How do I discipline my 15 year old sister over the summer?
I myself am 24, and am contemplating having my 15 year old sister spend the summer with my family. She lives in Texas, and we are in Nebraska. She is a great student, she takes honors classes and play the clarinet in the marching band. Totally differnt at home though. Shes been quite unruly the past year and a half. Mainly boy troubles, and disrespecting/being rude my mom. It started with texting cleavage pictures to boys--which led to having her cell taken away, then instant messaging sexual messages on Facebook-- so she has lost her computer privleges at home, she carried on a relationship with a boy three years older than her in a program similar to JROTC, even after being told to stop. Most recently, my mom found out she and this boy had had sex. I wont go into all the details, but I have no problem answering questions about her situation. I want her to come to my house for the summer, not to escape her problems/punishment, but to let her see that she can still be 15. That even though she did let mom down, its not the end of the world. She can still be happy. I want her to go to church, and get involved with a youth group. I'd like her to have a summer job, and take on more responsibilities at home. I want her to learn to communicate, that even when you ahve made a mistake, you can talk about it. She could also play in one of the city's summer sports leagues. I'm stumped for discipline ideas though. She's 15, shes not perfect. I know she will disobey me. There will be a day she comes home late, or doesnt tell me shes going somewhere, or won't clean her room, etc. Just seems whatever discipline my mother uses does not get through. I want her to understand the things she has done are wrong, and that there will be a punishment for it. I just don;t know what. I do plan to discuss discipline/punishment with our mom, I just think we need new ideas! I'd like ot have her know what her punishments will be for certain behaviors... so that I am more enforcing rules and discipline from our mom, than trying to be her boss. I want to try to keep the sister role in this, not take over the mom role. Thanks!
Adolescent - 4 Answers
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my moms Friend has a 20 yr, 16 yr, 10 yr, and a 4 yr and she took in her 14 yr niece on the count of the 14yr old's mom lost her home so they split up the kids anyways...the 14 yr old is the same way yet her aunt just wants to condemn her and not discipline her so if it were i ((in both your situations)) i would make her go to church sun morning and night sundays school and everything and youth group on Wednesday night because if shes around good christian kids shes gonna act better to try to fit in
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Really you can't stop her. The more you try to stop her, the more cool stories she'll have to share to all the boys. She's reaching that age - and all you can do is remind her to continue with her regular routines and maybe share a few stories of your sexual life. A small warning about a few guys will go a long way. Other then that you must give her her space and trust her. She'll be peer pressures into sharing pictures and such; but that's how most girls that age are. You need to remind her of her woman power; and place your trust in her. Maybe continue reminding her you trust her so she will feel guilty in the acts. Sadly if you push to hard to get in the way; you'll make the situations worse.
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Hey!! I'm in Nebraska!! Anyways! I think it's great you want to do this, being a big sister myself, I know what it's like to want to guide the little one. I say you take her out for her favorite food or ice cream and have a talk. Tell her that yeah, what she was doing was bad but you don't think she's a horrible person. Tell her that no matter what everyone is going to love her just the same. Also, give her a self esteem boost. The reason she's sending those pics is because she feels like the only way she will get a guy is by showing off. Same with sex. Take her to get her hair done and teach her how to be a lady. Tell her that playing hard to get is just as effective. I like the job idea. I got a job at 15 and I matured fast. It was great to be able to do what I wanted with my money. I'm sure she wants a car when she turns 16, so this is a great way to save up. Youth group and church are good too. This way she can make friends while she'd down there. As for punishment get her a tracfone. The prepaid phone will help with responsibility! When she gets her job she will be paying for it so I doubt she'll want to use it that much. And make sure you check the phone too. She did something bad and still deserves a punishment, so her privacy rights have been taken away. I would block facebook, myspace, skype, AIM, all of that kind of stuff on your computer. And make sure you are checking the history. Maybe put her in etiquette classes to teach her manners and how to respect her mom and herself. Remember, tell her you love her and that if she works hard at becoming a better person, life at home will become a lot easier. :)
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Punishment isn't going to work anymore. She is fast becoming an adult .. she knows it. What you need to do it talk to her as an equal. She needs to realize that she should stop these things for herself not to avoid punishment. Here's an example ... When I was a teen there were many people offering me drugs. I thought (and still do) people that did drugs were stupid and wanted nothing to do with them. Had I wanted the drugs no amount of punishment would have stopped me from taking them. In your sister's case she has to avoid sex because she wants to. As for punishments... Cleaning her room? Try mocking her filth ... embarrassment is a very big motivator .. so if she doesn't clean it tell her you will post pictures of her room on facebook. When she is late or doesn't tell you where she went.... time to practice your acting skills. Make a big fuss when she comes home. "OMG! I thought you were dead or someone kidnapped you!" Crying as much as you can. Guilt .. also good motivation. Make her swear that she will never ever do that again. As for sex... hmmm... that one is going to be the hardest to manage. As I said no punishment will stop this. Playing devil's advocate you could approach the matter by telling her personal stories (make one up if you have to) about how you had problems because you had sex with someone.
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Thursday, April 14, 2011
Thursday, April 7, 2011
Boyfriends "ex", still dating her or is she crazy?
Boyfriends "ex", still dating her or is she crazy?
My bf of 6 months has an ex gf who lives in Pennsylvania and we live in California. They dated 5 years ago and tried to remain friends. When we first started dating she would text alot, he said they were just friends and that the ex is also best friends with his sister, that is why they stay in touch. I did look in his phone once and saw that she had been dirty texting him, I read the messages they were all her talking about what she would like to do to him. From what I can gather of the situation, he broke up with a girlfriend of two years, met me by chance a few months later, and the Pennsylvania ex was hoping he would date her again. My bf said they got into a huge fight a few months ago but wouldn't specify why other than some things that came up while they were dating was still going on and he put his foot down and put an end to it and they wouldn't be talking anymore. I tried to ask him more and he said it was between he and she and that I was prying. I looked at his ex's Facebook page yesterday and she posts alot of things about him, about how she gave him a second chance, what a jerk he is, how mentally and physically abusive he was and implied they were sleeping together. She also lied to him and said I contacted her on Facebook and we chatted, even though I never did. I don't know if I believe all of this since she lives across the country. Do you guys think she wants him back and is trying to make trouble in our relationship or they were "dating" via phone long distance? I have tried discussing the situation but never asked him outright if they were dating. I could email her, but don't know if she would even tell me the truth.
Singles & Dating - 2 Answers
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Why are you trying to be in contact with her, you just appear to look jealous err something. I believe that your boyfriend has feeling for his ex still, and if they were obviously sexting and you two are together, the ex is probably not lying. Why are you still with the guy and trying to put the blame on the girl. It's his fault, he should know his boundaries but obviously, he doesn't. If I was you, I'd break it off. It's seems as if you're only half the relationship. He's cheating. You deserve better.
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It sounds like he was previously messed up with a psycho with some baggage that she can't let go of. I think you should take a hard line, zero tolerance policy. Tell him that if he ever communicates with her again, you will cut him. Not cut him off, but cut him, like with a sharpened steel blade. Test his loyalty by demanding that he get your name, or perhaps your portrait, tattooed on a visible part of his body. If you find out that he's been wasting you time, then create an itemized bill for everything you've ever bought him, then add 10% "just for putting up with his nonsense". I stayed up late last night and Facebooked with some of my Amish friends in Pennsylvania to see if they had any advice for you. One possible explanation for the dirty texts could be that she was just talking about where she lives. Does she by chance live in or near Intercourse, PA? My Amish friends explained that sometimes non-Amish people get confused when they get a text from an Amish person about that city. Is the ex-girlfriend Amish?
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My bf of 6 months has an ex gf who lives in Pennsylvania and we live in California. They dated 5 years ago and tried to remain friends. When we first started dating she would text alot, he said they were just friends and that the ex is also best friends with his sister, that is why they stay in touch. I did look in his phone once and saw that she had been dirty texting him, I read the messages they were all her talking about what she would like to do to him. From what I can gather of the situation, he broke up with a girlfriend of two years, met me by chance a few months later, and the Pennsylvania ex was hoping he would date her again. My bf said they got into a huge fight a few months ago but wouldn't specify why other than some things that came up while they were dating was still going on and he put his foot down and put an end to it and they wouldn't be talking anymore. I tried to ask him more and he said it was between he and she and that I was prying. I looked at his ex's Facebook page yesterday and she posts alot of things about him, about how she gave him a second chance, what a jerk he is, how mentally and physically abusive he was and implied they were sleeping together. She also lied to him and said I contacted her on Facebook and we chatted, even though I never did. I don't know if I believe all of this since she lives across the country. Do you guys think she wants him back and is trying to make trouble in our relationship or they were "dating" via phone long distance? I have tried discussing the situation but never asked him outright if they were dating. I could email her, but don't know if she would even tell me the truth.
Singles & Dating - 2 Answers
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Why are you trying to be in contact with her, you just appear to look jealous err something. I believe that your boyfriend has feeling for his ex still, and if they were obviously sexting and you two are together, the ex is probably not lying. Why are you still with the guy and trying to put the blame on the girl. It's his fault, he should know his boundaries but obviously, he doesn't. If I was you, I'd break it off. It's seems as if you're only half the relationship. He's cheating. You deserve better.
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It sounds like he was previously messed up with a psycho with some baggage that she can't let go of. I think you should take a hard line, zero tolerance policy. Tell him that if he ever communicates with her again, you will cut him. Not cut him off, but cut him, like with a sharpened steel blade. Test his loyalty by demanding that he get your name, or perhaps your portrait, tattooed on a visible part of his body. If you find out that he's been wasting you time, then create an itemized bill for everything you've ever bought him, then add 10% "just for putting up with his nonsense". I stayed up late last night and Facebooked with some of my Amish friends in Pennsylvania to see if they had any advice for you. One possible explanation for the dirty texts could be that she was just talking about where she lives. Does she by chance live in or near Intercourse, PA? My Amish friends explained that sometimes non-Amish people get confused when they get a text from an Amish person about that city. Is the ex-girlfriend Amish?
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Friday, April 1, 2011
im getting too obsessed with my friend?
im getting too obsessed with my friend?
My friend angie and I started out normal, I looked at her the same as any other friend. She kind of had her group though, and I had mine and I didn't care if she didnt invite me to somethig. But we started spending more time together and then got really close. I just love talking with her-- it's so much fun! We kind of have similar personalities and she's really smart and idk the conversations are the best then I've ever had with another person. I dont have any classes with her so I totally take advantage of the time I do see her. I have to admit, we kind of go off in our own world when we're in a big group and see each other but I didnt really think anyone cared. We're not really "best friends" because she already has one (we havent discussed this though) but shes my FAVORITE friend. However, as we grew closer and closer I'm afraid I'm more annoying. I feel like she's taken over my life. Everything I do, I kind of do with her in mind. She doesnt like ruffles or animal prints -- so I gravitate toward neon colored clothes like she likes. She abhors its always sunny in philadelphia, so even though i secretly like that show, I pretend I dont. I'm always paranoid thats shes going to hang out with other people without me and ill be crushed. i think shes kind of getting tired of me. I really want to keep our friendship amazing like it was but im afraid im getting too clingy. i dont know how to stop, though!!! every facebook status I want to post would be something she likes, because ive trained myself to virtually like all the bands she does (i mean i truly like them but mostly because of her), looking around my room-- a guns n roses poster, a glee poster, beatles blanket, picture of the hot math teacher we both have a crush on (hahaha i know, creepy right??) all are stuff she likes too. i dont know how to get my life back!!! i want to be her best friend but we arent the type to talk about feelings and stuff, you know? she finds that gross. im a girl.. shes a girl...im straight
Friends - 5 Answers
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i think you got a " crush" on her.. but im gna be honest... i have this guy friend whos somtimes annoying but i lov him and he ha a crush on me and hes stalkerish obbsessed.. and that made our friendship weird...
2 :
This is very unattractive of you.
3 :
I think you should give her some space. You two should hang out, but be your own person as well. Your friendship will be much stronger for it. Clingy people get annoying fast.
4 :
Sounds like you like your friend so much that you want to be cool like her, even if it means giving up a few things about yourself. While it's only natural for you to become similar to those who you associate with, it shouldn't mean you become a different person. You probably never met anybody like her and want to be friends with her for a long time. But that still doesn't allow you to lock her up in a cage just for you. Allow her to have other friends too. She isn't going to wake up tomorrow morning with no memory of who you are or something. To get the friendship back to normal it first starts with you. Be who you are. If she is a real friend then she will like you for who you really are. That means take down the posters of stuff she likes in your room because it's YOUR room about YOU, not her. Post what you want to, not what she would like. Wear what you like. Listen to music you like. Then you can focus on the friendship! :) However if you can't talk to her very easily about stuff on your mind then what do you talk about? if she finds it "gross" that you want to tell her, "hey lately i've been feeling ____" or something then that's a wedge in communication and will result in a failed friendship. communication is key in any kind of relationship. good luck
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First, I think you need to be a little honest with yourself, and with this friend of yours, Angie, at least with some of the stuff that you do like, like the weird comedy show, "It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia." You don't have to pretend you don't like it when you actually do. I don't think it would matter to her if you like certain things that she doesn't like, since it seems like you have a lot of similarities as it is. Everyone is different so its expected that we have our preferences in certain interests. You don't have to conform to everything that she particularly likes just to get her to be closer friends with you, or to make her pay more attention to you. If you two are already friends as it is, then that should be enough. In regards to this Angie hanging out with other people, don't over-react if she doesn't invite you to every gathering or hang out, because she probably has other friends she wants to get see and hang out with too. If she brings a friend along, like you, to another friend's event then it can come off as her being a bit inconsiderate and rude, since it's not her event to invite others to come out. You can't expect to know every single one of her friends. But also, don't bring up these thoughts or feelings, making her aware of the situation because you'll then be seen as needy or high maintenance, and that would just make things awkward for her. I do agree that you are becoming a bit clingy though (no disrespect), but try to relax and not think about it too much. If you do, this is the cause of your paranoia, which is making you feel uncomfortable. If you expect her to bring you to every occasion she's been invited, that just doesn't sound realistic. Just be yourself. Friendship depends on the people you choose to trust and rely on. Just because she already has a best friend doesn't mean that she doesn't consider you as a close friend. It seems like you two are already close friends from the sound of it since she's opened up a lot for you to know what she likes and dislikes. Just don't think too much into it and you'll be fine. If you keep asking to hang out and be everywhere with her, she'll start to feel suffocated and you'll just push her away, so keep your distance and give her some space. Remember, you two are already friends so don't do anything that would change it.
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My friend angie and I started out normal, I looked at her the same as any other friend. She kind of had her group though, and I had mine and I didn't care if she didnt invite me to somethig. But we started spending more time together and then got really close. I just love talking with her-- it's so much fun! We kind of have similar personalities and she's really smart and idk the conversations are the best then I've ever had with another person. I dont have any classes with her so I totally take advantage of the time I do see her. I have to admit, we kind of go off in our own world when we're in a big group and see each other but I didnt really think anyone cared. We're not really "best friends" because she already has one (we havent discussed this though) but shes my FAVORITE friend. However, as we grew closer and closer I'm afraid I'm more annoying. I feel like she's taken over my life. Everything I do, I kind of do with her in mind. She doesnt like ruffles or animal prints -- so I gravitate toward neon colored clothes like she likes. She abhors its always sunny in philadelphia, so even though i secretly like that show, I pretend I dont. I'm always paranoid thats shes going to hang out with other people without me and ill be crushed. i think shes kind of getting tired of me. I really want to keep our friendship amazing like it was but im afraid im getting too clingy. i dont know how to stop, though!!! every facebook status I want to post would be something she likes, because ive trained myself to virtually like all the bands she does (i mean i truly like them but mostly because of her), looking around my room-- a guns n roses poster, a glee poster, beatles blanket, picture of the hot math teacher we both have a crush on (hahaha i know, creepy right??) all are stuff she likes too. i dont know how to get my life back!!! i want to be her best friend but we arent the type to talk about feelings and stuff, you know? she finds that gross. im a girl.. shes a girl...im straight
Friends - 5 Answers
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1 :
i think you got a " crush" on her.. but im gna be honest... i have this guy friend whos somtimes annoying but i lov him and he ha a crush on me and hes stalkerish obbsessed.. and that made our friendship weird...
2 :
This is very unattractive of you.
3 :
I think you should give her some space. You two should hang out, but be your own person as well. Your friendship will be much stronger for it. Clingy people get annoying fast.
4 :
Sounds like you like your friend so much that you want to be cool like her, even if it means giving up a few things about yourself. While it's only natural for you to become similar to those who you associate with, it shouldn't mean you become a different person. You probably never met anybody like her and want to be friends with her for a long time. But that still doesn't allow you to lock her up in a cage just for you. Allow her to have other friends too. She isn't going to wake up tomorrow morning with no memory of who you are or something. To get the friendship back to normal it first starts with you. Be who you are. If she is a real friend then she will like you for who you really are. That means take down the posters of stuff she likes in your room because it's YOUR room about YOU, not her. Post what you want to, not what she would like. Wear what you like. Listen to music you like. Then you can focus on the friendship! :) However if you can't talk to her very easily about stuff on your mind then what do you talk about? if she finds it "gross" that you want to tell her, "hey lately i've been feeling ____" or something then that's a wedge in communication and will result in a failed friendship. communication is key in any kind of relationship. good luck
5 :
First, I think you need to be a little honest with yourself, and with this friend of yours, Angie, at least with some of the stuff that you do like, like the weird comedy show, "It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia." You don't have to pretend you don't like it when you actually do. I don't think it would matter to her if you like certain things that she doesn't like, since it seems like you have a lot of similarities as it is. Everyone is different so its expected that we have our preferences in certain interests. You don't have to conform to everything that she particularly likes just to get her to be closer friends with you, or to make her pay more attention to you. If you two are already friends as it is, then that should be enough. In regards to this Angie hanging out with other people, don't over-react if she doesn't invite you to every gathering or hang out, because she probably has other friends she wants to get see and hang out with too. If she brings a friend along, like you, to another friend's event then it can come off as her being a bit inconsiderate and rude, since it's not her event to invite others to come out. You can't expect to know every single one of her friends. But also, don't bring up these thoughts or feelings, making her aware of the situation because you'll then be seen as needy or high maintenance, and that would just make things awkward for her. I do agree that you are becoming a bit clingy though (no disrespect), but try to relax and not think about it too much. If you do, this is the cause of your paranoia, which is making you feel uncomfortable. If you expect her to bring you to every occasion she's been invited, that just doesn't sound realistic. Just be yourself. Friendship depends on the people you choose to trust and rely on. Just because she already has a best friend doesn't mean that she doesn't consider you as a close friend. It seems like you two are already close friends from the sound of it since she's opened up a lot for you to know what she likes and dislikes. Just don't think too much into it and you'll be fine. If you keep asking to hang out and be everywhere with her, she'll start to feel suffocated and you'll just push her away, so keep your distance and give her some space. Remember, you two are already friends so don't do anything that would change it.
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Monday, March 28, 2011
Meeting someone that you met online for the first time...?
Meeting someone that you met online for the first time...?
Okay, here's the situation: My brother knows this guy through playing Halo online with him for over two years. I started talking to this guy when they first started talking but then got busy with my own busy life, so we just ended up not talking anyone. However, I recently got in touch with him again and we've been talking for close to three months (through AIM, Facebook, phone calls, texts, and video chatting) about anything and everything. Although I understand the risks and dangers of meeting someone that I've never met in person before, I'm considering meeting this guy. He lives in Philadelphia, but his roommate lives in the same town as my friend for college so I was possibly thinking we could meet up there when I go down to visit her. Even though I know I can never be positive about how truthful someone I met online is being with me and how they might be different in real life, I still think that through our constant conversations, I have gotten a lot of honest answers out of him. I've never experienced any red flags with him and he isn't pushing me into seeing him or anything. I've seen recent pictures of him and his family and like I said, video chat with him almost every night and we talk in some form every day. I've discussed this with my parents (I'm 19) and my mom says that he should come up here, and although my dad agrees, he also understands where I'm coming from. I was just curious as to how other people felt about this. I wasn't planning on meeting him alone or in a secluded spot. Like I said it's a possibility we could meet up in a neutral location (where my friend from college lives) and I could meet him and his former roommate with my friend tagging along. Another possibility is having him come up here. A final possibility (although I don't know how many people are going to agree with it) is to discuss the possibility of me visiting with his parents (he's 19 as well) and see how they feel about it, and make sure we are supervised by them, and me go down to see him (it's about a 5 hour drive). I want to do this the right and safe way, because I know that there are bad people out there and what not, and it means a lot to me to make sure I am safe.
Other - Family & Relationships - 2 Answers
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never meet people onlineee. its just wierd and it oculd leave you hurt in the end. if you really wanna meet people off there have someone with you (a group of friends) and never go anywhere alone with the person you meet until you know them for a while
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Ok I say its a fifty fifty chance. I have been in a similar situation to yours. I used to be friends with this guy comming out of middle school and he moved to a different state than me, We lost conatact for about a year and a half and he went through a horrible relationship. We stared talking and eventually he ended up coming back here and we are now married but honestly I was scared shitless to see him again for the first time in three years. So itcould turn out bad or good. Hope this helped
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Okay, here's the situation: My brother knows this guy through playing Halo online with him for over two years. I started talking to this guy when they first started talking but then got busy with my own busy life, so we just ended up not talking anyone. However, I recently got in touch with him again and we've been talking for close to three months (through AIM, Facebook, phone calls, texts, and video chatting) about anything and everything. Although I understand the risks and dangers of meeting someone that I've never met in person before, I'm considering meeting this guy. He lives in Philadelphia, but his roommate lives in the same town as my friend for college so I was possibly thinking we could meet up there when I go down to visit her. Even though I know I can never be positive about how truthful someone I met online is being with me and how they might be different in real life, I still think that through our constant conversations, I have gotten a lot of honest answers out of him. I've never experienced any red flags with him and he isn't pushing me into seeing him or anything. I've seen recent pictures of him and his family and like I said, video chat with him almost every night and we talk in some form every day. I've discussed this with my parents (I'm 19) and my mom says that he should come up here, and although my dad agrees, he also understands where I'm coming from. I was just curious as to how other people felt about this. I wasn't planning on meeting him alone or in a secluded spot. Like I said it's a possibility we could meet up in a neutral location (where my friend from college lives) and I could meet him and his former roommate with my friend tagging along. Another possibility is having him come up here. A final possibility (although I don't know how many people are going to agree with it) is to discuss the possibility of me visiting with his parents (he's 19 as well) and see how they feel about it, and make sure we are supervised by them, and me go down to see him (it's about a 5 hour drive). I want to do this the right and safe way, because I know that there are bad people out there and what not, and it means a lot to me to make sure I am safe.
Other - Family & Relationships - 2 Answers
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never meet people onlineee. its just wierd and it oculd leave you hurt in the end. if you really wanna meet people off there have someone with you (a group of friends) and never go anywhere alone with the person you meet until you know them for a while
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Ok I say its a fifty fifty chance. I have been in a similar situation to yours. I used to be friends with this guy comming out of middle school and he moved to a different state than me, We lost conatact for about a year and a half and he went through a horrible relationship. We stared talking and eventually he ended up coming back here and we are now married but honestly I was scared shitless to see him again for the first time in three years. So itcould turn out bad or good. Hope this helped
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Monday, March 14, 2011
What is the best course of action for a dispute like this?
What is the best course of action for a dispute like this?
About a year ago, I loaned someone about 200 dollars worth of DVDs (House seasons 1 - 4) so he could watch them. I've been asking for them since and he keeps promising he'll give them to me but he never does. About two months ago, he invited a friend I was with to dinner. When my friend told him he was already out, he wanted me to go, but I had no money -- so he fronted me 14 dollars for dinner. He knows I don't have cash -- I am in so much trouble right now I can't even pay my rent, my car note, my utilities, my credit card bills, nothing. I skipped all my bills this month so I could buy myself food. I DID, however, get a job offer (a NICE one) and I made some comment on Facebook about getting a "sweet job offer." 12am, the guy calls me and I answer the phone and the first thing I hear is, "What job offer?" I respond that I'm not willing to discuss that and chuckle, and he snaps "Like your not going to give me my money like I won't give you your DVDs." He immediately hangs up before I can even explain myself. I repay my debts. But the money just physically isn't there. On the other hand, I've been very kind and patient with him for over a year. That phone call, being treated like that.. enough is enough. I live in Tempe, Arizona. I am NOT familiar with the area or the legal system, but would anyone know how much would it put me out to try and take action against this guy for the return of my DVDs or their cash value? I did not have a contract or anything, it was just a friendly gesture.
Law Enforcement & Police - 2 Answers
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First pay him the $14 so that's out of the way. Then tell him unless he returns the DVD's you will take him to Small Claims Court - if he doesn't, go ahead with it. The local Clerk of the Courts office should be able to help you.
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Go to small claims court and ask if you can petition your discs. Also try and put a dollar amount on theses CD's to give the judge the amount you are out. It sounds like your friend has never attempted to give them back. Also try and remember what order they were in, and a small description of your address book ? Then and only them I recommend seeing a lawyer who like those kinds of details.
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About a year ago, I loaned someone about 200 dollars worth of DVDs (House seasons 1 - 4) so he could watch them. I've been asking for them since and he keeps promising he'll give them to me but he never does. About two months ago, he invited a friend I was with to dinner. When my friend told him he was already out, he wanted me to go, but I had no money -- so he fronted me 14 dollars for dinner. He knows I don't have cash -- I am in so much trouble right now I can't even pay my rent, my car note, my utilities, my credit card bills, nothing. I skipped all my bills this month so I could buy myself food. I DID, however, get a job offer (a NICE one) and I made some comment on Facebook about getting a "sweet job offer." 12am, the guy calls me and I answer the phone and the first thing I hear is, "What job offer?" I respond that I'm not willing to discuss that and chuckle, and he snaps "Like your not going to give me my money like I won't give you your DVDs." He immediately hangs up before I can even explain myself. I repay my debts. But the money just physically isn't there. On the other hand, I've been very kind and patient with him for over a year. That phone call, being treated like that.. enough is enough. I live in Tempe, Arizona. I am NOT familiar with the area or the legal system, but would anyone know how much would it put me out to try and take action against this guy for the return of my DVDs or their cash value? I did not have a contract or anything, it was just a friendly gesture.
Law Enforcement & Police - 2 Answers
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First pay him the $14 so that's out of the way. Then tell him unless he returns the DVD's you will take him to Small Claims Court - if he doesn't, go ahead with it. The local Clerk of the Courts office should be able to help you.
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Go to small claims court and ask if you can petition your discs. Also try and put a dollar amount on theses CD's to give the judge the amount you are out. It sounds like your friend has never attempted to give them back. Also try and remember what order they were in, and a small description of your address book ? Then and only them I recommend seeing a lawyer who like those kinds of details.
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Monday, March 7, 2011
Why doesn't Obama talk about how globalization has ruined the middle class?
Why doesn't Obama talk about how globalization has ruined the middle class?
It is an age old plan. But it has worked for years. Make sure all we talk about are divisive issues that divide us according to our culture or religious beliefs or skin color or ethnicity. This is done to keep us from focusing on what is happening in this country. THE ONLY ISSUE worth discussing is that we are being taken over by multinational corporations that wish to convert this country into little more than an outsourcing service center, serviced alone by fast-food chains, stores like Wal-mart and ignorant, cheap labor. And thanks to globalization, they have largely succeeded. The machine that has grown up to keep us from discussing this horrible truth is the cable news channel. Day after day, supposed liberals like Olbermann, Mathews, and Maddow TAKE THE BATE (from supposed conservatives like Hannity and Beck) and participate in endless, pointless discussions with their $1000-an-appearance-guests about how there are no death panels, about how Obama is not a racist and about how CRAZY that kooky Sarah Palin is. And can you believe they STILL think Obama’s not American? And hey, what about that crazy new Arizona immigration law? Politicians who have become little more than robots for the super rich have aided in this demonic plan of distraction and have helped to drive the mainstream media into chasing one distracting issue after another. It is not enough that these sold-out-politicians are daily sponsoring laws that give multinational corporations even more power over the average worker. They also keep the distraction machine going by stating one audacious lie after another into the cable news echo chamber. All we need is some off-the-wall comment by Michele Bachmann or some facebook tweet from Palin or an offensive comment by Limbaugh or some racist Tea Party rally and we are off to the races. Another day goes by and we are only more divided. Another day goes by and we didn’t mention Globalization at all. Mission accomplished! Today we are made to discuss the claims that we have a socialist in the White House; tomorrow we are made to discuss bigots who seek to circumvent the American tradition of the freedom of religion. Oh and did you hear that Beck and Palin gave a speech on the Lincoln Memorial to commemorate MLK!? The gall of those idiots! Oh, and let us not forget the whole Quran-burning insanity. On a conveyor belt of sorts, the distractions keep coming and they never cease. I propose that we stop allowing ourselves to be conned into discussing these non-issues. We’ve got to sound the REAL alarm instead of wasting our time debunking all the fake ones. The most urgent and alarming fact we should be stating every time one of these fake issues gets raised is: Globalization has completely destroyed our middle class!! Period, end of story. It is the proverbial 1000-pound gorilla in the room that nobody in public life is acknowledging. If Obama wants an issue upon which to win a second term, not to mention the midterms, it is right here staring at him in the face. The unemployment rate is all the proof we need that action must be taken NOW. Countries who’ve been protecting their labor with tariffs are doing much better right now than we are even in these hard economic times. It’s just that simple. Look at China! Will Obama wake up and seize the moment? Or is he really just the new outsourcing-branch-manager-in-chief? http://www.hatingitmagazine.com/2010/09/10/a-hating-it-game-of-distraction/ hey Reagan-Jeffersonian Party Member, why don't you wake up! If we had all the manufacturing jobs that we lost from Globalization here right now, we wouldn't be at almost 10% unemployment. hey iconoclast60, don't give me that. Multi-national corporations hate paying fare wages, so they bought the gov't and forced it to get rid of our tariffs, just to circumvent union efforts to protect US worker rights. And your ignorance only aids these greedy bastards in their neofeudalistic designs. oops, I meant "fair" wages!
Politics - 9 Answers
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As Obama was voted in by the majority of voters, I don't imagine that it is him that is doing the dividing
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I think he favors globalization, as do most progressives, more that he worries about the trials of the middle class.
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You can't stop the world from turning. America believes in the capital markets that
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He wants to get elceted for another term
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Because globalisation if it exists at all is a bunch of bull.
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We all know this bud. Neither party is going to help so what would you like to do? State government is completely bought out they make the national leadership look clean. So you want to what start a email campaign a C-SPAN call in campaign? Obama is going to have to be reelected I don't hold any hope out for much changing until he is a lame duck and can do what needs doing without worrying about an election.
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Obama is not man enough to do it. There is probably only one person that has the balls to do it. They call him a crazy old man. I think we all know who it is. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QbOzUQm1ms0
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It hasnt. Imagine if we cut off major markets like India. Our production would plummet, along with jobs.
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Your post sounds like a pep rally speech at a union convention. I blame unions not corporations for our woes. Unions killed the maritime business and the auto industry.
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It is an age old plan. But it has worked for years. Make sure all we talk about are divisive issues that divide us according to our culture or religious beliefs or skin color or ethnicity. This is done to keep us from focusing on what is happening in this country. THE ONLY ISSUE worth discussing is that we are being taken over by multinational corporations that wish to convert this country into little more than an outsourcing service center, serviced alone by fast-food chains, stores like Wal-mart and ignorant, cheap labor. And thanks to globalization, they have largely succeeded. The machine that has grown up to keep us from discussing this horrible truth is the cable news channel. Day after day, supposed liberals like Olbermann, Mathews, and Maddow TAKE THE BATE (from supposed conservatives like Hannity and Beck) and participate in endless, pointless discussions with their $1000-an-appearance-guests about how there are no death panels, about how Obama is not a racist and about how CRAZY that kooky Sarah Palin is. And can you believe they STILL think Obama’s not American? And hey, what about that crazy new Arizona immigration law? Politicians who have become little more than robots for the super rich have aided in this demonic plan of distraction and have helped to drive the mainstream media into chasing one distracting issue after another. It is not enough that these sold-out-politicians are daily sponsoring laws that give multinational corporations even more power over the average worker. They also keep the distraction machine going by stating one audacious lie after another into the cable news echo chamber. All we need is some off-the-wall comment by Michele Bachmann or some facebook tweet from Palin or an offensive comment by Limbaugh or some racist Tea Party rally and we are off to the races. Another day goes by and we are only more divided. Another day goes by and we didn’t mention Globalization at all. Mission accomplished! Today we are made to discuss the claims that we have a socialist in the White House; tomorrow we are made to discuss bigots who seek to circumvent the American tradition of the freedom of religion. Oh and did you hear that Beck and Palin gave a speech on the Lincoln Memorial to commemorate MLK!? The gall of those idiots! Oh, and let us not forget the whole Quran-burning insanity. On a conveyor belt of sorts, the distractions keep coming and they never cease. I propose that we stop allowing ourselves to be conned into discussing these non-issues. We’ve got to sound the REAL alarm instead of wasting our time debunking all the fake ones. The most urgent and alarming fact we should be stating every time one of these fake issues gets raised is: Globalization has completely destroyed our middle class!! Period, end of story. It is the proverbial 1000-pound gorilla in the room that nobody in public life is acknowledging. If Obama wants an issue upon which to win a second term, not to mention the midterms, it is right here staring at him in the face. The unemployment rate is all the proof we need that action must be taken NOW. Countries who’ve been protecting their labor with tariffs are doing much better right now than we are even in these hard economic times. It’s just that simple. Look at China! Will Obama wake up and seize the moment? Or is he really just the new outsourcing-branch-manager-in-chief? http://www.hatingitmagazine.com/2010/09/10/a-hating-it-game-of-distraction/ hey Reagan-Jeffersonian Party Member, why don't you wake up! If we had all the manufacturing jobs that we lost from Globalization here right now, we wouldn't be at almost 10% unemployment. hey iconoclast60, don't give me that. Multi-national corporations hate paying fare wages, so they bought the gov't and forced it to get rid of our tariffs, just to circumvent union efforts to protect US worker rights. And your ignorance only aids these greedy bastards in their neofeudalistic designs. oops, I meant "fair" wages!
Politics - 9 Answers
Random Answers, Critics, Comments, Opinions :
1 :
As Obama was voted in by the majority of voters, I don't imagine that it is him that is doing the dividing
2 :
I think he favors globalization, as do most progressives, more that he worries about the trials of the middle class.
3 :
You can't stop the world from turning. America believes in the capital markets that
4 :
He wants to get elceted for another term
5 :
Because globalisation if it exists at all is a bunch of bull.
6 :
We all know this bud. Neither party is going to help so what would you like to do? State government is completely bought out they make the national leadership look clean. So you want to what start a email campaign a C-SPAN call in campaign? Obama is going to have to be reelected I don't hold any hope out for much changing until he is a lame duck and can do what needs doing without worrying about an election.
7 :
Obama is not man enough to do it. There is probably only one person that has the balls to do it. They call him a crazy old man. I think we all know who it is. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QbOzUQm1ms0
8 :
It hasnt. Imagine if we cut off major markets like India. Our production would plummet, along with jobs.
9 :
Your post sounds like a pep rally speech at a union convention. I blame unions not corporations for our woes. Unions killed the maritime business and the auto industry.
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Tuesday, March 1, 2011
What should I do about my girlfriend?
What should I do about my girlfriend?
I recently about 2 months ago broke up with my girlfriend. We dated for about 4 to 5 months and it was completely amazing. She always stayed over and we did everything together. It actually became really serious really fast and I took as a serious relationship. I met her family they loved me and she loved mine. In December she will be moving back to Texas where she is from. She is only attending school here. Talks of me moving to Texas to be with her were also discussed. I really fell for this girl. Well the week we broke up she had a girls night out of town she had to go to. None of the girls ended up going (which I knew would happen.) and she ended up going out on the town with her ex all night and staying on his couch. Well her ex turns out to be one of my best friends from HS that she had no idea. Rest assured I was very angry and didnt trust anything had not happened. Nothing did of course and we decided to be friends after the break up and made the mistake of hooking up and still seeing each other. Now she admits that was her trying to hold on to me and work things out. Which I had no idea that's what she was doing. Well now 2 months later she is sleeping with one of my best friends and wont talk to me or anything and deleted me from facebook. Heres the thing.... I was very very angry all the time and did things like texted her in the middle of the night cussing her out for me feeling betrayed. Now she doesnt want a friendship and is sorry for hurting me and is sorry for dating my friend. I still really care about her and feel bad about the text and anger. I realize that I took it all too serious and she just wanted someone to hold her at night and just be there for her. She was really just lonely. She actually cared about me but didnt mean to make things so serious. Should I forget her or write her a letter? Should I feel bad or apologize to her. I know I will run into her intentionally again. Ill be in Texas in the Airforce. I love her what should I do? My friends don't understand why I can't get over here but I think it's because everything came crashing down at once. I'm also very sensitive to this subject. I didn't want a girlfriend and I've slept around a lot I'm 24 and I've slept with 31 women in the past 4 years and I'm just tired of it. As soon as I met her I was like ok this is something I would love. I've never had more fun with anyone and never wanted to take care of someone so much. When she left I felt like I lost a part of myself. My mom killed herself when I was 8 and my stepmom of 10 years left in the middle of the night and moved to Alaska and never talked to me again. I can't loose her.
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I'm sorry for what you've been through, i also lost my mother in a similar way. If you truly care about this girl as much as you say you do I think you should meet with her face to face and talk about it. Don't blame all of the mistakes on you, or her. She shouldn't have done what she did, and you shouldn't have reacted the way you did. Let her know that it's obvious that you both need to work on some things. Which is fine! No relationship is perfect. If she wants to move on, don't push it. Maybe a few years down the road, she'll come back. Maybe she won't. Accept the answer that you're given. I don't believe that there is only one person out there for each person. usually, people come across several people in their lifetime that they fall for, very hard. Heartbreak is apart of life. Some people are fortunate enough to not have it happen, but it is very rare. If you made it through what you've been through already, then buddy, you can make it through anything else that is thrown at you. You will find someone to be with for the rest of your life. And if this girl doesn't want to be the one, its not meant to be and you WILL find someone else eventually if you keep your eye out and don't give up. Good luck :)
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I recently about 2 months ago broke up with my girlfriend. We dated for about 4 to 5 months and it was completely amazing. She always stayed over and we did everything together. It actually became really serious really fast and I took as a serious relationship. I met her family they loved me and she loved mine. In December she will be moving back to Texas where she is from. She is only attending school here. Talks of me moving to Texas to be with her were also discussed. I really fell for this girl. Well the week we broke up she had a girls night out of town she had to go to. None of the girls ended up going (which I knew would happen.) and she ended up going out on the town with her ex all night and staying on his couch. Well her ex turns out to be one of my best friends from HS that she had no idea. Rest assured I was very angry and didnt trust anything had not happened. Nothing did of course and we decided to be friends after the break up and made the mistake of hooking up and still seeing each other. Now she admits that was her trying to hold on to me and work things out. Which I had no idea that's what she was doing. Well now 2 months later she is sleeping with one of my best friends and wont talk to me or anything and deleted me from facebook. Heres the thing.... I was very very angry all the time and did things like texted her in the middle of the night cussing her out for me feeling betrayed. Now she doesnt want a friendship and is sorry for hurting me and is sorry for dating my friend. I still really care about her and feel bad about the text and anger. I realize that I took it all too serious and she just wanted someone to hold her at night and just be there for her. She was really just lonely. She actually cared about me but didnt mean to make things so serious. Should I forget her or write her a letter? Should I feel bad or apologize to her. I know I will run into her intentionally again. Ill be in Texas in the Airforce. I love her what should I do? My friends don't understand why I can't get over here but I think it's because everything came crashing down at once. I'm also very sensitive to this subject. I didn't want a girlfriend and I've slept around a lot I'm 24 and I've slept with 31 women in the past 4 years and I'm just tired of it. As soon as I met her I was like ok this is something I would love. I've never had more fun with anyone and never wanted to take care of someone so much. When she left I felt like I lost a part of myself. My mom killed herself when I was 8 and my stepmom of 10 years left in the middle of the night and moved to Alaska and never talked to me again. I can't loose her.
Singles & Dating - 1 Answers
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I'm sorry for what you've been through, i also lost my mother in a similar way. If you truly care about this girl as much as you say you do I think you should meet with her face to face and talk about it. Don't blame all of the mistakes on you, or her. She shouldn't have done what she did, and you shouldn't have reacted the way you did. Let her know that it's obvious that you both need to work on some things. Which is fine! No relationship is perfect. If she wants to move on, don't push it. Maybe a few years down the road, she'll come back. Maybe she won't. Accept the answer that you're given. I don't believe that there is only one person out there for each person. usually, people come across several people in their lifetime that they fall for, very hard. Heartbreak is apart of life. Some people are fortunate enough to not have it happen, but it is very rare. If you made it through what you've been through already, then buddy, you can make it through anything else that is thrown at you. You will find someone to be with for the rest of your life. And if this girl doesn't want to be the one, its not meant to be and you WILL find someone else eventually if you keep your eye out and don't give up. Good luck :)
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