Should I send this apology text? :/ Or did I do anything wrong?? Please read!!?
So about two weeks ago, my boyfriend and I broke up. We're both juniors (now seniors, technically) in high school, and went out for two months. Everything was good for about the first week, but he decided to quit drugs (a fact I'm not supposed to know, because he's never told me), and it changed him a lot. I tried really hard to be there for him, but I did all the effort in the relationship and I felt like I was just burdening him. So we broke up because he was too depressed and going through too much to be a decent boyfriend. We decided to be friends and keep talking to see what happens in the future. I kept hearing from mutual friends last week and the week before, however, that he still likes me and wants to get back together. We would barely talk though. Last week, on Tuesday, he left for Florida on a school trip. During the school trip (on Saturday and Sunday), I texted him twice. The first time, I basically said, "I kinda miss you, I hope you're doing better, I'll always be there for you." In all honesty, I was kind of worried, because I wanted to keep in touch, and because our mutual friends said he seemed depressed since the break up. He didn't text back, so the next day, I texted (something along the lines of), "Please lemme know how you're doing? I'm kinda worried and I don't want to hear from our mutual friends how you're doing, I want to hear from you. If it's not too much, please fill me in." Again, no text back, though he's texted back to all my other texts before (just not those two asking how he was). Last night, he got on Facebook for the first time in forever, and from the comments he made he seemed happy. But, he's still listed as "in a relationship," even though I changed mine and I KNOW he knows how to change it. And he was on for awhile last night. So my questions are basically...does he still like me? I've had to initiate all the text conversations, and they're always short. But he hasn't talked to anybody recently. He's going through too much. Did I do anything wrong by asking him how he was? Should I send this apology text? I'd say something along the lines of, "I'm sorry for bothering you with those questions. I realize they might have been kind of personal and you just didn't want to discuss. I'll talk to you some other time, I guess." Thank you! :/ I asked him if he wanted to continue with our relationship, and he said he couldn't at the moment. :/ It wasn't exactly my choice. But I totally understand where you're coming from, Christopher. I still feel that way about the whole situation. But I asked him if he could handle it right now, and he said he couldn't, so we parted ways. I definitely still like him. :) Fortunately or unfortunately, anyways! :/
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1 :
if you still like him then get back with him and support him where it counts. standing from the side lines cheering him on and then when he is better getting back next to him is only going to make him upset.
2 :
He could. Just back off don't send anymore texts and don't take any secondhand information. Be friends with him and you will know soon enough how he feels. Let him come to you, because if a guy wants to get in touch with you he will. Time will tell :) Good luck to you
3 :
I say dont send the apology text. The reason is because you know he is going through aough patch, and you were just reaching out and tying to comfort a hurt friend. The apology text will sound like you don't want anything to do with him anymore. Just wait it out and see if he responds to your texts, dont get annoying with it though. Hope This Helped! and I hope you friend gets better, ( :
4 :
I don't think you did anything wrong by asking him how he was. You obviously care about him and it's good to be there for him when he is going through this tough time. If you feel you need to send that apology text, do it. but I don't think you need to. And I'm sorry about the two of you parting ways, that must be difficult.
5 :
The real question is- do YOU still like HIM???? It sounds like you do or at least you care about him enough to txt him about it and ask. . .hes probably going through a hard time and you should try to get close to him and become friends again. my best advice- talk to him. . .all relationships (friends or dating) will end badly without communication. hope this helps. . .reply back if u r still confused or if you want more details...bye!
6 :
i think if you went out then its ok to ask personal questions. dont appologize for it! just stay really close with him until hes doing better then see if he still wants you too :)
7 :
Dont send him anytng just leave him alone dat mens no txtn or anytn lke dat n c wat he does...
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