husband, my ex-boyfriend or my current boyfriend?
I swear on everything that I'm not trolling. I am in love with my husband, my ex-boyfriend(first love) and my current boyfriend. I'm 40 years old and I feel like a stupid teenage girl for doing this to them because they are all amazing men. All of whom I have children with. So, I have to make a choice and I'd appreciate some advice and opinions. I met and fell in love with Ricky while we were in college and we dated steadily for over three years(1988-1991). Ricky became my first love when I got into college. I gave him my virginity and everything. During my fourth year in college in 1991, I had to spend four months in Europe studying abroad. Ricky and I had a big argument before I left for Europe but we didn't exactly breakup. While I was in Europe, I met Jeremiah. Although I've never seen him around campus, he was also studying abroad and he was attending the same college as Ricky and me. Jeremiah and I started studying together and then dating and then falling in love. The closer I got to Jeremiah, the farther apart I got from Ricky. When I returned to Georgia, I told Ricky that I fell for someone else so we broke up and it broke his heart. Jeremiah and I stayed together, finished college, got married in 1996, had our daughter Tashi in 1999 and our son Donte in 2001. Jeremiah and I had a great marriage until he cheated on me 5 years ago with some stripper at his brother's bachelor party. I forgave him because I love him and he's a good man over all but I didn't forget. Ricky and I reunited via Facebook in March 2008 through a mutual former classmate. He's divorced and he has a daughter around my kids' age; his ex-wife was a gold-digging, thieving tramp. Sparks started flying again, we met up in person and I proceeded to have an affair with Ricky while married to Jeremiah. I still love Ricky but I had no plans on leaving Jeremiah. Ricky feels no remorse about dating me because he feels as though Jeremiah "robbed" him of what he could have had with me and he needs to watch his pride as a man. True. In college, Jeremiah did tell me to make a choice between him and Ricky or else he would take it to the next level with some girl he was talking to at the time. I chose Jeremiah NOT because I didn't want that girl to have him but because I loved him too much to lose him even though I was in love with Ricky too. So, I guess Ricky is still bitter after all these years. After a few months of reconnecting with Ricky I ended up pregnant. I HAD to tell Jeremiah because I wasn't sure who the father was. Jeremiah was hurt and he packed up and moved out in August 2008 but we still remain legally married. Although I continue to sleep with Ricky, I wasn't ready to commit myself to him because I was still sad about separating from Jeremiah. Even when I gave birth to Ricky's son Daymond(the DNA test proved its is) in April 2009, I still didn't commit. In July 2009, I met Sayyid. He was single, sexy, smart, funny and sweet. He's 15 years my junior but he's VERY mature. Sayyid and I have been dating ever since then and we moved in together. I'm really in love with Sayyid and I gave birth to his daughter Sayyida(another DNA test confirmation). I'm going to admit that ever since Jeremiah and I separated, we would occasionally spend the night together, have sex and sometimes discuss reconciling. Just like I'm in a relationship with Sayyid, Jeremiah has a girlfriend of his own. Now, Jeremiah is sick of "playing games" with me, he told me if I want to give our marriage another chance he will dump his girlfriend Alyssa and I'll have to dump Sayyid. Or else, he's staying with Alyssa, I'm staying with Sayyid and we're getting a divorce. It's a hard decision, especially with all these children involved. I'm in love with Jeremiah, our marriage was wonderful but it was his ONE mistake with that stripper and my ONE mistake with Ricky that ruined it all. Not to mention, Jeremiah and I have two amazing kids who miss having their daddy home. I love Ricky with all my heart and I always looked back and felt bad about the way I betrayed him in college. I always wondered what would have happened if I married him instead. He NEVER would have wound up with such a witch for a wife. The more I look at the precious baby boy I have with Ricky it breaks me down and I cry. But I'm VERY happy with Sayyid and I love him so much. He gave me my fourth child and I gave him his first. I'm sure he knows that I still have feelings for my husband but he has NO clue that I'm still seeing Ricky but he does know about our child. I don't want to keep doing this to them, myself and my children. Whichever one I choose, the other two will be hurt. What would you do if you were me?
Marriage & Divorce - 16 Answers
Random Answers, Critics, Comments, Opinions :
1 :
This saga is too long to read! Why don't you keep all three, if you can't choose!
2 :
I can't read soooooooooo big story.
3 :
Why not get one more? Maybe the 4th one will be what you're looking for.
4 :
Get thee to a nunnery!
5 :
Divorce Jeremiah and let him make a go of it with Alyssa. Dump Ricky - he sounds way too bitter. Stay with Sayid, but is he ever finds out you've been seeing Ricky behind his back, he'll dump YOU, daughter or not. let each dad have as much access to the kids as you and them are comfortable with. What a tangled web.
6 :
you need help
7 :
It seems you have a very strong problem with decision making. Perhaps you need to all gather, and speak your minds and heart. Thus one of them, may be able to make the decision for you. Would that be agreeable for you? Have you NO desire of what you actually want, need, and able to provide, as well??? ♥♥
8 :
Wow, you have a true soap opera on ur hands. Which one you love the most? I know you said u love all three but which one u love the most which one has ur heart n speak? u have history with all but it dnt mean nothing if ur heart aint in it.
9 :
keep the three. You are enjoying this, aren't you?
10 :
im sorry but this is pathetic and makes me sick to my stomach. i am in a similiar situation with my bf. he has for years gone back and forth between me and his kids mom. you are too old for this. if you cant decide who you want to be with a 40 years old that is sad. you have not only broken these mens heart but also eachchild that you have brought into this world with a different man. stop this madness. you should have stayed with your husband and not committe adultery in the first place.
11 :
Im sorry, but you need to go get your tubes tied number one. What you are doing now is influencing how your children will live their lives, hopefully they will not follow in your footsteps. I think next you should send each child to live with their fathers so that they do not do as you do. Next I think you should move out to hollywood, wear lots of make up and short skirts and do what you do best. Continue being a WHORE!
12 :
I think you need to be on the MAURY POVICH show, The Jerry Springer show, or The Steve Wilko show. You have problems.
13 :
i know its not on your options list but counseling is my advice. you need to work through everything before you hurt more people including yourself & children.
14 :
This post is FAKE and the user keeps posting it - sometimes as a guy - sometimes as a girl! Their other one can be found at the link below. Get a life and quit posting BS on here.
15 :
this is something i have never said to anyone before mainly because when i hear people say this i feel it is a load of crap, you my dear need to find your self, meaning go away for a while or leave all three alone for a few weeks..the one you think about the most is the one you should take the chance with, cut off all contact with them no texting, no phoning, no emails, no twittering them or face booking them, just you and you alone with your thoughts on the future and please remember the past as well and who made you happiest,
16 :
Ring! Ring! Hello, Yes she's here.Stacy it's for you it's Maury and Jerry on 3-way!
Read more other entries :
