MO & AR divorce laws, legal advice about spousal support, adultery, home...any lawyers?
Long story...complicated a bit! Please be kind, this is a very emotionally disturbing situation, only serious answers please. I'll try to sum it up... Married in arkansas, resided together in Missouri. Married almost 4 years, I was a single mother of 3 going back to college when we met, and i had my own home. we married, I sold my home, we bought a $300,000+ home together. I had to quit going to college and work full-time because his promise to pay my tuition after we married was not fulfilled. I quit working all together 6 months later at his request because he works away from home and wanted me home when he was not working. June 2007, he moved out and got an apartment in arkansas, putting much of the blame on his children, stating they do not care for me. Has spent much time here in our home since then, with many unkept promises of moving back. He took a job in Asia 1 year ago and while claims to be working 3 months on and 3 WEEKS off, I just found out that he has not been working all that time and in fact has an asian girlfriend with which he is residing, believed to be in Thailand. yet he will not admit this. He has since let the mortgage get behind, his vehicle was even repossessed this week. Although I have had suspicions of all of this, I confronted him manytimes and it was always denied. I lost my part-time job this week because of emotional upset and inability to work. and have discussed many times about geting a full-time job and each time he simply refuses and says there's no need. the emotional upset is because i had not spoken tohim in 7 days, got suspicious, found internet profiles(facebook, myspace) with many asian female friends, learned he's learning the language, etc. I called the vessel he was supposed to beon and he had left 1 week earlier. learned he had been in bangkok, had lasik eye surgery, then was supposed to fly home on feb. 11th, move home permanently, catch up the mortgage, then on the 11th i got an email from him stating he wasn't coming home. 5 days went by with no word from him, he claimed he had been in jail for hitting the doctor while at his lasik check-up. Now today, 5 more days later, he confesses its over! I have no money, a home that will eventually go into foreclosure, an unfinished degree with student loans to pay, 3 children to support, no means to go to the doctor for some type of help with my upset and nervous situation. His job is a contract position, no taxes withheld, all checks deposited into an Asian bank account, possibley in Singapore. His income averages $150,000 per year. He claims he doesnt have a passport anymore either. I have suspected, but he will not admit to anything and I'm afraid he may be seeking citizenship in an Asian country and am unsure as to whether or not this will make me responsible for all of our shared debt. What are my chances of getting spousal support, at least temporarily? Should I go ahead and file for divorce now? or only tryto seek spousal support and let him show that he is the guilty and abandoning party by waiting for him to file? ***PLEASE***before any snide and hurtful remarks are made, please be aware that the only thing I am guilty for is loving someone who happens to be quite manipulative, hurtful, selfish, quite convincing, and someone whom I have always been able to trust and who I thought was my best friend as well. I am not a stupid person, I am very trusting and have always been an honest person. I am however, obviously a terrible judge of character. This situation has completely turned my world upside down, so please only serious answers from those who have serious educated answers. I do plan to get an attorney, but have to have finances first and am trying to get a sense of what I may be up against. .
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WAY, way, way too long. Shorten this question and you may get more answers to help you.
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Sunday, April 14, 2013
Why am I a secret from some people?
Why am I a secret from some people?
I have been seeing a girl for a few months now. We were friends for almost a year before we realized something was there and got more involved. She has a 4 year old son with an ex boyfriend/roommate who she never married. They were on the rocks for years, he cheated several times and texted out nude pics of her to their friends. They broke off their relationship right as we got serious. He knows about me, her son knows me well, and her parents know about me...I know those are the important people, but I have not met one of her friends, and while her facebook says she is in a relationship she won't accept my add to show it's me she is involved with and will not say anything on facebook about dating me. We ran into one her friends recently and they talked and she never introduced me...she claims she wants to let more time pass so people don't think she left her ex for me or something like that, but in the mean time she tells me how much she loves, and has discussed marriage. Would you be a little confused or angry if you were always showing someone off and bragging on them only to be kept secret by her?
Singles & Dating - 1 Answers
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You said all the important people know about you. So why stress over her friends. Maybe she knows how her friends will react and don't want them to hurt you and her relationship. Friends can be devious at times. Don't worry about facebook either, facebook is known to also hurt relationships. As long as she loves you, you love her, and her son and parents accept you, there isn't anything to worry about. Don't base your relationship on her hiding you, because I seriously don't think that is the problem.
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I have been seeing a girl for a few months now. We were friends for almost a year before we realized something was there and got more involved. She has a 4 year old son with an ex boyfriend/roommate who she never married. They were on the rocks for years, he cheated several times and texted out nude pics of her to their friends. They broke off their relationship right as we got serious. He knows about me, her son knows me well, and her parents know about me...I know those are the important people, but I have not met one of her friends, and while her facebook says she is in a relationship she won't accept my add to show it's me she is involved with and will not say anything on facebook about dating me. We ran into one her friends recently and they talked and she never introduced me...she claims she wants to let more time pass so people don't think she left her ex for me or something like that, but in the mean time she tells me how much she loves, and has discussed marriage. Would you be a little confused or angry if you were always showing someone off and bragging on them only to be kept secret by her?
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You said all the important people know about you. So why stress over her friends. Maybe she knows how her friends will react and don't want them to hurt you and her relationship. Friends can be devious at times. Don't worry about facebook either, facebook is known to also hurt relationships. As long as she loves you, you love her, and her son and parents accept you, there isn't anything to worry about. Don't base your relationship on her hiding you, because I seriously don't think that is the problem.
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Sunday, April 7, 2013
Why is neither the left or right reporting this news about the WH crashers and Obama connection?
Why is neither the left or right reporting this news about the WH crashers and Obama connection?
I'm puzzled and I would just like some opinions and what is the angle - I can't figure it out! Why the secret service is investigating itself, the white house is investigating and the couple are not discussing that the husband and Obama worked at the Univ of Chicago together and he worked on Obama's campaign - they know eachother and they act like they've never met! There is no way to link so I'll paste, but here's the original stories: http://canadafreepress.com/index.php/article/17310 http://www.wnd.com/index.php?fa=PAGE.view&pageId=117478 And cut and paste for the rest of you: "Unprecedented†first state dinner in a tent “Party Crashers†had five-year relationship with Obama before state dinner Judi McLeod Bio Print friendly E-mail a friend Contact Us By Judi McLeod Saturday, November 28, 2009 While the big gun media and American Secret Service are out there investigating “party crashers†Tareq and Michaele Salahi, no one’s telling the truth: Obama knew the Salahis when he was still an Illinois senator. Polo Contacts Worldwide could make it easy for the investigating Secret Service by brown-enveloping them this picture: Hey Secret Agent Man, here’s Obama, the senator flashing his pearly whites with Randy Jackson, better known as a judge on American Idol. “Others pictured are Black Eyed Peas Rock Band; Tareq Salahi the President of the America’s Polo Cup; President Elect Obama, Fergie from Black eyed Peas and Michaele Salahi, posing this time as a former Miss USA and SuperModel.†Interesting little detail for White House gumshoes: As the above photo was published in June 2005, Barack Obama was still Senator Obama and not the President Elect. And with Michaele Salahi yesterday having been caught out—Facebook pompoms notwithstanding—as a bogus cheerleader for the Washington Red Skins and not a model for Victoria’s Secret as claimed, Canada Free Press (CFP) leaves it to FoxNews.com to find out if she ever was a “former Miss USAâ€. We do know for a fact that among the slew of memberships on charitable boards, Tareq Salahi is a former member of The American Task Force on Palestine (ATFP). The only way to know for a fact is because even though ATFP scrubbed all references to Salahi as a board member, he can still be found on Google cache. (Canada Free Press) Sad that White House Secret Service are looking like Keystone Kops in the aftermath of Obama’s very first state house dinner in the tent. While the media is fixated on the hitch in Michaele Salahi’s git-along, there can be no doubt that these recently minted “party crashers†really get around. We take you back to June 9, 2005 when Tom Nelson, operating officer of AARP, was summing up the Rock the Vote Awards night. According to the Washington Post “everyone from Sens. John McCain and Barack Obama to “American Idol†judge Randy Jackson and R&B singer Mya gathered in the National Building Museum’s Great Hall: “You were probably wondering, as you sat down at your table, ‘What the heck is the AARP doing in a Rock the Vote Event?’†Nelson noted. Time would soon tell that the AARP would show up in other fishy places. And if there is anyone who must know that this weekend’s party crasher story is a crock it’s John McCain who was at the Vote Awards Night, and who along with Barack Obama, was honored with the Rock the Nation Award, Obama “for forming a multiracial coalition in winning his seatâ€. McCain was handed his award for “his work on campaign finance reformâ€. “Just call me Funk Master McCain,†he told the audience of 1,000 in accepting his award.: (washingtonpost.com, June 9, 2005. Meanwhile, don’t know why Obama’s long time associates possibly could be mistaken for party crashers when they came into the tent with a Bravo Reality TV Show “Real Housewives of DC†professional camera crew and makeup artist in tow unless he was hoping for a Reality gig for wife Michelle, CBS celebrity Katie Couric or Chief of Staff Rahm Emanuel. Obama could end the “party crasher†goose chase for White House Secret Service in a proverbial New York Minute by coming clean on his almost 5-year-old social/political relationship with Tareq and Michaele Salahi. It could save money in these recessionary times and put an end to the drama of Washington’s “unprecedented†first state dinner in a tent WorldNetDaily Exclusive White House 'gatecrashers' tied to terror sympathizer Salahi served in same anti-Israel group as Obama's Palestinian professor pal -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Posted: November 29, 2009 5:12 pm Eastern By Aaron Klein © 2009 WorldNetDaily Rashid Khalidi The Virginia couple who allegedly crashed a White House state dinner is tied to Rashid Khalidi, a pro-Palestinian professor who excuses terrorism and has been a close associate to President Obama. Michaele and Tareq Salahi met Obama in To THINK, I'm truly not slamming anyone, since I don't believe the government of either side! Just confused wondering why.
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Do tell. Somehow, I knew it was Obama's fault.
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They don't want to let people know that Hussein is hanging around muslim terrorists. They were busy talking about Tiger Woods' fire hydrant. Fox News is far from conservative, it's exactly the same as CNN and other liberal news outlets.
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If that is true, then why didn't Obama just come right out and say so? He is such a wishy washy person and does not like to be clear and precise about anything. And libs on answers support him? the Loons following the Loon I guess.
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Headline News reported they were 0bama's coke connection.
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Well if the guy DID know the President from before and said that then it probably helped him get in. But who really cares? What are they supposed to pay the taxpayer back for the shrimp cocktails they ate?
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I'm puzzled and I would just like some opinions and what is the angle - I can't figure it out! Why the secret service is investigating itself, the white house is investigating and the couple are not discussing that the husband and Obama worked at the Univ of Chicago together and he worked on Obama's campaign - they know eachother and they act like they've never met! There is no way to link so I'll paste, but here's the original stories: http://canadafreepress.com/index.php/article/17310 http://www.wnd.com/index.php?fa=PAGE.view&pageId=117478 And cut and paste for the rest of you: "Unprecedented†first state dinner in a tent “Party Crashers†had five-year relationship with Obama before state dinner Judi McLeod Bio Print friendly E-mail a friend Contact Us By Judi McLeod Saturday, November 28, 2009 While the big gun media and American Secret Service are out there investigating “party crashers†Tareq and Michaele Salahi, no one’s telling the truth: Obama knew the Salahis when he was still an Illinois senator. Polo Contacts Worldwide could make it easy for the investigating Secret Service by brown-enveloping them this picture: Hey Secret Agent Man, here’s Obama, the senator flashing his pearly whites with Randy Jackson, better known as a judge on American Idol. “Others pictured are Black Eyed Peas Rock Band; Tareq Salahi the President of the America’s Polo Cup; President Elect Obama, Fergie from Black eyed Peas and Michaele Salahi, posing this time as a former Miss USA and SuperModel.†Interesting little detail for White House gumshoes: As the above photo was published in June 2005, Barack Obama was still Senator Obama and not the President Elect. And with Michaele Salahi yesterday having been caught out—Facebook pompoms notwithstanding—as a bogus cheerleader for the Washington Red Skins and not a model for Victoria’s Secret as claimed, Canada Free Press (CFP) leaves it to FoxNews.com to find out if she ever was a “former Miss USAâ€. We do know for a fact that among the slew of memberships on charitable boards, Tareq Salahi is a former member of The American Task Force on Palestine (ATFP). The only way to know for a fact is because even though ATFP scrubbed all references to Salahi as a board member, he can still be found on Google cache. (Canada Free Press) Sad that White House Secret Service are looking like Keystone Kops in the aftermath of Obama’s very first state house dinner in the tent. While the media is fixated on the hitch in Michaele Salahi’s git-along, there can be no doubt that these recently minted “party crashers†really get around. We take you back to June 9, 2005 when Tom Nelson, operating officer of AARP, was summing up the Rock the Vote Awards night. According to the Washington Post “everyone from Sens. John McCain and Barack Obama to “American Idol†judge Randy Jackson and R&B singer Mya gathered in the National Building Museum’s Great Hall: “You were probably wondering, as you sat down at your table, ‘What the heck is the AARP doing in a Rock the Vote Event?’†Nelson noted. Time would soon tell that the AARP would show up in other fishy places. And if there is anyone who must know that this weekend’s party crasher story is a crock it’s John McCain who was at the Vote Awards Night, and who along with Barack Obama, was honored with the Rock the Nation Award, Obama “for forming a multiracial coalition in winning his seatâ€. McCain was handed his award for “his work on campaign finance reformâ€. “Just call me Funk Master McCain,†he told the audience of 1,000 in accepting his award.: (washingtonpost.com, June 9, 2005. Meanwhile, don’t know why Obama’s long time associates possibly could be mistaken for party crashers when they came into the tent with a Bravo Reality TV Show “Real Housewives of DC†professional camera crew and makeup artist in tow unless he was hoping for a Reality gig for wife Michelle, CBS celebrity Katie Couric or Chief of Staff Rahm Emanuel. Obama could end the “party crasher†goose chase for White House Secret Service in a proverbial New York Minute by coming clean on his almost 5-year-old social/political relationship with Tareq and Michaele Salahi. It could save money in these recessionary times and put an end to the drama of Washington’s “unprecedented†first state dinner in a tent WorldNetDaily Exclusive White House 'gatecrashers' tied to terror sympathizer Salahi served in same anti-Israel group as Obama's Palestinian professor pal -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Posted: November 29, 2009 5:12 pm Eastern By Aaron Klein © 2009 WorldNetDaily Rashid Khalidi The Virginia couple who allegedly crashed a White House state dinner is tied to Rashid Khalidi, a pro-Palestinian professor who excuses terrorism and has been a close associate to President Obama. Michaele and Tareq Salahi met Obama in To THINK, I'm truly not slamming anyone, since I don't believe the government of either side! Just confused wondering why.
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Do tell. Somehow, I knew it was Obama's fault.
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They don't want to let people know that Hussein is hanging around muslim terrorists. They were busy talking about Tiger Woods' fire hydrant. Fox News is far from conservative, it's exactly the same as CNN and other liberal news outlets.
3 :
If that is true, then why didn't Obama just come right out and say so? He is such a wishy washy person and does not like to be clear and precise about anything. And libs on answers support him? the Loons following the Loon I guess.
4 :
Headline News reported they were 0bama's coke connection.
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Well if the guy DID know the President from before and said that then it probably helped him get in. But who really cares? What are they supposed to pay the taxpayer back for the shrimp cocktails they ate?
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Monday, April 1, 2013
Am I sensitive? I hope girls answer me too?
Am I sensitive? I hope girls answer me too?
I know a girl for a while now she is not my girlfriend but my favorite friend, and I know that she likes me a lot, she always texts me for hangouts, I ask/text much less for hangouts because I am shy. Well sometimes when I text her she either texts back late, or doesn’t reply and saying she didn’t receive anything. I don’t think she is lying because I see a lot of good signs from her for liking me her as she invites me for hangouts and tells me to be with her. Few weeks ago she went on training abroad and texted saying I miss you, which make believe she is not lying at all about receiving my texts, and I know that she is a good girl. For Example: Today I was planning to gather with very good friends of us, I texted her saying that "can you join us at that restaurant tonight?" but she didn't reply at all, while yesterday she texted me about "what about a brunch on friday?". Another Example, I texted her after I helped her in a social problem asked her "Do you feel better now after what happened and etc ?" the next few days she said I didn't receive anything. also After week I texted her for a gathering and she replied a bit late. I tried to discuss this issue with people online and specially with those I met today at the restaurant, it appeared that many people suffer from this negative feeling after texting, which is better the not replying. Also I she complains sometimes about her mobile (BlackBerry) for being not good, I even noticed her telling someone on facebook "If I only can get my mobile work properly". So what do you think the problem is? Do you think its normal? Do you think I am sensitive (Many people say that I am sensitive? please tell me anything this girl is my best friend :) Thank you in advance :)
Singles & Dating - 4 Answers
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"Sensitive", screw that. You are who you are. Don't put a label on yourself. You don't have to be a tough guy like all the other dipsh*ts in this society say. Having said that, you are a "friend" guy. This chick likes you as a friend. You will NEVER have sex with her. NEVER. She made up her mind already. There is NOTHING you can do. Please move on for the betterment of yourself. You will NEVER have sex with this girl. She is using you for when she has nothing better to do. Again please move on.
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well i guess her phone could not be working or she could be saying that idku sound a little sensitive but nothing to worry about you seem like a nice caring guy. just go with ur gut
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I have a couple of advice tips for you. 1. Just call her if you want to invite her somewhere, or to do something. Thats more likely gonna go through than a text! I know you might be nervous, but just call her to invite her and then get off the phone...it's simple! 2. If you send a text and she doesn't reply within 5 - 10 minutes then RESEND the text, because sometimes resending texts will make her get the text. My phone does that ALL the time...I don't get a lot of texts, so the people sending it have to resend...or I'll send texts and the other people don't get them unless I resend. But definitely just call her instead, it's better. 3. Stop worrying so much! Im sensitive too, I get told that all the time too, but we just gotta quit worrying about every little thing man. Get a grip lol and don't be so shy...she likes you, you like her...ask her out already! lol I hope the best for ya! Hope ya get the girl =]
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Ask one of her friends if they ever have that happen to them where they text her and she never answers back saying that she never got anything. if your nervous to ask one of her friends then just talk to her tell her your like her and want to be more then best friends. the worst she can say is no. it might change your relationship for a bit but if you guys really are great friends shell realize she loves and misses your company and even if she doesnt want to go out with you shell still be friends with you
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I know a girl for a while now she is not my girlfriend but my favorite friend, and I know that she likes me a lot, she always texts me for hangouts, I ask/text much less for hangouts because I am shy. Well sometimes when I text her she either texts back late, or doesn’t reply and saying she didn’t receive anything. I don’t think she is lying because I see a lot of good signs from her for liking me her as she invites me for hangouts and tells me to be with her. Few weeks ago she went on training abroad and texted saying I miss you, which make believe she is not lying at all about receiving my texts, and I know that she is a good girl. For Example: Today I was planning to gather with very good friends of us, I texted her saying that "can you join us at that restaurant tonight?" but she didn't reply at all, while yesterday she texted me about "what about a brunch on friday?". Another Example, I texted her after I helped her in a social problem asked her "Do you feel better now after what happened and etc ?" the next few days she said I didn't receive anything. also After week I texted her for a gathering and she replied a bit late. I tried to discuss this issue with people online and specially with those I met today at the restaurant, it appeared that many people suffer from this negative feeling after texting, which is better the not replying. Also I she complains sometimes about her mobile (BlackBerry) for being not good, I even noticed her telling someone on facebook "If I only can get my mobile work properly". So what do you think the problem is? Do you think its normal? Do you think I am sensitive (Many people say that I am sensitive? please tell me anything this girl is my best friend :) Thank you in advance :)
Singles & Dating - 4 Answers
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"Sensitive", screw that. You are who you are. Don't put a label on yourself. You don't have to be a tough guy like all the other dipsh*ts in this society say. Having said that, you are a "friend" guy. This chick likes you as a friend. You will NEVER have sex with her. NEVER. She made up her mind already. There is NOTHING you can do. Please move on for the betterment of yourself. You will NEVER have sex with this girl. She is using you for when she has nothing better to do. Again please move on.
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well i guess her phone could not be working or she could be saying that idku sound a little sensitive but nothing to worry about you seem like a nice caring guy. just go with ur gut
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I have a couple of advice tips for you. 1. Just call her if you want to invite her somewhere, or to do something. Thats more likely gonna go through than a text! I know you might be nervous, but just call her to invite her and then get off the phone...it's simple! 2. If you send a text and she doesn't reply within 5 - 10 minutes then RESEND the text, because sometimes resending texts will make her get the text. My phone does that ALL the time...I don't get a lot of texts, so the people sending it have to resend...or I'll send texts and the other people don't get them unless I resend. But definitely just call her instead, it's better. 3. Stop worrying so much! Im sensitive too, I get told that all the time too, but we just gotta quit worrying about every little thing man. Get a grip lol and don't be so shy...she likes you, you like her...ask her out already! lol I hope the best for ya! Hope ya get the girl =]
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Ask one of her friends if they ever have that happen to them where they text her and she never answers back saying that she never got anything. if your nervous to ask one of her friends then just talk to her tell her your like her and want to be more then best friends. the worst she can say is no. it might change your relationship for a bit but if you guys really are great friends shell realize she loves and misses your company and even if she doesnt want to go out with you shell still be friends with you
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