Should my teacher really be talking about this stuff? I don't think so..?
All right.. I'm a 10th grader in 9th grade physical science. I don't think you needed to know that. But anyways, ever since I started this class 2nd semester, I've always heard her tell personal things. Like, how she was going down to Florida to adopt/gain guardianship of her nephew because his mother [her sister] died of a stroke. And when she finally got custody of him and brought him up here to Wisconsin, she told us his name and said that we should look him up on myspace and facebook. Then, today, there was this one girl who wasn't in class, and there's a rumor that she ran away. Our teacher told us she knew 5 other kids who ran away -- but she wouldn't tell us the names. Later, she called me over and asked if I knew if she ran away. I said no, but that a lot of freshmen have run away lately. Then, she said one of their names. Thank goodness I already knew she was missing, so she wasn't feeding me any new information. But do you think it's inappropriate for her to be discussing so many personal issues with her students? I do. Nick: She didn't know if this girl had run away. It was told to her by another student in class that she MIGHT have run away. Just so ya know.
Primary & Secondary Education - 4 Answers
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it could just be that your teacher is trying to conect with what happened in her life to what's happening now
2 :
It's not very professional of her to be taking part in the rumors and gossip, no. Especially disclosing information about another student's personal affairs. It's possible she was instructed to let those that may be close to the student know that she has run away (the administration may have asked her teachers to inform other students to see if anyone knew about it already, or knew where she might have possibly gone to). So...if she was asked to do it by administration for the purpose of helping the child or locating him/her, that's not really a problem. Also, talking about students that have run away at points in their lives isn't necessarily wrong, as she didn't give any of the names of those ones. It's off topic, yes, but not a bad thing. Just idle chatter. Same thing with her nephew. Teachers will typically share their personal lives with students, especially in high school, where the student-teacher relationship has evolved in to something more than just 'educator and learner.' Plus the nephew might have been around your age, and she was just trying to get him used to the area by introducing him indirectly to some of his peers or future classmates. Maybe he doesn't have any friends?
3 :
I think you should tell your teacher that it makes you uncomfortable for her to tell you things like that and ask her to please stop. she is a teacher and should not be discussing personal things with her students and if it doesn't stop i would go to the principle and let him/her know.
4 :
you're right
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Sunday, August 28, 2011
Sunday, August 14, 2011
Why cant I just let it go?
Why cant I just let it go?
Well my husband and I have been together since High School. We are 30 years old and benn out of high school for 12years now! Any way when we were dating in our senor year my husband had a crush on this female. Well all these years he denied anything happened between them but in January he admitted that he had feelings for her when we were in high school. Well we started face booking and I noticed that she was one of his friends on facebook. At first it didn't bother me.............I was going through my husband phone one day and noticed a strange text. It wasn't nothing sexual just casual conversation but I just couldn't put my finger on who this person was. I knew it was a female and it made me very upset! Why? Because I felt he was being sneaky about it! I suspect that it was this other female from high school and we discussed it and he WOULD NOT tell me who it was! Well just yesterday I noticed he text ed this female Happy Birthday and put 2 and 2 together and realized it was her. Well I WAS JEALOUS about the whole thing because for one she is single! I asked him why he felt the need to text her for every holiday and her birthday and he stated because they are cool friends and nothing more than that! I pissed off that he even has her phone number!! I cant sleep because I just cant let it go..............I cant help to think how often they text each other and what is it that they need to talk about. She lives in Virginia and we live in Florida. They are not sleeping around but what is considering cheating? Im am very heart broken about this and he says I become annoying when I bring her up because its nothing. I feel he shouldn't be communicating with her. What are your thoughts should I maker her my facebook friend?
Marriage & Divorce - 9 Answers
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annoying? he chats with another woman and says you are annoying? unbelievable! get your phone and find someone to text and see how he likes it. he wont but maybe he will get it then. sometimes you have to do the same to make them understand.
2 :
Well I'm not sure if he's cheating, but he's hiding things and that is always a bad sign.
3 :
He needs to stop talking to her because he at one time had feelings for this person and maybe even did something with this person in the past that you dont know about. I am recently married and I respect my husband enough to have to contact with anyone i have had feeing for dated slept with nothing..if i run into them and they say hi i say a simple hi back and leave it at that. My husband and I attend the same church as my ex best friend/boyfriend. And i respect my ex at church but I dont go out of my way to text him or have contact with him for respect for my husband. And my husband has no contact with anyone from his past. When your actually MARRIED no wife or husband should have any contact with someone they have or had lust towards..its sinful in the eyes of the LORD! He needs to drop the girl and her number or go be with her.
4 :
I feel the same as you! What is the need to talk to her? If he see your hurt by it and is bringing it up then he needs to stop it. If it is not important it shouldn't be a problem to stop it. Did she say tell your wife hello? did she call to speak with you to make all three of you friends? why so many secrets? I wouldn't care if she lived in Virginia! That means nothing these days. I don't like the sounds of this!!!!!
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Couldn't agree with you more. The fact that you found out that he was communicating with her on your own without him telling you shows that he never had any intention of you finding out. He wanted to keep it secret because he didn't want to have to explain to you. If he didn't want to explain it there's a reason. Clearly he still has a thing for her and to say it's annoying when you bring it up just adds insult to injury. If I were you I'd text or call her myself and find out why she thinks she needs to be in contact with your husband and then I'd have some choice words for her too. Put your foot down with your husband, throw a fit, whatever you need to do and tell him that this relationship he's having with her needs to end now. Tell him it's either you or her, end of story. I'm sorry but this is retarded. Your husband is taken, he has no right to be flirting and carrying on an emotional affair with this woman from high school. Stop allowing this. You have more power in this situation than you think - start exercising that power.
6 :
He's disrespecting you and your marriage. There's no reason for him to be chatting up and taking an emotional interest in an old high school crush. And there's absolutely no reason that he should be hiding things from you. You have the right to be upset about his behavior and demand accountability for his actions.
7 :
Well you should talk to him about this. After all of this, if it still keeps going on, then ask him why he feels it necessary to talk to her behind your back. However, I will also say you sound very jealous and controlling, and so the reason why you can't let it go is because the thought of him texting an old high school sweetheart is far to disturbing to you than it is to him, being cordial to someone he once cared about. Frankly does he listen in on your conversations with your friends? Probably not. So he hardly knows about who you talk to and why. He figures he can trust you, therefore you can trust him. However, its apparent you don't trust him. That's why you can't trust him.
8 :
If it really is nothing then your husband should have no problem discontinuing contact with her. He needs to choose between what is more important. His wife or his "friend." It doesn't matter if anything is going on. The fact is you are bothered by her. He needs to value your feelings enough to stop any communication via FB, texting or phone calls.
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No, you need to get the phone bill and see just how often he does talk to her. If he had to sneak to do it it is cheating. Have him call or text her and be very clear that there will be no more contact. Don't add her to fb, delete her from his. Good luck!
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Well my husband and I have been together since High School. We are 30 years old and benn out of high school for 12years now! Any way when we were dating in our senor year my husband had a crush on this female. Well all these years he denied anything happened between them but in January he admitted that he had feelings for her when we were in high school. Well we started face booking and I noticed that she was one of his friends on facebook. At first it didn't bother me.............I was going through my husband phone one day and noticed a strange text. It wasn't nothing sexual just casual conversation but I just couldn't put my finger on who this person was. I knew it was a female and it made me very upset! Why? Because I felt he was being sneaky about it! I suspect that it was this other female from high school and we discussed it and he WOULD NOT tell me who it was! Well just yesterday I noticed he text ed this female Happy Birthday and put 2 and 2 together and realized it was her. Well I WAS JEALOUS about the whole thing because for one she is single! I asked him why he felt the need to text her for every holiday and her birthday and he stated because they are cool friends and nothing more than that! I pissed off that he even has her phone number!! I cant sleep because I just cant let it go..............I cant help to think how often they text each other and what is it that they need to talk about. She lives in Virginia and we live in Florida. They are not sleeping around but what is considering cheating? Im am very heart broken about this and he says I become annoying when I bring her up because its nothing. I feel he shouldn't be communicating with her. What are your thoughts should I maker her my facebook friend?
Marriage & Divorce - 9 Answers
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1 :
annoying? he chats with another woman and says you are annoying? unbelievable! get your phone and find someone to text and see how he likes it. he wont but maybe he will get it then. sometimes you have to do the same to make them understand.
2 :
Well I'm not sure if he's cheating, but he's hiding things and that is always a bad sign.
3 :
He needs to stop talking to her because he at one time had feelings for this person and maybe even did something with this person in the past that you dont know about. I am recently married and I respect my husband enough to have to contact with anyone i have had feeing for dated slept with nothing..if i run into them and they say hi i say a simple hi back and leave it at that. My husband and I attend the same church as my ex best friend/boyfriend. And i respect my ex at church but I dont go out of my way to text him or have contact with him for respect for my husband. And my husband has no contact with anyone from his past. When your actually MARRIED no wife or husband should have any contact with someone they have or had lust towards..its sinful in the eyes of the LORD! He needs to drop the girl and her number or go be with her.
4 :
I feel the same as you! What is the need to talk to her? If he see your hurt by it and is bringing it up then he needs to stop it. If it is not important it shouldn't be a problem to stop it. Did she say tell your wife hello? did she call to speak with you to make all three of you friends? why so many secrets? I wouldn't care if she lived in Virginia! That means nothing these days. I don't like the sounds of this!!!!!
5 :
Couldn't agree with you more. The fact that you found out that he was communicating with her on your own without him telling you shows that he never had any intention of you finding out. He wanted to keep it secret because he didn't want to have to explain to you. If he didn't want to explain it there's a reason. Clearly he still has a thing for her and to say it's annoying when you bring it up just adds insult to injury. If I were you I'd text or call her myself and find out why she thinks she needs to be in contact with your husband and then I'd have some choice words for her too. Put your foot down with your husband, throw a fit, whatever you need to do and tell him that this relationship he's having with her needs to end now. Tell him it's either you or her, end of story. I'm sorry but this is retarded. Your husband is taken, he has no right to be flirting and carrying on an emotional affair with this woman from high school. Stop allowing this. You have more power in this situation than you think - start exercising that power.
6 :
He's disrespecting you and your marriage. There's no reason for him to be chatting up and taking an emotional interest in an old high school crush. And there's absolutely no reason that he should be hiding things from you. You have the right to be upset about his behavior and demand accountability for his actions.
7 :
Well you should talk to him about this. After all of this, if it still keeps going on, then ask him why he feels it necessary to talk to her behind your back. However, I will also say you sound very jealous and controlling, and so the reason why you can't let it go is because the thought of him texting an old high school sweetheart is far to disturbing to you than it is to him, being cordial to someone he once cared about. Frankly does he listen in on your conversations with your friends? Probably not. So he hardly knows about who you talk to and why. He figures he can trust you, therefore you can trust him. However, its apparent you don't trust him. That's why you can't trust him.
8 :
If it really is nothing then your husband should have no problem discontinuing contact with her. He needs to choose between what is more important. His wife or his "friend." It doesn't matter if anything is going on. The fact is you are bothered by her. He needs to value your feelings enough to stop any communication via FB, texting or phone calls.
9 :
No, you need to get the phone bill and see just how often he does talk to her. If he had to sneak to do it it is cheating. Have him call or text her and be very clear that there will be no more contact. Don't add her to fb, delete her from his. Good luck!
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Sunday, August 7, 2011
I have so much hatred... what can I do to destroy it?
I have so much hatred... what can I do to destroy it?
It all started on August 12, 2009. My life circumstances have gone totally downhill and I have stored so much hatred against two people, the ones responsible for all my disgrace until this very second I'm writing. I had a good job in Northern Virginia. Good pay, my own apartment, good friends, and an overall stability. Though my job was never the best environment, this date I mentioned above, changed my life and up to now it has been all generally bad. I had a question on a job I was doing and I went to my supervisor. He took the time to ask me a question to test my knowledge and I could not provide the right answer. His mood went bad. He told me he was shocked and began to scold me for past works, that I was taking long and from there, it just went really bad. I did not have a good evaluation even after taking my free time to study and read and get up to speed because his question went more difficult and more difficult. In September, he gave me a job but never told what was the deadline, so I tried to do it the best I could, and it was my very first time doing such a job. The following day he came to me to ask me if I was finished, but I was just on my 20%. So I took the job home and tried to rush and kept working until 4:30am. I did not sleep much, and I delivered the job next day. Everything seemed ok. The next week one of my coworkers found a mistake and told him and he scolded me inside his office with the door shut criticizing my job. Next day he gave me a "technical" evaluation and he told almost two hours just to mention how bad I was doing. Then, a couple of weeks later, because I was going to have a new supervisor because this SOB went to another branch, he took my new supervisor for the final evaluation. He denigrated me in front of the other, passing the bad perception to him because though my personal relationship with the new supervisor was somehow better, he still gave me a bad evaluation later. I quickly noticed when discussing with him that he was simply afraid to give me a good evaluation because it would seem weird and could cause a bad perception on his boss in terms of inconsistency. But the thing that worsened the situation was this f@#$ SOB co-worker, he mocked me every way he could, in Facebook, in Evite Invitations, in e-mails, I was a fool to not have reported him I know, but this guy I am sure was the masterpiece author of all my disgraces there. He mocked a handicapped co-worker as well and was extremely troublesome with many people around- but he had 15 years of experience and so he delivered good jobs in short time, which is basically what matters to most companies. He went to some of my friends to talk about me and how bad I was doing, but they knew better and noticed he was a prick. Some of them ended infuriated with him because of personal problems with him (which I had nothing to do with). He even slammed a door to one of the female workers in the office. So, having made very good friends and liking the area (I still talk to them today), I made the sad decision to give up my independence and stability and had to resign, had to leave the area and now I am in Florida. Before leaving, the supervisor gave me fair evaluation and even a portrait. Weird, right? Here I am- living my parents, passing through very tough moments, have no money, no independence, bored, have applied to hundreds of jobs and it is now, almost one year later, that I have been contacted for interviews. It is now that I am feeling some sort of comfort but my first interview did not work, I believe I did well but they simply chose someone better; and now I am waiting for another interview, it was going to be yesterday but they had to postpone it to sometime in the future they don't still know. They said they were going to call me to set the new time, but I guess I have to wait. Nevertheless, there is a big situation in my family which is going to burst pretty soon and I will have to presence it. My friends there in Virginia keep having a lot of success (and I am happy with them!) while here I am, stuck, stagnant, fu@#$% depending on my parents like a fu@#$% kid, 28 years old I am supposed to have a home, independence, I have tried lots of jobs in my field and unrelated to my field but the freakin' economy is bad and I have no freakin' clue when I will have a job, and all of this is thanks to those two f@#$% SOB that I hate with all my heart! I am in the point I am cursing them everyday, my hatred against them is so, so strong, they have made my life miserable, I remember by good times as an independent man and thanks to with those f@#$%%'s I am here waiting for a big problem to burst in my family and having to be here when it happens (I have nothing to do with it), not be able to travel around because I have no money. I was raised a Christian and I never hated anyone, of course there have been incidents with some people, but these two are the ones that h
Religion & Spirituality - 5 Answers
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Anger Management/Counseling
2 :
You will have to stop acting like a kid if you want to be not treated like one. I read this and i thought it was like a 15 year old or something
3 :
Go to your knees and pray that the Holy Spirit will calm your mind and give you peace. Spend more time studying the word of God in the Holy Bible and try to be obedient to God's will in all that you do. There will be no more room in your heart for hate.
4 :
Counseling... or marijuana
5 :
Well calm down. I know that you have hate in your heart but you -have- to let it go and you-have- to forgive them. You need to ask God for the strength to move on with your life and to forget about your past. It's done and over with, there is nothing you can do. You have to forgive those who wrong you if you want to be forgiven by God. So take it for what it is and let it go. Ask God to help you love these people. Pray for them everyday that they learn how to treat people better. Life is hard for a lot of people out there now, not just you. So be grateful that you even have a family to turn to in a time of need, and you aren't homeless! Have faith that God will take care of you and He will. Read the New Testament with an open heart. Be accepting of Jesus Christ and let go of all your anger and hate. Talk with God in prayer and allow Him to heal you.
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It all started on August 12, 2009. My life circumstances have gone totally downhill and I have stored so much hatred against two people, the ones responsible for all my disgrace until this very second I'm writing. I had a good job in Northern Virginia. Good pay, my own apartment, good friends, and an overall stability. Though my job was never the best environment, this date I mentioned above, changed my life and up to now it has been all generally bad. I had a question on a job I was doing and I went to my supervisor. He took the time to ask me a question to test my knowledge and I could not provide the right answer. His mood went bad. He told me he was shocked and began to scold me for past works, that I was taking long and from there, it just went really bad. I did not have a good evaluation even after taking my free time to study and read and get up to speed because his question went more difficult and more difficult. In September, he gave me a job but never told what was the deadline, so I tried to do it the best I could, and it was my very first time doing such a job. The following day he came to me to ask me if I was finished, but I was just on my 20%. So I took the job home and tried to rush and kept working until 4:30am. I did not sleep much, and I delivered the job next day. Everything seemed ok. The next week one of my coworkers found a mistake and told him and he scolded me inside his office with the door shut criticizing my job. Next day he gave me a "technical" evaluation and he told almost two hours just to mention how bad I was doing. Then, a couple of weeks later, because I was going to have a new supervisor because this SOB went to another branch, he took my new supervisor for the final evaluation. He denigrated me in front of the other, passing the bad perception to him because though my personal relationship with the new supervisor was somehow better, he still gave me a bad evaluation later. I quickly noticed when discussing with him that he was simply afraid to give me a good evaluation because it would seem weird and could cause a bad perception on his boss in terms of inconsistency. But the thing that worsened the situation was this f@#$ SOB co-worker, he mocked me every way he could, in Facebook, in Evite Invitations, in e-mails, I was a fool to not have reported him I know, but this guy I am sure was the masterpiece author of all my disgraces there. He mocked a handicapped co-worker as well and was extremely troublesome with many people around- but he had 15 years of experience and so he delivered good jobs in short time, which is basically what matters to most companies. He went to some of my friends to talk about me and how bad I was doing, but they knew better and noticed he was a prick. Some of them ended infuriated with him because of personal problems with him (which I had nothing to do with). He even slammed a door to one of the female workers in the office. So, having made very good friends and liking the area (I still talk to them today), I made the sad decision to give up my independence and stability and had to resign, had to leave the area and now I am in Florida. Before leaving, the supervisor gave me fair evaluation and even a portrait. Weird, right? Here I am- living my parents, passing through very tough moments, have no money, no independence, bored, have applied to hundreds of jobs and it is now, almost one year later, that I have been contacted for interviews. It is now that I am feeling some sort of comfort but my first interview did not work, I believe I did well but they simply chose someone better; and now I am waiting for another interview, it was going to be yesterday but they had to postpone it to sometime in the future they don't still know. They said they were going to call me to set the new time, but I guess I have to wait. Nevertheless, there is a big situation in my family which is going to burst pretty soon and I will have to presence it. My friends there in Virginia keep having a lot of success (and I am happy with them!) while here I am, stuck, stagnant, fu@#$% depending on my parents like a fu@#$% kid, 28 years old I am supposed to have a home, independence, I have tried lots of jobs in my field and unrelated to my field but the freakin' economy is bad and I have no freakin' clue when I will have a job, and all of this is thanks to those two f@#$% SOB that I hate with all my heart! I am in the point I am cursing them everyday, my hatred against them is so, so strong, they have made my life miserable, I remember by good times as an independent man and thanks to with those f@#$%%'s I am here waiting for a big problem to burst in my family and having to be here when it happens (I have nothing to do with it), not be able to travel around because I have no money. I was raised a Christian and I never hated anyone, of course there have been incidents with some people, but these two are the ones that h
Religion & Spirituality - 5 Answers
Random Answers, Critics, Comments, Opinions :
1 :
Anger Management/Counseling
2 :
You will have to stop acting like a kid if you want to be not treated like one. I read this and i thought it was like a 15 year old or something
3 :
Go to your knees and pray that the Holy Spirit will calm your mind and give you peace. Spend more time studying the word of God in the Holy Bible and try to be obedient to God's will in all that you do. There will be no more room in your heart for hate.
4 :
Counseling... or marijuana
5 :
Well calm down. I know that you have hate in your heart but you -have- to let it go and you-have- to forgive them. You need to ask God for the strength to move on with your life and to forget about your past. It's done and over with, there is nothing you can do. You have to forgive those who wrong you if you want to be forgiven by God. So take it for what it is and let it go. Ask God to help you love these people. Pray for them everyday that they learn how to treat people better. Life is hard for a lot of people out there now, not just you. So be grateful that you even have a family to turn to in a time of need, and you aren't homeless! Have faith that God will take care of you and He will. Read the New Testament with an open heart. Be accepting of Jesus Christ and let go of all your anger and hate. Talk with God in prayer and allow Him to heal you.
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Monday, August 1, 2011
So stressed out what should i do?
So stressed out what should i do?
im 17 [will be 18 august 24th] and im 8wks pregnant. I just graduated frm high school && moved frm va tu florida right after bt the father still lives in va...i told him and we were discussing me getting an abortion and when it felt like the right thing to do i couldnt do it. So i decided to keep him. The father was all kind when we decided to get an abortion but right when i told him i was gonna keep the baby he started getting distant. So ever since i decided to keep the baby ive been looking around for jobs and apartments and everything but the father is still going to parties smoking weed and having fun with other girls [oh by the way he recently just found out he has chylmidia; but i got tested and i dont have it] He says he wont abandon us or the baby but everytime i try to talk about the baby to him he says im bitchin or blows me off; his phone recently got cut off then he got a new number and didnt give it to me. So i was stuck talkin to him threw facebook telling him he really needs to get a job and he says "leave me the f*** alone" I havent told my parents yet and dont really plan to until i have a job and get everything ready for the baby [such as an apartment etc] because if i tell them right now they'll just kick me out . I'm really scared and i dont know what to do about my babys father...any suggestions?
Pregnancy - 3 Answers
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You should be prepared to not count on the father for any help. Prepare for the worst and hope for the best. Also, retain a lawyer so you can sue him for child-support, if need be. Good luck!
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would it made more sense if you just had your baby normally from a husband within a normal life condition?
3 :
he sounds like a total loser, & your father doesn't sound like much help either. i'd try and get a job, or goverment help right away. i'd say, keep the baby and raise it alone.. you don't need the father, but that baby is going to need you. you're going to have to grow up alot and make some tough decisions that are best for the BABY first.. guys aren't everything, but i know how it feels. good luck!
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im 17 [will be 18 august 24th] and im 8wks pregnant. I just graduated frm high school && moved frm va tu florida right after bt the father still lives in va...i told him and we were discussing me getting an abortion and when it felt like the right thing to do i couldnt do it. So i decided to keep him. The father was all kind when we decided to get an abortion but right when i told him i was gonna keep the baby he started getting distant. So ever since i decided to keep the baby ive been looking around for jobs and apartments and everything but the father is still going to parties smoking weed and having fun with other girls [oh by the way he recently just found out he has chylmidia; but i got tested and i dont have it] He says he wont abandon us or the baby but everytime i try to talk about the baby to him he says im bitchin or blows me off; his phone recently got cut off then he got a new number and didnt give it to me. So i was stuck talkin to him threw facebook telling him he really needs to get a job and he says "leave me the f*** alone" I havent told my parents yet and dont really plan to until i have a job and get everything ready for the baby [such as an apartment etc] because if i tell them right now they'll just kick me out . I'm really scared and i dont know what to do about my babys father...any suggestions?
Pregnancy - 3 Answers
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You should be prepared to not count on the father for any help. Prepare for the worst and hope for the best. Also, retain a lawyer so you can sue him for child-support, if need be. Good luck!
2 :
would it made more sense if you just had your baby normally from a husband within a normal life condition?
3 :
he sounds like a total loser, & your father doesn't sound like much help either. i'd try and get a job, or goverment help right away. i'd say, keep the baby and raise it alone.. you don't need the father, but that baby is going to need you. you're going to have to grow up alot and make some tough decisions that are best for the BABY first.. guys aren't everything, but i know how it feels. good luck!
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