Meeting someone that you met online for the first time...?
Okay, here's the situation: My brother knows this guy through playing Halo online with him for over two years. I started talking to this guy when they first started talking but then got busy with my own busy life, so we just ended up not talking anyone. However, I recently got in touch with him again and we've been talking for close to three months (through AIM, Facebook, phone calls, texts, and video chatting) about anything and everything. Although I understand the risks and dangers of meeting someone that I've never met in person before, I'm considering meeting this guy. He lives in Philadelphia, but his roommate lives in the same town as my friend for college so I was possibly thinking we could meet up there when I go down to visit her. Even though I know I can never be positive about how truthful someone I met online is being with me and how they might be different in real life, I still think that through our constant conversations, I have gotten a lot of honest answers out of him. I've never experienced any red flags with him and he isn't pushing me into seeing him or anything. I've seen recent pictures of him and his family and like I said, video chat with him almost every night and we talk in some form every day. I've discussed this with my parents (I'm 19) and my mom says that he should come up here, and although my dad agrees, he also understands where I'm coming from. I was just curious as to how other people felt about this. I wasn't planning on meeting him alone or in a secluded spot. Like I said it's a possibility we could meet up in a neutral location (where my friend from college lives) and I could meet him and his former roommate with my friend tagging along. Another possibility is having him come up here. A final possibility (although I don't know how many people are going to agree with it) is to discuss the possibility of me visiting with his parents (he's 19 as well) and see how they feel about it, and make sure we are supervised by them, and me go down to see him (it's about a 5 hour drive). I want to do this the right and safe way, because I know that there are bad people out there and what not, and it means a lot to me to make sure I am safe.
Other - Family & Relationships - 2 Answers
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never meet people onlineee. its just wierd and it oculd leave you hurt in the end. if you really wanna meet people off there have someone with you (a group of friends) and never go anywhere alone with the person you meet until you know them for a while
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Ok I say its a fifty fifty chance. I have been in a similar situation to yours. I used to be friends with this guy comming out of middle school and he moved to a different state than me, We lost conatact for about a year and a half and he went through a horrible relationship. We stared talking and eventually he ended up coming back here and we are now married but honestly I was scared shitless to see him again for the first time in three years. So itcould turn out bad or good. Hope this helped
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Monday, March 28, 2011
Monday, March 14, 2011
What is the best course of action for a dispute like this?
What is the best course of action for a dispute like this?
About a year ago, I loaned someone about 200 dollars worth of DVDs (House seasons 1 - 4) so he could watch them. I've been asking for them since and he keeps promising he'll give them to me but he never does. About two months ago, he invited a friend I was with to dinner. When my friend told him he was already out, he wanted me to go, but I had no money -- so he fronted me 14 dollars for dinner. He knows I don't have cash -- I am in so much trouble right now I can't even pay my rent, my car note, my utilities, my credit card bills, nothing. I skipped all my bills this month so I could buy myself food. I DID, however, get a job offer (a NICE one) and I made some comment on Facebook about getting a "sweet job offer." 12am, the guy calls me and I answer the phone and the first thing I hear is, "What job offer?" I respond that I'm not willing to discuss that and chuckle, and he snaps "Like your not going to give me my money like I won't give you your DVDs." He immediately hangs up before I can even explain myself. I repay my debts. But the money just physically isn't there. On the other hand, I've been very kind and patient with him for over a year. That phone call, being treated like that.. enough is enough. I live in Tempe, Arizona. I am NOT familiar with the area or the legal system, but would anyone know how much would it put me out to try and take action against this guy for the return of my DVDs or their cash value? I did not have a contract or anything, it was just a friendly gesture.
Law Enforcement & Police - 2 Answers
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First pay him the $14 so that's out of the way. Then tell him unless he returns the DVD's you will take him to Small Claims Court - if he doesn't, go ahead with it. The local Clerk of the Courts office should be able to help you.
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Go to small claims court and ask if you can petition your discs. Also try and put a dollar amount on theses CD's to give the judge the amount you are out. It sounds like your friend has never attempted to give them back. Also try and remember what order they were in, and a small description of your address book ? Then and only them I recommend seeing a lawyer who like those kinds of details.
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About a year ago, I loaned someone about 200 dollars worth of DVDs (House seasons 1 - 4) so he could watch them. I've been asking for them since and he keeps promising he'll give them to me but he never does. About two months ago, he invited a friend I was with to dinner. When my friend told him he was already out, he wanted me to go, but I had no money -- so he fronted me 14 dollars for dinner. He knows I don't have cash -- I am in so much trouble right now I can't even pay my rent, my car note, my utilities, my credit card bills, nothing. I skipped all my bills this month so I could buy myself food. I DID, however, get a job offer (a NICE one) and I made some comment on Facebook about getting a "sweet job offer." 12am, the guy calls me and I answer the phone and the first thing I hear is, "What job offer?" I respond that I'm not willing to discuss that and chuckle, and he snaps "Like your not going to give me my money like I won't give you your DVDs." He immediately hangs up before I can even explain myself. I repay my debts. But the money just physically isn't there. On the other hand, I've been very kind and patient with him for over a year. That phone call, being treated like that.. enough is enough. I live in Tempe, Arizona. I am NOT familiar with the area or the legal system, but would anyone know how much would it put me out to try and take action against this guy for the return of my DVDs or their cash value? I did not have a contract or anything, it was just a friendly gesture.
Law Enforcement & Police - 2 Answers
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First pay him the $14 so that's out of the way. Then tell him unless he returns the DVD's you will take him to Small Claims Court - if he doesn't, go ahead with it. The local Clerk of the Courts office should be able to help you.
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Go to small claims court and ask if you can petition your discs. Also try and put a dollar amount on theses CD's to give the judge the amount you are out. It sounds like your friend has never attempted to give them back. Also try and remember what order they were in, and a small description of your address book ? Then and only them I recommend seeing a lawyer who like those kinds of details.
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Monday, March 7, 2011
Why doesn't Obama talk about how globalization has ruined the middle class?
Why doesn't Obama talk about how globalization has ruined the middle class?
It is an age old plan. But it has worked for years. Make sure all we talk about are divisive issues that divide us according to our culture or religious beliefs or skin color or ethnicity. This is done to keep us from focusing on what is happening in this country. THE ONLY ISSUE worth discussing is that we are being taken over by multinational corporations that wish to convert this country into little more than an outsourcing service center, serviced alone by fast-food chains, stores like Wal-mart and ignorant, cheap labor. And thanks to globalization, they have largely succeeded. The machine that has grown up to keep us from discussing this horrible truth is the cable news channel. Day after day, supposed liberals like Olbermann, Mathews, and Maddow TAKE THE BATE (from supposed conservatives like Hannity and Beck) and participate in endless, pointless discussions with their $1000-an-appearance-guests about how there are no death panels, about how Obama is not a racist and about how CRAZY that kooky Sarah Palin is. And can you believe they STILL think Obama’s not American? And hey, what about that crazy new Arizona immigration law? Politicians who have become little more than robots for the super rich have aided in this demonic plan of distraction and have helped to drive the mainstream media into chasing one distracting issue after another. It is not enough that these sold-out-politicians are daily sponsoring laws that give multinational corporations even more power over the average worker. They also keep the distraction machine going by stating one audacious lie after another into the cable news echo chamber. All we need is some off-the-wall comment by Michele Bachmann or some facebook tweet from Palin or an offensive comment by Limbaugh or some racist Tea Party rally and we are off to the races. Another day goes by and we are only more divided. Another day goes by and we didn’t mention Globalization at all. Mission accomplished! Today we are made to discuss the claims that we have a socialist in the White House; tomorrow we are made to discuss bigots who seek to circumvent the American tradition of the freedom of religion. Oh and did you hear that Beck and Palin gave a speech on the Lincoln Memorial to commemorate MLK!? The gall of those idiots! Oh, and let us not forget the whole Quran-burning insanity. On a conveyor belt of sorts, the distractions keep coming and they never cease. I propose that we stop allowing ourselves to be conned into discussing these non-issues. We’ve got to sound the REAL alarm instead of wasting our time debunking all the fake ones. The most urgent and alarming fact we should be stating every time one of these fake issues gets raised is: Globalization has completely destroyed our middle class!! Period, end of story. It is the proverbial 1000-pound gorilla in the room that nobody in public life is acknowledging. If Obama wants an issue upon which to win a second term, not to mention the midterms, it is right here staring at him in the face. The unemployment rate is all the proof we need that action must be taken NOW. Countries who’ve been protecting their labor with tariffs are doing much better right now than we are even in these hard economic times. It’s just that simple. Look at China! Will Obama wake up and seize the moment? Or is he really just the new outsourcing-branch-manager-in-chief? http://www.hatingitmagazine.com/2010/09/10/a-hating-it-game-of-distraction/ hey Reagan-Jeffersonian Party Member, why don't you wake up! If we had all the manufacturing jobs that we lost from Globalization here right now, we wouldn't be at almost 10% unemployment. hey iconoclast60, don't give me that. Multi-national corporations hate paying fare wages, so they bought the gov't and forced it to get rid of our tariffs, just to circumvent union efforts to protect US worker rights. And your ignorance only aids these greedy bastards in their neofeudalistic designs. oops, I meant "fair" wages!
Politics - 9 Answers
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As Obama was voted in by the majority of voters, I don't imagine that it is him that is doing the dividing
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I think he favors globalization, as do most progressives, more that he worries about the trials of the middle class.
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You can't stop the world from turning. America believes in the capital markets that
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He wants to get elceted for another term
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Because globalisation if it exists at all is a bunch of bull.
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We all know this bud. Neither party is going to help so what would you like to do? State government is completely bought out they make the national leadership look clean. So you want to what start a email campaign a C-SPAN call in campaign? Obama is going to have to be reelected I don't hold any hope out for much changing until he is a lame duck and can do what needs doing without worrying about an election.
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Obama is not man enough to do it. There is probably only one person that has the balls to do it. They call him a crazy old man. I think we all know who it is. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QbOzUQm1ms0
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It hasnt. Imagine if we cut off major markets like India. Our production would plummet, along with jobs.
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Your post sounds like a pep rally speech at a union convention. I blame unions not corporations for our woes. Unions killed the maritime business and the auto industry.
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It is an age old plan. But it has worked for years. Make sure all we talk about are divisive issues that divide us according to our culture or religious beliefs or skin color or ethnicity. This is done to keep us from focusing on what is happening in this country. THE ONLY ISSUE worth discussing is that we are being taken over by multinational corporations that wish to convert this country into little more than an outsourcing service center, serviced alone by fast-food chains, stores like Wal-mart and ignorant, cheap labor. And thanks to globalization, they have largely succeeded. The machine that has grown up to keep us from discussing this horrible truth is the cable news channel. Day after day, supposed liberals like Olbermann, Mathews, and Maddow TAKE THE BATE (from supposed conservatives like Hannity and Beck) and participate in endless, pointless discussions with their $1000-an-appearance-guests about how there are no death panels, about how Obama is not a racist and about how CRAZY that kooky Sarah Palin is. And can you believe they STILL think Obama’s not American? And hey, what about that crazy new Arizona immigration law? Politicians who have become little more than robots for the super rich have aided in this demonic plan of distraction and have helped to drive the mainstream media into chasing one distracting issue after another. It is not enough that these sold-out-politicians are daily sponsoring laws that give multinational corporations even more power over the average worker. They also keep the distraction machine going by stating one audacious lie after another into the cable news echo chamber. All we need is some off-the-wall comment by Michele Bachmann or some facebook tweet from Palin or an offensive comment by Limbaugh or some racist Tea Party rally and we are off to the races. Another day goes by and we are only more divided. Another day goes by and we didn’t mention Globalization at all. Mission accomplished! Today we are made to discuss the claims that we have a socialist in the White House; tomorrow we are made to discuss bigots who seek to circumvent the American tradition of the freedom of religion. Oh and did you hear that Beck and Palin gave a speech on the Lincoln Memorial to commemorate MLK!? The gall of those idiots! Oh, and let us not forget the whole Quran-burning insanity. On a conveyor belt of sorts, the distractions keep coming and they never cease. I propose that we stop allowing ourselves to be conned into discussing these non-issues. We’ve got to sound the REAL alarm instead of wasting our time debunking all the fake ones. The most urgent and alarming fact we should be stating every time one of these fake issues gets raised is: Globalization has completely destroyed our middle class!! Period, end of story. It is the proverbial 1000-pound gorilla in the room that nobody in public life is acknowledging. If Obama wants an issue upon which to win a second term, not to mention the midterms, it is right here staring at him in the face. The unemployment rate is all the proof we need that action must be taken NOW. Countries who’ve been protecting their labor with tariffs are doing much better right now than we are even in these hard economic times. It’s just that simple. Look at China! Will Obama wake up and seize the moment? Or is he really just the new outsourcing-branch-manager-in-chief? http://www.hatingitmagazine.com/2010/09/10/a-hating-it-game-of-distraction/ hey Reagan-Jeffersonian Party Member, why don't you wake up! If we had all the manufacturing jobs that we lost from Globalization here right now, we wouldn't be at almost 10% unemployment. hey iconoclast60, don't give me that. Multi-national corporations hate paying fare wages, so they bought the gov't and forced it to get rid of our tariffs, just to circumvent union efforts to protect US worker rights. And your ignorance only aids these greedy bastards in their neofeudalistic designs. oops, I meant "fair" wages!
Politics - 9 Answers
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As Obama was voted in by the majority of voters, I don't imagine that it is him that is doing the dividing
2 :
I think he favors globalization, as do most progressives, more that he worries about the trials of the middle class.
3 :
You can't stop the world from turning. America believes in the capital markets that
4 :
He wants to get elceted for another term
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Because globalisation if it exists at all is a bunch of bull.
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We all know this bud. Neither party is going to help so what would you like to do? State government is completely bought out they make the national leadership look clean. So you want to what start a email campaign a C-SPAN call in campaign? Obama is going to have to be reelected I don't hold any hope out for much changing until he is a lame duck and can do what needs doing without worrying about an election.
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Obama is not man enough to do it. There is probably only one person that has the balls to do it. They call him a crazy old man. I think we all know who it is. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QbOzUQm1ms0
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It hasnt. Imagine if we cut off major markets like India. Our production would plummet, along with jobs.
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Your post sounds like a pep rally speech at a union convention. I blame unions not corporations for our woes. Unions killed the maritime business and the auto industry.
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Tuesday, March 1, 2011
What should I do about my girlfriend?
What should I do about my girlfriend?
I recently about 2 months ago broke up with my girlfriend. We dated for about 4 to 5 months and it was completely amazing. She always stayed over and we did everything together. It actually became really serious really fast and I took as a serious relationship. I met her family they loved me and she loved mine. In December she will be moving back to Texas where she is from. She is only attending school here. Talks of me moving to Texas to be with her were also discussed. I really fell for this girl. Well the week we broke up she had a girls night out of town she had to go to. None of the girls ended up going (which I knew would happen.) and she ended up going out on the town with her ex all night and staying on his couch. Well her ex turns out to be one of my best friends from HS that she had no idea. Rest assured I was very angry and didnt trust anything had not happened. Nothing did of course and we decided to be friends after the break up and made the mistake of hooking up and still seeing each other. Now she admits that was her trying to hold on to me and work things out. Which I had no idea that's what she was doing. Well now 2 months later she is sleeping with one of my best friends and wont talk to me or anything and deleted me from facebook. Heres the thing.... I was very very angry all the time and did things like texted her in the middle of the night cussing her out for me feeling betrayed. Now she doesnt want a friendship and is sorry for hurting me and is sorry for dating my friend. I still really care about her and feel bad about the text and anger. I realize that I took it all too serious and she just wanted someone to hold her at night and just be there for her. She was really just lonely. She actually cared about me but didnt mean to make things so serious. Should I forget her or write her a letter? Should I feel bad or apologize to her. I know I will run into her intentionally again. Ill be in Texas in the Airforce. I love her what should I do? My friends don't understand why I can't get over here but I think it's because everything came crashing down at once. I'm also very sensitive to this subject. I didn't want a girlfriend and I've slept around a lot I'm 24 and I've slept with 31 women in the past 4 years and I'm just tired of it. As soon as I met her I was like ok this is something I would love. I've never had more fun with anyone and never wanted to take care of someone so much. When she left I felt like I lost a part of myself. My mom killed herself when I was 8 and my stepmom of 10 years left in the middle of the night and moved to Alaska and never talked to me again. I can't loose her.
Singles & Dating - 1 Answers
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I'm sorry for what you've been through, i also lost my mother in a similar way. If you truly care about this girl as much as you say you do I think you should meet with her face to face and talk about it. Don't blame all of the mistakes on you, or her. She shouldn't have done what she did, and you shouldn't have reacted the way you did. Let her know that it's obvious that you both need to work on some things. Which is fine! No relationship is perfect. If she wants to move on, don't push it. Maybe a few years down the road, she'll come back. Maybe she won't. Accept the answer that you're given. I don't believe that there is only one person out there for each person. usually, people come across several people in their lifetime that they fall for, very hard. Heartbreak is apart of life. Some people are fortunate enough to not have it happen, but it is very rare. If you made it through what you've been through already, then buddy, you can make it through anything else that is thrown at you. You will find someone to be with for the rest of your life. And if this girl doesn't want to be the one, its not meant to be and you WILL find someone else eventually if you keep your eye out and don't give up. Good luck :)
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I recently about 2 months ago broke up with my girlfriend. We dated for about 4 to 5 months and it was completely amazing. She always stayed over and we did everything together. It actually became really serious really fast and I took as a serious relationship. I met her family they loved me and she loved mine. In December she will be moving back to Texas where she is from. She is only attending school here. Talks of me moving to Texas to be with her were also discussed. I really fell for this girl. Well the week we broke up she had a girls night out of town she had to go to. None of the girls ended up going (which I knew would happen.) and she ended up going out on the town with her ex all night and staying on his couch. Well her ex turns out to be one of my best friends from HS that she had no idea. Rest assured I was very angry and didnt trust anything had not happened. Nothing did of course and we decided to be friends after the break up and made the mistake of hooking up and still seeing each other. Now she admits that was her trying to hold on to me and work things out. Which I had no idea that's what she was doing. Well now 2 months later she is sleeping with one of my best friends and wont talk to me or anything and deleted me from facebook. Heres the thing.... I was very very angry all the time and did things like texted her in the middle of the night cussing her out for me feeling betrayed. Now she doesnt want a friendship and is sorry for hurting me and is sorry for dating my friend. I still really care about her and feel bad about the text and anger. I realize that I took it all too serious and she just wanted someone to hold her at night and just be there for her. She was really just lonely. She actually cared about me but didnt mean to make things so serious. Should I forget her or write her a letter? Should I feel bad or apologize to her. I know I will run into her intentionally again. Ill be in Texas in the Airforce. I love her what should I do? My friends don't understand why I can't get over here but I think it's because everything came crashing down at once. I'm also very sensitive to this subject. I didn't want a girlfriend and I've slept around a lot I'm 24 and I've slept with 31 women in the past 4 years and I'm just tired of it. As soon as I met her I was like ok this is something I would love. I've never had more fun with anyone and never wanted to take care of someone so much. When she left I felt like I lost a part of myself. My mom killed herself when I was 8 and my stepmom of 10 years left in the middle of the night and moved to Alaska and never talked to me again. I can't loose her.
Singles & Dating - 1 Answers
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I'm sorry for what you've been through, i also lost my mother in a similar way. If you truly care about this girl as much as you say you do I think you should meet with her face to face and talk about it. Don't blame all of the mistakes on you, or her. She shouldn't have done what she did, and you shouldn't have reacted the way you did. Let her know that it's obvious that you both need to work on some things. Which is fine! No relationship is perfect. If she wants to move on, don't push it. Maybe a few years down the road, she'll come back. Maybe she won't. Accept the answer that you're given. I don't believe that there is only one person out there for each person. usually, people come across several people in their lifetime that they fall for, very hard. Heartbreak is apart of life. Some people are fortunate enough to not have it happen, but it is very rare. If you made it through what you've been through already, then buddy, you can make it through anything else that is thrown at you. You will find someone to be with for the rest of your life. And if this girl doesn't want to be the one, its not meant to be and you WILL find someone else eventually if you keep your eye out and don't give up. Good luck :)
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Monday, February 28, 2011
How do I discipline my 15 year old sister over the summer?
How do I discipline my 15 year old sister over the summer?
I myself am 24, and am contemplating having my 15 year old sister spend the summer with my family. She lives in Texas, and we are in Nebraska. She is a great student, she takes honors classes and play the clarinet in the marching band. Totally differnt at home though. Shes been quite unruly the past year and a half. Mainly boy troubles, and disrespecting/being rude my mom. It started with texting cleavage pictures to boys--which led to having her cell taken away, then instant messaging sexual messages on Facebook-- so she has lost her computer privleges at home, she carried on a relationship with a boy three years older than her in a program similar to JROTC, even after being told to stop. Most recently, my mom found out she and this boy had had sex. I wont go into all the details, but I have no problem answering questions about her situation. I want her to come to my house for the summer, not to escape her problems/punishment, but to let her see that she can still be 15. That even though she did let mom down, its not the end of the world. She can still be happy. I want her to go to church, and get involved with a youth group. I'd like her to have a summer job, and take on more responsibilities at home. I want her to learn to communicate, that even when you ahve made a mistake, you can talk about it. She could also play in one of the city's summer sports leagues. I'm stumped for discipline ideas though. She's 15, shes not perfect. I know she will disobey me. There will be a day she comes home late, or doesnt tell me shes going somewhere, or won't clean her room, etc. Just seems whatever discipline my mother uses does not get through. I want her to understand the things she has done are wrong, and that there will be a punishment for it. I just don;t know what. I do plan to discuss discipline/punishment with our mom, I just think we need new ideas! I'd like ot have her know what her punishments will be for certain behaviors... so that I am more enforcing rules and discipline from our mom, than trying to be her boss. I want to try to keep the sister role in this, not take over the mom role. Thanks!
Adolescent - 4 Answers
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my moms Friend has a 20 yr, 16 yr, 10 yr, and a 4 yr and she took in her 14 yr niece on the count of the 14yr old's mom lost her home so they split up the kids anyways...the 14 yr old is the same way yet her aunt just wants to condemn her and not discipline her so if it were i ((in both your situations)) i would make her go to church sun morning and night sundays school and everything and youth group on Wednesday night because if shes around good christian kids shes gonna act better to try to fit in
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Really you can't stop her. The more you try to stop her, the more cool stories she'll have to share to all the boys. She's reaching that age - and all you can do is remind her to continue with her regular routines and maybe share a few stories of your sexual life. A small warning about a few guys will go a long way. Other then that you must give her her space and trust her. She'll be peer pressures into sharing pictures and such; but that's how most girls that age are. You need to remind her of her woman power; and place your trust in her. Maybe continue reminding her you trust her so she will feel guilty in the acts. Sadly if you push to hard to get in the way; you'll make the situations worse.
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Hey!! I'm in Nebraska!! Anyways! I think it's great you want to do this, being a big sister myself, I know what it's like to want to guide the little one. I say you take her out for her favorite food or ice cream and have a talk. Tell her that yeah, what she was doing was bad but you don't think she's a horrible person. Tell her that no matter what everyone is going to love her just the same. Also, give her a self esteem boost. The reason she's sending those pics is because she feels like the only way she will get a guy is by showing off. Same with sex. Take her to get her hair done and teach her how to be a lady. Tell her that playing hard to get is just as effective. I like the job idea. I got a job at 15 and I matured fast. It was great to be able to do what I wanted with my money. I'm sure she wants a car when she turns 16, so this is a great way to save up. Youth group and church are good too. This way she can make friends while she'd down there. As for punishment get her a tracfone. The prepaid phone will help with responsibility! When she gets her job she will be paying for it so I doubt she'll want to use it that much. And make sure you check the phone too. She did something bad and still deserves a punishment, so her privacy rights have been taken away. I would block facebook, myspace, skype, AIM, all of that kind of stuff on your computer. And make sure you are checking the history. Maybe put her in etiquette classes to teach her manners and how to respect her mom and herself. Remember, tell her you love her and that if she works hard at becoming a better person, life at home will become a lot easier. :)
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Punishment isn't going to work anymore. She is fast becoming an adult .. she knows it. What you need to do it talk to her as an equal. She needs to realize that she should stop these things for herself not to avoid punishment. Here's an example ... When I was a teen there were many people offering me drugs. I thought (and still do) people that did drugs were stupid and wanted nothing to do with them. Had I wanted the drugs no amount of punishment would have stopped me from taking them. In your sister's case she has to avoid sex because she wants to. As for punishments... Cleaning her room? Try mocking her filth ... embarrassment is a very big motivator .. so if she doesn't clean it tell her you will post pictures of her room on facebook. When she is late or doesn't tell you where she went.... time to practice your acting skills. Make a big fuss when she comes home. "OMG! I thought you were dead or someone kidnapped you!" Crying as much as you can. Guilt .. also good motivation. Make her swear that she will never ever do that again. As for sex... hmmm... that one is going to be the hardest to manage. As I said no punishment will stop this. Playing devil's advocate you could approach the matter by telling her personal stories (make one up if you have to) about how you had problems because you had sex with someone.
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I myself am 24, and am contemplating having my 15 year old sister spend the summer with my family. She lives in Texas, and we are in Nebraska. She is a great student, she takes honors classes and play the clarinet in the marching band. Totally differnt at home though. Shes been quite unruly the past year and a half. Mainly boy troubles, and disrespecting/being rude my mom. It started with texting cleavage pictures to boys--which led to having her cell taken away, then instant messaging sexual messages on Facebook-- so she has lost her computer privleges at home, she carried on a relationship with a boy three years older than her in a program similar to JROTC, even after being told to stop. Most recently, my mom found out she and this boy had had sex. I wont go into all the details, but I have no problem answering questions about her situation. I want her to come to my house for the summer, not to escape her problems/punishment, but to let her see that she can still be 15. That even though she did let mom down, its not the end of the world. She can still be happy. I want her to go to church, and get involved with a youth group. I'd like her to have a summer job, and take on more responsibilities at home. I want her to learn to communicate, that even when you ahve made a mistake, you can talk about it. She could also play in one of the city's summer sports leagues. I'm stumped for discipline ideas though. She's 15, shes not perfect. I know she will disobey me. There will be a day she comes home late, or doesnt tell me shes going somewhere, or won't clean her room, etc. Just seems whatever discipline my mother uses does not get through. I want her to understand the things she has done are wrong, and that there will be a punishment for it. I just don;t know what. I do plan to discuss discipline/punishment with our mom, I just think we need new ideas! I'd like ot have her know what her punishments will be for certain behaviors... so that I am more enforcing rules and discipline from our mom, than trying to be her boss. I want to try to keep the sister role in this, not take over the mom role. Thanks!
Adolescent - 4 Answers
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my moms Friend has a 20 yr, 16 yr, 10 yr, and a 4 yr and she took in her 14 yr niece on the count of the 14yr old's mom lost her home so they split up the kids anyways...the 14 yr old is the same way yet her aunt just wants to condemn her and not discipline her so if it were i ((in both your situations)) i would make her go to church sun morning and night sundays school and everything and youth group on Wednesday night because if shes around good christian kids shes gonna act better to try to fit in
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Really you can't stop her. The more you try to stop her, the more cool stories she'll have to share to all the boys. She's reaching that age - and all you can do is remind her to continue with her regular routines and maybe share a few stories of your sexual life. A small warning about a few guys will go a long way. Other then that you must give her her space and trust her. She'll be peer pressures into sharing pictures and such; but that's how most girls that age are. You need to remind her of her woman power; and place your trust in her. Maybe continue reminding her you trust her so she will feel guilty in the acts. Sadly if you push to hard to get in the way; you'll make the situations worse.
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Hey!! I'm in Nebraska!! Anyways! I think it's great you want to do this, being a big sister myself, I know what it's like to want to guide the little one. I say you take her out for her favorite food or ice cream and have a talk. Tell her that yeah, what she was doing was bad but you don't think she's a horrible person. Tell her that no matter what everyone is going to love her just the same. Also, give her a self esteem boost. The reason she's sending those pics is because she feels like the only way she will get a guy is by showing off. Same with sex. Take her to get her hair done and teach her how to be a lady. Tell her that playing hard to get is just as effective. I like the job idea. I got a job at 15 and I matured fast. It was great to be able to do what I wanted with my money. I'm sure she wants a car when she turns 16, so this is a great way to save up. Youth group and church are good too. This way she can make friends while she'd down there. As for punishment get her a tracfone. The prepaid phone will help with responsibility! When she gets her job she will be paying for it so I doubt she'll want to use it that much. And make sure you check the phone too. She did something bad and still deserves a punishment, so her privacy rights have been taken away. I would block facebook, myspace, skype, AIM, all of that kind of stuff on your computer. And make sure you are checking the history. Maybe put her in etiquette classes to teach her manners and how to respect her mom and herself. Remember, tell her you love her and that if she works hard at becoming a better person, life at home will become a lot easier. :)
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Punishment isn't going to work anymore. She is fast becoming an adult .. she knows it. What you need to do it talk to her as an equal. She needs to realize that she should stop these things for herself not to avoid punishment. Here's an example ... When I was a teen there were many people offering me drugs. I thought (and still do) people that did drugs were stupid and wanted nothing to do with them. Had I wanted the drugs no amount of punishment would have stopped me from taking them. In your sister's case she has to avoid sex because she wants to. As for punishments... Cleaning her room? Try mocking her filth ... embarrassment is a very big motivator .. so if she doesn't clean it tell her you will post pictures of her room on facebook. When she is late or doesn't tell you where she went.... time to practice your acting skills. Make a big fuss when she comes home. "OMG! I thought you were dead or someone kidnapped you!" Crying as much as you can. Guilt .. also good motivation. Make her swear that she will never ever do that again. As for sex... hmmm... that one is going to be the hardest to manage. As I said no punishment will stop this. Playing devil's advocate you could approach the matter by telling her personal stories (make one up if you have to) about how you had problems because you had sex with someone.
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Monday, February 14, 2011
Why is neither the left or right reporting this news about the WH crashers and Obama connection?
Why is neither the left or right reporting this news about the WH crashers and Obama connection?
I'm puzzled and I would just like some opinions and what is the angle - I can't figure it out! Why the secret service is investigating itself, the white house is investigating and the couple are not discussing that the husband and Obama worked at the Univ of Chicago together and he worked on Obama's campaign - they know eachother and they act like they've never met! There is no way to link so I'll paste, but here's the original stories: http://canadafreepress.com/index.php/article/17310 http://www.wnd.com/index.php?fa=PAGE.view&pageId=117478 And cut and paste for the rest of you: "Unprecedented†first state dinner in a tent “Party Crashers†had five-year relationship with Obama before state dinner Judi McLeod Bio Print friendly E-mail a friend Contact Us By Judi McLeod Saturday, November 28, 2009 While the big gun media and American Secret Service are out there investigating “party crashers†Tareq and Michaele Salahi, no one’s telling the truth: Obama knew the Salahis when he was still an Illinois senator. Polo Contacts Worldwide could make it easy for the investigating Secret Service by brown-enveloping them this picture: Hey Secret Agent Man, here’s Obama, the senator flashing his pearly whites with Randy Jackson, better known as a judge on American Idol. “Others pictured are Black Eyed Peas Rock Band; Tareq Salahi the President of the America’s Polo Cup; President Elect Obama, Fergie from Black eyed Peas and Michaele Salahi, posing this time as a former Miss USA and SuperModel.†Interesting little detail for White House gumshoes: As the above photo was published in June 2005, Barack Obama was still Senator Obama and not the President Elect. And with Michaele Salahi yesterday having been caught out—Facebook pompoms notwithstanding—as a bogus cheerleader for the Washington Red Skins and not a model for Victoria’s Secret as claimed, Canada Free Press (CFP) leaves it to FoxNews.com to find out if she ever was a “former Miss USAâ€. We do know for a fact that among the slew of memberships on charitable boards, Tareq Salahi is a former member of The American Task Force on Palestine (ATFP). The only way to know for a fact is because even though ATFP scrubbed all references to Salahi as a board member, he can still be found on Google cache. (Canada Free Press) Sad that White House Secret Service are looking like Keystone Kops in the aftermath of Obama’s very first state house dinner in the tent. While the media is fixated on the hitch in Michaele Salahi’s git-along, there can be no doubt that these recently minted “party crashers†really get around. We take you back to June 9, 2005 when Tom Nelson, operating officer of AARP, was summing up the Rock the Vote Awards night. According to the Washington Post “everyone from Sens. John McCain and Barack Obama to “American Idol†judge Randy Jackson and R&B singer Mya gathered in the National Building Museum’s Great Hall: “You were probably wondering, as you sat down at your table, ‘What the heck is the AARP doing in a Rock the Vote Event?’†Nelson noted. Time would soon tell that the AARP would show up in other fishy places. And if there is anyone who must know that this weekend’s party crasher story is a crock it’s John McCain who was at the Vote Awards Night, and who along with Barack Obama, was honored with the Rock the Nation Award, Obama “for forming a multiracial coalition in winning his seatâ€. McCain was handed his award for “his work on campaign finance reformâ€. “Just call me Funk Master McCain,†he told the audience of 1,000 in accepting his award.: (washingtonpost.com, June 9, 2005. Meanwhile, don’t know why Obama’s long time associates possibly could be mistaken for party crashers when they came into the tent with a Bravo Reality TV Show “Real Housewives of DC†professional camera crew and makeup artist in tow unless he was hoping for a Reality gig for wife Michelle, CBS celebrity Katie Couric or Chief of Staff Rahm Emanuel. Obama could end the “party crasher†goose chase for White House Secret Service in a proverbial New York Minute by coming clean on his almost 5-year-old social/political relationship with Tareq and Michaele Salahi. It could save money in these recessionary times and put an end to the drama of Washington’s “unprecedented†first state dinner in a tent WorldNetDaily Exclusive White House 'gatecrashers' tied to terror sympathizer Salahi served in same anti-Israel group as Obama's Palestinian professor pal -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Posted: November 29, 2009 5:12 pm Eastern By Aaron Klein © 2009 WorldNetDaily Rashid Khalidi The Virginia couple who allegedly crashed a White House state dinner is tied to Rashid Khalidi, a pro-Palestinian professor who excuses terrorism and has been a close associate to President Obama. Michaele and Tareq Salahi met Obama in To THINK, I'm truly not slamming anyone, since I don't believe the government of either side! Just confused wondering why.
Politics - 5 Answers
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Do tell. Somehow, I knew it was Obama's fault.
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They don't want to let people know that Hussein is hanging around muslim terrorists. They were busy talking about Tiger Woods' fire hydrant. Fox News is far from conservative, it's exactly the same as CNN and other liberal news outlets.
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If that is true, then why didn't Obama just come right out and say so? He is such a wishy washy person and does not like to be clear and precise about anything. And libs on answers support him? the Loons following the Loon I guess.
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Headline News reported they were 0bama's coke connection.
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Well if the guy DID know the President from before and said that then it probably helped him get in. But who really cares? What are they supposed to pay the taxpayer back for the shrimp cocktails they ate?
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I'm puzzled and I would just like some opinions and what is the angle - I can't figure it out! Why the secret service is investigating itself, the white house is investigating and the couple are not discussing that the husband and Obama worked at the Univ of Chicago together and he worked on Obama's campaign - they know eachother and they act like they've never met! There is no way to link so I'll paste, but here's the original stories: http://canadafreepress.com/index.php/article/17310 http://www.wnd.com/index.php?fa=PAGE.view&pageId=117478 And cut and paste for the rest of you: "Unprecedented†first state dinner in a tent “Party Crashers†had five-year relationship with Obama before state dinner Judi McLeod Bio Print friendly E-mail a friend Contact Us By Judi McLeod Saturday, November 28, 2009 While the big gun media and American Secret Service are out there investigating “party crashers†Tareq and Michaele Salahi, no one’s telling the truth: Obama knew the Salahis when he was still an Illinois senator. Polo Contacts Worldwide could make it easy for the investigating Secret Service by brown-enveloping them this picture: Hey Secret Agent Man, here’s Obama, the senator flashing his pearly whites with Randy Jackson, better known as a judge on American Idol. “Others pictured are Black Eyed Peas Rock Band; Tareq Salahi the President of the America’s Polo Cup; President Elect Obama, Fergie from Black eyed Peas and Michaele Salahi, posing this time as a former Miss USA and SuperModel.†Interesting little detail for White House gumshoes: As the above photo was published in June 2005, Barack Obama was still Senator Obama and not the President Elect. And with Michaele Salahi yesterday having been caught out—Facebook pompoms notwithstanding—as a bogus cheerleader for the Washington Red Skins and not a model for Victoria’s Secret as claimed, Canada Free Press (CFP) leaves it to FoxNews.com to find out if she ever was a “former Miss USAâ€. We do know for a fact that among the slew of memberships on charitable boards, Tareq Salahi is a former member of The American Task Force on Palestine (ATFP). The only way to know for a fact is because even though ATFP scrubbed all references to Salahi as a board member, he can still be found on Google cache. (Canada Free Press) Sad that White House Secret Service are looking like Keystone Kops in the aftermath of Obama’s very first state house dinner in the tent. While the media is fixated on the hitch in Michaele Salahi’s git-along, there can be no doubt that these recently minted “party crashers†really get around. We take you back to June 9, 2005 when Tom Nelson, operating officer of AARP, was summing up the Rock the Vote Awards night. According to the Washington Post “everyone from Sens. John McCain and Barack Obama to “American Idol†judge Randy Jackson and R&B singer Mya gathered in the National Building Museum’s Great Hall: “You were probably wondering, as you sat down at your table, ‘What the heck is the AARP doing in a Rock the Vote Event?’†Nelson noted. Time would soon tell that the AARP would show up in other fishy places. And if there is anyone who must know that this weekend’s party crasher story is a crock it’s John McCain who was at the Vote Awards Night, and who along with Barack Obama, was honored with the Rock the Nation Award, Obama “for forming a multiracial coalition in winning his seatâ€. McCain was handed his award for “his work on campaign finance reformâ€. “Just call me Funk Master McCain,†he told the audience of 1,000 in accepting his award.: (washingtonpost.com, June 9, 2005. Meanwhile, don’t know why Obama’s long time associates possibly could be mistaken for party crashers when they came into the tent with a Bravo Reality TV Show “Real Housewives of DC†professional camera crew and makeup artist in tow unless he was hoping for a Reality gig for wife Michelle, CBS celebrity Katie Couric or Chief of Staff Rahm Emanuel. Obama could end the “party crasher†goose chase for White House Secret Service in a proverbial New York Minute by coming clean on his almost 5-year-old social/political relationship with Tareq and Michaele Salahi. It could save money in these recessionary times and put an end to the drama of Washington’s “unprecedented†first state dinner in a tent WorldNetDaily Exclusive White House 'gatecrashers' tied to terror sympathizer Salahi served in same anti-Israel group as Obama's Palestinian professor pal -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Posted: November 29, 2009 5:12 pm Eastern By Aaron Klein © 2009 WorldNetDaily Rashid Khalidi The Virginia couple who allegedly crashed a White House state dinner is tied to Rashid Khalidi, a pro-Palestinian professor who excuses terrorism and has been a close associate to President Obama. Michaele and Tareq Salahi met Obama in To THINK, I'm truly not slamming anyone, since I don't believe the government of either side! Just confused wondering why.
Politics - 5 Answers
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Do tell. Somehow, I knew it was Obama's fault.
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They don't want to let people know that Hussein is hanging around muslim terrorists. They were busy talking about Tiger Woods' fire hydrant. Fox News is far from conservative, it's exactly the same as CNN and other liberal news outlets.
3 :
If that is true, then why didn't Obama just come right out and say so? He is such a wishy washy person and does not like to be clear and precise about anything. And libs on answers support him? the Loons following the Loon I guess.
4 :
Headline News reported they were 0bama's coke connection.
5 :
Well if the guy DID know the President from before and said that then it probably helped him get in. But who really cares? What are they supposed to pay the taxpayer back for the shrimp cocktails they ate?
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Monday, February 7, 2011
Does anyone know why he isn't calling?
Does anyone know why he isn't calling?
Super long story, but I'll do my best to brief it up. I currently live and go to school in Chicago, but my family lives in Southern California. I visit often, and will be moving to San Diego in November when I am finished with school. There is a guy in San Diego, that I have known for the past four years. We have a great connection- lots of chemistry, and share many of the same values. We've kept in touch while I've been in Chicago, sometimes we'll chat on the phone for 6-7 hours straight. I saw him during my visit in August, and it was then that he expressed an interest in wanting to be in a relationship. Of course, the feelings were mutual, but at the time, I was in a very serious relationship. He continued to pursue me, but didn't want to get in the way of my relationship. He said he is at the point in his life (he is 27) where he wants to begin settling down, and said that he thinks I am the right woman for him. My boyfriend and I ended things in December, and the guy in SD continued to pursue me, and express his feelings. He always questioned what my plans are after school in Chicago- always wanting to know if I am really coming back or not. A few months ago, he told me that he is afraid that I'll always be the girl who got away. I came home for a visit this past March, and we spent a few days together. We had a great time- he left me notes all over his place, and when he had to leave for work, he would call during his breaks to tell me how much he missed me. The last night I was there, we discussed our situation, and we both shared the same feelings toward one another. I told him I would be back in November for good. Since I've been in Chicago, (about a month now) however, we've barely been speaking. I know this sounds gay, but a couple days after I left, he made his default picture on facebook one of the two of us. I've been really confused, because things seem sort of different now and I don't know why. We've talked a few times since I've been home, but there is certainly a lack of enthusiasm on his end of things. He isn't calling/texting/etc. as much as before, but still has our picture up, which in my opinion, is kind of a relationship thing to do. Not to mention, all of his other default pics are either of him by himself or with his cousins who he is very close to. I am the only girl (non related) that is up there. Anyway, if anyone has any *kind* advice on this matter, I'd appreciate it. I just don't know what's going on, and I don't want to be the needy girl and ask him, "what's wrong?" So this is why I post here. :) Thanks in advance.
Singles & Dating - 1 Answers
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I'm in a similar situation and all I can think is that when some guys feel they've "got" you they don't think they need to work as hard any more. Ring him and ask him if you've done something wrong as he's not as chatty as he was. I don't think you have tho- it's just a man thing!
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Super long story, but I'll do my best to brief it up. I currently live and go to school in Chicago, but my family lives in Southern California. I visit often, and will be moving to San Diego in November when I am finished with school. There is a guy in San Diego, that I have known for the past four years. We have a great connection- lots of chemistry, and share many of the same values. We've kept in touch while I've been in Chicago, sometimes we'll chat on the phone for 6-7 hours straight. I saw him during my visit in August, and it was then that he expressed an interest in wanting to be in a relationship. Of course, the feelings were mutual, but at the time, I was in a very serious relationship. He continued to pursue me, but didn't want to get in the way of my relationship. He said he is at the point in his life (he is 27) where he wants to begin settling down, and said that he thinks I am the right woman for him. My boyfriend and I ended things in December, and the guy in SD continued to pursue me, and express his feelings. He always questioned what my plans are after school in Chicago- always wanting to know if I am really coming back or not. A few months ago, he told me that he is afraid that I'll always be the girl who got away. I came home for a visit this past March, and we spent a few days together. We had a great time- he left me notes all over his place, and when he had to leave for work, he would call during his breaks to tell me how much he missed me. The last night I was there, we discussed our situation, and we both shared the same feelings toward one another. I told him I would be back in November for good. Since I've been in Chicago, (about a month now) however, we've barely been speaking. I know this sounds gay, but a couple days after I left, he made his default picture on facebook one of the two of us. I've been really confused, because things seem sort of different now and I don't know why. We've talked a few times since I've been home, but there is certainly a lack of enthusiasm on his end of things. He isn't calling/texting/etc. as much as before, but still has our picture up, which in my opinion, is kind of a relationship thing to do. Not to mention, all of his other default pics are either of him by himself or with his cousins who he is very close to. I am the only girl (non related) that is up there. Anyway, if anyone has any *kind* advice on this matter, I'd appreciate it. I just don't know what's going on, and I don't want to be the needy girl and ask him, "what's wrong?" So this is why I post here. :) Thanks in advance.
Singles & Dating - 1 Answers
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I'm in a similar situation and all I can think is that when some guys feel they've "got" you they don't think they need to work as hard any more. Ring him and ask him if you've done something wrong as he's not as chatty as he was. I don't think you have tho- it's just a man thing!
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