I'm so confused about this girl? (long post, detailed story)?
Ok so I know this girl on Facebook (she lives near me) who broke up with her boyfriend about a month ago. Now while she was still seeing her boyfriend, I expressed some of my interest to her. Like I told her I think she's a cool person inside and out and that she's pretty. So then after I made my interest clear, I backed off some because she was taken at the time. But while her and I talked, we discussed a variety of topics such as: religion, movies, music, and how people can be judgmental of others. So then about maybe two weeks later, she broke up with her boyfriend. So after I found that out, I gave her a little space.About three-four days later, I sent her a private message saying "What's new?" and she didn't reply to me. So then a couple days after that, I sent her another message saying "Hows it going?" and she didn't reply to that either. But later that week on September 25th, she messaged me on Facebook IM on her own will. We talked for about and hour and 45 minutes that night. During that conversation, we talked more about our plans for the future like college and all. Then we got into to talking about movies again. I asked her if she saw any new movies and she told me she saw "The Town." So that got me into bringing up "The Social Network" which is a new movie and it comes out today. She said she wants to see The Social Network really bad. I asked her if she wanted to see it and she asked me when it being released and I told her October 1st. She just said, "Oh okay." So once she said that, I assumed that she didn't want to go just yet because it was too soon after her break up. She didn't give me her cell phone number or anything to get in touch with me. So it's been like 5-6 days since she's said a word to me on Facebook. I still send her basic messages occasionally saying "Hows it going?: and she still doesn't' answer me. I keep thinking if I wait for her, she will come to me again like she did last time and maybe tell me she wants to go the movie. But I've hardly seen her on Facebook IM since that night. I've been noticing more guys have been posting comments on her Facebook page too. This makes me nervous because the girl is really pretty. I just hope that she expected to go the movie tonight because it wasn't like she sounded enthused about going. She hasn't messaged me back since we talked about the movie either. I feel like she's turning me into a half a stalker too because I'm always tempted to check her page and see which guys are talking to her and to see if they're single or not. A lot of single guys have been talking to her more. I had told her the release date of the movie because she asked me when it was coming out. In our September 25th conversation, she was saying how she would have to check out the things I like. Like if I told her about a TV show I watch, she said "I gotta check that out sometime." She seemed interested or at least pretended to be interested in the things I was talking about and used a lot of smiley faces. So yesterday afternoon I just sent her a message on Facebook asking her if she wanted to see The Social Network next weekend. I gave her until next weekend on purpose so she would have more to time to think about it. I just sent her the message about the movie because I'm hearing all kinds of advice. I've heard that I should just be a friend to her. I've heard that I should just ask her out already. I'm hearing both sides. I would message her more on Facebook IM but she hasn't been on it the last few. I'm thinking she will come onto Facebook IM early this morning like she did last Saturday (9/25). But I looked in her Mobile Uploads folder and she uploaded a picture of her ex boyfriend laying on the couch with one of his male relatives and she posted "hahahaha" as a comment. Is that bad? Nina: Thank you.
Singles & Dating - 3 Answers
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1 :
She doesn't like you the way that you like her. Stop obsessing over her, she is not obsessing over you. Besides, she just broke up with her boyfriend, therefore she is probably only using you to get an ego boost and she also could use a little male attention considering her situation with her ex bf. Move on to someone who is CRAZY about you, where you don't need to sit and 'wonder' if she likes you, you'll just know!
2 :
i agree with Drummer
3 :
Ok well that is one story you have. But she just needs time trust me I was with my bf for 8 months and when we left it took me a long time to go out with someone else again. Just time. And try sending her messages saying you miss her and you hope she is ok cause you are worried about her. And let her know you are here for her if she needs anything. And dont freak cause she will most likely want you. She just needs time. k? her heart is broken and just needs time to heal. So instead of worrying try making her feel good about her and the kinda person she is by telling her good things about her. I am here if you need anything else friend:) Good Luck and if you want let me know how it goes:)!
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