I dnt know what to think ?
when I first discuss talking about coming down akron with my boyfriend he told me he would take care of me, he had confirmed it to his mother. now I wished I neva came down. I mean he did what he said he took care of me. but I was suffering from what my granfather did to me while growing up which is verbal mental emotional abuse, from what happen with me and my mom cuz she kicked me out ova a dude who she was married to because I told her, trusted her to believe me when I told her her dude wasattracteded to me but still til this day shes in deniaI and everyone lies like I wanted her husband WHAT? I AM YOUR DAUGHTER! SHE TOLD ME IF ANYONE SAYS ANYTHING TO ME THAT I KNOW DIDNT SEEM RIGHT OR TOUCH ME IN ANY WAY TO TELL HER. and I did. I was in love with my mother she was my best friend I put my trust in her. so now im dealing with them trust issues. im taking it hard right now. And my boyfriend grew up hard he grew up with sister and brothers. he took blame for there mess ups, lieing and getting away with stuff he neva did and doing stuff for his mother who neva showed him no type of apreciation nor love so now I find out thats why he has a disrespecting problem. every time I dnt put my trust in him he yells and say stuff he dnt mean but the way he says it seems like he does ......... i mean no trust and disrespect doesnt go together. how am I gone trust you and you disrespect me? like today I said I know your family hurt you in so many ways but why do you be so happy when you are around them he told me because he know how to let go of things .... but if he know how to let go of things ppl do to him like his family than why cant he let go of me not trusting him?, I mean we suppose to be a couple and couples work things out through the good and the bad. The only thing I came up with was that he said HES NOT GOING TO BE WITH HIS FAMILY THE REST OF HIS LIFE THAT IM GOING TO BE ..... I took the chance on going to toledo so he can work on his ways and i can work on mine but hes mad cuz he feels to work it together while living under his mothers roof. he keeps telling me soon we'll be out of here cause hes on his way making it big music wise. even im uncomfortable with that cuz he told me that sex sells but he know where to draw the line... I saw his facebook and my pics are not showing anymore instead he has woman around him with there asses nearly hangout of their shorts but I understand that it was a show out in massilon or whateva but I dnt know what to do other than go to toledo anyway and try to let go of my past hurts
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have some fun with me!!!
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Girl the only way to really stop hurting is to move on from this man. Im sorry to say but you are going to continue to hurt and suffer until you decide to let go and move on with your life with out him. You are very hard headed I see, you just can't seem to let go and your going to get yourself in trouble one of these days, you will get into something so deep you will wish you could get out and you wont you will just suffer, so take my advice and go. I cant stress hard enough about how badly this will end up for you because you can't seem to understand what "leave him" means, I seen these cases end so badly and some in fatalities, do you want that for yourself? I know that you want to do something with your life, have your OWN but you will never have that in the direction your are going. Yesterday you said he's your ex and today he's your boyfriend again. rather or not you two are sexually active together doesn't mean a thing, you are still with him and its not going to get better. I understand his background but still that does not excuse him from the rest of us, he still doesn't have the right to be disrespectful and treat you wrongfully. I know plenty of people that have suffered in their up bringing worse than you two both put together and they aren't like you both are. I cant keep advising you if you wont listen, i tell my friends around here that I know the same thing, so I don't know what else to tell you. If you leave this guy alone you wont be feeling the way you are, you wont be going through this plain and simple, so is up to you now, stay and suffer, or leave and move on with a happy life.
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Tuesday, August 14, 2012
Tuesday, August 7, 2012
How to let a guy down easy...?
How to let a guy down easy...?
Kind of annoying when u have this guy friend that kinda went somewhere but now u don't like him and he's bugging u about going out again. Ok I probably need to start in the beginning. I warn u, it's a LONG story. So I met Steve (nickname) at a spring break mission trip with my church. He was going with us. Anyways my friend (T) and I started calling this guy, Steve, because we could never remember his name. So we are having a great time getting to know each other when this other guy, N, who we didn't who he was at the time, and T started getting more that friendly with each other. So Steve became the third wheel because I started hanging out with this other chick who they didn't like but I don't like her anymore because she is really annoying. So I didn't really get to hang with them and the "lovebirds", as all the people on the trip dubbed them, N and T, really acted loveydovey and Steve was a huge third wheel. Well near the end of the trip I started hanging more out with them and since N and T were occupied, Steve and I had to hang out. It was kinda uncomfortable b/c at the time I was still going out with my ex (long story another blog for another day =]) and I didn't want to cheat on him but I didn't really like my ex anymore. So on the last night (by and by we were in New Orleans) the whole group decides we need to go the Hard Rock Cafe because it will be an adventure so we parked the cars and started walking down the French District. So since N and T were occupied again I hung out with Steve which is when we figured out we had a similar taste in music. So we were discussing those music and my ex texts me so of course the wonderful girlfriend, I text him back. I do this the entire dinner until near the end when I go to get a souvenir where Steve helps me choose it. I give him a hug and he thinks I likelike him. Anyways N&T went upstairs and sneaked around a lot and Steve makes a joke and they get pissed but are over it. Anyways that was that trip. This year I start liking Steve a bit because well idk. We went to youth group and one night he tells me he got dumped because his friend and gf were messing around. So there is the possibility of us going out now. So at the church garage sale I get prettied up for him but he left before I could see him. That would be the last time I see him for awhile and I wondered where he disappeared to. We went to different schools so I wouldn't find out where he went until I find out not from him but from T. She tells me his family problems just grow and he moves to Louisiana to his grandparents. I feel really hurt but mostly angry at his parents. I couldn't believe that he left without telling me. So we text and he apologizes and I accept it. I was still hurt though. Anyways we decide we should go out for awhile but over a long-distance. I tried it and it sucked!! I looked at other relationships and see couples hugging small talking just being together and I can't take it. I needed an arm around me to comfort me. I needed someone there where I can just be with and feel safe so I break up with him. It was a clean cut and I promised it would be a fresh start. So anyways he starts saying he's coming back to austin and he comes and sees my musical and that night i had a cast party so I couldn't hang out with him. Now he keeps asking to see if we can date but I don't want to. He has changed and I don't like the way he is now. Plus I try to avoid him on like Facebook so I don't think that is normal. I really want to let him down easy.
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just use the lies you women always do,just don't run back to him when you find out the grass isn't greener on the other side.
2 :
You were right a long story, and my head hurts from hitting the desk three times. My coffee just didn't help. Yawn! A small lesson with guys. Ignore and distance yourself from those that just don't fit in to you. Be polite and direct and tell him how you two just don't click. Be as honest as you can for this task. Lying is poor choice. Let him know that you were wrong on leading him on if he feels that way. Otherwise you feel he is a nice guy, but not for a boy friend at this time. That way he will walk away thinking he was close but no cigar. Be nice to him in this conversation and don't get into an argument. Just be polite and calm. Nice way to assess him in his being turned down phase and how he handles it. Maybe you were right or maybe wrong. Who knows if he might grow in maturity and shape up or puts that L on his forehead and takes it like a jerk.......
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Kind of annoying when u have this guy friend that kinda went somewhere but now u don't like him and he's bugging u about going out again. Ok I probably need to start in the beginning. I warn u, it's a LONG story. So I met Steve (nickname) at a spring break mission trip with my church. He was going with us. Anyways my friend (T) and I started calling this guy, Steve, because we could never remember his name. So we are having a great time getting to know each other when this other guy, N, who we didn't who he was at the time, and T started getting more that friendly with each other. So Steve became the third wheel because I started hanging out with this other chick who they didn't like but I don't like her anymore because she is really annoying. So I didn't really get to hang with them and the "lovebirds", as all the people on the trip dubbed them, N and T, really acted loveydovey and Steve was a huge third wheel. Well near the end of the trip I started hanging more out with them and since N and T were occupied, Steve and I had to hang out. It was kinda uncomfortable b/c at the time I was still going out with my ex (long story another blog for another day =]) and I didn't want to cheat on him but I didn't really like my ex anymore. So on the last night (by and by we were in New Orleans) the whole group decides we need to go the Hard Rock Cafe because it will be an adventure so we parked the cars and started walking down the French District. So since N and T were occupied again I hung out with Steve which is when we figured out we had a similar taste in music. So we were discussing those music and my ex texts me so of course the wonderful girlfriend, I text him back. I do this the entire dinner until near the end when I go to get a souvenir where Steve helps me choose it. I give him a hug and he thinks I likelike him. Anyways N&T went upstairs and sneaked around a lot and Steve makes a joke and they get pissed but are over it. Anyways that was that trip. This year I start liking Steve a bit because well idk. We went to youth group and one night he tells me he got dumped because his friend and gf were messing around. So there is the possibility of us going out now. So at the church garage sale I get prettied up for him but he left before I could see him. That would be the last time I see him for awhile and I wondered where he disappeared to. We went to different schools so I wouldn't find out where he went until I find out not from him but from T. She tells me his family problems just grow and he moves to Louisiana to his grandparents. I feel really hurt but mostly angry at his parents. I couldn't believe that he left without telling me. So we text and he apologizes and I accept it. I was still hurt though. Anyways we decide we should go out for awhile but over a long-distance. I tried it and it sucked!! I looked at other relationships and see couples hugging small talking just being together and I can't take it. I needed an arm around me to comfort me. I needed someone there where I can just be with and feel safe so I break up with him. It was a clean cut and I promised it would be a fresh start. So anyways he starts saying he's coming back to austin and he comes and sees my musical and that night i had a cast party so I couldn't hang out with him. Now he keeps asking to see if we can date but I don't want to. He has changed and I don't like the way he is now. Plus I try to avoid him on like Facebook so I don't think that is normal. I really want to let him down easy.
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just use the lies you women always do,just don't run back to him when you find out the grass isn't greener on the other side.
2 :
You were right a long story, and my head hurts from hitting the desk three times. My coffee just didn't help. Yawn! A small lesson with guys. Ignore and distance yourself from those that just don't fit in to you. Be polite and direct and tell him how you two just don't click. Be as honest as you can for this task. Lying is poor choice. Let him know that you were wrong on leading him on if he feels that way. Otherwise you feel he is a nice guy, but not for a boy friend at this time. That way he will walk away thinking he was close but no cigar. Be nice to him in this conversation and don't get into an argument. Just be polite and calm. Nice way to assess him in his being turned down phase and how he handles it. Maybe you were right or maybe wrong. Who knows if he might grow in maturity and shape up or puts that L on his forehead and takes it like a jerk.......
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Wednesday, August 1, 2012
How to let a guy down easy...?
How to let a guy down easy...?
Kind of annoying when u have this guy friend that kinda went somewhere but now u don't like him and he's bugging u about going out again. Ok I probably need to start in the beginning. I warn u, it's a LONG story. So I met Steve (nickname) at a spring break mission trip with my church. He was going with us. Anyways my friend (T) and I started calling this guy, Steve, because we could never remember his name. So we are having a great time getting to know each other when this other guy, N, who we didn't who he was at the time, and T started getting more that friendly with each other. So Steve became the third wheel because I started hanging out with this other chick who they didn't like but I don't like her anymore because she is really annoying. So I didn't really get to hang with them and the "lovebirds", as all the people on the trip dubbed them, N and T, really acted loveydovey and Steve was a huge third wheel. Well near the end of the trip I started hanging more out with them and since N and T were occupied, Steve and I had to hang out. It was kinda uncomfortable b/c at the time I was still going out with my ex (long story another blog for another day =]) and I didn't want to cheat on him but I didn't really like my ex anymore. So on the last night (by and by we were in New Orleans) the whole group decides we need to go the Hard Rock Cafe because it will be an adventure so we parked the cars and started walking down the French District. So since N and T were occupied again I hung out with Steve which is when we figured out we had a similar taste in music. So we were discussing those music and my ex texts me so of course the wonderful girlfriend, I text him back. I do this the entire dinner until near the end when I go to get a souvenir where Steve helps me choose it. I give him a hug and he thinks I likelike him. Anyways N&T went upstairs and sneaked around a lot and Steve makes a joke and they get pissed but are over it. Anyways that was that trip. This year I start liking Steve a bit because well idk. We went to youth group and one night he tells me he got dumped because his friend and gf were messing around. So there is the possibility of us going out now. So at the church garage sale I get prettied up for him but he left before I could see him. That would be the last time I see him for awhile and I wondered where he disappeared to. We went to different schools so I wouldn't find out where he went until I find out not from him but from T. She tells me his family problems just grow and he moves to Louisiana to his grandparents. I feel really hurt but mostly angry at his parents. I couldn't believe that he left without telling me. So we text and he apologizes and I accept it. I was still hurt though. Anyways we decide we should go out for awhile but over a long-distance. I tried it and it sucked!! I looked at other relationships and see couples hugging small talking just being together and I can't take it. I needed an arm around me to comfort me. I needed someone there where I can just be with and feel safe so I break up with him. It was a clean cut and I promised it would be a fresh start. So anyways he starts saying he's coming back to austin and he comes and sees my musical and that night i had a cast party so I couldn't hang out with him. Now he keeps asking to see if we can date but I don't want to. He has changed and I don't like the way he is now. Plus I try to avoid him on like Facebook so I don't think that is normal. I really want to let him down easy.
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just use the lies you women always do,just don't run back to him when you find out the grass isn't greener on the other side.
2 :
You were right a long story, and my head hurts from hitting the desk three times. My coffee just didn't help. Yawn! A small lesson with guys. Ignore and distance yourself from those that just don't fit in to you. Be polite and direct and tell him how you two just don't click. Be as honest as you can for this task. Lying is poor choice. Let him know that you were wrong on leading him on if he feels that way. Otherwise you feel he is a nice guy, but not for a boy friend at this time. That way he will walk away thinking he was close but no cigar. Be nice to him in this conversation and don't get into an argument. Just be polite and calm. Nice way to assess him in his being turned down phase and how he handles it. Maybe you were right or maybe wrong. Who knows if he might grow in maturity and shape up or puts that L on his forehead and takes it like a jerk.......
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Kind of annoying when u have this guy friend that kinda went somewhere but now u don't like him and he's bugging u about going out again. Ok I probably need to start in the beginning. I warn u, it's a LONG story. So I met Steve (nickname) at a spring break mission trip with my church. He was going with us. Anyways my friend (T) and I started calling this guy, Steve, because we could never remember his name. So we are having a great time getting to know each other when this other guy, N, who we didn't who he was at the time, and T started getting more that friendly with each other. So Steve became the third wheel because I started hanging out with this other chick who they didn't like but I don't like her anymore because she is really annoying. So I didn't really get to hang with them and the "lovebirds", as all the people on the trip dubbed them, N and T, really acted loveydovey and Steve was a huge third wheel. Well near the end of the trip I started hanging more out with them and since N and T were occupied, Steve and I had to hang out. It was kinda uncomfortable b/c at the time I was still going out with my ex (long story another blog for another day =]) and I didn't want to cheat on him but I didn't really like my ex anymore. So on the last night (by and by we were in New Orleans) the whole group decides we need to go the Hard Rock Cafe because it will be an adventure so we parked the cars and started walking down the French District. So since N and T were occupied again I hung out with Steve which is when we figured out we had a similar taste in music. So we were discussing those music and my ex texts me so of course the wonderful girlfriend, I text him back. I do this the entire dinner until near the end when I go to get a souvenir where Steve helps me choose it. I give him a hug and he thinks I likelike him. Anyways N&T went upstairs and sneaked around a lot and Steve makes a joke and they get pissed but are over it. Anyways that was that trip. This year I start liking Steve a bit because well idk. We went to youth group and one night he tells me he got dumped because his friend and gf were messing around. So there is the possibility of us going out now. So at the church garage sale I get prettied up for him but he left before I could see him. That would be the last time I see him for awhile and I wondered where he disappeared to. We went to different schools so I wouldn't find out where he went until I find out not from him but from T. She tells me his family problems just grow and he moves to Louisiana to his grandparents. I feel really hurt but mostly angry at his parents. I couldn't believe that he left without telling me. So we text and he apologizes and I accept it. I was still hurt though. Anyways we decide we should go out for awhile but over a long-distance. I tried it and it sucked!! I looked at other relationships and see couples hugging small talking just being together and I can't take it. I needed an arm around me to comfort me. I needed someone there where I can just be with and feel safe so I break up with him. It was a clean cut and I promised it would be a fresh start. So anyways he starts saying he's coming back to austin and he comes and sees my musical and that night i had a cast party so I couldn't hang out with him. Now he keeps asking to see if we can date but I don't want to. He has changed and I don't like the way he is now. Plus I try to avoid him on like Facebook so I don't think that is normal. I really want to let him down easy.
Singles & Dating - 2 Answers
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just use the lies you women always do,just don't run back to him when you find out the grass isn't greener on the other side.
2 :
You were right a long story, and my head hurts from hitting the desk three times. My coffee just didn't help. Yawn! A small lesson with guys. Ignore and distance yourself from those that just don't fit in to you. Be polite and direct and tell him how you two just don't click. Be as honest as you can for this task. Lying is poor choice. Let him know that you were wrong on leading him on if he feels that way. Otherwise you feel he is a nice guy, but not for a boy friend at this time. That way he will walk away thinking he was close but no cigar. Be nice to him in this conversation and don't get into an argument. Just be polite and calm. Nice way to assess him in his being turned down phase and how he handles it. Maybe you were right or maybe wrong. Who knows if he might grow in maturity and shape up or puts that L on his forehead and takes it like a jerk.......
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Saturday, July 28, 2012
Do you think I'll be okay visiting my friend I met through the internet?
Do you think I'll be okay visiting my friend I met through the internet?
Alright. So. Last year, I made a friend on facebook. We met through a fan page. He's my age & everything. I've become close friends with him & a lot of his other friends. They all go to the same school (I've seen pictures of them in school). They're all from California & I'm from Kansas. I'm closest to one of the people I met via this Californian friend & I plan on meeting him this summer. Yes, I've done a background check on him. I've video chatted & talked on the phone with him many, many times. I've even talked to his parents a couple of times too. I legitimately know that he is just a normal teenage boy, not some random pervert. I've known him for a year now & we're close friends. Coincidentally, I just so happen to be going to California this summer for vacation. And since that's where my friend lives, I figured I could go down & visit him while I'm there. I've discussed it with my mom & she is okay with this. She trusts my friend & she trusts me. My friend's parents are okay with it too. My mom is going to drop me off at his house & we're going to hang out all day & he's taking me to visit the rest of my CA friends. And our parents are meeting each other as well. :3 He's 16 & I'm 15. So do you guys think I'm taking the right precautions? Do you think I'll be alright? ALSO, I've known all of my CA friends for about a year now. Like I said, I've known him for a year, I checked his background when I first met him, I've seen tons of pictures of him, we've video chatted plenty of times, talk on the phone twice a week every week, & I know he's a high school student because he sends me pictures of his high school & pictures of our mutual friends in school all the time. He is legitimately a 16 year old boy. Plus, I'm not meeting him alone. I will be with my mom & her boyfriend. AND JUST TO CLARIFY; Neither of us have any sexual intentions. We're both kind of squeamish of anything sexual. :S
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No. He says he's 16, but how can you be 100% sure he's not really 60?
2 :
I think it will be alright :D A couple of years ago my best friend's sister had an online boyfriend, and they went on a family vacation and they met there in person. It was cute :D
3 :
Go! Give it a shot! As they say, carpe diem!
4 :
He`s going to fucking kill you
5 :
My mother would never let this happen. She'd be mad that I even talked to the person, if I was 16. Being 21, she would still be mad, I think. But if you've done a background check and all that business, I think maybe it'll be ok. You really can't trust anyone though, so just have a cell phone on you at all times and stay in places with a lot of people. Good luck!
6 :
I am pretty sure you are going to get murdered
7 :
Yeah, i think it should be fine :) But final judgent rests on you ;)
8 :
well...go with an adult & when you see him & know he is your age not some 30 year old pervert then the adult can ....leave you guys
9 :
THAT'S DUMB! DONT DO IT
10 :
i met a guy on the internet when i was 14. he was 16 and real chill and awesome. he sent me pictures. but then he started asking for naked pics of me. i didnt suspect anything until he sent me a picture of his penis. that was weird. he turned out to be a child predator. i never suspected a thing. and guess where i met him? neopets. what is the fan group? are most of the people in the group of teen age? if so that should set off alarms and how do you know his friends? you really don't know a person that you haven't met. that doesnt count. because people are different on the internet and you dont see things in their personality that you would in person. how do you know that they arent just other profiles made by this guy? predators do go to lengths like that. and how do you know that these aren't other predators pretending to be teens and helping eachother out by also pretending to be teen friends? there are predators that have guilds and things like that where they all connect and become friends and discuss ways of tricking teens into meeting them
11 :
it sounds that you did a thorough check! And you have known him for about a year. You wouldn't be the first one to do this!! Some people who did this it was a positive experience. And others , not so positive! You are taking a bit of a chance! I wouldn't go alone!!! make sure at least your Mom goes with you!!! It looks like everything is working out. See from my point of view, I don't have the full story so I would say be cautious. When you see him face to face , it could turn you off, cs internet is 1 dimensional and face to face is 3 dimensional. edit: after reading Kendra's story , I would use even more caution!!! I would also take into consideration what Kendra says. Like what would happen when you get to the house? And would there actually be a house when you get there? I would say that you have to be with a person for about a year to know what he is like. And you cant do that over the internet! There is too many risks!!! edit: anybody can send pictures of schools and so-called friends on the internet!!!!! just googgle pictures of schools and anybody can fake being squeamish!
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Alright. So. Last year, I made a friend on facebook. We met through a fan page. He's my age & everything. I've become close friends with him & a lot of his other friends. They all go to the same school (I've seen pictures of them in school). They're all from California & I'm from Kansas. I'm closest to one of the people I met via this Californian friend & I plan on meeting him this summer. Yes, I've done a background check on him. I've video chatted & talked on the phone with him many, many times. I've even talked to his parents a couple of times too. I legitimately know that he is just a normal teenage boy, not some random pervert. I've known him for a year now & we're close friends. Coincidentally, I just so happen to be going to California this summer for vacation. And since that's where my friend lives, I figured I could go down & visit him while I'm there. I've discussed it with my mom & she is okay with this. She trusts my friend & she trusts me. My friend's parents are okay with it too. My mom is going to drop me off at his house & we're going to hang out all day & he's taking me to visit the rest of my CA friends. And our parents are meeting each other as well. :3 He's 16 & I'm 15. So do you guys think I'm taking the right precautions? Do you think I'll be alright? ALSO, I've known all of my CA friends for about a year now. Like I said, I've known him for a year, I checked his background when I first met him, I've seen tons of pictures of him, we've video chatted plenty of times, talk on the phone twice a week every week, & I know he's a high school student because he sends me pictures of his high school & pictures of our mutual friends in school all the time. He is legitimately a 16 year old boy. Plus, I'm not meeting him alone. I will be with my mom & her boyfriend. AND JUST TO CLARIFY; Neither of us have any sexual intentions. We're both kind of squeamish of anything sexual. :S
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No. He says he's 16, but how can you be 100% sure he's not really 60?
2 :
I think it will be alright :D A couple of years ago my best friend's sister had an online boyfriend, and they went on a family vacation and they met there in person. It was cute :D
3 :
Go! Give it a shot! As they say, carpe diem!
4 :
He`s going to fucking kill you
5 :
My mother would never let this happen. She'd be mad that I even talked to the person, if I was 16. Being 21, she would still be mad, I think. But if you've done a background check and all that business, I think maybe it'll be ok. You really can't trust anyone though, so just have a cell phone on you at all times and stay in places with a lot of people. Good luck!
6 :
I am pretty sure you are going to get murdered
7 :
Yeah, i think it should be fine :) But final judgent rests on you ;)
8 :
well...go with an adult & when you see him & know he is your age not some 30 year old pervert then the adult can ....leave you guys
9 :
THAT'S DUMB! DONT DO IT
10 :
i met a guy on the internet when i was 14. he was 16 and real chill and awesome. he sent me pictures. but then he started asking for naked pics of me. i didnt suspect anything until he sent me a picture of his penis. that was weird. he turned out to be a child predator. i never suspected a thing. and guess where i met him? neopets. what is the fan group? are most of the people in the group of teen age? if so that should set off alarms and how do you know his friends? you really don't know a person that you haven't met. that doesnt count. because people are different on the internet and you dont see things in their personality that you would in person. how do you know that they arent just other profiles made by this guy? predators do go to lengths like that. and how do you know that these aren't other predators pretending to be teens and helping eachother out by also pretending to be teen friends? there are predators that have guilds and things like that where they all connect and become friends and discuss ways of tricking teens into meeting them
11 :
it sounds that you did a thorough check! And you have known him for about a year. You wouldn't be the first one to do this!! Some people who did this it was a positive experience. And others , not so positive! You are taking a bit of a chance! I wouldn't go alone!!! make sure at least your Mom goes with you!!! It looks like everything is working out. See from my point of view, I don't have the full story so I would say be cautious. When you see him face to face , it could turn you off, cs internet is 1 dimensional and face to face is 3 dimensional. edit: after reading Kendra's story , I would use even more caution!!! I would also take into consideration what Kendra says. Like what would happen when you get to the house? And would there actually be a house when you get there? I would say that you have to be with a person for about a year to know what he is like. And you cant do that over the internet! There is too many risks!!! edit: anybody can send pictures of schools and so-called friends on the internet!!!!! just googgle pictures of schools and anybody can fake being squeamish!
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Saturday, July 14, 2012
Should I Email My Girlfriend A Little Long, Please Help!!? Should I Email My Girlfriend A Little Long, Please Help!!?
Should I Email My Girlfriend A Little Long, Please Help!!?
I've had a girlfriend since June 3rd. She went to Hawaii for various reasons: She needs to lifeguard at Ewa Beach, has family there (she's half Hawaiian and very beautiful) and has to take some PSAT prep courses. Basically like a summer school. She's taking them there because she also has a home in Hawaii and it seemed better to her from her telling me about it. But there have been some problems. This guy (who was a childhood friend of hers) changed her relationship status on facebook and said that she is in a relationship with him and not me. I called and asked her about it, she was busy at the time but she briefly told me that he has her facebook password and he's "just messing with my profile." Now, I'm starting to have doubts though. I don't know if I can trust her on that even though she is a very understanding person in general. The guy blocked me from her and now I can't even see her profile. If he has just been messing around with her profile on facebook only I wouldn't worry too much but if he's calling her.. Telling her that he wants her or something, that's what I should be worried about. The last time I spoke to her on the phone was about the change on the facebook profile and I've tried calling her and there has been no answer. We promised not to see other people (as in dating others). I've only met the guy once so confronting him is probably not a good idea. So should I try to email her saying I really want to discuss things with you? Or should I just leave her? I'm going to be 18 tomorrow so I really don't know what to do!! My girlfriend is 16 years old.
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Leave her. If you act all desperate you'll push her to the other guy. Leave her to make her mind up and if she chooses the other guy then you wouldn't have worked out anyway. The fact that he knows her facebook password is a little weird but he's obviously worried about you. If they were in a strong relationship you wouldn't be a threat. Just back off and let her come to you.
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Leave her because if he has her password then they are VERY close. Far too close for a girl who's supposed to be in a relationship. She's not taking the relationship as serious as you are, so you need to let it go. She's allowing this to feed into her desire to feel wanted, and you being frustrated about it will only make her feel important. You don't need that, move on.
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I've had a girlfriend since June 3rd. She went to Hawaii for various reasons: She needs to lifeguard at Ewa Beach, has family there (she's half Hawaiian and very beautiful) and has to take some PSAT prep courses. Basically like a summer school. She's taking them there because she also has a home in Hawaii and it seemed better to her from her telling me about it. But there have been some problems. This guy (who was a childhood friend of hers) changed her relationship status on facebook and said that she is in a relationship with him and not me. I called and asked her about it, she was busy at the time but she briefly told me that he has her facebook password and he's "just messing with my profile." Now, I'm starting to have doubts though. I don't know if I can trust her on that even though she is a very understanding person in general. The guy blocked me from her and now I can't even see her profile. If he has just been messing around with her profile on facebook only I wouldn't worry too much but if he's calling her.. Telling her that he wants her or something, that's what I should be worried about. The last time I spoke to her on the phone was about the change on the facebook profile and I've tried calling her and there has been no answer. We promised not to see other people (as in dating others). I've only met the guy once so confronting him is probably not a good idea. So should I try to email her saying I really want to discuss things with you? Or should I just leave her? I'm going to be 18 tomorrow so I really don't know what to do!! My girlfriend is 16 years old.
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Leave her. If you act all desperate you'll push her to the other guy. Leave her to make her mind up and if she chooses the other guy then you wouldn't have worked out anyway. The fact that he knows her facebook password is a little weird but he's obviously worried about you. If they were in a strong relationship you wouldn't be a threat. Just back off and let her come to you.
2 :
Leave her because if he has her password then they are VERY close. Far too close for a girl who's supposed to be in a relationship. She's not taking the relationship as serious as you are, so you need to let it go. She's allowing this to feed into her desire to feel wanted, and you being frustrated about it will only make her feel important. You don't need that, move on.
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Saturday, July 7, 2012
How do I terminate my portion of a lease early that I signed with a "friend"?
How do I terminate my portion of a lease early that I signed with a "friend"?
Living in Hawaii, currently in month 10 of a 24 month lease that is signed by two individuals. We were "friends" from Facebook. I moved here from out of state and didn't have a job. After signing the lease with this other person, I found a job and freelance work but it's much too far to continue this ridiculous commute. With gas at $4.00 a gallon, it's costing me $425 a month to fill the tank 5 times. I can't afford a new car and can't take the bus as I need my vehicle to visit clients during work. From our vast differences in maintaining a household, this "friendship" has only gotten worse. I'm working two jobs practically 12/7 and the housemate is home nearly 24/7. I've met with and discussed these issues with the property manager but he doesn't want to get involved with the "domestic issues". He said I can get out of the lease and have my portion of the deposit returned if the other person signs on 100% or finds a new tenant to take my place. The house mate doesn't want full responsibility of the lease (which was their idea for 24 months versus 12 in the first place). The housemate has also poo-pooed any suggestions I've made about finding a new tenant on Craigslist, Facebook or other resources. The property manager has stated that we can both get out of the lease without recourse if we both move. Even though the housemate admits to not enjoy living here, they say they "can't afford to move". "When friends helped me move last time, a lot of my things got broken and damaged" was the reply. I've been more than patient, accommodating, honest, respectful and fair. This "person" makes me feel as though I'm only renting a room in the house as they have hogged all but one "spare" room simply because I didn't bring furniture with me. I don't want to sound like a drama queen, but I seriously need to get out of this situation or I'm going to develop health issues. I find myself staying in town late and eating out to avoid having to come home because of this situation. Every single suggestion I have made about me moving out has been shot down by this person. They claim to have had made 10 attempts asking other people if they wanted to move in but when they find out where the house is, they are no longer interested because of its proximity to "town". I have been a tenant before. I have been a landlord before. Although I admit to being fastidious about keeping the house in order, the housemate is the complete opposite. The living room and dining room are filled with their unpacked boxes still, after 10 months. There are far too many issues to list here and I don't want digress from the main purpose of writing. PLEASE HELP! All I want is to terminate my portion of the lease and move. I'll even forfeit my portion of the deposit. I just need to get my things out of here and move on with my life... alone. A little side note; I believe that this person has great satisfaction in knowing that they have "control" of my life and destiny. It is truly an unhealthy situation. I'm a creative person and the housemate exudes such negative energy that it stifles my creativity. They have created a toxic living environment and I am being poisoned by the negativity. Someone please help! Mahalo nui loa!
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You can't. You pay till the lease ends or find someone to sublet your share
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Living in Hawaii, currently in month 10 of a 24 month lease that is signed by two individuals. We were "friends" from Facebook. I moved here from out of state and didn't have a job. After signing the lease with this other person, I found a job and freelance work but it's much too far to continue this ridiculous commute. With gas at $4.00 a gallon, it's costing me $425 a month to fill the tank 5 times. I can't afford a new car and can't take the bus as I need my vehicle to visit clients during work. From our vast differences in maintaining a household, this "friendship" has only gotten worse. I'm working two jobs practically 12/7 and the housemate is home nearly 24/7. I've met with and discussed these issues with the property manager but he doesn't want to get involved with the "domestic issues". He said I can get out of the lease and have my portion of the deposit returned if the other person signs on 100% or finds a new tenant to take my place. The house mate doesn't want full responsibility of the lease (which was their idea for 24 months versus 12 in the first place). The housemate has also poo-pooed any suggestions I've made about finding a new tenant on Craigslist, Facebook or other resources. The property manager has stated that we can both get out of the lease without recourse if we both move. Even though the housemate admits to not enjoy living here, they say they "can't afford to move". "When friends helped me move last time, a lot of my things got broken and damaged" was the reply. I've been more than patient, accommodating, honest, respectful and fair. This "person" makes me feel as though I'm only renting a room in the house as they have hogged all but one "spare" room simply because I didn't bring furniture with me. I don't want to sound like a drama queen, but I seriously need to get out of this situation or I'm going to develop health issues. I find myself staying in town late and eating out to avoid having to come home because of this situation. Every single suggestion I have made about me moving out has been shot down by this person. They claim to have had made 10 attempts asking other people if they wanted to move in but when they find out where the house is, they are no longer interested because of its proximity to "town". I have been a tenant before. I have been a landlord before. Although I admit to being fastidious about keeping the house in order, the housemate is the complete opposite. The living room and dining room are filled with their unpacked boxes still, after 10 months. There are far too many issues to list here and I don't want digress from the main purpose of writing. PLEASE HELP! All I want is to terminate my portion of the lease and move. I'll even forfeit my portion of the deposit. I just need to get my things out of here and move on with my life... alone. A little side note; I believe that this person has great satisfaction in knowing that they have "control" of my life and destiny. It is truly an unhealthy situation. I'm a creative person and the housemate exudes such negative energy that it stifles my creativity. They have created a toxic living environment and I am being poisoned by the negativity. Someone please help! Mahalo nui loa!
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You can't. You pay till the lease ends or find someone to sublet your share
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Sunday, July 1, 2012
I'm hurting [please help!!!]?
I'm hurting [please help!!!]?
Alright, here's the deal: I've been in this on-and-off again relationship for the past year and a half with this chick. Can honestly say I love her to death. I've overlooked the lies, deceit, and so forth on a few occasions and still stuck by her side to make it work. She has a daughter, who is now 3, that looks up to me and calls me daddy (even though I'm not the biological father) ... We've lived together, I'd get kicked out, invited back, I'd leave, come back. It was basically dysfunctional. (But I kept finding my way back to her in the name of "LOVE"). & even at times of our split, I still played the background and served as a safety net- and still took care of this little girl/her daughter, with no questions asked...) I eventually got my own place, and was doing fine. About 2 months ago we started "talking again".. & 3 weeks ago, I ended my lease early to move into a spot with her.. Last week? We get into an argument, and for once, I'm the one to blame-- and I swear the argument wasn't that major.. - either way, she ended up kicking me out.. So --- of course she still has my belongings, so we set up a date for me to get my stuff.. As I'm getting my stuff, I guess she called her cousin from W. Virginia to come/spend the night. Her cousin brought her bf and I guess a guy for my ex-girl.... They end up going to W. Virginia, and apparently these 2 (my ex and this new guy) formed a "48 hour" love thing- unbeknown to me. So, while I'm contacting my gf trying to make it work- they come back from W. Virginia and he's in her house- spending the night .. I ask if I can come over, if we can talk, have dinner and discuss our relationship. She tells me, no, her cousin is over, and not to come by because she's going back to W. Virginia later ... she just needs time by herself to think things through... Turns out, she lied to me.. Her "cousin" wasn't there at all, it was actually this new guy her cousin hooked her up with. So, last night, when I found out I couldn't sleep, it hurts me, how she could throw our family away over some new guy she just met.. She sends me a message basically saying she misses me, and we'll talk about our relationship when she gets back... Then she goes on her facebook, and updates her status saying "She met a new guy and she's feeling him a lot".. & of course we have mutual friends, so this is how I found out.. Oh yeah, forgot to mention... She told me she's planning on moving to W. Virginia soon (We live in Maryland). I told her not to contact me ever again - even in regards to the little girl.. & it's strange because she left the little girl unattended with this man while she called me the other day from the store -- i asked where "my daughter" was, and she said with her counsin, in the house.. but they're about to leave out soon... While really, she left him with this man she just met--- All of this is too much to take in, and I'm hurting tremendously..
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well i dont know really what to tell you its your choice of what you do but she doesnt know what she wants and is basically playing around with your heart you honestly need to move on and find someone new dont keep going back to someone who is just going to break your heart
2 :
i think from what you tell me it,s never going to work shes on again off again and doesnt know what she wants. it,s time to bite the bullet, get out of that relationship while your still sane
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That's really sad. I feel awful for the situation the little girl is put in, that's no way to live or influence a child at all. It's a shame you're not the biological father... so you could try to get custody or something. You sound like a nice guy. I think you should just leave her be for a bit. Let her go. However, the little girl does concern me. You NEED to talk to her to see what's going to happen with her. You've bonded with her and she's calling you daddy. Something needs to work out about that. I know it hurts, but there are so many women in this world... you'll find the right one eventually. One who won't kick you out. It sounds like she kicks you out after every argument. That's crazy.
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If I was you I would just leave her alone. She sounds like trouble. As for hurting, you're human and you're gonna hurt. It'll take time for you to heal. These things have to run there course. Surround yourself with good, supportive friends. Just get out there and go on with your life. One day you'll look back on this as one of life's hard lessons.
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Alright, here's the deal: I've been in this on-and-off again relationship for the past year and a half with this chick. Can honestly say I love her to death. I've overlooked the lies, deceit, and so forth on a few occasions and still stuck by her side to make it work. She has a daughter, who is now 3, that looks up to me and calls me daddy (even though I'm not the biological father) ... We've lived together, I'd get kicked out, invited back, I'd leave, come back. It was basically dysfunctional. (But I kept finding my way back to her in the name of "LOVE"). & even at times of our split, I still played the background and served as a safety net- and still took care of this little girl/her daughter, with no questions asked...) I eventually got my own place, and was doing fine. About 2 months ago we started "talking again".. & 3 weeks ago, I ended my lease early to move into a spot with her.. Last week? We get into an argument, and for once, I'm the one to blame-- and I swear the argument wasn't that major.. - either way, she ended up kicking me out.. So --- of course she still has my belongings, so we set up a date for me to get my stuff.. As I'm getting my stuff, I guess she called her cousin from W. Virginia to come/spend the night. Her cousin brought her bf and I guess a guy for my ex-girl.... They end up going to W. Virginia, and apparently these 2 (my ex and this new guy) formed a "48 hour" love thing- unbeknown to me. So, while I'm contacting my gf trying to make it work- they come back from W. Virginia and he's in her house- spending the night .. I ask if I can come over, if we can talk, have dinner and discuss our relationship. She tells me, no, her cousin is over, and not to come by because she's going back to W. Virginia later ... she just needs time by herself to think things through... Turns out, she lied to me.. Her "cousin" wasn't there at all, it was actually this new guy her cousin hooked her up with. So, last night, when I found out I couldn't sleep, it hurts me, how she could throw our family away over some new guy she just met.. She sends me a message basically saying she misses me, and we'll talk about our relationship when she gets back... Then she goes on her facebook, and updates her status saying "She met a new guy and she's feeling him a lot".. & of course we have mutual friends, so this is how I found out.. Oh yeah, forgot to mention... She told me she's planning on moving to W. Virginia soon (We live in Maryland). I told her not to contact me ever again - even in regards to the little girl.. & it's strange because she left the little girl unattended with this man while she called me the other day from the store -- i asked where "my daughter" was, and she said with her counsin, in the house.. but they're about to leave out soon... While really, she left him with this man she just met--- All of this is too much to take in, and I'm hurting tremendously..
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well i dont know really what to tell you its your choice of what you do but she doesnt know what she wants and is basically playing around with your heart you honestly need to move on and find someone new dont keep going back to someone who is just going to break your heart
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i think from what you tell me it,s never going to work shes on again off again and doesnt know what she wants. it,s time to bite the bullet, get out of that relationship while your still sane
3 :
That's really sad. I feel awful for the situation the little girl is put in, that's no way to live or influence a child at all. It's a shame you're not the biological father... so you could try to get custody or something. You sound like a nice guy. I think you should just leave her be for a bit. Let her go. However, the little girl does concern me. You NEED to talk to her to see what's going to happen with her. You've bonded with her and she's calling you daddy. Something needs to work out about that. I know it hurts, but there are so many women in this world... you'll find the right one eventually. One who won't kick you out. It sounds like she kicks you out after every argument. That's crazy.
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If I was you I would just leave her alone. She sounds like trouble. As for hurting, you're human and you're gonna hurt. It'll take time for you to heal. These things have to run there course. Surround yourself with good, supportive friends. Just get out there and go on with your life. One day you'll look back on this as one of life's hard lessons.
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