My first love....please I need advice!?
Without going into a life story let me just try to keep this to an overview of a few of my thoughts and feelings....I met my first love back in my teenage years, it was a night I will never forget. The night started out like any other night as a teenager, no real plans and not looking for a girlfriend at all. I arrived at the local skating rink on a Friday night, met up with friends and the night started. It was not long before this brown hair brown eyed beauty caught my eye...but she was way out of my league. I watched her throughout the night scared to death to actually approach her. After much convincing from my friends talking me up and telling me if I really liked her to go talk to her I did, knees shaking, stomach doing circles trying to remain calm I approached her to ask her to skate with my for the slow skate. She told me she was waiting for another guy she was supposed to meet up with during the second session but she would skate with me. The song was You Are Not Alone by MIchael Jackson I remember it like yesterday! The night went on and we really hit it off, completely inseparable from one another. This other guy finally arrived and was late and her lost the chance at the only girl that has touched my life like this. We talked on the phone that night and many nights to come falling asleep talking to one another on the phone at all hours of the morning. Fast forward a few years we have dated a few times by now and it has finally stopped, she has fallen for someone else. We remained friends and we went to one another to talk about all of our problems included relationships, we got eachother through a lot of tough times. It always killed me to hear she was dating someone else. Now skip another 8 years to Valentines day this year, my wife and I go into buy a couch and who is the sales person that comes up to us......yep you guessed it. We have not talked in probably years to this point, although I literally think about her daily and wish it would have never ended. I really understand the meaning of love and it is thanks to this girl I got it, however I have never felt it with anyone else...I miss her and think about her 24/7 I know some of you will say let it go you both moved on, but truth be told I don't think I really ever have. I added her on facebook a few days after running into her again and we chatted for a little while she started telling me about problems with her marriage and then just stopped and asked why she was telling me all of this...it was like time just went back a decade there for a minute and we were talking about our relationship problems again. I love her and I am married, I just need some advise. If your advise is "you are married, drop it with her" or anything of that sort then save it and keep it to yourself. I hate to be mean here but I really cannot leave the thought of us getting back together alone it has been over a decade and I long to see her, hear her voice and just think about her EVERY SINGLE DAY. I have no one I can tell this too or talk about with so you guys are it. Please help me. I wrote an annomous note the other day telling her all of my feelings for her with an email address to reply to if she is interested in figuring out who it is from. I am going ot leave it on her car for her to find, she can then do what she wants with it...but I really hope I hear something back. Comments and advise are welcome...............please you are all I have as I cannot even discuss the thought of all of this with anyone in my life, and it has been consuming me for over a decade. This is just not some random girl but more like what I believe to be my soulmate! Thanks guys!!!!
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story time!! summerise pls.
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First, I would like to know if you have any kids. I know you didn't mention them, but that doesn't mean you don't have any. I'm not going to lie, I think it's a bad idea. Are you completely sure of your feelings? Could it be that maybe you just didn't get closure? Maybe you've idealized her beyond and realistic standards. I've done that before and it was horrible. It came to the point that there was no way she could meet up to what I imagined being with her would be like. I'd hate to know that you threw away a marriage for that. You need to think logically about all of this. I know that would be hard to do, but sometimes emotions get the better of us. If you are absolutely sure of what you are feeling, well, it's not fair to your wife. But you should know there is a VERY good chance that she will hate you for this. Just don't go off half cocked. Think everything out. Be patient and make sure this is what's right. I hope you have the best of luck with whatever you decide.
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You seem to have already made your mind up of what you want. Why did she break it off to begin with when you were dating? I'd take a good look at what you have now and figure out if its worth to risk it on a maybe. First real loves last with everyone that has them, you aren't the only one, but try and be realistic and figure out if it's actually possible before you go putting a mushy note on her car. I wish you luck. You have some soul searching to do that is for certain.
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I had the same problem, but, well, if you don't want to be told to move on, then think of why you married your wife and how hurt you would be if she acted on similar feelings for her first love. It's time to reevaluate your life when these situations arise. Could you live happily without your wife or after you have hurt her? Or would you really throw it all away? Maybe you would, you said nothing about your marriage. I think this kind of situation occurs more than you think.
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I know what you mean I fell for two females I really do love them but they are married we been friends for years, They know I love them their husbands know I love them and I happy they are in my life At some stage in life we really do find true love and have to play the cards we are dealt. I'm now an old man and it's easier for me to be happy that they are where they need to be and well taken care of. It may be a different story if I was younger. She could be your soul mate under different circumstances. I have never felt this close to anyone as I feel to these to ladies. I put my arms around them and it's damn hard to let go but have nothing but their best interest at heart.
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