What are my legal options against a police officer who arrested my son and lied in court?
I will try to be brief: While my son and I were visiting his high school this summer for a meeting with the football coach and guidance office, a police detective approached us. The detective asked if I could bring my son to police headquarters to discuss an incident that occurred on July 4th. We immediately went to police headquarters and talked to the detective outside, He asked if he could speak with my son alone, for which I objected. He then stated that my son was NOT under suspicion for ANY crimes, and was simply seeking information about a July 4th incident. My son indicated that he didn't know what occurred on July 4th and couldn't offer any information. The detective was insistent about speaking with my son alone. I objected, but my 17 yr old son offered to speak to the detective alone, since he didn't have anything to hide. Well, what resulted from this was my son being photographed and fingerprinted against his will. My son told me what happened, and I immediately requested answers from the detective. Two days later, the detective called my home and requested that my son return to the police department for more questions. When I told him I would not bring him back, on the advice of our attorney, the detective informed me that my son was going to be arrested for a crime that occurred on July 20th. The evidence used to make the arrest was the photograph the detective took of my son two days prior. Please note, my son had a clear record prior to this arrest. My son had to endure weeks in a juvenile detention center before we could go to trial. Unknown to the detective, the following facts existed: 1) My family returned home from a two week vacation on July 19, and I was able to account for my son's movements for the entire day on July 20. 2) The police report and the victim's statement indicated that the person who committed the crime has a close cut hair style. On July 20th my son had long twisted hair about 8 inches long. I provided video and photographs from a wedding my family attended on July 18 some 500 miles away. My son cut his hair five days prior to meeting the detective because he was getting ready for football season. 3) During the time of the incident he was charged with, he was on his Facebook account chatting with numerous friends. This information was provided at trial by certified records from Facebook. To sum this up, my son's trial showed how the detective lied on numerous occasions. His testimony at trial didn't match his written statement or the testimony of the victim. The victim and the detective called each other liars during the trial. Thankfully, the trial judge found the detective's actions were deceitful and not creditable, and my son was found not involved in the crime. My wife and I want to seek legal action against the detective, as my son lost over four weeks of school as a result of being in a juvenile detention center; missed out on his football season (my son is among the Top 5 sprinters in the state of Maryland); and was a mental and financial drain for us. Can we do anything? Thank you For the person who insist the information I provided is false, my son's case number is JA-09-1414 in the state of Maryland. Everything I stated in my question can be substantiated. I posted my question in the hopes that I can obtain useful information as to my next course of action. To answer the question as to why I went to the police station and let the detective speak to my son: Because I feared the police/detective would have simply picked my son up at some later point and taken him to the police station and called me after the fact. I felt I was cooperating fully, and since my son assured me he was not involved in anythig, we had nothing to worry about. Order of Events: 8/10/09 - Date when my son & I went to high school, was approached by the detective, and when my son spoke with the detective. Detective was waiting at the school. Per his testimony at trial, he contacted the school ahead of time and the school informed him that my son and I were going to be there. 8/12/09 - Date my son was arrested. 8/13/09 - My son was detained and sent to juvenile detention center to await merit hearing (trial). 9/8/09 - Original date of trial. Trial was postponed until October 13 to allow our attorney to obtain records from Facebook. 9/1509 - My son was released from juvenile detention center under Electronic Monitoring. Merits Hearing (Trial) is again postponed until 11/5/09 to allow Facebook time to produce Certified Records of my son's account. 11/509 - Merit Hearing (Trial). My son was found Not Involved (Not Guilty) of all counts. Judge also reprimanded detective for his conduct in handling this case. Other Dates: 7/4/09 - During the July 4th fireworks celebration in our town, a young man was robbed of his skateboard. My son was at the celebration with his girlfriend, and the person accused of the robbery was a former friend of my son. This was the reason the detective claimed why he wanted to talk to my son. 7/20/09 - A person was assualted and robbed of his cellphone by a group of young men in the same area as the skateboard incident. Based on the testimony of the detective, he believed my son was involved because of his past friendships. When my son spoke to the detective on 8/10/09, he was never asked about the incident on 7/20/09. His entire written statement was one paragraph that stated he had no knowledge of what happened on 7/4/09. The detective showed the victim a picture of my son on 8/11/09, and the victim indicated my son "could have been" one of the people who attacked him and stole his cell phone. This was the detective's basis for arresting my son. The importance of the hairstyle is that my son's hair was about 7-8 inches long, styled in a twist. The victim's police statement indicated the attacker had a short, close cut hairstyle. My son cut his hair on 8/5/09, 16 days after the incident, because he was getting ready for football season, and he couldn't afford paying $50 every three weeks to have his hair styled. The Facebook records were critical because it showed my son was home with me at the time, and was on his computer. Our attorney need to show it was impossible to be at the crime scene, which was three miles from my home, and on his computer chatting with friends. As for the detective lying: During the trial, detective indicated that he went to the victim's home to show him photos of possible suspects. However, the victim testified he went to the police station and looked at some photo books. On 8/11/09, the detective showed him a photo of my son and said "he believes we have the right guy". At that time he picked the photo of my son. All of this is on record and part of the trial testimony. Also, when I arrived at the police station with my son, I asked the detective if I need to have my attorney here, or if my son was under suspicion for anything. He said "no". But he testified that he informed me my son was a suspect. This was challenged during cross examination, and he eventually recanted some of his previous testimony, where he "assumed" I was informed of the information.
Law Enforcement & Police - 4 Answers
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I didn't read past paragraph one, but... 1) WHY did you go to the police station? 2) WHY did you let him speak to your son? You failed as parents.
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first talk to an attorney. next I would seek to file suit against the city, the police department, the corrections department, and the detective, and police chief personally. (You may want to include personally the mayor, and certain members of the city council.) Since the police officer, was an employee of the city, the entire change of command was responsible for his actions. since you did not mention that they intend to punish the cop for his actions, then by omission, they supported it. Therefore, since they are supporting illegal and immoral acts that negatively impact the citizens, then they must also be held liable. No one that has come forward to repremand the detective, should be included as well.
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You can call your area "Legal Aid Society" or talk to the "States Attorney" office for your area and ask them. It doesn't sound good at all. Your son who is in high school, is a team player and is well adapted socially was forced to be in "Juvie" with all the real horrible losers? This detective will do this again if he isn't reprimanded.
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i have came to a conclusion , this story you have told is false, a lie, fairytale, not true, fib, and the list goes on. shame on you coming to this site telling such to innocent people that are somewhat easy to believe anything that liars like you tell. shame on you, shame shame shame shame shame shame shame shame.
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Monday, November 28, 2011
Monday, November 14, 2011
What do you think of these comments on Christian forum "Rapture Ready"?
What do you think of these comments on Christian forum "Rapture Ready"?
http://rr-bb.com/showthread.php?151193-Christian-woman-sentenced-to-death-in-Pakistan-for-alleged-quot-blasphemy-quot-against-Mohammad&p=1965543#post1965543 (in discussing blasphemy laws in Pakistan) How ironic that the Left would love to have such a blasphemy law passed against Christians to keep them from speaking the truth about homosexuality, abortion, etc, the gods of the Left. They're caught in a conundrum because they have a fetish for Islam because they want to use it against us, yet it happens to be the most oppressive, violent, and anti-Left religion out there. They will fight to put some make-up on Islam to make it appear more tolerable so that it can expand and gain a better stranglehold in the West, but at the same time it is going to turn on them and do them in. Meanwhile, the Left wants to put us, the only ones who understand the real danger of Islam, in a very similar choke-hold of their own. Truly darkened minds and deceived by their lusts. == http://rr-bb.com/showthread.php?151041-Victims-of-the-bully They are laying a groundwork for persecuting Christians. As a mentally ill individual who has battled suicide, I can assure you depression is 100% responsible for suicide. Not bullying. I have been bullied this year, after refusing sexual advances. Am I sucidal? No. I dread going into work sometimes, I avoid him if at all possible, but I'm not killing myself over it. The media is trying to build a foundation: Christianity is hate speech (Bible verses protesting homosexuality); "Hate speech" is bullying. Bullying causes suicide (NOT TRUE). Ergo, Christian beliefs, when expressed, lead to suicide. We have to restrict this! I can see it VERY clearly. It's not about bullying at all; it's about taking away our rights to speak of Jesus and the Bible. Mark my words on this. == http://rr-bb.com/showthread.php?149133-Use-Facebook&p=1946245#post1946245 Facebook has brought more harm to my family in recent history than anything I can recall. Because of it my nephew is getting divorced. My oldest daughter is not speaking to me after I called her out over some questionable posts. My nephew's lawyer told my sister that in a recent consensus of lawyers, Facebook had played a role in 8 out of 10 divorce cases. Just this week Facebook announced their support of gay rights, stating "They were going to take an aggressive stance against Hate Speach". Thus they basically announced the censorship of christian messages and posts is going to increase. Therefore "I Believe" it is an agent of satan and his world. == http://rr-bb.com/showthread.php?150556-Left-Coast-Status-Quo-in-Election/page2 [Re: How could Democrats have won in California?] My daughter was near inconsolable and kept saying, "I don't understand", "I don't understand". I did, all to readily. I explained t her about darkness, spritual blindness, evil, stuff she already knows. But she kept shaking her head on how so many people could be SO blind as to not see what the progressive/left/demos/etc. are up to. I told her that Massachusetts, Nevada, and CA are still dark states and will continue to cling to their darkness. == http://rr-bb.com/showthread.php?148084-Post-Rapture-%28Atheist%29-Survival-Guide&p=1933906#post1933906 Post Rapture (Atheist) Survival Guide You guys will NEVER believe this!! I posted this thread first on the City-Data religious section of the forum for Atheist and other nonbelievers just a few minutes ago. It is a survival guide for Atheist who have rejected God and will be left behind. It's by Kurt Seland. Not less than 5 minutes after posting it up, it was subsequently deleted (I believe an Atheist reported me) and I received an infraction (temporary ban) from the City-Data forums for copyright infringement!! Wow!! But we all know what the REAL reason was! Here is my thread! EDIT: Deleted the thread. Wow I just realized the post by Kurt Seland is the same as Rapture Ready's! But still!! EDIT 2: Wow I have just received YET ANOTHER infraction for the very same thing!! Atheist are the devil-incarnate I swear!!! == http://rr-bb.com/showthread.php?148146-Even-little-mice-pray!&p=1934614#post1934614 Even little mice pray! Had a real God moment today when I stopped in the pet store to look at all the cute and furry critters. At the mice cage there was this one really pretty little black and white mouse. She was sitting on her hind legs, eyes closed and her two tiny front paws folded in prayer. Cutest thing ever!!!! I wonder what she was praying, "oh, please Jesus let me find a good home where there are no kittehs."
Religion & Spirituality - 6 Answers
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Instead of wasting my time reading all of that, I'm just going to conclude that you're an idiot.
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It shows how fricking insane some people are.
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I think the persecutors are the first to claim they are persecuted. That site is for morons, as you can see. The theological notion of a "rapture" was invented 170 years ago. In 1830, in Port Glasgow, Scotland, fifteen year old Margaret MacDonald had a vision concerning the return of Christ. Her vision was adopted by John Nelson Darby a British minister and founder of a denomination called the "Plymouth Brethern." In 1909, an American, C. I. Scofield, pubished an annotated version of the "King James" translation of the Bible called the "Scofield Reference Bible." Scofield's annotations were based on the theology of John Nelson Darby. The "Scofield Reference Bible" popularized the teachings of Darby. Fundamentalist Christians in the U. S. adopted Scofield's Bible as authoritative. With the rise of fundamentalism in the U. S. in recent years, the popularity of the theological notion of the "rapture" has also gained popularity.
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These people are actually insane
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Amen. Even so, come Lord Jesus. Revelation 22:20
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Jhn 3:1 ¶ There was a man of the Pharisees, named Nicodemus, a ruler of the Jews: Jhn 3:2 The same came to Jesus by night, and said unto him, Rabbi, we know that thou art a teacher come from God: for no man can do these miracles that thou doest, except God be with him. Jhn 3:3 Jesus answered and said unto him, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God. Jhn 3:4 Nicodemus saith unto him, How can a man be born when he is old? can he enter the second time into his mother's womb, and be born? Jhn 3:5 Jesus answered, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born of water and [of] the Spirit, he cannot enter into the kingdom of God. Jhn 3:6 That which is born of the flesh is flesh; and that which is born of the Spirit is spirit. Jhn 3:7 Marvel not that I said unto thee, Ye must be born again. Jhn 3:8 The wind bloweth where it listeth, and thou hearest the sound thereof, but canst not tell whence it cometh, and whither it goeth: so is every one that is born of the Spirit. Jhn 3:9 Nicodemus answered and said unto him, How can these things be? Jhn 3:10 Jesus answered and said unto him, Art thou a master of Israel, and knowest not these things? Jhn 3:11 Verily, verily, I say unto thee, We speak that we do know, and testify that we have seen; and ye receive not our witness. Jhn 3:12 If I have told you earthly things, and ye believe not, how shall ye believe, if I tell you [of] heavenly things? Jhn 3:13 And no man hath ascended up to heaven, but he that came down from heaven, [even] the Son of man which is in heaven. Jhn 3:14 And as Moses lifted up the serpent in the wilderness, even so must the Son of man be lifted up: Jhn 3:15 That whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have eternal life. Jhn 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. Jhn 3:17 For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved. Jhn 3:18 He that believeth on him is not condemned: but he that believeth not is condemned already, because he hath not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God. http://www.biblebelievers.com/AllThis.html Brian Free - Where Would You Be http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ces45ygLzXI http://jesus-is-lord.com/index.htm http://www.thegospelhiway.org/home/
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http://rr-bb.com/showthread.php?151193-Christian-woman-sentenced-to-death-in-Pakistan-for-alleged-quot-blasphemy-quot-against-Mohammad&p=1965543#post1965543 (in discussing blasphemy laws in Pakistan) How ironic that the Left would love to have such a blasphemy law passed against Christians to keep them from speaking the truth about homosexuality, abortion, etc, the gods of the Left. They're caught in a conundrum because they have a fetish for Islam because they want to use it against us, yet it happens to be the most oppressive, violent, and anti-Left religion out there. They will fight to put some make-up on Islam to make it appear more tolerable so that it can expand and gain a better stranglehold in the West, but at the same time it is going to turn on them and do them in. Meanwhile, the Left wants to put us, the only ones who understand the real danger of Islam, in a very similar choke-hold of their own. Truly darkened minds and deceived by their lusts. == http://rr-bb.com/showthread.php?151041-Victims-of-the-bully They are laying a groundwork for persecuting Christians. As a mentally ill individual who has battled suicide, I can assure you depression is 100% responsible for suicide. Not bullying. I have been bullied this year, after refusing sexual advances. Am I sucidal? No. I dread going into work sometimes, I avoid him if at all possible, but I'm not killing myself over it. The media is trying to build a foundation: Christianity is hate speech (Bible verses protesting homosexuality); "Hate speech" is bullying. Bullying causes suicide (NOT TRUE). Ergo, Christian beliefs, when expressed, lead to suicide. We have to restrict this! I can see it VERY clearly. It's not about bullying at all; it's about taking away our rights to speak of Jesus and the Bible. Mark my words on this. == http://rr-bb.com/showthread.php?149133-Use-Facebook&p=1946245#post1946245 Facebook has brought more harm to my family in recent history than anything I can recall. Because of it my nephew is getting divorced. My oldest daughter is not speaking to me after I called her out over some questionable posts. My nephew's lawyer told my sister that in a recent consensus of lawyers, Facebook had played a role in 8 out of 10 divorce cases. Just this week Facebook announced their support of gay rights, stating "They were going to take an aggressive stance against Hate Speach". Thus they basically announced the censorship of christian messages and posts is going to increase. Therefore "I Believe" it is an agent of satan and his world. == http://rr-bb.com/showthread.php?150556-Left-Coast-Status-Quo-in-Election/page2 [Re: How could Democrats have won in California?] My daughter was near inconsolable and kept saying, "I don't understand", "I don't understand". I did, all to readily. I explained t her about darkness, spritual blindness, evil, stuff she already knows. But she kept shaking her head on how so many people could be SO blind as to not see what the progressive/left/demos/etc. are up to. I told her that Massachusetts, Nevada, and CA are still dark states and will continue to cling to their darkness. == http://rr-bb.com/showthread.php?148084-Post-Rapture-%28Atheist%29-Survival-Guide&p=1933906#post1933906 Post Rapture (Atheist) Survival Guide You guys will NEVER believe this!! I posted this thread first on the City-Data religious section of the forum for Atheist and other nonbelievers just a few minutes ago. It is a survival guide for Atheist who have rejected God and will be left behind. It's by Kurt Seland. Not less than 5 minutes after posting it up, it was subsequently deleted (I believe an Atheist reported me) and I received an infraction (temporary ban) from the City-Data forums for copyright infringement!! Wow!! But we all know what the REAL reason was! Here is my thread! EDIT: Deleted the thread. Wow I just realized the post by Kurt Seland is the same as Rapture Ready's! But still!! EDIT 2: Wow I have just received YET ANOTHER infraction for the very same thing!! Atheist are the devil-incarnate I swear!!! == http://rr-bb.com/showthread.php?148146-Even-little-mice-pray!&p=1934614#post1934614 Even little mice pray! Had a real God moment today when I stopped in the pet store to look at all the cute and furry critters. At the mice cage there was this one really pretty little black and white mouse. She was sitting on her hind legs, eyes closed and her two tiny front paws folded in prayer. Cutest thing ever!!!! I wonder what she was praying, "oh, please Jesus let me find a good home where there are no kittehs."
Religion & Spirituality - 6 Answers
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Instead of wasting my time reading all of that, I'm just going to conclude that you're an idiot.
2 :
It shows how fricking insane some people are.
3 :
I think the persecutors are the first to claim they are persecuted. That site is for morons, as you can see. The theological notion of a "rapture" was invented 170 years ago. In 1830, in Port Glasgow, Scotland, fifteen year old Margaret MacDonald had a vision concerning the return of Christ. Her vision was adopted by John Nelson Darby a British minister and founder of a denomination called the "Plymouth Brethern." In 1909, an American, C. I. Scofield, pubished an annotated version of the "King James" translation of the Bible called the "Scofield Reference Bible." Scofield's annotations were based on the theology of John Nelson Darby. The "Scofield Reference Bible" popularized the teachings of Darby. Fundamentalist Christians in the U. S. adopted Scofield's Bible as authoritative. With the rise of fundamentalism in the U. S. in recent years, the popularity of the theological notion of the "rapture" has also gained popularity.
4 :
These people are actually insane
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Amen. Even so, come Lord Jesus. Revelation 22:20
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Jhn 3:1 ¶ There was a man of the Pharisees, named Nicodemus, a ruler of the Jews: Jhn 3:2 The same came to Jesus by night, and said unto him, Rabbi, we know that thou art a teacher come from God: for no man can do these miracles that thou doest, except God be with him. Jhn 3:3 Jesus answered and said unto him, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God. Jhn 3:4 Nicodemus saith unto him, How can a man be born when he is old? can he enter the second time into his mother's womb, and be born? Jhn 3:5 Jesus answered, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born of water and [of] the Spirit, he cannot enter into the kingdom of God. Jhn 3:6 That which is born of the flesh is flesh; and that which is born of the Spirit is spirit. Jhn 3:7 Marvel not that I said unto thee, Ye must be born again. Jhn 3:8 The wind bloweth where it listeth, and thou hearest the sound thereof, but canst not tell whence it cometh, and whither it goeth: so is every one that is born of the Spirit. Jhn 3:9 Nicodemus answered and said unto him, How can these things be? Jhn 3:10 Jesus answered and said unto him, Art thou a master of Israel, and knowest not these things? Jhn 3:11 Verily, verily, I say unto thee, We speak that we do know, and testify that we have seen; and ye receive not our witness. Jhn 3:12 If I have told you earthly things, and ye believe not, how shall ye believe, if I tell you [of] heavenly things? Jhn 3:13 And no man hath ascended up to heaven, but he that came down from heaven, [even] the Son of man which is in heaven. Jhn 3:14 And as Moses lifted up the serpent in the wilderness, even so must the Son of man be lifted up: Jhn 3:15 That whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have eternal life. Jhn 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. Jhn 3:17 For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved. Jhn 3:18 He that believeth on him is not condemned: but he that believeth not is condemned already, because he hath not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God. http://www.biblebelievers.com/AllThis.html Brian Free - Where Would You Be http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ces45ygLzXI http://jesus-is-lord.com/index.htm http://www.thegospelhiway.org/home/
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Monday, November 7, 2011
My ex broke up with me (I STILL LOVE HIM) and wants nothing to do with me, how do I forget him!!!?
My ex broke up with me (I STILL LOVE HIM) and wants nothing to do with me, how do I forget him!!!?
I met my ex on a Middle Eastern Dating website, we talked on the phone for a week, he flew to Boston a few times to see me since he was living in Ohio trying to start his career as a doctor. Everything went great, the chemistry was there, he met my family, my friends, even my BOSS....I fell in love with him so fast, and he claimed to have the same feelings for me...we even decided he would have his family go to my family and ask for my hand (thats how our culture does it) On Thursday December 4th, I was talking to him online from work like we usually did and we started discussing the wedding, me moving to Ohio and everything seemed great. Later on that afternoon, he came online and was absolutely livid!! He told me he had gone on my FACEBOOK account and read past messages from a guy I had never met, and the messages were from a year and 3 months ago!!!! The messages included pet names,somewhat sexual content and sometimes hinted towards us meeting and maybe getting married. BELIEVE ME, I HAVE NO REASON TO LIE RIGHT NOW, I WASNT GOING TO MARRY THIS GUY, I WAS 22 AT THE TIME, IM 24 NOW, AND WAS JUST BEING IMMATURE. Needless to say, he confronted me with this information and told me I must talk to all guys like this etc. I told him that wasnt true, and that I had never met him and that I was younger and most importantly, a year and 3 months ago, I didnt know he was existant and he didnt know I was either, so how can he judge me for that!!???? DOESNT EVERYONE HAVE A PAST?? Keep in mind, this whole convo took place on MSN. He went on to block me on MSN, on Facebook, and 3 days later, changed his phone number!!!!!!!! I e mailed him a few times, first asking him why he did what he did,he responded that he had thought long and hard about it and made a final decision, so I left it alone for about 2 days and then couldnt help but e mail him again, this time I went on to the hate e mails, because like we all know, sometimes a girl uses her emotions before her mind!! He e mailed me telling me how much I hurt him in the e mails and that now there really was no chance of getting back together. I emailed him telling him that words are words, but his actions spoke a lot louder than my words...breakingf up with me, blocking me, refusing to communicate with me, changing his number, literally talking to me about marriage 4 hours before he so abruptly and insensitively broke up with me ONLINE. He went on to e mail me a few days later, this time telling me it wasnt my PAST....it was my behavior when I got upset and my reaction every time he mentioned his family. Keep in mind, I do have a temper sometimes, but have a great heart and neverrrrr hold a grudge, and he knew this very well. In regards to hsi family, I never showed anything other than respect for his family and they liked me a lot actually and I liked them. I feel like he just came up with excuses to break up with me,but his actions when he came to Boston both times were so the opposite, just full of love and affection and the way he looked at me was so loving, that I cant believe he broke up with me. It's been a month now, I still love him, I think about him, I even cry at times, but I know I need to move on, because he was able to give up on an entire future so quickly and that killed me....PLEASE HELP AND GIVE ME ADVICE!!!! </3
Singles & Dating - 1 Answers
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girl i so know how u feel my ex told me he loved me one day and the next asked if we could be friend....but now i try to talk to him he hates me now. i cried forever but ya GL.
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I met my ex on a Middle Eastern Dating website, we talked on the phone for a week, he flew to Boston a few times to see me since he was living in Ohio trying to start his career as a doctor. Everything went great, the chemistry was there, he met my family, my friends, even my BOSS....I fell in love with him so fast, and he claimed to have the same feelings for me...we even decided he would have his family go to my family and ask for my hand (thats how our culture does it) On Thursday December 4th, I was talking to him online from work like we usually did and we started discussing the wedding, me moving to Ohio and everything seemed great. Later on that afternoon, he came online and was absolutely livid!! He told me he had gone on my FACEBOOK account and read past messages from a guy I had never met, and the messages were from a year and 3 months ago!!!! The messages included pet names,somewhat sexual content and sometimes hinted towards us meeting and maybe getting married. BELIEVE ME, I HAVE NO REASON TO LIE RIGHT NOW, I WASNT GOING TO MARRY THIS GUY, I WAS 22 AT THE TIME, IM 24 NOW, AND WAS JUST BEING IMMATURE. Needless to say, he confronted me with this information and told me I must talk to all guys like this etc. I told him that wasnt true, and that I had never met him and that I was younger and most importantly, a year and 3 months ago, I didnt know he was existant and he didnt know I was either, so how can he judge me for that!!???? DOESNT EVERYONE HAVE A PAST?? Keep in mind, this whole convo took place on MSN. He went on to block me on MSN, on Facebook, and 3 days later, changed his phone number!!!!!!!! I e mailed him a few times, first asking him why he did what he did,he responded that he had thought long and hard about it and made a final decision, so I left it alone for about 2 days and then couldnt help but e mail him again, this time I went on to the hate e mails, because like we all know, sometimes a girl uses her emotions before her mind!! He e mailed me telling me how much I hurt him in the e mails and that now there really was no chance of getting back together. I emailed him telling him that words are words, but his actions spoke a lot louder than my words...breakingf up with me, blocking me, refusing to communicate with me, changing his number, literally talking to me about marriage 4 hours before he so abruptly and insensitively broke up with me ONLINE. He went on to e mail me a few days later, this time telling me it wasnt my PAST....it was my behavior when I got upset and my reaction every time he mentioned his family. Keep in mind, I do have a temper sometimes, but have a great heart and neverrrrr hold a grudge, and he knew this very well. In regards to hsi family, I never showed anything other than respect for his family and they liked me a lot actually and I liked them. I feel like he just came up with excuses to break up with me,but his actions when he came to Boston both times were so the opposite, just full of love and affection and the way he looked at me was so loving, that I cant believe he broke up with me. It's been a month now, I still love him, I think about him, I even cry at times, but I know I need to move on, because he was able to give up on an entire future so quickly and that killed me....PLEASE HELP AND GIVE ME ADVICE!!!! </3
Singles & Dating - 1 Answers
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girl i so know how u feel my ex told me he loved me one day and the next asked if we could be friend....but now i try to talk to him he hates me now. i cried forever but ya GL.
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Tuesday, November 1, 2011
question about long distance dating - guys answers?
question about long distance dating - guys answers?
The guy that is currently my boyfriend just moved from Tennessee back to New York to live with his Dad and his new family ( his parents are divorced) we first met when we were in 7th grade and we began to lose contact during the middle of freshmen year and didn't speak again until June 2010. He was in NY visiting September 2010 and we ended up hanging out talking about the past and both mentioned we had extreme crushes when we were younger - he never knew I liked him back. We kissed right before he left and kept in contact through facebook chat, texting, and phone calls. He finally decided to move back to NY for good & is currently here now. I know my boyfriend was a big partier back in Tennessee, huge parties tons of alcohol girls and hooking up. At the time we never really discussed exclusivity but due to the fact we kept in touch for 2 months waiting for him to return for Thanksgiving braek I knew a relationship was in the works. He mentioned a story about some girl he was once invovled with was ohdee drunk throwing herself on him trying to kiss him while he was midconversation with his friends. He said he was like pushing her off - but now that he mentioned that story I feel as if there were more of those situations. We were listening to Jonny Craig in his car recently and one verse goes "I have a queen why would settle for a fucking maid." and he said that's this song describes he's whole time away from me in Tennessee. question : Relating to my circumstancs the fact that I basically grew up with him - If you really liked a girl but knew distance was going to keep you away for a while would you hook up with other girls as long as she didn't know? I had mentioned to him that I waited for him for 3 months meaning no other guys but he really didn't say no I did absolutely nothing with any other girl.
Singles & Dating - 2 Answers
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1 :
well im currently am...well was from today...in a long distance relationship, i hadnt seen her for 2 months, but i kept faithful to her, i didnt cheat and not meaning to sound vain, i have girls asking me to jump into bed with them quite a lot, but when a guy likes a girl a lot, or even loves a girl, he wont cheat and will stay faithful :) if you're confident he really likes you, then he will have stayed faithful, in my opinion, if he rejected it once, he probably rejected it all the times he had oppertunities :) hope i helped
2 :
Long distance relationships can work but that depends on the people involved. I have seen them work out but in most cases they tend to fail. Most guys will hook up with another girl just because what you don't know won't hurt you and will deal with the consequences if or when they arise. You either trust him or not.
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The guy that is currently my boyfriend just moved from Tennessee back to New York to live with his Dad and his new family ( his parents are divorced) we first met when we were in 7th grade and we began to lose contact during the middle of freshmen year and didn't speak again until June 2010. He was in NY visiting September 2010 and we ended up hanging out talking about the past and both mentioned we had extreme crushes when we were younger - he never knew I liked him back. We kissed right before he left and kept in contact through facebook chat, texting, and phone calls. He finally decided to move back to NY for good & is currently here now. I know my boyfriend was a big partier back in Tennessee, huge parties tons of alcohol girls and hooking up. At the time we never really discussed exclusivity but due to the fact we kept in touch for 2 months waiting for him to return for Thanksgiving braek I knew a relationship was in the works. He mentioned a story about some girl he was once invovled with was ohdee drunk throwing herself on him trying to kiss him while he was midconversation with his friends. He said he was like pushing her off - but now that he mentioned that story I feel as if there were more of those situations. We were listening to Jonny Craig in his car recently and one verse goes "I have a queen why would settle for a fucking maid." and he said that's this song describes he's whole time away from me in Tennessee. question : Relating to my circumstancs the fact that I basically grew up with him - If you really liked a girl but knew distance was going to keep you away for a while would you hook up with other girls as long as she didn't know? I had mentioned to him that I waited for him for 3 months meaning no other guys but he really didn't say no I did absolutely nothing with any other girl.
Singles & Dating - 2 Answers
Random Answers, Critics, Comments, Opinions :
1 :
well im currently am...well was from today...in a long distance relationship, i hadnt seen her for 2 months, but i kept faithful to her, i didnt cheat and not meaning to sound vain, i have girls asking me to jump into bed with them quite a lot, but when a guy likes a girl a lot, or even loves a girl, he wont cheat and will stay faithful :) if you're confident he really likes you, then he will have stayed faithful, in my opinion, if he rejected it once, he probably rejected it all the times he had oppertunities :) hope i helped
2 :
Long distance relationships can work but that depends on the people involved. I have seen them work out but in most cases they tend to fail. Most guys will hook up with another girl just because what you don't know won't hurt you and will deal with the consequences if or when they arise. You either trust him or not.
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