Do you think I'll be okay visiting my friend I met through the internet?
Alright. So. Last year, I made a friend on facebook. We met through a fan page. He's my age & everything. I've become close friends with him & a lot of his other friends. They all go to the same school (I've seen pictures of them in school). They're all from California & I'm from Kansas. I'm closest to one of the people I met via this Californian friend & I plan on meeting him this summer. Yes, I've done a background check on him. I've video chatted & talked on the phone with him many, many times. I've even talked to his parents a couple of times too. I legitimately know that he is just a normal teenage boy, not some random pervert. I've known him for a year now & we're close friends. Coincidentally, I just so happen to be going to California this summer for vacation. And since that's where my friend lives, I figured I could go down & visit him while I'm there. I've discussed it with my mom & she is okay with this. She trusts my friend & she trusts me. My friend's parents are okay with it too. My mom is going to drop me off at his house & we're going to hang out all day & he's taking me to visit the rest of my CA friends. And our parents are meeting each other as well. :3 He's 16 & I'm 15. So do you guys think I'm taking the right precautions? Do you think I'll be alright? ALSO, I've known all of my CA friends for about a year now. Like I said, I've known him for a year, I checked his background when I first met him, I've seen tons of pictures of him, we've video chatted plenty of times, talk on the phone twice a week every week, & I know he's a high school student because he sends me pictures of his high school & pictures of our mutual friends in school all the time. He is legitimately a 16 year old boy. Plus, I'm not meeting him alone. I will be with my mom & her boyfriend. AND JUST TO CLARIFY; Neither of us have any sexual intentions. We're both kind of squeamish of anything sexual. :S
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No. He says he's 16, but how can you be 100% sure he's not really 60?
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I think it will be alright :D A couple of years ago my best friend's sister had an online boyfriend, and they went on a family vacation and they met there in person. It was cute :D
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Go! Give it a shot! As they say, carpe diem!
4 :
He`s going to fucking kill you
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My mother would never let this happen. She'd be mad that I even talked to the person, if I was 16. Being 21, she would still be mad, I think. But if you've done a background check and all that business, I think maybe it'll be ok. You really can't trust anyone though, so just have a cell phone on you at all times and stay in places with a lot of people. Good luck!
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I am pretty sure you are going to get murdered
7 :
Yeah, i think it should be fine :) But final judgent rests on you ;)
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well...go with an adult & when you see him & know he is your age not some 30 year old pervert then the adult can ....leave you guys
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THAT'S DUMB! DONT DO IT
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i met a guy on the internet when i was 14. he was 16 and real chill and awesome. he sent me pictures. but then he started asking for naked pics of me. i didnt suspect anything until he sent me a picture of his penis. that was weird. he turned out to be a child predator. i never suspected a thing. and guess where i met him? neopets. what is the fan group? are most of the people in the group of teen age? if so that should set off alarms and how do you know his friends? you really don't know a person that you haven't met. that doesnt count. because people are different on the internet and you dont see things in their personality that you would in person. how do you know that they arent just other profiles made by this guy? predators do go to lengths like that. and how do you know that these aren't other predators pretending to be teens and helping eachother out by also pretending to be teen friends? there are predators that have guilds and things like that where they all connect and become friends and discuss ways of tricking teens into meeting them
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it sounds that you did a thorough check! And you have known him for about a year. You wouldn't be the first one to do this!! Some people who did this it was a positive experience. And others , not so positive! You are taking a bit of a chance! I wouldn't go alone!!! make sure at least your Mom goes with you!!! It looks like everything is working out. See from my point of view, I don't have the full story so I would say be cautious. When you see him face to face , it could turn you off, cs internet is 1 dimensional and face to face is 3 dimensional. edit: after reading Kendra's story , I would use even more caution!!! I would also take into consideration what Kendra says. Like what would happen when you get to the house? And would there actually be a house when you get there? I would say that you have to be with a person for about a year to know what he is like. And you cant do that over the internet! There is too many risks!!! edit: anybody can send pictures of schools and so-called friends on the internet!!!!! just googgle pictures of schools and anybody can fake being squeamish!
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Saturday, July 28, 2012
Saturday, July 14, 2012
Should I Email My Girlfriend A Little Long, Please Help!!? Should I Email My Girlfriend A Little Long, Please Help!!?
Should I Email My Girlfriend A Little Long, Please Help!!?
I've had a girlfriend since June 3rd. She went to Hawaii for various reasons: She needs to lifeguard at Ewa Beach, has family there (she's half Hawaiian and very beautiful) and has to take some PSAT prep courses. Basically like a summer school. She's taking them there because she also has a home in Hawaii and it seemed better to her from her telling me about it. But there have been some problems. This guy (who was a childhood friend of hers) changed her relationship status on facebook and said that she is in a relationship with him and not me. I called and asked her about it, she was busy at the time but she briefly told me that he has her facebook password and he's "just messing with my profile." Now, I'm starting to have doubts though. I don't know if I can trust her on that even though she is a very understanding person in general. The guy blocked me from her and now I can't even see her profile. If he has just been messing around with her profile on facebook only I wouldn't worry too much but if he's calling her.. Telling her that he wants her or something, that's what I should be worried about. The last time I spoke to her on the phone was about the change on the facebook profile and I've tried calling her and there has been no answer. We promised not to see other people (as in dating others). I've only met the guy once so confronting him is probably not a good idea. So should I try to email her saying I really want to discuss things with you? Or should I just leave her? I'm going to be 18 tomorrow so I really don't know what to do!! My girlfriend is 16 years old.
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Leave her. If you act all desperate you'll push her to the other guy. Leave her to make her mind up and if she chooses the other guy then you wouldn't have worked out anyway. The fact that he knows her facebook password is a little weird but he's obviously worried about you. If they were in a strong relationship you wouldn't be a threat. Just back off and let her come to you.
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Leave her because if he has her password then they are VERY close. Far too close for a girl who's supposed to be in a relationship. She's not taking the relationship as serious as you are, so you need to let it go. She's allowing this to feed into her desire to feel wanted, and you being frustrated about it will only make her feel important. You don't need that, move on.
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I've had a girlfriend since June 3rd. She went to Hawaii for various reasons: She needs to lifeguard at Ewa Beach, has family there (she's half Hawaiian and very beautiful) and has to take some PSAT prep courses. Basically like a summer school. She's taking them there because she also has a home in Hawaii and it seemed better to her from her telling me about it. But there have been some problems. This guy (who was a childhood friend of hers) changed her relationship status on facebook and said that she is in a relationship with him and not me. I called and asked her about it, she was busy at the time but she briefly told me that he has her facebook password and he's "just messing with my profile." Now, I'm starting to have doubts though. I don't know if I can trust her on that even though she is a very understanding person in general. The guy blocked me from her and now I can't even see her profile. If he has just been messing around with her profile on facebook only I wouldn't worry too much but if he's calling her.. Telling her that he wants her or something, that's what I should be worried about. The last time I spoke to her on the phone was about the change on the facebook profile and I've tried calling her and there has been no answer. We promised not to see other people (as in dating others). I've only met the guy once so confronting him is probably not a good idea. So should I try to email her saying I really want to discuss things with you? Or should I just leave her? I'm going to be 18 tomorrow so I really don't know what to do!! My girlfriend is 16 years old.
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Leave her. If you act all desperate you'll push her to the other guy. Leave her to make her mind up and if she chooses the other guy then you wouldn't have worked out anyway. The fact that he knows her facebook password is a little weird but he's obviously worried about you. If they were in a strong relationship you wouldn't be a threat. Just back off and let her come to you.
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Leave her because if he has her password then they are VERY close. Far too close for a girl who's supposed to be in a relationship. She's not taking the relationship as serious as you are, so you need to let it go. She's allowing this to feed into her desire to feel wanted, and you being frustrated about it will only make her feel important. You don't need that, move on.
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Saturday, July 7, 2012
How do I terminate my portion of a lease early that I signed with a "friend"?
How do I terminate my portion of a lease early that I signed with a "friend"?
Living in Hawaii, currently in month 10 of a 24 month lease that is signed by two individuals. We were "friends" from Facebook. I moved here from out of state and didn't have a job. After signing the lease with this other person, I found a job and freelance work but it's much too far to continue this ridiculous commute. With gas at $4.00 a gallon, it's costing me $425 a month to fill the tank 5 times. I can't afford a new car and can't take the bus as I need my vehicle to visit clients during work. From our vast differences in maintaining a household, this "friendship" has only gotten worse. I'm working two jobs practically 12/7 and the housemate is home nearly 24/7. I've met with and discussed these issues with the property manager but he doesn't want to get involved with the "domestic issues". He said I can get out of the lease and have my portion of the deposit returned if the other person signs on 100% or finds a new tenant to take my place. The house mate doesn't want full responsibility of the lease (which was their idea for 24 months versus 12 in the first place). The housemate has also poo-pooed any suggestions I've made about finding a new tenant on Craigslist, Facebook or other resources. The property manager has stated that we can both get out of the lease without recourse if we both move. Even though the housemate admits to not enjoy living here, they say they "can't afford to move". "When friends helped me move last time, a lot of my things got broken and damaged" was the reply. I've been more than patient, accommodating, honest, respectful and fair. This "person" makes me feel as though I'm only renting a room in the house as they have hogged all but one "spare" room simply because I didn't bring furniture with me. I don't want to sound like a drama queen, but I seriously need to get out of this situation or I'm going to develop health issues. I find myself staying in town late and eating out to avoid having to come home because of this situation. Every single suggestion I have made about me moving out has been shot down by this person. They claim to have had made 10 attempts asking other people if they wanted to move in but when they find out where the house is, they are no longer interested because of its proximity to "town". I have been a tenant before. I have been a landlord before. Although I admit to being fastidious about keeping the house in order, the housemate is the complete opposite. The living room and dining room are filled with their unpacked boxes still, after 10 months. There are far too many issues to list here and I don't want digress from the main purpose of writing. PLEASE HELP! All I want is to terminate my portion of the lease and move. I'll even forfeit my portion of the deposit. I just need to get my things out of here and move on with my life... alone. A little side note; I believe that this person has great satisfaction in knowing that they have "control" of my life and destiny. It is truly an unhealthy situation. I'm a creative person and the housemate exudes such negative energy that it stifles my creativity. They have created a toxic living environment and I am being poisoned by the negativity. Someone please help! Mahalo nui loa!
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You can't. You pay till the lease ends or find someone to sublet your share
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Living in Hawaii, currently in month 10 of a 24 month lease that is signed by two individuals. We were "friends" from Facebook. I moved here from out of state and didn't have a job. After signing the lease with this other person, I found a job and freelance work but it's much too far to continue this ridiculous commute. With gas at $4.00 a gallon, it's costing me $425 a month to fill the tank 5 times. I can't afford a new car and can't take the bus as I need my vehicle to visit clients during work. From our vast differences in maintaining a household, this "friendship" has only gotten worse. I'm working two jobs practically 12/7 and the housemate is home nearly 24/7. I've met with and discussed these issues with the property manager but he doesn't want to get involved with the "domestic issues". He said I can get out of the lease and have my portion of the deposit returned if the other person signs on 100% or finds a new tenant to take my place. The house mate doesn't want full responsibility of the lease (which was their idea for 24 months versus 12 in the first place). The housemate has also poo-pooed any suggestions I've made about finding a new tenant on Craigslist, Facebook or other resources. The property manager has stated that we can both get out of the lease without recourse if we both move. Even though the housemate admits to not enjoy living here, they say they "can't afford to move". "When friends helped me move last time, a lot of my things got broken and damaged" was the reply. I've been more than patient, accommodating, honest, respectful and fair. This "person" makes me feel as though I'm only renting a room in the house as they have hogged all but one "spare" room simply because I didn't bring furniture with me. I don't want to sound like a drama queen, but I seriously need to get out of this situation or I'm going to develop health issues. I find myself staying in town late and eating out to avoid having to come home because of this situation. Every single suggestion I have made about me moving out has been shot down by this person. They claim to have had made 10 attempts asking other people if they wanted to move in but when they find out where the house is, they are no longer interested because of its proximity to "town". I have been a tenant before. I have been a landlord before. Although I admit to being fastidious about keeping the house in order, the housemate is the complete opposite. The living room and dining room are filled with their unpacked boxes still, after 10 months. There are far too many issues to list here and I don't want digress from the main purpose of writing. PLEASE HELP! All I want is to terminate my portion of the lease and move. I'll even forfeit my portion of the deposit. I just need to get my things out of here and move on with my life... alone. A little side note; I believe that this person has great satisfaction in knowing that they have "control" of my life and destiny. It is truly an unhealthy situation. I'm a creative person and the housemate exudes such negative energy that it stifles my creativity. They have created a toxic living environment and I am being poisoned by the negativity. Someone please help! Mahalo nui loa!
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You can't. You pay till the lease ends or find someone to sublet your share
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Sunday, July 1, 2012
I'm hurting [please help!!!]?
I'm hurting [please help!!!]?
Alright, here's the deal: I've been in this on-and-off again relationship for the past year and a half with this chick. Can honestly say I love her to death. I've overlooked the lies, deceit, and so forth on a few occasions and still stuck by her side to make it work. She has a daughter, who is now 3, that looks up to me and calls me daddy (even though I'm not the biological father) ... We've lived together, I'd get kicked out, invited back, I'd leave, come back. It was basically dysfunctional. (But I kept finding my way back to her in the name of "LOVE"). & even at times of our split, I still played the background and served as a safety net- and still took care of this little girl/her daughter, with no questions asked...) I eventually got my own place, and was doing fine. About 2 months ago we started "talking again".. & 3 weeks ago, I ended my lease early to move into a spot with her.. Last week? We get into an argument, and for once, I'm the one to blame-- and I swear the argument wasn't that major.. - either way, she ended up kicking me out.. So --- of course she still has my belongings, so we set up a date for me to get my stuff.. As I'm getting my stuff, I guess she called her cousin from W. Virginia to come/spend the night. Her cousin brought her bf and I guess a guy for my ex-girl.... They end up going to W. Virginia, and apparently these 2 (my ex and this new guy) formed a "48 hour" love thing- unbeknown to me. So, while I'm contacting my gf trying to make it work- they come back from W. Virginia and he's in her house- spending the night .. I ask if I can come over, if we can talk, have dinner and discuss our relationship. She tells me, no, her cousin is over, and not to come by because she's going back to W. Virginia later ... she just needs time by herself to think things through... Turns out, she lied to me.. Her "cousin" wasn't there at all, it was actually this new guy her cousin hooked her up with. So, last night, when I found out I couldn't sleep, it hurts me, how she could throw our family away over some new guy she just met.. She sends me a message basically saying she misses me, and we'll talk about our relationship when she gets back... Then she goes on her facebook, and updates her status saying "She met a new guy and she's feeling him a lot".. & of course we have mutual friends, so this is how I found out.. Oh yeah, forgot to mention... She told me she's planning on moving to W. Virginia soon (We live in Maryland). I told her not to contact me ever again - even in regards to the little girl.. & it's strange because she left the little girl unattended with this man while she called me the other day from the store -- i asked where "my daughter" was, and she said with her counsin, in the house.. but they're about to leave out soon... While really, she left him with this man she just met--- All of this is too much to take in, and I'm hurting tremendously..
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well i dont know really what to tell you its your choice of what you do but she doesnt know what she wants and is basically playing around with your heart you honestly need to move on and find someone new dont keep going back to someone who is just going to break your heart
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i think from what you tell me it,s never going to work shes on again off again and doesnt know what she wants. it,s time to bite the bullet, get out of that relationship while your still sane
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That's really sad. I feel awful for the situation the little girl is put in, that's no way to live or influence a child at all. It's a shame you're not the biological father... so you could try to get custody or something. You sound like a nice guy. I think you should just leave her be for a bit. Let her go. However, the little girl does concern me. You NEED to talk to her to see what's going to happen with her. You've bonded with her and she's calling you daddy. Something needs to work out about that. I know it hurts, but there are so many women in this world... you'll find the right one eventually. One who won't kick you out. It sounds like she kicks you out after every argument. That's crazy.
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If I was you I would just leave her alone. She sounds like trouble. As for hurting, you're human and you're gonna hurt. It'll take time for you to heal. These things have to run there course. Surround yourself with good, supportive friends. Just get out there and go on with your life. One day you'll look back on this as one of life's hard lessons.
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Alright, here's the deal: I've been in this on-and-off again relationship for the past year and a half with this chick. Can honestly say I love her to death. I've overlooked the lies, deceit, and so forth on a few occasions and still stuck by her side to make it work. She has a daughter, who is now 3, that looks up to me and calls me daddy (even though I'm not the biological father) ... We've lived together, I'd get kicked out, invited back, I'd leave, come back. It was basically dysfunctional. (But I kept finding my way back to her in the name of "LOVE"). & even at times of our split, I still played the background and served as a safety net- and still took care of this little girl/her daughter, with no questions asked...) I eventually got my own place, and was doing fine. About 2 months ago we started "talking again".. & 3 weeks ago, I ended my lease early to move into a spot with her.. Last week? We get into an argument, and for once, I'm the one to blame-- and I swear the argument wasn't that major.. - either way, she ended up kicking me out.. So --- of course she still has my belongings, so we set up a date for me to get my stuff.. As I'm getting my stuff, I guess she called her cousin from W. Virginia to come/spend the night. Her cousin brought her bf and I guess a guy for my ex-girl.... They end up going to W. Virginia, and apparently these 2 (my ex and this new guy) formed a "48 hour" love thing- unbeknown to me. So, while I'm contacting my gf trying to make it work- they come back from W. Virginia and he's in her house- spending the night .. I ask if I can come over, if we can talk, have dinner and discuss our relationship. She tells me, no, her cousin is over, and not to come by because she's going back to W. Virginia later ... she just needs time by herself to think things through... Turns out, she lied to me.. Her "cousin" wasn't there at all, it was actually this new guy her cousin hooked her up with. So, last night, when I found out I couldn't sleep, it hurts me, how she could throw our family away over some new guy she just met.. She sends me a message basically saying she misses me, and we'll talk about our relationship when she gets back... Then she goes on her facebook, and updates her status saying "She met a new guy and she's feeling him a lot".. & of course we have mutual friends, so this is how I found out.. Oh yeah, forgot to mention... She told me she's planning on moving to W. Virginia soon (We live in Maryland). I told her not to contact me ever again - even in regards to the little girl.. & it's strange because she left the little girl unattended with this man while she called me the other day from the store -- i asked where "my daughter" was, and she said with her counsin, in the house.. but they're about to leave out soon... While really, she left him with this man she just met--- All of this is too much to take in, and I'm hurting tremendously..
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well i dont know really what to tell you its your choice of what you do but she doesnt know what she wants and is basically playing around with your heart you honestly need to move on and find someone new dont keep going back to someone who is just going to break your heart
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i think from what you tell me it,s never going to work shes on again off again and doesnt know what she wants. it,s time to bite the bullet, get out of that relationship while your still sane
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That's really sad. I feel awful for the situation the little girl is put in, that's no way to live or influence a child at all. It's a shame you're not the biological father... so you could try to get custody or something. You sound like a nice guy. I think you should just leave her be for a bit. Let her go. However, the little girl does concern me. You NEED to talk to her to see what's going to happen with her. You've bonded with her and she's calling you daddy. Something needs to work out about that. I know it hurts, but there are so many women in this world... you'll find the right one eventually. One who won't kick you out. It sounds like she kicks you out after every argument. That's crazy.
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If I was you I would just leave her alone. She sounds like trouble. As for hurting, you're human and you're gonna hurt. It'll take time for you to heal. These things have to run there course. Surround yourself with good, supportive friends. Just get out there and go on with your life. One day you'll look back on this as one of life's hard lessons.
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