Does anyone know why he isn't calling?
Super long story, but I'll do my best to brief it up. I currently live and go to school in Chicago, but my family lives in Southern California. I visit often, and will be moving to San Diego in November when I am finished with school. There is a guy in San Diego, that I have known for the past four years. We have a great connection- lots of chemistry, and share many of the same values. We've kept in touch while I've been in Chicago, sometimes we'll chat on the phone for 6-7 hours straight. I saw him during my visit in August, and it was then that he expressed an interest in wanting to be in a relationship. Of course, the feelings were mutual, but at the time, I was in a very serious relationship. He continued to pursue me, but didn't want to get in the way of my relationship. He said he is at the point in his life (he is 27) where he wants to begin settling down, and said that he thinks I am the right woman for him. My boyfriend and I ended things in December, and the guy in SD continued to pursue me, and express his feelings. He always questioned what my plans are after school in Chicago- always wanting to know if I am really coming back or not. A few months ago, he told me that he is afraid that I'll always be the girl who got away. I came home for a visit this past March, and we spent a few days together. We had a great time- he left me notes all over his place, and when he had to leave for work, he would call during his breaks to tell me how much he missed me. The last night I was there, we discussed our situation, and we both shared the same feelings toward one another. I told him I would be back in November for good. Since I've been in Chicago, (about a month now) however, we've barely been speaking. I know this sounds gay, but a couple days after I left, he made his default picture on facebook one of the two of us. I've been really confused, because things seem sort of different now and I don't know why. We've talked a few times since I've been home, but there is certainly a lack of enthusiasm on his end of things. He isn't calling/texting/etc. as much as before, but still has our picture up, which in my opinion, is kind of a relationship thing to do. Not to mention, all of his other default pics are either of him by himself or with his cousins who he is very close to. I am the only girl (non related) that is up there. Anyway, if anyone has any *kind* advice on this matter, I'd appreciate it. I just don't know what's going on, and I don't want to be the needy girl and ask him, "what's wrong?" So this is why I post here. :) Thanks in advance.
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I'm in a similar situation and all I can think is that when some guys feel they've "got" you they don't think they need to work as hard any more. Ring him and ask him if you've done something wrong as he's not as chatty as he was. I don't think you have tho- it's just a man thing!
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