Meeting someone that you met online for the first time...?
Okay, here's the situation: My brother knows this guy through playing Halo online with him for over two years. I started talking to this guy when they first started talking but then got busy with my own busy life, so we just ended up not talking anyone. However, I recently got in touch with him again and we've been talking for close to three months (through AIM, Facebook, phone calls, texts, and video chatting) about anything and everything. Although I understand the risks and dangers of meeting someone that I've never met in person before, I'm considering meeting this guy. He lives in Philadelphia, but his roommate lives in the same town as my friend for college so I was possibly thinking we could meet up there when I go down to visit her. Even though I know I can never be positive about how truthful someone I met online is being with me and how they might be different in real life, I still think that through our constant conversations, I have gotten a lot of honest answers out of him. I've never experienced any red flags with him and he isn't pushing me into seeing him or anything. I've seen recent pictures of him and his family and like I said, video chat with him almost every night and we talk in some form every day. I've discussed this with my parents (I'm 19) and my mom says that he should come up here, and although my dad agrees, he also understands where I'm coming from. I was just curious as to how other people felt about this. I wasn't planning on meeting him alone or in a secluded spot. Like I said it's a possibility we could meet up in a neutral location (where my friend from college lives) and I could meet him and his former roommate with my friend tagging along. Another possibility is having him come up here. A final possibility (although I don't know how many people are going to agree with it) is to discuss the possibility of me visiting with his parents (he's 19 as well) and see how they feel about it, and make sure we are supervised by them, and me go down to see him (it's about a 5 hour drive). I want to do this the right and safe way, because I know that there are bad people out there and what not, and it means a lot to me to make sure I am safe.
Other - Family & Relationships - 2 Answers
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never meet people onlineee. its just wierd and it oculd leave you hurt in the end. if you really wanna meet people off there have someone with you (a group of friends) and never go anywhere alone with the person you meet until you know them for a while
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Ok I say its a fifty fifty chance. I have been in a similar situation to yours. I used to be friends with this guy comming out of middle school and he moved to a different state than me, We lost conatact for about a year and a half and he went through a horrible relationship. We stared talking and eventually he ended up coming back here and we are now married but honestly I was scared shitless to see him again for the first time in three years. So itcould turn out bad or good. Hope this helped
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Monday, March 28, 2011
Monday, March 14, 2011
What is the best course of action for a dispute like this?
What is the best course of action for a dispute like this?
About a year ago, I loaned someone about 200 dollars worth of DVDs (House seasons 1 - 4) so he could watch them. I've been asking for them since and he keeps promising he'll give them to me but he never does. About two months ago, he invited a friend I was with to dinner. When my friend told him he was already out, he wanted me to go, but I had no money -- so he fronted me 14 dollars for dinner. He knows I don't have cash -- I am in so much trouble right now I can't even pay my rent, my car note, my utilities, my credit card bills, nothing. I skipped all my bills this month so I could buy myself food. I DID, however, get a job offer (a NICE one) and I made some comment on Facebook about getting a "sweet job offer." 12am, the guy calls me and I answer the phone and the first thing I hear is, "What job offer?" I respond that I'm not willing to discuss that and chuckle, and he snaps "Like your not going to give me my money like I won't give you your DVDs." He immediately hangs up before I can even explain myself. I repay my debts. But the money just physically isn't there. On the other hand, I've been very kind and patient with him for over a year. That phone call, being treated like that.. enough is enough. I live in Tempe, Arizona. I am NOT familiar with the area or the legal system, but would anyone know how much would it put me out to try and take action against this guy for the return of my DVDs or their cash value? I did not have a contract or anything, it was just a friendly gesture.
Law Enforcement & Police - 2 Answers
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First pay him the $14 so that's out of the way. Then tell him unless he returns the DVD's you will take him to Small Claims Court - if he doesn't, go ahead with it. The local Clerk of the Courts office should be able to help you.
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Go to small claims court and ask if you can petition your discs. Also try and put a dollar amount on theses CD's to give the judge the amount you are out. It sounds like your friend has never attempted to give them back. Also try and remember what order they were in, and a small description of your address book ? Then and only them I recommend seeing a lawyer who like those kinds of details.
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About a year ago, I loaned someone about 200 dollars worth of DVDs (House seasons 1 - 4) so he could watch them. I've been asking for them since and he keeps promising he'll give them to me but he never does. About two months ago, he invited a friend I was with to dinner. When my friend told him he was already out, he wanted me to go, but I had no money -- so he fronted me 14 dollars for dinner. He knows I don't have cash -- I am in so much trouble right now I can't even pay my rent, my car note, my utilities, my credit card bills, nothing. I skipped all my bills this month so I could buy myself food. I DID, however, get a job offer (a NICE one) and I made some comment on Facebook about getting a "sweet job offer." 12am, the guy calls me and I answer the phone and the first thing I hear is, "What job offer?" I respond that I'm not willing to discuss that and chuckle, and he snaps "Like your not going to give me my money like I won't give you your DVDs." He immediately hangs up before I can even explain myself. I repay my debts. But the money just physically isn't there. On the other hand, I've been very kind and patient with him for over a year. That phone call, being treated like that.. enough is enough. I live in Tempe, Arizona. I am NOT familiar with the area or the legal system, but would anyone know how much would it put me out to try and take action against this guy for the return of my DVDs or their cash value? I did not have a contract or anything, it was just a friendly gesture.
Law Enforcement & Police - 2 Answers
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First pay him the $14 so that's out of the way. Then tell him unless he returns the DVD's you will take him to Small Claims Court - if he doesn't, go ahead with it. The local Clerk of the Courts office should be able to help you.
2 :
Go to small claims court and ask if you can petition your discs. Also try and put a dollar amount on theses CD's to give the judge the amount you are out. It sounds like your friend has never attempted to give them back. Also try and remember what order they were in, and a small description of your address book ? Then and only them I recommend seeing a lawyer who like those kinds of details.
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Monday, March 7, 2011
Why doesn't Obama talk about how globalization has ruined the middle class?
Why doesn't Obama talk about how globalization has ruined the middle class?
It is an age old plan. But it has worked for years. Make sure all we talk about are divisive issues that divide us according to our culture or religious beliefs or skin color or ethnicity. This is done to keep us from focusing on what is happening in this country. THE ONLY ISSUE worth discussing is that we are being taken over by multinational corporations that wish to convert this country into little more than an outsourcing service center, serviced alone by fast-food chains, stores like Wal-mart and ignorant, cheap labor. And thanks to globalization, they have largely succeeded. The machine that has grown up to keep us from discussing this horrible truth is the cable news channel. Day after day, supposed liberals like Olbermann, Mathews, and Maddow TAKE THE BATE (from supposed conservatives like Hannity and Beck) and participate in endless, pointless discussions with their $1000-an-appearance-guests about how there are no death panels, about how Obama is not a racist and about how CRAZY that kooky Sarah Palin is. And can you believe they STILL think Obama’s not American? And hey, what about that crazy new Arizona immigration law? Politicians who have become little more than robots for the super rich have aided in this demonic plan of distraction and have helped to drive the mainstream media into chasing one distracting issue after another. It is not enough that these sold-out-politicians are daily sponsoring laws that give multinational corporations even more power over the average worker. They also keep the distraction machine going by stating one audacious lie after another into the cable news echo chamber. All we need is some off-the-wall comment by Michele Bachmann or some facebook tweet from Palin or an offensive comment by Limbaugh or some racist Tea Party rally and we are off to the races. Another day goes by and we are only more divided. Another day goes by and we didn’t mention Globalization at all. Mission accomplished! Today we are made to discuss the claims that we have a socialist in the White House; tomorrow we are made to discuss bigots who seek to circumvent the American tradition of the freedom of religion. Oh and did you hear that Beck and Palin gave a speech on the Lincoln Memorial to commemorate MLK!? The gall of those idiots! Oh, and let us not forget the whole Quran-burning insanity. On a conveyor belt of sorts, the distractions keep coming and they never cease. I propose that we stop allowing ourselves to be conned into discussing these non-issues. We’ve got to sound the REAL alarm instead of wasting our time debunking all the fake ones. The most urgent and alarming fact we should be stating every time one of these fake issues gets raised is: Globalization has completely destroyed our middle class!! Period, end of story. It is the proverbial 1000-pound gorilla in the room that nobody in public life is acknowledging. If Obama wants an issue upon which to win a second term, not to mention the midterms, it is right here staring at him in the face. The unemployment rate is all the proof we need that action must be taken NOW. Countries who’ve been protecting their labor with tariffs are doing much better right now than we are even in these hard economic times. It’s just that simple. Look at China! Will Obama wake up and seize the moment? Or is he really just the new outsourcing-branch-manager-in-chief? http://www.hatingitmagazine.com/2010/09/10/a-hating-it-game-of-distraction/ hey Reagan-Jeffersonian Party Member, why don't you wake up! If we had all the manufacturing jobs that we lost from Globalization here right now, we wouldn't be at almost 10% unemployment. hey iconoclast60, don't give me that. Multi-national corporations hate paying fare wages, so they bought the gov't and forced it to get rid of our tariffs, just to circumvent union efforts to protect US worker rights. And your ignorance only aids these greedy bastards in their neofeudalistic designs. oops, I meant "fair" wages!
Politics - 9 Answers
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As Obama was voted in by the majority of voters, I don't imagine that it is him that is doing the dividing
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I think he favors globalization, as do most progressives, more that he worries about the trials of the middle class.
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You can't stop the world from turning. America believes in the capital markets that
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He wants to get elceted for another term
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Because globalisation if it exists at all is a bunch of bull.
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We all know this bud. Neither party is going to help so what would you like to do? State government is completely bought out they make the national leadership look clean. So you want to what start a email campaign a C-SPAN call in campaign? Obama is going to have to be reelected I don't hold any hope out for much changing until he is a lame duck and can do what needs doing without worrying about an election.
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Obama is not man enough to do it. There is probably only one person that has the balls to do it. They call him a crazy old man. I think we all know who it is. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QbOzUQm1ms0
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It hasnt. Imagine if we cut off major markets like India. Our production would plummet, along with jobs.
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Your post sounds like a pep rally speech at a union convention. I blame unions not corporations for our woes. Unions killed the maritime business and the auto industry.
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It is an age old plan. But it has worked for years. Make sure all we talk about are divisive issues that divide us according to our culture or religious beliefs or skin color or ethnicity. This is done to keep us from focusing on what is happening in this country. THE ONLY ISSUE worth discussing is that we are being taken over by multinational corporations that wish to convert this country into little more than an outsourcing service center, serviced alone by fast-food chains, stores like Wal-mart and ignorant, cheap labor. And thanks to globalization, they have largely succeeded. The machine that has grown up to keep us from discussing this horrible truth is the cable news channel. Day after day, supposed liberals like Olbermann, Mathews, and Maddow TAKE THE BATE (from supposed conservatives like Hannity and Beck) and participate in endless, pointless discussions with their $1000-an-appearance-guests about how there are no death panels, about how Obama is not a racist and about how CRAZY that kooky Sarah Palin is. And can you believe they STILL think Obama’s not American? And hey, what about that crazy new Arizona immigration law? Politicians who have become little more than robots for the super rich have aided in this demonic plan of distraction and have helped to drive the mainstream media into chasing one distracting issue after another. It is not enough that these sold-out-politicians are daily sponsoring laws that give multinational corporations even more power over the average worker. They also keep the distraction machine going by stating one audacious lie after another into the cable news echo chamber. All we need is some off-the-wall comment by Michele Bachmann or some facebook tweet from Palin or an offensive comment by Limbaugh or some racist Tea Party rally and we are off to the races. Another day goes by and we are only more divided. Another day goes by and we didn’t mention Globalization at all. Mission accomplished! Today we are made to discuss the claims that we have a socialist in the White House; tomorrow we are made to discuss bigots who seek to circumvent the American tradition of the freedom of religion. Oh and did you hear that Beck and Palin gave a speech on the Lincoln Memorial to commemorate MLK!? The gall of those idiots! Oh, and let us not forget the whole Quran-burning insanity. On a conveyor belt of sorts, the distractions keep coming and they never cease. I propose that we stop allowing ourselves to be conned into discussing these non-issues. We’ve got to sound the REAL alarm instead of wasting our time debunking all the fake ones. The most urgent and alarming fact we should be stating every time one of these fake issues gets raised is: Globalization has completely destroyed our middle class!! Period, end of story. It is the proverbial 1000-pound gorilla in the room that nobody in public life is acknowledging. If Obama wants an issue upon which to win a second term, not to mention the midterms, it is right here staring at him in the face. The unemployment rate is all the proof we need that action must be taken NOW. Countries who’ve been protecting their labor with tariffs are doing much better right now than we are even in these hard economic times. It’s just that simple. Look at China! Will Obama wake up and seize the moment? Or is he really just the new outsourcing-branch-manager-in-chief? http://www.hatingitmagazine.com/2010/09/10/a-hating-it-game-of-distraction/ hey Reagan-Jeffersonian Party Member, why don't you wake up! If we had all the manufacturing jobs that we lost from Globalization here right now, we wouldn't be at almost 10% unemployment. hey iconoclast60, don't give me that. Multi-national corporations hate paying fare wages, so they bought the gov't and forced it to get rid of our tariffs, just to circumvent union efforts to protect US worker rights. And your ignorance only aids these greedy bastards in their neofeudalistic designs. oops, I meant "fair" wages!
Politics - 9 Answers
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1 :
As Obama was voted in by the majority of voters, I don't imagine that it is him that is doing the dividing
2 :
I think he favors globalization, as do most progressives, more that he worries about the trials of the middle class.
3 :
You can't stop the world from turning. America believes in the capital markets that
4 :
He wants to get elceted for another term
5 :
Because globalisation if it exists at all is a bunch of bull.
6 :
We all know this bud. Neither party is going to help so what would you like to do? State government is completely bought out they make the national leadership look clean. So you want to what start a email campaign a C-SPAN call in campaign? Obama is going to have to be reelected I don't hold any hope out for much changing until he is a lame duck and can do what needs doing without worrying about an election.
7 :
Obama is not man enough to do it. There is probably only one person that has the balls to do it. They call him a crazy old man. I think we all know who it is. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QbOzUQm1ms0
8 :
It hasnt. Imagine if we cut off major markets like India. Our production would plummet, along with jobs.
9 :
Your post sounds like a pep rally speech at a union convention. I blame unions not corporations for our woes. Unions killed the maritime business and the auto industry.
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Tuesday, March 1, 2011
What should I do about my girlfriend?
What should I do about my girlfriend?
I recently about 2 months ago broke up with my girlfriend. We dated for about 4 to 5 months and it was completely amazing. She always stayed over and we did everything together. It actually became really serious really fast and I took as a serious relationship. I met her family they loved me and she loved mine. In December she will be moving back to Texas where she is from. She is only attending school here. Talks of me moving to Texas to be with her were also discussed. I really fell for this girl. Well the week we broke up she had a girls night out of town she had to go to. None of the girls ended up going (which I knew would happen.) and she ended up going out on the town with her ex all night and staying on his couch. Well her ex turns out to be one of my best friends from HS that she had no idea. Rest assured I was very angry and didnt trust anything had not happened. Nothing did of course and we decided to be friends after the break up and made the mistake of hooking up and still seeing each other. Now she admits that was her trying to hold on to me and work things out. Which I had no idea that's what she was doing. Well now 2 months later she is sleeping with one of my best friends and wont talk to me or anything and deleted me from facebook. Heres the thing.... I was very very angry all the time and did things like texted her in the middle of the night cussing her out for me feeling betrayed. Now she doesnt want a friendship and is sorry for hurting me and is sorry for dating my friend. I still really care about her and feel bad about the text and anger. I realize that I took it all too serious and she just wanted someone to hold her at night and just be there for her. She was really just lonely. She actually cared about me but didnt mean to make things so serious. Should I forget her or write her a letter? Should I feel bad or apologize to her. I know I will run into her intentionally again. Ill be in Texas in the Airforce. I love her what should I do? My friends don't understand why I can't get over here but I think it's because everything came crashing down at once. I'm also very sensitive to this subject. I didn't want a girlfriend and I've slept around a lot I'm 24 and I've slept with 31 women in the past 4 years and I'm just tired of it. As soon as I met her I was like ok this is something I would love. I've never had more fun with anyone and never wanted to take care of someone so much. When she left I felt like I lost a part of myself. My mom killed herself when I was 8 and my stepmom of 10 years left in the middle of the night and moved to Alaska and never talked to me again. I can't loose her.
Singles & Dating - 1 Answers
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I'm sorry for what you've been through, i also lost my mother in a similar way. If you truly care about this girl as much as you say you do I think you should meet with her face to face and talk about it. Don't blame all of the mistakes on you, or her. She shouldn't have done what she did, and you shouldn't have reacted the way you did. Let her know that it's obvious that you both need to work on some things. Which is fine! No relationship is perfect. If she wants to move on, don't push it. Maybe a few years down the road, she'll come back. Maybe she won't. Accept the answer that you're given. I don't believe that there is only one person out there for each person. usually, people come across several people in their lifetime that they fall for, very hard. Heartbreak is apart of life. Some people are fortunate enough to not have it happen, but it is very rare. If you made it through what you've been through already, then buddy, you can make it through anything else that is thrown at you. You will find someone to be with for the rest of your life. And if this girl doesn't want to be the one, its not meant to be and you WILL find someone else eventually if you keep your eye out and don't give up. Good luck :)
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I recently about 2 months ago broke up with my girlfriend. We dated for about 4 to 5 months and it was completely amazing. She always stayed over and we did everything together. It actually became really serious really fast and I took as a serious relationship. I met her family they loved me and she loved mine. In December she will be moving back to Texas where she is from. She is only attending school here. Talks of me moving to Texas to be with her were also discussed. I really fell for this girl. Well the week we broke up she had a girls night out of town she had to go to. None of the girls ended up going (which I knew would happen.) and she ended up going out on the town with her ex all night and staying on his couch. Well her ex turns out to be one of my best friends from HS that she had no idea. Rest assured I was very angry and didnt trust anything had not happened. Nothing did of course and we decided to be friends after the break up and made the mistake of hooking up and still seeing each other. Now she admits that was her trying to hold on to me and work things out. Which I had no idea that's what she was doing. Well now 2 months later she is sleeping with one of my best friends and wont talk to me or anything and deleted me from facebook. Heres the thing.... I was very very angry all the time and did things like texted her in the middle of the night cussing her out for me feeling betrayed. Now she doesnt want a friendship and is sorry for hurting me and is sorry for dating my friend. I still really care about her and feel bad about the text and anger. I realize that I took it all too serious and she just wanted someone to hold her at night and just be there for her. She was really just lonely. She actually cared about me but didnt mean to make things so serious. Should I forget her or write her a letter? Should I feel bad or apologize to her. I know I will run into her intentionally again. Ill be in Texas in the Airforce. I love her what should I do? My friends don't understand why I can't get over here but I think it's because everything came crashing down at once. I'm also very sensitive to this subject. I didn't want a girlfriend and I've slept around a lot I'm 24 and I've slept with 31 women in the past 4 years and I'm just tired of it. As soon as I met her I was like ok this is something I would love. I've never had more fun with anyone and never wanted to take care of someone so much. When she left I felt like I lost a part of myself. My mom killed herself when I was 8 and my stepmom of 10 years left in the middle of the night and moved to Alaska and never talked to me again. I can't loose her.
Singles & Dating - 1 Answers
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I'm sorry for what you've been through, i also lost my mother in a similar way. If you truly care about this girl as much as you say you do I think you should meet with her face to face and talk about it. Don't blame all of the mistakes on you, or her. She shouldn't have done what she did, and you shouldn't have reacted the way you did. Let her know that it's obvious that you both need to work on some things. Which is fine! No relationship is perfect. If she wants to move on, don't push it. Maybe a few years down the road, she'll come back. Maybe she won't. Accept the answer that you're given. I don't believe that there is only one person out there for each person. usually, people come across several people in their lifetime that they fall for, very hard. Heartbreak is apart of life. Some people are fortunate enough to not have it happen, but it is very rare. If you made it through what you've been through already, then buddy, you can make it through anything else that is thrown at you. You will find someone to be with for the rest of your life. And if this girl doesn't want to be the one, its not meant to be and you WILL find someone else eventually if you keep your eye out and don't give up. Good luck :)
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