USFB

Monday, April 7, 2014

Being around my boyfriend makes me sad and irritated, what should I do at this point?

Being around my boyfriend makes me sad and irritated, what should I do at this point?
Hi, lately I've been having trouble with my boyfriend of 5 months. We began dating in high school and now we are in college together. He is Asian and I am white, and he joined an Asian club and now the majority of his friends are of Asian culture. That does not bother me whatsoever, but lately I've been having feelings of inadequacy. I feel like I don't belong and that I'm not good enough when I'm around his friends and him. Also, he's made friends with several Asian girls that he texts frequently and chats on facebook with. I know I shouldn't feel jealous or angry, but it seems like he's always texting this one particular girl. The other day we went to the library to study and he led me over to where said girl and her friend were studying and I was forced to sit there and try to study while they laughed and exchanged inside jokes and discussed classes that they all have together. It makes me so angry that he's been cavorting about with all these girls when I'm not around. I believe he's been to the library several times with that particular girl, and they've gotten private study rooms together. Now whenever I'm with him instead of being happy, I just think about him and these girls and I get upset and give him the cold shoulder. I'm mainly sad and depressed when I'm with him because I fear that he's going to leave me for someone better and of his own ethnicity. And I don't know what to do or say. Any suggestions?
Singles & Dating - 7 Answers
Random Answers, Critics, Comments, Opinions :
1 :
holy cow y is it so long...and break up with him he is not worth your time plz you need some one that makes you feel loved and you don't feel like your wasting your time on them..because think of all that time wasted on someone that you don't like and that gets u upset
2 :
Just because someone is of his own ethnicity, that does not make them better than you. I think that's the first thing you need to realize. I also think that you have a right to be a little bit concerned about his behavior if it's just one particular girl and you notice him being more and more into her. Do you feel like he has been distancing himself from you at all? Have you tried talking to him and telling him how you feel? Maybe you just need to be reassured by him that he still feels the same about you and that no one is going to be taking your place.
3 :
Why don't you make some friends. Join a club or something. Find a Unitarian Universalist church or something. You know get out, volunteer, do something or be somewhere with people who make you feel good. You sound like a nice person so you should meet nice people.
4 :
Probably time to move on. You might talking to him if you really like him, but I don't think that it will make much difference.
5 :
Tell your boyfriend how you are feeling and see how he responds. Then, give it a few weeks to see if things get any better and if they don't then maybe you should think about breaking up. You deserve to be happy. (But if you break up then don't be surprised if he starts dating one of these girls...that's usually how it goes)
6 :
Well, I'm sorry you are feeling so down about this. The best thing you could do, and probably the only thing you could do to solve this problem in your relationship, is to talk to him about how you are feeling. Hopefully you can find the words to tell him in a way that doesn't make him feel like you just don't want him happy. Explain your reasons in why you feel this way, and maybe he will open up to how he feels about the current situation. Communication is very, very important in a relationship, and it seems like yours need some.
7 :
I'm white and I'm dating a Filipino. Sometimes I feel the same way. I actually talked to my bf about it and he's like "I'm dating you. I don't an asian chick." Sometimes the comments he makes make me feel inferiorer even though they aren't even directed to me. Like he always mentions being Filipino - I was like well I never mention being ... French! He was like huh? Talk to him about it. See if he's cheating on you. Sometimes guys are dumb and don't realize how you feel. Lucky for me my bf understood what I was saying (it took a couple of times). If it doesn't work out maybe you two need to break up. Good luck.

Read more other entries :

Tuesday, April 1, 2014

What do i do when first boyfriend broke my heart?

What do i do when first boyfriend broke my heart?
Help! He Broke My Heart! What should I do? My boyfriend lied to me and deeply hurt me! my boyfriend and i were on a break. he didnt call me for three weeks (he was at academic camp and needed to focus). i finally told him maybe we should just be friends. he got upset, asked if there was another guy, and said he still liked me. so i said fine but things needed to change. he said ok and asked if we were good. i said we were. today i log onto facebook and see a message from him. it's addressed to about 15 people and says he will not be coming back to my high school next year and that he is going to boarding school. he did not have the decency to tell me. i texted him, upset, and he said sorry i only told my best friend, (who is a girl by the way). i said sorry was ok when he canceled dates (he did that a lot) or when he didn't call. this was not sorry. how could he have falled to mention this? i am very hurt. we were friends for 2 years before we started dating and suddenly i'm his girlfriend and i'm part of the other people catagory. he said he'd call later. while we were friends i was always there for him. i'm a caring person. i dodn't know what to. he was my first real boyfriend. he wants to be friends, but i don't trust him and i have lost respect for him. i told him last night i thought he acted like a jerk in the scenario. he said he wasn't and promised to call tonight to discuss it. i don't see the point. when would we see each other as friends? i'm ready to move on. if he calls (which he prob won't) what do i say? but mostly, am i right to be upset?
Singles & Dating - 1 Answers
Random Answers, Critics, Comments, Opinions :
1 :
Hi, Sounds like a real jerk, if he calls just say listen I'm through with all this, lets JUST be friends and thats all ok? And if he gets sad just remember all the stuff he did to you, because your better off just being friends with him if that. You deserve so much better! Good Luck! Hope I helped. =)

Read more other entries :

Friday, March 28, 2014

PLEASE ANSWER ! about schools & diciplinary action on facebook. need help !?

PLEASE ANSWER ! about schools & diciplinary action on facebook. need help !?
this is kind of a dramatic story but i need some insight. my friend "sarah" had been getting harassed by a girl named "kate" &when i say harassed i mean typical high school crap. snickering when she walks, by whispering when she passes them, ect. so the other day "sarah" got an i.s.s.(in school suspension) because she had enough of "kate" & her friends so "sarah" went up&asked why they were just whispering about her when she walked by. they totally denied it. even though they really did. &"sarah" was telling the she's had enough&accidentally let the f-bomb slip out. little did she know a teacher was behind her. the teacher asked why she was yelling at them. "sarah" told her the were making fun of her &again the girls denied it. so the teacher gave "sarah" an i.s.s. for cursing. that night in facebook "sarah" made a mean group about "kate" i saw this group in my news feed& wrote on "sarahs" walll. "did you make that page about 'kate' ?" she told me she did&told me that "kate" made her get an i.s.s. because she cursed at "kate". i thought she meant "kate" told on her. (btw "sarah" is one of my friends) so i said "WOW. what a ***** ! shes so pathetic. i can;t believe she tattled on you. what is she 5 ?!?!" & to which "sarah" replied "no there was a teacher behind me. she told the teacher she didnt do anything so i got in trouble" &i said "ooohhh. well its stall really pathetic that she didnt own up to it. why is there so much drama ? UGH" &went to bed for the night. the next day at school i was called down to the principals office. she told me that one of "kates" friends printed out&brought in me&"sarahs" convo. &she ended up calling my parents&writing me up. also she told me i am to have no communication with "kate" (even though ive never talked to her in my life !) face to face or on the internet AND i wasnt allowd to even TALK about "kate" at school or anywhere else. i find this TOTALLY out of line&unfair. not only was i on the computer. never saying ANYTHING to "kate" &what i said was never discussed in school or anything. she has no right what to tell me about what i an or cant say on my own time&when im at home. not even on school grounds.AND she told me i cant talk about her OUTSIDE of school. thats a violation of my freedom of speech! but back to the point. she had NO RIGHT to discipline me for things that had nothing to do with school (at least the part i participated in). its now on my permanant record marked as "inappropriate behavior" and could hurt my chances of getting into college in the future. so basically do oyu think its fair i was disciplined about something that happened on facebook&i did nothing wrong in school. (btw. i never threatened her or anything at all. im being punised for EXACTLY what was typed previously. nothing more.)
Other - Education - 1 Answers
Random Answers, Critics, Comments, Opinions :
1 :
No. I would have my parents to talk to the principal and the superintendant. I would also have a lawyer to talk to the principle if push comes to shove. You do have freedom of speech, as long as you didn't do it in school you should be ok. I would have a conference with parents/lawyer if I were you. Mean while lay low and don't say anything to her.

Read more other entries :

PLEASE ANSWER ! about schools & diciplinary action on facebook. need help !?

Friday, March 14, 2014

What is the point in even chasing women anymore?

What is the point in even chasing women anymore?
Well, I had been chatting to a girl that was in my Spanish class in college over Facebook and sending texts between each other. Here's the story: We were good friends, like she was very quiet and shy in class but I was the only one besides her female friend who had any time for her, but I enjoyed her company. We used to walk home from college and talk and laugh about stuff, at that time she had a boyfriend so I thought, "OK, we will remain friends, no problem." But over the Internet and the phone, we chatted deep about things, so I thought that we must have had a good rapport because some of the things she was telling me were very sensitive issues. I told her how beautiful she is and so we planned to go out together on the Saturday night two days ago. I suggested why not a restaurat; she suggested going out together for a drink, well, fair enough. After getting ready and knocking at her house, she opened the door, and she was just absolutely stunning! I was surprised by how much effort she put into her appearance, you know, going out as friends and all. So, we talked and laughed, she knew anyway that I fancied her. The night well was going really well. I grabbed a bite to eat first because I had no dinner, and then we hit the bars in town; we bought each other drinks, so I knew that we were going out as friends. Throughout the night, she was talking to me about how much of an ar*sehole her ex-boyfriend was, and she wanted to cut all contact with him, so I reassured her that she was too good for him. However, I then stated, "You know all you women, you come moaning to people about the bad guys in your life, whether it be your boyfriend, your ex, your dad etc, so why don't you lot ever try a honest, straightforward guy for once. Look, I'm no angel, but with me, you know where you stand." From then, we still had fun together throughout the night, but she was letting me hold her and we were close together, almost like the chemistry was building between us. Then, she was getting quite drunk whilst I was still relatively sober, she didn't even know where she was for God's sake!!!!! Because she was drunk, I became very weary of other guys trying to take advantage and use her just for sex. One guy drunk and high on cocaine then started grabbing her. She didn't really respond, but didn't tell him to get away either. I went in between them as if I was waiting at the bar, and got punched in the face!!! So, we left. Here's where it really hurts deep. We walked to the police officers on patrol in the street, and she was saying to me that it wasn't my place to protect her and under the supervision of the officers, scuttled off and got a taxi home without asking if I wanted a lift home. Because the police are horrible bastar**ds, they just let her go and told me to go home. I had no money left for a taxi, so I had to walk 8 miles back home!!! Feeling angry, I knocked at her house, at about 4:30am, and discussed with her mother about the night out; she was just drunk and asleep. Her mum and dad came across as decent, law-abiding citizens, so I had a lot of respect for them. Even her mum said us two going out as friends was a bad idea, so she didn't even have a biased view of the situation. The next day, she had deleted her Facebook profile, and hadn't even said sorry! I know that if I knocked at her house to try to discuss things between the two of us, I would probably get harrassment charges put against me. Basically, she's just being a coward and protected. Even my mum and her boyfriend haven't given me much consolidation, they're just pointing out at my faults! I'm only 19, never had a proper girlfriend before, have Asperger's Syndrome, so social situations are extremely difficult for me anyway, and she was the only girl with who I felt that I could be my nerdy, cheeky self around. I'm so fuckin'8 depressed.
Singles & Dating - 1 Answers
Random Answers, Critics, Comments, Opinions :
1 :
Why don't you try to see her again because you still have the chance to see her. I don't think she would press harassment charges on you because you are good person and I hope she knows that.

Read more other entries :

Friday, March 7, 2014

Does this answer those nagging questions about healthcare reform?

Does this answer those nagging questions about healthcare reform?
Your Questions About Health Care Reform Answered posted by Christopher Hayes on 08/11/2009 @ 09:58am * Email * Print * Share o Buzz up! o Buzzflash o del.icio.us o Digg o Facebook o Add to Mixx!Mixx it! o Reddit What is this? * Take Action * Comments (88) * * Subscribe Now Text Size * A * A * A Ok, so there's been a lot of misinformation about proposals to reform the health insurance industry and provide (near) universal coverage. Understandable! It's complicated stuff. Herewith, I'll try to answer some questions 1) Is it true that all of the bills currently proposed would end the practice of "rescission," whereby health insurance providers refuse to treat customers who've paid their premiums simply because they've become ill? No! That's a common misunderstanding. Actually, all of the bills would ban incisions, that is, they would legally bar surgeons from performing surgery until a panel of twelve gay illegal immigrant government bureaucrats unanimously signed off on the procedure. 2) Is it true that health care reform would ban insurers from refusing to insure people because of pre-existing conditions? Wrong again. To get rid of health inequality, the bills actually mandate that every American be given a pre-existing condition. A National Illness Commission, with academics appointed from Harvard, Reed College and Berkeley, will evaluate each citizen, and based on their demographic profile, choose their malady. Each disease or syndrome is scored on a scale of 1 to 10, with 10 being the most severe. White christian men will receive pre-existing conditions of 8 or higher. Black people, "wise latinas," and ACORN members will be exempted. 3) I heard the proposals currently under consideration provide seniors with option of free counseling sessions under Medicare, where they can discuss a living will and end-of-life care. That's a huge misconception. The bills require all senior citizens (who are non union members) be euthanized on their 70th birthday. Under section 278(c)ii all last rites will be performed by Jeremiah Wright using a Q'uran. 4) I've heard the bills being proposed would require insurers to provide preventative care, like mammograms, free of charge. No, but all lactating mothers will be forced to breast-feed poor children. 5) Will the current bills plug the "donut hole" in the Medicare prescription drug benefit so seniors don't have to pay exorbitant out of pocket expenses for their medication? Absolutely not. The legislation will ban donuts. texaslibsticker: The jokes on you and the rest of the right-wing loons. :P correction: jokes=joke's
Politics - 4 Answers
Random Answers, Critics, Comments, Opinions :
1 :
Hahaha. I think I have heard some republicans on YA saying stuff like that.
2 :
On the surface, this article is humorous, but when you think about the similar widespread lies that people actually believe, it kind of makes you feel pessimistic for the future of the human race.
3 :
Well made up answers you must listen to fox a lot.
4 :
OMG WTF ROFLMAO BBQ LOL JK? That is great! Nothing like fighting the absurd with absurd, and I'm sure left wing loons are lining up and getting to fire off a some benign letter to Obama. I'm sure you'll be reported to the "men in black suits", and you'll be getting a little visit from a couple of union guys named Vido and Tony.

Read more other entries :

Saturday, March 1, 2014

Meeting someone that you met online for the first ... What is the best course of action for a dispute li... Why doesn't Obama talk about how globalization has... What should I do about my girlfriend?