What should I do? I'm in love with my husband, my ex and my current boyfriend(all of whom I have a child with)?
I swear on everything that I'm not trolling. I am in love with my husband, my ex-boyfriend(first love) and my current boyfriend. I'm 40 year old college educated black woman and I feel like a stupid teenage girl for doing this to them because they are all amazing men. All of whom I have children with. So, I have to make a choice and I'd appreciate some advice and opinions. I met and fell in love with Ricky while we were in college and we dated steadily for over three years(1988-1991). Ricky became my first love when I got into college. I gave him my virginity and everything. During my fourth year in college in 1991, I had to spend four months in Europe studying abroad. Ricky and I had a big argument before I left for Europe but we didn't exactly breakup. While I was in Europe, I met Jeremiah. Although I've never seen him around campus, he was also studying abroad and he was attending the same college as Ricky and me. Jeremiah and I started studying together and then dating and then falling in love. The closer I got to Jeremiah, the farther apart I got from Ricky. When I returned to Georgia, I told Ricky that I fell for someone else so we broke up and it broke his heart. Jeremiah and I stayed together, finished college, got married in 1996, had our daughter Tashi in 1999 and our son Donte in 2001. Jeremiah and I had a great marriage until he cheated on me 5 years ago with some stripper at his brother's bachelor party. I forgave him because I love him and he's a good man over all but I didn't forget. Ricky and I reunited via Facebook in March 2008 through a mutual former classmate. He's divorced and he has a daughter around my kids' age; his ex-wife was a gold-digging, thieving tramp. Sparks started flying again, we met up in person and I proceeded to have an affair with Ricky while married to Jeremiah. I still love Ricky but I had no plans on leaving Jeremiah. Ricky feels no remorse about dating me because he feels as though Jeremiah "robbed" him of what he could have had with me and he needs to watch his pride as a man. True. In college, Jeremiah did tell me to make a choice between him and Ricky or else he would take it to the next level with some girl he was talking to at the time. I chose Jeremiah NOT because I didn't want that girl to have him but because I loved him too much to lose him even though I was in love with Ricky too. So, I guess Ricky is still bitter after all these years. After a few months of reconnecting with Ricky I ended up pregnant. I HAD to tell Jeremiah because I wasn't sure who the father was. Jeremiah was hurt and he packed up and moved out in August 2008 but we still remain legally married. Although I continue to sleep with Ricky, I wasn't ready to commit myself to him because I was still sad about separating from Jeremiah. Even when I gave birth to Ricky's son Daymond(the DNA test proved its is) in April 2009, I still didn't commit. In July 2009, I met Sayyid. He was single, sexy, smart, funny and sweet. He's 15 years my junior but he's VERY mature. Sayyid and I have been dating ever since then and we moved in together. I'm really in love with Sayyid and I gave birth to his daughter Sayyida(another DNA test confirmation). I'm going to admit that ever since Jeremiah and I separated, we would occasionally spend the night together, have sex and sometimes discuss reconciling. Just like I'm in a relationship with Sayyid, Jeremiah has a girlfriend of his own. Now, Jeremiah is sick of "playing games" with me, he told me if I want to give our marriage another chance he will dump his girlfriend Alyssa and I'll have to dump Sayyid. Or else, he's staying with Alyssa, I'm staying with Sayyid and we're getting a divorce. It's a hard decision, especially with all these children involved. I'm in love with Jeremiah, our marriage was wonderful but it was his ONE mistake with that stripper and my ONE mistake with Ricky that ruined it all. Not to mention, Jeremiah and I have two amazing kids who miss having their daddy home. I love Ricky with all my heart and I always looked back and felt bad about the way I betrayed him in college. I always wondered what would have happened if I married him instead. He NEVER would have wound up with such a witch for a wife. The more I look at the precious baby boy I have with Ricky it breaks me down and I cry. But I'm VERY happy with Sayyid and I love him so much. He gave me my fourth child and I gave him his first. I'm sure he knows that I still have feelings for my husband but he has NO clue that I'm still seeing Ricky but he does know about our child. I don't want to keep doing this to them, myself and my children. Whichever one I choose, the other two will be hurt. What would you do if you were me? @IHEARTMARTIN At least I attended university and earned a bachelor's and master's degree in finance. So what if I'm a "statistic" as far as reproduction goes. What are you and your trailer park family doing with your lives, you racist bastard?
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1 :
You are a breeder. Your life is pointless one. My cat behaves the way you do. She was impregnated by every other street cat in the area.
2 :
Oh my....i suggest you close your legs. alex actually has a good answer for once...dam girl stop fcking every guy you come across.
3 :
You're better off alone, if this is legit.
4 :
three child. im not surprised.
5 :
Geez, there isnt really much to do sorry but you did it and now you must deal with it and face appropiate consequences. If I were you I would be convincing younger girls not to do what you did so that hopefully they'll listen and keep their lives pure until they're ready. It would truly be a good thing to do, because you will be helping others make the right choices :]
6 :
YOU ARE A WHORE! WHAT DO YOU EXPECT FROM A BLACK WOMAN THOUGH?
7 :
with all this half-sibling nonsense, it is very pointless to have a 'father' to your children when they all have different ones, but if you have 4 kids and 2 of them have the same dad it will have to be that 2 children are with their biological father rather than 1.
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