??help! SExual predator?
This HOT guy that had no mutual friends with me on facebook, but I accepted him because he was so HOT!! And at first I believed that he was real(Hi i know I'm a bit naive) until things just stopped making sense. I'm not stupid and when he told me he was a model i realized he was completely BSing ! lol Because I know that a model, and working guy(as he claims) wouldn't be on facebook 24/7!!And when I asked him wat he modeled for he was very abstract and changed the subject. And he told me he lives in new york and then he gave me his number and told me to txt him, which i didn't, but I searched th number and it turns out to be an area code from California! I'm 17 and I plan to stay completely celibate till marriage and it creeped me out when he was discussing alot of sexual things with me, and offered to send me graphic pictures. CREEPY MUCH??!! What do u think about this?
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well duh almost everyone lies over teh internet. if this bugs you then just delete him. problem solved not a big deal.
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delete all contact with him. please. its so simple. so just do it.
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yeah so? he's a weirdo.. just delete him from your friends. you;re not the only girl he's probably stalking. he wont notice. and what can he do?
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Delete him or trick him into meetingyou somewhere and have his a** kicked all over town cause thats what pervs like him deserve. I would do it for free if it was near me.
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See, here's the thing. Poor spelling and grammar leads sexual predators to believe that you are some dumb chick, and will be easy to get. Take an english class. Read a book. And don't add someone you don't know on facebook because he's "HOT!" and he claims he's a model
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Tuesday, September 28, 2010
Tuesday, September 14, 2010
Have I handled this situation well so far? And how should I continue?
Have I handled this situation well so far? And how should I continue?
So this is the shorter version of the long story. I have been talking to this guy John since June, so it has been four months. We never did anything sexual, we were literally just talking, getting to know each other, etc (we were long distance, so it was impossible to have sex LOL). It had been going very well, except for one minor situation where he forgot to call me when he said he would. On sunday night, an anonymous twitter account tagged me and this girl named Sarah, in a tweet. This mention led us to find out that we were talking to the same guy. Now, this guy had twitter, and back in July, 3 months ago, he tweeted me in response to a tweet of my own saying he wanted to be my boyfriend. I didn't take it seriously, but clearly, he had an interest in me. He never updated his twitter since then. So I was his top tweet for the last 3 months. So she must have had seen this within the last three months if she talks to him. Basically, she has been talking to him for 10 months. She said they do everything that a typical couple does such as spending time together, having sex, and they tell each other "I Love You". BUT-- she says that the reason they are not together is because he says "he's not ready for a relationship and doesn't want to ruin their friendship." ----My opinion? She is just his jump off; and he clearly doesn't want to commit to her. I have a ton of guy friends and from what I know that's the oldest line in the book! If he really loved her and wanted to be with her, he would. Especially after almost a whole year. She was very diplomatic about the whole thing, but in one of our messages she said "Well dont get me wrong but come on he plays football and your all the way in New York did u really think that he was goin to be talkin to one girl? NO DISRESPECT AT ALL just askin a question?" Now, I had a feeling he had been talking to girls besides me, just as I had been chatting with a few other guys. But what I find funny is that she's saying that of course hes going to talk to someone closer since I'm all the way in New York. Yet, she is in the same state as him, a 45 minute drive....so WHY is he talking to someone else? What does that say about her? I have been talking to John for 4 months, which means that we started talking while they were at 6 months. What does that tell her? She obviously wasn't fulfilling all his wants and needs in a female, so he went and looked for someone else. Another thing that I find interesting is that her facebook is set to "In a relationship" and his says "single". ... All her little friends are saying shit like I'm a side chick, and I'm a hoe, and "every dog is gone have his fleas". But EXCUSE ME, You aren't even a relationship with him in the first place! And Im not having sex with him so I'm definitely not a whore. And he calls me everyday, so I'm not "on the side." So after I discussed all of this with her, I talked to him on facebook chat, and I asked why he deleted the status about me from twitter. He did not answer me as he went idle so he probably wasn't at his computer. I put up a status on facebook that says "I don't fuck with people who can't keep it 100, It's as simple as that." The next morning, I was on facebook chat and he responded from the night before, saying "he had to delete it". I said "okay, whatever, bye." Then, He blocked me on facebook! So I texted him, asking why, and he said that there was too many people coming at him with bullshit. I guess that her and her friends went psycho on him because I ain't do shit! I've been keeping it very mature and very diplomatic. I said "so what are just never gone speak again" and he said "I'm gone speak, I'm just waiting until I find out cause it's some bullshit going on." I respected that. I didn't talk to him after that text, until about 9 last night, when I left him a voicemail. In the voicemail I said to him: "Listen, I want to let you know that I wasn't mad about the fact that you were talking to another girl, I was mad about the fact that you lied about it. I really wouldn't have been bothered by it because we were not in a relationship. I understand that you have a lot going on with school and football, so give me a call back when you're ready to talk." He did not call me back, so this morning I texted him saying "Good morning, I hope you have a better day today. Even though what you did was disrespectful I still want to try to at least work it out, cause I'm not the type to just throw someone away and I was starting to care about you." He wrote me back, saying "We will talk about that later." and i said "yea I understand." I am very prooud of myself for not chasing him, or acting hurt, or acting needy! Sooo I gue
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If that is short, I don't want to see the long one. To long to read shorten it and you might get answers.
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So this is the shorter version of the long story. I have been talking to this guy John since June, so it has been four months. We never did anything sexual, we were literally just talking, getting to know each other, etc (we were long distance, so it was impossible to have sex LOL). It had been going very well, except for one minor situation where he forgot to call me when he said he would. On sunday night, an anonymous twitter account tagged me and this girl named Sarah, in a tweet. This mention led us to find out that we were talking to the same guy. Now, this guy had twitter, and back in July, 3 months ago, he tweeted me in response to a tweet of my own saying he wanted to be my boyfriend. I didn't take it seriously, but clearly, he had an interest in me. He never updated his twitter since then. So I was his top tweet for the last 3 months. So she must have had seen this within the last three months if she talks to him. Basically, she has been talking to him for 10 months. She said they do everything that a typical couple does such as spending time together, having sex, and they tell each other "I Love You". BUT-- she says that the reason they are not together is because he says "he's not ready for a relationship and doesn't want to ruin their friendship." ----My opinion? She is just his jump off; and he clearly doesn't want to commit to her. I have a ton of guy friends and from what I know that's the oldest line in the book! If he really loved her and wanted to be with her, he would. Especially after almost a whole year. She was very diplomatic about the whole thing, but in one of our messages she said "Well dont get me wrong but come on he plays football and your all the way in New York did u really think that he was goin to be talkin to one girl? NO DISRESPECT AT ALL just askin a question?" Now, I had a feeling he had been talking to girls besides me, just as I had been chatting with a few other guys. But what I find funny is that she's saying that of course hes going to talk to someone closer since I'm all the way in New York. Yet, she is in the same state as him, a 45 minute drive....so WHY is he talking to someone else? What does that say about her? I have been talking to John for 4 months, which means that we started talking while they were at 6 months. What does that tell her? She obviously wasn't fulfilling all his wants and needs in a female, so he went and looked for someone else. Another thing that I find interesting is that her facebook is set to "In a relationship" and his says "single". ... All her little friends are saying shit like I'm a side chick, and I'm a hoe, and "every dog is gone have his fleas". But EXCUSE ME, You aren't even a relationship with him in the first place! And Im not having sex with him so I'm definitely not a whore. And he calls me everyday, so I'm not "on the side." So after I discussed all of this with her, I talked to him on facebook chat, and I asked why he deleted the status about me from twitter. He did not answer me as he went idle so he probably wasn't at his computer. I put up a status on facebook that says "I don't fuck with people who can't keep it 100, It's as simple as that." The next morning, I was on facebook chat and he responded from the night before, saying "he had to delete it". I said "okay, whatever, bye." Then, He blocked me on facebook! So I texted him, asking why, and he said that there was too many people coming at him with bullshit. I guess that her and her friends went psycho on him because I ain't do shit! I've been keeping it very mature and very diplomatic. I said "so what are just never gone speak again" and he said "I'm gone speak, I'm just waiting until I find out cause it's some bullshit going on." I respected that. I didn't talk to him after that text, until about 9 last night, when I left him a voicemail. In the voicemail I said to him: "Listen, I want to let you know that I wasn't mad about the fact that you were talking to another girl, I was mad about the fact that you lied about it. I really wouldn't have been bothered by it because we were not in a relationship. I understand that you have a lot going on with school and football, so give me a call back when you're ready to talk." He did not call me back, so this morning I texted him saying "Good morning, I hope you have a better day today. Even though what you did was disrespectful I still want to try to at least work it out, cause I'm not the type to just throw someone away and I was starting to care about you." He wrote me back, saying "We will talk about that later." and i said "yea I understand." I am very prooud of myself for not chasing him, or acting hurt, or acting needy! Sooo I gue
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If that is short, I don't want to see the long one. To long to read shorten it and you might get answers.
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Tuesday, September 7, 2010
question about long distance dating - guys answers?
question about long distance dating - guys answers?
The guy that is currently my boyfriend just moved from Tennessee back to New York to live with his Dad and his new family ( his parents are divorced) we first met when we were in 7th grade and we began to lose contact during the middle of freshmen year and didn't speak again until June 2010. He was in NY visiting September 2010 and we ended up hanging out talking about the past and both mentioned we had extreme crushes when we were younger - he never knew I liked him back. We kissed right before he left and kept in contact through facebook chat, texting, and phone calls. He finally decided to move back to NY for good & is currently here now. I know my boyfriend was a big partier back in Tennessee, huge parties tons of alcohol girls and hooking up. At the time we never really discussed exclusivity but due to the fact we kept in touch for 2 months waiting for him to return for Thanksgiving braek I knew a relationship was in the works. He mentioned a story about some girl he was once invovled with was ohdee drunk throwing herself on him trying to kiss him while he was midconversation with his friends. He said he was like pushing her off - but now that he mentioned that story I feel as if there were more of those situations. We were listening to Jonny Craig in his car recently and one verse goes "I have a queen why would settle for a fucking maid." and he said that's this song describes he's whole time away from me in Tennessee. question : Relating to my circumstancs the fact that I basically grew up with him - If you really liked a girl but knew distance was going to keep you away for a while would you hook up with other girls as long as she didn't know? I had mentioned to him that I waited for him for 3 months meaning no other guys but he really didn't say no I did absolutely nothing with any other girl.
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well im currently am...well was from today...in a long distance relationship, i hadnt seen her for 2 months, but i kept faithful to her, i didnt cheat and not meaning to sound vain, i have girls asking me to jump into bed with them quite a lot, but when a guy likes a girl a lot, or even loves a girl, he wont cheat and will stay faithful :) if you're confident he really likes you, then he will have stayed faithful, in my opinion, if he rejected it once, he probably rejected it all the times he had oppertunities :) hope i helped
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Long distance relationships can work but that depends on the people involved. I have seen them work out but in most cases they tend to fail. Most guys will hook up with another girl just because what you don't know won't hurt you and will deal with the consequences if or when they arise. You either trust him or not.
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The guy that is currently my boyfriend just moved from Tennessee back to New York to live with his Dad and his new family ( his parents are divorced) we first met when we were in 7th grade and we began to lose contact during the middle of freshmen year and didn't speak again until June 2010. He was in NY visiting September 2010 and we ended up hanging out talking about the past and both mentioned we had extreme crushes when we were younger - he never knew I liked him back. We kissed right before he left and kept in contact through facebook chat, texting, and phone calls. He finally decided to move back to NY for good & is currently here now. I know my boyfriend was a big partier back in Tennessee, huge parties tons of alcohol girls and hooking up. At the time we never really discussed exclusivity but due to the fact we kept in touch for 2 months waiting for him to return for Thanksgiving braek I knew a relationship was in the works. He mentioned a story about some girl he was once invovled with was ohdee drunk throwing herself on him trying to kiss him while he was midconversation with his friends. He said he was like pushing her off - but now that he mentioned that story I feel as if there were more of those situations. We were listening to Jonny Craig in his car recently and one verse goes "I have a queen why would settle for a fucking maid." and he said that's this song describes he's whole time away from me in Tennessee. question : Relating to my circumstancs the fact that I basically grew up with him - If you really liked a girl but knew distance was going to keep you away for a while would you hook up with other girls as long as she didn't know? I had mentioned to him that I waited for him for 3 months meaning no other guys but he really didn't say no I did absolutely nothing with any other girl.
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well im currently am...well was from today...in a long distance relationship, i hadnt seen her for 2 months, but i kept faithful to her, i didnt cheat and not meaning to sound vain, i have girls asking me to jump into bed with them quite a lot, but when a guy likes a girl a lot, or even loves a girl, he wont cheat and will stay faithful :) if you're confident he really likes you, then he will have stayed faithful, in my opinion, if he rejected it once, he probably rejected it all the times he had oppertunities :) hope i helped
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Long distance relationships can work but that depends on the people involved. I have seen them work out but in most cases they tend to fail. Most guys will hook up with another girl just because what you don't know won't hurt you and will deal with the consequences if or when they arise. You either trust him or not.
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Wednesday, September 1, 2010
What should I do now?? He stopped talking to me & his b-day is coming up?
What should I do now?? He stopped talking to me & his b-day is coming up?
This random guy added me to his Facebook account about 6 months ago and started flirting with me on Facebook like he would comment on my pictures, status etc. So, we became friends and then exchanged numbers. In our conversations, we discussed about our past experience in relationship. We came to realized that we both been through same stuff . To make it long story short; he confessed to me his feelings and asked me to visit him; which I denied. (he’s in Mexico and I am in USA ) He was pretty honest about everything about his past like he told me he was into drugs and has tried to commit a suicide etc and also he helped me with my resume. Since, I told him that I would not visit him he has stopped talking to me and I tried to talk to him through emails and text message. He would reply back text message right away but that’s about it and would not continue conversation. I asked him what’s bugging him he would say “nothing†and that’s it. I emailed him three times to break the ice and get him talking but still there’s no response from his side. My question is: His birthday is coming up- Do you think I should write him an another email and call him or just ask him again about his behavior ? or totally ignore him and wait for him to come and talk to me?
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Option 3, if he comes back to you, totally ignore him. Sounds like dude isn't worth your time. Start talking to guys in your own town too.
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Honestly I think he just wanted get with you just write happybirthday on hi fb wall
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I would just ignore him. If he really wants to be your friend and misses you, then he will eventually contact you. If your email friendship isnt what hes looking for then thats his problem. No reason to chase after the friendship.
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ignore him.. how can you like someone you havent met.. i think you need to find someone in your own town... i would be too scared seeing someone i have met on the internet.. remember what happened to that model girl that got acid thrown in her face? Ignore him and move on x delete him off facebook too.. good luck
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Any guy who resorts to pursuing a girl on Facebook by commenting on her pics and stuff is a perv. 99% sure. I'd delete and block him. No offense, but Mexico kind of scares me...especially after reading about the crime over there...
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Well, if you dont wanna feel guilty for ignoring him then y dun u call or message him on his birthday and ask what he want from you, continue being ur friend or ending it up. But frankly speaking, the best option is that you tell him y u find him v. irritating and end up after talking to him for the last time. From his point of view, he stopped talking to you coz he might be thinking it's a waste of time if you're not thinking to visit him atleast for short time and he's not willing to come over too. Well sweety, Long-distance relationship doesnt last long unless you know each other but you guys are totally strangers for each other. Let us know, what ever your final decision is......Good Luck
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This random guy added me to his Facebook account about 6 months ago and started flirting with me on Facebook like he would comment on my pictures, status etc. So, we became friends and then exchanged numbers. In our conversations, we discussed about our past experience in relationship. We came to realized that we both been through same stuff . To make it long story short; he confessed to me his feelings and asked me to visit him; which I denied. (he’s in Mexico and I am in USA ) He was pretty honest about everything about his past like he told me he was into drugs and has tried to commit a suicide etc and also he helped me with my resume. Since, I told him that I would not visit him he has stopped talking to me and I tried to talk to him through emails and text message. He would reply back text message right away but that’s about it and would not continue conversation. I asked him what’s bugging him he would say “nothing†and that’s it. I emailed him three times to break the ice and get him talking but still there’s no response from his side. My question is: His birthday is coming up- Do you think I should write him an another email and call him or just ask him again about his behavior ? or totally ignore him and wait for him to come and talk to me?
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Option 3, if he comes back to you, totally ignore him. Sounds like dude isn't worth your time. Start talking to guys in your own town too.
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Honestly I think he just wanted get with you just write happybirthday on hi fb wall
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I would just ignore him. If he really wants to be your friend and misses you, then he will eventually contact you. If your email friendship isnt what hes looking for then thats his problem. No reason to chase after the friendship.
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ignore him.. how can you like someone you havent met.. i think you need to find someone in your own town... i would be too scared seeing someone i have met on the internet.. remember what happened to that model girl that got acid thrown in her face? Ignore him and move on x delete him off facebook too.. good luck
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Any guy who resorts to pursuing a girl on Facebook by commenting on her pics and stuff is a perv. 99% sure. I'd delete and block him. No offense, but Mexico kind of scares me...especially after reading about the crime over there...
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Well, if you dont wanna feel guilty for ignoring him then y dun u call or message him on his birthday and ask what he want from you, continue being ur friend or ending it up. But frankly speaking, the best option is that you tell him y u find him v. irritating and end up after talking to him for the last time. From his point of view, he stopped talking to you coz he might be thinking it's a waste of time if you're not thinking to visit him atleast for short time and he's not willing to come over too. Well sweety, Long-distance relationship doesnt last long unless you know each other but you guys are totally strangers for each other. Let us know, what ever your final decision is......Good Luck
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