I am in love with all of babies' fathers, should I choose my husband, my ex-boyfriend or my current boyfriend?
I swear on everything that I'm not trolling. I am in love with my husband, my ex-boyfriend(first love) and my current boyfriend. I'm 40 years old and I feel like a stupid teenage girl for doing this to them because they are all amazing men. All of whom I have children with. So, I have to make a choice and I'd appreciate some advice and opinions. I met and fell in love with Ricky while we were in college and we dated steadily for over three years(1988-1991). Ricky became my first love when I got into college. I gave him my virginity and everything. During my fourth year in college in 1991, I had to spend four months in Europe studying abroad. Ricky and I had a big argument before I left for Europe but we didn't exactly breakup. While I was in Europe, I met Jeremiah. Although I've never seen him around campus, he was also studying abroad and he was attending the same college as Ricky and me. Jeremiah and I started studying together and then dating and then falling in love. The closer I got to Jeremiah, the farther apart I got from Ricky. When I returned to Georgia, I told Ricky that I fell for someone else so we broke up and it broke his heart. Jeremiah and I stayed together, finished college, got married in 1996, had our daughter Tashi in 1999 and our son Donte in 2001. Jeremiah and I had a great marriage until he cheated on me 5 years ago with some stripper at his brother's bachelor party. I forgave him because I love him and he's a good man over all but I didn't forget. Ricky and I reunited via Facebook in March 2008 through a mutual former classmate. He's divorced and he has a daughter around my kids' age; his ex-wife was a gold-digging, thieving tramp. Sparks started flying again, we met up in person and I proceeded to have an affair with Ricky while married to Jeremiah. I still love Ricky but I had no plans on leaving Jeremiah. Ricky feels no remorse about dating me because he feels as though Jeremiah "robbed" him of what he could have had with me and he needs to watch his pride as a man. True. In college, Jeremiah did tell me to make a choice between him and Ricky or else he would take it to the next level with some girl he was talking to at the time. I chose Jeremiah NOT because I didn't want that girl to have him but because I loved him too much to lose him even though I was in love with Ricky too. So, I guess Ricky is still bitter after all these years. After a few months of reconnecting with Ricky I ended up pregnant. I HAD to tell Jeremiah because I wasn't sure who the father was. Jeremiah was hurt and he packed up and moved out in August 2008 but we still remain legally married. Although I continue to sleep with Ricky, I wasn't ready to commit myself to him because I was still sad about separating from Jeremiah. Even when I gave birth to Ricky's son Daymond(the DNA test proved its is) in April 2009, I still didn't commit. In July 2009, I met Sayyid. He was single, sexy, smart, funny and sweet. He's 15 years my junior but he's VERY mature. Sayyid and I have been dating ever since then and we moved in together. I'm really in love with Sayyid and I gave birth to his daughter Sayyida(another DNA test confirmation). I'm going to admit that ever since Jeremiah and I separated, we would occasionally spend the night together, have sex and sometimes discuss reconciling. Just like I'm in a relationship with Sayyid, Jeremiah has a girlfriend of his own. Now, Jeremiah is sick of "playing games" with me, he told me if I want to give our marriage another chance he will dump his girlfriend Alyssa and I'll have to dump Sayyid. Or else, he's staying with Alyssa, I'm staying with Sayyid and we're getting a divorce. It's a hard decision, especially with all these children involved. I'm in love with Jeremiah, our marriage was wonderful but it was his ONE mistake with that stripper and my ONE mistake with Ricky that ruined it all. Not to mention, Jeremiah and I have two amazing kids who miss having their daddy home. I love Ricky with all my heart and I always looked back and felt bad about the way I betrayed him in college. I always wondered what would have happened if I married him instead. He NEVER would have wound up with such a witch for a wife. The more I look at the precious baby boy I have with Ricky it breaks me down and I cry. But I'm VERY happy with Sayyid and I love him so much. He gave me my fourth child and I gave him his first. I'm sure he knows that I still have feelings for my husband but he has NO clue that I'm still seeing Ricky but he does know about our child. I don't want to keep doing this to them, myself and my children. Whichever one I choose, the other two will be hurt. It's a catch 22. What would you do if you were me?
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I'd stay with your husband. If you really love him as much as it seems you do, then Sayyid will understand that. If you feel the need to tell him that you kept sleeping with your ex from over twenty years ago, then tell him! Sayyid might be angry at first, but hopefully in the end, you two can mellow out the pain you might cause him, because you'll always have a friendship with him because you have a child with him. With Ricky it's the same thing. He's the old boyfriend and not who you're married too. You'll always have him as a friend because of the child you have together, but you should stay with Jeremiah because for one you have more kids together with him and two it seems like the two of you miss eachother.
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wow. Just forget about Ricky, YOUR MARRIED TO JERIMAIH! god, you sound like a whore.
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Good freakin lord. Darlin`I have been a social worker for well over 20 years and you my dear have left me speechless. WTF are you thinking--wait, don`t answer because clearly you`re not. What would I do...well, for starters, I would give the babies to their respective fathers. Then I would high tale it into solitude for a good 6 months to get my head on straight. Seriously, give your head a shake and the men and the babies a rest. For the love of GOD!!!
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I'd go back to the husband if you can get over the things you have done to each other. While Sayyid is very mature, he's still 15 years your junior, and I've been close to such a relationship in my family. My aunt was happy with her boyfriend for 10 years before he realized he's still young and left her and the kids to find a younger woman. Wouldn't want that to happen to you. Ricky sounds great too, but honestly I don't see the potential. He doesn't seem to fight enough for you to be with him and still carries a grudge from what I understand. First love is sentimental, but don't mistake that for a lifetime partnership potential. I think it's big of Jeremiah to want to work this out, he must love you so much and you love him too. Just go and work out your problems and be happy no matter what it takes. And stop seeing the other men, period. It's not doing you any good and eventually people are gonna end up hurting even more. xxx
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