Sunday, October 14, 2012

Is it okay now to emotionally detach myself from my step children?

Is it okay now to emotionally detach myself from my step children?
After court battles over custody, that stretched on for years and financially devastated us, the kids are now living with their bio. mother. They have spent half of their life with us and half of their life with their bio. mom. Bio mom is as mean and rotten as they come, enough said. My hubby has 4 kids from 2 previous marriages. We raised the oldest 2 without any help at all from bio. mom. But this is about the youngest two. The youngest girl is now 15. She has always begged to live with us again, as does her younger brother 13. Now, all of a sudden she is engaged to an 18 year old boy, which her mom thinks is great. We most certainly do not. Not only that, but she didn't even tell her father (us) about this, we had to read it on Facebook. I should note that bio. mom has told both her kids that it is okay to have sex at age 14. WHAT???? Here is what is going on in a nutshell. 1 - Dad is supposed to have visitation every other weekend, but for a couple of years now bio. mom only lets him see them for spring break, Thanksgiving, a few days after Christmas and almost a month in summer. That covers less then half of Dad's entitled visitation. Bio. mom does not consult Dad, she just tells him when she will "allow" them to come and see their father. He has JOINED custody, but she leaves him out of everything. They live 4 hours away and we meet half way for pick up and drop off. 2 - Without the long list of who did what and so on, we do NOT speak in a negative way about her and her husband, whom our daughter claims has been molesting her since age 6. Since there is no physical evidence, he has gotten away with it so far, despite experts saying that our daughter is telling the truth. None the less, we do not speak about them in a negative way, but let the kids vent, with they do a lot of when they are with us. And trust me, it is VERY hard not to do so. 3 - Daughter is now very upset with us, as Dad would not allow her to bring her boyfriend (actually fiance at that time) to our house for spring break. 4 - On Facebook she keeps posting photos that are just shy of soft porn. Her laying in bed with him kissing and fondling etc. Dad has asked her to remove them, but she has not. Bio. mom thinks this is okay. And just for the record, daughter post her life just about minute by minute on Facebook all day long. 5 - Bio. mom has gotten daughter a summer job, and Dad had to find out via Facebook that she has decided not to come for visitation, which by court order she can't decide. 6 - My hubbies mom is taking her on a dream trip to Alaska, for which she can skip time from her part time summer job. She got very rude and cussed at her father when he tried to discuss this with her. She says that she is almost 16 and she should be allowed to make her own decisions. When her father told her that he had a legal right to see her she got even more mad. 7 - All of a sudden bio. mom writes dad and email claiming that we have spoken bad about her and that she is thus going to deny him any visitation at all, until she decides he has been punished enough. 8 - Youngest son wants to come and live here, visit here as much as he can. However, he is given no say so in the matter. And since daughter now does not want to come, bio. mom has decided that he just can't come either. All of this bickering and fighting has gone on and on and on. I have tried my very best to love the kids like they are my own, and it has caused me so much pain emotionally that I have literally lost my mind. I'm back on even keel now, and then all of this starts back up. Is it wrong for me to finally take a break by emotionally detaching myself from all of this? Yes, we could go back to court and fight fight fight... but I'm just flat out tired of it all. I'm always made out to be the bad guy and cause, when nothing could be further from the truth. Am I wrong to feel this way? Is it fair to our youngest son who wants nothing more then to be with us at all cost? I'm just the step mom, and I have no legal rights, so why should I continue to drive myself crazy? This has been going on since 1999 for me. I'm emotionally drained, and financially too.
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Yes - good luck.
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Oh dear. You need a (mental) vacation more than anyone I know. How is your relationship with your husband? I don't know how you've made it through all this!
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you are right to feel this way and most people would being in the same situation, have you thought that as it in my state once a child reaches the age of 13 they can decide who that they want to live with
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He needs to fight for his rights, and try to stop this marriage. http://dads-house.org/EducationalManual

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Sunday, October 7, 2012

Immigration Question For my Girlfriend?

Immigration Question For my Girlfriend?
I almost always ignore messages or contact from people outside of the U.S when going to online dating, chat, etc. rooms. I did however start to talk to one lady from the Philippines a while back and we have become very close. She and I talk every day, care about each others lives and want to meet and learn more about each other. I started the entire conversation by warning her that I would never give her money, nor marry her to help her get to America. She was honest and up front that she did want to come to America, but that her parents in Alaska had a petition pending already, and that she would never use someone to get here. When I try and talk about ways we could get her here, she is more interested in talking with me than discussing those ways. She gets sad and it is obvious she feels she will only be able to care for me online and tries to divert the questions I have about working to actually get her here, rather than just dream about it. It was like pulling teeth to get her to finally tell me how long she thought it would take if she simply went with the petition. She said as long as 10 years and then simply said that she only wanted me to tell her if I found someone in America before she got here and that he completely understood if I did. She has passed every litmus test I have in regards to her trying to use someone or try and get money from Americans. I've seen her home, nieces and sister, facebook (and actually googled to find her friendstir account that she didn't even realize she still had. I simply used her screen name in google and found it. The cool thing is that it was from 2008 and was accurate in all details , except she was younger in the pictures. It even said "seeing someone" which showed me that she didn't have the account back then to get with someone. She admitted that she had it as that to keep people from bugger her where she lives.. Anyway, I can tell she truly has fallen for me, and I have strong feelings about her. I still always keep my wits about me, but want to at least have her visit and spend time with me. BTW, she knows I have no money, in school, and have kids. She actually has a better place to live than I do and better job (although she prob doens't get as much as I will when I graduate)... She also has been very up front about her parents bugging her to get married and trying to set her up. This is a cultural thing as she is 30 in the Philippians. I don't really believe sharing that info would benifit a scam artist. I think it was honest and she was trying to tell me she didn't want to settle for the guys that only wanted one thing, or guys her parents tried to set her up with. Funny, her telling me the pressure she has had from her family to get married, and her reluctance to just settling, helped her case with me, rather than hurting it. Question: What are some fast and easy ways to have her visit so we can learn more about each other and find out if we are truly right for each other? Please be specific and detailed. There are probably a lot of different types of ways she can travel and stay for a period. I don't want to rush into the longer term committed ways yet. I don't want to get engaged, married, etc. Just want her to be able to come over soon and stay for a bit. Thank you
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tourist visa is probably the best option
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Tourist visa,but be very very careful i warn you phillipina woman have a history of lying and being so nice in order to get a green card then they drop you like a boom!True story from my boss who married phillipino woman brought her here in America then she cheated him with a phillipino man.Be Cautious..
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It can be extremely difficult for a woman from the Philippines to get a tourist visa to the states. 1) She has to meet the requirements for the visa all on her own. Meaning she has to show strong enough ties to her country that US immigrations would not see her as a risk of over staying her visa. This is normally very difficult to prove to begin with...but since she has parents who already live in Alaska and a petition pending...I seriously doubt she would be issued a tourist visa. 2) The other poster is right. Women from the Philippines are notorious for scamming American men just to get a green card. I am in no way saying this is what she is doing. I am saying because of the history it reflects badly for her just by association. I suggest you visiting her. If the 2 of you hit it off, then you can realistically consider taking it to the next level. Donna
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I'm smelling a rat ! Can you prove her parents are legally in Alaska ? I think you're being taken for a sweet, winding and long ride. The truth is that Filipino woman wants to come and live in the United States. She can come and visit you on a tourist/visitor visa. The question is: Will she go back to the Philippines ? Just to add, I have an American friend who retired and went to live in the Philippines. My friend is almost 70 years old. The old man is really enjoying himself there. He has a harem with three young Filipino women. Viagra is a wonder drug !
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she canapply for a tourist visa ..she wont get it ... because of all the visa fraud there
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If you're that convinced this is true love, go visit her in the PI.
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It is probably easiest for you to get a tourist visa to go visit her.
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If her parents are in Alaska and have a petition for her then she just waits until thats approved and can come over. I dont think she can get a tourist visa if there is already another applicaiton in process from her parents

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Monday, October 1, 2012

Are white liberal males sexists, sadists or both in their hopes and aspirations toward Sarah Palin's demise?

Are white liberal males sexists, sadists or both in their hopes and aspirations toward Sarah Palin's demise?
A New Hampshire state legislator resigned his office Thursday after becoming the second Democrat in as many days to speculate about Sarah Palin's death on Facebook. State Rep. Timothy Horrigan made the remarks Wednesday night in a thread discussing the Alaska plane crash that killed former Sen. Ted Stevens. "Well a dead Palin wd be even more dangerous than a live one...she is all about her myth & if she was dead she cldn't commit any more gaffes," Horrigan wrote. http://politicalticker.blogs.cnn.com/2010/08/12/legislator-resigns-after-dead-palin-comment/
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What he said is true, but in poor taste.
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they are blacks who hate whites just like 0bama and Waters
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Libbies are scared to death of Palin because she's loved and admired by so many "real" Americans. They want to kill her but in her place will rise hundreds more.
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While I extremely dislike Palin that goes a little far and it's in poor taste.
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They are fools. Palin is just a distraction ploy to get libs to ignore real issues..
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Har! Sarah Palin has proven quite capable of bringing about her own demise without the help of any particular ethnic group. And, really, who is Sarah Palin without the support of rich white male conservatives? She hasn't achieved anything noteworthy. Women don't like her. Alaskans don't care for her. And the Johnstons absolutely despise her.
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The entire democratic party will be dead in 2011 left without a job or direction/ good riddance to the Whigs democratic party.. you think they would have learned the first time..
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That goes a bit far, yes. I'm sure no conservative has ever made similar comments in regards to Hillary Clinton or Nancy Pelosi. I'm glad to see that Tenth Amendment saw fit to place quotation marks on the word "real". Furthermore, I'm amused at how he (she?) then goes on to make Palin sound like the enchanted broom in Fantasia.
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white liberal males are basically feminist welfare pimps. selling out for the feminist vote. not much different from feminist males. they remind me of quisling jews that helped nazi's or blacks who joined the colored man's auxilliary to the kkk. black democrat males are worse, because there are far more black women voters than black male voters. Liberal males and feminists hate and attack Palin because she is not a feminist, despite being a female. They do this appeal to the feminist welfare special interest crowd. This is like a black condemning an upity black to appeal to racists whites; or a jew condemning jewish bankers to appeal to NAZIs.

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Friday, September 28, 2012

Is Sarah Palin confused about End-of-Life Counseling?

Is Sarah Palin confused about End-of-Life Counseling?
Now that End-of-Life Counseling is back in the headlines, can we go back to pointing out how Sarah Palin has handled this subject thus far... during the Presidential Election, Sarah Palin went on Facebook and wrote a long rant about how a healthcare that includes funding for End-of-Life Counseling for the elderly... Less than one year before this Facebook rant by Palin, Alaska Governor Sarah Palin went on statewide television and radio to promote Alaskan Healthcare Decisions Day, a day set aside to remind elderly Alaskan to seek doctors to discuss end-of-life counseling!! did she not remember this?? or did it just fit her new agenda? http://punchumgum.wordpress.com/2009/08/14/sarah-palin-created-alaskas-own-death-panel-in-2008/ The current End-of-Life Counseling proposal simply allows elderly people to have the OPTION to meet with a DOCTOR, for FREE, to discuss what end-of-life PREFERENCES that person has (i.e., do they want the plug pulled, etc.).. and this policy was already funded and implemented by Bush at one time, without any objections from Republicans at the time.. are ALL Republicans as confused about "Death Panels" as Sarah Palin is?
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yes Sarah is confused generally speaking about everything

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Friday, September 14, 2012

Why is Sarah Palin so confused about "Death Panels"?

Why is Sarah Palin so confused about "Death Panels"?
Now that End-of-Life Counseling is back in the headlines, can we go back to pointing out how Sarah Palin has handled this subject thus far... during the Presidential Election, Sarah Palin went on Facebook and wrote a long rant about how a healthcare that includes funding for End-of-Life Counseling for the elderly... Less than one year before this Facebook rant by Palin, Alaska Governor Sarah Palin went on statewide television and radio to promote Alaskan Healthcare Decisions Day, a day set aside to remind elderly Alaskan to seek doctors to discuss end-of-life counseling!! did she not remember this?? or did it just fit her new agenda? http://punchumgum.wordpress.com/2009/08/14/sarah-palin-created-alaskas-own-death-panel-in-2008/ The current End-of-Life Counseling proposal simply allows elderly people to have the OPTION to meet with a DOCTOR, for FREE, to discuss what end-of-life PREFERENCES that person has (i.e., do they want the plug pulled, etc.).. and this policy was already funded and implemented by Bush at one time, without any objections from Republicans at the time.. are ALL Republicans as confused about "Death Panels" as Sarah Palin is?
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I think you are confused.

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Friday, September 7, 2012

Are all Republicans as confused about "Death Panels" as Sarah Palin is?

Are all Republicans as confused about "Death Panels" as Sarah Palin is?
Now that End-of-Life Counseling is back in the headlines, can we go back to pointing out how Sarah Palin has handled this subject thus far... during the Presidential Election, Sarah Palin went on Facebook and wrote a long rant about how a healthcare that includes funding for End-of-Life Counseling for the elderly... Less than one year before this Facebook rant by Palin, Alaska Governor Sarah Palin went on statewide television and radio to promote Alaskan Healthcare Decisions Day, a day set aside to remind elderly Alaskan to seek doctors to discuss end-of-life counseling!! did she not remember this?? or did it just fit her new agenda? http://punchumgum.wordpress.com/2009/08/14/sarah-palin-created-alaskas-own-death-panel-in-2008/ The current End-of-Life Counseling proposal simply allows elderly people to have the OPTION to meet with a DOCTOR, for FREE, to discuss what end-of-life PREFERENCES that person has (i.e., do they want the plug pulled, etc.).. and this policy was already funded and implemented by Bush at one time, without any objections from Republicans at the time..
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This new medicare regulation requires and pays doctors for yearly end of life counseling. So why did obama have to sneak it in with Medicare regulations, at the end of democrat domination in congress, right before the democrats loose the House? Why do we have to pay doctors for end of life counseling when they already do it anyway? If this policy was already implemented by Bush, why is it being implemented again? This time Republicans are objecting. This is just another typical obama deception. The Return of Death Panels http://news.yahoo.com/s/theweek/20101227/cm_theweek/210635_20101227120000 Palin Doubles Down on Death Panel Statement http://news.yahoo.com/s/politico/20090813/pl_politico/26078 111 Business Exempted From Obamacare http://www.examiner.com/finance-examiner-in-national/obamacare-waivers-given-to-111-businesses-but-few-know-where-to-apply-for-it obama Surprised by Political Cost of obamacare http://www.foxnews.com/politics/2010/11/07/president-obama-surprised-political-cost-health-care-law/ Democrat Dingell Obamacare Will Contol The People http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZIQJ0Fqj7Us AT&T Gets BILLION Dollar Obamacare Exemption http://www.businessweek.com/news/2010-03-26/at-t-to-take-1-billion-charge-on-health-care-reform-update1-.html

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Saturday, September 1, 2012

Do you believe that End-of-Life Counseling is the same as "Death Panels"?

Do you believe that End-of-Life Counseling is the same as "Death Panels"?
Now that End-of-Life Counseling is back in the headlines, can we go back to pointing out how Sarah Palin has handled this subject thus far... during the Presidential Election, Sarah Palin went on Facebook and wrote a long rant about how a healthcare that includes funding for End-of-Life Counseling for the elderly... Less than one year before this Facebook rant by Palin, Alaska Governor Sarah Palin went on statewide television and radio to promote Alaskan Healthcare Decisions Day, a day set aside to remind elderly Alaskan to seek doctors to discuss end-of-life counseling!! did she not remember this?? or did it just fit her new agenda? http://punchumgum.wordpress.com/2009/08/14/sarah-palin-created-alaskas-own-death-panel-in-2008/ The current End-of-Life Counseling proposal simply allows elderly people to have the OPTION to meet with a DOCTOR, for FREE, to discuss what end-of-life PREFERENCES that person has (i.e., do they want the plug pulled, etc.).. and this policy was already funded and implemented by Bush at one time, without any objections from Republicans at the time.. are ALL Republicans as confused about "Death Panels" as Sarah Palin is?
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Sad. Isn't it?

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